Jenny is a girl who loves many things. She loves street foods, traveling, nature, music, cats, and dogs! She's crazy about purple & writing!
Now, I have to spill a secret. I’ve always admired older men (not in a creepy way though). I have had crushes on my professors back in my college days. And, when I say "older," I mean guys who are 10–15 years older than I am and not the "old" retired type.
I am always drawn to them; maybe it is their maturity or the way they express their opinions on difficult topics and challenge me mentally, or it is the way they carry themselves, or maybe it is because they are already self-sufficient.
Some people tell me that I may just be looking for a father-figure, but I am not. There are a lot of good reasons why some women like me prefer older men, and I am going to enumerate some of them here.
Reasons Why Women Date Older Men
- They are more experienced and cultured.
- They are more financially stable.
- They are better at pleasing women.
- They are looking for more serious relationships.
- They have a more sophisticated taste.
- They are great cooks.
- They live a healthier lifestyle.
- They do not go out and party as often as younger men.
- Psychological and biological reasons
There are many women out there who seek out and build relationships with older men, so much so that there is a term for it in the western world, the May—December romance. While many people may look down at couples that have a significant age gap between them, there are some very legitimate reasons why women seek out older men to have romantic relationships with.
Why Women Find Older Men More Desirable
1. More Experienced and Cultured
Men are like wine: they get better with age. Their experiences in life, at work, and in previous relationships have taught them a lot of life lessons to make their situation better than before. They are more mature and understand that things don’t always happen the way they want them to and so they are more understanding and patient with their partners.
They know what they want and they go for it. They are very confident and so they carry themselves very well, especially in public. They are generally well-mannered. They have been to several places in the past and so they know a lot of things about other cultures.
2. Older Men Are More Financially Stable
Let’s face it; most women look for men who can support/contribute to them financially. It is all about practicality. When you start a family, for example, it is important that the man is able to provide security. A self-sufficient woman will not easily settle for anyone who doesn't earn at all. For some women in the poorer regions, they seek out men who are capable of supporting themselves because they are the ideal partner. They will not settle for a man who has no job because life is already difficult for them as it is and can't afford additional mouths to feed.
Now, from a logical perspective, a typical guy in his late 20s will have fewer savings, less wealth, and fewer assets accumulated compared to what he'll become 20 years later. That is considering that he continued to work and save as he gets older. In this regard, an older man has enough assets and money in the bank to support a family. This is why some women go for men who have stable jobs instead of those who are still generally starting with their career when they are planning to start a family. You don't have to be rich, no, this article is not about that at all.
I am not saying that women should depend on their partner financially, no. In fact, I admire women who stand up for themselves and accomplish a lot of things on their own. But, some societies consider it ideal for women to stay at home and take care of the kids and for the husband to work to support the family.
3. Older Men May Be Better in Terms of Pleasing and Treating Women
In my opinion, older men have had their fair share of both short-lived and more stable relationships, and this gives them a bit of an advantage when it comes to handling relationships. Their previous experiences have helped them learn what women generally want and what makes women happy.
Not only do they know more in bed, but they also understand women a little bit better. They are also more sensitive to their partner's needs. Older men tend to be more romantic as well. They have a good sense of humor that does not involve shaming their friends or other destructive behavior.
Just think about it for a second: older men have had the time to develop and practice their skills at pleasing women. This experience makes a big difference in comparison to younger men who have not yet put in the same amount of work when it comes to treating and pleasing women.
4. Older Men Generally Look for a Serious Relationship
Men mature much later than women, and normally middle age in men is the age of maturity. This is where they seek a more stable and healthy relationship. This is the age where they usually have pieced their life altogether, and they are now ready for a more serious and deeper commitment.
Women who are tired of short-lived and immature relationships can find a more satisfying and more stable relationship with an older guy than a guy in his late 20s for example. Younger men are still at an age where they love to explore and try different things before settling on something more serious.
So, if a girl feels that she is ready to tie the knot, or if she is ready for a serious commitment and ready to start a family, a younger man in his late 20's is just not the right person for her.
5. Older Men Have More Sophisticated Tastes
When it comes to the finer things in life like wine, food, beer, traveling, and clothes, older men tend to choose the better quality ones. First, they can afford it (although it doesn't really have to be expensive) and second, they just know that it is good. I repeat, it doesn't have to be expensive. For example, my partner always tells me to buy undies made of cotton and so I have learned to make it a habit to always read the label before I purchase anything. It doesn't matter if it is $4 or $50, if it is 100% cotton (read the label carefully) it is the same quality actually.
They also know that when it comes to food and drinks, quality does not always come with a hefty price. You don’t need to eat at a 5-star restaurant to be able to enjoy your food. You can find an affordable place that serves 5-star quality food and drinks with much better service as well.
Me and my partner often cook our own food when we travel. We both love going to the local market and buy our own stuff. That way we see more of the place, we talk to the locals (although it is difficult sometimes given the language barrier but the experience is well worth it) and we get to find huge deals. We also contribute directly to the local economy and that's a very good thing. We rarely go to expensive restaurants because food there is not always satisfying especially when you can both cook nice food.
When traveling, older men avoid touristy places because they know that they won’t get authentic products for the right price and they won’t be able to enjoy the scenery with the entire crowd roaming around. They are happy to sit in one corner where you can have all the views for yourself. Now that takes careful planning, timing, and experience. Older men as experienced travelers, know that.
6. Older Men Are Pretty Good in the Kitchen as Well
I love to cook and I am very good at it, but I am still always amazed at my partner because he can cook very well. I find it very sexy when a man knows how to cook and not just a simple dish like boiled potatoes and fried eggs. I mean some dishes like beef bourguignon, potato au gratin, Indian curry, lasagna, and stuff like that.
I really admire men who can cook and fend for themselves. It is quite seldom for younger guys these days to be self-sufficient, especially in my own country. They always rely on their mothers to cook for them and take care of all their needs, and that is not my cup of tea.
7. Older Men Generally Live a Healthy Lifestyle
They love to drink wine and beer and yes some of them smoke as well, but they know their limitations. The only time this is not the case is when they are having difficulty coping with their own problems which I believe is an exception because older men can generally handle their issues because they are mature enough to solve them.
Older men also tend to have at least one or two sports that they really enjoy doing. They maintain an active lifestyle apart from the office. They like spending their money on things like travel and spare parts for their car or bike and not on gadgets and game consoles which the younger men are more inclined to buy. My partner for example, recently bought a new GPS device from the Garmin brand and we used it when we went hiking in Greece. It was really worth it.
They also understand the need for relaxation time, and they do not feel the need to constantly push themselves into exhaustion like so many younger men. Instead, they take a more focused, laid-back approach.
8. Older Men Are Less Focused on Partying
I am not a party girl, and I never liked parties and big crowds in the first place. Even in my teenage years, I was like an old woman in a young woman’s body. Younger men tend to like parties, booze, and loud music and I just can’t bring myself to relate to them even if I force it. I just don’t like it.
I also don’t find myself enjoying the company of younger men and talking to them endlessly because their choice of topics does not jive with my interests. I find their topics a little bit shallow for my taste. Younger men usually talk about girls, cars, technology, and gadgets. Older men, on the other hand, can talk about politics, religion, sexuality, economics, relationships, food, and travel which are exactly my interests.
Older men also tend to realize that the kind of party-heavy lifestyle many young men focus on is unsustainable and not good for one's health. This goes hand-in-hand with their focus on living a healthy lifestyle. Instead, they tend to enjoy the company of their good friends, in social settings where everyone can be heard and interesting conversations can take place.
9. Psychological and Biological Reasons
There are a few psychological and biological reasons why women are attracted to older men, particularly women on the younger side who are still in their 20s or early 30s. From an evolutionary perspective, men can remain fertile longer, and thus an older man who has survived has accumulated more resources than a younger man.
The fact that the man has made it that far in life also is a clue that he has good genetics and robust health, making him a desirable mate. Remember, that in prehistoric times men would not live all that long, so the ones that did were more likely to pass on their genes.
Some of my friends do not understand why I like older men but they really don't care as long as I'm happy. People I don't know and who don't know me at all, on the other hand, are always the ones quick to jump and think I am a gold-digger. But no matter what people say, I just can't force myself to have a fulfilling and healthy relationship with a guy close to my age. Either they are too immature for me, too boring, or too serious for my liking.
I find older men to be perfect for me. My partner right now is 15 years older, and I am so happy. He is constantly supportive, and he encourages me to be the best version of myself. He teaches me how to handle my finances and how to see life in a different perspective. I too, sometimes put him in his place if he is about to go way over the top. It is a mutual respect, really.
Although it may be a bit difficult to keep up with his pace sometimes, I believe I am where I should be. I don't need to make people understand, but I want to make things clear: some women may just be too smart or too mature for younger men to handle.
Potential Issues Dating Older Men
While it is true that I am happily in a relationship with an older guy now, there are some potential downsides to be aware of. Older men can be insecure about their age, and so they try to date younger women to make themselves feel younger. This type of behavior is apparent right from the beginning so use some caution when you're first getting to know an older guy.
Make sure that you are able to maintain your independence and don't let him control you. This is another issue that older men may have: the need for control and power. Since they are used to doing things their way, they may struggle with having to give up some of their decision-making to you.
A healthy relationship requires mutual respect, and some older men may not be willing to give that to you. Instead, they just see you as a prize or an object. Make it clear from the beginning that you will not tolerate that type of treatment.
Another potential issue is the generation gap that exists between you and an older man. Having a large age gap of ten years or more could make it difficult to connect over shared cultural values, but don't let that discourage you! There are plenty of great older guys out there.
Questions & Answers
Question: I want to date a particular older man. I am 19 and he is 44 especially he's married. What should I do?
Answer: If he is married, leave him. Simple as that..
Question: Is it practical for a 60 year old to date a 32 year old?
Answer: By the age of 30 and above, people often have their own jobs and have been able to organize their lives somehow. They are usually self-reliant and independent, so dating a person older than 30 means that you are dating someone who has already figured out what he/she wants in his/her life. Dating someone who is self-sufficient and independent is way more practical than dating an 18-year-old who is still in school.
Question: Is it alright to like guys 3-10 years older than myself?
Answer: Yes, there is nothing wrong with liking someone 3-10 years older, in my opinion.
Question: I am in my early twenties and I am beginning to suspect that a much older co-worker (probably in his 60's) is trying to flirt with me. He appears in the break room pretty much every time I take a break and asked me to go out to the movies with him, and I turned him down. Is he just being friendly to give me more of a social life or is he really into me? I'm a bit weirded out by it and thinking I should reject him if he makes amorous intentions more clear.
Answer: I don't think a 60 year old guy would invite a 20 year old for movies if he is just being friendly. If it is together with others then it is a different story, but if it is just him and you, then he must be into you. You have the right to say no, and you can reject him if you don't feel the same way. That is the right thing to do, but of course, you need to do it in a clear but subtle manner.
Question: I am a sixteen-year-old girl, I got my period at ten and matured real quick. Is it normal that I haven't liked anybody under the age of thirty-five since I was about twelve? I have always imagined myself to live with someone much older; someone who can make me feel safe at night and happy in the morning. Both parents neglected me as a child when my sister was born; I have suspicions that it is just daddy issues.
Answer: Yes, it could be daddy issues indeed. It is normal for a girl to have a crush on boys that are a little bit older but older than thirty-five? No, that is not normal. I remember I had a crush on a boy two years older than myself when I was in Elementary. I had my period at 9, and I also matured real quick, but I still had a crush on boys that are close to my age. I only started liking older people like my professors when I was in college. But that was because I found most men my age to be boring and uninteresting.
Question: I am fifteen. Is it weird that I like men in their late twenties and early thirties?
Answer: We are from different cultures, and I don't think it is weird if you only like someone. But if you are dating, I think that is a different story. If it is just a crush, then it is totally okay, but older men aren't supposed to date girls younger than eighteen. So dating when you are only fifteen is really too young.
Question: Am i weird because I like older men?
Answer: No, but it still depends on how old the man is.
Question: Is it practical for a 60-year-old man to date an 18-year-old girl?
Answer: Although a 60-year-old guy dating an 18-year-old girl is not violating any laws, I don't believe it is practical, and most importantly, I don't think it is healthy. The guy should know that the girl is not mature enough to really think of the repercussions of being in a relationship with a man old enough to be her grandfather. There will be a lot of issues concerning the age difference, like mental capabilities and behavioral differences. This huge age gap in a relationship is really difficult to handle and does not work out very well most of the time. I don't think it is very healthy to invest in such a relationship.
Question: I am 20 and I think I'm falling for someone who is 27. Is this too much of an age gap?
Answer: I think it's fine.
Question: What role can I play in my partner's kids' lives if I am not [quite] old enough to be their parent and they are already surrounded by parental figures (him, their mom, their aunts etc.)?
Answer: Well, you can be their friend for starters. If they see you as a friend and not as an authority figure in their life, your partner's kids might open-up to you, and this will lead to a good relationship with all of them.
Question: I'm in my mid-20's, is it normal for me to like men in their mid to late 30's (as in 10 to 15-year difference)?
Answer: Yes, it is normal. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion. I was also attracted to men 10-15 years my senior.
Question: I am a 49 year old black woman and I have a crush for a sweet, kind and sexy high quality man who is 72 yrs old. I think he also has a crush on me because he says and does things that indicate he is interested. I have noticed all his body gestures. I think he is afraid to tell me that he likes me and I've been thinking if I should just tell that I like him. Honestly I think I am in love with him. What should I do?
Answer: There is nothing wrong if you are the first to say that you like the person. Tell him how you feel. He was probably scared to scare you away when he tells you that he likes you too. Sometimes, a woman has to do the first move!
Question: Do I like older men because I am searching for a father figure?
Answer: Yes and no. Some people who have father issues or didn't grow up with a paternal figure sometimes become attracted to older men because they miss and seek out paternal love. It does happen to some women. But, there are also those women who seem to be too mature for their age that they cannot seem to connect with men in their age bracket. These women get bored easily with their partner, or their partner gets bored with them because they are either too "motherly," too conventional, or too much of a "know-it-all," so to say...
Question: I am a 46 year old woman, who has run a business for 7 years and I am having a relationship with a man who is 64 who also runs a business. We both get on well and make each other laugh and enjoy having close times with plenty of cuddles. I'm not too bothered about what others think, and life is too short. I have positive communication with my mother and father, and they have supported me through my life. What do you think?
Answer: I think you are perfectly great and you are very much capable of managing your own life. As long as you are not stomping on other people's feet, then you have nothing to worry. People will always have something to say whatever you do, but it is merely a reflection of theirs and nothing to do with you. So just enjoy your life the way you are supposed to.
Question: I'm 16 and my male teacher is over 30 I'm not sure if I have a crush on him or not but I really have imaginations with him (not sexual) but I want to be closer with him. What should I do about my crush on my teacher? Is there any problem with my attraction to my teacher?
Answer: It is probably just a simple crush/admiration. I hope you wouldn't do anything about it for real because it is not right to get involved with a teacher. The teacher should also know that it is illegal and unethical to be involved with his students so for now, having a crush on your teacher is normal but your focus should be on your studies and friends and not him.
Question: Is It logical for a 34 year old woman date a 55 year old man that was her boss?
Answer: Age doesn't matter so a 34 year old woman can date whoever she wants. She is old enough to choose for herself, and no one has a say in that matter. But of course, in matters of work ethics, the boss sometimes is not allowed to date his employees as that will violate company policies and constitute a conflict of interest. But if it is in the past tense, as long as both parties are single there is nothing wrong with that.
© 2016 Jennifer Gonzales
Jennifer Gonzales (author) from The Hague, Netherlands on September 11, 2019:
Very well said...Confident and strong-willed women know what they want regardless of age...it doesn't matter what other people might think...if you are attracted to an older guy or younger guy or to anyone else, it is up to you...if you want to live alone, it is also your choice...
Badlandsbabe on September 01, 2019:
To each their own be it younger or older. The only people it should matter to are the couple in the relationship end of story. While I appreciate those who have chosen to share for this article... Speaking from personal experience, I wouldnt be so fast to believe the 10 reason's listed younger women should choose older men.
Nobody male or female needs the opposite sex to justify their existence.
I know what I bring to the table & I'm
not afraid to eat alone.
Sabarina1 on June 23, 2019:
I am like this older gentleman that I work with. There is a 25 year age gap but he is as healthy as a horse. I am 30 by the way. I seem to attract older men but this particular guy I am infatuated with. I think he feels the same way... he spends time to explain things to me and always wants to be around me and I him. We have not said anything yet, I think I will invite him out to dinner and see where it goes. My family and friends would definitely be against it, but I kinda feel drawn to him.
John Willard Florer on June 14, 2019:
I am truly blessed that a younger woman wants to be with me. I wanted to know why so I Googled it & here I am. My Lovely Nanuli is 42, speaks 4 different languages, model, nurse, chef, massage therapist & she is taking physical therapy classes. I am 59 but still going strong...thank you God...LOL I really enjoyed reading this article. I did asked her why me...LOL The thing that is missing from my life is wealth. I had to start building up again my finances due to personal reason. But my lovely Nanuli knows of my financial situation but she said she loves because of my honesty & loyalty. Like I said, I am truly blessed. Thank you Jennifer for such a great article.
Krystal Moore on March 25, 2019:
i met this older man about the age of 30 I'm planning on visiting him at his home in nc ill be 18 by then i graduate in 2021 however i have also been attracted to older men much much older I don't know if these feelings are wrong by the way he's not married he single and respectful towards me
Charming Sociopath on March 17, 2019:
I couldn't agree more. This article answers my whole question about myself.
I am a 19 years-old girl with a great crush on older men. I relized this recently, that I have crush on mature celebrity like Benedict Cumberbatch, Eddie Redmayne, Colin Morgan, Johnny Depp, and others.
I don't know whether it makes sense, but this article describes me a lot.
Eventually, I find older men, are more attractive than the youngs.
Slartybartfast on March 05, 2019:
Well maybe there is hope for me. I'm in my 40s and haven't dated in a few years ( ok more than a few) I still want a family and have some small hope of finding someone.
The few women I meet are ether single moms who have their own family, or had their children early.
Also very very few women my age seem to be physically active. Last year I rode over 1000 miles on my bicycle, It's not easy to find a 30 year old that can keep up with me much less a 40 year old.
Caz on November 17, 2018:
I am 65, male, love your article. You are spot on, spot on…
Really on November 14, 2018:
Samara on November 03, 2018:
I agree with most of what has been said in the article. I am 25 and in a relationship with a 37 year old man. I find him to be suitable for me because he is more serious and committed than most younger guys. He is so much more interesting than guys my age because I can talk to him about a variety of topics, not just sports, video games or technology. I think as long as both parties are satisfied, age should not matter.
Miranda on October 31, 2018:
Hi, I'm 46 and going out with a 64 year old, I don't think anything is wrong with that. Sarah, of 9 months ago seems to have a problem about older men. I am not sabotaging my life, I have had many relationships in the past and I have my own business as so does my older boyfriend. I think it is the choice of the couple and whether they are happy, thats important. Wishing everyone well.
Richard Molinar on September 14, 2018:
I lost my wife a few months ago and am just now trying to get back into life. I recently met a young woman that I find very attractive. I am 77 years old and interested in a 30 something woman. I am conflicted because of the great difference in our ages. I am still pretty fit and find her very interesting. We have danced together and she seems to have fun. I feel that I need to get to know her better before I ask her for a date but though I want to see her socially, part of me says that I shouldn't because I feel that she deserves a much younger man. I would appreciate comments to help me resolve my issue.
Glory nanyaro on September 08, 2018:
That so true
Poppy from Enoshima, Japan on July 03, 2018:
My fiancé is 21 years older than me and I love it. No silly jealousy or drama, he is calm and sensible and doesn’t go out clubbing. He also wants to have a family.
One thing that is difficult though is interacting with his friends, though they are very kind and respectful. Good article!
itrose4 on June 04, 2018:
' I mean some dishes like beef bourguignon and potato au gratin and stuff like that'...lol!
Jc on June 01, 2018:
I have been attracted to older men a few times over the years but I avoided it. I am in my 30s now and recently met someone. Single, older, handsome but still unusual features, different race, other side of the world. I don't know if anything will happen or if we will just be friends. I don't know what to tell my mother about him. I just know sometimes he is the only person I want to talk to or see. I worry about the age gap and what people will think. But I am also the kind of person to say "to hell with what people think". I agree with the author. I am not a party girl and I do find a lot of men in my age group immature. Also most older men are more romantic, attentive and encouraging.
Tony on May 08, 2018:
I can only speak about me. But I'm a 56 year old male and my fiancee turning 38 soon. I lost my 1st wife last year due to a terrible surgery with having A Fib and the anesthesia she was not able to recovery medical examiner has her case as pending almost a year. My fiancee went thru a horrible car accident spent 8 months in the hospital recovering while her ex spent all their life savings on gambling. Totally leaving her cleaned out over $50,000 in debt over $200,000 in medical bills. Durning this time. I met her. Strangest place we met was thru online she was an administrator for a group she created. Just a simple chat met for lunch quickly we feel in love. A year later we got engaged. Not plans getting married yet. But we love each other. I don't think age enters an equation. Because love conquers all. And while I head over heels about her. I think she is incredible, amazing not to mention very beautiful she loves how I'm very positive. We been thru alot. I totally understands. But I would do anything for her. Always want to take good care of her. And she knows it. Never thought be in a relationship like this. But it happened. My 1st wive was older than me by 4 years so it's not the age but it's how we feel about one another. This new relationship I'm very happy so is she. I love her very much. And I tell her everyday and every chance I have. But she is truly amazing. That's my story.
Response on May 06, 2018:
2 butterflies kisses:
I would advise to at least take your time. In general anyone over the age of thirty that rushes things gets the side eye. Besides - if it’s perfect love then what is time anyway?
But for real- do not get married until it’s been at least 3 years.
jj on April 24, 2018:
I am dating with a 32 year female, happy with her, but several of her females friends are asking questions if I wanted more children from them. However, my girl friend has not asked about the question. I do not rock the boat.
ButterflyKisses on April 15, 2018:
Im dating a man 25 years my senior at this point. i have never met a man who is more kind and loving than this man, we can laugh together and when life gets alot for me i can cry on his shoulder he wipes away my tears and tells me to relax itll all be okay baby. The most difficult thing we are dealing with is the opinions of my mother, she doesnt approve at all and judges because he was married twice. the first wife was a mutual agreement to divorce because they both agreed it wasnt working out, the second marriage she was cheating on him with more than one man, he tried to salvage the marriage but quite frankly i dont blame him for walking away.
we talk about our future together and he was the first one who told me he loved me, when he works night shifts he listens to the radio and sends me voice notes with love songs.
You never know how badly youve been treated until someone starts treating you right.
Love is not about Age or Distance, Its about a man giving his loyalty to his woman and his woman being loyal to her man
lol on April 03, 2018:
Most old men probably aren't that good looking and are probably creepy....
Jennifer Gonzales (author) from The Hague, Netherlands on April 02, 2018:
Thank you so much for your comment. I am glad that you liked the article. Cheers!
George on April 01, 2018:
Sarah, thanks for your opinion.. but it sounds as though you are still living in the past... I noticed a couple of personal comments that might have reflected your experience which is okay but it sounds like you're still holding a lot of anger and that anger is going to limit you in your decisions. I as a man apologize for whatever show called man has hurt you or changed your views... on to the article. I am 51 and my fiance is 31 we just read the article together and we totally agree. This isn't me influencing her this isn't me telling her what to do... We read this together we talked about each section and came to a unanimous decision that this article is true and correct. Well at least it applies to our life and our opinions in general. To the author of this article... Thank you we appreciated this article very much we thank you for your Insight in your experiences, this is something that we both enjoyed and it has opened our eyes in more ways... Good luck and thank you very much
Gina on February 01, 2018:
Erm to be honest older men are more reliable and less immature arseholes
Sarah on January 27, 2018:
This article is geared so men can exploit girls and the reasons are 75 percent not true about older men, as you cannot change a person character. You women are only going to find yourselves alone one day as you are going to get past thirty very soon! Then what are you going to do? Do you really fashion your ignorance on thinking because you are so much younger that he will stay with you and not leave you for someone younger too? Women need to turn the tables because if you do not you will pave the way for your female children, sisters, etc. Do not tell me that you are not attracted the individual who can just really love you. No it is because you want him to financially support you or want a father figure. Keep it up and you will sabotage your happiness. Women you will get old and it will happen fast, or he has already abused his wife and tells you it is all her fault, do not believe that. I am a very young beautiful 50 year old woman, and it is very sick of a man who is insecure and if it was his daughter he would get very angry. If you do not stand your ground now you will ruin all opportunities a woman deserves.
The Don on January 11, 2018:
As a guy, almost all of these are the reasons why I only date older women.
Nope on October 26, 2017:
Biologically most of these are wrong
Becky on September 12, 2017:
Great article. I am not in any serious relationship at the moment, but I do casually date. I see mostly older men, the oldest being 26years my senior. I have always found older men attractive. And now that I'm casually dating older men ive realised many things about myself and the misconceptions of sex that I was always given as a teen. My casual lover who is 53, is one of the most caring and gentle men I have ever met. He listens and he enjoys a good mature conversation. And he is also very sensual and playful too, his mannerisms and way of speaking very erotic and interesting. Physically fit and fairly classy, he is so good in the bedroom too, if not the best I've ever been with. It is a pleasure to send time with him eating good food and conversation, while mixing in some sensual banter and flirting. This is my experience, a I totally relate to this article.
Keri on September 11, 2017:
Helped with understanding why people make hurtful comments, age is no barrier as I see it, it just hard when you work in the same company and people watching all the time and dealing with his previous baggage can be difficult at times and the feeling that you are being used for his own gain
Finn99 on August 18, 2017:
Older man 40 years older than myself love conquers all .
Aaron on August 07, 2017:
Great article. I agree 100%
Jennifer Gonzales (author) from The Hague, Netherlands on July 10, 2017:
Hmmmmm even before the age of technology, men are already seen as providers for the family. Most of successful societies today at some point had a patriarchal system and even now a lot of societies are still using this system. You cannot blame a woman who wants to ensure a good future for her children by choosing a man who is very much capable of providing for the family. For me, men who treat women as sex objects and nothing more is worse than a woman who treat men as "vehicles for procreation and financial resources".
Trawler on July 09, 2017:
So to speak Zaratustra was right: women treat men as vehicle to give them kids and financial resources.
Juanita Fuentes on June 30, 2017:
I agree it is why I married a 55 year old I am 34 and very happy I made this choice.
Mr jeff on June 28, 2017:
Hello .I am one of your mature Welsh British. GENTLEMAN .
WHO has matured like good wine and fine Brandy . I dress immaculately
And have a passion for good quality cars and live by the sea.
Yes I have had the wife the kids and
Now on my own .
I also cook exstreamly well and have good taste in things in general and yes
I am solvent .I am well traveled And yes I am and have always been Romantic young at heart but nobody s
I know women realy well!
And yes I prefer younger women
5 to 30 years younger than my self .
But someone who not stupid and
behaves like a silly child .!
But who is intelligent and fantastic company mature and wise with a good true heart and would not play about with other men .
Hard to find in this day and age as alot of them are gold diggers !
A Genuin person all through is like gold dust .
But I agree with your comments in your video Clair .
The prince of the Oceon.
. "Taxi!Taxi!" Mr Jeff.
Suzie from Carson City on February 20, 2017:
Jennifer, This is a wonderful and well-written hub. I agree with the reasons you have stated why young women prefer older men. In my youth, I was very much attracted to older men, mainly because I felt men closer to my age bracket were quite immature.
However, now at my age??? I'm afraid any men much older than I.....are dead!! How sad is that? I'm now zeroing in on the cuties younger than myself! LOL Why not? Peace, Paula