8 Reasons Why Women Date Older Men


I started dating after college and that is because my guardians wanted me to focus on my studies first. I wasn’t a late-bloomer or anything. I was just happy with all my academic achievements and so dating was never my priority. However, it doesn’t mean that I never got a crush on somebody. I did have a lot of crushes and I did flirt quite a bit during my school days.

Now, I have to spill a secret. I’ve always liked older men. I've always had a crush on my professors back in my college days. And, when I say ‘older’ I meant guys who are 10-15 years older than I am and not the ‘’old’’ type who are literally old and saggy. I am now in my late 20’s, thus, I am referring to men who are in their 40’s. I am always drawn to them; Maybe it is their maturity, or the way they express their opinions on difficult topics or it is the way they carry themselves or maybe it is because they are already self-sufficient.

Some people tell me that I may be just looking for a father-figure but I am not. There are a lot of good reasons why some women like me prefer older men and I am going to enumerate some of them here.

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1. Experience Has Made Them Better and Smarter

Men are like wine. They get better with age. Their experiences in life, at work and in previous relationships have taught them a lot of life lessons to make their situation better than before. They are more mature now to understand that things don’t always happen the way they want them to and so they are more understanding and patient with their partners. They know what they want and they go for it. They are very confident and so they carry themselves very well especially in public. They are generally well-mannered. They have been to several places in the past and so they know a lot of things about other cultures. Older men are also better when it comes to handling their finances. They have lived long enough to be self-sufficient and to know how to handle their money very well. So if you are dating an older guy, do not be wasteful of money. He earned every penny through hard work and he wouldn’t like it if you spend it carelessly on things that don’t really matter.

Older men are more responsible when it comes to handling their finances...
Older men are more responsible when it comes to handling their finances... | Source

2. Women date older men for practical reasons

Now this is the financial aspect which, by the way, is an important aspect of every relationship. Let’s face it, women look for men who have the capacity to support financially. It is not about being a gold-digger or a social climber. It is all about practicality. When you start a family for example, it is important that the man is able to provide security. A self-sufficient woman will not easily settle for anything less than what she earns. Except of course when she is truly madly deeply in love with a guy who earns less than her but that is not what this article is about. Now, in logical perspective, a typical guy of late 20’s will have less savings or less wealth and assets accumulated compared to what he’s become 20 years later. That is considering that he continued to work and save as he gets older. In this regard, an older man has enough assets and money in the bank to support a family. This is why women go for financially-stable men instead of those who are still generally starting with their career. Money is not everything in a relationship but without money the relationship is bound to fail at some point especially when there are kids involved in the relationship already. I am not saying that women should depend on their partner financially but some societies consider it ideal for women to stay at home and take care of the kids and the husband will work for the family. And women date in order to find a man whom she can live her life and start a family with. Women don't date just for the sake of dating. They are also thinking of the future...


3. Older Men May Be Better in Terms of Pleasing and Handling Women

I am pretty sure this statement will get a lot of comments and disagreements because women generally have different sexual preferences and I respect that of course. In my opinion though, older men have had their fair share of both short-lived and more stable relationships and this gives them a bit of an advantage when it comes to handling relationships. Their previous experiences have helped them learn what women generally want and what makes women happy. They are able to control their sexual urges more responsibly and they know which body part is sensitive to touch etc. Not only do they know more in bed but they also understand women a little bit better. They are more sensitive to their partner's needs. They are generous in bed and they are passionate lovers. Older men tend to be more romantic as well. They have good sense of humor that does not involve shaming their friends or whatever. Lastly, they are less aggressive than younger men.

4. Older Men Generally Look for a Serious Relationship

Men mature much later than women and normally middle age in men is the age of maturity. This is where they seek for a more stable and healthy relationship. Playtime is over and it is time for them to be serious with their life. This is the age where they usually have pieced their life altogether and they are now ready for a more serious and deeper commitment. Women who are tired of short-lived and immature relationships can find a more satisfying and more stable relationship with an older guy than a guy in his late 20’s for example. Younger men are still in their vigorous stage where they are easily tempted. They are still at an age where they love to explore and try different things before settling on something more serious. So if a girl feels that she is ready to tie the knot, or when she is ready for a serious commitment and start a family, a younger man is just not the right person for her.


5. Older Men Have More Sophisticated Taste

When it comes to the finer things in life like wine, food, beer, traveling and clothes, older men tend to choose the more sophisticated ones. First, they can afford it and second they just know that it is better quality. They also know however, that when it comes to food and drinks quality does not always come with a price. You don’t need to eat at a 5-star restaurant to be able to enjoy your food. You can find an affordable place that serves a 5-star quality food and drinks with much better service as well. When travelling, older men avoid touristy places because they know that they won’t get authentic products for the right price and they won’t be able to enjoy the scenery with the entire crowd roaming around. They understand "value for money". They are happy to sit in one corner where you have all the view to yourself …now that takes careful planning, timing and experience...and older men as experienced travelers, know that.

6. Older Men are Pretty Good in the Kitchen as Well

I love to cook and I am very good at it. But I am still always amazed at my partner because he can cook very well. I find it very sexy when a man knows how to cook and not just a simple dish like boiled potatoes and fried eggs. I mean some dishes like beef bourguignon and potato au gratin and stuff like that. I really admire men who can cook and tend for themselves. It is quite seldom for younger guys these days to be self-sufficient especially in my own country. They always rely on their mothers to cook for them and take care of all their needs. And that is not my cup of tea.

7. Older Men Generally Live a Healthy Lifestyle

They love to drink wine and beer and yes some of them smoke as well but they know their limitations unless of course when they have difficulty coping with their own problems which I believe is an exception because older men can generally handle their problems because they are mature enough to solve them. Older men have at least one or two sports that they really enjoy doing. They maintain an active lifestyle apart from the office. They like spending their money on things like travel and spare parts for their car or bike and not on gadgets and game consoles which the younger men are more inclined to buy.

What do you think is the greatest challenge when dating an older person?

  • keeping up with his standards
  • Interacting with his/her circle of friends
  • Dealing and/or ignoring people's judgments
  • Being an instant parent to his/her kid/s
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8. Older Men are Not Fond of Parties Anymore

I am not a party-girl and I never liked parties and big crowds in the first place. Even in my teenage years, I was like an old woman in a young woman’s body. Younger men like parties and booze and loud music and I just can’t bring myself to relate to them even if I force it. I just don’t like it. I also don’t find myself enjoying the company of younger men and talking to them endlessly because their choice of topics does not jive with my interests. I find their topics a little bit shallow for my taste. Younger men usually talk about girls, cars, technology and gadgets. Older men on the other hand can talk about politics, religion, sexuality, economy, relationships, food and travels which are exactly my interests.

In my experience, once you start dating an older man the guys within your age bracket becomes either immature or too dumb for you.

Some of my friends do not understand why I liked older men. Some people think i am a gold-digger. But no matter what people say i just can't force myself to have a fulfilling and healthy relationship with a guy close to my age. Either they are too immature for me or too smart and serious for my liking. I find older men to be perfect for me. My partner right now is 15 years older than me and i am so happy. He is constantly supportive and he encourages me to be the best version of me. He compliments on the aspects that i am lacking. Although it may be a bit difficult to keep up with his pace sometimes i believe i am where i should be. I don't need to make people understand but i want to make things clear...some women are just too smart and mature for younger men to handle.

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