Useful Ways to Tell If a Guy Likes You

Updated on June 14, 2019
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I love giving tips on how to figure out if a guy is into you.

It's one of the world's most enduring questions: how can you tell if a guy likes you? At one time or another, it pops into most women's minds, usually when there's an attractive man at work, at school, or on public transportation.

You've both exchanged meaningful glances (were they?), sat closer than friends or coworkers sit (was it?), and there is so much that could happen between you if only you could tell if a guy likes you. But how, exactly, can you tell? Why is it so hard to judge your personal situation? The short answer is that you're so close to the situation. You need an objective sign. You need a concrete way to tell if a guy likes you. You need to know how to tell if he has the potential to be the love of your life or has no romantic feelings for you at all.

Primary Signs: Body Language

When investigating how to get a boyfriend, body language is usually the best place to start. After all, you may not have even spoken yet. Or your conversations may have been so short that it's difficult to glean anything from them. But there's an even better reason to start here: body language doesn't lie. It's one of the best ways to determine how a person feels. It's what intelligence agents use to discover whether or not a suspect is telling the truth. Check for key body language signs so you can use it to suss out the motives of your crush.

Eye Contact

This isn't really a secret. Think about how you feel when you like someone. You just can't stop looking at them. You steal glances at lunch or whenever he walks by. If you find that many of your glances are returned, it is a good sign that he is into you too. How do you tell for sure? The kind of glances he gives you is a big clue and eyes can reveal or hide signs of attraction. Here are a few things to look for when and if you catch him making eye contact.

  • His Eyebrows: If one of them lifts, even for a fraction of a second that is a really good sign. That momentary lift is called a flash. It's largely a by product of the hormonal whirlwind that activates the butterflies in your stomach when you see someone you like. He's probably not even aware that he's doing it. But his hormones are, and the flash is a great first step on the long journey that is how to tell if a guy likes you.
  • The Direction of His Gaze: If a guy wants to sneak a peek at someone he likes without awkward eye contact, he'll look to the right of her face, sweep over her face with his eyes and then look to the left of her face. If his eyes are drawn to your mouth it's doubly good.
  • Look at His Pupils: If the guy you like has light-colored eyes, you may be in luck. They will be dilated when he talks to you if he's really interested.
  • The Number of Glances: Not all guys exhibit overt signs of their interest. But if, more often than not, you catch him looking your way—even for a moment, even when he thinks you're not looking—it's a good sign that he is at least open to the idea of the two of you getting together.

How To Tell If a Guy Likes You

One of the best ways to scan his face is to use a common method match makers recommend when instructing their clients on how to get a boyfriend:

  • Catch his eye
  • Hold his gaze and scan his face for four seconds. Count in your head if necessary.
  • Look away for just a few seconds.
  • Look back. Does he hold your gaze in response? Or does he look and then turn away in embarrassment? Those are both good signs. If he breaks eye contact and starts looking for somewhere else to look, he may not return your feelings.
  • Also look for signs of how he acts around you.

Personal Space

There is a reason they call it magnetism. When a guy likes you, he invades your personal space: he sits close enough to make you feel a little flushed, chooses the seat next to you and always manages to find himself close enough to touch you. This is such a powerful sign of affection that dating services use it when instructing their clients on how to get a boyfriend.

Young man and woman on the bench.
Young man and woman on the bench. | Source

Posture

When you next get a chance to be around or talk to your guy, check out the way he carries himself. If he slouches while he's around you, it might not just be bad posture. That's one of the many subconscious cues that a guy's body gives off when he has romantic feelings about a woman and is really in tune to what she has to say. But that's not the only sign. Some guys swing toward the opposite end of the spectrum and improve their posture around the girl they like. He may also sit with his legs open or place his hands on his hips. This is a sign that he wants to impress you.

The Compass

We've already talked about invading personal space and what a powerful sign it is when it comes to determining whether or not a guy likes you. It's so powerful, in fact, that some guys are too timid to make that bold a move. After all, sitting close comes with the risk that the object of your affection will reject you by scooting away.

Guys that are more reserved or have more to lose from the possibility of your rejection may be able to intellectually resist the urge to get near you. But if they like you, their bodies won't be able to resist. The next time you're around your crush, check the direction that his hands, feet, knees, pelvis, shoulders or even elbows are pointed. If they are pointed towards you, it's a good sign that he wants to get closer. They are his compass and they'll always point toward what he wants. Even his face will be attracted toward you. A guy who likes you will rarely have his back to you. He may be too shy to make eye contact but you'll regularly get a good look at his face and that's no mistake.

Secondary Signs: Attire and More

If you're having trouble reading body language and you've graduated to conversations and frequent interaction you can investigate more of the signs that let you know ways to tell if a guy likes you.

His Attire

One of those signs is his attire. Look at his clothing. Has the way he dresses changed recently, even slightly? One key to how to tell if a guy likes you is his grooming. Is he dressing better than usual? What about his hair? Does he have a new cut, a little product perhaps? Maybe you've caught him running his fingers through it more often when he's talking to you. A guy who likes a girl will want to put his best foot forward in the hope that he'll catch your eye.

His Antics

One of the clearest secondary signs that a guy is interested in you is his actions. If he's trying to impress you, he'll put his best foot forward and check to see if you're paying attention. For example, when you're in a group he may boast or tell a joke and then look your way to see if you're impressed or laughing. Unless, of course, your guy is shy. In that case, he may get flustered. He may have trouble getting his words out. Or, he may look flushed, clammy or uncomfortable. These are all great signs that he likes you so much he's having trouble formulating sentences.

13 Signs A Guy Likes You

Physical Contact

If your circumstances bring you close enough to talk regularly, it's tough to know whether or not he actually likes you. He may just be around you so much because you work or attend classes in the same building. You may just be colleagues that get along great.

Or, you may be in the friend zone. How do you know what's what? One great indicator that you are more than friends or colleagues is physical contact. Some touches are accidental. Others are just friendly. If he touches you in one or more of these ways, however, there is a good chance that he is interested in you in a romantic way.

  • His leg or arm brushes against yours and he doesn't move it—at least not immediately.
  • He hugs you to say hello, celebrate a small victory, say goodbye or for any excuse he can muster.
  • He touches your arm or hand to emphasize a point he's making or to get your attention.
  • He stands or sits close enough to touch you in the elevator, in class or whenever the two of you are together.

Touch is a powerful sign of affection. If you think that he may be in to you and you're interested in how to get a boyfriend as much as you are in finding out if he likes you, initiate some of the above touch indicators yourself. You may find that this is the push he needs to ask you out already. Or it may bring things to a head and you'll find out that he's not interested so that you can move on and use this list as a ways to tell if a guy likes you in more fertile fishing grounds.

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        wow. 

        2 months ago

        My crush told me he likes me but I didn't tell him I like him back because we going to different highschools so I don't want to tell him to make it weird while we still in our last months of school, but he said if we did go to the same highschool that he would ask me out but that right now he doesn't since there's only 3months left of school. I mean I get it I feel the same but I would have also really been happy if he asked me even if just for 3months. I really like him n he does to me back he are good friends and hang out n everything, its just that one problem.:(

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        Natalie 

        3 months ago

        This boy keeps looking at me and I’m scared of him

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        Angellina 

        6 months ago

        K so me and this boy talk on snapchat dailey he goes to my school and we've known each other for a while and he wont talk to me in person but he will show off and one day i told him hey im going to talk to you on the bus i said hey he had one headphone in and one out and i said hey no respons so after that he was going to get off the bus i said by he didint say anything so when i got home i said hey did you not here me he said no why i said hey and he said o i said hey i said okay i just wanna know if he likes me because i like him i feel like he does!!!

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        hello 

        6 months ago

        i think this boy has a crush on me cuz he always stares at me. hes a little chubby so once i poked his cheeks and he only rolled his eyeballs and smiled lol we are in student council together so i usually see him more often and sometimes he likes to impress me and also make jokes with me thats just weird cuz nobody ever told me he had a crush on me until now and hes only been in my class once

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        cassy 

        7 months ago

        so this boy i like was sitting next to me at the bleachers in are school.

        he sat next to me and close to it close enough that are arms would touch possibly are legs and hips. and he would not move away. He would usually stay like that for like 1 minute or longer. It was atleast 15 second. Also he been looking at me a lot more then normal and we laughed together it was wierd

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        That one person 

        8 months ago

        This was very useful. I took the advice into consideration and fornd out that there are 2 different guys that like me... but i like them both... i need help on this part of things

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        Emma S 

        8 months ago

        I can’t tell if the boy I have a crush on returns my feelings. He always steps on my foot, and his friends always look at me like they know something. I am in 7th grade right now and he sits next to me in my last class of the day. But,he is assigned that seat. He always takes my food and it always seems like he’s trying to make me laugh and it works. I read this and it did not really help. Please help me!!

        -Emma Skowronski

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        9 months ago

        So there is this one guy and he stares at me what does that mean??and I think he may like me but who knows

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        Hibiki 

        12 months ago

        My friend end up falling to this guy but she don't know what to do... She tried to not focus about what she feel by not thinking about him and tried to avoid him by not going where the place that this guy might be but she end up looking for him, thinking about what this guy doing but after that she ask herself if he just like this guy, coz he is nice and always there to help her bec thats his job or is there something more? But she don't know the answer then now is nearly the end of college she really want to know If it's okay to tell this guy that she does fall for him or that she likes him, 'coz she is a college student and this guy is not a teacher but he is working in student services where my friend goes. She don't want to take any risk or made a problem or making this guy trouble that's why she don't know if wether she's going to tell this guy how she feel about him or not but the other side of her that she really want to tell him about this coz she thought that this might help her know what to do later.

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        eliza 

        13 months ago

        There's this one guy that always talks to me and texts me. But the signals he gives are quite confusing lol.

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        confused gal 

        14 months ago

        hey, so one of my guy friends called me beautiful one day. he literally dropped the bomb and now he’s on the down low every time he sees me. tbh i think he’s embarrassed now. help?

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        What up 

        15 months ago

        Hey man, and the other side. I will be a great time. The first time. I'm not a good time for a while, but the fact that you are not a good day to be the first to know if it was a little more 6 the moon, and then I will not only the most important thing to be the same. I will not only

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        kaitlin 

        15 months ago

        I like this. I really like this guy.

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        Just A Girl 

        15 months ago

        so ive liked this guy for a while now and ive told him many times before but it was always different and so i tried moving on, hes a bad texter period, but he always sits next to me and we are friends and when i tried moving on i dated someone and he found out and he said he had a girlfriend once finding out. And now i told him once again but it was a little different because he acknowleged me a little different instead of saying okay and looking away we kept looking at eachother and most of these body descriptions are correct but my question is if this is true then why does he keep rejecting me?

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        Invisibleperson2 

        16 months ago

        There is a boy in my class and I think he likes meh. How. Well he gives me a quick stare and when i look he slowly looks at something else. Another thing is that when ever his friends make a joke instead of him to laugh with his friends he turns around while laughing and looks at me. What do meh do. ;(

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        anonymous 

        16 months ago

        i like this guy but we could never be together because of our families but hes aways making comments about what i say to other people and looking at me in the halls idk we hang out sometimes but when were with each other he barley talks

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        Opps 

        17 months ago

        Yah he likes meh

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        Marisa Law 

        18 months ago

        theres this guy that look cute freshman like me and he always looked away from me like he was disgust until now he started looking at me and i can tell he wasnt facing away from me anymore

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        shhenkj 

        18 months ago

        nne too someone

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        Someone (((((: 

        19 months ago

        My crush says he likes another girl and he wants to make it work with her but I don't know if he likes me or not ... He's giving me mixed signals and its hard because he keeps secretly looking at me.

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        Emma 

        19 months ago

        I THINK my crush likes me cuz when I look at him and he looks at me first.

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        Anonymos 

        19 months ago

        Hi my guy is friend with all of my friends and he usually looks at me. He also smiles at me sometimes. He is not my friend thoo. Does any of these signs mean he likes me?

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        Anonymous 

        20 months ago

        I have a crush on my friend Aiden and I didn't know what to do, or how to tell if he liked me but thanks to this vid I do! I think I might tell him soon but I will look for the signs first. We are good friends and even if he doesn't feel the same way I'm sure we'll still be friends.

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        sad 

        21 months ago

        what if when we talk and he puts his face so near mine?? his face is really really near, we almost kissed but backed off, does he have a crush on me?

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        Anonymous 

        21 months ago

        My crush makes eye contacted and only seems to talk when his mates aren't around when he does it only hi how are you :/ but he always makes an effort to talk to my little girl I no good at reading signals how will I know if he like me I'm afraid to ask

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        Debra dobson 

        23 months ago

        Hi this guy , I've known. Two years. Been heckling me. We're both same age,never married,single. Been playing games,pranks,toying with me. Now when enter a room he leaves. What's it mean?

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        Anonymous 

        2 years ago

        I just wanted to ask if I ignore my crush but I like him will that make him think I am pushing him away because I really don't want to get hurt

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        Madison 

        2 years ago

        My crush always looks at me he asked my friend if I have a diary how much I like him and do I write about and do I write about him in my diary she told him the answers and he said OK excitingly he knows I like him my other friend told him he always try to impress me a lot every time I laugh or giggle he smiles at me whenever I broke my leg and I was on crutches he wanted to help me carry my stuff and I write you help with the question on paper he offered to help me I don't understand he doesn't like my friend he always says no ever time she ask him something. Time we were paired up with partners he was with his best friend and I was whith one of mine he looked at me at the corner of his eye on him and his friend started laughing one time over his hand brushed up against mine he put it away click quickly and went and sat down with all this mean does it mean like m he looked at me at the corner of his eye on him and his friend started laughing one time he reached for a paper I did to and his hand brushed up against mine he pulled it away click quickly and went and sat down what douse all this mean does it mean he likes me

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        Sshhh!! 

        2 years ago

        My crush is always staring at me in social studies, science, lunch, even free period!! My friends asked him out for me, he said no and denied he ever stared at me, all while smiling and glancing at me in the corner, freaking out. My friend Chase saw me in the corner and asked what was wrong and my crush started freaking out. XD

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        aislinn 

        2 years ago

        i like this lad in my year and he knows that i like him and everytime i look at him or hes near me he fixes his hair or if hes with someone around me he"ll whisper something and smile at me i set across the room from him in business and one day i turned around and he smiled at me and fixed his hair once he held the door so i could go out does this mean he likes me

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        Yoselin 

        2 years ago

        I think my crush likes me I don't know bcuz one time I caught him pointing at me and I always caught him staring at me a lot does that mean he likes me

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        lesley 

        2 years ago

        He is gonna think i`m weird if I go up to his face and stare at his eyes lol. I don't know the guy that well enough to do that. The signs I have seen from him are: deep eye contact and frequently, deep breath accompanied by raised eyebrows, awkwardness and doesn't speak to me lol, turns up in areas I am, he notices me when I walk through the door of the leisure centre and I have been told `he was looking for me when I was not in that day. I do find him very attractive too but it complicated. His he attracted to me or is it all in my head, I think I am analyzing his body language to much n it driving me crazy. there is more but I already bored you enough lol. Thanks for listening x

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        Charlie 

        3 years ago

        I'm gonna use the pupil trick,,, I don't exactly like anyone, but there are some rumors I want to figure out ;)

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        ararat 

        3 years ago

        yes!!!

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        jada byrd 

        4 years ago

        He likes me!!!!!!!!

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        Deborah Demander 

        4 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

        Thanks for the tips. I will be watching for those signs in my crush!

        Namaste

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        Kari 

        4 years ago from Alberta, Canada

        Love the pupils trick. I've heard that lots. A guys pupils will be dilated if he is interested in you in that way. Definitely something to watch for.

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