The Soulmate Guide
This helpful guide will teach you everything you need to know about catching and keeping the right suitor. You can achieve the attention, love, and companionship you desire by following these easy-to-remember instructions.
Prep Work / Love Notes
Any person sick of playing the dating game and wanting to fall completely in love wants to do so ASAP. People say it takes time but in real honesty, it doesn't. With the right person, you should know within the first 2 months if you are falling in love with them. When considering a potential mate to date there are very important things you need to remember in order to ensure you are setting yourself up for success.
1. Be you
I cannot stress this enough. Don't be the presentable and proper you that you put on to impress others. Be 100% you. Eat, drink, dress, act, and play, like you would with your friends, family, or by yourself. Allowing someone to see the real you makes them feel comfortable enough to lower their guard and automatically enters you into the realm of sincerity, honesty, acceptance, and love.
2. Be grateful
Be grateful that you have the honor of being in someone's life. No matter how long or short it may be. Be grateful for absolutely every moment you spend with them. These are not just your memories, they are also theirs. Treat them with respect and let them know you appreciate them by giving them compliments and building them up when they share things with you. A grateful heart is a loving heart. Treat them the way you would like to be treated.
3. Be open
You are not going to agree or see eye to eye with absolutely everything this person says or believes. Instead of arguing with them, find common ground and respectfully acknowledge your difference of opinion. This is a fantastic way to gauge how your communication will be moving forward and allows you the opportunity to explore different methods of communicating. Your attention to this building block of a relationship will show your partner that you have the maturity to be a life partner.
4. Do sweet things
Treat your partner and yourself the way that you would want to be treated. Do not wait for them to do sweet things in order to return the favor. Take the upper hand and let them know you care. Comb their hair with your fingertips, gracefully kiss their cheek, send them flowers, write them love notes, etc. The more you show your capacity to love and care for yourself and others, the more likely others are to reciprocate that same love and respect.
Who You Are Looking For
There are only four primary factors you need to remember when selecting a potential soulmate:
- Factor 1: Are you extremely attracted to them? All of the sweetness and the compatibility in the world won't give you the sexual passion you require in order to make it in the long run. Attraction to your suitor is a very important factor when choosing a soulmate. Looks do not matter, but the way you look at them does.
- Factor 2: How do you want your partner to make you feel? Does the individual you are pursuing make you feel that way? You can tell within the first day with someone if you enjoy the way that they make you feel. Get in tune with their energy. If it's not absolutely wonderful, move on.
- Factor 3: How caring is your suitor? Do they make attempts to court you? A soulmate will always realize another soulmates significance and treat them with love and respect. Just because you think that they are your soulmate that does not mean that they think you are theirs. Get very clear with your partner's feelings and remember that actions will always speak louder than words.
- Factor 4: How does your suitor interact with others? How do they treat the waiter, the hostess, the homeless man on the street? How your suitor treats and speaks to others is a direct reflection of how they treat themselves and will treat you.
Where To Find Them
Where do you find the one?
You don't necessarily need to be "on the hunt" in order to be aware and observant to what amazing people the universe is placing in your path. Listen to your intuition and where it draws you. It alone will provide you with subtle tugs in the right direction.
I met my partner at the beach. I saw him sitting on the beach alone and felt the tug to go and talk to him. I casually walked up and said hello. I asked him if he wanted to take some photos with me for fun. We started dating 1 week later!
When You Feel The Tug
The first step is to calmly breathe and tell your fear to sit the hell down. You got this! Take a deep breath and walk over to them. Smile and say "Hi, My name is _______ what's yours?" If it's meant to be the conversation will lead itself after your initial icebreaker.
The worst mistake you can make is to psych yourself out with the possibility of rejection. You have nothing to lose. Take the risk or lose the opportunity.
M. Alam Miah on April 20, 2019:
Love comes from heaven. It visits every person generally now or then. Only oneself feels personal what it is / how it is ..... This is an interesting ONE.
Samantha Alberto from Istanbul turkey on December 29, 2018:
Always focus on everything you love about yourself each and everyday. Tell yourself how proud you are for how hard you are trying. See everything with love and compassion then you will see your world so differently.
Samanthaalberto60 at gmail dot com
dashingscorpio from Chicago on December 27, 2018:
Very sound advice!
It's important to remember you can't control who finds you attractive. "Beauty is in the eye of (the beholder)". Ultimately it's who YOU find attractive that leads to success or failure.
Nothing happens until you say: "yes" to someone.
Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.
Each of us has our boundaries and "deal breakers".
If you are having one bad dating/relationship experience after another it's probably time to reexamine your mate selection/screening process. The only thing all of your failed relationships have in common is (you).
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde