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25 Rudest Rude Behaviors—Are You an Offender?

Updated on March 2, 2015

The Psychology of Rude Behavior

Rude behavior is on the rise in the United States; that’s what 79% of Americans say. This epidemic is spreading across the country as one rude act inspires another rude act, creating a rudeness spiral.

Here's an example: Someone annoys us while we're driving to work by being a jerk on the road. We walk into work where a cheery person wishes us a good morning and all we can do is grumble. This person takes our grumpiness personally and becomes irritated, taking it out on the next person coming in the door, which sours their mood in turn. The cycle continues on and on.

There is more to rude behavior than just everyday frustration. Many factors influence a person's inclination to be rude, including having an impatient disposition, being in a hurry, or feeling like no one cares what they feel or say. That said, rude behavior all boils down to one thing:

People who are rude generally don't care about other people!

It's sad but true. Humanity is lost in the hustle and bustle of everyday life as people are rushed, stressed, and tired, and take it out on their fellow man.

The 25 Rudest Behaviors

25. Being Noisy

It doesn't matter where you are, but if you're around people, blasting music is rude whether it's from your car, your home stereo, or in your yard. We can all relate to how irritating it is to pull into a gas station where two or more cars are blasting their bass.

24. Cutting in Lines

It happens all the time at the grocery store, at public events, and at amusement parks. No one is amused. Skipping others in line shows that you think you are better than everyone else and that waiting is below you. In reality, everyone has to wait. That's just life.

23. Interrupting

It is normal for very young children to interrupt adults when they are talking, but adults should know better than to cut someone off while they're saying something.

22. Barking Dogs

Anyone who has been kept up all night by a barking dog knows how terrible it is. You're trying to sleep and all you can think of is how inconsiderate your neighbor must be, to let a dog bark non-stop. Parents with babies find barking dogs to be particularly irritating. And of course there are those neighbors who let their animals tear apart your trash.

21. Not Returning Your Shopping Cart

This should be a simple thing to do but parking lots are full of un-returned shopping carts. We have become so lazy as a nation. Behaviors like this help explain the obesity rate in the United States.

20. Any Form of Disrespect to the Elderly

It seems these days that new generations are not being raised to respect their elders. All people should respect those older than them (though it’s difficult sometimes because there are some cantankerous characters out there). People should show respect to the elderly by holding doors for them and offering them seats if they need one.

19. Bad Table Manners

Formal dining is no longer standard in the USA, but people should have respectable table manners. Elbows should be kept off tables. No one should reach over the table for food or accidentally shove his or her armpit in a guest's face while reaching for something. Slurping, smacking, and chewing with one's mouth open is offensive and just plain gross.

18. Cutting Off Others in Traffic

Many people think their need to get to their destinations is more important than the safety of everyone on the road. Others get frustrated with bad drivers and are just trying to get away. The truth is that respectful driving on the highways is more than good manners; it keeps everyone safe. Monitor your own driving so frustrated drivers won't have to cut in front of you.

17. Tailgating

Tailgating is when a driver follows the car in front of it too closely and does not allow a "two-second" space between the vehicles, that is, at least the distance it would take a car to travel two seconds at its current speed.

Some drivers think that if they follow the driver in front of them close enough, they can intimidate the driver to going faster or pulling over. This practice is the number one cause of automobile accidents in the United States. Since the cars are so close to another, there is no room to maneuver for either car in the event of something going wrong. This behavior is not only rude, but it can be deadly, even for the tailgater.

16. Littering

Littering includes everything from throwing cigarette butts out the window of a car to not getting trash or garbage into the container it belongs in, or dumping trash on public or private property.

Litter of any kind is dangerous for the environment; it can breed vermin and disease, contaminate drinking water, and take away from the aesthetic beauty of nature. Though burning trash is banned in many neighborhoods in the United States, people continue to burn their trash because they do not want to pay for trash service. Not only does burning trash hurt the environment, but it is also risky and can lead to a blazing, out of control wildfire in just minutes.

15. Not Using a Turn Signal

Even though using a turn signal only takes a minimal flick of the wrist, more and more drivers are refusing to use this system of communication with other drivers. Sadly, using the turn signal benefits the one who is turning left or right from being rear-ended or side swiped on a busy highway.

14. Using the Last of Anything and Not Replacing It

This includes copy paper in the copier at work, gas in a shared car, and especially toilet paper at home!

13. Being Late

Sure, life happens, and we are all late for something sometimes, but those who habitually come to work late with the same excuse are rude and hurt the morale of the office. Not calling to say you will be late is rude behavior; you should call and give others a chance to be understanding, if they want to be. Those who are habitually late for meetings, family gatherings, dates, and work should try setting all their clocks at home 15 minutes ahead.

12. Improper Cell Phone Use

The introduction and popularity of cellphones has caused a whole new class of rudeness. Despite how commonplace these behaviors have become, it is still rude to be texting on your phone while also having a conversation with someone else, to talk on your cell phone during meals, to text or call while driving (which is also very dangerous), to browse the Internet during dates and dinners, and to answer a cell phone call while attending to other business.

11. Taking and Misusing Handicapped Parking Spots

Not only is parking in a handicapped spot rude, but it is also illegal. These spaces are designated for those who need them even though sometimes regular people are shallow enough to obtain a temporary sticker and never part with it. That, however, does not excuse taking the spots if you're not handicapped.

10. Not Teaching or Enforcing Manners in Children

Not all parents are drill sergeants when it comes to discipline, but not instilling any manners in your child only hurts his or her future potential. Allowing children to run wild in public places and letting them scream and throw tantrums is rude behavior.

9. Taking Credit for the Work of Others

This item is a personal gripe of mine since I've been a victim of article theft on HubPages. Taking credit for the work of others can include plagiarism, cheating, and brown-nosing at work. Those who do not have the chops to get ahead in life rarely get very far by taking the credit for other people's work. Despite this, plagiarism is still a social epidemic.

8. Personal Grooming in Public

Grooming in public is insanitary and offensive behavior. A person should not clip or chew their nails in public, clean out their noses, or brush their hair in places other than the bathroom. Many people find it acceptable to brush their hair in public places, but doing so leaves hair and dead skin cells all over the place. Grooming should be done in the restroom.

7. Treating Store Employees or Waitstaff Rudely

So many people walk into public establishments and businesses with an outrageous sense of entitlement. Sure, if you are paying for a service, you should expect to be treated well, but some people are totally unreasonable and are never happy with what they get.

It seems as if people who are frustrated with their personal life enter establishments and make employees pay for their bad experiences. We have all seen these difficult customers. Anyone who yells at their waitress and sends their food back to the kitchen really needs to watch the movie Waiting to see what kitchen employees really think of your sense of entitlement.

6. Cashiers Who Talk on Their Cellphones and Don't Acknowledge Customers During Checkout

It is increasingly common to walk into a convenience store to pay for gas and find that the cashier is deep into heavy gossip on a cell phone. The cashier doesn't acknowledge you whatsoever and just throws change your way. You can forget about asking this person for directions.

At the same time, many people are on their cell phones while checking out and do not pay attention to the cashier. These same people complain (see item 7) when they don't get exactly what they want.

5. Blocking the Aisles in Wal-Mart and Grocery Stores

This item also reflects people in society who have an enlarged sense of entitlement. Even though everyone must shop for groceries at some point or another, it is increasingly common to disregard fellow shoppers in public.

Many people block aisles in popular stores and make it difficult to get around. They stare at the canned soup on one side of the aisle and park their cart on the other side, making it impossible to get around them. At the same time, these rude shoppers pretend to not see that five people are waiting to get around them.

4. Leaving Messes in Public Bathrooms and Not Washing Your Hands

It takes a surprisingly small amount of effort to flush a toilet. For those readers who do not know how to do this, it merely involves pulling down the small handle on the back of the toilet. It's so simple but it still seems like people get a kick out of leaving public toilets full of waste.

Even worse, more and more people don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. These germs are distributed everywhere for the rest of us to enjoy. Hand washing is good for everyone and reduces everyone's chances of getting sick.

3. Driving Slow in the Passing Lane

On any two-lane road, the left lane is designed for passing the slower traffic in the right lane. However, slow drivers have no problem driving 10 miles below the speed limit in the passing lane for the duration of their travel. They either do not see the mounting traffic stuck behind them or ignore the honking of people who would like to pass them.

Many states are finally cracking down on those who do this. In New Jersey and Maryland, the state has designated the left lanes as for passing only. Fines are finally being given to those who rudely creep along in the passing lane. People who drive too slowly cause more accidents than those who drive too fast. These new laws are wonderful for those of us who travel regularly.

2. Talking and Using a Cell Phone in Movie Theaters

According to the Huffington Post, patronage at movie theaters is at a 16-year low. Americans have started turning their backs on public movie theaters not only because of the outrageous price of tickets and refreshments, but because they can't enjoy the movie they have paid an arm and a leg to see because of other rude customers.

People leave their manners at the door of the movie theater because they feel they are anonymous in the dark. Rude moviegoers talk on their cell phones, receive calls, talk to each other, make out, and yell at the screen. Like many Americans, I no longer watch movies in theaters but in the peace and comfort of my own home.

1. Not Picking Up After Your Dog and Letting Them Use the Bathroom on Private Property

Few things infuriate people in America worse than irresponsible, rude, lazy pet owners that let their pets run free on other people's property to use the bathroom. Even worse, they walk them on the leash to someone else's lawn and let them use the bathroom and then walk away without picking it up.

People who take pride in their yards are subject to rude pet owners who refuse to clean up after their pet. Not only is this toxic, disgusting, and nasty, it is actually illegal in most cities that have ordinances against this kind of behavior.

This is not something you should tolerate. If you have a consistently rude neighbor that lets their pet defecate in your yard, get them on camera and take the evidence to your local city or county administrator. If you live in an apartment or condo where this is an issue and management will not address it, tell them that you will take the issue to your county or city who will inspect the property and most likely give them a big fine.

The number one rudest behavior: Not cleaning up after your dog!
The number one rudest behavior: Not cleaning up after your dog!

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      Joanna Haritos 7 weeks ago

      Add Your Comment. Number 10 really irks me. If a child has ADHD or quite a few other disorders, you either need to drug them, which is the acceptable way today to deal with it, or use the old fashion approach and hit them when they are out of control.

      What about the person who can't stand a peep out of children yet sits in the back row at church so that there is no way to avoid them accept not be at church.

      Probably that parent needs to be there more than the "mightier than thou" parishioner!

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      hopper 2 months ago

      I had a neighbor that would walk his dog to my yard, daily, and allow him to poop on the edge of my groomed lawn.. I yelled out my upstairs window that I would bring my dog down to his yard later so it could sh*t... lol... He didn't come back after that.. lol

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      PAIGE MALCOVITCH 2 months ago

      I THINK THIS WILL HELP OTHERS AND ALSO HELPED ME IN SOME. AND THERE IS ANOTHER RUDE THING YOU CAN DO, LAUGH WHEN SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING.

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      john Liitel 6 months ago

      Doing nasty tricks behind their backs

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      BA 7 months ago

      You touched on tailgating; however, unless I missed but you left out one of the main causes of tailgating which is when one hogs the fast (passing lane) and does not have the curtesy to move. This is not only annoying, it is illegal as well.

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      Dolores Monet 7 months ago from East Coast, United States

      I am sure we've all been guilty of rudeness from time to time. The worse that I find on the rise is littering. When I was a kid, there was a huge move to clean up America. I think we need to push this again. The amount of trash that I see along the streets and on sidewalks sometimes astounds me.

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      Audrey Hunt 7 months ago from Nashville Tn.

      I'm back to review this post once again. I know a few people who need to read this so I'm passing it along. :)

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      Lynnsez 7 months ago

      I wish there had been one additional rude behavior on the list: people who pretend, deny or deliberately ignore the fact that they are sick in order to attend events and gatherings with little or no regard for those they expose to germs and illness. Those who routinely do this really illustrate your point that rude people really just do not care about others! My sister wears her choice to always soldier on in the face of illness like a badge of honor others should admire her for and so far has taken no responsibility when confronted. Her shallow "sorry you're sick" texts are a far cry from "I am sorry I did not stay home when I had a terrible cold and now you are sick too." I'm not expecting to hear anything close to that from her in this lifetime.

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      C. K. 7 months ago

      You forgot to mention the customer who gets to the register, and never acknowledges the cashier, because they are talking on their cell phone. It is one of my pet pieves, as a cashier at Costco. Also talking loud on you cell, so that everyone can hear! Take it out to the car, and close your windows! No one wants to know your business!

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      James Reboulet 7 months ago

      I don't use the last of the toilet paper. I always leave at least 1 sheet.

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      Octarin 10 months ago

      I don't think I've ever done any of those things, I instinctively try to be polite, sometimes apologetic even. The one thing that I am "guilty" of is in regards of my child, who doesn't always behave properly. He's autistic, though, so I think that might be a factor, because often he can't distinguish between right and wrong, and the things "we don't do", like keeping his voice down and not making a fuss. I do apologize for his behalf however, most of the time people end up telling me "let him be, he's just a kid", which vexxes me greatly, because it's no excuse for rude behaviour... Not saying I'm miss prim and proper, I simply try to be mindful of others, because most of those things peeve me something awful, so I try not doing them. Anyway, sorry for the text block, lol! Good read!

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      Sanxuary 2 years ago

      You must work retail because what you have written is beyond true. The things that happen in bathrooms makes you wonder if anyone is civilized. The horrible drivers problem tops my list. If I was a cop I could not give out enough tickets. I can total my car about 4 times a day just getting to work. Sometimes I speed up and slam on the brakes and fake a heart attack to see if I can get a reaction out of them. Its like damn you just almost killed your whole family but what about me. Its so important to drive like an idiot to save one second to lose at the next stop light. Electronic devices have just compartmentalized people to act like they are not a part of society anymore. Its like its their own little world as they walk around like robots. Men walking around on cell phones talking makes you walk like a girl. Strangely enough if its a business call you walk normal weird, and that is how you know if your employees are goofing off. I can beat this stuff up all day and eating with your mouth open is fashionable, just like moving back into a cave.

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      Boo boo 2 years ago

      The aisle block thing really gets under my skin! I'm trying to grab things from an aisle and it's like a traffic jam. And I get interrupted a LOT.

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      yesoptusbusiness 2 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your valuable information.this information very useful for online learners

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      poetryman6969 2 years ago

      That's a pretty comprehensive list. Instead of trying to force my neighbors to use the dog run across the street as opposed to our yard, we have decided to move!

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      just a nobody 2 years ago

      How about when someone is rude to you, being rude back to them. What does that accomplish? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

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      Tammy 3 years ago from North Carolina

      Agreed Ralph!!!

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      Ralph Deeds 3 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

      "Jerk merging" should be near the top of the list. http://www.sfgate.com/bayarea/article/Last-minute-...

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      jack 3 years ago

      Number 17 should be a lot higher on the list. Mostly because it is dangerous! Recently I was being followed so closely,that I could not even see their headlights in my rear view. Finally,I stopped and went to the car and told the driver,"If you want to ride with me,get in the back seat. Otherwise get out of my trunk." "You have every right to risk your own worthless neck. But you do not have the right to risk mine."

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      jaimie 3 years ago

      You could take #5 our and replace it with whispering.

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      Sophia 3 years ago

      I hate when my nurse always ignores me when i have something to tell her about a resident. And when she will leave for lunch either when i said i was going and/or going without telling me. And if she does tell me she will go for thirty minutes shes decides to go for an hour. Drive me crazy.

      I dont see whats wrong with grooming in public like in your car or fixing your hair on the side walk but ok

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      TycoonSam 4 years ago from Washington, MI

      Tammy, I was pulling my hair out as I was reading this Hub! I've either seen or been a victim of all of the rude behaviors you talked about.

      Grooming in public? What the heck is that!!! Seriously, I cringe anytime I see people trimming their nails!

      But the worst has to be a Cashiers Who Talk on Their Cellphones and Don't Acknowledge Customers During Checkout while cutting their nails and not picking up after her dog! and to top it off...being Late for work!

      Thanks for the Hub.

      Voted up

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      I soooo have to agree with you Ralph. This week I had to drive the clunker to work while my car is being worked on. I discovered that if you drive an older beater car, people in expensive cars exhibit the most horrible behavior. These drivers follow too close, honk, and cut me off while I am in the old car. That is such a valid point!

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      Ralph Deeds 4 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

      Rich people are the rudest drivers, especially those in BMWs according to this "scientific" research.

      http://wheels.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/08/12/the-ric...

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      Nick Ross 4 years ago

      I am humbly proud of not being guilty of any of these items, but was prompted to google the topic as I have been on the receiving end of quite a few of them. Especially the barking dogs one. Though my neighbor does seem to be making attempts to train his dogs over the past couple of weeks :-) Anyways as I was prompted to search this out, I highly doubt the people who need this information the most are, or would bother to read the entire article should they stumble across it... How then to propagate this information in a manner such that it is absorbed rather than deflected.?

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      Elle 4 years ago

      It's Aisle, not Isle. They're not on an island.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Actually, your comments were deleted because they were inaccurate and didn't relate to the topic. If you are going to troll internet articles and use them to deposit your angst, please read them first.

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      Duke Lacrossee 4 years ago

      @ Mod

      Really? You censored/removed my completely legitimate posts?

      I'm sorry you're so fearful of actual discussion. Anything not praising your blog is deleted within 5 minutes. Keep in mind that I used absolutely NO swear words. But it seems, actually it is, true that you would rather create a place where EVERYONE agrees with you rather than a place for true intellectual thought/ideas/discussion. If one doesn't comply, it's off to banned camp...

      And I will truly be surprised if this post even touches the "comments" area without being dumped in fewer than 5 minutes.

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      Apollogirl 4 years ago

      I can't watch people spitting huge globs of something into the street. If you have someothing so bad in your body that needs to be expelled, see a doctor! Yuck!

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      Jennifer 4 years ago

      what happened to all of us? Gosh I really tried to laugh but not funny just disgusted. :( society sickens me to the core. I've paid my dues and can honestly say I'm not perfect however, thank goodness I can keep my manners. quality people quality.

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      Mary 4 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Tailgating and the littering drive me crazy, I mean come on can't they walk to the trashcan when they are done eating. Another thing, I really wish they would stop throwing their full cups of soda out the window when I am driving behind them, voted up and shared.

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      Alex Munkachy 4 years ago from Honolulu, Hawaii

      rude people are breeding rudeness and raising up a new generation of ruder people...

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      Audrey Hunt 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Thanks tammy for bringing this one out again. I enjoyed this the last time I came by and enjoyed it even more this time. I'm going to link this to a hub I wrote awhile back about this subject.

      I've always been an advocate for good manners and good behavior. That's just the way we were raised - good common sense and "do unto others."

      It's time to share this again - the human race could use a reminder of your 25 rudest behaviors! Voted up, across and of course sharing.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      That is an excellent point Ralph Deeds. I feel the same way about bosses who have to walk around reminding everyone of their authority. Thanks for the chuckles!!!

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      I have to agree with you Lacey. Any rude behavior like that in an elevator is unwarranted. Thanks so much for stopping by. :)

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      You make some excellent points dell535. I am really surprised by how many people comment about the bad behavior of senior citizens. That is interesting coming from you. I have seen some cantankerous older people in my time. I guess I am old fashioned in thinking that older people deserve respect because of their age. I will always think that way but so many people feel other wise. You have shared some very interesting thoughts. Thanks so much for reading.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      I have to agree with you bisnar. It sometimes feels hypocritial to try to teach a child good manners when they see everyone doing the opposite. It is getting harder and harder to find good examples of behaviour. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

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      Rick Grimes 4 years ago

      Great list! You got pretty much all the ones i was thinking of when i read the title haha

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      Aaron Seitler 4 years ago from Manchester, United Kingdom

      Jolly good Hub.I also detest the disgusting state of manners nowadays and just reading them makes me bristle with anger.But well done for outlining them so incisively.

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      Ralph Deeds 4 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

      Leonard Pitts on Celebrities

      "If you ever find yourself asking, “Do you know who I am?” or any variation thereof, it’s a pretty good indicator that you are not, in fact, as famous as your hired sycophants and (and your ego) have led you to believe. If it is necessary to call attention to your fame, you may not be all that famous to begin with.http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=201...

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      Gamrgurl 4 years ago

      You defiantly put a lot of thought into this article. Some of these things I wouldn't have even thought of, even though they irritate me too!

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      dell535 4 years ago

      THESE COMMENTS GIVE THE IMPRESSION THAT THE WORLD IS FULL OF RUDE IDIOTS. IT MAY SEEM THAT WAY AT TIMES.

      THE TRUTH IS, THAT PROBABLY 90% OF THE PUBLIC IS THOUGHFULL, CONSIDERATE OF OTHERS, AND GOOD PEOPLE. ONLY THAT THE 10% BRING NOTICE ON THEMSELVES BY ACTING LIKE JERKS. I SEE THIS ALL THE TIME, BUT I ALSO SEE MANY PEOPLE SHOWING COURTESY AND KINDNESS.

      LETS GIVE CREDIT WHERE DUE, AND TRY TO BE THE GOOD GUYS BY GOING OUT OF OUR WAY TO BE NICE TO EACH OTHER.

      I FIND THAT MANY GETTING ANGRY ACCUSING OTHERS OF RUDENESS, ARE THEMSELVES THE GUILTY PARTIES.

      THE RIGHT LANE OF THE HIGHWAY IS THE "PASSING LANE" NOT THE SPEEDING LANE. EVERYONE ELSE ON THE ROAD IS NOT IN YOUR WAY!

      YOU SHOULD NOT EXPECT EVERYONE TO DO EVERYTHING YOUR WAY!

      IF YOU ARE UNWILLING TO LIVE BY SOCIETIES RULES, WHY SHOULD YOU EXPECT EVERYONE TO OBSERVE YOURS!

      NO ONE ELECTED YOU TO BE GOD!!

      YOU ARE NOT PERFECT, SO DON'T EXPECT OTHERS TO BE!!

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      Lacey Taplin 4 years ago from Highlands Ranch, CO

      I agree with pretty much all of these! I would also add people talking on their cell phones in an elevator to the improper cell phone use category. I'm glad to see someone else agrees with me on how rude people can be in public. Great post!

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      Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 4 years ago from Mississauga, ON

      This was much more informative than what I had originally thought.

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      dell535 4 years ago

      I AGREE WITH YOUR LIST OF RUDE BEHAVIORS. I FEEL THAT I NEED TO ADD TO SOME.

      24 CUTTING IN LINE. WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE WHO, AT CROWDED EVENTS, SEND ONE PERSON "SAVE SEATS FOR 8 OR 10 FRIENDS SO THEY CAN COME LATER AND HAVE GOOD SEATS WAITING FOR THEM?

      22 DISRESPECT TO ELDERLY. I AM 75 YEARS OLD, AND I CAN TELL YOU TRULLY, THE ELDERLY ARE THE ONES WHO ARE THE MOST DISRESPECTFUL..

      15 NOT USING TURN SIGNALS. I WOULD REALLY LIKE TO USE MY TURN SIGNALS, BUT I FIND THAT THIS PRACTICE ONLY NOTIFIES THE DRIVER BEHIND ME, SO THEY CAN CUT ME OFF.

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      dell535 4 years ago

      I AGREE WITH MOST OF YOUR IDEAS. I WOULD HAVE TO COMMENT FURTHER ON SOME OF THEM.

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      Kevin Peter 4 years ago from Global Citizen

      Very interesting hub. Many of the points pointed out in the hub has given me good lessons on what to do and what not to. All the points can be used in future to be taught to growing up children. Thanks a lot.

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      John 4 years ago from Irvine, California

      Wow, you hit on so many. In fact, as I was reading I was getting more and more annoyed with the general public. I've got a 6-year-old and I'm constantly teaching her not to do things that other people do ALL THE TIME. It makes things really difficult.

      Good hub. Voted up. Keep writing!

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      NitroD 4 years ago from London

      Yes I admit: bad table manners - I eat too fast and I look like a hoover :)

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      This is true Express 10. Saying anything about a person's child is a risky subject. People should remember that good manners are the responsibility of the parent. Great thoughts!

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      Teresa.e.pfeil@gmail.com is very right. This happens a lot and the offenders often get angry if you attempt to say something about it before the child arrives or after.

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      Teresa.e.pfeil@gmail.com 4 years ago

      Add to list, bringing a very ill child to visit, causing others to get the flu.

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      Alise- Evon 4 years ago

      Thanks for the reminders. We certainly need to regain our sense of humanity and teach our children basic manners again.

      Voted useful and shared.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Thanks for sharing this Ralph Deeds. This is a book I would love to read. I must say I have to agree with the author of this book. I have noticed some consistency in those who are real buttholes. For example, there is a cashier in a store by my work. I hate going there because of the poor customer service. There is one female cashier in this store who is mean, short, rude, and hateful every single time I go in there- to everyone she waits on. I have never noticed her having a good day. Thanks for this excellent suggestion. It is well needed in our society.

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      Ralph Deeds 4 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

      Here's a review of a recent book on this topic:

      The truly optimistic among us believe that there is no such thing as an asshole. That is to say, the guy who cut you off in traffic or butted in front of you at Starbucks is probably possessed by some temporary affliction (lateness, cluelessness, hangover) that recedes as quickly as it came. In other words, he was acting like an asshole, and that same guy might well hold the door open for you or even save your life 10 minutes later. Aaron James is no such optimist. In fact, the author spends 214 quite convincing pages arguing that “assholeness” is less inattention than a permanent state of mind, and that assholes are more than numerous enough to be called out in book form.

      They aren’t mere jerks, and they aren’t rapists or murderers. Rather, James writes, assholes populate the vast moral middle ground between the two. The true asshole, James writes, “is immunized by his sense of entitlement against the complaints of other people.” He is narcissistic, self-absorbed, impolite, and permanently thoughtless to those around him—and it is almost always a him—nearly to the point of sociopathy. (A TV analogy: Steve Carell’s The Office character, Michael Scott, is just a jerk; his inspiration, Ricky Gervais’s David Brent from the original British Office, is an asshole.)

      And while they may not stick a shiv in your back, they will gladly manipulate the banking system and bleed you to death that way. Indeed, it is in his chapter “Asshole Capitalism” where James hits his stride. Unlike Communism, which in practice engendered a small, elite group of assholes, James believes unbridled capitalism, stripped of those virtue-engendering values that assholes disdain, is an ideal system through which many assholes can band together to completely tilt the game in their favour. Does he make a case? Hint: his main target is the U.S. banking system, and the disaster it provoked in 2008. It almost writes itself.

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      Ralph Deeds 4 years ago from Birmingham, Michigan

      People who park and block one lane in front of stores in a shopping center parking lot and have a passenger run into Starbucks or the dry cleaner instead of parking in a parking space. Also, driving too fast in parking lots is rude and dangerous. More than once I've looked both ways and begun to back out of a parking space and had a near collision with a car coming up the aisle way too fast.

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      Stephen Hodgkinson 4 years ago from Sydney Australia

      Thanks tammyswallow

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Thanks for the lovely comment Que Scout. I have to agree that Americans are loud. I am a very quiet person and raised quiet children. When I go out in public I notice people yell and they are standing next to eachother. I bet you write some interesting things based on your cute analogy. :)

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      Sadly, I think there is much truth to what you say. I am American and I often get annoyed at the loudness of crowds!

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      Stephen Hodgkinson 4 years ago from Sydney Australia

      Point #25

      Hopefully I am not being too rude as I mention American's are perceived as loud in other countries. Frankly, the number one complaint about American abroad is they are loud. It appears they want to make their presents known & what they are saying is important to nearby people.

      After living in the USA for decades I returned to Australia with my American girl friend. We were visiting Sydney Aquarium and could hear in the distance some American tourists. We could hear them over everything. My Girl friend was so embarrassed she had to comment.

      I my self had never noticed this common American trait. But after that day I did. When Australians felt comfortable talking to me they would often point out this loudness. It is odd, and I can not explain why this is so, but it is true. Mind you, if they had something nasty to say about the USA, I was quick to remind them of who is financing their freedom.

      So, being 1/2 yank, and served in the US army I can say this joke, and might even get away with it.

      A rabbit and a frog meet for the 1st time, both are totally blind. They wondered what each other looked like. The frog touched and felt his way around the rabbit, oh how soft you are, owwe and what big ears you have - your a rabbit! Like wise the rabbit checked over the frog, oh, what long legs you have and a big mouth too - your American aren't you. :D

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      That sounds like a great solution Lesleysherwood. People act less rude when they have something to loose. Great thoughts!

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      Stephen Hodgkinson 4 years ago from Sydney Australia

      nArchuleta

      I expect they are all talking on the cell phone. Steer clear :)

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      Mr Rupa 4 years ago

      It seems that these qualities are a given in England. I mean just look at the MPs, who don't give a stuff fir the people they elect. If these are the honourable than what of the masses,

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      Nadia Archuleta 4 years ago from Denver, Colorado

      Great Hub! To add to #5, I'd say people walking along ANYWHERE and just stopping, usually in a group. My #1 is cyclists in the city: they run red lights, cycle fast on sidewalks, cycle wrong way down one-way streets. It's a menace.

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      Anahita 4 years ago from Toronto

      It also really bothers me if I'm out for coffee or dinner with a friend and he or she leaves his or her cell phone on the table. Um, hello - you can't put your phone away and give me your attention for two hours?! Rude.

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      Stephen Hodgkinson 4 years ago from Sydney Australia

      Yes, Likewise in in Oz there are two grocery stores which use the coin system trolleys, one is in the USA too - Aldi. Aldi also sell a token to fit their carts which is good to keep on a key ring.

      The benefit is the carts are returned or a kid finds the cart and returns it for the coin. Then again, bag boys out of work is not good.

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      theweaksend 4 years ago

      People who leave their dogs outside 24 hours a day and let them bark the entire time drive me mad! The shopping cart thing has been resolved here as well, just as Lesley mentioned, by charging a dollar to use it and you don't get it back unless you return it. A lot of stores here also have those carts that the wheels lock once you leave the perimeter of the store so that people can't steal them as easily.

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      Lesleysherwood 4 years ago

      This sounds just like my town, London. We've managed to solve the shopping trolley issue by charging a pound to use them and the only way to get that money back is to take the trolley back to the trolley queue. I love the picture you managed to capture of Katie Price (Jordan) picking her nose. Ha ha.. Brilliant. She would hate that.... lol.

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      Susan Bailey 4 years ago from South Yorkshire, UK

      Ooo I think I must be very intolerant because just about every one of these things gets my goat. Obviously I'm not guilty of any of them.... Upped and followed.

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      Sheene Kirlew 4 years ago from Jamaica

      Great Hub! I especially appreciate the attention given to parents who don't discipline their kids and then turn them loose on everyone. Proper discipline for kids should be one of the requirements of parenting. Voted up!

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      Wow. You already have so many comments! And I confess I have not read them all (maybe that is rude of me?). I was just going to point out that your quote says most people are rude because they do not care about people, and I disagree. I've been called a romantic lately for my views on forgiveness and trying to find the best in others, but I honestly believe that, as humans, we sometimes just slip up and are unintentionally rude to someone else when caught in the moment of our own selfish emotions. Sometimes it takes a slip up to get those emotions in check. Sadly, though, it is often too late because we have already left a bad impression on someone else.

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      Sonya Artis 4 years ago from Kansas City, MO/Ft. Lauderdale, FL

      I enjoyed this hub. Voted thumbs up.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      I totally agree with you Wr1t3r. It is no wonder why customer service is so bad nowadays. People in these positions have to put up with so much that is uncalled for.

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      KatNance 4 years ago

      Awesome! this is sooo True.. Theirs alot of rude people in this world I hate it when people blow their noses at the table or even pass GAS..

      .I hate it when your in the STORE and someone runs you over with there cart and doesNOT say sorry,, excuse me or anything..they look at you like your crazy..

      OR EVEN WHEN YOU HAVE FRIENDS THAT JUST WANT TO SAY THEY ARE YOUR FRIEND...AND THEY ONLY CALL YOU WHEN THEY WANT SOMETHING...

      when people dont clean up after their selves..like wipe the seat..or even the personal stuff left in the bathroom where everyone can see it etc..

      ITS COMMON SENSE..

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      Melanie Mason 4 years ago from Oregon

      Awesome! Thank you! It's crazy how entitled and rude people can be. I would love to add another one. Leaving your trash on an airplane, bus or vehicle. It's totally rude especially when the flight attendant comes down the aisle (several times) with a trash bag. Just throw it away. Also letting your children make a mess in the same places and not cleaning up after them. I don't think people realize that there isn't a cleaning crew that comes in after every flight or leg of the trip and other people have to sit there after them.

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      Stephanie 4 years ago from Canada

      Very very entertaining hub! Voted up and funny! Thanks for sharing with us!

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      FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

      Great hub! Entertaining and spot on!

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      dwr 4 years ago

      People who don't answer a question for days, ON FACEBOOK, but are on facebook day after day. They give their flimsy excuses then they're they are the next day on fb and again no response regarding your message from two days ago. I find this rude. Two weeks later they send you a message asking how you've been. Im sorry but they are on my friends list, but this is not how friends behave. They're the same idiots texting while driving, hmmm they can text everyday illegally while driving but cant reply to a fb message you sent days ago. And on and on and on. People are AHoles! For anyone who doesnt agree and wants to argue, your an AHole!

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      cbarbar 4 years ago

      I like your hub! I agree with adults interrupting other adults--this is something I am becoming mindful of and have improved on. Being rude to store employees bothers me a lot. I used to work in retail so I can relate to that. Thanks for writing this hub!!

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      srsddn 4 years ago from Dehra Dun, India

      Rude behaviour is on the rise not only in America as reported but may be in most of the countries. Here wrong parking is the major problem. It is getting complicated with more and more people owning vehicles and public places unable to accommodate them. Very nicely done lens.

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      newusedcarssacram 4 years ago from Sacramento, CA, U.S.A

      Wow, these are the most common mistakes that people do on regular basis. I hope lots of people are reading this post.

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      KatNance 4 years ago

      A great list of offending rude behavior..

      what ever happened to good old fasion manners..cant find them anymore

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      Apollogirl 4 years ago

      I'd like to add a couple of other items. While checking out at a large supermarket, a woman allowed her child to stand on the food belt. I didn't say anything because I have in the past and the parents told me to mind my own business. My blood was boiling. After she left, I asked the cashier why she didn't tell the mother to get the child off the belt. She was cursed out by another mother as well and was afraid. I told her if the child had fallen there would have been a lawsuit not to mention the child's dirty feet particles now on my food items.

      For the dog poo issues, I live in a Condo and dog owners allow their dog to poo under my windows. The landscape is ruined not to mention the smell. So when the dog owners won't take their pets to the designated areas, I tell them the Association just put down poison on the grass and to take the pets off the grass. It works!

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      H C Palting 4 years ago from East Coast

      All of these are very offensive behaviors. Just choosing one out of the blue to harp on would be going to the movies and having people use (in any way shape or form) their phones in the theater. Phone screens are exceedingly bright and distracting, yet the user only think of themselves. Then when you say something to them they act as if you are bothering them!

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      CarlS 4 years ago

      Taking points from #6 and #7, the list could be amended to include customers talking on their cell phones while going through the check out lane.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Awesome list of rude behaviors. Let me add people coughing phlegm and sneezing really loud in public without covering their mouth. talk about gross!

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      You must be a rare breed frozenink. :)

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      frozenink 4 years ago

      Wow! Peeing on the toilet seat?! That's new for a guy like me.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Peeing on the toilet seat.. I agree with that one. Did you say spitting in China? Oye.. I don't think that is a place I want to visit. I guess the overcrowding makes pushing acceptable? I hope you will write a hub about your experiences there. Thanks so much for reading.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      That is an excellent point TXpeach!

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      Chasing Riley 4 years ago from Los Angeles

      Cute hub! Voted up! I love that you covered a plethora of rude behaviors but was surprised that you didn't include peeing on the toilet seat. Yuck! Why do women do that to each other?? I just got back from China and was so surprised when people kept pushing me - it was especially disconcerting when men pushed me. I was prepared for the spitting but not the pushing. Thanks for the fun read!

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      TXpeach 4 years ago

      "Not all parents are drill sergeants when it comes to child discipline" is the understatement of the decade. I'm baffled at the number of children who have no fear and, as a result, no respect for their parents these days. If they don't fear consequences, how will they function in the world?