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What Places Should I Avoid on a First Date?

I'm an eclectic gal with many diverse interests. They include relationships, film, trivia, and an assortment of other things.

Some places are just not ideal for beginning a relationship.

Some places are just not ideal for beginning a relationship.

Dating Locations Create the Mood

If you want to kill romance, then take your date to the wrong kind of place on a first date. Knowing where to go—and where not to go—on a date will dramatically increase your potential for success. And knowing what are good and bad first date locations could be the difference between long-term romance and a brief, uncomfortable dating experience.

First dates should be relaxing and inspiring. They should also be short in length—about an hour and no more than two. You want to be in a place where you can talk, laugh, and get to know each other. Also, you want to be in a place where it's easy to end the date if things go wrong. You want your first date location to give the impression that you are thoughtful. It's vital to convey good intent and confidence. The results will speak for themselves with more and better dates.

Here are a few places you should avoid on a first date.


Where Not to Go on a First Date

Some of these are common locations for first dates. But think twice before you actually plan to take a first date to one of these locations.

1. Movie Theater

Want to appear old-fashioned and lazy? Then make your first date a movie and dinner. It shows no creativity. Plus, you combine two bad first date places on a single date. I'll explain why you should not go to restaurant on a first date in point #2. A movie is worse. And if you just suggest a movie for your date, you're kind of dumb. If you're going to a movie on a date, you're not going for the date, you're going for the movie. That's the whole point of a movie. The point of a date is to get to know somebody, to talk, to make a connection. Can you talk while watching a movie? Of course not. That is, unless you want to be rude to your date and everyone around you.

2. A Restaurant

As a woman, I can tell you that some of my worst dating experiences have been in restaurants. It's not because I don't like to eat. It's because my potential suitors don't seem to know when to shut up. They don't know when to stop. In other words, most men seemingly do not have any idea about the appropriate length of a date. And restaurants are places where a man's inability to control himself gets the best of him. Having a man trap you on a date for hours is a woman's worst nightmare. No man should think that he's interesting enough to keep a woman seated at a table for hours. Trust me when I tell you, avoid a restaurant as a first date location at all costs. Besides, it's cheaper that way.

Sure, everyone does it, but a restaurant is still a bad place for a first date. (CC-BY 2.0)

Sure, everyone does it, but a restaurant is still a bad place for a first date. (CC-BY 2.0)

3. A Bar

You don't take a woman to a bar on a first date. Meeting a woman at a bar is fine. However, an actual date at a bar is wrong, unless you're an alcoholic. Look, it's fine to stop for a drink before some other event. Unfortunately, bars are loud and annoying and they don't encourage talking. They encourage drinking. Taking a woman to a bar will make her think you're trying to get her drunk. It makes a bad impression.

4. The Mall

What am I, 12? Unless it's a really interesting mall, that's not a date, that's a shopping trip. Malls are so 1988 too. You're demonstrating all the creativity of a farm animal. It might be okay if the mall is abandoned. That's actually a thing.

5. A Car

Trapping a woman in a restaurant is almost as bad as trapping her in your car. It also signals that you are quite likely really cheap. "Hey, babe, why don't we drive around in my car for a few hours and get to know each other". That's just not an impressive thing to say.

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6. Your House

A man should never trap a woman inside his car or inside his house on a first date. Never. By inviting a woman over to your house on a first date you are sending negative messages. The first is that you are possibly a serial killer. That's because no man in his right mind invites a woman he has never met over to his house. Are you going to show me your basement? Suddenly, the date starts to resemble a horror movie. Horror movies don't make for good romance. Secondly, a date at your house lacks imagination. However, mostly it's just creepy. Don't be creepy.

7. Your Pants

I hear this in bars all the time. "Hey, babe! There's a party in my pants. Want to come?" Actually, I hear that at work sometimes too. I just want to emphasize what a terrible pick-up line this is. It's also a given that your pants are a poor choice of location for a date. First of all, can both of us actually fit in your pants? And what are we going to do there once we do fit in? You're suggesting that maybe we could have sex on our first date. You're jumping ahead in the relationship game way too fast. Dial it back, jack.

8. Your Mom's House

I know you love your momma. But that's no reason to take a date to her house. And particularly not a first date. Your inclination on a first date should never be a parental introduction. Of any kind.

Now, if you're twelve-years-old, you may have no other choice. If you live with your mother and you're twelve, I understand. I would suggest hanging out in a room she's not in though.

If you're thirty-five and you live with your mother, you have bigger problems.

9. Sewage Treatment Plant

I would highly recommend tours for good first dates. There are all sorts of cool places you can go. However, a sewage treatment plant isn't one of them. That's like taking a first date on a tour of your dirty bathroom. I mean, the smell. Right?

Certainly, I'm sure there are very interesting things about sewage treatment plants. However, unless you want to permanently scar your date for life, don't do it. She'll have that smell in her nose for weeks.

10. Chicken Processing Plant

Hey, I know, let's go watch chicken slaughter on a first date!

This is just not a good idea. A meat processing plant would be a bad idea as well. Basically, any place where you might see people killing animals is a bad place to go on a first date.

11. Political Function

Frankly, I think any political rally is a bad idea for a first date.

Are you sure about your date's political affiliation? If so, perhaps it's worth a try. However, politics is a bad topic for polite conversation as well as first dates.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2012 Sychophantastic

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