Yes Men Are From Mars, but What Do They Want?
Women Want to Know
I've recently been reading a book manuscript that points to the differences between men and women. Not only has the manuscript been insightful, but it also offers great advice for women who are seeking or wanting a serious committed relationship.
Women seem to rack their brains when it comes to understanding men. For instance women want to know how to attract men, what men are thinking, how to act around men, how to get men to fall in love, etc.,etc.,etc. It's almost exhausting.
What is so humorous, in women trying so hard to figure out men, is that men are simple creatures. And for whatever reason, it seems that women have gotten so side-tracked in trying to figure out men, they have forgotten to just be themselves. Ironically, what many men want in a woman, is what many women already inherently possess.
For anyone interested in better understanding men, you'll want to check out the book written by Martin Daniels, entitled What I Learned About Women While My Wife Was In Jail.
The book's title might make it sound like just a personal story, however, Daniels candidly writes about both men and women. And in reality, the book uniquely offers great insight into what men are seeing, thinking, and feeling.
Men Are Visual Creatures
Whether women like it or not, men are extremely visual. Men are initially attracted to a women based on what they see. However, this does not necessarily mean that a woman should dress or look provocative. What is interesting is, men will see certain things in women that they find to be incredibly sexy, but a lot of times it's not at all what women think it is. For instance, most men like women who wear less make-up than more.
A big turn off for men, is women who seem resentful. Men want women who are easy going, kind, and thoughtful. The last thing on earth a man wants, is to be with a harsh, bitter woman. Men are able to pick up on things about a woman's personality through her conversations and mannerisms. So it's not just totally about her physical appearance.
Men Want The Chase
Men don't like women who are too aggressive. Mind you, this does not mean that she can't be aggressive in seeking a career for instance. It just means that when it comes to being with a woman, the man wants to lead. A man will not feel like he is a man, if the woman is doing the pursuing.
Men Don't Want A Cling-On
Nothing is more sexy to a man than a woman who is happy with herself and her own life. A man doesn't want a woman who is clinging to his every thought, word, and action. Even if he loves a woman he will still need space, and have other interests outside of just being in a relationship.
Men Don't Necessarily Want Sex Right Away
If a man really likes a woman, he won't necessarily want to have sex with her right away. He will want to take the time to get to know her. As a matter of fact, quite often if a woman has sex with a man too soon he will pull away from her. Many times he will not only lose interest, but will feel more of a need to protect himself from her.
Men Want Peace
A man doesn't want to contend with a woman. He wants support from her. He doesn't want someone who is in his face, nagging him all the time or questioning him. From his perspective, he is out in the world contending with a million other things, so the last thing he wants is to contend with his woman.
The Take Away
So just what is the take away from reading What I learned About Women When My Wife Was In Jail ?
Its simple. The message after reading the book is this; men and women basically want the same things. At the end of the day, both sexes want to love and to be loved.
So yeah, men are from Mars and women from Venus, but the fact is we both exist here on earth. And for the most part want the same things from each other.
The book will be available on Amazon by the end of the year and will also be available to purchase in e-book form.