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Top 5 Signs You Are Too Obsessed With Online Dating

Jeannie has been writing online for over 10 years. She covers a wide variety of topics - hobbies, opinions, dating advice, and more!

Maybe It Is Time to Log Off . . .

It seems as if online dating is the most popular way couples meet now. I am actually more surprised when I meet a couple that didn't meet online now. No matter how practical and convenient online dating might be, it still doesn't mean it is healthy to use dating sites all the time. It also doesn't mean it is a good idea to join every single dating site out there. Sometimes you can become obsessed with online dating.

Have you ever wondered how you can tell if you are using online dating sites too much? Thankfully, I am here to help you. Check out some obvious signs that you might need to resist the urge to join every online dating site and you might need to slow down with logging in all the time.

1. You Are Using Sites That Don't Even Apply to You

If you are joining every single dating site out there and half of them don't even apply to you, it is time to cool it. Perhaps you need to take a step back and evaluate why you, a 25 year old, 100 pound white woman, is trying to sign up for sites like "50 and Over Singles," "Black and Beautiful," and "Big Girls Need Love Too."

Let's face it, you might have a problem if you belong to 10 or more dating sites. Perhaps just 2 or 3 at a time would be a good idea.

2. You Are Recognized on the Streets

If you are walking down the street one day, minding your own business, and a guy comes up to you and asks for your autograph, you might be an Online Dating Legend. If the guy tells you, "Me and my friends have been scoping out your many profiles for years. You are SweetiePie1999! I can't believe I am really meeting you!"

Not only is this super creepy, it is time to reconsider your profile name and your ability to ever get a date. Every now and then, you need to stop using your profile, take some time off from online dating, and then create a new profile. This is especially the case if the year you joined is in your screen name and that year is before 2009.

3. You Start Resenting Shirtless Guys

Let's face it, if you are a woman using an online dating site, you have seen lots and lots of shirtless guys. Some guys are really hot, but conceited because they have at least 5 shirtless pics in their profile. Other guys are just scaring women away with an inability to realize being extremely overweight and shirtless is not helping them find a date.

You know you have been visiting too many online dating profiles if you have this conversation with a friend:

"I am so tired of all these shirtless guys! What is wrong with them?"

Friend: "Ummm... we're at the beach. This is pretty normal."


4. You Are Creating a Waitlist for Dates

You are probably using too many online dating websites if you can't even keep up with all your dates. If you have even considered making a spreadsheet to keep up with potential dates, you have a problem. If you are creating a waitlist for everyone that wants to date you, you also have issues. If you've even told some potential dates that you are adding him to a waitlist, seek help now! It is time to stop logging into dating sites so much.

5. You Start Recognizing Guys You've Seen on Dating Sites

If you are sitting in a bar with one of your friends and many of the guys in the bar start to look familiar to you, you are probably using too many online dating sites. It is considerably worse if this conversation occurs:

Friend: "Oh, that guy is totally cute over there!"

"Oh yeah, that is Frank. He likes dining out, NASCAR, and collecting comic books."

Friend: "Do you know him"

"Nope. That is BeansAndFrank82 from Plenty of Fish."

Yes, this is just one more subtle way to tell you are using dating sites just too much. Plenty of folks use dating sites on and off for years. However, it is just a little sad and a bit obsessive if you've been using many sites for years without any type of break. It is time to take a break now! Trust me, you will thank me one day.


Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on June 12, 2014:

I am happy you are not obsessed with dating. Thanks for checking out my hub!

adamvalerius on June 11, 2014:

I decided to check out this Hub because I wondered if I had an obsession with dating in general, not just online. It looks like I do NOT because I have NEVER done the actions described in this Hub apply to me. Feel free to Google me and see for yourself.

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on May 23, 2013:

Thanks so much! Yes, it is true. Some people are way more willing to try it than others. There are some weirdos on there, but weirdos are everywhere anyway.

Amanda Jones on May 23, 2013:

Nice hub, it's quite interesting,that some people are afraid of joining online dating site while others are obssed with it. It's deffinitely worth a try!!

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on September 18, 2012:

Oh, you should give it a try. Even if you don't find a decent date, you will surely get a few good laughs. Thanks for checking out my hub!

Nell Rose from England on September 18, 2012:

lol! really funny! I must admit that I have been tempted to try them, but haven't got the nerve up just yet!

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on September 17, 2012:

Thanks so much for the vote up. Yeah, it is scary sometimes. I've dealt with some real weirdos lately, yet I continue. I think it is just too much fun to write about. ;-)

Suzie from Carson City on September 17, 2012:

There were no on-line dating sites when I was dating. Who am I kidding?....there was NO "on-line" when I was dating. OK...Home PC'S weren't a reality back then.

I know some people who found love and/or marriage.....and some who found their tires slashed and a bloody horse head in their bed......it's a gamble. Scary as hell, IMO. This is another jeannie-original-funny-as-hell...............UP+

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on September 17, 2012:

Yes, when they say "plenty" of fish, they definitely need to stress the plenty but not necessarily the quality. Two of my co-workers did meet their husbands on that site though, so there must be quality guys on there somewhere. I have met some really nice guys though... I am just not clicking with them. There is usually a few major flaws... or 10 major flaws. ;-)

Tara Carbery from Cheshire, UK on September 17, 2012:

Aha! POF was the website I used too! I think because it's free you get lots of non-desirables. I went to a comedy night and a comedian asked a couple where they had met and they said POF! It's definitely used by a lot of people!

Jeannie Marie (author) from Baltimore, MD on September 17, 2012:

Alecia Murphy - I will never understand why people work so hard having a good online image, yet they have crappy personalities in reality. What's the point? Nonetheless, it happens all the time. I am happy you enjoyed my hub and thanks for the comment!

Peanutritious - Hey, a 4 month relationship is better than anything I'm coming up with. Although, I have been dating someone on and off for almost 4 months that I met online. It is just going nowhere, so I've added a couple of extra guys to my dating life. I figured 3 semi-decent men adds up to one OK guy. :-) Thanks for the comment! I am happy I could give you a laugh.

Janine Huldie - You and a bunch of other people I know have had great success on dating websites. I seem to be getting a lot of responses, but not a lot of quality. For now, it is just a source of entertainment. I got the idea for this hub when I went to see a band play recently, looked around the whole room full of 20 - 40 somethings, and thought, "I recognize some of these guys from POF. Oh dear!" Hehe. It was an eye opening experience. Thanks for the vote and thanks for sharing my hub!

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on September 17, 2012:

Jeannie, coming from someone who met her husband on Match.com, I found this one to be pretty damned funny. I truly glad I wasn't that obsessed and using those sites back then too much, but used it for what is was worth and did end up being a success story. Thank you though for putting a humorous spin on this way of trying to find a mate. Have voted, shared and tweeted as always!!

Tara Carbery from Cheshire, UK on September 17, 2012:

Ha ha ha! I dabbled with a dating site briefly and had a one off date then one which develped into an admittedly odd 4 month relationship. It's put me off for life! I was sick of shirtless guys, ones that supposedly go to the gym every day (yeah right), one's that couldn't spell, liked football and frankly were a bit thick! The guy I saw for 4 months was very intelligent which made him stand out a mile. Sadly, he was secretive, had OCD and never ever got his wallet out ever! I know some people find the love of their lives online but it wasn't quite like that for me! Thanks for the laugh!

Alecia Murphy from Wilmington, North Carolina on September 17, 2012:

Awesome as usual :). I've never used online dating but like anything else online I imagine it can get addictive. It seems to me so many people are so busy presenting their online selves they fail to present the real person. Unless you have a record or something like that- there's no reason to hide behind an idealized self. Thanks for the morning laughs Jeannie!

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