Yves mission is to help women attract positive relationships by establishing personal parameters and greater self-worth.
Intriguing Qualities About Women That Men Love
- She is yin and yang
- She moves beautifully
- She is an enigma
- She is light and dark
- She charms and disturbs
- She is driven
- She is independent and loving
- She is uncommon
- She is strong and vulnerable
- She is poised
- She is a work in progress
- She is mysterious
- She feels beautiful
- She is tough and gentle
- She is passionate
- She is calm
- She is a femme fatale
- She is the girl-next-door
- She is curious and focused
- She is a shooting star...
- She takes care of her soul
- She respects her body
- She develops her mind
- She intrigues and attracts
- She lifts men upward
- She brings a man to his knees
- She is unique
- She is impossible to resist
The fascinating woman is equipped with an interesting combination of yin and yang, the Chinese term for feminine and masculine energy. Therein lies her attraction - she is both light and dark. Men love her uniqueness and her positive-self image. The fascinating woman is refreshingly herself.
She is a compelling woman who is attractive because she is driven by self-worth, rather than a desire to manipulate. She is highly independent and therefore very selective about whom she chooses to love, yet she gives herself permission to love passionately. In romance, her set of personal guidelines enable her to attract the good lovers and weed out the bad.
In truth, the fascinating woman is every woman; however, she is never a commonplace woman. She may be your sister, your neighbor, your accountant, your grocery clerk or your doctor. She is the woman with as many vulnerabilities as the next person, but who is also in a class of her own. She is a highly desirable woman because she believes in herself.
The fascinating woman is unique, intelligent and focused on steering the course of her life in a positive direction. She is a work in progress. She has authentic charm and she fully understands the steady sex-appeal of her quiet confidence. Ultimately, her goal is to be fulfilled in work as well as in love. But more importantly, the fascinating woman likes herself. She forgives her flaws and does what she can to grow emotionally. She stretches herself while also guarding her integrity. She isn't your "average" girl.
A True Story
Some years ago, I worked in an office with an intriguing 60 year-old woman. Approximately one year after the death of her husband, she had begun dating again, at age 45. Over the ensuing years she entertained three serious proposals of marriage. The mystifying thing about this woman was that she was not a beauty in the traditional sense, having no waist to speak of and....well, a really short neck. Yet every day she was beautifully coiffed. She almost always wore a dress to work, rather than pants, like the majority of us. She always applied her makeup with care. In fact, this charming woman was a bonafide male magnet.
"One day, all of the girls in the office decided to get to the heart of this male-magnet phenomenon. Why did this "older woman" attract so much attention from men? We asked her. Her reply: "I am a good conversationalist and I have nice eyes." "I also make a point of making eye contact and smiling sincerely."
We peered closer. Sure enough, her eyes were quite pretty. She had a nice way with eye-shadow and lipstick. Hmmm. And yes, she was an interesting conversationalist. We scratched our heads. She paused to give us gals a moment to process this information.
The Significance of the Genuine Smile...
There are over 18 different ways to smile. The most attractive smile is the genuine smile, which is the smile that creates lines, or “crow’s feet,” around the eyes.
— ~Random History.com
Then... with a sly grin, she said, "I just believe I'm special." And so she was.
In truth, every woman has "beautiful" qualities. For example, most men are quick to notice a woman who carries herself well, who has that inner sparkle or "savoir faire", which he finds hard to define. Nevertheless, he feels it. That being said, our job is to discover our own unique beauty, acknowledge it, fine tune it, and begin enjoying it----then he can enjoy your fascinating traits with you.
Just know that if you believe you are beautiful and amazing, so will he!
Questions & Answers
Question: What makes a man leave you for another lady?
Answer: There could be any number of reasons why he left. It depends upon the man, the circumstances and the dynamic between the couple. We can ask ourselves questions such as: 1) Has the relationship been deteriorating for some time? 2) Am I too clingy? 3) Are either of us too jealous? 4) Am I financially responsible? 5) Am I clean; do I have good hygiene? 6) Do I try to be healthy? 7) Do I try to improve my life in small ways? 8) Am I a good listener? 9) Am I interesting to talk to?
On the other hand, maybe the guy isn't one to stay with anyone for very long. Maybe he is too demanding or has unrealistic expectations about how a woman should treat him or how she should look and dress. Or maybe you were never really the girl for him. Did he leave without an explanation? You might ask him why he left and to be honest "because you want to know why." However, be prepared to have your feelings hurt if you don't like the answer.
Your best bet, though, is to move on with your life. Try to improve yourself in small ways. I'm sure you can do better than someone who leaves without an explanation. Good luck to you.
© 2012 Yves
Yves (author) on September 07, 2016:
My dearest Laurinzo,
Thank you for the offer. A lady does feel fatigued every now and again.....;)
LJ Scott from Phoenix, Az. on September 03, 2016:
Ha ha... although it may be mildly inappropriate to flirt so on the hub... I will risk it and I would even be willing to carry your parasol if you grew tired...
Have a wonderful day.. and continue writing ... PLease
Yves (author) on September 01, 2016:
I've had my moments. (Blush...flutter eyelids) "....Oh, but my dear Mr. Scott....please. You really are quite the charming rogue. How very disagreeable of you. Will you join me for a stroll?" (This said as I adjust my parasol.)
But seriously, Thank you for saying so, Laurinzo. What a stunning compliment. I love it!!
LJ Scott from Phoenix, Az. on September 01, 2016:
I think you qualify for that "amazing" title savvy... nicely done... !!!!!!!
Yves (author) on May 24, 2015:
P.S. Thank you for the grammar correction, word55. I am grateful.
Yves (author) on May 24, 2015:
Thank you for visiting, word55. There are many intricacies involved in beig a fascinating woman. Being an interesting conversationalist and a good listener are definitely a must. (By the way, I didn't get to finish my previous comment from "Succumbed.: I meant to end with "I thought you could relate, but "in a good way."
Al Wordlaw from Chicago on May 24, 2015:
Hi savvy, I liked the poem. I liked your interpretation of a fascinating woman. Yes, a sweet woman with good conversation is at the top of the chart. Thanks for sharing.
Yves (author) on December 11, 2014:
Thanks, Frank. I learned a lot from the lady in the story. She was a "doll."
Yves (author) on December 11, 2014:
Hi Faith Reaper. What generous and charming comments you've made here. Indeed, it would be lovely to have more men weigh in on this subject. I appreciate your having tweeted, pinned and Googled. You are thoroughly kind. Thank you. I am so glad you agree with my list! :)
Frank Atanacio from Shelton on December 10, 2014:
hey a good list savvy.. and i enjoyed the true story.. bless you girl
Faith Reaper from southern USA on December 10, 2014:
I know that all of these qualities to be so true in attracting men, and all women, who are available, should read this if they are wondering why they are not attracting men. Well, really all women, as we want to keep the one we have intrigued and feel overwhelmingly desirable to them, for we, no doubt, love to be desired by our man! And we know when he is and when he is not!
I am so glad you mention that this hard to resist woman, especially has the qualities of ... "She takes care of her soul - She respects her body -
She develops her mind - She intrigues and attracts - She lifts man upward" ... how lovely and true.
I was hoping that more men would weigh in on this topic, so I am sharing here on HP, tweeting, pinning and G+
Great insight here and wonderful hub.
Yves (author) on July 21, 2014:
FlourishAnyway, your comment is absolutely 100% true. Thanks for stopping in.
FlourishAnyway from USA on July 21, 2014:
It's all about how we feel about out selves. We need to be our own BFF sometimes in order to attract others.
Yves (author) on December 06, 2013:
Hi oldiesmusic. And what an inspiring comment you just made! I'm delighted that this hub has encouraged you. Just know that the story is absolutely true and that the real woman was about ten years older than the woman whose photo I displayed. She actually helped me to smile with more confidence. In fact, this woman made a point of letting me know that my "looking down and away" was getting me nowhere with men who might otherwise be more inclined to approach me. And yes, there is no doubt in my mind that all women have fascinating traits and that they should utilize them for all they're worth. Thanks for stopping by!
oldiesmusic from United States on December 06, 2013:
If only there's an "Inspiring" button here!
Sometimes I doubt myself on my abilities and even my overall physical appearance... but since reading your story of that extraordinary and lovely lady I am quite so encouraged. I love her confidence... it's starting to rub off on me in fact. She makes me smile and reminds us all that every woman is fascinating in her own unique way.
Thanks for sharing this. :)
Yves (author) on September 10, 2013:
Thank you so much, DDE! You are very kind.
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on September 10, 2013:
incredible write up here you certainly know how to put words together voted up!
Yves (author) on August 10, 2013:
Hi maramerce. Very well said. A woman must always challenge a male. You are very wise to have figured that out at such a young age. I like how you said that "even the strongest person desires a soft place to land.." You're a smart lady.
Thank you for dropping by to visit. I appreciate your wise comments.
maramerce from United States on August 10, 2013:
Very nice article. I would add that I think men are drawn to me a lot for the fact that I simultaneously let them be themselves while also inspiring them to be better than they are. I think you have to be challenging, but not impossible or unreasonable. I think that makes all the difference. I see a lot of women who just nitpick and nag or have unreal expectations of their partner. That just wears a man down. I believe in letting people experience their own lessons in life. That takes patience, but when he realizes you were right, he'll be running to you when times get tough. You end up being a refuge instead of what he needs to take refuge from. Even the strongest person desires to have a soft place to land at the end of the day. I believe that.
Yves (author) on July 06, 2013:
Hi glassvisage. Thank you so much for the compliments. I liked to photo too, as I feel the woman represents the unique character of the fascinating woman so well. I'm so glad you agree!
glassvisage from Northern California on July 06, 2013:
This was a great and intriguing read! I think this is a very good idea for a Hub. And I love that photo!
Yves (author) on June 23, 2013:
Thank you KT Banks. I appreciate the compliment. It was kind of you to stop by.
KT Banks from Texas on June 23, 2013:
Yves (author) on May 03, 2013:
Thank you kindly, rose-the-planner. I'll plan on popping over to read some of your hubs sometime soon. I'm glad you enjoyed the article.
rose-the planner from Toronto, Ontario-Canada on May 03, 2013:
I though this was an awesome article! Thanks for sharing.
Yves (author) on April 19, 2013:
Thanks a million, lovedoctor926. I have a fair amount of yang as well, so I know what you mean. Frankly, it's a needed energy to have if we want to remain at least one step ahead of the men out there. I am looking forward to reading more of your work.
lovedoctor926 on April 19, 2013:
I enjoyed this hub very much too. I think I'm a mixture of both yin and yang. My energy is good. Overall, I'm cheerful, but I also have a strong personality, so I can be hot (yang) but warm, loving and feminine so yin. Lol. The story of this woman was inspiring. I think you did a great job describing those qualities that men tend to be fascinated with. Voted up!
Yves (author) on February 21, 2013:
Thanks for the votes. vibesites! Yes, I really appreciated that incredibly wise woman. As I mentioned to another hubber, she also taught me to to feel confident in smiling and making direct eye contact with a guy, if he interests me. Let me tell you, she was right about that too. Mostly, she was very comfortable in being female and feminine, and that is another reason why men liked her so well.
vibesites from United States on February 21, 2013:
Wow, wonderful story of that woman... she's so inspiring. I'd want to be like her -- her confidence is so spot-on. Voted up, awesome, beautiful.
MissJamieD from Minnes-O-ta on February 18, 2013:
Lol...thank you so much:) I enjoyed this hub so much!! I appreciate your positive words.
Yves (author) on February 18, 2013:
MissJamieD, I am so very happy for you. Congratulations on your beautiful transformation! It's awesome that people are regularly drawn to you. You are obviously projecting a very positive aura. (It's probably hot pink!)
Take all the good ideas you can find on Hubpages and elsewhere, and keep running with them. You've got so much to offer!
Thank you for your kind and enthusiastic words.
MissJamieD from Minnes-O-ta on February 18, 2013:
This is so true! Great hub:) I've learned these things from experience. I went from a frumpy, sad, quiet housewife to a self-confident, beautiful, self-loving woman within the last two years and it's the most amazing transformation I could've ever imagined. I went from nobody wanting to be around me, at least never seeing anyone excited to be around me...to everyone wanting to be around me. I'm serious it's the weirdest thing ever, in fact I'm still in the middle of this new beginning and it's amazing. I'm confident (although not the prettiest in the world), I'm funny, I like to talk to everyone, and I love to laugh. People are magnets to me as well, and I enjoy it thoroughly. And I dont' just mean men, I'm in a very committed relationship that I foresee being in forever, so it's not about the men, although we all like attention and to feel we're beautiful. But, women as well are always coming up to me and asking what perfume I'm wearing, where I got my nail polish, telling me they love my shoes and my hair. I hadn't witnessed anything like this in my abusive marriage for those 15 years, this is amazing:) Really great idea for a hub, great job!
Yves (author) on January 11, 2013:
I am very happy to be following you, Janshares. And, I am glad you enjoyed my my hub about fascinating women.
Janis Leslie Evans from Washington, DC on January 11, 2013:
Hi savvydating. This hub is fantastic and so true. Many woman don't realize this truth. Self-confidence is very sexy. Thank you for this excellent hub and thanks for the follow. Voted up, useful, and awesome.
Yves (author) on January 06, 2013:
Thank you for stopping by rajan jolly. I am glad you agree. Your comments mean quite a lot!
Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on January 05, 2013:
You said it all. It's not about physical beauty but all about charm, wit, confidence in a woman that makes a woman fascinating and irresistible.
Yves (author) on November 26, 2012:
You bet, Eranofu! The other thing I learned from this wonderful woman was to smile confidently and make eye contact with a guy if he catches my attention. Previously, I had done the shy, looking away thing (a good way to get nowhere). Anyhoo, I took her recommendation to heart and almost immediately met (and began dating) the most sexy man ever. Hmmm. Sounds like good hub material. Maybe I'd better get on it!
Eranofu from Europe on November 26, 2012:
Wow, what a nice story about the woman. Thank you.
Yves (author) on March 13, 2012:
Thank you, NightFlower. It is true that women needn't emulate a persona because their own unique personalities have much to offer.
NightFlower on March 13, 2012:
Here Here!!! everything you said in the first paragraph let alone the rest of the article is coolness and valuable qualities it seems some of the younger women do not have nor or interested in obtaining for some who are 25 and under. They more want to clamor for the "Bad Girl" persona and that is so sad. Great great hub!
Yves (author) on March 10, 2012:
Hi Amanda. Thanks for commenting! Hope the hub continues to inspire you.
Amanda on March 10, 2012:
Loved this!!! Voted up ;)