What it Feels Like to Meet Your Soulmate

In our culture and society it is common to hear the word soulmate. Almost every woman who has ever fallen in love has called the object of her affection her soulmate. But is it really that simple? Is everyone we fall in love with a soulmate connection? What is the difference between "the one" and your soulmate? Is it the same thing or is there a significant difference? Let's find out.

I believe finding your soulmate is a once in a lifetime experience. You only get one soulmate. They are literally the other half of you. You only get one other half, you don't get five halves. Sometimes they can be your better half, but either way, together you are whole because both halves have been joined. When you find your soulmate you are literally fitting two halves together to make one whole. You feel a sense of finally being complete and finding your missing piece. Finding your soulmate can be both a blessing and a curse. It's a blessing if you meet and stay together, but a curse if you meet but the timing is wrong or other obstacles get in your way and you are forced to be apart. Once you feel that soulmate connection you are never the same again. It is a powerful invisible force that only you and your other half can feel. I feel it is almost better to never meet your soulmate at all then to have to meet them and then be forced to part because that can prove to be almost unbearable.

So how do you know if you've met your true soulmate? If you have to talk yourself into it or even have to think about it then you know they're not your soulmate. When you feel a soulmate connection it's instant and you couldn't be more sure about it in your mind. It's like you just know deep inside that this particular person was meant for you and no one else in the world. There's no doubt or fear in your mind, in fact you have never been more sure of anything in your life like this. When you meet your soulmate for the first time, it won't feel like you're just meeting, you'll feel like you've known them forever but just haven't seen each other for awhile. Your soulmate will feel really familiar to you even though you've just met. If you had no prior knowledge of soulmates, this might be an almost awkward feeling because you're thinking to yourself "why does this person feel so familiar if we've only just met?" How can this possibly be happening because this is real life and not a fairy tale. The thing is you just know. Something inside of you recognizes them way before your mind can fully comprehend it. Your rational mind wants to find an explanation for it, but your soul already knows what it feels because its other half is found.

After you meet your soulmate and feel all these feelings toward them your mind starts to catch up with your heart and soul. Suddenly, you feel like you can take on the world as long as you have this person by your side. You can do anything and go anywhere as long as they are there with you. You suddenly see your whole life ahead of you. If you've never wanted to have a family and children before suddenly you can't wait to get started with your soulmate. You start to see the world in a different and better way. If you were a pessimist before, suddenly you see life as the glass half full instead of half empty. You feel this sort of magnetic connection to them that you have never felt in your life before. You're no longer thinking of your ex-boyfriend or that guy who got away because they no longer exist to you. Your true soulmate connection makes you forget every other relationship you ever had because they no longer matter to you. It's like your heart and soul has been asleep all this time and they're finally waking up. This is what love really feels like and it is truly the best drug around because it's the human soul on fire.

The connection between you and your soulmate is unlike anything else you have ever experienced. Sometimes you don't even need words to convey your feelings. When words are used, you finish each others' sentences. You seem to know what the other is thinking even before you say it. You have many things in common of course. The different talents you each have come together and fulfill one another. The things you lack in are the things he excels in so you can learn from him and the things you are good in he may not know much about which means he can learn from you. Between the two of you, together, you have everything you need to be truly happy. Everything suddenly makes more sense about the world and it truly feels like its meant to be. This is the way love is supposed to feel like and everything else is just fiction.

Your soulmate is your best friend and your biggest fan. They love you with their whole heart and soul and would gladly give up their life for yours. It is an unconditional sort of love. The kind where you know you can make mistakes and mess up but they will still be there for you always. Your soulmate doesn't play games or make you chase him. There is no room for such foolish things when it comes to a connection this strong and real. You never have to wonder your soulmate's feelings for you because they will let you know everyday and in every way possible. There is no lack of trust or communication in a soulmate connection. Your soulmate cheers you on through life and is your biggest supporter. They help you become the best possible version of yourself and if you happen to fall they will pick you up and carry you. They will fight your battles for you and defend you to the moon and back. Your soulmate is the definition of the best partner a person can have.

So what's the difference between a soulmate and "the one"? Well, I believe there's only one person that is truly meant for everyone and that is their soulmate. This is the only person who you will be the happiest with out of all of the other people on the planet. It doesn't mean that just because you don't find your soulmate that you can't be happy. I believe you can be happy with a lot of people. You could fall in love with someone and be truly content and happy with that person even if they're not your soulmate. Sure, your connection may not be quite as strong as with a soulmate, but nonetheless you could still be in love. You would call this love "the one" because out of all your other relationships you chose this particular person to marry and have a family with. For you, this is your happily ever after and you stop searching for anyone else.

The truth is, you can't really know what a soulmate connection is unless you've felt it. It's not something that is easy to describe. But once you feel it you will know what I mean. It's a feeling that is unlike any other. That's why I said before that sometimes it's better not to meet your soulmate if you can't be together because it is way too hard to move on from that, impossible in fact. If you do meet your soulmate, it's best to do whatever possible to end up together for good. This type of connection only happens once in a lifetime and you simply can't let it slip away because it will definitely not happen again. I think you can even know if you've met your soulmate from a photo you see of someone who seems extremely familiar to you. If you see a person's photo and you just can't get them out of your mind because it's like you know them or recognize them and feel an undeniable connection, then it might be worth it to check it out and see if you can meet them in person because this could be the soulmate you've been waiting your whole life for. In this modern world of technology we live in, our soulmate could be just a click away! I think when it's time for soulmates to meet and they are meant to be together nothing can truly stand in their way. Distance is never an obstacle. Circumstances could never interfere. Other romantic interests could never stand a chance against a soulmate connection. It's like it was written in the stars. An example of a soulmate connection that I can think of is the movie The Notebook. I think this is about as close to a soulmate connection as you can see in the movies these days.

So why does a soulmate connection feel so familiar to you even if you've just met this person? I think it's because souls can recognize each other from other past lifetimes. Your mind may not remember it, but your soul does. When you meet your soulmate, you're feeling like you're finally coming home. It's like you've been away for awhile, but you're home now. Soulmates usually know each other in other lifetimes and have probably planned to meet in every lifetime, possibly even this one. Your true soulmate is the same age as you within a year. If you're female, and they're male they need to be older, even if it's just within a few days, but it's still within a year. So if my birthday is October 1, 1990, my soulmate's birthday would be within one year of that so anywhere from October 1, 1989 to September 30, 1990 works. The male needs to be older because it has to do with how God created Adam before Eve and so the woman is created from the rib of a man which means the man needs to be created first.

So what happens if you meet your soulmate and it's just not meant to be and you don't end up together in this life? Well, that's a tough one. Like I said, it's better not to have met them than to have met them and had to part. You can't miss what you don't know but if you already know what a soulmate connection feels like then it's impossible to forget. I don't think anyone really moves on from a soulmate connection. Sure, they can get married to someone else and seem to have their life in order but they will always remember what true love felt like with their soulmate. Losing your soulmate is like the one who got away times 100. You will always compare every guy or girl you meet to your soulmate. You'll look for qualities in that person that you had in your soulmate. Sometimes, it even goes so far as looking for people who physically look like your soulmate that seem attractive to you simply because it's like a piece of your soulmate is in them. That's why it is much better to stay with your soulmate if you meet them or not meet at all, because the other option is simply too much to handle.

If you've met your true soulmate, life is pretty amazing for you. You have your best friend and your true love all in one package. Being in love is good for your health, but being in love with your soulmate is amazing for your health. What can you look forward to in the coming years with your soulmate? Great health, many long years together, and fulfillment in every aspect of your life. Are you a creative type that needs inspiration for your work? Well your soulmate provides that and much more. You will never be uninspired or lack motivation again. Writer's block? No such thing with your soulmate around. Everyday you will wake up and be excited to live life. It won't really matter where you live because as long as you have each other that's all you really need. Nothing seems impossible or out of reach. If you have met your soulmate and you end up together in this life, you can consider yourself one of the luckiest human beings alive. This is a blessing that very few know about and even less actually get to experience it. It's truly a once in a lifetime type of thing. And really, if you're going to fall in love, who better to fall in love with than the only person who was truly meant for you?

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CelticBlood 5 weeks ago

I agree with everything you wrote with the exception of the age thing.... I have been in love. Happy and content and married with children. We never argued. But in March we did, and he asked me to leave. So I did. And in May I had a sudden compulsion to seek out someone online. My parents are cops, I'm not stupid and normally wouldn't ever consider that an option. I was separated and miserable. But when I chose 3 ads and received 2 responses with photos. I swear to the gods that I felt like I knew that guy. We couldn't figure out why the hell we looked so familiar to one another?! We met in person 3 days later and idk how else to describe it but as soon as we laid eyes on eachother there was a distinct 'click' like I knew I knew him from somewhere! The last 4 months have been absolutely insane. I'm a very emotional person and my moods jump drastically sometimes. But he just levels it out. That probably doesn't make sense but it's hard to explain lol u are right about that. He's literally always in the back of my mind. And I'm constantly there in his. He is 9 yrs older than me. That's why I disagreed with ur age statement. He knows how I'm feeling before I do, and I can feel how he feels for me. It's freakin scary and thrilling and amazing. But I do have one question for you. He and I both have acknowledged we feel a sort of "emptiness" I guess, when we are apart. Sounds retarded but is it like the connection knows it's other isn't in proximity? But the instant we are near again the bond is back. And every single time it feels like this sudden 'rightness' in life. A happy sensation overcomes ur whole body and ur just in a state of Euphoria and bliss. Thoughts?

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GreenEyes1607 5 weeks ago from Illinois Author

CelticBlood- Thanks for sharing your story with me. That sounds like you two have a very strong connection even with the age difference. I would say you two knew each other in a past life, that is why he seemed so familiar to you and you to him. So it felt more like you already knew him but just haven't seen him in awhile type thing. Kind of like coming home after a long absence. And the fact that you feel an emptiness when he isn't around and vice versa definitely makes sense. I would say hold on to that relationship and see where it goes. It sounds like you have found a keeper!

Maria Kaye 3 weeks ago

Me and my soulmate are dealing with being apart from each other right now. He got forced to go to treatment... We both know were soulmate because we dreamed of each other.. It's hard to explain that. Hes 8 years older then me. Our sex life is completely amazing.its one of the things I love about us. I can honestly say I never thought I could miss someone So much, as much as I miss him. When we share stories of ourselves, our stories are almost a like. It amazes me at time. We plan on getting married when he gets out. Just to share, soulmates exist!

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ldsmith1986 2 weeks ago

I have been blessed and cursed with my soulmate connection--in fact, it's been a huge burden as things didn't play out due to free will. Not mine, but his. Four summers ago, I met him while I was at work. It was the first time our paths crossed, and I felt like I had been electrocuted the moment I took his order. Oddly enough, it was something I would've ordered myself, but it was more than just that--it was the first and only time I ever told myself this was a guy I wanted to see again (I'm not a lesbian, but I've never been really attracted to guys unlike most of my peers, so dating was never my thing--in fact, I never felt entirely comfortable with the dating scene). I cleverly managed to snag his name, and like most lovesick girls would do, I did some online investigation to see if he was fair game. Thankfully, he was, but he didn't come back. On top of that, he struck me of a well-to-do guy (he was driving a Porsche!), and I felt that I was completely out of his league, especially when I found out that he ran his own business. Yeah, I had fallen for a upper class guy, and I was almost as poor as Cinderella in rags. There was no way he would be interested in me, so I dismissed him. I eventually moved onto my third, yet short-lived, relationship, but his name would keep coming to the front of my mind from time to time.

Flash forward to 2014--one month after I had gone out of state for vacation to visit my friends and look into moving into the same state, he returned, this time with his parents. And that instant magnetic pull returned with a vengeance. It didn't help that we were also the same age (him being a few months older) and had similar living conditions, in this case we both live with our parents, though for different reasons. My coworkers took notice of how out-of-character I was around this family (typically, I'm not shy around my customers, but I was/am with them), and after they found out that I had looked him up on Facebook a time or two, they encouraged me to friend him. I did, and he accepted the request. But getting him to talk was a challenge; two acquaintances of ours forewarned me that even though he was sweet and funny, he was also weirdly shy, hardly ever left the house unless it was for business. As a confidant once put it so nicely, "eccentric, eclectic, and quirky." The sad part of it all was that we had so much in common, enough for us to have interesting conversations over dinner.

But we talked a few times in person the following year, and looking back at those encounters, whether it was by fate or design, he was nervous around me, which, in turn, made me nervous. He even dropped a rather subtle hint about late dinner on a Sunday evening. But it didn't come to pass because of his shyness; the connection was just too much for him to bear.

Then something happened this past February--while I was working one afternoon, he went on a friendlist cleaning spree, deleted most of his friends in our community and blocked me, although he hadn't banned me from his business page. The move shocked me as soon as I found out. He was running away, just as I had feared. I wanted to say "Screw you" and forget him altogether, but my heart wouldn't let me. I still support his business from a distance, and every time he uploads pictures from his gigs and I see him, I feel that electrifying feeling run through me. But the wall he built between us keeps holding me back from reaching out to him in person again. It's even worse when I see his parents in my restaurant--I still get tongue-tied in their presence, and I am visibly shaking.

Do I get what he's going through? Absolutely, because I feel it, too. And while some might think I'm just wasting my time on someone who's pretty much decided from the get-go what he wants in life and who he wants in his little circle, my heart and mind are telling me differently. I should move on, and I tried, but it doesn't feel right. My last ex-boyfriend tried to rekindle our relationship, but I broke down and broke his heart when I kept bringing up this guy's name. I couldn't do it because he wasn't *him*, you know? It was like all of a sudden I didn't want any other guy like that in my life unless it was him because of that connection. I didn't want to lie to myself anymore. I didn't want to settle for less anymore. I wanted to move forward and grow for once. This guy was *the* guy, and he slipped away before we could begin.

The sad part of my story is that we never moved past from "Hello". We never got a chance to hang out (he said he had no problem with that, but that clearly wasn't the case). In my heart, I know he's my eternal best friend. I've imagined all the fun, clean trouble we could get into as adults, all the places we could go to, and the project I'm currently working on because it mirrors his career. We could do that and so much more together and not care what anybody says or thinks, not even our parents. But right now... until he truly wakes up from his slumber, I'm just a weird nobody to him.

So, what you wrote about not being able to move on if you've met a soulmate that isn't meant to be totally rings true to me. It's painful. Devastating. Tonight, I had a coworker mentioned to me that she saw his company van at one of the liquor stores the other day, and my heart leaped with joy. I was purely on an adrenaline rush for an hour... then I was cursing her for even bringing him to my attention! I couldn't get him off my mind, and knowing that I can't be with him at this very moment kills me. It makes me feel like my soul is being drained dry because of the reality I live in. We live exactly three and a half miles away from each other, and he's holding out a stiff arm on me just to protect himself. Love should never be this way. Soulmates should never be this way. But for me, love has never been easy. If anything, it's been my downfall, and I've fallen hard with this one.

David 2 days ago

I did meet my soulmate back in college but we never married mostly because we live in different countries. Nevertheless even though we married other people, we've written and emailed each other for the past 40-years and have traveled to visit each other a couple of times. We talk from time to time as well. When we agreed to stop dating neither of us could bare to say goodbye and we've remained friends all this time. We like each other's spouses and have plans to meet in the near future. All things considered, I am happy the way things turned out and I am hopeful things will turn out equally as well in our next lives together.

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