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What it Feels Like to Meet Your Soulmate

Updated on June 22, 2016
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Sabrina loves to write about love, life, and everything in between in a candid yet humorous approach.

In our culture and society it is common to hear the word soulmate. Almost every woman who has ever fallen in love has called the object of her affection her soulmate. But is it really that simple? Is everyone we fall in love with a soulmate connection? What is the difference between "the one" and your soulmate? Is it the same thing or is there a significant difference? Let's find out.


I believe finding your soulmate is a once in a lifetime experience. You only get one soulmate. They are literally the other half of you. You only get one other half, you don't get five halves. Sometimes they can be your better half, but either way, together you are whole because both halves have been joined. When you find your soulmate you are literally fitting two halves together to make one whole. You feel a sense of finally being complete and finding your missing piece. Finding your soulmate can be both a blessing and a curse. It's a blessing if you meet and stay together, but a curse if you meet but the timing is wrong or other obstacles get in your way and you are forced to be apart. Once you feel that soulmate connection you are never the same again. It is a powerful invisible force that only you and your other half can feel. I feel it is almost better to never meet your soulmate at all then to have to meet them and then be forced to part because that can prove to be almost unbearable.


So how do you know if you've met your true soulmate? If you have to talk yourself into it or even have to think about it then you know they're not your soulmate. When you feel a soulmate connection it's instant and you couldn't be more sure about it in your mind. It's like you just know deep inside that this particular person was meant for you and no one else in the world. There's no doubt or fear in your mind, in fact you have never been more sure of anything in your life like this. When you meet your soulmate for the first time, it won't feel like you're just meeting, you'll feel like you've known them forever but just haven't seen each other for awhile. Your soulmate will feel really familiar to you even though you've just met. If you had no prior knowledge of soulmates, this might be an almost awkward feeling because you're thinking to yourself "why does this person feel so familiar if we've only just met?" How can this possibly be happening because this is real life and not a fairy tale. The thing is you just know. Something inside of you recognizes them way before your mind can fully comprehend it. Your rational mind wants to find an explanation for it, but your soul already knows what it feels because its other half is found.

After you meet your soulmate and feel all these feelings toward them your mind starts to catch up with your heart and soul. Suddenly, you feel like you can take on the world as long as you have this person by your side. You can do anything and go anywhere as long as they are there with you. You suddenly see your whole life ahead of you. If you've never wanted to have a family and children before suddenly you can't wait to get started with your soulmate. You start to see the world in a different and better way. If you were a pessimist before, suddenly you see life as the glass half full instead of half empty. You feel this sort of magnetic connection to them that you have never felt in your life before. You're no longer thinking of your ex-boyfriend or that guy who got away because they no longer exist to you. Your true soulmate connection makes you forget every other relationship you ever had because they no longer matter to you. It's like your heart and soul has been asleep all this time and they're finally waking up. This is what love really feels like and it is truly the best drug around because it's the human soul on fire.

The connection between you and your soulmate is unlike anything else you have ever experienced. Sometimes you don't even need words to convey your feelings. When words are used, you finish each others' sentences. You seem to know what the other is thinking even before you say it. You have many things in common of course. The different talents you each have come together and fulfill one another. The things you lack in are the things he excels in so you can learn from him and the things you are good in he may not know much about which means he can learn from you. Between the two of you, together, you have everything you need to be truly happy. Everything suddenly makes more sense about the world and it truly feels like its meant to be. This is the way love is supposed to feel like and everything else is just fiction.

Your soulmate is your best friend and your biggest fan. They love you with their whole heart and soul and would gladly give up their life for yours. It is an unconditional sort of love. The kind where you know you can make mistakes and mess up but they will still be there for you always. Your soulmate doesn't play games or make you chase him. There is no room for such foolish things when it comes to a connection this strong and real. You never have to wonder your soulmate's feelings for you because they will let you know everyday and in every way possible. There is no lack of trust or communication in a soulmate connection. Your soulmate cheers you on through life and is your biggest supporter. They help you become the best possible version of yourself and if you happen to fall they will pick you up and carry you. They will fight your battles for you and defend you to the moon and back. Your soulmate is the definition of the best partner a person can have.

So what's the difference between a soulmate and "the one"? Well, I believe there's only one person that is truly meant for everyone and that is their soulmate. This is the only person who you will be the happiest with out of all of the other people on the planet. It doesn't mean that just because you don't find your soulmate that you can't be happy. I believe you can be happy with a lot of people. You could fall in love with someone and be truly content and happy with that person even if they're not your soulmate. Sure, your connection may not be quite as strong as with a soulmate, but nonetheless you could still be in love. You would call this love "the one" because out of all your other relationships you chose this particular person to marry and have a family with. For you, this is your happily ever after and you stop searching for anyone else.

The truth is, you can't really know what a soulmate connection is unless you've felt it. It's not something that is easy to describe. But once you feel it you will know what I mean. It's a feeling that is unlike any other. That's why I said before that sometimes it's better not to meet your soulmate if you can't be together because it is way too hard to move on from that, impossible in fact. If you do meet your soulmate, it's best to do whatever possible to end up together for good. This type of connection only happens once in a lifetime and you simply can't let it slip away because it will definitely not happen again. I think you can even know if you've met your soulmate from a photo you see of someone who seems extremely familiar to you. If you see a person's photo and you just can't get them out of your mind because it's like you know them or recognize them and feel an undeniable connection, then it might be worth it to check it out and see if you can meet them in person because this could be the soulmate you've been waiting your whole life for. In this modern world of technology we live in, our soulmate could be just a click away! I think when it's time for soulmates to meet and they are meant to be together nothing can truly stand in their way. Distance is never an obstacle. Circumstances could never interfere. Other romantic interests could never stand a chance against a soulmate connection. It's like it was written in the stars. An example of a soulmate connection that I can think of is the movie The Notebook. I think this is about as close to a soulmate connection as you can see in the movies these days.

So why does a soulmate connection feel so familiar to you even if you've just met this person? I think it's because souls can recognize each other from other past lifetimes. Your mind may not remember it, but your soul does. When you meet your soulmate, you're feeling like you're finally coming home. It's like you've been away for awhile, but you're home now. Soulmates usually know each other in other lifetimes and have probably planned to meet in every lifetime, possibly even this one. Your true soulmate is the same age as you within a year. If you're female, and they're male they need to be older, even if it's just within a few days, but it's still within a year. So if my birthday is October 1, 1990, my soulmate's birthday would be within one year of that so anywhere from October 1, 1989 to September 30, 1990 works. The male needs to be older because it has to do with how God created Adam before Eve and so the woman is created from the rib of a man which means the man needs to be created first.

So what happens if you meet your soulmate and it's just not meant to be and you don't end up together in this life? Well, that's a tough one. Like I said, it's better not to have met them than to have met them and had to part. You can't miss what you don't know but if you already know what a soulmate connection feels like then it's impossible to forget. I don't think anyone really moves on from a soulmate connection. Sure, they can get married to someone else and seem to have their life in order but they will always remember what true love felt like with their soulmate. Losing your soulmate is like the one who got away times 100. You will always compare every guy or girl you meet to your soulmate. You'll look for qualities in that person that you had in your soulmate. Sometimes, it even goes so far as looking for people who physically look like your soulmate that seem attractive to you simply because it's like a piece of your soulmate is in them. That's why it is much better to stay with your soulmate if you meet them or not meet at all, because the other option is simply too much to handle.

If you've met your true soulmate, life is pretty amazing for you. You have your best friend and your true love all in one package. Being in love is good for your health, but being in love with your soulmate is amazing for your health. What can you look forward to in the coming years with your soulmate? Great health, many long years together, and fulfillment in every aspect of your life. Are you a creative type that needs inspiration for your work? Well your soulmate provides that and much more. You will never be uninspired or lack motivation again. Writer's block? No such thing with your soulmate around. Everyday you will wake up and be excited to live life. It won't really matter where you live because as long as you have each other that's all you really need. Nothing seems impossible or out of reach. If you have met your soulmate and you end up together in this life, you can consider yourself one of the luckiest human beings alive. This is a blessing that very few know about and even less actually get to experience it. It's truly a once in a lifetime type of thing. And really, if you're going to fall in love, who better to fall in love with than the only person who was truly meant for you?

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      A guy 5 days ago

      I am in the exact situation as you "a female person"

      Actually quite creepy how accurate that is.

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      A female person 5 days ago

      I've had several crushes before, but this crush that I feel right now isn't just a crush anymore. I love him very deeply eventhough I just met him. We never talk yet I feel like there's something about him that would change our lives. Both my head and heart tell me that he is the one but my insecurities tell me that he's too different. And yet he completes me somehow. It's weird, but not as weird as me thinking/gut feeling that he feels the same way about me, to which I'm not so sure about. Whenever I'm away from him it feels like a string tied tightly around my heart that is pulling, which hurts me a lot emotionally. I really don't know. This is so weird. It might be just a strong crush but.. ugh.

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      Kristal 6 days ago

      Ive met my soul mate, but the timing is wrong. We have strong connection like we known each other. but we're stranger. And said "take care" with a serious faced like he wants to know me before i leave, but i dont have enought time to response he said. and make me more want to see him again.

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      Jordin 6 days ago

      I've met no one..sadly...

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      stephanie 2 weeks ago

      I met the person who always be in my dreams for 4 years a week ago. But it was awkward. All the words I was planning to say before I met him were vanish and there was only silence n awkwardness between us. We both suddenly lost our confidence to talk, we just keep staring to each other. and I kinda cried for two days afterward bcs of my stupidity. Are we really soulmates? Did he also feel what I felt ?

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      luci 2 weeks ago

      I met him two days ago and the chemistry was undeniable. We are talking marriage. I am already in love.

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      Shirley Mast 3 weeks ago

      I met my soulmate I was scared at first but not now I understand I never felt this way before . I LOVE This Person Deeply. Always thinking about them.

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      Maria 2 months ago

      I met my soulmate 4 years ago at work. I was driving in to my interview and I seen him. A voice inside of my head said " he's the one, its him" I didn't know why I had that in my head. Immediately I started smiling and it felt like I already knew him. When I got hired we immediately were close friends and shared many things between us. It felt so natural and effortless needless to say we spoke our entire shifts. Unfortunately I was already in a relationship and I felt extremely confused. I wasn't sure why I was thinking of him all the time, having dreams about him. I have always been a loyal girl to anyone I've dated. But when I met this man I was totally consumed by him. Later on I found out I was pregnant by the person I was with. I had two beautiful twin daughters. They are my heart and soul and I couldn't picture my life without them. When this man found out I was pregnant we became distanced. He would still come and speak to me but things were very different. I actually got upset that we became so distanced. I didn't understand why I was getting so upset but I did. My relationship with my daughters father was always rocky and after we had children it got worse. Ultimately I told him that I couldn't do it anymore. Suddenly me and the other man got close again. We texted here and there and he would tell me about the woman he was seeing. Once again I would get upset. I had no idea why I got so upset when we stopped being close friends and why I would get upset over him seeing other woman. We were only friends so why was I feeling this way? One day we went out for lunch to catch up on what was going on in my life. I broke down in tears and updated him on what had been going on. After that lunch date we went out a second time and I kissed him. I've never been someone to pursue a man. But I just felt so comfortable and I wanted to see why I had that thought go off in my head the first time I met him. 2 years later I know why and its because there was this incredible connection right in front of me. I will be completely honest that I've never experienced any thoughts like that with any man I've met. He is my soulmate and it is the most amazing connection that I've ever experienced. Even though we are 9 years apart in age it feels as if we aren't. I understand what everyone else means by meeting your soulmate can be a blessing and a curse. Because now that I've felt what we have its impossible to ever forget it. We aren't in a relationship due to certain things going on in my life and his life. But I hope one day we will be able to be a couple. He is the most incredible man I've ever met and if we don't become a couple due to life obstacles. I know one thing is that I will never be able to forget him.

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      Brenda Bartz 2 months ago

      I have been reunited with my soulmate. I am older than him by a little more than 2 months. I am a Capricorn and he is a Pisces a very compatible combination. I was oblivious to soulmates when we met at age 9. We both felt something but were nothing but good friends, even step-siblings for a short time. We are now 55 and are working on our issues we have both aquired over the years so we can be together. He is going blind and I knew he needed someone like me who understood him. He's very smart and talented. A big adrenaline junkie. We have both had some interesting experiences that I don't want to say much about now but his blindness plays a critical role. It is true you find an inner beast to protect them. I was tested on my loyalty and passed with flying colors. I think Adam and Eve go in reverse. We have never had an argument so we have to do that now. He is irritated with me and me with him but it is a necessary evil that we have to go through so we don't do it again. We are very old souls. I am very excited for what's to come.

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      Nitsu 2 months ago

      I met my soulmate at work. It was so unexpected. When I first saw him I felt sparks. A beautiful aura of electricity surrounded my whole body. It felt very peaceful and like I was floating in that energy. I remember thinking: "it's you." There was no doubt in my mind. We both were attracted to each other; it was evident. We even managed to finish each others sentences. It was perfect like a fairy tale. I was dumfounded. That is how strong the feeling was. To this day I remember the feeling, his name, and his face. Never have felt that in my life. It's true, I will always compare that feeling to everyone I date. I hope the universe brings us together once more. This time around I will ask for his number. :). I hope this helps someone identify whether they met their soulmate.

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      Stephanie 2 months ago

      I met my soulmate earlier this year I was married to someone else I was in an open relationship and I met him on social media we instantly clicked we started video chatting and it would be for hours Almost everyday. I never got bored of it I never could see enough of him or talk to him enough it seemed he was like a drug me and he felt the same way about me. I finally separated from my husband for other reasons. Decided I had to meet him so I flew over to England I'm in Canada by the way I met him in person it was electric like magic, like a beautiful fairytale I never wanted to wake up from. Everything was so comfortable it was like we could always been together just so much chemistry right away and the sex was amazing. I had to go back to Canada unfortunately but I am working on getting a visa to live and work there for two years also I must sell my house and it's difficult in the market right now. It's very hard to be apart from him and sometimes it's too hard and then I think is it worth it but I know when I'm over there, when I'm there with him everything will be worth it.

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      RIJ 2 months ago

      Yes, this is so true.. Every word I can relate with.. I met him 9years ago.. Through telephone call.. And then there was end to it.. In these nine years I forgot to breathe without him.. I met him in person just once last year.. And when we met, it was exactly amazing how comfortable we were together, like we've been meeting everyday.. Hes one year elder than me... So that point clicked for me too.. There were lots of obstacles but me made through all these years until 3 months ago.. He just left due to some major crisis.. And didn't come back.. I trust him blindly.. I love him to the depth, everybody tells me that I should move on but I can never make anyone understand that what I have felt in my heart, can never be felt ever again.. And I am waiting for the day when he will come back and we ll get married, (I hated to get married n have children but with him, I am a whole new person) in sha Allah.. Time will come soon, we ll make it through this obstacle too.. :)

      Beautiful article..

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      Plastic Poncho 4 months ago

      Completely agree with everything but age difference. Everything you said is exactly how we both felt in our first sentence exchange and I'm a 36 year old woman whose soulmate was a 24 year old man. He just passed away less than three weeks ago, and he's still tuning into me. I love you, baby, forever.

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      Jade 4 months ago

      Is it possible that your soulmate is an animal? When I was twelve I met my horse. A male horse born exactly a month and a week before me. 1994. When I saw him, well..I never had the same feeling with anyone else. Time stopped. I mean it felt like it actually did. I felt my heart skip a beat and everything around me stopped moving. When I tell the story people think I'm just being dramatic but that's what happened. When our eyes mets we just froze. My mother bought him and eventually, when I was old enough, sold hik to me. Life has always been different with him around, both for him and me. If you know how to read a horse, physically, you can notice the difference in his eyes...he had to be sold when we were 17 and I finally got him back recently, age 22. He was not the same horse when I found him and neithet was I. And I am not the only one to say this. I could not laugh or smile anymore...I was dead inside. Now my dreams and hopes are back. I started living again and he started walking again (he had gone lame when we were separated).

      This feeling when our eyes met for the first time..as if a weight was off my shoulders...kind of like when you're back home after a while. "Finally a familiar feeling", you know what I mean? I love horses but they don't make me feel as he does. Neither do my friends or family. I find it weird myself but after reading this I can't help but wonder if this is what it is? And the age thing just...something clicked inside of me!

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      Lex 4 months ago

      I've found my soulmate, but I am a female and he is a year and a half younger than me. I'm not religious - I believe in evolution - so I think your age reasoning is faulty, basing it on Adam and Eve. But the feelings you were talking about before... I felt all of that.

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      Anonymous 5 months ago

      Oh all of this is so true. I met my soulmate my first semester of college. I was instantly attracted to him, I felt that magnetism and pull to him. We started dating over a year later. Trying to explain how you know someone is your soulmate is difficult to put into words. You just feel it with every cell, you KNOW. We loved each other for 8 years, and life kept getting in the way. Recently life was finally lining up for us. We had a 5 year old child. Unfortunately I lost my soulmate to suicide and it is the most crushing feeling. I can never replace him and I don't believe I will ever have that connection with someone else. We were always connected even when we were apart. I miss him so much. Losing your soulmate is the worst, the only thing worse would be to lose our child.

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      Graham 6 months ago

      I met my soul mate about 15 years ago. She was an exchange student - we never spoke but I had these unexplainable feelings for this girl I never spoke to. 2 years after she left, I received her email address...and messaged her...she revealed that she felt the same, to the extent that she used to write letters to her best friend telling her about "this guy" (me). We ended up in a 2 year long distance relationship. Eventually, due to finances, we decided it wasn't going to go anywhere, and called an end to it.

      Over the years we stayed in contact, she got married, had a child, I had a number of living relationships, life was fine....

      3 months ago she returned with her family, but to a different city in our country. She had this over whelming feeling that we owed it to one another to meet up (considering we had never really spoken face to face other than Skype). So she made a special trip to my city without husband and child. Neither of us were expecting anything.... we genuinely believed that we'd have a nice catch up over a drink, and that would be it.

      The moment I saw her, I felt everything all over again.... and she felt everything I was feeling.... it was all mutual. I felt like the world was lifted from my shoulders, I've never been so content in all my life, I doubted whether I had ever even loved in my past relationships. The feelings were phenomenal! And mutual! We ended up talking and taking each other in from 3pm until 4am the next morning. We reluctantly behaved ourselves, even though every inch of our beings wanted to react otherwise. For me, it was out of respect for her husband and child. On 2 occasions we hugged, we stood holding each other for about 45 minutes each time....and not for a second did I feel bored. She said to me that for the first time she felt like she had married the wrong person.

      We both know we are soul mates....for her she wonders if maybe it would have been better that we didn't meet up and be completely naive. For me, just having been able to experience it makes me happy and so sad all at once. We have decided not to talk to one another for a while, because we don't want it to affect her marriage and child.

      My dad was fortunate enough to marry his soul mate, my mom (who sadly has past away), but I was able to talk to him about this experience. My soul mate doesn't have anyone to tell because no one understands. She was so over whelmed with emotion that she even told her husband....obviously it didn't go down well. She explained to him that she is living happily ever after with him, and that she does love him....but she had to grow to love him, their relationship wasn't like this....and that it didn't make their relationship any less beautiful.

      For me, I have to accept that I won't marry my soul mate....I will have to marry that girl that I am going to grow to love. And it doesn't mean I won't live happily ever after....it just won't be her....

      I just needed to share my story....and somehow, I hope DB reads it....

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      Candice 6 months ago

      Yes I have. But... I am married and I can identify totally with wishing that I never found out what I never knew.

      An eternal damnation if the soul!!

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      Osiled 6 months ago

      agree with you full heartedly, the details in your article made my heart ache and my eyes water. Hello, I am Kristal and if you don't mind I wish to describe my experience. I was in seventh grade when I first meet him, in that moment everything stopped it was as if the emptiness within me had ceased to exist and everything had aligned. In that moment I knew he was special although I didn't know how to explain it. After that day in seventh grade no matter how hard I looked I was unable to find him. In that moment it was if I was lost again. Everything lost meaning and all I could do was wish he was near me. Deep inside I knew he was close yet my heart ached for him. Every night was miserable I couldn't think, couldn't sleep and I couldn't think of anyone but him. I took it as one of my whims and after a year the pain wasn't as harsh. Then I went to high school, when I was walking to the cafeteria I felt him it was as if it was calling me so harshly it made my heart burn. I looked and that is when I saw a young man but he was nothing like the kid I meet in 7th grade... He was so different. I found out later that we had the same classes this being English 2 pre AP and band. We made an instant connection. I went home joyful, later on I came to figure out that his name was Adrian and he was the kid I saw so long ago. The kid who made me yearn for him so much and the angel in my dreams. I am a very social person yet with him its different, it's as if he bring out the inner me. Time passed but it is as if desteny itself sets us apart. I am now a Junior and he is a senior we were born both in September him the 17 of 1998 and I the 3rd of 1999. We have talked plenty of times and we have many things in common we compliment one another and it just feels right. We both feel the connection I know. It is as if somehow he knows what I am going to wear and I do him. We have never been together and it just makes me so... Omg it just makes me want to cry its like I'm dead inside I can't move on even if I try I wish we could be together or that I have never meet him! We are so close yet so far away. We were called by the same college and I came to figure out we live in the same neighbourhood. Yet somehow we are not meant to be or the timing is just not right. He has a girlfriend right now and I am unable to bear it everytime they are together I feel it it just kills me. He knows how much it hurts every time he looks in my eyes yet somehow when we make eye contact and sit together or simply talk it just feels so perfect. Im so helpless and every second it feels like my heart is being shredded bit by bit. I hope the right time comes soon.

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      metalbabe(continuation..) 6 months ago

      he's from US and I'm from Philippines.

      I hope this will be posted!

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      metalbabe(continuation) 6 months ago

      he's 20 and I'm 19. Both of us tells our feelings to each other almost every day. It's a crazy feeling, we get very excited every time we talk and when we video call we didn't know what to say and just smiled at each other. He loves my voice(I sang a song to him), my accent, my personality. We love sending videos and pics to each other, I even send him funny vids and memes and he really likes it. Both of us wanting to say I love you, I know it's cWe're planning to meet very soon and I know it's really a huge deal for him. We have a lot in common. Love, Sex and Music is important for us.

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      khristie95 7 months ago

      You heart knows when you have met your soulmate. Your soulmate is someone who knows you before you actually tell them something. They can feel that you need them without even a phone call or a text. When you meet your soulmate it almost painful to not be with them and are like your other half, this missing piece the person who you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. I do not agree with the age thing, because I have met my soulmate and he is younger than I am. We have connected on a level I never knew existed, we can tell each other anything from our past and it is accepted and there is no judgement. You think alike, you have the same personal goals and emotionally and physically you will be 100% compatible. I have met men in the past I thought were the one and I tried to make it work, but they didn't feel the same emotions I did or they didn't understand or were mature enough to understand that all needs are important.

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      Will 8 months ago

      New voice…

      I’m looking for you, are you the one?

      You are open to life, to experiences in the divine experience. Experience God and love

      of your fellow peoples of the world, to make a better place for us all. And be committed

      to being together in Love, experiencing that exahilarating feeling, making one feel very happy, animated, or elated; thrilling in the experience of life.

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      HeartofWolf 9 months ago

      So, I just recently came out of a 4yr relationship with someone who I fell madly in love with, who was one of my closest friends and someone I thought I would marry, at some point at least. Overtime my doubts piled up and I realized that she wasn't right for me. The fights and arguments increased. The trust was not there. Deep-seeded issues kept rearing their ugly heads and nothing seemed like it would ever change. The biggest part was that neither of us were happy. Thus, after a lengthy time of trying to force it to work, I decided that I wouldn't get in the way of either of us achieving true happiness with other people who may be right for us.

      After we broke up I made up in my mind that I would really try and focus on myself for [a good length of time]. I would make changes in my life so that I would not make the same mistakes I made in the past. I ultimately wanted to make myself the best version of myself so that when I met the right person, I would be ready to give my all to them. I can admit that I had held back to a degree in my previous relationship (because of doubts), but I wanted to do things 100% for real with the next person, who I hoped would be last.

      Two weeks after my breakup, I went out for a small get-together with a few coworkers, fully in my one-track "cut-off" state of mind - And there she was. One of my coworkers brought along her best friend for the outing. This was the first time I met her and the attraction was instant. She was easily the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my entire miserable life. I noticed that basically every other guy who was there felt similarly and all tried to talk, dance or flirt with her in some capacity. Deciding for myself that she would never even bat an eye at a guy like me I suppressed what I was feeling and tended to my drink, minded my own business. Then suddenly, we were face to face and nothing else in that room existed for a second, what felt like forever. She had given me a strange look and accused me of something (spilling her drink I think, but I'm still not sure what she said). We laughed and then she moved on, but in that one moment my world was changed.

      Fast-forward to the end of that night when my coworkers, the girl, and I were leaving. I walked her and my coworker to their car and when we finally spoke, I found out that we had a few things in common, both worked in similar roles in business and overall, just clicked. The most shocking thing to me was as they were leaving she told me to take her number. I almost felt the need to turn and look behind me, as it was hard to believe that this goddess wanted ME, of all the hundreds of men through the night, to be the one to have her number. Ha. I was completely shocked and skeptical, but overjoyed all the same. I felt something strong there but I didn’t know what it was yet.

      I messaged her the next day and we talked for hours. A few things in common turned into "Wow, I feel like I've known you for such a long time and we only just met". I took her on a date and we talked about everything - family, life aspirations, the future, our likes, our fears. She is four years older than me but the age difference wasn’t an issue. We were like-minded from the start. She mentioned that she's opened up to me about things she hadn't told anyone, not even her best friend, and that she felt completely comfortable with me. The feeling was surely mutual. She felt she could be herself around me and appreciated that I had no judgement to pass over her. She felt as though she could really be herself with me, which is something she lacked in previous relationships. I soaked in every detail of her life and longed to know more still. When I was with her I was on Cloud 9 and when I wasn't with her she was heavily on my mind. I felt like my heart was exploding and a new kind of warmth was enveloping my soul, as if whatever I had been searching for in the past was suddenly thrust before me in all its glory. After an amazing first date, we kissed and I took her home. And then I danced like a school girl the whole drive home. My world was suddenly brightened and I only longed for more of her.

      We talked basically every day since then and I felt us getting extremely close. Seeing how things were progressing, I had decided that I should respect her and take things slow – I feared for this feeling to turn into something strictly physical that would fizzle and die out, and hoped that it would blossom into something eternal. She felt the same and agreed that we would take it slow.

      We had sex for the first time that night.

      We stayed in at my place. I cooked her dinner and we put on a movie but it wasn’t long before we were all over each other. We resisted every urge we had for as long as we could but ultimately could not control ourselves. Every word and every touch drew me in closer to her. It was the most passionate sex I’ve ever had in my life. I've never truly felt completely connected to someone in the way that we connected in those moments. It gave me new understanding of what it meant for two to become one and I knew that I needed this woman in my life. She was imprinted on my soul and I felt as though I would never be the same.

      Everything continued perfectly from here… for about a week. Then she suddenly began to pull back. I realized instantly what was happening and asked her to tell me what was happening. She was going through some family issues and said that she had her own personal reasons for pulling back. She told me about them before, but it still hurt to feel like she didn't want to push through what she was going through with me, instead insisting that it was better this way because she didn't want to end up hurting me by lashing out her frustrations at me; that it wouldn't be fair to me. I didn't understand her logic, seeing as pushing me away would hurt all the same.

      We spent the holidays apart and barely talking. She travelled to see family and told me she may have limited communication in this time, which I understood and I allowed her to have her space. After a while I started feeling like I was going crazy trying to reach out to her and hearing nothing back or receiving cold emotionally closed-off responses every time I tried to start a conversation. At first I believed it was her going through her family situation, as she said, but after many shut-down attempts at having a conversation, I began to feel as though it was something more and thought that I may have done something wrong. So after suffering through this for a bit more than a week, I confronted her about it and had a lengthy talk about what was truly going on. This talk was bizarre and heartbreaking and frustrating and infuriating for me all at the same time.

      She told me that she had heard from her best friend that I started seeing someone else behind her back, which was a complete and utterly disgusting lie. In fact, I did not even know the person the friend claimed I was now in a relationship with! She said that she was so hurt by it that she didn't say anything, and so instead of talking to me about it and figuring this situation out, she decided that she'd close herself off from me completely and that that would be it. I don't think I had ever been more confused in my entire life. What's more bizarre is that in this same span of time, she started to talk to and was now DATING someone else, off of the premise that I had betrayed her and that we were over. In that moment I felt like my whole world shattered. The earth opened up and swallowed me whole and I felt the deepest pit in my stomach to the point of being physically sick. After realizing that she'd been lied to by her friend about me, she broke down crying. She had never wanted to cut things off with me, especially not like that, but now she was with someone else, and she didn't know what to do. She ultimately had to make a decision of me or him and for whatever reason, she chose him. Even before she told me her choice, I knew. I felt her distancing herself from me and it killed me. The thought of her being with someone else tore me apart at my core and even now, it hurts every time I think about it.

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      Linz 9 months ago

      I met a guy yesterday at the grocery store and as I was trying to walk pass with my trolley, he smiled at me then I smiled. Some how in that moment he dropped his juice in front of my trolley then the moment lasted even longer. I had this overwhelming feeling that I knew him even though we just met. I couldn't speak back, I just stared and then I ran to another isle on the store because the feeling was so strong and I feared it because I am not single. We meet again on so many isles, on the last isle as I was trying to runaway again a lady's trolley blocked me and I had to stand there and look at this guy I loved but didn't know why. I saw him leave the store as I was waiting for a price check and I just cried, in front of so many people. When he left I felt like I was losing someone important to me, It was like a death . This has never ever happened before, I hope I am not due for a psych evaluation.

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      Tia 10 months ago

      Excellent article better than scientific knowledge!!! Would love to see more.

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      Breez 10 months ago

      My soulmate is 13 years younger than me. When he and I apart, we can feel each other's heart beat. Too often have sort of JINX.

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      Nikole 11 months ago

      I found this article trying to deal with and cope with not being able to be with my soulmate. Maybe you can give me some advice. I know I met my soulmate. Every fiber in my being tells me so, and weirdly he is 10 years older than me. I met "Bob" at a concert [he was one of the acts] where I was going to college 6 years ago. The second he got on stage I had this almost lightening strike. He actually reminded me a lot of my friend Jay who passed away months prior. It was weirdly like seeing Jay on stage. After the concert Bob and I hungout and realized we had absolutely everything in common. I was not interested in Bob romantically, he's a womanizer and not very attractive so I was not interested in him at all in that way. But what I did know though was that he was special to me for some strange reason, and that he was the male version of me and I was the female version of him. We exchanged numbers and lightly kept in contact over the years but I never saw him again since the first night I met him. Despite the little contact though, I always knew that him and I had a certain connection.

      A little over a ago I found out Bob moved to LA, and I only lived about an hour away but would frequent LA quite a bit for career purposes. I contacted him to see if he wanted to get together a time, he agreed but basically insinuated that he was mainly interested in sleeping with me. I was appalled and disappointed and definitely declined. I was frustrated because I knew we had such a connection and for him to not notice it, and to treat me the way he is used to treating and seeing other women was offensive. I knew I was different than any other woman he has ever met in his life, so for him to say that really really bothered me and so I told him bye basically.

      Fast forward a year to this past August. I finally moved to LA and had only been living there officially for just a few weeks. My friend Jay.. I mentioned before that reminded me of Bob, on the anniversary of his death I always do the same thing.. I read Bukowksi poetry and drink wine. That night in my state of poetry and wine I felt like I needed a familiar face, I was lonely and wanted to talk poetry, art, and literature with someone. So I decided to text Bob because I remembered he had moved to LA, and he is one of the only other people I know who likes the same poetry as me. So I texted him saying I know he had no interested in seeing me if I didn't sleep with him, but if he wanted to talk to a real woman then to call me. So he did, and we became inseparable ever since. I like to think maybe my friend Jay has something to do with this. I feel like he has told me that Bob is special like he was, and that this is someone who will be important in my life.

      When we're together it's like we are not two people... we are one complete person, with one soul, not two. When I am not near him or I can't see him. My heart physically aches in ways I never knew. It's as if there is no world, we are the world. It feels like home, so natural, neither of us expected that. I mean I always knew we had a some kind of universal connection... but I had no idea it was going to be like that or FEEL like that. Where the problem comes in though is Bob.. I am the first woman he has opened himself up to in years and not used or thrown away. We've discussed how neither of us thought us hanging out was going to be so strong, that he is used to using women but has never used me, how we both mutually respect one another and just love being around each other. Being a music artist he is used to sleeping with a ton of women and never seeing them again, he has avoided real intimacy for years as a defense mechanism. So for him spending so much time with me has become a big issue for him. He isn't used to coming into such close mental and physical contact with a one woman and now that he has it has completely freaked him out and he has essentially abandoned ship.

      About 3 months of pretty much being inseparable he tells me he thinks we should take a break from seeing each other. I was so upset and frustrated he was doing this but I told him I respected his decision if that's what he thought was best. I knew he was just pushing me away and I couldn't understand why he was doing this when it's so clear we are meant to be in each others lives. It's been 4 weeks of not seeing him and I have ached and ached every single day. Normally when I have dated people in the past, I cling when they start pulling away. It's like I needed them in my life to make me happy but with Bob weirdly I am handling this completely differently. I have completely respected what he asked for and left him alone. [Although I did send 1 text telling him I missed him...and no response] I feel like I don't NEED him like I have NEEDED other men to make me happy. I don't need to plead my case and beg him to stay. Which I find odd because I feel SO strongly about him I would think I would be going coo-coo crazy doing these things. But I'm not. If anything my heart and my soul hurts not being able to be with him or see him. But it's also as if they are both telling me it's okay you have to allow this.

      He is nothing that I ever wanted or expected. If you told me 6yrs ago I would feel this way about him I would have told you you were nuts. Looks aren't everything. Background history is nothing. All that matters is YOU and THE PERSON when you are together. I now understand what that is and what that feels like. I don't want to lose him, I think regardless we are meant to be in each others lives, but I just don't know what to do. It's miserable not being together and to connect this way with someone and not be able to be with them is pretty unbearable like you said. I feel like I have heard my soul speak for the first time and it just shows and tells me so many things now. I'm weirdly ok but not ok at the same time about all this. Sorry for the long comment. But I had to get it out. Thanks for your article. I hope I can find a little more peace.

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      angel 11 months ago

      Can you meet your soulmate young because i believe i met mine at 11.

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      Vijka 11 months ago

      Im glad o found this article as noone believed that its possible to feel how i feel im one of those unlucky ones who couldn't make my soulmate to stay. We met 10yrs ago and i didnt believe in love at first sign but i was in live with hik within 5mins and until today i still feel the same about him. We were together for 2yrs i came to uk cos of him. He managed to move on, got married and apparently has a baby and have a son as well but relationship i just cnt and thats cos i cnt move on. I'd give anything if i could have him back I've never felt what i felt with him its killing me luckily i have my son and he fills the gap thats there but i wish one day my soulmate would come back. Pain after break up was unbearable we tried to stay in touch as friends we tried to stop contact but both ways were killing me. So many times i just want to send him.message to tell him how i feel but he's moved on. So for anyone out there if u do manage to find ur soulmate please work hard on ur relationship because u really truly wont find it again and it's terrible feeling. We parted 7yrs ago and im.still not very lucky in moving on every ringtone reminds me of him, every white van, few songs in a radio haircuts many many things. It's weird actually cos i tried to convince myself not to think about him, not to miss him and then the songs comes on a radio the one i loved the most when he sang it to me and i asked him quite often to sing it. Hvnt heard it for a.long time and then out of nowhere its in a radio and i dnt even listen to the radio very often. Im angry the pain is not going away really and until i found this article i thought its impossible to feel this way but now i know im.not alone so thank u from.the bottom.of my heart you just confirmed what i always said i did meet my soulmate but i also lost him and i dnt wish this pain on anyone :)

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      David 12 months ago

      I did meet my soulmate back in college but we never married mostly because we live in different countries. Nevertheless even though we married other people, we've written and emailed each other for the past 40-years and have traveled to visit each other a couple of times. We talk from time to time as well. When we agreed to stop dating neither of us could bare to say goodbye and we've remained friends all this time. We like each other's spouses and have plans to meet in the near future. All things considered, I am happy the way things turned out and I am hopeful things will turn out equally as well in our next lives together.

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      ldsmith1986 12 months ago

      I have been blessed and cursed with my soulmate connection--in fact, it's been a huge burden as things didn't play out due to free will. Not mine, but his. Four summers ago, I met him while I was at work. It was the first time our paths crossed, and I felt like I had been electrocuted the moment I took his order. Oddly enough, it was something I would've ordered myself, but it was more than just that--it was the first and only time I ever told myself this was a guy I wanted to see again (I'm not a lesbian, but I've never been really attracted to guys unlike most of my peers, so dating was never my thing--in fact, I never felt entirely comfortable with the dating scene). I cleverly managed to snag his name, and like most lovesick girls would do, I did some online investigation to see if he was fair game. Thankfully, he was, but he didn't come back. On top of that, he struck me of a well-to-do guy (he was driving a Porsche!), and I felt that I was completely out of his league, especially when I found out that he ran his own business. Yeah, I had fallen for a upper class guy, and I was almost as poor as Cinderella in rags. There was no way he would be interested in me, so I dismissed him. I eventually moved onto my third, yet short-lived, relationship, but his name would keep coming to the front of my mind from time to time.

      Flash forward to 2014--one month after I had gone out of state for vacation to visit my friends and look into moving into the same state, he returned, this time with his parents. And that instant magnetic pull returned with a vengeance. It didn't help that we were also the same age (him being a few months older) and had similar living conditions, in this case we both live with our parents, though for different reasons. My coworkers took notice of how out-of-character I was around this family (typically, I'm not shy around my customers, but I was/am with them), and after they found out that I had looked him up on Facebook a time or two, they encouraged me to friend him. I did, and he accepted the request. But getting him to talk was a challenge; two acquaintances of ours forewarned me that even though he was sweet and funny, he was also weirdly shy, hardly ever left the house unless it was for business. As a confidant once put it so nicely, "eccentric, eclectic, and quirky." The sad part of it all was that we had so much in common, enough for us to have interesting conversations over dinner.

      But we talked a few times in person the following year, and looking back at those encounters, whether it was by fate or design, he was nervous around me, which, in turn, made me nervous. He even dropped a rather subtle hint about late dinner on a Sunday evening. But it didn't come to pass because of his shyness; the connection was just too much for him to bear.

      Then something happened this past February--while I was working one afternoon, he went on a friendlist cleaning spree, deleted most of his friends in our community and blocked me, although he hadn't banned me from his business page. The move shocked me as soon as I found out. He was running away, just as I had feared. I wanted to say "Screw you" and forget him altogether, but my heart wouldn't let me. I still support his business from a distance, and every time he uploads pictures from his gigs and I see him, I feel that electrifying feeling run through me. But the wall he built between us keeps holding me back from reaching out to him in person again. It's even worse when I see his parents in my restaurant--I still get tongue-tied in their presence, and I am visibly shaking.

      Do I get what he's going through? Absolutely, because I feel it, too. And while some might think I'm just wasting my time on someone who's pretty much decided from the get-go what he wants in life and who he wants in his little circle, my heart and mind are telling me differently. I should move on, and I tried, but it doesn't feel right. My last ex-boyfriend tried to rekindle our relationship, but I broke down and broke his heart when I kept bringing up this guy's name. I couldn't do it because he wasn't *him*, you know? It was like all of a sudden I didn't want any other guy like that in my life unless it was him because of that connection. I didn't want to lie to myself anymore. I didn't want to settle for less anymore. I wanted to move forward and grow for once. This guy was *the* guy, and he slipped away before we could begin.

      The sad part of my story is that we never moved past from "Hello". We never got a chance to hang out (he said he had no problem with that, but that clearly wasn't the case). In my heart, I know he's my eternal best friend. I've imagined all the fun, clean trouble we could get into as adults, all the places we could go to, and the project I'm currently working on because it mirrors his career. We could do that and so much more together and not care what anybody says or thinks, not even our parents. But right now... until he truly wakes up from his slumber, I'm just a weird nobody to him.

      So, what you wrote about not being able to move on if you've met a soulmate that isn't meant to be totally rings true to me. It's painful. Devastating. Tonight, I had a coworker mentioned to me that she saw his company van at one of the liquor stores the other day, and my heart leaped with joy. I was purely on an adrenaline rush for an hour... then I was cursing her for even bringing him to my attention! I couldn't get him off my mind, and knowing that I can't be with him at this very moment kills me. It makes me feel like my soul is being drained dry because of the reality I live in. We live exactly three and a half miles away from each other, and he's holding out a stiff arm on me just to protect himself. Love should never be this way. Soulmates should never be this way. But for me, love has never been easy. If anything, it's been my downfall, and I've fallen hard with this one.

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      Maria Kaye 12 months ago

      Me and my soulmate are dealing with being apart from each other right now. He got forced to go to treatment... We both know were soulmate because we dreamed of each other.. It's hard to explain that. Hes 8 years older then me. Our sex life is completely amazing.its one of the things I love about us. I can honestly say I never thought I could miss someone So much, as much as I miss him. When we share stories of ourselves, our stories are almost a like. It amazes me at time. We plan on getting married when he gets out. Just to share, soulmates exist!

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      GreenEyes1607 13 months ago from USA

      CelticBlood- Thanks for sharing your story with me. That sounds like you two have a very strong connection even with the age difference. I would say you two knew each other in a past life, that is why he seemed so familiar to you and you to him. So it felt more like you already knew him but just haven't seen him in awhile type thing. Kind of like coming home after a long absence. And the fact that you feel an emptiness when he isn't around and vice versa definitely makes sense. I would say hold on to that relationship and see where it goes. It sounds like you have found a keeper!

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      CelticBlood 13 months ago

      I agree with everything you wrote with the exception of the age thing.... I have been in love. Happy and content and married with children. We never argued. But in March we did, and he asked me to leave. So I did. And in May I had a sudden compulsion to seek out someone online. My parents are cops, I'm not stupid and normally wouldn't ever consider that an option. I was separated and miserable. But when I chose 3 ads and received 2 responses with photos. I swear to the gods that I felt like I knew that guy. We couldn't figure out why the hell we looked so familiar to one another?! We met in person 3 days later and idk how else to describe it but as soon as we laid eyes on eachother there was a distinct 'click' like I knew I knew him from somewhere! The last 4 months have been absolutely insane. I'm a very emotional person and my moods jump drastically sometimes. But he just levels it out. That probably doesn't make sense but it's hard to explain lol u are right about that. He's literally always in the back of my mind. And I'm constantly there in his. He is 9 yrs older than me. That's why I disagreed with ur age statement. He knows how I'm feeling before I do, and I can feel how he feels for me. It's freakin scary and thrilling and amazing. But I do have one question for you. He and I both have acknowledged we feel a sort of "emptiness" I guess, when we are apart. Sounds retarded but is it like the connection knows it's other isn't in proximity? But the instant we are near again the bond is back. And every single time it feels like this sudden 'rightness' in life. A happy sensation overcomes ur whole body and ur just in a state of Euphoria and bliss. Thoughts?