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It Takes All Kinds
Online dating is a wonderful way for two people that would otherwise never meet each other to go out on a date. Personally, I know at least four couples who are now happily married that met online. So yes, online dating can definitely work. However, this is not necessarily a hub about the positive aspect of online dating.
This hub is about the types of guys you meet while using online dating sites. Not all of the guys you meet are going to be a good match. Some guys are just outright scary. It is easy to see why they are dating online because if they approached an actual woman in person and used one of their cheesy online dating pickup lines, they would get slapped in the face.
Don't get me wrong, I am not discouraging anyone from using online dating sites. I am just saying there are some types of dudes that appear on every website. And guys, yes, I know there are some weird women approaching you on online dating sites, too. By all means, please write your own hub about it. I really do want to hear all about it from a male's perspective. For now, let's discuss guys using online dating sites from the female perspective.
Potential Serial Killer
On every dating site, there is a super creepy guy lurking about. On some sites, there are numerous freakish looking dudes roaming around all over the site. You know who I am talking about. These are the guys that look like they've just killed a kitten or they have a dead body buried under their house.
Often, their photo looks like a mugshot. When using an online dating site, it is always a nice idea to attempt to comb one's hair and SMILE. It can go a long way making that mugshot photo look semi-friendly. Sometimes the photo is a sad webcam photo. The guy is alone, just sitting (usually shirtless) in the basement. It is sad, but no one is going to respond to that. Yes, that dude might be a serial killer.
Foot Fetish Guy
Oh, Foot Fetish Guy, you are everywhere on the internet. No harm to you or your foot fetish, but your love of feet has become almost a cliché in the world of online dating. No matter what site you use for online dating, there is always a Foot Fetish Guy. He likes to talk about feet in his profile. He offers to massage your feet if he meets up with you. Sometimes, you might even find a dude that offers you some cash to send photos of your feet. Yes, this has happened to me before. No, I did not take him up on the offer.
The bottom line is, Foot Fetish Guy needs love, too. Somewhere out there, there is Foot Fetish Gal, and she is going to be more than happy to meet up with him. So wherever the foot fetish folks are, more power to you. I hope you find each other and marry someday.
Obviously Gay and In Denial Guy
OK, this is a touchy subject. I am not trying to be controversial with Obviously Gay and In Denial Guy, but every woman out there KNOWS what I am talk about. Let's not kid ourselves about this one. I love gay guys as much as the next girl, maybe more, but I can't date a gay guy. I can go shopping, guy hunting, and to the gym with a gay guy, but dating is not going to happen.
The Obviously Gay and In Denial Guy is online and pretending he likes women. He posts things on his profile about how much he enjoys shopping, manicures, and makeup, but he claims he is not gay. I am pretty open-minded and even went out with a guy like this in the past. And guess what? He was totally, obviously gay! While he ate his delicate salad at dinner, he said things like, "You go, girl!" and "Everyone at Starbucks thinks I'm gay." Ummm... yeah.
Mr. Huggy is a guy that is seen frequently on all dating sites. Mr. Huggy wants everyone to know he is affectionate and friendly. He proves this by posting plenty of photos of him hugging everyone he knows. Mr. Huggy is often seen hugging his mom, his sister, his female friends, and perhaps even his ex-girlfriend or some chicks he just met at the bar. The problem is, Mr. Huggy's plan backfires with all these photos. Women do not see him as affectionate. Instead he is viewed more as "a ladies man" with these photos.
You see, to all you overly affectionate huggy guys out there, when a woman sees that practically every photo on your page features you hugging some other woman, she really doesn't care who you are hugging. You look like the guy that can't keep your hands off other women. I don't care if it states in fine print, "this is my cousin." If you have 8 photos and most of them show you with other women, I am going to think you might be too much of a flirt with other gals. I could be totally wrong, but we won't ever get a chance to find out. Feeling the need to post photos like that says something about you. You are trying to create an image that you are surrounded by other women all the time.
Furthermore, if you are the type of guy that likes to pose with your "bros" while you are at a bar, those photos are not doing you much justice either. Basically, that tells me you hang out with dudes at the bar all the time. Where will I fit in? Also, most of the time when I see a photo with a group of guys, I don't even know which dude is posting the photo. Who are you in the bunch? What is going on? Even if a guy points out which guy he is in the group, most of the time, his friends are better looking. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to message a guy back and say, "I am not interested in you, but your friend is super hot in your third photo. Is he single?" So yeah... group photos... bad idea.
Gamer Guy has been sitting in the basement and playing video games for too long. Now, Gamer Guy is looking for a chick that might also like to hangout in the basement and play Warhammer online all day long. Sadly, Gamer Guy is not really into going out on a date or anything that would actually involve physically leaving his computer, but he is more than happy to open the door and let a lady in... especially if she brings pizza.
Oh, Gamer Guy, your sad existence is a total bummer. I hope one day you find that lady of your dreams, but maybe, just maybe, leaving the computer to take a shower and actually going outdoors to show up for a date will increase your chances of success.
Football Jersey Guy
Football Jersey Guy is the type of guy that pops up around September or October on all the dating websites. There are also plenty of guys that join these sites in the spring as normal dudes, but turn into Football Jersey Guy in the fall.
Basically, Football Jersey Guy is the fellow that is wearing a team's football jersey in most of his profile photos. His overwhelming love for his favorite football teams forces him to wear a jersey in too many photos. I have to be honest with you, guys - unless you actually play for a real football team and you are wearing your actual football jersey, your attire does not impress the ladies. Most of us don't mind one photo or two with a guy wearing a football jersey, but if 4 out of 5 of your photos shows you wearing your football jersey, it is kind of a turnoff.
Honestly, a football jersey is really not that flattering. If you are wearing a jersey, sitting on the couch, and drinking a beer in your photo, it is actually really sad. If you want to really impress the chicks, go outside and have a friend take a picture of you running with a football or something. At least that shows us you don't spend every waking moment screaming at the TV during football season. Posing with your sports memorabilia does not help you either. Can you say obsession?
Overly Aggressive Guy
Unfortunately, many guys that use online dating sites can fall into the Overly Aggressive Guy category. For some reason, guys that are using online dating sites believe they are on a tight schedule and meeting women as fast as possible is the goal. Let me give you a piece of advice guys: women might be online, but it is not like buying something on Amazon. You can't just say, "I want that one," and add a woman to your shopping cart. You need to actually email her and not creep her out in the process.
Overly Aggressive Guy gets upset when he sends an email, but a woman does not respond to it within 24 hours. For some reason, Overly Aggressive Guy gets extremely frustrated if he gives you his phone number and you do not respond immediately. Sometimes a nasty, angry email will follow insisting on reasons why a phone call never occurred. Wow! Can anyone say, "anger management"? Time to push the "block" button on the bottom of his profile.
Now that I've probably angered some overly aggressive men out there, it is time for me to leave the scene. After all, it is going to take some time for me to weed through all the angry responses I will get from this. And once again guys, please remember I would love to hear your stories as well. I am sure you will have fun categories like Crazy Cat Girl and Desperately Seeking a New Man Chick. I look forward to reading it.
Copyright ©2011 Jeannieinabottle
Online Dating Poll
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on August 18, 2020:
Sorry you are having a tough time. I hope things go better for you when COVID-19 quarantine ends.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on August 18, 2020:
Sorry you are having such a rough time. Online dating is not easy for anyone. If you are not getting replies, it is usually because the woman has had a negative experience when she's responded back. I can't tell you how many nasty, scary replies I used to get back if I politely answered back I was not interested. It's probably nothing personal against you.
Slartybartfast on July 31, 2020:
To late, right now with covid19 my dating options would be online or nothing.
I'd say more than half of men(can't speak for women) won't use online dating, ever. I certainly wouldn't.
Understand that I quit trying before covid19 and will never ask a women out again and I'm far from alone.
Online dating has ruined dating completely for most guys.
Tolatenow on July 29, 2020:
I tried online dating, it’s sucked so bad It turned me completely off dating entirely.
I must have messaged half a dozen women with zero response.
If someone takes the time to write you, answer it or don’t use online dating. If you can’t take the time to do this with simple “sorry not interested”
Seriously, how hard is it to reply “no thanks “ ?
If the majority of women think this behavior is anything but terrible, and extremely damaging to all relationships in our society we are all doomed
Now, when i meet a women this is always in the back of my head. Is she online trolling for ego boosts and treating men like shoes from Payless? Has she been completely ruined by online date “shopping “ ?
I find myself not even bothering anymore. In fact vice decided to never ask a women out again and many of my friends have decided the same.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on March 27, 2019:
I heard there are some scary women online as well. I think online dating is quite the "adventure" for anyone. Thanks for dropping by.
Slartybartfast on March 04, 2019:
These guys are a perfect match for the women you meet online.
In fact from the photos I believe some of them are the woman I've met online.
Smarmy2 on May 08, 2018:
I wanted to see what kind I was. Disappointed really. You need to add one.
Fairly attractive, keeps in shape, decent job, nice home asks one women out two years ago he met online, she was nice we had a nice dinner at a ridiculously expensive restaurant and seemed to get along ok.
At the end of the date she kissed me and said that she liked me but she wasn't ready to date anyone and the whole thing was a mistake and that she was married with a child.
She deleted her online account.
I deleted her number then deleted my online account.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on September 29, 2016:
Thank you! I am glad you enjoyed it. I swear I think I dated a guy once that was a serial killer. He creeped me out so much, I actually had to make up an excuse and run away from the date. I am pretty sure there are bodies buried in that guy's backyard. Glad I got away from him!
GreenEyes1607 from USA on September 15, 2016:
This had me laughing at times, but in the end it's all very true. I think I have come across almost every type of guy you listed while online dating. There's always that thought in the back of your mind like "I hope he's not a serial killer" lol. Luckily, none of my dates were otherwise I wouldn't be here to talk about it. Great hub!
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on May 08, 2015:
A-ha, it was probably best to wait then. Sometimes things just work out best the longer you wait, I suppose.
Clayton Hartford from Alger WA on May 07, 2015:
Well, We waited because 1. She was 16 (legal in the UK where she is from) and was when we met, and 2. I was still living at home.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on May 04, 2015:
I do agree that after the first day is too quick. However, I would also personally not wait 2 years either. If that worked for you, that is cool. I usually talked online for at least a few days or longer. I am not using dating sites anymore since I met my fiancé on one of them. Thanks for your comment and have a good day!
Clayton Hartford from Alger WA on May 03, 2015:
How could you want to meet someone in person so fast, i had a gal ask me on the first day, and i dropped her and never spoke to her again. I met my wife on line and didn't mention meeting for two years...Maybe meeting to soon is the problem. Don't push you never know.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on May 01, 2015:
letstalkabouteduc, I am glad you brought this up. I once talked to a guy online for several weeks and never met him. No matter how much I brought up the subject of meeting, he changed the subject. Funny thing is, he worked right down the block from me. It would have been easy to meet during a lunch break or after work. I had to give up on him! For all I know, I was talking to your brother!
McKenna Meyers on May 01, 2015:
Terrific hub! My brother is not a gamer, but he's active with on-line dating with no intention of actually going on a real live date. Why? It's way too messed up for me to decipher, but I'm sure he's not the only one. I think it's like belonging to Weight Watchers but not following their diet plan; you're a little in but not really. I want women to know about these guys like my brother. If the guy doesn't want to get together in the first couple of weeks, don't waste any more time and move to the next!
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on January 17, 2015:
That is so true. Those instant lover guys are so pathetic.... and a little scary.
ThatSweetGirl on January 16, 2015:
What about the "Instant Lovers"?
The ones that don't even know your name but already love you, or is that just with that those creepers decide that they love me for life and want to marry me after a few minutes?
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on August 16, 2014:
Thank you. I am glad you liked it.
Anish Kumar from Mundi Kharar, Mohali, Chandigarh, (Punjab) on August 16, 2014:
Your hub is quite funny.I like your hub.Thanks for this advice :)
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on June 05, 2014:
Sorry you feel that way about online dating sites. You certainly have the right to your opinion. I actually never had to approach any men online... I was approached all the time by men, which is how I was able to write this hub. Good luck at the bars!
P.S. My fiancé and I met online, so there are people who find success with it.
Marvin Holley from Detroit, Michigan on June 05, 2014:
Online dating is definitely(mostly) for chicks on the rebound, attention whores and women with low self-esteem. That's why it's usually a last resort to dating. I learned it was better to let women hit me up online and I not message them at all. When I get messaged by women, they never say anything clever or funny, it's mostly just questions because without they're body or looks sadly women have little charm, or at least the ones I've dated which is a lot. Every possible greeting has been thought of so women don't understand that a simple greeting doesn't mean I'm like the last guy that gave you a simple greeting, that's why women tend to get weird shit messaged to them because we are trying not to be like the other hundred hellos you just received. it's also the wording of the sites like, "match" or "likes" which have different meanings online match really means willing to admit that you are cute enough me to press match yet we are most likely not matches. Same with the like button, but I thought she really liked my so if I see online hell yeah I'm gonna hit her up. We like the same things according to the matched profiles so this should right, wrong. Hello, barely works in any type of way, introductions barely work, short or long, I've actually had my success at saying the most vulgar shit, getting cursed out then apologizing and saying that it was just a joke to make you smile. which still confuses me. I'll stick to bars and clubs where an answer to a question doesn't take 8-72 hours from someone who"likes" me lol. Goodluck fishing gentlemen cause you are gonna need it to find a decent chick on these sites
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on March 26, 2014:
Some men have a lot of nerve. I can't believe how some guys behave on those sites. I wonder if the reasoning behind it is something like, "if she does not like me yet, she will love me when I insult her." I doubt that technique has ever worked for anyone ever, but what do I know?
Good luck with your online dating. At least they are not all total creeps. :-)
SugarQueen from Alabama on March 26, 2014:
I just bit the bullet with a dating website again and got to experience my very first Overly Aggressive Guy, who proceeded to insult me by implying that I was only out for dick pics, then when I sent my message to an earlier comment (I hadn't had the pleasure of reading the dick message yet) he decided to send me his phone number and mentioned that I should contact him, though he thought I was acting like I thought I was too good for him.
I ignored him and he sent me ANOTHER message the next day about how I'm such a game player and that he hopes I enjoy dicks.
This noble Prince Charming of A-hole town is now blocked but I still can't believe it GOT TO THIS. Like, ignoring you was a sign, dude. A sign to STOP MESSAGING ME.
ETI: Oh and he pulled the: "You were my last resort before deleting this account", in his earlier messages. For all the ladies out there--hope it's true. But I sincerely doubt it!
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on December 23, 2013:
Thanks so much for the votes and for checking out my hub. I am always shocked at how many men post terrible photos on their profile in this day and age. I mean, just about everyone has a digital camera or a camera on their phone. There is no reason for such terrible photos! And yes, the guys that mention sex right off the bat are pretty special, but according to some of my male friends, there are women out there that are happy to respond to just that. Who knew?
Thanks again for dropping by!
Yves on December 20, 2013:
I like that you've made this article unique, in part, because you've given funny names to the various online crazies out there. You are so right in saying that some men's pictures resemble mug shots. It's just so weird that anyone would post an ugly photos like that. I mean, really-- how can a man not understand that a picture needs to look pleasant, inviting and, well... normal. And don't you just hate it when guys online say how one of the most important things to them is Sex. Uh, right. Like women don't already know that about men. But at least with a guy like that, he's pretty much given you the information you need to press Delete and not waste another minute of your time.
Anyhoo, your hub made me laugh. Voted Up & funny.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on December 20, 2013:
Levertis Steele - I have heard of those online relationships. How scary! There are too many dishonest people out there. I was not sure how to categorize the total fakes that are lying about their gender, so I just kept that out of the hub, but you are so right. They are definitely out there. Thanks for your comment.
passionate77 -Thanks so much! I am glad you liked the hub, and yes, unfortunately most of it is totally happening on dating sites on any given day.
passionate77 on December 20, 2013:
interesting post in a bit funny way but too true to the point, enjoyed reading, stay blessed!
Levertis Steele from Southern Clime on December 20, 2013:
"On every dating site, there is a super creepy guy lurking about. On some sites, there are numerous freakish looking dudes roaming around all over the site."
This is so true, but some of these guys--women too--are crafty enough to put on sheep's clothing in order to land their catch. Now, that's dangerous.
How about the lonely gay guys and girls who pretend that they are the opposite sex in order to have an online affair with straight people? Some have even had the nerve to meet their "honey" with hopes of being accepted. Imagine what this does to a masculine macho who has fallen head-over-heels in love. I sympathize with the single guys and gals who get fooled, but the married ones who are computer creeps--LOL! Sorry.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on December 20, 2013:
idigwebsites - I also met my boyfriend online, too. We've been together for almost a year... even though he is a bit of the "football jersey" guy. :-) Thanks for dropping by my hub!
rebeccamealey - Online dating can be fun, but it can be a bit scary at times. I am glad I got to experience it for a while though. Thanks for your comment!
starstream - There are some creepy dudes, but plenty of normal guys as well. Online dating is definitely an adventure. Thanks for visiting my hub!
Dreamer at heart from Northern California on December 20, 2013:
This is a super article! While my online dating occurred in 1999 there are some very similar situations. I met two wonderful men and one creepy guy. So, be cautious everyone!
Rebecca Mealey from Northeastern Georgia, USA on December 20, 2013:
Sadly I never got to experience online dating, but it sounds like you have covered every type of guy out there. Good job!
idigwebsites from United States on December 20, 2013:
I met my boyfriend online! I was quite lucky in that. He turned out to be really nice in real life, plus we share almost the same interests. We've been together for 7 years. :)
Clayton Hartford from Alger WA on November 03, 2013:
GwennyOh- unfortunately shows like Oprah and others like her focus on the bad, if they told good stories the ratings would fall through the floor. Sensationalism is what people care about, not the truth
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 03, 2013:
I met my boyfriend online too. Thank goodness for the internet. :-)
Clayton Hartford from Alger WA on November 02, 2013:
I met my wife on line in 99 met n in for first time in person in 02, she moved here and we got married in 04, had our first baby in 11 and will be married for 10 years next year. If not for the web I don't know where I'd be.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on June 13, 2013:
I have a pretty high tolerance for online "weirdness" now, but every now and then, I would still see a guy online that shocked me. For now, I have been dating someone for 4 months I met online... he is pretty normal! :-) Thanks for checking out my hub!
DREAM ON on June 12, 2013:
I am happily married but it is interesting to see how times have changed.I met my wife through my work and after awhile everything clicked.I can see how hard and scary it could be for any woman on a dating site.You scared me me away and I'm a guy.My cousin divorced looking for love in all the wrong places.He agreed with you on many topics.I think old fashioned ways might still be the best way.Interesting and shocking.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 16, 2013:
Thanks so much! I am happy you enjoyed it. :-)
Victoria from Long Island N.Y on April 16, 2013:
I love this article! It speaks the truth and it also gave me a good chuckle.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 16, 2013:
GwennyOh - You have to be really careful with online dating sites. I am cautious, but I do take chances here and there. Some guys are weird, but there are plenty of nice guys, too. Thanks for your comment!
bisnar6665 - Thanks so much! I am glad you enjoyed my hub.
John from Irvine, California on April 15, 2013:
LOL. Your hub is hilarious! They need to have a dateline for people like this!
"Who are you?"
"Why don't you take a seat"
"I think I should leave"
"Why are you here?"
"I wanted to find love"
"You're not going to find it. You can leave if you promise that you will go home and stop using online dating sites"
GwennyOh on April 15, 2013:
I have been married for some time; so online dating is not something I have given thought to. I saw an Oprah show many years ago, where women spoke of some seriously bad stuff that had happened to them due to meeting men they had corresponded with online. One woman had her skull crushed with a baseball bat.
You just don't know who you will meet. But online dating sites are likely going to attract some members who have issues within 'real life' society.
Thanks for this thought provoking article.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 15, 2013:
Thanks so much! Online dating can be an adventure, but it is possible to meet a perfectly nice person while using the sites, too. It helps to have a sense of humor until meeting that perfectly nice person. :-)
Susan Bailey from South Yorkshire, UK on April 15, 2013:
Hilarious! I will of course bear all this in mind if I ever succumb to internet dating. Voted up and funny.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 14, 2013:
Thanks so much! I am happy you enjoyed it. Online dating definitely has its ups and downs. :-)
Chuga from Africa on April 14, 2013:
Seriously funny. I haven't laughed so much in a while. Enough to put anyone off online dating.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 06, 2013:
I just try to look at it as an adventure and that works best. I am currently dating someone that does not fall into any of the categories above and I am pleased about that. :-) Thanks for your comment!
Theophanes Avery from New England on April 05, 2013:
I never partook in online dating so I had no idea... but this was as funny as it was educational for me! thanks for the chuckle and for Pete's Sake stay away from the serial killers and Mr I-Want-You-NOW-dammit! Best wishes in your continued search. :)
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 03, 2013:
hungryhambergur - It is funny when you see someone on a dating site that you actually know in "real life" and connect again. I've had that happen too. Thanks for checking out my hub!
Ardot - I've found the most successful online dating stories often begin with two people meeting without really looking for each other. There is less pressure and people act more like themselves. However, I do know two married couples that met on POF, so it can work on dating sites, too. I am not too sure foot fetish gal exists either, but then again, I am not looking for her. ;-) Thanks for your comment!
Jmillis2006 - I am happy you enjoyed my hub. Maybe you will give online dating a shot sometimes. I can be... ummm... interesting. Thanks for the vote up!
Jmillis2006 from North Carolina on April 02, 2013:
I have never really tried online dating , but this was a very entertaining hub. voted up.
Ardot from Canada on April 02, 2013:
I actually met my wife online in a chat room on yahoo, BEFORE Facebook! In those days it was easy to be "the guy who says he is a girl and chats with guys as a girl" guy.
In those days the online dating scene was for prison inmates and weirdo's posing as people they were not.
But seriously, I met her in the chat room but was not looking to meet anyone, I was just hanging out (as a guy) and happened to find a normal person who lived nearby.
By not looking for love online, I have avoided all of the above profiles you have mentioned.
Great. great, great hub. I love the way you used humor to get across a real point. It can be very dangerous to meet face to face with anyone online.
BTW, guys, stop looking for the elusive "foot fetish gal". She does not exist as you imagine her.
Nicholas from Denver on April 02, 2013:
Thank you for your post. Nice to understand the online dating scene from a women's perspective. Only success story I have is running into a chick I dated and became friends after meeting again.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 02, 2013:
Thanks so much! And ohhh, a MySpace success story! I don't hear about too many of those, but I remember dating a guy or two from MySpace. Those dates actually went better than many of my POF dates. :-)
Amy Rowe on April 01, 2013:
Lol this article is hilarious! Incidentally I met my husband on MySpace!
Jenny from New York City on March 27, 2013:
Good point (about not knowing until you're at mom's house haha). Reminds me of the movie Hangover
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on March 27, 2013:
Oh yes, the Mama's Boy. There are plenty of them on dating sites. You just can't tell at first. It takes a date or two (sometimes at Mom's house) before you realize it. Thanks for checking out my hub!
Jenny from New York City on March 26, 2013:
Really fun article to read. Just wanted to add Mama's boy. I'm sure others have already commented, but there are the good o' normal guys too =)
Jessica "Zeke' from Indianapolis on February 06, 2013:
Your welcome. I do understand that, they can be hard to date when that's all they want to talk about. Even if you, yourself, play games it gets old.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on February 06, 2013:
I have also dated the gamer guy in the past. He is not a horrible person, but typically gamer guy is not a fun date... he'd rather just take you to play video games rather than do anything else. :-) Thanks for your comment!
Jessica "Zeke' from Indianapolis on February 05, 2013:
I prefer the gamer guy more then any of those guys. I like games and find that if you run out of things to talk about then just ask them what game they are playing and within hours you are able to figure out all the cheats to your new game.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on February 03, 2013:
I think I've dated just about all the guys on this list, too. There are some real weirdos out there! Thanks for your comment!
Jessica "Zeke' from Indianapolis on February 03, 2013:
So awesome, I am 19 years old and have dated all these guys before or at least meet them online or in person. Everything you said is basically true.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 25, 2012:
Thanks so much for your comment! You are so right... there isn't much difference between the guys online and guys from high school. As a matter of fact, I think many guys still believe they are in high school and haven't matured much beyond it. ;-)
Jen Card on November 25, 2012:
This was funny! It looks like there is not much difference out there from the guys that were in high school, well except there is the scary factor now. Love this hub! Thank you and I agree that our "gut" instinct really is the tell-tale sign of fear telling you to run like hell or maybe some fluttery butterfly saying "hey this could work!" Thank your for sharing humor and good information.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 24, 2012:
Thanks for the great advice! I totally believe in background checks too. There are some really shady characters out there. I can't believe what a crazy guy you ending up meeting. I am glad you had him figured out. I think plenty of guys are OK online, just a lot are socially awkward or shy. It is a crazy world out there!
personalitykills on November 22, 2012:
I think most men online are are weirdo's (not all but most). A quick real life scenario that happened to me recently. I am a filmmaker who was hiring actors for a short film I was doing. One particular actor and I hit it off as friends and started talking. He is currently on his second wife and from the UK (Wales).
He claims he fell in-love with me and only married twice for his citizenship. I started to smell a rat and felt everything he was saying to me was a lie so I investigated him found his first wife and she told me everything pertaining to who this guy really is.
He has a rape charge against him from when he was 16 cheated on her with transsexuals and a cocktail waitress and was also physically abusive.
She and I recently got in-touch with his current wife who is pregnant and sent her some evidence and info.
All I have to say is this experience rocked my world and really makes me look at men in a different way. Not saying women can't be shady but I do feel there are far more men who need to be upfront and honest with people about who they are especially if they are gay/bisexual.
My advice to everyone is to really do their homework on individuals. I find most people just get caught up in fake charm etc. Really ask questions one thing he always said was "I'm very very smart". I'm glad I didn't date him or marry him (not that I would). Pay attention to red flags and listen to your gut.
Above all DO YOUR HOMEWORK! Background checks and interviews with the exes nowadays you can't be too careful or too trusting.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 21, 2012:
Thanks so much! I really appreciate your feedback and thanks for sharing my hub. It has been a weird and rocky road with online dating.
khmohsin on November 20, 2012:
The online dating and meeting is bitter and sweet experience both at the time or at the different time. Thanks for sharing this awesome information. Really impressed with your touch to online meeting. Liked and shared
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 12, 2012:
This is supposed to be a sarcastic hub based on my actual experiences. There really are some guys like this on the dating sites... not all. Lighten up, dude.
Mark Passarelli from Lakewood Colorado on November 12, 2012:
I don't think it is appropriate to judge people and put them in categories like this. Anyway, seems like you are being really negative and stereotyping people based on vague impressions.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on August 06, 2012:
I do know what you mean... it is easy to get attached to people you don't know because you start to feel like you know them. However, there is a time to let go. I've approached guys that have totally ignored me, too. It happens. Thanks for the comment!
Endquest3 on August 06, 2012:
I think we have typecast just a bit. Probably guilty of getting upset when not replied to- but I admit it, at least. You stay on a site for 4 years and meet a profile that is a perfect match....of course you don't REALLY KNOW THE PERSON.....but you start to believe that it's all been worthwhile because of how much you have in common, how funny you find her, and how adorable she is, etc., etc., and you get ZILCH. I don't think too many men would find this FUN. Of course, you just move on, etc., etc., etc., etc., etc, etc, etc.......
fallingforyou on August 05, 2012:
Great Article, I actually do online dating as well, and yes there are some creapers out there, and there are some good guys too. It's a lot of work filtering through and finding good dates. Thank you for sharing.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on August 01, 2012:
Oh yes, both show a lot of style and class. When I see those photos, I think "winner!" :-)
Lovelovemeloveme from Cindee's Land on August 01, 2012:
actually, i love it even more when they take pictures with 20 dollar bills. Or sunglasses in a dark room! =D
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on August 01, 2012:
Yes, it is an added bonus if the room is dark and the photo is a little grainy. That serial killer look is so hot. Hehe. Thanks for the comment.
Lovelovemeloveme from Cindee's Land on August 01, 2012:
HAHAH love this hub! thanks!
Nothing attracts me more than a profile picture of a stern man glaring at the lenses, unshaven , hair a mess, and half naked.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on July 31, 2012:
Thanks so much! There are some creepy dudes out there. :-)
Nikki Major on July 30, 2012:
This is so funny!.... but very insightful. Great job.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on July 12, 2012:
Jessie Whitmere - We just might have dated the same guy! Hahaha. I think some guys need to come to terms with what they really want. It is sad to live a lie. Even weirder, the guy I went out with had even managed to find a wife at some point, but it ended quickly. Bet I know why! Thanks for the comment!
Grant N.Z. - Don't be shy on the dating sites. There are plenty of people out there that are also shy, but would be happy if someone sent them a message. The worst thing that can happen is someone turns you down or never responds. It is nothing personal. As long as you don't come across as being too forward, people are usually nice to you. Give it a try! Thanks for the comment.
macteacher - You are so right... creepy and aggressive never work. Some people just weren't taught manners and that is a shame. Thanks for dropping by!
Wendy Golden from New York on July 12, 2012:
Great hub advising the perils of online dating. There are so many socially challenged people trying to find love online. They don't get that their demeanor online is just as important as offline. Creepy and aggressive doesn't work in any format. LOL.
Grant N.Z from New Zealand on June 11, 2012:
Very Good. Made me laugh. I am single and a male. I have always had a partner all my life until the last couple of years. So i joined a dating site. And one thing you have said is 100 percent correct for me. I have been on the site for 2 years. I never send smiles, messages etc etc. Because as you said , i don't know how to react. And rather than get it wrong i just look and never interact. That is silly , as i am a nice guy, i am resonabley clever ,[except when it comes to spelling]. But am just not good at talking by typing , particularly when i think the lady is pretty , and i don't want to stuff anything up. So i just convinse myself i am busy and tell myself i will do something about dating later. I suppose its because i have always meet any partners in person. And we have ended up together just because we meet by chance and got on so well. Dating sites seem so planned , serial killers must like that part. I live in New Zealand and am not sure if we have ever had a serial killer. In fack i have just asked some of my workmates, some being fairly older and they have all siad , NO , NZ has never had a serial killer. Mind you we didn't realey get into online dating sites until it had been in the USA for quite some time. Perhaps we are just a bit slower at starting new things. Perhaps i could be our first serial killer. And maybe because i make jokes like that it proves i will never do any good at dating. Anyway i enjoyed your hub and i made me laugh. You are funny. Cheers Grant
Jessie Whitmire on May 29, 2012:
My only date from an online dating site was with someone who I think might be gay. He made negative comments about my appearance. He also noticed my shoes and makeup and took me to a gay bar. He was also a jerk.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 24, 2012:
We seem to be attracting the same people. So many people tell me success stories, yet I can't seem to find that myself. I don't know what is going on out there, but there are a lot of weirdos on those sites. Thanks for reading and thanks for the comment!
rmcleve on April 24, 2012:
You hit it right on the money! I have the power of pulling gay men from the woodwork and have been in the awkward situation of trying to date gay guys many times. The other people I met in my online forays were just pervs trying to get with an overly naïve, overly trusting, clever, verbose young lady with self-esteem issues.
I'm sure for many people, online dating is perfect. For me, it was just another way to settle. I met my SO through a friend and am very appreciative of how everything fell into place naturally. And it turns out, he is about 90% less creepy than anyone I met online!
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 23, 2012:
Good advice! Thanks for sharing. :-)
tragsdale86 on April 23, 2012:
Ya there are some good guys out there. I'm very happy with one of them now. Just be careful out there everyone! ")
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 23, 2012:
It sure can be a scary thing sometimes. So far, I've met a couple of decent guys even if it hasn't worked out. I am usually able to weed out the weirdos before dating them, but every now and then one sneaks through. Thanks for the comment and the concern!
tragsdale86 on April 22, 2012:
Dating online can be a very scary thing. There are all kinds of weirdos out there. Luckily I didn't meet a weirdo and it actually worked out great. I'm still with him and still happy. Be careful out there everyone though cuz there are a few "special" people who have nothing better to do than mess with people.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 22, 2012:
Oh, Hunter Guy. I guess that is a regional thing. If I find a guy with guns in his photos, he is killing people not animals. I live in Baltimore, so things might be a little different here. I think I might search in a different region so I can see Hunter Guy. He sounds... ummm... interesting. Thanks for sharing this with me!
Gemini Fox on April 22, 2012:
You forgot one . . . Hunter Guy. I moved from AZ to OK and noticed that some men out here, for some completely uncomprehensible reason, apparently think that it is manly to have the main photo of themselves in fatigues with a dead buck/deer! Is that to prove they can bring home the "bacon"?! Are they going to expect me to butcher it?! Eeeeewwwwww!!!
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on April 22, 2012:
Thank you both so much!
Turtlewoman, yes, every now and then, there are totally normal guys on these sites. Sometimes they are just shy or they are tired of dating women at bars. Thanks for the votes!
amymarie_5, I know exactly what you mean. I can't stand the bar photos, but even more than that, what type of message does that send? Oh yes, the Mama's Boy. I hate the Mama's Boys, but I have a harder time sorting through those online. I basically just state in my profile not to approach me if a guy lives with his mom. I guess that weeds them out. Thanks for the vote and for sharing!
Amy DeMarco from Chicago on April 22, 2012:
What a great idea for a hub! Don't know how I never thought of it. This is all so true. I once got messages by a guy whose main picture was him at bar with his arms around scantily clad women who obviously worked there. Not sure why he thought that would be a good idea for a profile pic! There's one othe type that I came across that ive got to add: the mamas boy! These guys write things like " looking for a REAL woman who will cook and clean while I'm at work." Then you kinda realize why these guys are single :)
This was so amusing. Rated all ups and shared!
Kim Lam from California on April 21, 2012:
Hey I recognize the guy with the beard that you posted! We dated for....heehee just kidding. He does look pretty creepy. I'm sure there are a lot of weirdos out there on dating sites. But once in a while there are some decent guys (like some of my guy friends) who are tired of picking up women at the bar/club. Then there are the shy ones and the really busy professionals....but I think the majority rules when it comes to all the ones that you mentioned in this hub. Voted up and interesting! :-)
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on March 28, 2012:
Online dating can be fun. It can also be creepy. I agree there are totally normal people using dating sites or I wouldn't use them. However, there are certain "types" on each site and I find that funny. Sometimes I think it is just the same guy on each site. Thanks for the comment!
bryanbaldwin from Los Angeles on March 27, 2012:
Lets not give "online" too bad of a wrap. Online dating won't cure your dating problems, it's just another options to meet people. If all you do is attract "crazy" people "real life" or online.... the problem is something else.
That being said, I love online dating and have met some wonderful women and some crazies, just like real life.
I encourage everyone I know to give it a shot.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on December 16, 2011:
Yeah, some dudes need to calm down. I am not going out on a date with some random dude too quickly. Thanks for reading and for the comment!
Shaddie from Washington state on December 15, 2011:
Overly Aggressive Guy was always my least favorite. They need to take some chill pills.
Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on November 23, 2011:
Hahaha... chances are, I would meet a serial killer before I would win the lottery. Wow... she does sound like an overly aggressive lady. I guess there are some creepy women online, too. Thanks for reading and for the comment!
Vladi Dorfman on November 23, 2011:
Heya, a really good and entertaining read!
I think the chance of meeting a serial killer is close to scoring on the lottery, these guys are very rare although it's probably not very pleasant to actually "score" and meet them as opposed to winning the lottery.
I once dated an "overly aggressive lady" I met online (drawing a parallel line here), it somewhat shocked me to know she dated over 15 guys in a very short period of time. No doubt, relationship was discontinued quickly (it actually came from her, but I was relieved!).