Top 5 Signs He's a Player, Cheater, and No Good Liar
The Crimson Mark Of Guilt
Infidelity is one of the biggest problems in relationships, behind money problems. Because being in love makes us so vulnerable, being cheated on is very painful. It's better to be aware of the signs and be honest with yourself from the beginning rather than let yourself fall into the trap of falling for a guy, and then falling for all his lies.
(Disclaimer: Not all men lie, not all men cheat, and not all women are sweet innocents themselves. Nothing written or imagined written herein should be taken to construe such an opinion.)
Sign Number One: He Has A Lot Of Female Friends - And They're Jealous.
When you're out with him women come up and put their hands on him possessively and give you that little smug look. I don't need to describe that look to you, we all know what that look is, and we've all seen this scene play out at some point even if it was just on the movie screen. If this sort of thing happens when you're out with your boyfriend, note his reaction. Does he look scared or smug? Is he enjoying himself a little too much? More importantly, do he and this woman have that intangible intimate connection? If so, he may be a player. On the other hand, if he doesn't disengage himself and align himself with you then he's just a jerk.
Sign Number Two: He Describes Himself As A 'Ladies Man' or 'Lady Killer' Or Something Equally Obnoxious.
Believe it or not, many men who cheat are dumb enough to telegraph the fact to their partners. If he often refers to himself as a ladies man, or is constantly proclaiming how much he loves the ladies, then there is a high chance that he will cheat when a willing one comes along, and an even higher chance that he'll be pretty horrid company most of the time.
Sign Number Three: His Friends Call Him 'Dog'
Whilst this might be a term of fraternal affection in many cases and cultures, be aware that this term carries with it other connotations which are not lost upon the males who use it. A fellow who beds many ladies and keeps them on the go is often the subject of great admiration by his peers, and the term 'dog' is traditionally applied to such a man. This fellow will find himself rewarded with free alcohol, hearty back slaps, and perhaps even several high fives when tales of his exploits are told. Unfortunately for women, other ladies tend not to be so supportive of them if they sleep around. Life's just full of strange ironies, isn't it?
Sign Number Four: You're Not Good Enough For Him
Seriously. This is a very important clue. Feeling that you're not good enough for him means that you feel bad about yourself. It's one thing if this issue stems from any self esteem issues you may have, but it is quite another if it is the result of the way he treats you.
This is sometimes the a sign of a cheater, but it's always the sign of someone you'd be better off without. Common techniques for making a woman feel bad involve criticizing her looks, calling her fat, suggesting she could lose a few pounds, or often insinuating that she is stupid. If he does any of these things, run, run away.
The only caveat I would put on this advice is that sometimes women feel bad about themselves without any help from outside sources. Try to look at the situation objectively. Is he engaging in destructive interaction with you? Are your feelings based on negative self talk, or is he actively trying to keep you down by treating you like a lesser person than he? In the first instance, some counseling may be in order, in the second, a break up.
Sign Number Five: Gut Instinct
Have a funny feeling in your tummy when it comes to him? Take some Tums, and if it's still there once they've taken effect, chances are that your body is trying to tell you something. Most women who haver been involved with cheating men say afterwards that they had a feeling something was wrong. You shouldn't necessarily leave him because you have a feeling something isn't right, but you should be aware and alert for other signs.
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