Understanding Men: Dating Body Language

Updated on December 12, 2016

Body language makes up 55% of our communication with others. The movements our bodies unknowingly and subconsciously create speak volumes about the way we're feeling mentally and emotionally. When a couple is in the midst of a heated argument and the woman folds her arms across her chest, she is sending a message that cannot be verbalized. Sentences are a logical construction, and sometimes they can only say so much. Where our words fall short, our natural reactions take over in the form of body language.

The key to understanding men, other than reading John Grey's Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, is to study their body language, the subconscious signs they emit with their features.


Expressive with his hands: He's a great communicator -- in and out of bed -- and will be very sensitive and attentive to your needs.

Touches your lower back: When a guy is aroused, he will make contact with your lower back, sides, or thighs. If he bypasses standard contact (such as hand holding) altogether, he's REALLY aroused.

Leans in close: When a man wants to be with you physically, he will invade your personal space. It differs for everyone, but generally speaking your physical space is anywhere within 2 feet around your body.

Large smile: A wide, toothy grin is actually very revealing. It means he is giving this his all, and he's way into you.

Hugs & kisses: Some people greet by hugging, others greet by kissing. The guy who does both is interesting and experimental, always ready to switch gears and try something new.

Strokes your head: Stroking of the head, back or arms is a sensual signal meaning he loves you and is highly attracted to you.

Slouched shoulders: When a man who has a normally broad shouldered stance suddenly slouches, even slightly, it means whatever you have just said or done is incredibly endearing to him. The shoulder slouch means he's getting ready to hold you. His emotions for you are strong.

Sits on his hands: Liar, liar, liar! Just kidding. Although sitting on one's hands means he is trying to control what is coming out of his mouth, it could just mean that he's afraid to screw up and say the wrong thing.


Stroking her hair as he looks at her lovingly indicates extreme sensuality and an outpouring of emotion
Stroking her hair as he looks at her lovingly indicates extreme sensuality and an outpouring of emotion
Her arms are gripping him tight, but his half-hearted embrace could indicate disinterest. Either that or he's just sweaty.
Her arms are gripping him tight, but his half-hearted embrace could indicate disinterest. Either that or he's just sweaty.



    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • profile image


      8 years ago

      Like I am on a softball team and my coach touches my lower back.Does that mean he likes me or is he just being friendly ?

    • profile image


      8 years ago

      This is so dumb

    • profile image


      8 years ago

      Body language is a form of mental and physical ability of human non-verbal communication.so,it's very good and interested to know all communicative ways as nature elements which needs always relation and meaning of one's mind.

    • profile image


      10 years ago

      Interesting. I read that when they touch your stomach that they see themselves having children with you (i.e. Cosmopolitan magazine)

    • profile image


      10 years ago

      You basically just re-phrased a cosmo article

    • profile image

      Nikita Gross 

      10 years ago

      This is very helpful!

    • Maylinda Arons profile image

      Maylinda Arons 

      12 years ago

      Useful stuff. I'll keep a lookout for these from now on... especially the sits on his hands one!

    • tomche_tom profile image


      12 years ago from UK

      Very nice


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, pairedlife.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://maven.io/company/pages/privacy

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)