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How to Make Your First Date More Romantic


A lot can happen on a first date, but no matter what goes on, it is imperative that it remains romantic. Romance can give you the best chance of helping your date choose you over another guy. In other words, the more romantic you are, the more likely it is that you'll get a second date.

Besides all the excitement that you will be having for your first date, other emotions such as fear will also be accompanied. Here are a few things that you can work on and increase the chances of turning your date into something extra romantic.

1. Be an Attentive Listener

Many people are not good at paying attention. At times, we get overwhelmed by our own intentions to impress someone that we almost end up talking a lot without giving the other person a chance to talk. Asking her questions and giving her time to answer will show your date that you are an attentive listener, which will definitely make her attracted to you.

2. Make Sure You Dress Well

You must pay attention to the way you dress and make sure that you look perfect. However, just paying attention is not enough because you also need to know what is good, and to do that it's very important to consider the place and time that you will be meeting. Make sure that you put on something that looks good and at the same time is appropriate for the occasion.

3. Be Punctual

One of the most important rules on the first date is to ensure that you arrive on time. Being late will definitely turn off your date. Never be late or keep the other person waiting, always keep in mind that your first impression will be also your last impression. Moreover, remember that if you keep the other person waiting, you will make her angry and appear as if you just wanted to waste her time.

4. Pick a Romantic Location

Pick a place where you see like everyone would like to visit. Try to choose a place that will feel intimate and unique for them. You can make this more romantic than just a normal dinner or a movie. Please don’t do a coffee shop date because it feels normal nowadays.


5. Put Your Phone Away

It might not seem like a big deal but it’s a huge deal for most people. If you can’t turn off your phone, then set your phone to silent mode and make a point of not checking it repeatedly. Give your date your full attention and they will probably feel more of a connection this way. Remember, how you act on your first date will determine a lot.

6. Display Open Body Language

If you find yourself facing toward your date, you can keep your arms open and loose instead of crossing them, which can look defensive. A lot of people also find it easier to sit side by side instead of across from one another when they are talking. This seems more intimate since you are physically closer to each other.

7. Be Yourself, Don’t Fake

There is nothing good or romantic that comes with pretending to be someone you are not. Let her love you for who you are, not somebody else. To make yourself feel more relaxed about the date, dress comfortably, act confidently, and have a good time. Being true is romantic; take a moment to remind yourself that the person wants to go out with you, so be real.

8. Offer Good and Polite Compliments

If you start off by complimenting her on how she looks for the first time, make sure that you don’t mention anything regarding her sexual parts. If you do, they will be immediately put off. Stick on more neutral compliments that will make her feel happy and appreciated.

9. Create Some Jokes

Joking around with your date is a great way to break the ice between the both of you. Most ladies like funny guys who keep them happy. You can flirt with her, but don’t take it too far. Keep in mind that you are on a date and being too serious (like you are in a job interview) isn’t good.

10. Go in With a Positive Mindset

If you arrive expecting the date to be boring and awkward, then it will be. It's upon you as the gentleman to make it fun and lively. If you want to win her then you must have a positive attitude and show her how you are interested to be with her.

If you are feeling it and your date is OK with it, gently touch her hand as you talk and this will ensure your date knows you are interested. Remember not to take it so far because it will turn out as a turn-off to her. A gentle touch and a kiss on her hand are good to show her how affectionate you are towards her.

Good Luck!

Being in a relationship with someone that truly loves you is the best feeling that you can ever experience in this world. If you end up winning her after your date, take care of her.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.