As you know, people come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, and colors. No matter what we look like on the outside, there are people out there who would appreciate it and feel a physical attraction so strong that they seemingly gravitate towards us.
With so much emphasis placed on physical attraction, it’s no wonder why so many people are self conscious about their appearance for a multitude of reasons!
When it comes to women, they tend to be self conscious about everything appearance! From things that they cannot change such as height to things they can change such as blemishes, they quickly find their way into a self-loathing state! While we’re on the topic of height, there’s been some debate on this question: Why do guys like short girls?
You’ll often hear this question come from the mouths of the self-conscious tall girl, but before I go into some answers, I want to point out why being a tall girl is a great thing! If you are a tall girl, always remember that there is a taller guy out there for you, if that’s what you prefer. You were made just as you should have been.
Sure, strangers in a grocery store may ask you for help from time to time, but being helpful is a good thing and nothing to be ashamed about! Heck, even models tend to be tall! That should say a lot in itself. You’re beautiful.
Reasons Why Guys Like Shorter Girls
Of course, every guy is different, and their reasons for seeking out a significant other who's on the shorter side may very well be different as well, but it seems like there's one reason that stands out more than the others.
The most common reason why guys might prefer short girls is because it boosts their self-esteem. Some guys, themselves, aren’t as tall as they wish they were and finding themselves a cute, short girl does wonders for their ego. In other words, they like short girls because they’re short themselves. It even goes the other way sometimes, short girls going for shorter guys! But this doesn’t explain why a tall guy would like a short girl, does it?
Another reason that comes up when asking “why do guys like short girls” is because many guys like a girl that they can kinda toss around. It makes them feel stronger, giving a sense of dominance. Although this holds true in bed as well, it’s also in good fun when at a park or out in public somewhere. There’s just something about being able to pick your girl up and tossing her in the air to hear her squeal that gives him a thrill. Oh, and piggyback rides, short girls are easier to carry around!
Here are a few other reasons why guys like short girls:
- He Feels Protective. This is another thing that may just feed the ego, but guys like to feel like they can protect their mates, and perhaps having a smaller mate means their protection will be needed more!
- He Feels Dominant. When you are bigger than something or someone, you automatically assume power over it, whether it’s consciously or subconsciously. Even if it’s a false sense of power, like the smaller person is stronger or quicker, height is seen as an advantage, more so over competition rather than mates.
- She Seems Feminine. It is thought that shorter girls have more estrogen than taller women, but you can’t exactly see estrogen, so what does it mean? It means that shorter girls tend to be more feminine and some really prefer having a girl who's dainty and delicate rather than an Amazon who can take care of herself.
- “It’s like cuddling a teddy bear”. I asked a guy who has always dated short girls, like really short girls, and his response actually surprised me: He said it’s like cuddling a teddy bear when cuddling a short girl! It does make sense, I suppose.
Love Has No Height Requirements
While it’s easy to assume why a guy is with a certain girl, we should put our assumptions on height aside. Maybe that perfect couple you see over there is not bound together by a strong physical attraction, maybe the girl is one of the coolest girls he’s ever met and just happens to be on the shorter side.
While we all naturally have our preferences when it comes to appearance on our mates, sometimes height doesn’t matter at all! We tend to go after the ones that we would want to procreate with, the ones with the physical traits that are appealing to us, and no matter how tall or short a girl is, she can be the most beautiful person you’ve ever seen, inside and out!
Do Guys Like Tall Girls or Short Girls?
moonlake from America on January 17, 2019:
Cuddling a teddy bear, really? He must of been a very strange man.
lauralolita (author) from Florida on July 30, 2015:
Thanks so much for your really thoughtful comments dashingscorpio and Vipinbehari.
@dashingscorpio. I couldn't agree with you more that women are probably much more opinionated about a guy's height.
I actually am one of those tall women like your wife, 5'10", and have dated guys both shorter than me and taller than me. My preference would always be towards a guy who is taller, as long as I was attracted to him and his personality, just as I believe a guy would prefer a woman to be shorter than him.
Obviously this is just a generalization. Height doesn't matter to everyone. You found someone you love who happens to be taller than you, so you're proof that being in love is more important than a couple of inches.
Vipin Behari Goyal from Jodhpur City, Rajasthan, India on July 30, 2015:
Actually it is other way round. Short girls are crazy after Tall guys and they make them fall in love with them.
According to "Compensation" in self defense mechanism both try to compensate what they lack ie, average height.
dashingscorpio from Chicago on July 29, 2015:
Actually I believe most guys want a girl they consider to be "HOT" looking regardless of her height. Little 5' 5" guys would jump at the chance to date a Victoria Secret model!
Generally speaking it is believed most women want to date men who are taller than themselves! This belief along with various other fears of rejection many men already deal with when it comes to approaching (any) woman probably causes them to avoid what they think is a "sure-fire" rejection.
I've heard women say they prefer a guy who is at least three inches taller than them so when they wear heels they're not towering over the guy.
I'm 5'10" and my wife is 6' so clearly I have no issues with height. She did tell me that if I had been any shorter she probably would not have gotten romantically involved with me. In fact a guy who was 5'5" hit on her and she shot him down even though she liked his personality.
More women are concerned about a man's height just like men are conscious of women's weight. Everyone is entitled to have their own preferences. The vast majority of women I've dated have indicated they want to be with men who they feel bigger and stronger than they are.
Something that's seldom mention is the variety of sex positions that correspond with height. Some men may feel being with shorter and light weight women offers a wider variety of sexual positions which may tie into that "cuddling a teddy bear" analogy. Some women love to feel engulfed in their man's arms.
It would be interesting to see how many tall women prefer dating men who are shorter than themselves. While some may be "open to it" my guess is the vast majority would rather their men be just as tall if not taller than themselves! One man's opinion!:)