Texting Mistakes Guys and Girls Make: How to Avoid Text Regret

Updated on November 21, 2016

From flirting to sexting and from sending a text to your ex to drunk texting – this post looks at texting mistakes that guys and girls make often. These blunders cause regret and can possibly break apart friendships and relationships. This post doesn't intend to take the fun out of texting but a quick read will remind you of the DON'Ts when it comes to sending texts.

Feeling the urge to send a text to your ex? It is probably best if you don't. Calm down and put that phone away.
Feeling the urge to send a text to your ex? It is probably best if you don't. Calm down and put that phone away. | Source

1) Avoid texting your ex

Hold yourself back every time you feel the urge to send your ex a text. Whether it is for your ex's birthday or because you feel that you want your ex back in your life, texting an ex is something that you will regret.

Don't let your emotions get the better of you. Calm down and think again. Ask yourself for reasons why you think you should text your ex. A few deep breathes and mature reasoning should be all it takes to stop yourself from texting something you regret later.

2) Don't get into sexting: Never send a naked picture of yourself by text

iPhones and other smartphones have made it really easy to take great selfies – with or without clothes. Never let the ease of taking such selfies let you get carried away. Make it a rule that you will never send a naked picture of yourself to anyone by text.

Remember that you will never be able to undo sending such a message. Even if you send it to your boyfriend or girlfriend, there are no guarantees that it will be deleted if and when you break up.

There are heaps of things that can go wrong. Apart from the fact that there will be a naked picture of yours lying in someone's inbox forever, it can be shared, morphed or even uploaded on social networks.

3) Don't say bad things about someone else on text

This applies especially to guys and girls who love to gossip. Apart from the fact that talking about someone behind their backs in not a good thing to do in the first place, doing it by text can create more problems.

Your text could be deliberately shown to other people, including the person you were saying bad things about. Unless you are talking to a friend who you trust with your life, avoid saying nasty things about other people on text. You never know who that text could be forwarded to.

4) Flirting on text: Remember that your texts won't be private

Flirting on text is the stuff puppy love is made of. It's fun and exciting. But don't let this excitement get the better of you. Guys and girls generally like to share their flirty conversations with best friends and even colleagues.

This isn't meant to dissuade you from being flirty over text. But you should not cross the line because the last thing you would want is to find out later that your naughty texts were being read by all the friends of the guy or girl you were sending them to.

5) Watch out for those 'rule-breaker' texts

Depending on your life situation, there are a few things that will probably have a life changing impact because you broke a rule.

For example, suppose you flirt with a colleague at work over text. That text could possibly get you fired from your job. So keep an eye out for these 'rule-breaker' texts that can land you into a lot of trouble.

6) Texting too much can make you sound like a nag

Don't take your love for texting to the extreme. This includes messages on WhatsApp, WeChat and all the other ones sent over other instant messaging apps. People will take your texts for granted and may even start ignoring you.

It is one thing to chat with your bestie all day long. But don't do it with every single person in your phone book.

7) Avoid drunk texting: Save yourself the embarrassment later

Drunk texting happens when you have had a drink too many. You are likely to write something that is either too gibberish to understand or something that turns into an embarrassment the next morning.

Something as silly as a few drunk texts can snowball into a conversation that you regret having later. You could unknowingly reveal some of your embarrassing habits, say personal stuff, spill secrets, be rude to someone – the possibilities are endless and when you text while you are drunk and you will never be able to take your words back.

8) Not replying to texts

Wouldn't you hate it if you sent a text to someone and they never replied? That is exactly how other people feel when you don't reply to their texts. Unless you have decided to ignore that person for a specific reason, don't procrastinate replying to a text.

Frustration, anxiety and unnecessary confusion are some of the things that follow when texts go unanswered. Best friends could fall out, arguments could send a couple's love life into a tizzy and colleagues might start giving each other bad vibes when texts go unanswered.

9) Avoid sending a second text before receiving a reply: Don't be needy

'Did you get my last text?' is something that you should never send after you have already sent a message to someone. Use a little bit of common sense - either they have not seen the message or they don't want to reply.

You will come across as clingy and needy if you do this again and again. You may be even perceived as a person who doesn't have a life because you have nothing better to do.

For example, suppose you sent your crush a flirty text. It has been a couple of hours but you haven't got a reply. Avoid sounding like a loser by sending yet another text, asking your crush if he or she read your earlier message.

Stop reading between the lines when it comes to text messages. It can cause a lot of confusion.
Stop reading between the lines when it comes to text messages. It can cause a lot of confusion.

10) Overanalyzing texts every time: Take texts at face value

Text messages tend to be overanalyzed all the time. People start reading between the lines and try to find a hidden meaning, even when there is none. This leads to confusion and bad vibes.

For example, when a guy sends 'Hey lets hang out together' as a text to a girl, it could easily be misinterpreted as he likes her.

While some assumptions are unavoidable, don't overanalyze text messages. It is a one-way street to frustration. Learn how to take texts at face value.

11) Never admit a mistake on text

Admitting mistakes on texts is probably one of the silliest things people do. It doesn't take an evolved brain to figure out that that text could come back and bite you later.

Whether it is something as cute as saying a white lie to your boyfriend or something more serious that could get you in trouble, never rant about your mistakes in a text. Even if you are having a conversation with your best friend and you want to confess something you did, stop texting and discuss it over a phone call.

12) Anything that can later cause a lot of regret

The things mentioned in this post apply to teenagers, adults, girlfriends, boyfriends, colleagues, husbands, wives and most other people from all walks of life. However there may be stuff very specific to your life situation, that hasn't been mentioned.

While it is impossible to make texting foolproof, make a rule to quickly read your text before you hit send. Those few extra seconds may save you from embarrassment later.

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        Rose Clearfield 

        4 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

        Great tips! So many of them are applicable outside of relationship settings as well.

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        Judy Specht 

        4 years ago from California

        Over texting killed more than one relationship my sons have had. Never thought of it as sounding like nagging. Excellent advice Princess. Voted up and very useful

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