How to Tell If He Likes You: Nine Signs He's Got a Crush
Is He Into You?
He might be rude . . . or sweet! How can you tell?
Some girls are great at telling when a guy likes them. But a lot of girls have a hard time reading the signs. A boy might tease you or try to please you, but sometimes they send mixed signals.
Is the boy you like ignoring you or being arrogant and coy? Some boys are rude to disguise how they feel. Insecurity and confusion can muddy the waters and make it hard for a girl to tell where they stand.
Check out these signs. Most boys who like a girl will do at least one of these things, on purpose or unconsciously.
1. He Stares at You
. . . . and maybe looks away when you notice.
The first, most common sign that he is interested is that he looks at you and looks away when you see him. He may look awkward. You know it's a good thing when he smiles at you. Sometimes it may feel tense because you haven’t spoken to each other before.
He may also avoid making eye contact. If he glances at you to ask common questions in class like "Where do we turn this in?" or "Did you understand this question?” then he may be nervous but wants to get your attention. He's intimidated because you're attractive. If he looks at the floor while talking to you, he's just shy.
2. He's Super Shy
Does it seem like he wants to tell you something?
Maybe you've known him for a while, or maybe not, and he's suddenly super shy around you. Does it seem like he wants to tell you something? Then he probably does.
It might be the first time he's really liked a girl. If you can, help put him at ease. He may seem to avoid you, or even be a little rude, but if you can tell he's watching your every move, ask him to walk you home or to class. Keep it light.
3. He Touches You
Does he stand close or even take your hand?
Some guys just can't hide the way they feel. Even if they're shy or insecure, they might make excuses to sit next to you or just bump you by accident. Sometimes this can be something like a friendly punch on the shoulder—it's playful but still a sign that he's trying to find ways to touch you.
Does he bump shoulders with you while you're walking down the hall? Better still, does he push your hair out of your eyes? There's no way a guy would do this unless he had a crush.
4. He Looks at Your Eyes and Lips
. . . . and might keep staring at your mouth.
This is important! If he looks at your eyes and then your lips, you’ve sealed the deal: He likes you. What guy looks at a girl’s lips if he isn’t into her? If he gets close or even hugs you, he is throwing signs at you and it's up to you to catch them.
Ignoring someone is another sign of liking them. Watch carefully next time you see him: if he sees you glance or stare at him a lot and quickly looks away but with a serious, blank, or curious expression, see if he ignores you the rest of the day. If he does, then he likes you. You have really got to him and he likes you, but he doesn't know how to approach you.
5. He Uses Your Name When He Talks to You
Or maybe he changes his tone when he's talking to you.
Tone and language are big clues to whether he likes you. Does he ever call you “dude” or “yo”?
If he does, then he probably thinks of you as just a friend. But when a guy calls you by your name, it's a total sign of respect and he might even like you.
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6. He Looks at You From a Distance
He singles you out in a crowd.
There are many ways a guy might try to hide that they like you. An example is when you look at him first and he looks at you second and then quickly looks away. It could be the other way around, but most of the time the guy ends up looking away first. This is an obvious sign that he likes you.
Another example is when he looks at you from a distance and his face sort of freezes, maybe in a half-smile, smirk, wink, or a blank but curious look. If he stares at you and holds your gaze for a few seconds, he is interested.
7. He Tries to Make You Laugh
He might even tease you a little.
Does he show off around you? Clowning around, trying to make you laugh—these could be signs that he likes you. Pay attention if he acts especially energetic or silly around you and whether he acts the same way in front of everyone else.
If he teases you, ask yourself whether he does this all the time or only when the two of you are alone. If he changes his way of treating you when friends are around, then he may like you a lot but doesn't want to admit it to anyone. He could also be confused about how to act.
8. He Texts You
If he's texting you frequently or commenting on or liking your Instagram or Facebook posts, then he might have a thing for you. Some guys are very friendly and are really into liking all their friends' stuff online, so see if he does the same thing for everyone else. But if he has your number (or got it), and is talking to you (especially at night), then he probably likes you.
9. He Shows Interest in You Even If He Is Shy
Is he the athletic and confident type? The bubbly, always humble type of guy? Or maybe he is just shy? Many types of guys are keepers. Most are down-to-earth and interesting. The bubbly, humble type of guy can be really confident and can make you smile and laugh. The shy guy may have a secret side to him like hobbies, talents, and interests that intrigue you.
If they like you, they'll listen to you when you talk and remember the things you say. They might bring up details from a conversation you had a while ago. They'll also notice differences in your appearance, like if you get a haircut or have a new shirt.
What Do You Do Now?
That depends on your situation. If it's someone you see regularly but don't really know, try to befriend them with a conversation about an upcoming school event, class, or club.
Don't be afraid to try a simple, "Hi, my name is _____." If they like you, they'll be so happy you made the first move. If not, then at least you'll know and you can find someone who does.
You could also find him on Instagram or Facebook and friend him. That might be enough for him to feel encouraged to talk to you.
Once you know what your crush is like, it will be easier to figure him out. When you come across a guy with the right characteristics, then chase him. Or make him chase you!