Signs She Likes You Through Texting

What do Girls Mean When They Text?

This is a sequel to my article Signs He Likes You Through Texting. Girls often text differently from their male counterparts. If you're a guy, it can be tough to figure out what a girl really means. Is she just asking for directions, or something more? Was that really just a picture of puppies? Once you understand how she's trying to communicate with you, it will be a lot easier to tell if she's interested.

Guys: what are your favorite kinds of text messages to receive from girl?

  • Cute ones with pictures of her face
  • Ones where she sends you an inside joke.
  • Lengthy, heartfelt ones.
  • Ones that brush your ego, compliment you, and leave a ;)
  • Ones that try to initiate hanging out
  • Ones asking for your help.
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Subject: What Is She Texting?

This should be your first question: what is she talking about? And is there a deeper meaning beneath her words?

Lighthearted Texting

There are lots of fun, little texts that you may not even think about, but that also give subtle hints that this girl likes you and wants you to like her. Here are some signs to look out for.

  1. If she sends you a message that is meant to be taken as funny or random, and it's out of the blue, she probably wants to flirt with you.
  2. If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions.
  3. She'll bring up inside jokes as a way to break the ice.
  4. Any kind of "breaking the ice" topics are a good sign that she likes you. If you have no idea why she's starting a conversation through text and it seems comical, she definitely likes you.
  5. If she brings up anything featuring words such as: shower, bed, or clothing changes, she might be flirting. Girls are not as direct and these seem like hot buzz words to throw to see if you react. Girls who do this might not be looking for a relationship, but something more short term. Either way, they're probably being flirty.
  6. If she asks what you like about her looks, such as whether her hair is curly or straight, it's because she wants to know what appeals to you. Same goes with what colors suit her, which of her outfits you like best, etc.
  7. Girls may get weird or shy away if you become too overt or sexual. Be a gentleman to her so you don't freak her out. Girls are more sensitive in some ways about language, so consider the possible effect of an innocent innuendo about 5Xs before sending.
  8. She will have an assortment of nicknames for you. If you receive a message with more than ONE nickname, she likes you.
  9. If she calls you out for something or playfully teases you, she's comfortable with you and may be being flirty.
  10. If she says, "EWWWWW!" or something of the sort... that's not a great response.
  11. If she texts you about her family or pets, she probably wants you to know them and associates you with them, or is very close to her family.
  12. Same goes for texting you about anything positive or cute. She probably associates you with those feelings. Seriously, once I texted a guy about puppies that I saw from my car. I wasn't really texting him about puppies. I was really saying "I WISH YOU COULD BE HERE AND SEE THESE CUTE PUPPIES BECAUSE I LIKE PUPPIES AND I LIKE YOU AND YOU'RE CUTE!" Sometimes this is what women are really feeling and they try to tone it down so you won't run away. He ended up liking the puppy text, by the way. ;)
  13. If she compliments your strong arms, shoulders, or how you hug, she's trying to find a nice way to say she likes when you touch her.
  14. If she talks about other guys to you, this isn't good. Guys sometimes talk about the girls they like to the girl they really like; girls don't really do that. If they tell you about guys they like, most likely they see you as a friend. Girls keep their business private when they think they might have a chance with you.

Serious Subjects? She Seriously Likes You.

If a girl is texting you during tough times or about serious things in her life, and especially if she's allowing herself to be emotionally vulnerable with you, that's a huge deal because it means she trusts and respects you. Of course, a girl might trust and respect you and still only see you as a friend. But chances are, if she's letting herself get that close to you, she probably likes you as something more. The following are text message signs that will let you know that this girl really, really likes you.

  1. If she sends you a nice text after you have had a breakup with someone else, consider this a sign of careful interest. She's on top of what's going on, but she doesn't want to be a jerk and swoop in on you. Instead, she's checking in on you to see how you're doing and see if she can do something about it. She wants to be around you, and to be there for you if you need it.
  2. If she texts you when there's a problem and she needs help. You're one of the few people she thinks will be handy in a situation that takes problem-solving, whether killing a spider, finding her keys, or comforting her when she is sad.
  3. If she writes to you talking about her day, she likes the attention you give her and she wants to open up to you. If she's talking a lot to you, she wants you to open up. She may not be sure how to get you to talk. Women love listeners, but they love when you talk too. They see it as an affirmation that the relationship isn't just one-sided.
  4. If she texts you a compliment, she might be thinking of you and missing you.
  5. If she texts you an "I miss you" out of the blue or after a long text conversation: sweet goodness, go meet up with her. She's either been dying to say that, or has been thinking about you a lot and is probably feeling like others don't compare. Because, you know, others don't compare. :)
  6. She'll give you advice. Girls knows it's weird to give advice in a text message, especially long advice, but if she cares about you and notices something that you're doing is off, then she'll be dying to confront it. BECAUSE SHE CARES.
  7. If she texts you about events that are way out in the future, she might want you to accompany her and is telling you to keep your calendar free...for her. Women drop hints about what they want to do with you. They have visions about having fun, and they want someone to go with them, play games, eat food, and spend quality time.
  8. If she texts you an "I'm sorry" message, then she doesn't want to be on bad terms with you. She cares about you and about what you think of her. She probably really is sorry.
  9. If she texts you "I like you" or "I love you" multiply this by about 20. Unless she dishes that out to everyone, those words are gutsy.
  10. If a woman texts you when she is sad this can go two ways: 1.) Unfortunately, she may be manipulating you and knows that emotions will hook a guy, or 2.) She may need comfort and sees you as someone she can trust when vulnerable.
  11. If a woman is being vulnerable with you, and is truly honest, that shouldn't be taken for granted. She probably MORE than likes you. Try to respect that vulnerability and act worthy of her trust.

Timing: When Is She Texting?

Timing and context are all important when figuring out text messages. How often does she text you?

Context: Trying to Meet Up

Are you trying to upgrade your interactions from social media to real life hanging out? Here are some signs that will help you figure out if she'd like to do that, too, and if she is using text messaging to try and find a way to spend more time with you.

  1. If she mentions something that could be an activity, she's trying to gauge if you would like to do that activity with her. For example, "Do you like bowling?" means she wants to go bowling with you.
  2. If she texts you to try to meet up with you, she's trying to create a connection and see how you're doing. Questions such as asking you to do a favor for her, asking to borrow a book, or asking you to escort her through an unpleasant situation are all good signs. These are open-ended interactions that create an opportunity for you
  3. If she says she is busy, more than likely she'll try to schedule you in at another time right then and there. If she leaves it at ambiguous "busy" she's probably trying to be nice about letting you down, or is completely booked (either way, it's better to leave the ball in her court.)
  4. If she makes up a ridiculous excuse like, "I have to watch my cat tonight." OR "I'm washing my hair tonight." Then you are the equivalent of dirt.
  5. If she texts you to see if you are going to a party, she more than likely wants to go with you or see you there.

Some girls prefer to act cool than be flirty. Don't get too discouraged if that's the case!
Some girls prefer to act cool than be flirty. Don't get too discouraged if that's the case!

Frequency and Timing

Often, the amount a girl texts you is even more important than what she's actually texting. Time of day, frequency, and occasion can all be important clues as to how much a girl likes you. Here are some signs relating to not what she texts you, but when and how often.

  1. When a girl really, really likes you she will text you a lot. She may initiate several conversations, though this will frustrate her because she will think that you don't like her if you never initiate.
  2. If she texts you back when it's unnecessary, she wants to keep the conversation alive. Any part on her to keep the conversation alive, especially the longer it goes on, is an obvious indication that she enjoys talking / flirting with you.
  3. If she doesn't text back at all after several days, that's a big bad sign. Women don't typically do that. She may forget, but usually will send a courtesy text to apologize. Flat-out forgetting several times is weird.
  4. Some women are not as overt as others, she may rely more on her sense of humor and the amount of texts she sends. There's nothing wrong with her, she just prefers to be cool rather than a total flirtbag.
  5. Sometimes girls send you back a response to AFFIRM that they like you. Keep this in mind!
  6. With each 10 responses given in a day, the bigger the chance that she likes you. For instance, 10 texts a day is a lot, 20 is very indicative, 30 is flat out obvious, with 40 you should go see her, and 50 is incredible.
  7. If she texts you on and off throughout an entire day, that is indicative...on both your parts.
  8. If she initiates some sort of texting game with you, she may be trying to gauge your interest and figure you out. This may be for fun, but the longer it continues, the more likely she is crushing on you.
  9. If she texts late at night, and it's not a booty call, she likes you. She knows 1am is a strange time, and would have to really trust and think you're safe if she is doing so if it's not overt.
  10. Girls will consistently text if they like you. They will try to figure out some sort of pattern. If you are getting a lot of texts in a week, month, year, two years—try thinking about all of it together.
  11. If she sends you texts every day, she likes you.
  12. If she texts you after a hangout saying that she enjoyed spending time with you, it is unlikely to just be courtesy.
  13. If she texts all your guy friends a whole lot, then she is either a big texter, or is hoping one of you will get the hint.
  14. If she doesn't text you the day of her birthday or a few days after, you screwed up.
  15. If she doesn't text you when she is gone for a weekend and you are in a relationship, she might be considering breaking up with you.

Beyond Words: Pictures and Formatting

A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words: Texting in Pics

If the girl you like is sending you pictures, that's a great sign. Usually, she'll either send you a picture of something she thinks is cool or funny (like a funny license place or a cute dog) or she'll send you pictures of herself. If she sends you pictures of other stuff, she's saying "This reminded me of you," or she simply likes you so much that she wants to share fun moments with you. If she's sending you pictures of herself, that's even better.

  1. She'll send you pictures of her animals that she thinks are cute because she hopes it'll make a positive impression, and because if she likes you, she wants you to like her animals as much as she does.
  2. If she sends pictures of herself to you: yeah, she likes you. Do not share pictures of her with your friends ever. It's for you.
  3. If she sends pictures with her face and she wants to show you her outfit, such as for school or work, she likes you in a a serious way and wants your opinion.
  4. If you get pictures of certain specific body parts, something more scandalous, especially without her face visible, that probably means you are a booty call.
  5. If she sends you a lot of pictures that are just random: she likes you and wants to share little moments with you.
  6. If she posts pictures on her Instagram, count the amount that are related to you. The more the better. If she has lots of pictures with everyone, then this isn't as accurate.
  7. If she texts you back with a picture of something you gave her with smiley faces, she's trying to affirm that she likes you back, and she appreciates your gift.
  8. Girls are more likely to use smileys and exclamation marks than boys. The winky face is a dead giveaway. If there's an overabundance of smileys, exclamation marks, and overall excitement, that's also an positive sign.

Lots of emoticons is a great sign!
Lots of emoticons is a great sign!


After all, there's more to text messages than the words themselves. Length, syntax, even punctuation can be an indicator of whether a girl likes you. A general rule is: the more time she spends on a text for you, the more she cares about you and about what you think. So, longer texts, well-written texts, proper spelling: those are all good signs.

  1. You may get a few overwhelming, long-winded texts. It's not because she's crazy or doesn't know how to be concise, she really cares about you, and for whatever reason isn't given the chance to say some things straight to your face. She may give long winded advice or send you the longest rants of goofiness. Don't let it overwhelm you. Take it as a major compliment that she's crushing on you.
  2. It's a bad sign if a girl only texts you one word responses. Women generally hate receiving these and think something is wrong or you're just not interested. A one word response from a woman is frowned upon.
  3. If her texts become less excited, she may find the relationship less exciting. Even if the relationship is leveling out, encourage her crazy texting. Happy, fun texting is a good indication of relationship health. When it becomes only a means of contact and sorting affairs, you're getting dull.
  4. If her responses are flat, she may be busy. Do not immediately think she is annoyed. She may be...but consider that she might be busy.
  5. The words k, okay, and fine are not great indicators.
  6. Any form of XOXOXOX is a dead giveaway.
  7. If she communicates a lot with you in other written mediums, social networks, and emails, she likes you. Girls want to create connection. They want responses so they can feel confident about your interest, and they want to figure out if you're right for them without being too obvious.
  8. Be cautious of drunk texts. These can be indicative, but sometimes girls just send drunken texts out of their ridiculousness and love for the world. Men drunk texting generally means more, especially if it doesn't have overt sexual tones.
  9. If she sends you poetry, such as haikus, she is trying to have fun with you. If this becomes a consistent thing, she likes you.
  10. If she sends you song lyrics, come on, seriously...she likes you.
  11. If she sends you a text with the worst grammar you have ever seen, bad spelling, no real thought: either she doesn't care or is drunk. Girls try to be particular about punctuation and crap, especially as they get older. High schools girls may be more into abbreviations and slang, but someone in grad school? Obviously, this stuff would be beneath them.

Guys, how much do you care about the girl's text message grammar skills?

  • Let's put it this way: I hate abbreviations.
  • Everyone makes mistakes here and there.
  • I love when girls use semi-colons, have an understanding of sentence structure, and realize they have spellcheck.
  • I could care less.
  • I like texting lingo, slang, and abbreviations. Screw sentence structure.
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Josh 2 years ago

I like

Jackson 2 years ago

Sweet my gf must like me

Earl 2 years ago

Got 126 replies from the girl I like yesterday, does she like me or is she a big texter? Most of the convo is complimenting each other

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SerenityHalo 2 years ago from Chicago Author

Likely yes.

alen 2 years ago

She love me!!

Ben 23 months ago

ok so i spend about 6 hours every night texting her and eniter one wants to stop the conversation. we finally stop because the conversations get weird and basicallly our brains begin shutting down so that we start spewing the weirdest crap ever. Idk, she shays she thinks im cute, she sends ;) in almost every single one of her texts. she is willing to share her insecurities, and constantly gives me compliments though half the time i think she's faking it and i don't feel worthy of her. Its kind of like a she CAN'T like me because she has way beter guys who she could go for. we don't know each other too well in real life because of school and well i should say were both sophomores, but im almost a year older. so somebody give me some advice! SPEAK PEOPLE! oh and yeah, shes constantly telling me im funny and crazy.

jhon stewart 22 months ago

Ben dude she is definitely into you. You can't expect for the girl to set up the date. You're the one with the balls so use them. She clearly likes you, if shes texting you non stop and telling you you're cute. Ask her to the movies and go in for the kiss. Its the only way to know if shes really into you

Loverboy23 22 months ago

Well, I met a girl a who does many of these indicators, she send me emoticons, exclamation marks etc.... I kind like her too shes a beautiful awesome girl who texts me everyday just about... I want to say this article was great, Im like 99.9% sure she likes my now after reading this!

Stargrrl 19 months ago

There is some pretty good information here, from a girl's perspective. Good points made. Voted up.

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Kate Motina 19 months ago from Kharkov, Ukraine

As a girl, i can say that almost all of these signs are right)) And number 2 "If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions." It made me cry! the very truth itself! But it'snot about texting)Many of men are really annoying, but now, i want him to understand my feelings so much!!((( i met one guy on Ever since I've known him, i'm crazy about him! I would like he catch my hints!

Katrin19 19 months ago

As a girl, i can say that almost all of these signs are right)) And number 2 "If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions." It made me cry! the very truth itself! But it'snot about texting)Many of men are really annoying, but now, i want him to understand my feelings so much!!((( i met one guy on Ever since I've known him, i'm crazy about him! I would like he catch my hints!

Fran 19 months ago

I was so sad when this ended...

moto 18 months ago

I met a girl and i was texting with her about 2 years and now.she sends me a lot of smily,texts about her family etc.we daily texts a lot.when she is online all the time she starts the text.few days before i told 'i love u'.she is not avoiding me.she she is acting the same.but she told me to wait for 3 years after that only she can take a decision.

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DonellMcGriff LM 18 months ago

I hated texting until i met her. Now we text each other everyday from good mornings to good nights...

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FatBoyThin 18 months ago from Kinneff, Scotland

Very interesting and useful - all I need now is a girl to text me! Great Hub.

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Engelta 18 months ago from Albania

Some of them are very true, and lots of them are funny! Some times, that is not what's really happening, but everyone is different, and everyone has it's own manners of approaching people or asking for attention. Great hub by the way, you have really put some thought and effort in it!

JP 18 months ago

I've dated this girl before. A year and a half ago. I've missed her like crazy. She's all I want. Well, her and her now ex boyfriend just broke up. She started talking to me again. At first, we talkie on Facebook, then she asked for my number again. So we text and snapchat. She initiated conversation several times. She sends tons of smileys and exclamation marks and texts frequently. That was day one and part of day two. Now it's like she slowed down on the texting and everything. She doesn't respond as fast and doesn't seem to want to talk. Keep in mind I know this girl well, we dated for six months before. I asked her to talk on the phone tonight and she said not tonight. But we do have plans to meet up and go running later this week. I don't know wether or not she wants me back or not. It's very confusing with the mixed signals. She's told me several months before that I was still the best she's ever had basically and said she liked me the best of everyone she dated and was currently dating. I'm not sure if I'm kinda freaking out over nothing or what. I just want things to work out for us. But basically, she talked a lot at first and she was the one keeping the conversation going. And now it's like she doesn't want to talk. What do I do?

JustRandom 17 months ago

JP, I know its hard - but don't try so hard and give her some room for considerations. Especially after a fresh break up, it may be better for your relationship (in the long term) to slow down just that little tad and meeting up in person as soon as possible. At least this is my experience regarding this topic. Emotions can be very harsh on some people as everyone reacts differently.

So, my advice would be to aim for a date as soon as possible and comdortable in order for the two of you to potentially build a stable and loving relationship.

All the best, L. M.

joseph mburu 16 months ago

That information helped me a lot to know that my girl friend loves me

Nicolas 16 months ago

I got 36 responses today she sends me blushing and kissie faces do you think she likes me?

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SerenityHalo 16 months ago from Chicago Author

Most likely yes.

Masi 16 months ago

She texts my name in exclamation marks..what does that mean? the way we have been texting for few months now

Johndeer 14 months ago

what does she mean if she says okk wen I ask her something is it like.a I'm gonna ignore it or I can't wait to for it

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SerenityHalo 14 months ago from Chicago Author


I wouldn't look too deep into that. "Okay" is affirmative of whatever was said. It might be kind of bland or apathetic, but other cues might mean trouble rather than just "okay" by itself.

Diane 9 months ago

I noticed that in the early days/months of a relationship men communicate a lot back and forth but as time goes on it becomes less frequent even though they are still together with you. Why the change in frequency of communication?

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SerenityHalo 9 months ago from Chicago Author


Good question! A lot of people slow down on texting because it's time consuming. Messages back and forth should slow down after awhile and you should see the person more in person. Texting is a way to get to know each other and give the relationship momentum. Some people like texting more than others. If you've been in a relationship for awhile, consider other aspects of the relationship outside of texting and ask yourself if it is normal or healthy.

Jesus 8 months ago

I got this girl's number today after class and we just startrd texting and she puts some emoticons and exlamation marks. We text all day and really had a good convo late into the night. Do you think she likes me or just see me as a friend?

Jon 8 months ago

Just counted the texts from a girl I like in one day it was 118 yeah buddy

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SerenityHalo 8 months ago from Chicago Author


Hello, Jesus!

I'm leaning toward she likes you. Emoticons + exclamation marks + having a good conversation are all pluses. See if it keeps going that way and you have a winner.

dhruv 7 months ago

I like a girl. Around 2 months ago she told me u are a good friend. But now it has changed.We text each other frequently in a day. Some times she text very cute messages to me and sometimes she acts just normal. Sometimes she sends me some wierd messages like name of the songs.... I don't even understand that message why she is texting me name of the songs. She always text me back whenever she is free. Does she like me or just see me as a good friend?

Kirito 7 months ago


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SerenityHalo 7 months ago from Chicago Author


The key is to stay consistent! Consistency helps develop romance.

Natalie Thompson 7 months ago

Long article but informative and easy to read! Structuring the numbered sentences with a bold word or phrase at first would make it easier for a reader to locate the type of texts they want to identify. For example 2. Texts often— (in bold)

You obviously are experienced at giving solid advice!

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SerenityHalo 4 months ago from Chicago Author


Don't get too focused on this one girl. A crush of that many years can be hard on you. Keep talking to her, be a positive influence in her life.

Gary 2 months ago

I'm confused sends a lot of text one minute then stops what does this mean

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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author


I'm not sure that means anything definitely one way or the other. Do they have texting streaks and then stop altogether for days? If they're still talking to you... that is positive.

Connor 2 months ago

This girl DMed me on instagram and we talked for a bit. I woke up this morning and she sent me a message with her snap and told me to add her. We talked for a bit, but it was slow at first because i was busy. Later in the day we started talking very quickly to each other tonight. I have flirted with her a bit, and i can't tell if she has. But me and her, and her one friend ended up going to get slurps because she wouldn't leave me alone unless i came. I haven't gotten much from her on how she feels, but she laughs a lot at my jokes, and she has jokes around with me a little. Does she like me?

Unknown 2 months ago

I don't know if this girl likes me, she texts me a lot of laughing face emojis and a lot of funny pics and memes. We talk a lot like 3 hrs a day and she has done like 3 or 4 suggestive texts in the last week. She has sent me a pic *NOT NUDE* and I have quickly shut down her some of her flirting as I'm shy, however we have flirted but idk if it means anything. She often laughs at my jokes and random antics with a mix of either lol, lmao or haha...

But when one of my friends asked her if she knew me she just said yeah and moved on... I'm so confused rn. She initiates the conversations like 30% of the time. also we met playing a game *we're not nerds* we just got bored over the summer and she left her clan to join mine, I'm not sure why but...yeah

Also we have a lot of back and forth and it brightens my day when we talk.

She has told me some stuff like she plays volleyball and swims and works out. Also she told me she was playing in a quarter final.

I don't know but I kinda like her and I don't know if she likes me....

I used to hate texting until now...

We have only been texting a week so?

She also was nice to me when I broke up with my girlfriend and gave me advice on how to and things.

If anyone could enlighten me on my situation then... Much appreciated

Thank you

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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author


Only a week? This intensity has only been for a week? I'm pretty certain she likes you. Keep the conversation going. Flirt a little bit, tell her she's pretty, try to hang out, and make her smile. Compliments are a good way to show interest. Be media savvy and don't send dirty pics -- those can be used against you. Let her know you think she's pretty. Ask her out when you think it feels right.

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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author


Keep talking to her. It's in the really early stages. Sound like she is interested in seeing where it goes and has a positive perception of you. Not sure if it is romantic.

JonathonWhitley 8 weeks ago

I'm frustrated bc she goes back and forth, she'll send me pics of her, then one word messages and back to pics. She will ask if I want to come over, the next time she has plans.

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SerenityHalo 7 weeks ago from Chicago Author


What happens in person is more important than what happens through text. She could have different amounts of free time and busyness which causes her texts to differ in length and variety. Maybe she's not good with words and understands pictures. Is this something you want? Are you liking the chemistry you have through texting?

Eastwood S13 7 weeks ago

She texted me go away like 100 times...i thnk she likes me...yipeerr

jam 7 weeks ago

I'm not sure if she likes me we both made bucket list she said we should stay in a hotel she asked me if I live nearby her friends house . She aldosterone asked me if I'm going to England anytime soon

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SerenityHalo 4 weeks ago from Chicago Author

Sounds like she might be interested.

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SerenityHalo 4 weeks ago from Chicago Author

I mean, if she's doing it sarcastically.

Unknown 4 weeks ago

Does number of exclamation marks matter? I've read that 3+ means the complete opposite?? Source:

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SerenityHalo 4 weeks ago from Chicago Author

Depends on the person.

Laurence 4 weeks ago

So , there's this girl. We talk like on and off every day all day, like about conversations on her day, sending pics of her cats etc I usually get like 10 or more messages from her on one subject. I've made her laugh a few times. She has sent me pics of herself but not nudes or anything just normal selfies. Today we were having a conversation about this dress she brought and was telling me her size etc. She opens up to me about her anxiety as we're both awkward and both have anxiety too. Could she be interested?

Oi 3 weeks ago

Sends me 200-300 texts /day for about a month everyday..maybe more sometimes...

Me 3 weeks ago

This girl im texting is sending mixed signals, she called me deep one time, i usually initiate texting but she always repsonds at some point, I asked her on a date once 3 years ago and about a week ago she texted me out of the blue and now we have been texting daily about simple things, is that a good sign or is me always initiating a sign that this is going downhill?

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SerenityHalo 2 weeks ago from Chicago Author


Women like when men initiate. If she keeps talking, that is a good sign. If she texted you out of the blue, that is good as well. I say keep talking, see where it goes, raise the curiosity a touch.

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SerenityHalo 2 weeks ago from Chicago Author


I think she is likely interested. Keep talking and see where it goes. :)

Whatup 8 days ago

This girl with who I was talking yesterday via snapchat was almost always using a filter but the snaps were lovely and funny also we spended 2hours and even more on snap together she also laughs alot with my jokes but she doesn't often use emojis or kisses also cuz we talked for the real first time since I met her at a party. When we were at the party she initiaded the conversation but for like 10 mins maybe we were a bit too shy then and in school we don t see each other often but when we meet in class( like for 5 lessons in a whole week) we have a laugh and we talk a bit and sometimes I catch her looking at me but anyways can anyone let me know ?what this means

Craig 8 days ago

Right here's mine,

I've known her 3 months, talked to her quite a lot but never really thought much about it the first month, talked a lot but we'd be hanging out with a lot of people.

I had a girlfriend and she had a boyfriend when we first met, I'm single now and I think she is too (not a hundred percent sure but she hasn't mentioned him in weeks and she was going to break up with him the last time she mentioned him).

We'd normally talk a lot during the day but I don't see her anymore but we now talk everyday. Normally starts during the day and ends all the way till bed. A few times a week she either phones me or I phone her and we chat about everything. Lots of emoji's and pictures about everything (hair colour change, dinner, out with friends all of that). She sometimes adds kisses at the end but sometimes doesn't. I'd say it's me starting the texting about 2/3, maybe 3/4 of the time but she's normally the one that calls.

The only problem is English isn't her first language (she's Greek) so I'm not sure if she's into me or if she just likes talking. We're both really busy so when we make plans something normally comes up or we get pulled into meeting with others.

She does use some of the slang words that I say now but honestly, and there's a lot of haha's and big smileys but I'm not kidding here when I say I genuinely have no idea if she's interested. There's also a few inside jokes. Cannot tell if it's interest or if I've ended up being a really good friend.

Sorry for the long one but I'm genuinely confused haha

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SerenityHalo 7 days ago from Chicago Author

First things first: definitely establish whether or not she is single. That will help clear the air for you. :) Hopefully this can come up naturally, but it should be something to address.

I really think you have a really good shot here. I think you should see her in person and see where it goes. That will help since English isn't her first language, and I can understand how that would be confusing. European norms are not the same as American ones, and the like, etc. If she is talking to you that constantly about everything, she clearly has a strong connection with you, and I'm thinking it is because she is interested.

I think it should be okay at this point to ask her if she sees you as a friend or someone she could potentially date.

I don't think it'll hurt the friendship if it's strong enough for you to tell her you like her. She's gotta be thinking something is up at this point too.

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SerenityHalo 7 days ago from Chicago Author

This sounds like really, really early stages of anything. There may be interest -- I suggest keep doing what you're doing, and let it naturally go the course it is going on currently.

Bharat 4 days ago

I have known her 1 year. She never texts me first, everytime I message her first. I remember she texted me once when she needed help. I really don't know if she likes me.

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SerenityHalo 4 days ago from Chicago Author

What kind of things do you guys say?

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