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Signs She Likes You Through Texting

Updated on October 24, 2016
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Andrea loves to write on the zodiac, Myers Briggs, and texting. She is an expert on romance and relationships. She also has two cats.

What Do Girls Mean When They Text?

Girls often text differently from their male counterparts. If you're a guy, it can be tough to figure out what a girl really means.

Is she just asking for directions, or something more? Was that really just a picture of puppies? Once you understand how she's trying to communicate with you over text, it will be a lot easier to tell if she's interested.

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Top 10 Signs She Likes You Over Text

Before we get into the details, here are the top ways you can know if a girl likes you through text. Below you'll find plenty more ways and lots of details.

  1. She texts you very frequently and often initiates conversation.
  2. She keeps the conversation going when she could have ended it.
  3. She sends you pictures, either of things that she thinks are funny or cute or pictures of herself.
  4. She replies to your texts quickly.
  5. She texts you at night.
  6. She uses lots of emojis and rarely gives you one-word answers to your texts.
  7. She sends you poetry, song lyrics, or articles that she likes.
  8. She asks you questions.
  9. She teases you.
  10. She asks to hang out with you or see you in person.

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Subject: What Is She Texting?

This should be your first question: what is she talking about? And is there a deeper meaning beneath her words?

Lighthearted Texting

There are lots of fun, little texts that you may not even think about, but that also give subtle hints that this girl likes you and wants you to like her. Here are some signs to look out for.

  1. If she sends you a message that is meant to be taken as funny or random, and it's out of the blue, she probably wants to flirt with you.
  2. If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions.
  3. She'll bring up inside jokes as a way to break the ice.
  4. Any kind of "breaking the ice" topics are a good sign that she likes you. If you have no idea why she's starting a conversation through text and it seems comical, she definitely likes you.
  5. If she brings up anything featuring words such as: shower, bed, or clothing changes, she might be flirting. Girls are not as direct as guys and these seem like hot buzz words to throw to see if you react. Girls who do this might not be looking for a relationship, but something more short term. Either way, they're probably being flirty.
  6. If she asks what you like about her looks, such as whether her hair is curly or straight, it's because she wants to know what appeals to you. Same goes with what colors suit her, which of her outfits you like best, etc.
  7. Girls may get weird or shy away if you become too overt or sexual. Be a gentleman to her so you don't freak her out. Girls are more sensitive in some ways about language, so consider the possible effect of an innocent innuendo about 5Xs before sending.
  8. She will have an assortment of nicknames for you. If you receive a message with more than ONE nickname, she likes you.
  9. If she calls you out for something or playfully teases you, she's comfortable with you and may be being flirty.
  10. If she says, "EWWWWW!" or something of the sort . . . . that's not a great response.
  11. If she texts you about her family or pets, she probably wants you to know them and associates you with them, or is very close to her family.
  12. Same goes for texting you about anything positive or cute. She probably associates you with those feelings. Seriously, once I texted a guy about puppies that I saw from my car. I wasn't really texting him about puppies. I was really saying "I WISH YOU COULD BE HERE AND SEE THESE CUTE PUPPIES BECAUSE I LIKE PUPPIES AND I LIKE YOU AND YOU'RE CUTE!" Sometimes this is what women are really feeling and they try to tone it down so you won't run away. He ended up liking the puppy text, by the way. ;)
  13. If she compliments your strong arms, shoulders, or how you hug, she's trying to find a nice way to say she likes when you touch her.
  14. If she talks about other guys to you, this isn't good. Guys sometimes talk about the girls they like to the girl they really like; girls don't really do that. If they tell you about guys they like, most likely they see you as a friend. Girls keep their business private when they think they might have a chance with you.

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Serious Subjects? She Seriously Likes You.

If a girl is texting you during tough times or about serious things in her life, and especially if she's allowing herself to be emotionally vulnerable with you, that's a huge deal because it means she trusts and respects you. Of course, a girl might trust and respect you and still only see you as a friend. But chances are, if she's letting herself get that close to you, she probably likes you as something more. The following are text message signs that will let you know that this girl really, really likes you.

  1. If she sends you a nice text after you have had a breakup with someone else, consider this a sign of careful interest. She's on top of what's going on, but she doesn't want to be a jerk and swoop in on you. Instead, she's checking in on you to see how you're doing and see if she can do something about it. She wants to be around you, and to be there for you if you need it.
  2. If she texts you when there's a problem and she needs help. You're one of the few people she thinks will be handy in a situation that takes problem-solving, whether killing a spider, finding her keys, or comforting her when she is sad.
  3. If she writes to you talking about her day, she likes the attention you give her and she wants to open up to you. If she's talking a lot to you, she wants you to open up. She may not be sure how to get you to talk. Women love listeners, but they love when you talk too. They see it as an affirmation that the relationship isn't just one-sided.
  4. If she texts you a compliment, she might be thinking of you and missing you.
  5. If she texts you an "I miss you" out of the blue or after a long text conversation: sweet goodness, go meet up with her. She's either been dying to say that, or has been thinking about you a lot and is probably feeling like others don't compare. Because, you know, others don't compare. :)
  6. She'll give you advice. Girls knows it's weird to give advice in a text message, especially long advice, but if she cares about you and notices something that you're doing is off, then she'll be dying to confront it. BECAUSE SHE CARES.
  7. If she texts you about events that are way out in the future, she might want you to accompany her and is telling you to keep your calendar free...for her. Women drop hints about what they want to do with you. They have visions about having fun, and they want someone to go with them, play games, eat food, and spend quality time.
  8. If she texts you an "I'm sorry" message, then she doesn't want to be on bad terms with you. She cares about you and about what you think of her. She probably really is sorry.
  9. If she texts you "I like you" or "I love you" multiply this by about 20. Unless she dishes that out to everyone, those words are gutsy.
  10. If a woman texts you when she is sad this can go two ways: 1.) Unfortunately, she may be manipulating you and knows that emotions will hook a guy, or 2.) She may need comfort and sees you as someone she can trust when vulnerable.
  11. If a woman is being vulnerable with you, and is truly honest, that shouldn't be taken for granted. She probably MORE than likes you. Try to respect that vulnerability and act worthy of her trust.

Timing: When Is She Texting?

Timing and context are all important when figuring out text messages. How often does she text you?

Context: Trying to Meet Up

Are you trying to upgrade your interactions from social media to real life hanging out? Here are some signs that will help you figure out if she'd like to do that, too, and if she is using text messaging to try and find a way to spend more time with you.

  1. If she mentions something that could be an activity, she's trying to gauge if you would like to do that activity with her. For example, "Do you like bowling?" means she wants to go bowling with you.
  2. If she texts you to try to meet up with you, she's trying to create a connection and see how you're doing. Questions such as asking you to do a favor for her, asking to borrow a book, or asking you to escort her through an unpleasant situation are all good signs. These are open-ended interactions that create an opportunity for you
  3. If she says she is busy, more than likely she'll try to schedule you in at another time right then and there. If she leaves it at ambiguous "busy" she's probably trying to be nice about letting you down, or is completely booked (either way, it's better to leave the ball in her court.)
  4. If she makes up a ridiculous excuse like, "I have to watch my cat tonight." OR "I'm washing my hair tonight." Then you are the equivalent of dirt.
  5. If she texts you to see if you are going to a party, she more than likely wants to go with you or see you there.

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Frequency and Timing

Often, the amount a girl texts you is even more important than what she's actually texting. Time of day, frequency, and occasion can all be important clues as to how much a girl likes you. Here are some signs relating to not what she texts you, but when and how often.

  1. When a girl really, really likes you she will text you a lot. She may initiate several conversations, though this will frustrate her because she will think that you don't like her if you never initiate.
  2. If she texts you back when it's unnecessary, she wants to keep the conversation alive. Any part on her to keep the conversation alive, especially the longer it goes on, is an obvious indication that she enjoys talking / flirting with you.
  3. If she doesn't text back at all after several days, that's a big bad sign. Women don't typically do that. She may forget, but usually will send a courtesy text to apologize. Flat-out forgetting several times is weird.
  4. Some women are not as overt as others, she may rely more on her sense of humor and the amount of texts she sends. There's nothing wrong with her, she just prefers to be cool rather than a total flirtbag.
  5. Sometimes girls send you back a response to AFFIRM that they like you. Keep this in mind!
  6. With each 10 responses given in a day, the bigger the chance that she likes you. For instance, 10 texts a day is a lot, 20 is very indicative, 30 is flat out obvious, with 40 you should go see her, and 50 is incredible.
  7. If she texts you on and off throughout an entire day, that is indicative...on both your parts.
  8. If she initiates some sort of texting game with you, she may be trying to gauge your interest and figure you out. This may be for fun, but the longer it continues, the more likely she is crushing on you.
  9. If she texts late at night, and it's not a booty call, she likes you. She knows 1am is a strange time, and would have to really trust and think you're safe if she is doing so if it's not overt.
  10. Girls will consistently text if they like you. They will try to figure out some sort of pattern. If you are getting a lot of texts in a week, month, year, two years—try thinking about all of it together.
  11. If she sends you texts every day, she likes you.
  12. If she texts you after a hangout saying that she enjoyed spending time with you, it is unlikely to just be courtesy.
  13. If she texts all your guy friends a whole lot, then she is either a big texter, or is hoping one of you will get the hint.
  14. If she doesn't text you the day of her birthday or a few days after, you screwed up.
  15. If she doesn't text you when she is gone for a weekend and you are in a relationship, she might be considering breaking up with you.

Beyond Words: Pictures and Formatting

A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words: Texting in Pics

If the girl you like is sending you pictures, that's a great sign. Usually, she'll either send you a picture of something she thinks is cool or funny (like a funny license place or a cute dog) or she'll send you pictures of herself. If she sends you pictures of other stuff, she's saying "This reminded me of you," or she simply likes you so much that she wants to share fun moments with you. If she's sending you pictures of herself, that's even better.

  1. She'll send you pictures of her animals that she thinks are cute because she hopes it'll make a positive impression, and because if she likes you, she wants you to like her animals as much as she does.
  2. If she sends pictures of herself to you: yeah, she likes you. Do not share pictures of her with your friends ever. It's for you.
  3. If she sends pictures with her face and she wants to show you her outfit, such as for school or work, she likes you in a a serious way and wants your opinion.
  4. If you get pictures of certain specific body parts, something more scandalous, especially without her face visible, that probably means you are a booty call.
  5. If she sends you a lot of pictures that are just random: she likes you and wants to share little moments with you.
  6. If she posts pictures on her Instagram, count the amount that are related to you. The more the better. If she has lots of pictures with everyone, then this isn't as accurate.
  7. If she texts you back with a picture of something you gave her with smiley faces, she's trying to affirm that she likes you back, and she appreciates your gift.
  8. Girls are more likely to use smileys and exclamation marks than boys. The winky face is a dead giveaway. If there's an overabundance of smileys, exclamation marks, and overall excitement, that's also an positive sign.

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Formatting and Length

After all, there's more to text messages than the words themselves. Length, syntax, even punctuation can be an indicator of whether a girl likes you. A general rule is: the more time she spends on a text for you, the more she cares about you and about what you think. So, longer texts, well-written texts, proper spelling: those are all good signs.

  1. You may get a few overwhelming, long-winded texts. It's not because she's crazy or doesn't know how to be concise, she really cares about you, and for whatever reason isn't given the chance to say some things straight to your face. She may give long winded advice or send you the longest rants of goofiness. Don't let it overwhelm you. Take it as a major compliment that she's crushing on you.
  2. It's a bad sign if a girl only texts you one word responses. Women generally hate receiving these and think something is wrong or you're just not interested. A one word response from a woman is frowned upon.
  3. If her texts become less excited, she may find the relationship less exciting. Even if the relationship is leveling out, encourage her crazy texting. Happy, fun texting is a good indication of relationship health. When it becomes only a means of contact and sorting affairs, you're getting dull.
  4. If her responses are flat, she may be busy. Do not immediately think she is annoyed. She may be...but consider that she might be busy.
  5. The words k, okay, and fine are not great indicators.
  6. Any form of XOXOXOX is a dead giveaway.
  7. If she communicates a lot with you in other written mediums, social networks, and emails, she likes you. Girls want to create connection. They want responses so they can feel confident about your interest, and they want to figure out if you're right for them without being too obvious.
  8. Be cautious of drunk texts. These can be indicative, but sometimes girls just send drunken texts out of their ridiculousness and love for the world. Men drunk texting generally means more, especially if it doesn't have overt sexual tones.
  9. If she sends you poetry, such as haikus, she is trying to have fun with you. If this becomes a consistent thing, she likes you.
  10. If she sends you song lyrics, come on, seriously...she likes you.
  11. If she sends you a text with the worst grammar you have ever seen, bad spelling, no real thought: either she doesn't care or is drunk. Girls try to be particular about punctuation and crap, especially as they get older. High schools girls may be more into abbreviations and slang, but someone in grad school? Obviously, this stuff would be beneath them.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 weeks ago from Chicago

      Late night calls from 9pm to 2am or late night calls from 1am to 2am? This would make a big difference.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 weeks ago from Chicago

      These things are circumstantial. The more interactions and so forth, the more likely it leans toward a romantic connection. Of course, many positive friendly things can be just that... friendly. (but you're not in a bad spot if you are friends.)

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      Judith 4 weeks ago

      What. A girl can't be polite? Can't be friendly if she doesn't likes you as something else? Why I would text for example about a serious topic just with the person I like? Or why I can't use a lot of emojis with just friends? I think most of the actions that "can be taken as hints that a girl likes you" are perfectly fit able in a friend to friend conversation. If a use correct grammar with you I must see you as something else than a friend? That's ridiculous, or what about compliments or sorries? I can't say something nice to a friend? I could do all or most of these actions with just a friend to be honest.

      By the way, sorry if there's a mistake on what I wrote, English is not my first language.

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      jake 4 weeks ago

      late night calls until 2am. does she likes me?

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 weeks ago from Chicago

      Proposing like engagement? Are the two of you in a relationship? Have you told him you like him?

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      Jessica 7 weeks ago

      All the signs that had been stated above is true. He texts me everyday and most of the time i will be the one who starts the conversation. He will make the conversation longer and longer. He shares his personal life with me and comfort me during my hard times. But then why he is not proposing me or telling that he likes me?

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      Charles 2 months ago

      Hi Andrea,

      Finally I talked to her in person. I told her y really liked her, she kept quiet for a short time (she didn't blushed) and finally told me that "she never said anything because I never said anything". She told me she was datig someone (and that she didnt even know how it happened). I asked her if she ever thought about dating me and she said that she thought about that when we met. She also told me she didn't wanted to date somewone who knew her in her last relationship because she remembers her ex.

      She didn't rejected me nor accepted to be my girlfriend. She didn't told me (specifically) I like her but I think she does.

      Two days after that she texted me to ask me about my sports team.

      I think she is very confussed since her breakup. Do you think I gave her some time or just give a try and go for it?

      Thanks for all your help

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      Charles 2 months ago

      Hi Andrea,

      I called her and asked her out again and she said it was very difficult for her on this week.

      I told her that she always comes up with excuses, because she hangs out with all her friends. She told me she hanged out with someone yesterday (I beleive a guy) and she told me she would tell me sometime on the week when she could spend time with me.

      To be honest I was kinda rude on the phone, and she played very deffensive (she defended herself telling me we hanged out on my birthday, 5 months ago) and that I was overreacting because she cancels to everyone all the time. I told her that I wanted to hang out with her for almost 3 weeks now and she has time to hang out with her friends, go to concerts, hang out with someone (most probably a guy) and a friend who is currently on town.

      She never proposes another date, she jyst cancells and tells me she has a very crazy schedule. I have no reason to not believe her. I told her she is the only one who knows her schedule and she can easily pick up one day, but never does.

      On the texting, last week she was very responsive, sending many mesages to my questions, even with some gaps between her messages (she texted me twice, then waited 10 minutes and texted me again). Yesterday she send me a sorry message for not responding and very large hahaha's, on FB and Whatsapp.

      She confusses me too much.

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      Brian 2 months ago

      I'm talking to this girl and for a week we talked in the phone for 5 hours every night and we talked her day flirted all that it wasn't one sided either. But recently she takes long to answer me like an hour each text and then respond very poorly? Is she into me or not we've hung out and everything am I in the friend zone? Because I told her how I feel and she said she likes me but nows a bad time because she's recently single

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      I think she's interested. She might be telling you about the other guys to let you know she has guy friends, but isn't in anything romantically. I think she really liked the earrings. I think you should keep talking to her and try to hang out again. She's being flustered around you, so I think she has a little crush.

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      Charles 3 months ago

      The girl I wrote you about invited me to her birthday party. I gave her some earring of my own design. In the party she continuously talked about me with her friends (male and female), she also told me to pay attention to a song I shared with her while it was playing, and changed her earring for the ones I gave her. When I was going, she left the party and waited with me while my uber picked me up. We were still waiting when she asked me if I wanted to se her room, I obviously said yes and went to see her room. She turned on the lights and ran to stand aside her bed, I approached her but then she ran back to were I was. Two days after her party she liked all my FB statuses of the past month.

      She changed her PP to one where she uses my earrings, just after I told her I wanted her to be my model. I wrote her she was beautiful and I was glad she accepted to be my model and I think she blushed.

      BUT, she also told me that she was hanging out with 3 guy she met at her work, but she isn’t interested in any of them. Two of them are much older the her, she went to dinner with them but she is interesed only academically. The last is 2 years older than her but she says she is not interested in him, she just likes him because he is like her in the work.

      She continuously sends me mixed signs. I want to ask her in person what she thinks about me, but she always has other plans and never propose another day. What do you think? Is she interested and only playing hard? or she just wants to be my friend?

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      You should text her back.

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      Abdullah 3 months ago

      I have a question this girl texted me first when we havent talked in 2 years

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like early stages of a romance. If you have been friends that long it might be difficult to get past that. You should keep talking with her, try flirting a little more. She may truly be busy and frequently. If you feel comfortable, you should ask her what she thinks of you.

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      Charles 3 months ago

      I've been friend with a girl I like for 7 years. She recently broke with her boyfriend and we have been texting every week. Most of the times I initiate conversation and very few she starts.

      She has sent me random pictures of places and some pictures of herself. Last week she went on a trip, I wrote her and she replied 2 days later but sent a picture of where she was. I didn't replied and the next day she sent me more pictures of the place and one of her.

      She has sent me photos of her little cousins, her job, herself, of both of us, videos of projects she made, (I just have asked for pictures once and she sent them to me, one day later)

      She also uses lots of hahaha, exclamation marks and smiley faces. we even had a long conversation without saying anything (she just sent ":)" and y only replied with "?" and she said she liked it. So far I believe she is interested, but when I invite her to hang out she just not seems so interested. She makes work excuses, or hangs out with her friends or with her family; and she never propose another day to hang out.

      I invited her to the movies once and to hang out another (about 4 months ago) and she went those times.She even texted me saying she enjoyed those, but after that she always have another plan.

      She invited me to her prom party and to hang out with her friends, but treats me different to them (she is more touchy with them, has more confidence) and she was ashamed (and pointed at me) when one of her friends said something about her.

      She has called me just to ask me questions about some things that she has doubts about my profession.

      She has also left me on seen some times, and replied one word texts.

      From the few times she has initiated the convo, she asked if I liked some music after changing my profile pic. She liked my posts and bragged about that (now she doesn't do it anymore), and also brags frequently (she is the best cousin, she never gets angry, etc)

      The last one (and also the worst) she tried to pair me with a girl she didn't know in a bar.

      I don't know what to think of this girl.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      I think if you can make a positive connection out of this woman one way or another, then you are on the right track. Friendships are not easy to come by these days. I would love for the two of you to have a romantic connection. Thank you for the feedback!

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      Kindle Gainso 4 months ago

      Andrea,

      Nothing irreversible happened, I am being patient, and won't haste things. I have no short-term goals with this girl. I think she cares about me, maybe as a friend or just in politeness. I maybe #2, but you know the frog #2 was the one who survived (Two Frogs in the Milk)

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      I think if she is talking to you a lot, even if not initiating, you are probably in good shape. You do need to relax. Don't push so much pressure on a relationship, or her, or yourself. Just breathe. Figure out what is triggering your anxieties and lessen it from that standpoint.

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      Kindle Gainso 4 months ago

      Andrea,

      Thanks for the reply.

      I don't know she is with someone or not, and I have never met her. Also, the blunder wasn't totally my fault. She had posted her approx. location on public forum, and I said that she lives in that city, and she thought I was lurking on her.

      BTW, we had another chat marathon 5 hrs with about 200 back-n-forth while I was driving, the chat ended with me hinting her that I want to be with her, and she tricked/cajoled me to explicitly tell her what the hint means, and I cracked, and told her I want to be with her (PG 13). She told me that she doesn't knows me (we met online). So I apologized rather dramatically (nothing fake), and told her that I would stay away from her for a while, because it became a little awkward. She wasn't angry at this, rather consoling me that I shouldn't apologize and not feel bad, and told me that it's OK, and relax.

      I think she was caught off-guard when I told her that, and was just polite enough not to blast me. What's your opinion?

      BTW I'll stay away from her, wait for her to initiate after this.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      I'll try my best here to help you out. I'm not sure what was the exact blunder you made with this woman initially. It seems it provoked an angry response from her, but she continued to talk to you -- and for hours. Patient + calm + angry is a unique mix... so you must have made a very strange forward blunder.

      Have you two met in person? Is she single or seeing someone else? Keep the connection going, stay positive, be friendly. Slowly increase the texting. Don't just dismiss her too quickly. Watch your own patience. Like her, but don't control her. Be accepting with the progress you receive on this. Try to get to know her more. Ask her questions. Start with more fun-loving questions and work your way to more meaningful questions.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Congrats and good luck!

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      Kindle Gainso 4 months ago

      I'm looking for having a longterm relationship with a girl, I met online. She responded to an online comment, that I had posted. I looked up her profile, she is beautiful no doubt about it, but the thing that was more important was her personality. She is very patient & calm, and that just blew me off. I panicked & the first move that I made was a blunder, I think I scared/pissed her off, I realized immediately so I backed-off, but kept in touch with her; we were having 1/2 messages per day for two days. As I said she isn't very impatient, so she didn't shoo me off immediately.

      At the same time when I came in contact with her, there was another guy; really good looking, muscular guy was in contact with her; and I know she is falling for him; she went out of the way to convince him that there was no misunderstanding between them - I think she's into him. I'm not a muscular guy, but I'm not puny either, I'm little chubby, and have really good career. I'm no match to the other guy in terms of the looks, but I have a good, high paying job. I work with Wall Street firms. So this may be the only plus point for me, but she doesn't knows about that. Also, I am really good at negotiations, as far as I know.

      After initial blunder that I did, I thought I blew my chance for good, but I told her to PM me on chat. Two days later (yesterday) middle of the night, I get a anger-filled message from her wanting an explanation about my initial blunder, I apologized to her and told her that because I was attracted to her, I had panicked and made a boo-boo, she probably got convinced and we chatted for almost 2 hours that night before she dozed-off.

      Today we had 1-2 back-n-forth but no real conversation. At this point, I'm confused as to what make off this situation. I am kind off desperate for her, though I haven't shown my desperation, but I cannot control it. She's nice girl.

      Any advice would be appreciated.

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      Jonas 4 months ago

      Everything I've researched adds up she definitely like me

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Send her multiple hearts back. Keep the conversation going. Increasing the flirting a little bit each time and see if she reciprocates.

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      Need Help 4 months ago

      So there's this girl I like. We've been texting on Instagram and you know, just asking each other some breaking the ice questions, and it's been pretty good. However, sometimes she would send a Love Heart out of the blue and then just continue. I thought her thumb must of slipped or something but she's done it MULTIPLE times. I mean about 3 times a day. It's either, she has shaky thumbs or she's doing something a rather (FYI: she knows I like her), and I REALLLLY need some help with understanding what's going on.

      Thanks.

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      Hammad 4 months ago

      What if girl says every time THANK YOU when you help her?

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      Bobisafrog 5 months ago

      I got in touch with a childhood friend we've been texting almost a year now. (in 8 days it will be a year) She talks to me whenever she breaks up with her boyfriend, and i give her advice. We would both vent to each other, she has her boyfriend issues, i have abuse issues, were like personal counselors she said. We would talk 30-40 times a day and she would call me her bestie (and occasionally boo, whatever that means) and its would be followed with hearts. 2 days ago she asked me if she should get these piercing with a picture of her with them on, I said its her body and that means its her decision and hers alone, and that it would be wrong of me to influence her choice otherwise. Right after that conversation was over she asked if I could come to her birthday party. I told her I'm in oklahoma city, i'll ask my father, and he was undecided. I told her to know that i'd miss my own graduation for it. I asked her what would she want for her gift, she said just something sparkly. She sent me an picture of the invitation since the rest were given out to everybody. And i told her I was looking back through our messages and there were a few times when i din't listento here i just was ranting about some other crap. She said She's here for me no matter what happens. I told her the chance of me coming to her party are higher, she said "Yay!". And i told her its not for sure. She told me to tell my dad "Please let (my name) come to my B-Day party. then we video chatted (all this happened in the timepsan of 2 days mind you) a bit. Then i told her that i found out i couldn't come, that i was mad, i explained why, but still told her i'm getting her a present still, that is going to be definite! she said she can come see me in the weekend. I told her i cant be at the party via facetime, or video chat. She was happy about that and i told her i could just vid chat, or send a prerecorded message. She then of course said Thanks bestie followed by hearts. (she is so indecisive, its unbelievable) i said no problem, just text me a bit before the singing and ican go to someplace quiet and can then video call her. She said okay thanks followed by a golden hands in prayer. I said Uw. then she typed a big heart and little heart trailing off of the big heart. Then we texted random gifs to each other. the next morning I texted her the happy birthday parody song (the one about how she looks like a monkey and smells like one too) she typed 2 laughing so hard tears came out emojis.then i told her i'm off to get her gift. She text me 3 smiling blushing emojis. i asked her what gem she wanted then when i came home i asked her if she wanted me to send her a pic of the gift, i teased her by sending her a pic of the box. then she said oh. then i felt like jerk so I sent her the picture of the gift. She said I love it. And here were at present day. situation like this has happened before, but there's too many of them to type without getting carpal tunnel syndrome, so this story will have to suffice.

      Does she like me based on this summary of what happened in a year

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      Erik 5 months ago

      I met this girl through a girl friend that she visited and after she left my friend texted me ''XY sent you a kiss.'' Before we were flirting a bit and got along well but it wasn't really obvious and we didn't makeout or anything. How do i respond as sending a kiss seems more like a girls thing to do?

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      Be nice to her. Romantic. Entertaining. Charming. All that jazz.

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      Adiga 5 months ago

      Now,,,,how to deal with her?

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      Celtic 5 months ago

      Hello,

      So I've been texting this girl for about 6 or so months now.. it might even be a year, but I haven't really been paying attention. We text everyday; In the morning she says gm and asks me what I'm doing, then after school starts talking with me and even at night we talk.. a lot. But the huge problem is.. She has a boyfriend.. and I know it sounds horrible that I'm crushing on a girl that's taken, but it's not the eaisest to get over someone. Anyway, we met oddly enough by me telling her I liked her, I knew she was dating the other guy but I honestly I could not hold back anymore.. Eventually I learned she liked me for about a year and a half.. just up until she met the other guy.

      Eventually we started to become really close friends.. and a soon as she said "your a good friend to me" I felt like I got shot with the friend zone bullet... We talked a lot during the summer and she mostly answered with one word responses but sometimes told me story's and stuff, but we'd talk about random things and what's going on rn all day, even though it was slow, we stilled texted quiet a bit. Then school came in, I learned she was in my homeroom, but so was her boyfriend... She didn't have any of my other classes with me either so it was pretty much just homeroom or 9th period. That's when we really started talking (over text).. She opened up to me as if we'd known each other for years, telling me more personal and trusting stories and telling me what's going on in her life. We talked everyday and responded to each other's messages almost asoon as we got them. It was really fast paced, but I kept feeling like I had shackles around my legs and I wanted to tell her she's cute and pretty and flirt but.. you could probably take a stab at why I don't... We didn't talk much in person because of no classes together and her being with her bf at 9th and having different friends and stuff.. but then we started talking at 9th, even when her bf was there.. he played it off as if I'm just her friend..

      We'd talk about deep stuff and happy stuff and funny stuff and just about everything you can think we could talk about without getting really personal or flirty. Just a couple days ago we were talking and we laughed at what she said and when we stopped laughing we kinda gave each other a long stare for like.. maybe 10 or so seconds.. She stared at my eyes and I stared at hers giving each other a nice, calm smile across our faces.. I texted her and she was telling me happy moments in her life and she said me being their at 9th with her were a couple of nice memories..

      Maybe about a day ago I asked her if she still liked me, last time I asked was in July and she said kinda. It was kinda akward asking and my heart raced super fast, but she replied with "yeah.. kinda.." Basically nothing really changed.

      She said that bc I'm so nice to her and always there for her, that really made her happy and made her like me..

      We don't send ;) faces or send a lot of pictures (unless like snapchat), and we may not "hang out a lot" in person but we can talk for hours.. sometimes we just pull all nighters talking to one another.. She says I'm one of the few she can trust and that she doesn't know where she'd be without me..

      My point is we talk all time.. I tried counting how many times in a day we talk but my finger got tired of scrolling so much.. We have a lot of inside jokes and joke about the stupidest stuff... Im always on her "11:11" snapchat story thing, and we share and listen to each other's songs and we send new moves to each other and ask for each other's opinions.. but I can't help but feel.. even though she said she "kinda likes me" that she could maybe mean more than that.. Maybe I'm just so far in the friend zone my head started thinking this way.. Either way I feel like there's more to what she thinks of me but I don't know what to do because of her bf and kinda liking me and classes and stuff..

      oh btw I feel as stupid beyond all h because before she started dating her bf we had a mutual friend and our mutual friend said she was trying to convince the girl I like to ask her bf out... and may of kinda encouraged it but this was before I liked her because we didn't talk at all.. so yea.. As soon as I realized I did that I pretty much smacked my self in the head.. but you know past is in the past right?.. heh..

      Anyway sorry for the long message

      ~Celtic

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      Anon 5 months ago

      Hi,

      I really like this girl at my college, we talk in person almost everyday and by text almost everyday, the other day we were texting and the conversation got onto caring about what people think of us, she asked me if I was often worried about what she thought about me (I had told her that I often replay conversations in my head if I think they went badly and I care what the person thinks), I told her that I did and asked her why.

      From this point I will quote the exact texts that we sent (for context)

      Her: Because I'm curious I think you have been a topic of thought for me and so I wondered if you had done the same

      Me: Well yes I cant deny that you have been "on my mind" so to speak

      Her: Hahah good this sounds like we like each other how awkwardly appropriate on Valentine's Day

      You might be wondering why I need your advice after that but when I next saw her we were at a first aid training meeting (we're both in a group similar to Saint John's Ambo) so I spoke to her before she left saying that we should probably have a chat at some point soon, she asked what about. Now I'm really awkward around girls so I weakly replied "you know the thing we spoke about by text the other night?".

      A couple of days later I text her apologising for being a bit off with her at the training night, she said that she hadn't noticed but still hadn't worked out what I meant we should have a chat about

      I will now quote again:

      Me: I meant we should probably have a chat about how we feel about each other

      Her: Oh I see.. Well before we make this really awkward just know I really see you as just a very good friend whom I can trust and rely on.

      This was last week and now I'm really confused, I also feel like she has been avoiding me at college as when she enters a study zone she normally sits with me and a few of our other friends. This week she always sits by herself if I'm there first, if I get there last she is sat with our friends as normal!

      Sorry if this is long and confusing but I'm at my wits end as I feel like not only have I lost any chance with her I'm also loosing her as a friend!

      please help!!

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      She sounds super flirtatious... and in general. I'm not sure if she is just interested in you or others. There is potential here.

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      Tom 123123 6 months ago

      Hi Andrea, met a girl at a party, she asks for my snapchat, didn't talk to her for a month or so. I'm at uni and she is friends with my flat mate, turns out I'm going to be living with her next year in accommodation. So naturally we start seeing her more as she wants to get to know us for next year. I went out clubbing with her and she was quite physical, touching and hugging and taking pictures. Nothing else happened that night and i thought nothing of it. However recently we went out again but she had to leave early to catch a flight. When i got back from the club we started texting a little about the night, and we ended up talking from 3am to 6:30am when her flight was. She sends me a lot of love hearts and kisses and calls me babe etc. She liked a couple of my pictures on Facebook during our convo and we had really good banter and she kept the convo going when i was going to go to sleep. I don't know if she is into me or is just trying to be friendly for next year, or if she just wanted someone to talk to while waiting for her flight.

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      Doctor 6 months ago

      Hello Andrea nice post

      I met this girl on a flight and we started talking we hit it off immediately she was laughing at my ridiculous jokes on the flight I am quite reserved so I didn't want to ask her for her number and ruin my self esteem if she said no , so as we were about to reach our destination mind you it was a 4 hour flight she suddenly asked me for my number and I gave it to her , the flight landed we went separate ways and finally after two weeks she texts me out of the blue and I was elated

      So we do text each other often these days she sends me a lot of winky faces emojis and all that I find myself being drawn to this girl but I don't want to ruin my image in front of her by spilling out my feelings for her

      She is the one who initiates all of the conversations and sometimes she goes offline for like two days and then comes up saying that she was busy n all that , I always give her a wide margin n then again I say stuff that she likes I hate my jokes they are kinda lame but still she seems fascinated by them haha

      Anyhoo today was Valentine's Day and she sends me a Valentine's Day greetings and I wish her back and she was like my friends are having a blast n all that , so I tell her that it's okay she will find a guy too in the future

      What am I to infer from all these I have to tell u I'm 29 she is 20 and we are miles apart she chats with me at night and then all of a sudden she is like " I hate to break the bad news but it's kinda late " n I am like I know I understand then again in the morning she texts me

      Do u think there is a possibility that she might like me and I don't wanna rush into things and ruin this friendship ... rite now I'm just a good friend who makes her laugh a lot do u think it can progress further

      Sorry for the long post

      Regards

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      Jason 6 months ago

      If she sends me photos of her and her pets, could that mean she likes me?

      She's also still talking to me after turning me down a few weeks ago.

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      CJL 6 months ago

      she sent me over a hundred with a lot of laughing faces. Does she like me

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      Keep talking to her and hanging out with her. And it will naturally come up. Sounds like it's a good connection.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      She wants to send a positive message. Could mean more depending on context.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      Keep talking to her. Be consistent. That's where you go from here. The more you talk, hang out, the more she will open up. Don't make it much more complicated than that. Do cute gestures for her. She'll get the idea and warm up to you if she's interested. Open up your romantic side, pick out a flower for her, buy her something that reminded you of her, take her to things she likes, write her notes by hand. Oh, definitely write her notes by hand. Get her candy, chocolate, jewelry. Be sweet.

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      Joseph 7 months ago

      I have been talking to this girl for a couple of weeks now and she seems to be interested but I'm still uncertain. She never used to initiate conversation that much and I seemed to be doing all the work. However over the past week she seemed to initiate a lot of the conversations and sometimes messages me telling me to have a great day. Almost all her texts end up having a laughing emoji or an lol at the end of it, sometimes even 3 plus emojis. We usually text for 5 plus hours and she responds in a flash. When I see her in class she never really talks, is quiet and as soon as I get home we text for almost the rest of the day. What are your thoughts?

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      I think you should move on. It sounds like you gave her mixed signals when you lost interest. It doesn't sound like she is interested anymore.

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      Rocky 7 months ago

      Theres a girl,,, we chated earlier It was many messages a day.. it was very sexual every time then we once meet... Kissed each other... Than i kind of lost interest.. Bdw its a long distance relationship... But we never proposed.. Abd after 2-3 months she is not taking my calls as earlier and messaging me... Very late with long replies.

      I asked her i hace romentic feelings about her... But she said she would nit be able to have that feeling...

      I am getting obsessed what to do.. Plz helo

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      christian 7 months ago

      Hi ive been talking lately to my childhood friend that came back after 10 years or so and i initiated the contact and most of the time she would have a smily emoji in her messages and she sent me a picture of her in the couch smiling to the camera. And the other instance i was in class and she was teasing me and sent me a picture of her bed saying its comfertable while im in class busting my ass haha does she like me?

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      7 months ago

      I have been talking ti this girl for a month and she has never told me she liked me and she said if she likes someone she would tell them but she does some of those things up there, but she don't text me back really fast but he told me she would rather speak in person than text, we go to the same school but I am a sophomore and she's a freshman so I don't know if she likes me or not.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      Hello there! Boy this one is complicated. It sounds like she is confused with her feelings. I think if you really care about her, I would be her friend one way or the other. If you come to a point where you just can't stand it anymore because your feelings are not being reciprocated, I think it's okay to take a break from each other and tell her that, because it's not easy when you have feelings for someone and you're not really getting them back. I think you guys have a strong enough friendship that you can talk to her and tell her that you do have feelings for her, and that it is okay if she does not, whether she ever does or eventually does.... you are there for her. Being a good friend is extremely important in life. It's hard on people when friendships end because of different feelings and goals. Tell her that you are interested, but not going to force it on her. That it isn't exactly easy to see her date. Let her know you are open to what she wants to try. Keep it positive and loving, and you never know what might end up happening. This kind of focus will help you navigate through this tough situation. You can always dial things back, and say the interactions are too flirty right now if you are only friends. Be open minded, say you are willing to learn, and the last thing you want to do is hurt her feelings.

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      Jake Ryan 7 months ago

      Me and this girl have been really good friends for a while (We're both High School students as well), and we talk all the time. We usually use snapchat but do text sometimes. Before, she used to talk about other guys and stuff, (also, she knows how I feel about her and I would like to date her) but then they'd go and break her heart or hurt her, and she'd come back to me to talk to about it. After the 3rd time, which was around 2 weeks ago, she started talk to me WAY more often. She'd text me in the mornings, and send me snapchats all day, more than 70 texts and a ton more snap chats, and just always seem to love my company. She'd tell me things that she's never told anyone, and things she's went through in the past, and always comes to me if she's feeling sad or angry about someone. The past few days, she's been staying up really late talking to me, texting me from 11am all the way until 4am (omly a few hours where she didn't text, but she'd initiate the next time she was ready) the next morning a few times. She'd constantly talk about her family, we'd constantly send selfies back and forth, she'd send pictures of her pets, and she was always excited in her texts. She would RARELY send one word replies too. We've talked about many personal things, including past relationships. She always teases me about a bunch of things and we always laugh it off. She's never been one to send emojis to me or anyone in the past, but during these two weeks, she's sent a lot and sent a few heart emojis too. She always tries to cheer me up and be there for me if I need it, and always comes to me for comfort. When we're not staying up late, it's because she falls asleep early while talking to me. She's asked if I've ever been in love with anyone (My response was no because I've never been in a relationship), she teases me about never having a first kiss and stuff like that (Which I haven't), but before these 2 weeks, when she knew I liked her, and she knows I still do I assume, she told me she didn't feel the same and didn't really want a relationship like that with me. But then after the third guy hurt her, she came back to me and started acting like this. How should I take this, and how should I react? She shows MANY of the signs stated, but I feel like she doesn't feel the same about me. Any help is appreciated! Thank you for your time and for making the article!

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      First you got to like yourself! Well, you should try that first. :)

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      gyhi 7 months ago

      No one likes me lol

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      1.) Depends on the type of emojis.

      2.) Leaves you in seen? I'm not sure I understand this question or typo.

      3.) How long have you two been talking to each other and how long have you known each other?

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      steven 8 months ago

      Hey I have a question for you. if she uses emojis regularly not always but does, does it mean something. And another thing if she leaves you in seen, its obviously a bad sign right? one last question how to get a more direct answer if she likes me?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      Interesting. I recommend sticking with it. It won't harm you. Some people take a moment to get their schedules to synch up.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      You are getting a lot of quantity from her -- but what is the quality of the content? I say keep talking to her. Things will open up naturally and you'll figure out what you need here. If you feel ready to confess that you like her, do so. If not, you can wait it out and see if things grow anymore.

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      Jack 8 months ago

      Currently, I am in Year 9 in secondary school (9th grade I think is the American equivalent?) and for some time now I've noticed this girl in the same classes I am in (bar three) like a few of my posts on Instagram, then immediately remove them. This happens as well on Twitter. I constantly talk to her over text and Instagram but not nearly as much at school, with the conversations we have online always exceeding both of us posting 10, the highest having been 25. They don't contain emojis, but there are a lot of abbreviations only we and a few others understand, and she expresses herself with her text well. Whenever I say something along the lines of, 'Thanks for that,' she'll reply most of the time with, 'Uh, thanks?' She instantly views and responds to my messages with at least a sentence or more of text. For a few months as well now, she'll constantly look at me before turning away to a foreign object when I catch the look, which she shortly and subtly blushes afterwards. She also plays with her hair a lot when nearby me: any idea what's happening, or if I should take the next step?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      Keep talking to her in person. It seems like you have a good connection there and that is more important. People can have very odd Facebook preferences that can be hard to understand sometimes. It's easy to miss messages on Facebook. Try getting her phone number in a natural way. Text messages are easier to follow with people.

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      Kokode 8 months ago

      Okay so, there is this girl at my work. Her and I tend to tease each other. I sometimes tease her by saying, "your boyfriend is here to pick you up." And she would reply, "not my boyfriend, thats my dad out there." One time she even asked if i was in a relatioship, I said, "no, not currently," and she asked me, "why? You're a funny guy." I finally ended up sending her a facebook friend request, and she accepted it that same day. So i decided to message her, to which she would reply almost instantly. But the next day, I messaged her however she didn't reply even though she saw my message. So i sent her a, "hey, how was your day?" She didn't check it or reply, even though I can see she was basically on and off facebook all day. I do not want to seem bothersome, so I do not feel like sending her another message unless she doesn't reply for another day or so. I am getting mixed signals from her, what do you guys think?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like she is giving you mixed signals. And yes, things are not always set in stone. I would feel like someone likes me if they sent me that many messages. That's at least a best friend level. Or an extremely social, chatty person.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      She is talking to you a lot and I think you guys have a nice flow. The most important thing, actually, is that work romances are delicate (but also have favorable odds). You don't want to screw up that connection because it can make going to work terrible, so as a rule of thumb be careful about not making things negative for the two of you. As for the things you are worrying about, women are not going to compliment you as much and that's okay. There's all kinds of reasons out there, but usually they don't compliment as much, and it's not because they're trying to be rude. Sometimes when they are complimenting you a lot, that's actually suspect for luring you in, maybe just trying to seduce you for your resources but not actually like you. Women have more pressure not to be forward. They want you to pursue them; it'll confuse them if you have them chasing you. A lot of them will drop out if you put them in those situations. Not all, but a lot. It's a yin and yang thing. Women typically (not always) are more yin like and responsive. Men are typically (not always) more yang like, and initiate more instead of the responsive lead. Changing up that dynamic for some people will confuse the crap out of them. And it can reverse itself at times. She sounds like a yin.

      Not everyone sends pictures of themselves, and that's okay. It might be too much pressure, or they overanalyze what they're wearing and the lighting. Pictures are not mandatory. And... women don't ask for opinions as much as guys do either. These are not the typical tactics women use to flirt. Usually if a girl is talking a lot, and trying to keep it interesting, that's usually your best sign. I think she likes you. Rescheduling for being sick is fine. She works with you.... so she can't really run away. Don't over think. Instead try to nourish, encourage, and enjoy. Over thinking will backfire on you.

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      People who date the same people from the same circle are usually trouble. If she dated one of your best friends and is now flirting with you, this could be a troublesome person. Is this friend of yours still a best friend? Then she dated another friend? That's two people from the same circle. I worry she is leading you on. Does she seem sweet or more sultry? Does she seem to care about your feelings or is being more sexual?

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      It's a good sign.

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      Tino 8 months ago

      What if she would be Snapchatting me everyday? Would that be a good sign or a little bit of a sign?

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      Darren 8 months ago

      Hi,

      I've an issue..

      I know this girl since primary school, we didn't really hang out together at that time, but we do since around ~4 years. 2 years ago I began developping feelings for her. Just after she broke up with one of my best friends (they had a relationship for a very long time), I decided to ask whether she liked me or not, as my self-confidence wasn't that great and still isn't. She said: "I just ended this relationship.. I'm not looking for another at this moment". One week after that, she got into another relationship with one of my friends! It felt devastating, I must say..

      ~ 1 year ago she left the circle of friends and we didn't speak that much. A couple of weeks ago, I had a party at one of the friends still in our circle of friends. She asked whether I wanted to go with her to the party, as we both live in the same area and we had to go by bus. We had a fun time and it looked like she kept trying to get my attention through smiling and laughing at what I had to say. Since then we both send a lot of snaps and chat. I'm not sure whether she likes me or not.. She does send a lot of emojis and also heart emoji's.

      Any way I can find out whether she likes me? (without letting her know that I still like her?)

      Thanks in advance,

      Darren

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      Shug 8 months ago

      I met this girl through work and we kinda clicked. We would talk and joke with each other, but nothing serious. At one point I mentioned that I had never been to Medieval Times and she said we should go and picked the time and date when we should go, and we did. We didn't specify it as a date or anything but we went mini-putting afterwards and the a dessert place for a couple of hours, then I drove her back home. I didn't try to kiss her though I could kind of tell there was a sort of tension where we were seeing what the other would do. Since then we've pretty much been texting CONSTANTLY, like at least a few hundred texts a day.

      Here's where I'm getting mixed signals. She never flat out compliments me, never sends pics of herself and doesn't really ask for my opinion on anything. However, the conversation keeps flowing smoothly and we send texts the size of essays to each other. We text in the morning, afternoon, evening and night (til 2am or so). She has occasionally mentioned some guys, but always follows it up as an ex or someone she's not into. There's almost always emojis in every text. Whenever we talk about getting drunk (not together) she says she tends to make bad decisions or spends her energy making out. If the conversation tends to naturally end and we see each other at work, she'll text me later starting a new conversation.

      I am starting to develop feelings for her and I did ask her since she had a free night if she wanted to do something and she said that she was swamped with work and starting to get sick and sent a few follow up messages apologizing and wanting to reschedule.

      I feel like I'm overthinking this and I want to make a move but I don't want to ruin the friendship if I'm wrong.

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      Jacob 8 months ago

      A friend of mine does all ten of those things listed at the top and she has told me twice that she doesn't like me, so I wouldn't say it's set in stone. 50 responses sounds like a lot, too, but it isn't because I'm pretty sure I've received nearly 70 or so just today in conversations I didn't start and again, she doesn't like me.

      Good to know I'm right in not understanding the situation.

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      Have you tried telling her how you feel? A lot of women prefer men initiate conversations.

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      carl 9 months ago

      Its been three months with my girlfriend and she never text me to start a convesation.if i text her,sometimes she will reply sometimes she wont . i just want her to text me just once to start a conversation in text. i dont know whats going on.

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      I say keep making it positive, and definitely nudge her to make it in person... after awhile that would definitely get old. But if you can keep talking to her and not let that bother you, it may turn into something awesome.

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      I think she wants it to be romantic and doesn't want to screw it up either. That's a ton of texting to be going back and forth and definitely shows interest. A lot changes in 4 years, so I think the slate is clean and something new altogether. I say keep talking, please keep talking. I think you should push for a date, and don't get your emotions trying to fast forward things. Take it easy, nice and slow.

      She may still have some stuff to work through with her also recent breakup, but since she is the one who found you on a dating site, I think she's genuine about her interest. It might just need a moment for it to get settled and to develop on its way. My best advice: keep it positive. Whatever is going on, be positive, supportive, and let her know you are in it to nourish it. Nothing is wrong with that.

      If you want her to compliment you more, you may have to flat out say that -- or say "I like when you compliment me." Women really just are oblivious that guys like compliments; it's not meant to be rude. She definitely likes you. I hope this works out.

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      Have you hung out with her in person? Are you guys seeing each other in person? Maybe that's what you need, a date or something. Things can get easily misconstrued through texting. Girls also don't compliment guys as much, unfortunately. Women are not trying to be jerks, but they understand romance better by responding to someone's energy, not by trying to lead it themselves -- they'll start to feel like they're doing two jobs at once. Now, this doesn't go for everyone, but it is pretty typical. It's a very yin and yang thing. Look into yin and yang.

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      Bob7 9 months ago

      I text this girl every day, sometimes she starts it and sometimes I do. We been gd friends for about two years but the past 2/3 months we both says we like each other but I always feel like I text too much or she not really interested. She says she still likes me but I'm not too sure, I want to believe her but she just doesn't act like it at all. Never complimented me yet I tell her she's beautiful and that. When she clearly upset I show interest but when I feel upset she never seems to realise, maybe I'm just over thinking things but it really messing me up the now

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      Matthew 9 months ago

      OK, so I'd appreciate some feedback on this matter if you could. 4 years ago I was talking to a woman and we would text all day long, lots of the indicators were present that it was headed somewhere, but she did admit that she had a crush on a guy, that wasn't me. Eventually he wizened up and they eventually had a child. So we stayed friends, and I moved on with my life, moved away to Boston and had my own life and we eventually lost contact. Now, 3 years after our last conversation, I had just moved back to town after recovering from a breakup with someone I really cared for. I've been single for 10 months to give myself time to heal, and I went back onto the same dating site I met the woman on 4 years prior, and she found me and asked me to text her again. We have jumped right back into our rhythm like before, only this time there's no other guy, she had a bad breakup few months prior and said when she found me again it was a sign.

      There are many indicators again that she's into me. We text and talk all through the day, and we'll into the evening, but I usually stop it around 10pm as I have a lot going on with my recent move back. Though she will text me well into 2am just to see if I'm sleeping well, she knows I have combat ptsd and tend to wake up a lot. She makes a point to be there when I do have it arise, and talks me down so I can relax.

      All of this should be a no brainer I would think, yet I've told her that I still feel strongly about her, but I'm cautiously optimistic about this. There a few flags that raise concern that it will be the same as before and I'm just a feel good flirt to someone else. Rarely a reciprocated compliment thrown my way, even after I point out every beautiful thing about her, she opens up some about her feelings, but never much more than you might tell a work friend. I've politely prodded her to talk, and she will go on at length about many things, but she is reserved about her feelings. She wants to go on a date, but not now, and no date has been set for when this may or may not occur.

      She will be a bit flirty like saying she wishes I was there to keep her warm, then tell me she just wants to keep talking and see where it goes. We've been talking again now for a week and it's a hundred plus messages a day from the moment she wakes up till she will literally fall asleep talking to me on the phone. That's how it was years ago too, so I really don't know if she's actually into having a romantic relationship with me or just the deep friendship we've had in the past.

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      Mike 9 months ago

      Thanks for the response! Yeah I see your point, it's just a little frustrating is all. She knows I like her. When I told her she said she "I honestly don't know what I want right now" which I could accept if that was the end of it. But she still initiates conversations all the time, sends me pics, sends "xoxo" and we have very serious conversations all the time about the future, our (separate) families etc. So I just find it weird that she doesn't seem too motivated to hang out in person.

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      In person communication is the most important. You can't weigh a lot on Facebook likes. They are a nice positive indication when they are happening, but it doesn't mean much when they stop. Try changing up how you text. Are you guys living in the same town?

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      Don't put too much hope into it! That would be step 1. Otherwise you'll put too much expectation on it and lose her. Keep texting if she is responding. Eventually you'll find a weak spot in the schedule. If you keep talking to her, she'll most likely want to hang out or do something.

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      Mike 9 months ago

      Okay so I've been talking to this girl non stop, everyday for months now. Like very rarely do we go a few hours without texting. But we both have very busy schedules and getting together seems almost impossible. There are times I'll recommend us to hang out and she will sort of change the subject and forget about it.... any ideas? I'm going crazy lol

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      ohjiho 9 months ago

      i've been texting a girl for a month now, we used to have crush on each other many years back. Everything was good before she start to take hours to reply my messages, but she never ignore it so far...i asked her once if i annoyed her, what she said was something indicates that my texts bored her....but we still continue to text each other after that...however, i noticed some changes, she stopped liking my social media posts (she used to like almost all of my posts before this). I understand that she might be busy, but when i found out that she's online on social media for hours without replying to my texts, i'm starting to doubt whether this is going anywhere, or am I being too sensitive?

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      Bharat 10 months ago

      @SerenityHalo

      Sorry!

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      What kind of things do you guys say?

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      Bharat 10 months ago

      I have known her 1 year. She never texts me first, everytime I message her first. I remember she texted me once when she needed help. I really don't know if she likes me.

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      This sounds like really, really early stages of anything. There may be interest -- I suggest keep doing what you're doing, and let it naturally go the course it is going on currently.

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      First things first: definitely establish whether or not she is single. That will help clear the air for you. :) Hopefully this can come up naturally, but it should be something to address.

      I really think you have a really good shot here. I think you should see her in person and see where it goes. That will help since English isn't her first language, and I can understand how that would be confusing. European norms are not the same as American ones, and the like, etc. If she is talking to you that constantly about everything, she clearly has a strong connection with you, and I'm thinking it is because she is interested.

      I think it should be okay at this point to ask her if she sees you as a friend or someone she could potentially date.

      I don't think it'll hurt the friendship if it's strong enough for you to tell her you like her. She's gotta be thinking something is up at this point too.

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      Craig 10 months ago

      Right here's mine,

      I've known her 3 months, talked to her quite a lot but never really thought much about it the first month, talked a lot but we'd be hanging out with a lot of people.

      I had a girlfriend and she had a boyfriend when we first met, I'm single now and I think she is too (not a hundred percent sure but she hasn't mentioned him in weeks and she was going to break up with him the last time she mentioned him).

      We'd normally talk a lot during the day but I don't see her anymore but we now talk everyday. Normally starts during the day and ends all the way till bed. A few times a week she either phones me or I phone her and we chat about everything. Lots of emoji's and pictures about everything (hair colour change, dinner, out with friends all of that). She sometimes adds kisses at the end but sometimes doesn't. I'd say it's me starting the texting about 2/3, maybe 3/4 of the time but she's normally the one that calls.

      The only problem is English isn't her first language (she's Greek) so I'm not sure if she's into me or if she just likes talking. We're both really busy so when we make plans something normally comes up or we get pulled into meeting with others.

      She does use some of the slang words that I say now but honestly, and there's a lot of haha's and big smileys but I'm not kidding here when I say I genuinely have no idea if she's interested. There's also a few inside jokes. Cannot tell if it's interest or if I've ended up being a really good friend.

      Sorry for the long one but I'm genuinely confused haha

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      Whatup 10 months ago

      This girl with who I was talking yesterday via snapchat was almost always using a filter but the snaps were lovely and funny also we spended 2hours and even more on snap together she also laughs alot with my jokes but she doesn't often use emojis or kisses also cuz we talked for the real first time since I met her at a party. When we were at the party she initiaded the conversation but for like 10 mins maybe we were a bit too shy then and in school we don t see each other often but when we meet in class( like for 5 lessons in a whole week) we have a laugh and we talk a bit and sometimes I catch her looking at me but anyways can anyone let me know ?what this means

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      @Laurence

      I think she is likely interested. Keep talking and see where it goes. :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 10 months ago from Chicago

      @me

      Women like when men initiate. If she keeps talking, that is a good sign. If she texted you out of the blue, that is good as well. I say keep talking, see where it goes, raise the curiosity a touch.

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      Me 10 months ago

      This girl im texting is sending mixed signals, she called me deep one time, i usually initiate texting but she always repsonds at some point, I asked her on a date once 3 years ago and about a week ago she texted me out of the blue and now we have been texting daily about simple things, is that a good sign or is me always initiating a sign that this is going downhill?

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      Oi 10 months ago

      Sends me 200-300 texts /day for about a month everyday..maybe more sometimes...

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      Laurence 10 months ago

      So , there's this girl. We talk like on and off every day all day, like about conversations on her day, sending pics of her cats etc I usually get like 10 or more messages from her on one subject. I've made her laugh a few times. She has sent me pics of herself but not nudes or anything just normal selfies. Today we were having a conversation about this dress she brought and was telling me her size etc. She opens up to me about her anxiety as we're both awkward and both have anxiety too. Could she be interested?

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      Depends on the person.

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      Unknown 11 months ago

      Does number of exclamation marks matter? I've read that 3+ means the complete opposite?? Source: http://thoughtcatalog.com/maya-kachroo-levine/2015...

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      I mean, if she's doing it sarcastically.

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like she might be interested.

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      jam 11 months ago

      I'm not sure if she likes me we both made bucket list she said we should stay in a hotel she asked me if I live nearby her friends house . She aldosterone asked me if I'm going to England anytime soon

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      Eastwood S13 11 months ago

      She texted me go away like 100 times...i thnk she likes me...yipeerr

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      Andrea Lawrence 11 months ago from Chicago

      @JonathonWhitley

      What happens in person is more important than what happens through text. She could have different amounts of free time and busyness which causes her texts to differ in length and variety. Maybe she's not good with words and understands pictures. Is this something you want? Are you liking the chemistry you have through texting?

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      JonathonWhitley 11 months ago

      I'm frustrated bc she goes back and forth, she'll send me pics of her, then one word messages and back to pics. She will ask if I want to come over, the next time she has plans.

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      Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

      @Connor

      Keep talking to her. It's in the really early stages. Sound like she is interested in seeing where it goes and has a positive perception of you. Not sure if it is romantic.

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      Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

      @Unknown

      Only a week? This intensity has only been for a week? I'm pretty certain she likes you. Keep the conversation going. Flirt a little bit, tell her she's pretty, try to hang out, and make her smile. Compliments are a good way to show interest. Be media savvy and don't send dirty pics -- those can be used against you. Let her know you think she's pretty. Ask her out when you think it feels right.

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      Unknown 12 months ago

      I don't know if this girl likes me, she texts me a lot of laughing face emojis and a lot of funny pics and memes. We talk a lot like 3 hrs a day and she has done like 3 or 4 suggestive texts in the last week. She has sent me a pic *NOT NUDE* and I have quickly shut down her some of her flirting as I'm shy, however we have flirted but idk if it means anything. She often laughs at my jokes and random antics with a mix of either lol, lmao or haha...

      But when one of my friends asked her if she knew me she just said yeah and moved on... I'm so confused rn. She initiates the conversations like 30% of the time. also we met playing a game *we're not nerds* we just got bored over the summer and she left her clan to join mine, I'm not sure why but...yeah

      Also we have a lot of back and forth and it brightens my day when we talk.

      She has told me some stuff like she plays volleyball and swims and works out. Also she told me she was playing in a quarter final.

      I don't know but I kinda like her and I don't know if she likes me....

      I used to hate texting until now...

      We have only been texting a week so?

      She also was nice to me when I broke up with my girlfriend and gave me advice on how to and things.

      If anyone could enlighten me on my situation then... Much appreciated

      Thank you

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      Connor 12 months ago

      This girl DMed me on instagram and we talked for a bit. I woke up this morning and she sent me a message with her snap and told me to add her. We talked for a bit, but it was slow at first because i was busy. Later in the day we started talking very quickly to each other tonight. I have flirted with her a bit, and i can't tell if she has. But me and her, and her one friend ended up going to get slurps because she wouldn't leave me alone unless i came. I haven't gotten much from her on how she feels, but she laughs a lot at my jokes, and she has jokes around with me a little. Does she like me?