To a great extent, men are basically all the same and all want the same things in a woman, however, the desire for a woman of these particular traits intensifies when dating a man of great wealth. When it comes to their money men are very guarded and distrustful to start with. The reason for this is probably because there are always women who are willing to make absolute fools of themselves for a wealthy man, and by the time you are dating him, he is already on guard and ready to put you into the "another gold digging hooker" category.
You must be extra careful not to give him any ammunition to think that your behavior looks familiar to his past relationships. The Number one most important thing is always be a little more formal with these men, and don't make a big deal out of his money, because that is a sure way of making him think you are just another silly girl who wants to catch a rich guy. This being a very common mistake that women make when dating a big shot.
Show Him You Are Special
In order for the guy to see you as special, you must show him that you are the very special woman he has always dreamed of. By acting like he is something because he is rich, you have just given him all the power on earth to look down on you. Never appear too impressed. Your guy should believe that you can catch other men of his means easily and regularly.
Just about every man feels like he is something special right off the bat, and men with money really believe that its all about them. You have to make him feel that its all about you, and that you are the catch. After all, you are the woman, and rich men are a dime a dozen. Wink, wink.
Even if you really have not lived this way before, its time to start realizing that the man is not the one with all the power.
Make Him Work for Your Attention
If your man has to work for your attention, and believes that other men are hounding you for a serious relationship, he will think of you as the "IT Girl" who is sought after and must possess some kind of magic. It is really that simple.
If you cling to him and act like he is the one and poor little you needs a man before she gets too old, you have just told him that he can do better than you and that if he marries you he will be doing you a favor. Fat chance he will be interested in stooping.
Here is a real life example that I hope may solidify this theory.
Learn From Another's Mistakes
Recently an employee of mine was dating a wealthy man for three months and basically did everything wrong, which means that you can learn from her mistakes. When her rich guy began telling her that he needed a little space (she was calling him every day) she pouted and began saying things such as, "I know I don't have a degree or a nice house". No wonder the guy never called her again. He probably never gave her lack of a degree any thought until she basically spelled out to him that she is inferior to him in many ways. This girl actually rubbed her guys nose in what she believed to be her inferiority hoping that he would be more interested in her. She really should have thought about how this would come across before saying it out loud.
I am sure you have heard that the worst thing you can do is put yourself down, and it truly is. Because men are like puppies being trained by you. If you say "I am fat and ugly", he will start to think, yes, she is kind of fat, and the subliminal message is that other people must think you are fat and ugly too, otherwise why would you say so?
Never put yourself down, but be careful not to seem too egotistical. Have pride and be kind of others, this will not only make men more attracted to you, but people in general will like you.
A business partner of mine, who just happened to be drop dead gorgeous, and a winner of beauty pageants, due to her perfect cover girl face, was always playing the field. Lolita had many boyfriends and men simply passed through her life because once she was involved with a guy and thrilled to be with him, another charmer would sweep her off her feet. Many of these men wanted to get serious with her but because there were so many men chasing her around she simply did not have an interest in anyone in particular. Lolita frequented nightclubs and placed many notches on her belt to say the least. But, she was playing around, just enjoying the fact that all the men who looked upon her seemed to want her obsessively.
She Meets the Man
One day while working in her sales office, a handsome and well known Democrat councilman came in to talk business with her employers, and briefly talked to her. He left his card at the desk with her and she did not see him for six months. One day he called with some business information, and asked her to meet him in a restaurant. After sitting with this handsome guy for a few minutes, she was flattered to hear that he could not stop thinking about her since he saw her a few months ago, and just came up with an excuse for calling, and taking her to lunch. Lolita was so thrilled, that she decided to sweep him off his feet, by seducing him, and letting him have it in his car after they walked from the restaurant.
After the incident, she was ecstatic, and talked to her friends about this wonderful new guy, and how she was going to be the next Mrs. so and so. She was fantasizing about what her life would become now that she met the guy she would have as her own. During their lunch, he asked her to call him whenever she felt like it, and because two days had gone by without a call from him, she decided to call, and was that surprised when he did not really have the time to talk. Lolita was still on a cloud buying new clothes that she would wear while she was dating this democratic councilman. He may even become Mayor, as he is always with the Mayor during speeches and events.
Lolita decided to call it quits with the main guy she had been seeing, as things were not going well in their relationship recently. He had no money, and never bought her anything, and was basically a loser. The same kind of guy she could get 10 of , by just going to her local nightclub. Clubs are full of cheap guys who are going nowhere. Lolita was now on easy street. She would just do the same things she had been doing with all her other men, and this time it would result in a mansion, all the fine things money could by and a position as the wife of a Democrat politician.
She Doesn't Hear From Him
When she still had not heard from him after a week and a half she called this politician to tell him off. What kind of guy was this? All her men would find the time to call her and set up the next date. She neglected to understand that when a guy is busy. Small talk on the phone is seldom done on the same level as with a poor night club loser. Furthermore, he was no longer interested. He had been thinking about her for months because she had not called him up when he left his card behind. He was wondering if he could possibly win her over, and if he could, just how would he go about it. She took all the planning on his part away from him and fell down like a dead moose. This man who had gone to Harvard Law, and secured himself a position with the Democratic party liked to be challenged. Common sense regarding everything in his life points to this. She could have been his greatest accomplishment (in his mind) had she used her mind instead of her body.
He wondered for six months if there was any way that he could win the affection of this aloof and beautiful creature, and now that she instantly fell on her back and is nagging him for attention, he does not feel the desire to go out of his way for her again. It was over!
Lolita was devastated because she was so used to calling all the shots. Now this guy dumped her like a piece of trash. She found that he was married some time later, but that did not faze her at all, she had been with many married men, and they had always pined for her and talked about leaving their dull wives for her. Why didn't this guy want to cheat on his wife with her?
What She Did Wrong
There were several emotional phone calls in which she continued to make herself look cheap. The politician said he just had no time, and had numerous meetings to fulfill. too much traveling and business to take care of. Months later she discovered that he was having an affair with his secretary, and she lost it. Her self esteem was at a dangerously low point. Why is he having an affair with his not as pretty secretary and not me?
What Lolita failed to see, was that the secretary was not prettier than she, but much more discrete and reserved. This man had his political career on the line, and needed a woman he could trust. He was not about to risk his entire ambition on some bimbo who could easily be replaced.
I am no condoning cheating, I think that it is very dangerous and ultimately painful for all involved. I use this story to make my point. Go slow, and make each piece of affection he gets from you be something he has earned. Meaning, something that has taken time to build up to. You know the saying, "easy come easy to." If you don't give your emotions, physical or otherwise too easily, it will be impossible for him to let you go.
Don't Be Emotionally Demanding
Men love their careers and business. Money is very important to them, and for you to be someone who they trust in their lives, you need to stand out as a calm, and rational woman, who is respected by others. Not a highly emotional and demanding woman.
dillengerprinctontyler on August 24, 2019:
i htink guys from humble bacvkground scan attrat very very wealthy women if thye are very gorgues with model looks if their 6 ffot 2 or a tlest 6 feet and have class amnners and no how to wear suits
Deb on February 12, 2019:
Ok, I am just a humble woman, I get rich jerks hitting on me all time, even old rich farts. I know a lot of women are shallow and love the money, but dude is gonna have to have more than money to keep my attention. He’s has to funny, cool, and not a respectable. I had a man 20 years older than me who was rich (been married three times) who worked with me telling me he loved and couldn’t stop thinking about me, offering to buy me an English Tutor Style 500k home, I just laughed and walked off, he went freakin nuts. That’s why I married a dang wonder truck driver! He’s my kind of man. A good man, good father, hard worker, and sexy as hell. Women, get a life, marry what you need, rich men are just trouble and so dang full of themselves...they make me sick. If I want money, I’ll make it. What some guys want for money, well I wasn’t willing to do. You got to be attracted to more than cash.
A Target on February 12, 2019:
This is why I refuse to get married. Shallow lazy women.
Michelle on September 13, 2018:
What a detailed, eye openingnteresting article!
The author of this article gave a very detailed account of the many wrong steps and behavior a woman can do to turn a high-quality and/or most men off. She is trying to help women not repeat the grues on June 27, 2018:
Great detailed article on how most men are turned off!!
Aila Gil on February 19, 2018:
The best tip is: Get pregnant, if he don't love he will. At least you'll get a golden ticket
GlendaGoodWitch (author) from California on October 07, 2017:
Kristal- First, this never happened to me but happened to a client of mine. The purpose of the article is to keep other women from fantasizing too soon and having the same results
KristalPorsenna on October 07, 2017:
Lol,that is her fault.It doesn't mean a guy ask you to lunch doesn't mean he was trying to be in a relationship with her.That was all in her mind.All he just did is ask you out to lunch.If he did not ask you out or ask you to be his partner you guys our not dating .Business men always go out with men or women all the time.I could see why he didn't call you because you sounded desperate.Breaking up with your boyfriend and telling people/keep calling him for personal reasons about him made him ran off(stalker).It looked like you wanted his money.You were also dumb enough not see if he was married or having a affair.You fell so quickly you didn't even know the guy well.Just next time if a guy ask you out,you can go but don't act desperate.If he is having a affair he is a loser and you need to move on.
ub special on August 01, 2017:
wow i love the story detail.
Otmane on June 19, 2017:
I need to help
craftybegonia from Southwestern, United States on February 01, 2016:
I have a relative (she is old now) who was gorgeous when she was young and got hitched to a rich guy. He was so possessive, she was turned into a prisoner in a gilded cage padded with thick velvet. She had servants and all the comforts, but wound up with a shrink, trying to overcome her deep depression. All of that went away when she left him. So that sort of thing has its drawbacks also...
David McKenzie from Canada on May 20, 2013:
In essence, she was too easy for him.