Know the red flags before you truly commit to this man.
Do you constantly feel insecure whenever your boyfriend mentions his ex? If he still talks about her often, chances are he still hasn't moved on yet. Before you totally commit yourself to this man, it would be best to recognize the warning signs that could possibly ruin your budding relationship.
He still gets emotional whenever he talks about his ex
If you just started dating and you can't help but notice how emotional he gets when he talks about her, there's a great possibility that he is still not over her. He still hasn't come to terms with the fact that they are no longer be together. Sadly, this is a huge red flag. You may just be hurting yourself by thinking he will move on from his past love by allowing yourself to become a rebound girl.
He can't stop comparing you to her
Another warning sign to look out for is when your boyfriend can't help but compare you to his ex. This may come out whenever you two have a conversation or when he gets to observe a trait that is comparable to his ex. He might say things like his ex is also like you, thoughtful and kind, or comment on a physical attribute you both have, like nice hair or a sweet smile.
In worst cases, he may openly suggest that his ex is more refined, smart or elegant than you. This may be a sign of immaturity, but it also shows how he still adores anything that reminds him of his past love.
He still chats or talks with her a lot
If you can't help but feel worried about the fact that he still hasn't cut his connections with her, chances are he is still hoping for them to get back together. While some men do stay in touch with their exes, those who still haven't moved on will chat or text their exes on a frequent basis. If you ask, they'd most likely shrug it off and tell you it's nothing.
He still keep tabs with her on social media
Is your boyfriend more up-to-date with the social media updates of his ex than yours? Does he frequently visit her profile or timeline just to see what she's up to? He most likely won't consider this a big deal, but if his browser history tells otherwise, then perhaps it's best to reconsider where your relationship is heading.
He can't stand seeing her getting chummy with another man
If he seems to get jealous when he sees his ex with someone else, he might just say that his reaction is purely out of concern. However, if he can't even come to terms with his feelings, or can't respect the fact that his ex has already made a choice to move on, then you are most likely just filling a void.
He still keeps her gifts as his precious mementos
Some people are OK with keeping gifts from their exes after a breakup. However, there's no more personal attachment. If your boyfriend still considers the gifts from his ex as truly precious, it could be a warning sign that he still can't help but think about her.
You sense that something is "off"
Call it a woman's intuition. He may indulge you with sweet words, but if his actions shows the total opposite, then he is not giving you the love and care that you deserve.
If you can't help but feel bothered or worried that your boyfriend is not over his ex, it would be best to talk to him about it. Be honest with him about your concerns. Even if he says he wants you in his life, you have to remember that you deserve no less than a man who is capable of letting go of his ex.
In finding love, I think it's important to be patient. In being in a relationship, I think it's important to be honest, to communicate, to respect and trust, and to strive to give more than you take.
— Kina Grannis
© 2017 Kent Peligrino