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From flirting to sexting to drunk texting your ex, this post looks at the different texting mistakes that both guys and girls often make. These blunders can fill you with regret and can even break apart friendships and relationships. Here is a quick reminder of some of the major texting DON'Ts.
1. Avoid texting your ex.
Hold yourself back every time you feel the urge to send your ex a text. Whether it is for your ex's birthday or because you want them back in your life, you will definitely regret texting them.
Don't let your emotions get the better of you. Calm down and think again—why do you even want to talk to your ex? A few deep breaths and some mature reasoning should be all you need to stop yourself from texting something you'll regret later.
2. Don't send nudes.
iPhones and other smartphones have made it really easy to take great selfies—with or without clothes. Never let the ease of taking such selfies let you get carried away. Make it a rule that you will never send a naked picture of yourself to anyone by text.
Remember that you will never be able to take back that message. Even if you send it to your boyfriend or girlfriend, there are no guarantees that they will delete it if and when you break up.
There are heaps of things that can go wrong. Apart from the fact that there will be a naked picture of yours lying in someone's inbox forever, it can be shared, edited or even uploaded onto social networks.
3. Don't say bad things about someone else through text.
This applies especially to people who love to gossip. Apart from the fact that talking about someone behind their back is not a good thing to do in the first place, doing it by text can create more problems.
Your text could be shown to other people, including the person you were saying bad things about. Unless you are talking to a friend who you trust with your life, avoid saying nasty things about other people by text. You never know who that text could be forwarded to.
4. Be careful when flirting through text—your texts might not be private.
Flirting through text is the stuff puppy love is made of. It's fun and exciting, but don't let this excitement get the better of you. Lots of people like to share their flirty conversations with their best friends or even colleagues.
This isn't meant to dissuade you from being flirty over text, but you should try not to cross the line—the last thing you would want is to find out later that your naughty texts were being read by all the friends of the person you were sending them to.
5. Watch out for those 'rule-breaker' texts.
Depending on your situation in life, there are a few rules that you can break that will probably have a huge impact on your life.
For example, suppose you flirt with a colleague at work over text—those texts could possibly get you fired from your job. Be careful when sending texts that can land you into a lot of trouble.
6. Texting too much can make you sound like a nag.
Don't take your love for texting to the extreme by sending too many messages over different platforms. People will take your texts for granted and may even start ignoring you.
It is one thing to chat with your bestie all day long, but don't do it with every single person in your phone book.
7. Avoid drunk texting and save yourself from future embarrassment.
Drunk texting happens when you've had a drink too many. You are likely to write something that is either too nonsensical to understand or something that becomes embarrassing the next morning.
Something as silly as a few drunk texts can snowball into a conversation that you regret having later. You could unknowingly reveal some of your embarrassing secrets and feelings about people—the possibilities are endless and when you drunk text, and you will never be able to take those words back.
8. Not replying to texts
Wouldn't you hate it if you sent a text to someone and they never replied? That is exactly how other people feel when you don't reply to their texts. Unless you have decided to ignore that person for a specific reason, don't procrastinate replying to a text.
Frustration, anxiety and unnecessary confusion can follow when texts go unanswered for too long. Best friends could fall out, arguments could send a couple's love life into a tizzy and colleagues might start giving each other bad vibes.
9. Don't be needy—avoid sending a second text before receiving a reply.
Don't send a text saying, "Did you get my last text?" to someone after you have already sent a message to them. Use a little bit of common sense—either they have not seen the message or they don't want to reply.
You will come across as clingy and needy if you do this again and again. You may even be perceived as a person who doesn't have a life because you have nothing better to do.
For example, suppose you sent your crush a flirty text. A couple of hours pass, but you still don't get a reply. Avoid sounding like a loser by sending yet another text that's asking your crush if he or she read your earlier message.
10. Take texts at face value.
Text messages tend to be overanalyzed all the time. People start reading between the lines and try to find a hidden meaning, even when there is none. This leads to confusion and bad vibes.
For example, when a guy sends, "Hey lets hang out together" to a girl, it could easily be misinterpreted as to mean that he likes her. While some assumptions are unavoidable, don't overanalyze text messages. It is a one-way street to frustration. Learn how to take texts at face value.
11. Never admit a mistake on text.
Admitting mistakes through texts is probably one of the silliest things people do. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that that text could come back and haunt you later.
Whether it is something as cute as saying a white lie to your boyfriend or something more serious that could get you in trouble, never rant about your mistakes in a text. Even if you are having a conversation with your best friend and you want to confess something you did, stop texting and give them a call instead.
12. Don't text anything that you'll later regret.
The things mentioned in this post apply to teenagers, adults, girlfriends, boyfriends, colleagues, husbands, wives, and people from all walks of life. However, there may be some things specific to your situation in life that haven't been mentioned.
While it is impossible to make texting foolproof, make a rule to quickly read your text before you hit send. Those few extra seconds may save you from embarrassment later.
Rose Clearfield from Milwaukee, Wisconsin on January 25, 2014:
Great tips! So many of them are applicable outside of relationship settings as well.
Judy Specht from California on January 24, 2014:
Over texting killed more than one relationship my sons have had. Never thought of it as sounding like nagging. Excellent advice Princess. Voted up and very useful