Tammy is a paralegal who enjoys offering tips and advice to others.
The Psychology of Rude Behavior
Rude behavior is on the rise in the United States; that’s what 79% of Americans say. This epidemic is spreading across the country as one rude act inspires another rude act, creating a rudeness spiral.
Here's an example: Someone annoys us while we're driving to work by being a jerk on the road. We walk into work where a cheery person wishes us a good morning and all we can do is grumble. This person takes our grumpiness personally and becomes irritated, taking it out on the next person coming in the door, which sours their mood in turn. The cycle continues on and on.
There is more to rude behavior than just everyday frustration. Many factors influence a person's inclination to be rude, including having an impatient disposition, being in a hurry, or feeling like no one cares about what they feel or say. That said, rude behavior all boils down to one thing:
People who are rude generally don't care about other people!
It's sad but true. Humanity is lost in the hustle and bustle of everyday life as people are rushed, stressed, and tired, and take it out on their fellow man.
25. Being Noisy
It doesn't matter where you are, but if you're around people, blasting music is rude whether it's from your car, your home stereo, or in your yard. We can all relate to how irritating it is to pull into a gas station where two or more cars are blasting their bass.
24. Cutting in Lines
It happens all the time at the grocery store, at public events, and at amusement parks. No one is amused. Skipping others in line shows that you think you are better than everyone else and that waiting is below you. In reality, everyone has to wait. That's just life.
It is normal for very young children to interrupt adults when they are talking, but adults should know better than to cut someone off while they're saying something.
22. Barking Dogs
Anyone who has been kept up all night by a barking dog knows how terrible it is. You're trying to sleep and all you can think of is how inconsiderate your neighbor must be to let a dog bark non-stop. Parents with babies find barking dogs to be particularly irritating. And of course there are those neighbors who let their animals tear apart your trash.
21. Not Returning Your Shopping Cart
This should be a simple thing to do but parking lots are full of un-returned shopping carts. We have become so lazy as a nation. Behaviors like this help explain the obesity rate in the United States.
20. Any Form of Disrespect to the Elderly
It seems these days that new generations are not being raised to respect their elders. All people should respect those older than them (though it’s difficult sometimes because there are some cantankerous characters out there). People should show respect to the elderly by holding doors for them and offering them seats if they need one.
19. Bad Table Manners
Formal dining is no longer standard in the USA, but people should have respectable table manners. Elbows should be kept off tables. No one should reach over the table for food or accidentally shove his or her armpit in a guest's face while reaching for something. Slurping, smacking, and chewing with one's mouth open is offensive and just plain gross.
18. Cutting Off Others in Traffic
Many people think their need to get to their destinations is more important than the safety of everyone on the road. Others get frustrated with bad drivers and are just trying to get away. The truth is that respectful driving on the highways is more than good manners; it keeps everyone safe. Monitor your own driving so frustrated drivers won't have to cut in front of you.
Tailgating is when a driver follows the car in front of it too closely and does not allow a "two-second" space between the vehicles, that is, at least the distance it would take a car to travel two seconds at its current speed.
Some drivers think that if they follow the driver in front of them close enough, they can intimidate the driver to going faster or pulling over. This practice is the number one cause of automobile accidents in the United States. Since the cars are so close to another, there is no room to maneuver for either car in the event of something going wrong. This behavior is not only rude, but it can be deadly, even for the tailgater.
Littering includes everything from throwing cigarette butts out the window of a car to not getting trash or garbage into the container it belongs in, or dumping trash on public or private property.
Litter of any kind is dangerous for the environment; it can breed vermin and disease, contaminate drinking water, and take away from the aesthetic beauty of nature. Though burning trash is banned in many neighborhoods in the United States, people continue to burn their trash because they do not want to pay for trash service. Not only does burning trash hurt the environment, but it is also risky and can lead to a blazing, out of control wildfire in just minutes.
15. Not Using a Turn Signal
Even though using a turn signal only takes a minimal flick of the wrist, more and more drivers are refusing to use this system of communication with other drivers. Sadly, using the turn signal benefits the one who is turning left or right from being rear-ended or side swiped on a busy highway.
14. Using the Last of Anything and Not Replacing It
This includes copy paper in the copier at work, gas in a shared car, and especially toilet paper at home!
13. Being Late
Sure, life happens, and we are all late for something sometimes, but those who habitually come to work late with the same excuse are rude and hurt the morale of the office. Not calling to say you will be late is rude behavior; you should call and give others a chance to be understanding, if they want to be. Those who are habitually late for meetings, family gatherings, dates, and work should try setting all their clocks at home 15 minutes ahead.
12. Improper Cell Phone Use
The introduction and popularity of cellphones has caused a whole new class of rudeness. Despite how commonplace these behaviors have become, it is still rude to be texting on your phone while also having a conversation with someone else, to talk on your cell phone during meals, to text or call while driving (which is also very dangerous), to browse the Internet during dates and dinners, and to answer a cell phone call while attending to other business.
11. Taking and Misusing Handicapped Parking Spots
Not only is parking in a handicapped spot rude, but it is also illegal. These spaces are designated for those who need them even though sometimes regular people are shallow enough to obtain a temporary sticker and never part with it. That, however, does not excuse taking the spots if you're not handicapped.
10. Not Teaching or Enforcing Manners in Children
Not all parents are drill sergeants when it comes to discipline, but not instilling any manners in your child only hurts his or her future potential. Allowing children to run wild in public places and letting them scream and throw tantrums is rude behavior.
9. Taking Credit for the Work of Others
This item is a personal gripe of mine since I've been a victim of article theft on HubPages. Taking credit for the work of others can include plagiarism, cheating, and brown-nosing at work. Those who do not have the chops to get ahead in life rarely get very far by taking the credit for other people's work. Despite this, plagiarism is still a social epidemic.
8. Personal Grooming in Public
Grooming in public is insanitary and offensive behavior. A person should not clip or chew their nails in public, clean out their noses, or brush their hair in places other than the bathroom. Many people find it acceptable to brush their hair in public places, but doing so leaves hair and dead skin cells all over the place. Grooming should be done in the restroom.
7. Treating Store Employees or Waitstaff Rudely
So many people walk into public establishments and businesses with an outrageous sense of entitlement. Sure, if you are paying for a service, you should expect to be treated well, but some people are totally unreasonable and are never happy with what they get.
It seems as if people who are frustrated with their personal life enter establishments and make employees pay for their bad experiences. We have all seen these difficult customers. Anyone who yells at their waitress and sends their food back to the kitchen really needs to watch the movie Waiting to see what kitchen employees really think of your sense of entitlement.
6. Cashiers Who Talk on Their Cellphones and Don't Acknowledge Customers During Checkout
It is increasingly common to walk into a convenience store to pay for gas and find that the cashier is deep into heavy gossip on a cell phone. The cashier doesn't acknowledge you whatsoever and just throws change your way. You can forget about asking this person for directions.
At the same time, many people are on their cell phones while checking out and do not pay attention to the cashier. These same people complain (see item 7) when they don't get exactly what they want.
5. Blocking the Aisles in Wal-Mart and Grocery Stores
This item also reflects people in society who have an enlarged sense of entitlement. Even though everyone must shop for groceries at some point or another, it is increasingly common to disregard fellow shoppers in public.
Many people block aisles in popular stores and make it difficult to get around. They stare at the canned soup on one side of the aisle and park their cart on the other side, making it impossible to get around them. At the same time, these rude shoppers pretend to not see that five people are waiting to get around them.
4. Leaving Messes in Public Bathrooms and Not Washing Your Hands
It takes a surprisingly small amount of effort to flush a toilet. For those readers who do not know how to do this, it merely involves pulling down the small handle on the back of the toilet. It's so simple but it still seems like people get a kick out of leaving public toilets full of waste.
Even worse, more and more people don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. These germs are distributed everywhere for the rest of us to enjoy. Hand washing is good for everyone and reduces everyone's chances of getting sick.
3. Driving Slow in the Passing Lane
On any two-lane road, the left lane is designed for passing the slower traffic in the right lane. However, slow drivers have no problem driving 10 miles below the speed limit in the passing lane for the duration of their travel. They either do not see the mounting traffic stuck behind them or ignore the honking of people who would like to pass them.
Many states are finally cracking down on those who do this. In New Jersey and Maryland, the state has designated the left lanes as for passing only. Fines are finally being given to those who rudely creep along in the passing lane. People who drive too slowly cause more accidents than those who drive too fast. These new laws are wonderful for those of us who travel regularly.
2. Talking and Using a Cell Phone in Movie Theaters
According to the Huffington Post, patronage at movie theaters is at a 16-year low. Americans have started turning their backs on public movie theaters not only because of the outrageous price of tickets and refreshments, but because they can't enjoy the movie they have paid an arm and a leg to see because of other rude customers.
People leave their manners at the door of the movie theater because they feel they are anonymous in the dark. Rude moviegoers talk on their cell phones, receive calls, talk to each other, make out, and yell at the screen. Like many Americans, I no longer watch movies in theaters but in the peace and comfort of my own home.
1. Not Picking Up After Your Dog and Letting Them Use the Bathroom on Private Property
Few things infuriate people in America worse than irresponsible, rude, lazy pet owners that let their pets run free on other people's property to use the bathroom. Even worse, they walk them on the leash to someone else's lawn and let them use the bathroom and then walk away without picking it up.
People who take pride in their yards are subject to rude pet owners who refuse to clean up after their pet. Not only is this toxic, disgusting, and nasty, it is actually illegal in most cities that have ordinances against this kind of behavior.
This is not something you should tolerate. If you have a consistently rude neighbor that lets their pet defecate in your yard, get them on camera and take the evidence to your local city or county administrator. If you live in an apartment or condo where this is an issue and management will not address it, tell them that you will take the issue to your county or city who will inspect the property and most likely give them a big fine.
Demas W Jasper from Today's America and The World Beyond on July 25, 2020:
Let's add Judging Others to this list, and the various manifestations of greed. I suspect gleaning from all the many comments here this list could balloon and at least double in size. You hit a raw nerve listing what are also the pet peeves of others.
lil on May 09, 2020:
bullying lying cheating is rude behavior including yelling
john on April 19, 2020:
bullying lying cheating is rude behavior including yelling
baine on February 27, 2020:
Sometimes if I was over someones house or restaurant, I would burb and blast a smelly fart. One time I was at this party and people were standing around and I ripped a diarrhea fart that smelled and everyone was bumping into each other to get outside. It was funny. I love farting in stores because no one knows where it came from.
sam on February 10, 2020:
did you know that between 30,000 and 40,000 skin cells fall off every hour so it is no different than having your hair falling off - it is natural
HHon on August 07, 2019:
Honestly, i think thay most of the "left lane problems" re caused by tje rude behavior of people illegally ignoring the posted speed limits and getting angry at those driving the speed limit, who just don't understnd that some people's lives are just to important to have to take the extra time to drive the posted legal speed limits.
john Liitela on May 31, 2019:
doing nasty tricks and stalking is rude behavior
Robin on March 09, 2019:
Oh my gosh! You are soooooo right on! It really takes so little to be kind and thoughtful to others, but it almost seems impossible to find these days. I really do not like living in this time as it is very uncaring with people fighting for the wrong and stupid things.
john liitela on March 03, 2019:
Aaron did scared me on purpose and steve acted lazy not doing stopping him everyone waited 30 years later that is rude behavior
john on March 03, 2019:
scarring someone else on purpose
Gary on January 14, 2019:
Horn for a doorbell.living in a trailer park.with free phones ,minutes in abundance.The humanity of it all.I don't have to be a scholar to know this planet soon to be like mars maybe like saturn.people rude or not isn't gonna change anything.humans destroying a planet that ued too give life.
Donna C on October 29, 2018:
It's amazing how people don't check to see if there's a line in the store and just cut. It's different if I say you can go ahead of me. If I have a lot of things and somebody behind me has 1 or 2 things then yes. When people assume their wish is everyone's command.
Fermented tea on September 05, 2018:
The most unsanitary place you can place your elbows would be your mouth. This is why the elbow on the table thing never made any sense and I think it probably came from superstition or some weird sense that you are offending others by creating a barrier to your plate. The problem with polite society is that it breeds rudeness. People are rude because people are too polite to do anything about it or are unable to if they the recipient while employed and the rude person is a customer. Driving issues can be a life or death situation for those involved so it goes beyond just rude to outright callous carelessness, therefore rude is a bit of an understatement. Etiquette changes over time and some small insignificant things alter into new behaviors and this is normal as societies and cultures change so some minor issues of rudeness may no longer be deemed rude. Loud children, crying babies etc were once considered a rude, now it's more commonly socially acceptable by most who understand a mother must leave the house to buy groceries, diapers, clothes etc. Yes, people actually thought women should just stay at home with that infant and never leave the house. Cell phone etiquette is problematic because it is a method in which to reach someone at any given moment in time and depending on the business you may have and the type of clients, some people will need to respond immediately to calls or messages regardless of the current activities. Of course, sitting around on social media is rude.
Holding doors is very common in the south, even motorcycle gang members do this, but let one person snap and tell me they are perfectly capable of opening a door for themselves and i'll slam it in their face and make sure it latches. Society is entering another stage of flux when it comes to etiquette and some of the lesser rules will be redefined once again, just as the rules from a couple of hundred years ago changed some while keeping some.
Ralph B. on August 25, 2018:
Great listing! I would add blowing your nose at your table in a restaurant. Nothing like starting a fork toward your mouth and hearing someone next to you filling up a handkerchief or worse, a cloth napkin.....chunks and all. So gross and rude!
Katy on April 09, 2018:
Another thing on when parents don't enforce manners on parenting their children is I don't drive so I ride the city buses around its very annoying when there's noisy kids on the buses and the parents just sit there doing what they do best absolutely nothing. It seems like parents don't care if there kids are behaving poorly in public, wouldn't hurt to tell ur kids to behave better or if the parents would choose to do something they hit their kids while on the bus and their kids scream and cry even louder if im not in much of a hurry id get off the bus and report it as child abuse because that's what it is to me. I've seen that a lot its quite disturbing and it scares people myself included
Katy on April 09, 2018:
I think people are rude no matter what and this proves it. I think we have a big problem in this country and we need to do something. Maybe start kicking people out of stores, taking away drivers license and sending them to jail because I've had enough of constant rude behavior, it needs to stop. Come on let's grow up a lot and start acting human. Have people forgot about the golden rule? Do unto others as they would do unto you. I definitely agree that we have forgot about the golden rule.
anonomys on February 20, 2018:
I stand with "L"
anonomys on February 20, 2018:
i have no shame for being rude. and i have reason for not having shame. im not crass but i am stumbling. im very stumbling and people should not be so uptight just because one person is rude. we should be looking at more than just whether or not the person is polite.
sabrina on December 09, 2017:
do you think it is rude to turn your back on your partner while you are putting groceries away while your partner is talking?
Z on November 12, 2017:
"L" has some problems honey, don't pay any attention. Rude is rude, and you nailed it.
L on November 07, 2017:
This whole post is so petty and trivial. There are actually bad things that happen that are much more worthy of your complaints and fretting upon than when people are unintentionally rude. Funny enough, you sound like a completely stuck-up, entitled snob, like the people you’re pointing fingers at. Get a life, cunt.
Joanna Haritos on July 30, 2017:
Add Your Comment. Number 10 really irks me. If a child has ADHD or quite a few other disorders, you either need to drug them, which is the acceptable way today to deal with it, or use the old fashion approach and hit them when they are out of control.
What about the person who can't stand a peep out of children yet sits in the back row at church so that there is no way to avoid them accept not be at church.
Probably that parent needs to be there more than the "mightier than thou" parishioner!
hopper on July 22, 2017:
I had a neighbor that would walk his dog to my yard, daily, and allow him to poop on the edge of my groomed lawn.. I yelled out my upstairs window that I would bring my dog down to his yard later so it could sh*t... lol... He didn't come back after that.. lol
PAIGE MALCOVITCH on July 18, 2017:
I THINK THIS WILL HELP OTHERS AND ALSO HELPED ME IN SOME. AND THERE IS ANOTHER RUDE THING YOU CAN DO, LAUGH WHEN SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING.
john Liitel on March 23, 2017:
Doing nasty tricks behind their backs
BA on February 23, 2017:
You touched on tailgating; however, unless I missed but you left out one of the main causes of tailgating which is when one hogs the fast (passing lane) and does not have the curtesy to move. This is not only annoying, it is illegal as well.
Dolores Monet from East Coast, United States on February 11, 2017:
I am sure we've all been guilty of rudeness from time to time. The worse that I find on the rise is littering. When I was a kid, there was a huge move to clean up America. I think we need to push this again. The amount of trash that I see along the streets and on sidewalks sometimes astounds me.
Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on February 11, 2017:
I'm back to review this post once again. I know a few people who need to read this so I'm passing it along. :)
Lynnsez on February 06, 2017:
I wish there had been one additional rude behavior on the list: people who pretend, deny or deliberately ignore the fact that they are sick in order to attend events and gatherings with little or no regard for those they expose to germs and illness. Those who routinely do this really illustrate your point that rude people really just do not care about others! My sister wears her choice to always soldier on in the face of illness like a badge of honor others should admire her for and so far has taken no responsibility when confronted. Her shallow "sorry you're sick" texts are a far cry from "I am sorry I did not stay home when I had a terrible cold and now you are sick too." I'm not expecting to hear anything close to that from her in this lifetime.
C. K. on February 02, 2017:
You forgot to mention the customer who gets to the register, and never acknowledges the cashier, because they are talking on their cell phone. It is one of my pet pieves, as a cashier at Costco. Also talking loud on you cell, so that everyone can hear! Take it out to the car, and close your windows! No one wants to know your business!
James Reboulet on February 02, 2017:
I don't use the last of the toilet paper. I always leave at least 1 sheet.
Octarin on November 16, 2016:
I don't think I've ever done any of those things, I instinctively try to be polite, sometimes apologetic even. The one thing that I am "guilty" of is in regards of my child, who doesn't always behave properly. He's autistic, though, so I think that might be a factor, because often he can't distinguish between right and wrong, and the things "we don't do", like keeping his voice down and not making a fuss. I do apologize for his behalf however, most of the time people end up telling me "let him be, he's just a kid", which vexxes me greatly, because it's no excuse for rude behaviour... Not saying I'm miss prim and proper, I simply try to be mindful of others, because most of those things peeve me something awful, so I try not doing them. Anyway, sorry for the text block, lol! Good read!
Sanxuary on January 24, 2015:
You must work retail because what you have written is beyond true. The things that happen in bathrooms makes you wonder if anyone is civilized. The horrible drivers problem tops my list. If I was a cop I could not give out enough tickets. I can total my car about 4 times a day just getting to work. Sometimes I speed up and slam on the brakes and fake a heart attack to see if I can get a reaction out of them. Its like damn you just almost killed your whole family but what about me. Its so important to drive like an idiot to save one second to lose at the next stop light. Electronic devices have just compartmentalized people to act like they are not a part of society anymore. Its like its their own little world as they walk around like robots. Men walking around on cell phones talking makes you walk like a girl. Strangely enough if its a business call you walk normal weird, and that is how you know if your employees are goofing off. I can beat this stuff up all day and eating with your mouth open is fashionable, just like moving back into a cave.
Boo boo on January 14, 2015:
The aisle block thing really gets under my skin! I'm trying to grab things from an aisle and it's like a traffic jam. And I get interrupted a LOT.
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poetryman6969 on November 26, 2014:
That's a pretty comprehensive list. Instead of trying to force my neighbors to use the dog run across the street as opposed to our yard, we have decided to move!
just a nobody on October 08, 2014:
How about when someone is rude to you, being rude back to them. What does that accomplish? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on September 18, 2014:
Ralph Deeds from Birmingham, Michigan on September 17, 2014:
"Jerk merging" should be near the top of the list. http://www.sfgate.com/bayarea/article/Last-minute-...
jack on September 17, 2014:
Number 17 should be a lot higher on the list. Mostly because it is dangerous! Recently I was being followed so closely,that I could not even see their headlights in my rear view. Finally,I stopped and went to the car and told the driver,"If you want to ride with me,get in the back seat. Otherwise get out of my trunk." "You have every right to risk your own worthless neck. But you do not have the right to risk mine."
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jaimie on June 24, 2014:
You could take #5 our and replace it with whispering.
Sophia on June 06, 2014:
I hate when my nurse always ignores me when i have something to tell her about a resident. And when she will leave for lunch either when i said i was going and/or going without telling me. And if she does tell me she will go for thirty minutes shes decides to go for an hour. Drive me crazy.
I dont see whats wrong with grooming in public like in your car or fixing your hair on the side walk but ok
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TycoonSam from Washington, MI on September 22, 2013:
Tammy, I was pulling my hair out as I was reading this Hub! I've either seen or been a victim of all of the rude behaviors you talked about.
Grooming in public? What the heck is that!!! Seriously, I cringe anytime I see people trimming their nails!
But the worst has to be a Cashiers Who Talk on Their Cellphones and Don't Acknowledge Customers During Checkout while cutting their nails and not picking up after her dog! and to top it off...being Late for work!
Thanks for the Hub.
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on August 24, 2013:
I soooo have to agree with you Ralph. This week I had to drive the clunker to work while my car is being worked on. I discovered that if you drive an older beater car, people in expensive cars exhibit the most horrible behavior. These drivers follow too close, honk, and cut me off while I am in the old car. That is such a valid point!
Ralph Deeds from Birmingham, Michigan on August 13, 2013:
Rich people are the rudest drivers, especially those in BMWs according to this "scientific" research.
Nick Ross on July 31, 2013:
I am humbly proud of not being guilty of any of these items, but was prompted to google the topic as I have been on the receiving end of quite a few of them. Especially the barking dogs one. Though my neighbor does seem to be making attempts to train his dogs over the past couple of weeks :-) Anyways as I was prompted to search this out, I highly doubt the people who need this information the most are, or would bother to read the entire article should they stumble across it... How then to propagate this information in a manner such that it is absorbed rather than deflected.?
Elle on July 17, 2013:
It's Aisle, not Isle. They're not on an island.
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on June 22, 2013:
Actually, your comments were deleted because they were inaccurate and didn't relate to the topic. If you are going to troll internet articles and use them to deposit your angst, please read them first.
Duke Lacrossee on June 11, 2013:
Really? You censored/removed my completely legitimate posts?
I'm sorry you're so fearful of actual discussion. Anything not praising your blog is deleted within 5 minutes. Keep in mind that I used absolutely NO swear words. But it seems, actually it is, true that you would rather create a place where EVERYONE agrees with you rather than a place for true intellectual thought/ideas/discussion. If one doesn't comply, it's off to banned camp...
And I will truly be surprised if this post even touches the "comments" area without being dumped in fewer than 5 minutes.
Do you blog people have nothing better to do than watch your inbox/blog in case you have to delete a post? I thank God every single day that I actually have a life, as opposed to a virtual life.
Apollogirl on May 16, 2013:
I can't watch people spitting huge globs of something into the street. If you have someothing so bad in your body that needs to be expelled, see a doctor! Yuck!
Jennifer on May 12, 2013:
what happened to all of us? Gosh I really tried to laugh but not funny just disgusted. :( society sickens me to the core. I've paid my dues and can honestly say I'm not perfect however, thank goodness I can keep my manners. quality people quality.
Mary from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet. on May 02, 2013:
Tailgating and the littering drive me crazy, I mean come on can't they walk to the trashcan when they are done eating. Another thing, I really wish they would stop throwing their full cups of soda out the window when I am driving behind them, voted up and shared.
Alex Munkachy from Honolulu, Hawaii on May 02, 2013:
rude people are breeding rudeness and raising up a new generation of ruder people...
Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on May 01, 2013:
Thanks tammy for bringing this one out again. I enjoyed this the last time I came by and enjoyed it even more this time. I'm going to link this to a hub I wrote awhile back about this subject.
I've always been an advocate for good manners and good behavior. That's just the way we were raised - good common sense and "do unto others."
It's time to share this again - the human race could use a reminder of your 25 rudest behaviors! Voted up, across and of course sharing.
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on May 01, 2013:
That is an excellent point Ralph Deeds. I feel the same way about bosses who have to walk around reminding everyone of their authority. Thanks for the chuckles!!!
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on May 01, 2013:
I have to agree with you Lacey. Any rude behavior like that in an elevator is unwarranted. Thanks so much for stopping by. :)
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on May 01, 2013:
You make some excellent points dell535. I am really surprised by how many people comment about the bad behavior of senior citizens. That is interesting coming from you. I have seen some cantankerous older people in my time. I guess I am old fashioned in thinking that older people deserve respect because of their age. I will always think that way but so many people feel other wise. You have shared some very interesting thoughts. Thanks so much for reading.
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on May 01, 2013:
I have to agree with you bisnar. It sometimes feels hypocritial to try to teach a child good manners when they see everyone doing the opposite. It is getting harder and harder to find good examples of behaviour. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!
Rick Grimes on April 30, 2013:
Great list! You got pretty much all the ones i was thinking of when i read the title haha
Aaron Seitler from Manchester, United Kingdom on April 30, 2013:
Jolly good Hub.I also detest the disgusting state of manners nowadays and just reading them makes me bristle with anger.But well done for outlining them so incisively.
Ralph Deeds from Birmingham, Michigan on April 30, 2013:
Leonard Pitts on Celebrities
"If you ever find yourself asking, “Do you know who I am?” or any variation thereof, it’s a pretty good indicator that you are not, in fact, as famous as your hired sycophants and (and your ego) have led you to believe. If it is necessary to call attention to your fame, you may not be all that famous to begin with.http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=201...
MelonieGilchrist on April 29, 2013:
You defiantly put a lot of thought into this article. Some of these things I wouldn't have even thought of, even though they irritate me too!
dell535 on April 28, 2013:
THESE COMMENTS GIVE THE IMPRESSION THAT THE WORLD IS FULL OF RUDE IDIOTS. IT MAY SEEM THAT WAY AT TIMES.
THE TRUTH IS, THAT PROBABLY 90% OF THE PUBLIC IS THOUGHFULL, CONSIDERATE OF OTHERS, AND GOOD PEOPLE. ONLY THAT THE 10% BRING NOTICE ON THEMSELVES BY ACTING LIKE JERKS. I SEE THIS ALL THE TIME, BUT I ALSO SEE MANY PEOPLE SHOWING COURTESY AND KINDNESS.
LETS GIVE CREDIT WHERE DUE, AND TRY TO BE THE GOOD GUYS BY GOING OUT OF OUR WAY TO BE NICE TO EACH OTHER.
I FIND THAT MANY GETTING ANGRY ACCUSING OTHERS OF RUDENESS, ARE THEMSELVES THE GUILTY PARTIES.
THE RIGHT LANE OF THE HIGHWAY IS THE "PASSING LANE" NOT THE SPEEDING LANE. EVERYONE ELSE ON THE ROAD IS NOT IN YOUR WAY!
YOU SHOULD NOT EXPECT EVERYONE TO DO EVERYTHING YOUR WAY!
IF YOU ARE UNWILLING TO LIVE BY SOCIETIES RULES, WHY SHOULD YOU EXPECT EVERYONE TO OBSERVE YOURS!
NO ONE ELECTED YOU TO BE GOD!!
YOU ARE NOT PERFECT, SO DON'T EXPECT OTHERS TO BE!!
Lacey Taplin from Colorado Springs, CO on April 28, 2013:
I agree with pretty much all of these! I would also add people talking on their cell phones in an elevator to the improper cell phone use category. I'm glad to see someone else agrees with me on how rude people can be in public. Great post!
Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent from Mississauga, ON on April 27, 2013:
This was much more informative than what I had originally thought.
dell535 on April 27, 2013:
I AGREE WITH YOUR LIST OF RUDE BEHAVIORS. I FEEL THAT I NEED TO ADD TO SOME.
24 CUTTING IN LINE. WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE WHO, AT CROWDED EVENTS, SEND ONE PERSON "SAVE SEATS FOR 8 OR 10 FRIENDS SO THEY CAN COME LATER AND HAVE GOOD SEATS WAITING FOR THEM?
22 DISRESPECT TO ELDERLY. I AM 75 YEARS OLD, AND I CAN TELL YOU TRULLY, THE ELDERLY ARE THE ONES WHO ARE THE MOST DISRESPECTFUL..
15 NOT USING TURN SIGNALS. I WOULD REALLY LIKE TO USE MY TURN SIGNALS, BUT I FIND THAT THIS PRACTICE ONLY NOTIFIES THE DRIVER BEHIND ME, SO THEY CAN CUT ME OFF.
dell535 on April 27, 2013:
I AGREE WITH MOST OF YOUR IDEAS. I WOULD HAVE TO COMMENT FURTHER ON SOME OF THEM.
Kevin Peter from Global Citizen on April 27, 2013:
Very interesting hub. Many of the points pointed out in the hub has given me good lessons on what to do and what not to. All the points can be used in future to be taught to growing up children. Thanks a lot.
John from Irvine, California on April 26, 2013:
Wow, you hit on so many. In fact, as I was reading I was getting more and more annoyed with the general public. I've got a 6-year-old and I'm constantly teaching her not to do things that other people do ALL THE TIME. It makes things really difficult.
Good hub. Voted up. Keep writing!
NitroD from London on April 24, 2013:
Yes I admit: bad table manners - I eat too fast and I look like a hoover :)
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on April 20, 2013:
This is true Express 10. Saying anything about a person's child is a risky subject. People should remember that good manners are the responsibility of the parent. Great thoughts!
H C Palting from East Coast on April 20, 2013:
Teresa.email@example.com is very right. This happens a lot and the offenders often get angry if you attempt to say something about it before the child arrives or after.
Teresa.firstname.lastname@example.org on April 20, 2013:
Add to list, bringing a very ill child to visit, causing others to get the flu.
Alise- Evon on April 18, 2013:
Thanks for the reminders. We certainly need to regain our sense of humanity and teach our children basic manners again.
Voted useful and shared.
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on April 16, 2013:
Thanks for sharing this Ralph Deeds. This is a book I would love to read. I must say I have to agree with the author of this book. I have noticed some consistency in those who are real buttholes. For example, there is a cashier in a store by my work. I hate going there because of the poor customer service. There is one female cashier in this store who is mean, short, rude, and hateful every single time I go in there- to everyone she waits on. I have never noticed her having a good day. Thanks for this excellent suggestion. It is well needed in our society.
Ralph Deeds from Birmingham, Michigan on April 08, 2013:
Here's a review of a recent book on this topic:
The truly optimistic among us believe that there is no such thing as an asshole. That is to say, the guy who cut you off in traffic or butted in front of you at Starbucks is probably possessed by some temporary affliction (lateness, cluelessness, hangover) that recedes as quickly as it came. In other words, he was acting like an asshole, and that same guy might well hold the door open for you or even save your life 10 minutes later. Aaron James is no such optimist. In fact, the author spends 214 quite convincing pages arguing that “assholeness” is less inattention than a permanent state of mind, and that assholes are more than numerous enough to be called out in book form.
They aren’t mere jerks, and they aren’t rapists or murderers. Rather, James writes, assholes populate the vast moral middle ground between the two. The true asshole, James writes, “is immunized by his sense of entitlement against the complaints of other people.” He is narcissistic, self-absorbed, impolite, and permanently thoughtless to those around him—and it is almost always a him—nearly to the point of sociopathy. (A TV analogy: Steve Carell’s The Office character, Michael Scott, is just a jerk; his inspiration, Ricky Gervais’s David Brent from the original British Office, is an asshole.)
And while they may not stick a shiv in your back, they will gladly manipulate the banking system and bleed you to death that way. Indeed, it is in his chapter “Asshole Capitalism” where James hits his stride. Unlike Communism, which in practice engendered a small, elite group of assholes, James believes unbridled capitalism, stripped of those virtue-engendering values that assholes disdain, is an ideal system through which many assholes can band together to completely tilt the game in their favour. Does he make a case? Hint: his main target is the U.S. banking system, and the disaster it provoked in 2008. It almost writes itself.
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Ralph Deeds from Birmingham, Michigan on March 26, 2013:
People who park and block one lane in front of stores in a shopping center parking lot and have a passenger run into Starbucks or the dry cleaner instead of parking in a parking space. Also, driving too fast in parking lots is rude and dangerous. More than once I've looked both ways and begun to back out of a parking space and had a near collision with a car coming up the aisle way too fast.
Steve from Fiji on March 25, 2013:
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on March 25, 2013:
Thanks for the lovely comment Que Scout. I have to agree that Americans are loud. I am a very quiet person and raised quiet children. When I go out in public I notice people yell and they are standing next to eachother. I bet you write some interesting things based on your cute analogy. :)
Shannon Henry from Texas on March 25, 2013:
Sadly, I think there is much truth to what you say. I am American and I often get annoyed at the loudness of crowds!
Steve from Fiji on March 24, 2013:
Hopefully I am not being too rude as I mention American's are perceived as loud in other countries. Frankly, the number one complaint about American abroad is they are loud. It appears they want to make their presents known & what they are saying is important to nearby people.
After living in the USA for decades I returned to Australia with my American girl friend. We were visiting Sydney Aquarium and could hear in the distance some American tourists. We could hear them over everything. My Girl friend was so embarrassed she had to comment.
I my self had never noticed this common American trait. But after that day I did. When Australians felt comfortable talking to me they would often point out this loudness. It is odd, and I can not explain why this is so, but it is true. Mind you, if they had something nasty to say about the USA, I was quick to remind them of who is financing their freedom.
So, being 1/2 yank, and served in the US army I can say this joke, and might even get away with it.
A rabbit and a frog meet for the 1st time, both are totally blind. They wondered what each other looked like. The frog touched and felt his way around the rabbit, oh how soft you are, owwe and what big ears you have - your a rabbit! Like wise the rabbit checked over the frog, oh, what long legs you have and a big mouth too - your American aren't you. :D
Tammy (author) from North Carolina on March 24, 2013:
That sounds like a great solution Lesleysherwood. People act less rude when they have something to loose. Great thoughts!
Steve from Fiji on March 24, 2013:
I expect they are all talking on the cell phone. Steer clear :)
Mr Rupa on March 23, 2013:
It seems that these qualities are a given in England. I mean just look at the MPs, who don't give a stuff fir the people they elect. If these are the honourable than what of the masses,
Nadia Archuleta from Denver, Colorado on March 22, 2013:
Great Hub! To add to #5, I'd say people walking along ANYWHERE and just stopping, usually in a group. My #1 is cyclists in the city: they run red lights, cycle fast on sidewalks, cycle wrong way down one-way streets. It's a menace.
Anahita from Toronto on March 22, 2013:
It also really bothers me if I'm out for coffee or dinner with a friend and he or she leaves his or her cell phone on the table. Um, hello - you can't put your phone away and give me your attention for two hours?! Rude.
Steve from Fiji on March 19, 2013:
Yes, Likewise in in Oz there are two grocery stores which use the coin system trolleys, one is in the USA too - Aldi. Aldi also sell a token to fit their carts which is good to keep on a key ring.
The benefit is the carts are returned or a kid finds the cart and returns it for the coin. Then again, bag boys out of work is not good.
theweaksend on March 19, 2013:
People who leave their dogs outside 24 hours a day and let them bark the entire time drive me mad! The shopping cart thing has been resolved here as well, just as Lesley mentioned, by charging a dollar to use it and you don't get it back unless you return it. A lot of stores here also have those carts that the wheels lock once you leave the perimeter of the store so that people can't steal them as easily.
Lesleysherwood on March 19, 2013:
This sounds just like my town, London. We've managed to solve the shopping trolley issue by charging a pound to use them and the only way to get that money back is to take the trolley back to the trolley queue. I love the picture you managed to capture of Katie Price (Jordan) picking her nose. Ha ha.. Brilliant. She would hate that.... lol.
Susan Bailey from South Yorkshire, UK on March 18, 2013:
Ooo I think I must be very intolerant because just about every one of these things gets my goat. Obviously I'm not guilty of any of them.... Upped and followed.
Sheene Kirlew from Jamaica on March 18, 2013:
Great Hub! I especially appreciate the attention given to parents who don't discipline their kids and then turn them loose on everyone. Proper discipline for kids should be one of the requirements of parenting. Voted up!
Shannon Henry from Texas on March 17, 2013:
Wow. You already have so many comments! And I confess I have not read them all (maybe that is rude of me?). I was just going to point out that your quote says most people are rude because they do not care about people, and I disagree. I've been called a romantic lately for my views on forgiveness and trying to find the best in others, but I honestly believe that, as humans, we sometimes just slip up and are unintentionally rude to someone else when caught in the moment of our own selfish emotions. Sometimes it takes a slip up to get those emotions in check. Sadly, though, it is often too late because we have already left a bad impression on someone else.