100+ Speed Dating Questions to Get to Know Someone

Updated on June 14, 2019
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Dating at Its Fastest!

We’ve all seen speed dating in the movies, but believe it or not, it’s a real thing, and a real way people have found their soulmates!f What exactly is speed dating? I’m glad you asked!

Speed dating is a method of dating people utilized to meet multiple people in a short period of time in an effort to find a good match. Usually for speed dating, you’ll have anywhere between 5 and 10 minutes to get to know someone enough and determine if there’s any kind of good chemistry. After the time is up with one date, you take notes about the person and determine if you’d even want to see them again, then you move onto the next date and the process begins again! Sounds fun, right?

Five minutes can teach you a lot about someone if you have the right questions to ask. That’s why it’s imperative that you go to a speed dating event armed with some good speed dating questions! Here’s a list to get you thinking!


It can be hard meeting new people, so sometimes you need a few questions that will help get you both talking! Icebreaker questions are designed to poke around about certain topics in an effort to open up more conversation.

  • Are you an animal lover?
  • Have you ever been here before?
  • What is your favorite thing to do around town?
  • Are you more of a morning person or a night person?
  • If you could visit any place in this world, where would you go and why?
  • What was your childhood dream job?
  • What is something you're passionate about?
  • What is something you’re most knowledgeable about?
  • In what ways are you talented?
  • Is there anything you’d change about yourself?
  • What is something good that happened to you today?
  • What show or shows do you watch religiously?
  • What do you do to wake yourself up in the morning?
  • What are your plans for the rest of the day?
  • Have you ever done anything extreme like skydiving?

Favorite Things

Asking people about their favorite things shows that you are interested in getting to know what they like!

  • What is your favorite place to eat?
  • What is your favorite food?

  • What is your favorite drink?

  • What is your favorite place to visit?

  • What is your favorite flower?

  • Who is your favorite singer/band?

  • What is your favorite movie genre?

  • What is your favorite book?

  • What is your favorite fruit?

  • What is your favorite candy bar?

  • What is your favorite guilty pleasure?

  • What is your favorite animal?

  • What is your favorite thing to order at a fast food place?

  • What is your favorite dessert?

  • What was your favorite subject in school?

  • What is your favorite thing to learn about in your free time?

  • What is your favorite sport?

  • What is your favorite time of day?

  • What is your favorite season?

  • What is your favorite weather?

  • What is your favorite outfit you own?

  • What is your favorite memory with your best friend?

  • Who is your favorite tv show character?

  • What is your favorite thing to do outside?

  • What is your favorite quiet activity?

  • What is your favorite website?

  • What is your favorite tv show right now?

  • What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?

  • What is your favorite store?

  • What is your favorite Disney movie?

If you need more ideas, visit 170 Favorite Things Questions.

Getting to Know You

The goal of speed dating is to learn if you might like someone, right? These questions will give you a quick impression of the other person. Don’t be afraid to follow their answers with your own answers, especially if it’s something you have in common!

  • How do you like your coffee?
  • What do you do for work?

  • Do you enjoy your current job? Why or why not?

  • What kind of car do you drive?

  • Do you exercise? What form of exercise?

  • What is your astrological sign?

  • When is your birthday?

  • Do you have kids? Do you eventually want kids?

  • Do you like to travel?

  • Do you play any sports?

  • What are some of your hobbies?

  • Do you have any pets?

  • What is something you wish you could change in today's world?

  • Do you follow any religion?

  • Are you close with your family?

  • Can you tell me some things about your family?

  • What is your typical, everyday outfit like?

  • On a holiday, where do you go?

  • Do you know how to cook? Do you enjoy it?

  • What are some little things that bring happiness into your everyday life?

  • What do you do for a girl’s/guy’s night out?

  • Where did you grow up?

  • Do you plan on staying here for the long run?

  • How many close friends do you have?

  • Are you a shutterbug or more of a “live in the moment” kind of person?

  • If you were lost in the middle of nowhere with no GPS and no phone reception, would you know how to find your way?

Funny Topics

If you can sense that you two are really hitting it off, then it’s fun to throw a funny question or two into the mix in order to show that you have a good sense of humor!

  • If you had to pick any animated character to portray you in a documentary about your life, who would it be?
  • If you had to kiss any animated character, who would it be?
  • Do you like pickles?
  • Do you like cheese?

  • How do you like your burgers?

  • What was your most embarrassing moment?

  • Do I have anything in my teeth?

  • What is your most random, silly childhood memory?

  • Do you laugh when the ketchup bottle “farts”?

  • Do you break any traffic rules if there is no cop around?

  • We’re at a restaurant and you find a hair in your food, how do you react?

  • Do you play in the snow or rain?

  • If there is a big puddle on the road, do you go around it or drive through it to see the big splash?

  • How long do you give someone to go at a green light before honking?

  • How do you handle a bad hair day?

  • What is one thing that you absolutely cannot stand?
  • When do you see a pothole, 200 feet before, the last second, 'what pothole'?
  • If you were any superhero, who would you be?

This or That?

If the speed dating event you are attending is one that offers very little “dating” time, then it’s best to stick with shorter questions in order to learn the most about your date as possible.

  • Foot rub or back rub?
  • Bubble bath or long shower?
  • Peanut butter and jelly or ham and cheese?
  • Dogs or cats?
  • Documentaries or dramas?
  • Flowers or chocolates?
  • Beer or wine?
  • Coffee or tea?
  • Walmart or Target?
  • Amazon or go to the mall?
  • Camping or stay at a resort?
  • Comedy show or concert?
  • Disney or Nickelodeon?
  • Bowling or mini golf?
  • Zoo or theme park?
  • Hotdog or hamburger?

If you liked these questions, you'll love 101 Funny This or That Questions!

Topics to Avoid

With a list of questions to ask, it becomes necessary to provide a list of topics that should probably be avoided on a “first date.”

  • Controversial topics: There are many topics in which people tend to hold strong opinions and these most certainly should be avoided. After all, you don’t want to start a date with a big disagreement! Examples include abortion, women’s rights, racism, vaccine/medical/alternative treatments, drug legalization, and, well, you get the picture!
  • Politics: This is another one of those topics that is easy to disagree on, and you really don’t want to get into a heated debate (unless, of course, the two of you are into that).
  • Death: Talking about the recent death of a loved one or pet is not really something people want to hear about and might come off as sympathy-seeking. Avoid the topic altogether!
  • Money: Seems obvious, but stay away from asking how much they make. Not only do many people prefer not discussing their salary, it could also give a bad first impression.
  • Past relationships: Nobody wants to hear about your ex and it can be a really sore topic to poke around about. The focus should be on the potential future of you two, not the past relationships of either of you.
  • Weight or cosmetic flaws: Never ask someone about their weight or a noticeable cosmetic flaw or disability. If they’re insecure about it, it won’t end well. If it bothers you, well, you won’t have to see them again after the buzzer!
  • Health problems: Unless you’re extremely comfortable and you find it important to talk about, leave your health status out of the conversation. Someone you’ve just met doesn’t need to know that you suffer from depression or have had four surgeries on this and that.
  • Sex: Unless it’s one of those speed dating events, avoid the topic of sex because it will make it seem as though that’s all you’re after, which will be a major turn off for most people.

Basically, you’re avoiding any kind of topic that will turn a date into a debate or anything that just puts out negative energy! You want to make it a good time and try to find someone you’d consider future dates with!

The best thing to remember when attending a speed dating event is to remain relaxed and try not to get nervous. Also, you don’t want to really memorize speed dating questions as it can make the date seem scripted and more like an interview or interrogation rather than a date. So take the ideas from a few of the questions and then simply feel out the rest; you’ll just know when the date feels right!


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