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Signs She Likes You Through Texting

What Do Girls Mean When They Text?

Girls often text differently from their male counterparts. If you're a guy, it can be tough to figure out what a girl really means.

Is she just asking for directions, or something more? Was that really just a picture of puppies? Once you understand how she's trying to communicate with you over text, it will be a lot easier to tell if she's interested.

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Top 10 Signs She Likes You Over Text

Before we get into the details, here are the top ways you can know if a girl likes you through text. Below you'll find plenty more ways and lots of details.

  1. She texts you very frequently and often initiates conversation.
  2. She keeps the conversation going when she could have ended it.
  3. She sends you pictures, either of things that she thinks are funny or cute or pictures of herself.
  4. She replies to your texts quickly.
  5. She texts you at night.
  6. She uses lots of emojis and rarely gives you one-word answers to your texts.
  7. She sends you poetry, song lyrics, or articles that she likes.
  8. She asks you questions.
  9. She teases you.
  10. She asks to hang out with you or see you in person.

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Subject: What Is She Texting?

This should be your first question: what is she talking about? And is there a deeper meaning beneath her words?

Lighthearted Texting

There are lots of fun, little texts that you may not even think about, but that also give subtle hints that this girl likes you and wants you to like her. Here are some signs to look out for.

  1. If she sends you a message that is meant to be taken as funny or random, and it's out of the blue, she probably wants to flirt with you.
  2. If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions.
  3. She'll bring up inside jokes as a way to break the ice.
  4. Any kind of "breaking the ice" topics are a good sign that she likes you. If you have no idea why she's starting a conversation through text and it seems comical, she definitely likes you.
  5. If she brings up anything featuring words such as: shower, bed, or clothing changes, she might be flirting. Girls are not as direct as guys and these seem like hot buzz words to throw to see if you react. Girls who do this might not be looking for a relationship, but something more short term. Either way, they're probably being flirty.
  6. If she asks what you like about her looks, such as whether her hair is curly or straight, it's because she wants to know what appeals to you. Same goes with what colors suit her, which of her outfits you like best, etc.
  7. Girls may get weird or shy away if you become too overt or sexual. Be a gentleman to her so you don't freak her out. Girls are more sensitive in some ways about language, so consider the possible effect of an innocent innuendo about 5Xs before sending.
  8. She will have an assortment of nicknames for you. If you receive a message with more than ONE nickname, she likes you.
  9. If she calls you out for something or playfully teases you, she's comfortable with you and may be being flirty.
  10. If she says, "EWWWWW!" or something of the sort . . . . that's not a great response.
  11. If she texts you about her family or pets, she probably wants you to know them and associates you with them, or is very close to her family.
  12. Same goes for texting you about anything positive or cute. She probably associates you with those feelings. Seriously, once I texted a guy about puppies that I saw from my car. I wasn't really texting him about puppies. I was really saying "I WISH YOU COULD BE HERE AND SEE THESE CUTE PUPPIES BECAUSE I LIKE PUPPIES AND I LIKE YOU AND YOU'RE CUTE!" Sometimes this is what women are really feeling and they try to tone it down so you won't run away. He ended up liking the puppy text, by the way. ;)
  13. If she compliments your strong arms, shoulders, or how you hug, she's trying to find a nice way to say she likes when you touch her.
  14. If she talks about other guys to you, this isn't good. Guys sometimes talk about the girls they like to the girl they really like; girls don't really do that. If they tell you about guys they like, most likely they see you as a friend. Girls keep their business private when they think they might have a chance with you.

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Serious Subjects? She Seriously Likes You.

If a girl is texting you during tough times or about serious things in her life, and especially if she's allowing herself to be emotionally vulnerable with you, that's a huge deal because it means she trusts and respects you. Of course, a girl might trust and respect you and still only see you as a friend. But chances are, if she's letting herself get that close to you, she probably likes you as something more. The following are text message signs that will let you know that this girl really, really likes you.

  1. If she sends you a nice text after you have had a breakup with someone else, consider this a sign of careful interest. She's on top of what's going on, but she doesn't want to be a jerk and swoop in on you. Instead, she's checking in on you to see how you're doing and see if she can do something about it. She wants to be around you, and to be there for you if you need it.
  2. If she texts you when there's a problem and she needs help. You're one of the few people she thinks will be handy in a situation that takes problem-solving, whether killing a spider, finding her keys, or comforting her when she is sad.
  3. If she writes to you talking about her day, she likes the attention you give her and she wants to open up to you. If she's talking a lot to you, she wants you to open up. She may not be sure how to get you to talk. Women love listeners, but they love when you talk too. They see it as an affirmation that the relationship isn't just one-sided.
  4. If she texts you a compliment, she might be thinking of you and missing you.
  5. If she texts you an "I miss you" out of the blue or after a long text conversation: sweet goodness, go meet up with her. She's either been dying to say that, or has been thinking about you a lot and is probably feeling like others don't compare. Because, you know, others don't compare. :)
  6. She'll give you advice. Girls knows it's weird to give advice in a text message, especially long advice, but if she cares about you and notices something that you're doing is off, then she'll be dying to confront it. BECAUSE SHE CARES.
  7. If she texts you about events that are way out in the future, she might want you to accompany her and is telling you to keep your calendar free...for her. Women drop hints about what they want to do with you. They have visions about having fun, and they want someone to go with them, play games, eat food, and spend quality time.
  8. If she texts you an "I'm sorry" message, then she doesn't want to be on bad terms with you. She cares about you and about what you think of her. She probably really is sorry.
  9. If she texts you "I like you" or "I love you" multiply this by about 20. Unless she dishes that out to everyone, those words are gutsy.
  10. If a woman texts you when she is sad this can go two ways: 1.) Unfortunately, she may be manipulating you and knows that emotions will hook a guy, or 2.) She may need comfort and sees you as someone she can trust when vulnerable.
  11. If a woman is being vulnerable with you, and is truly honest, that shouldn't be taken for granted. She probably MORE than likes you. Try to respect that vulnerability and act worthy of her trust.

Timing: When Is She Texting?

Timing and context are all important when figuring out text messages. How often does she text you?

Context: Trying to Meet Up

Are you trying to upgrade your interactions from social media to real life hanging out? Here are some signs that will help you figure out if she'd like to do that, too, and if she is using text messaging to try and find a way to spend more time with you.

  1. If she mentions something that could be an activity, she's trying to gauge if you would like to do that activity with her. For example, "Do you like bowling?" means she wants to go bowling with you.
  2. If she texts you to try to meet up with you, she's trying to create a connection and see how you're doing. Questions such as asking you to do a favor for her, asking to borrow a book, or asking you to escort her through an unpleasant situation are all good signs. These are open-ended interactions that create an opportunity for you
  3. If she says she is busy, more than likely she'll try to schedule you in at another time right then and there. If she leaves it at ambiguous "busy" she's probably trying to be nice about letting you down, or is completely booked (either way, it's better to leave the ball in her court.)
  4. If she makes up a ridiculous excuse like, "I have to watch my cat tonight." OR "I'm washing my hair tonight." Then you are the equivalent of dirt.
  5. If she texts you to see if you are going to a party, she more than likely wants to go with you or see you there.

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Frequency and Timing

Often, the amount a girl texts you is even more important than what she's actually texting. Time of day, frequency, and occasion can all be important clues as to how much a girl likes you. Here are some signs relating to not what she texts you, but when and how often.

  1. When a girl really, really likes you she will text you a lot. She may initiate several conversations, though this will frustrate her because she will think that you don't like her if you never initiate.
  2. If she texts you back when it's unnecessary, she wants to keep the conversation alive. Any part on her to keep the conversation alive, especially the longer it goes on, is an obvious indication that she enjoys talking / flirting with you.
  3. If she doesn't text back at all after several days, that's a big bad sign. Women don't typically do that. She may forget, but usually will send a courtesy text to apologize. Flat-out forgetting several times is weird.
  4. Some women are not as overt as others, she may rely more on her sense of humor and the amount of texts she sends. There's nothing wrong with her, she just prefers to be cool rather than a total flirtbag.
  5. Sometimes girls send you back a response to AFFIRM that they like you. Keep this in mind!
  6. With each 10 responses given in a day, the bigger the chance that she likes you. For instance, 10 texts a day is a lot, 20 is very indicative, 30 is flat out obvious, with 40 you should go see her, and 50 is incredible.
  7. If she texts you on and off throughout an entire day, that is indicative...on both your parts.
  8. If she initiates some sort of texting game with you, she may be trying to gauge your interest and figure you out. This may be for fun, but the longer it continues, the more likely she is crushing on you.
  9. If she texts late at night, and it's not a booty call, she likes you. She knows 1am is a strange time, and would have to really trust and think you're safe if she is doing so if it's not overt.
  10. Girls will consistently text if they like you. They will try to figure out some sort of pattern. If you are getting a lot of texts in a week, month, year, two years—try thinking about all of it together.
  11. If she sends you texts every day, she likes you.
  12. If she texts you after a hangout saying that she enjoyed spending time with you, it is unlikely to just be courtesy.
  13. If she texts all your guy friends a whole lot, then she is either a big texter, or is hoping one of you will get the hint.
  14. If she doesn't text you the day of her birthday or a few days after, you screwed up.
  15. If she doesn't text you when she is gone for a weekend and you are in a relationship, she might be considering breaking up with you.

Beyond Words: Pictures and Formatting

A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words: Texting in Pics

If the girl you like is sending you pictures, that's a great sign. Usually, she'll either send you a picture of something she thinks is cool or funny (like a funny license place or a cute dog) or she'll send you pictures of herself. If she sends you pictures of other stuff, she's saying "This reminded me of you," or she simply likes you so much that she wants to share fun moments with you. If she's sending you pictures of herself, that's even better.

  1. She'll send you pictures of her animals that she thinks are cute because she hopes it'll make a positive impression, and because if she likes you, she wants you to like her animals as much as she does.
  2. If she sends pictures of herself to you: yeah, she likes you. Do not share pictures of her with your friends ever. It's for you.
  3. If she sends pictures with her face and she wants to show you her outfit, such as for school or work, she likes you in a a serious way and wants your opinion.
  4. If you get pictures of certain specific body parts, something more scandalous, especially without her face visible, that probably means you are a booty call.
  5. If she sends you a lot of pictures that are just random: she likes you and wants to share little moments with you.
  6. If she posts pictures on her Instagram, count the amount that are related to you. The more the better. If she has lots of pictures with everyone, then this isn't as accurate.
  7. If she texts you back with a picture of something you gave her with smiley faces, she's trying to affirm that she likes you back, and she appreciates your gift.
  8. Girls are more likely to use smileys and exclamation marks than boys. The winky face is a dead giveaway. If there's an overabundance of smileys, exclamation marks, and overall excitement, that's also an positive sign.

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Formatting and Length

After all, there's more to text messages than the words themselves. Length, syntax, even punctuation can be an indicator of whether a girl likes you. A general rule is: the more time she spends on a text for you, the more she cares about you and about what you think. So, longer texts, well-written texts, proper spelling: those are all good signs.

  1. You may get a few overwhelming, long-winded texts. It's not because she's crazy or doesn't know how to be concise, she really cares about you, and for whatever reason isn't given the chance to say some things straight to your face. She may give long winded advice or send you the longest rants of goofiness. Don't let it overwhelm you. Take it as a major compliment that she's crushing on you.
  2. It's a bad sign if a girl only texts you one word responses. Women generally hate receiving these and think something is wrong or you're just not interested. A one word response from a woman is frowned upon.
  3. If her texts become less excited, she may find the relationship less exciting. Even if the relationship is leveling out, encourage her crazy texting. Happy, fun texting is a good indication of relationship health. When it becomes only a means of contact and sorting affairs, you're getting dull.
  4. If her responses are flat, she may be busy. Do not immediately think she is annoyed. She may be...but consider that she might be busy.
  5. The words k, okay, and fine are not great indicators.
  6. Any form of XOXOXOX is a dead giveaway.
  7. If she communicates a lot with you in other written mediums, social networks, and emails, she likes you. Girls want to create connection. They want responses so they can feel confident about your interest, and they want to figure out if you're right for them without being too obvious.
  8. Be cautious of drunk texts. These can be indicative, but sometimes girls just send drunken texts out of their ridiculousness and love for the world. Men drunk texting generally means more, especially if it doesn't have overt sexual tones.
  9. If she sends you poetry, such as haikus, she is trying to have fun with you. If this becomes a consistent thing, she likes you.
  10. If she sends you song lyrics, come on, seriously...she likes you.
  11. If she sends you a text with the worst grammar you have ever seen, bad spelling, no real thought: either she doesn't care or is drunk. Girls try to be particular about punctuation and crap, especially as they get older. High schools girls may be more into abbreviations and slang, but someone in grad school? Obviously, this stuff would be beneath them.

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Josh 2 years ago

I like


Jackson 2 years ago

Sweet my gf must like me


Earl 2 years ago

Got 126 replies from the girl I like yesterday, does she like me or is she a big texter? Most of the convo is complimenting each other


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SerenityHalo 2 years ago from Chicago Author

Likely yes.


alen 2 years ago

She love me!!


Ben 2 years ago

ok so i spend about 6 hours every night texting her and eniter one wants to stop the conversation. we finally stop because the conversations get weird and basicallly our brains begin shutting down so that we start spewing the weirdest crap ever. Idk, she shays she thinks im cute, she sends ;) in almost every single one of her texts. she is willing to share her insecurities, and constantly gives me compliments though half the time i think she's faking it and i don't feel worthy of her. Its kind of like a she CAN'T like me because she has way beter guys who she could go for. we don't know each other too well in real life because of school and well i should say were both sophomores, but im almost a year older. so somebody give me some advice! SPEAK PEOPLE! oh and yeah, shes constantly telling me im funny and crazy.


jhon stewart 24 months ago

Ben dude she is definitely into you. You can't expect for the girl to set up the date. You're the one with the balls so use them. She clearly likes you, if shes texting you non stop and telling you you're cute. Ask her to the movies and go in for the kiss. Its the only way to know if shes really into you


Loverboy23 23 months ago

Well, I met a girl a who does many of these indicators, she send me emoticons, exclamation marks etc.... I kind like her too shes a beautiful awesome girl who texts me everyday just about... I want to say this article was great, Im like 99.9% sure she likes my now after reading this!


Stargrrl 20 months ago

There is some pretty good information here, from a girl's perspective. Good points made. Voted up.


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Kate Motina 20 months ago from Kharkov, Ukraine

As a girl, i can say that almost all of these signs are right)) And number 2 "If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions." It made me cry! the very truth itself! But it'snot about texting)Many of men are really annoying, but now, i want him to understand my feelings so much!!((( i met one guy on https://kovla.com/datings/us/indianapolis Ever since I've known him, i'm crazy about him! I would like he catch my hints!


Katrin19 20 months ago

As a girl, i can say that almost all of these signs are right)) And number 2 "If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions." It made me cry! the very truth itself! But it'snot about texting)Many of men are really annoying, but now, i want him to understand my feelings so much!!((( i met one guy on https://kovla.com/datings/us/indianapolis Ever since I've known him, i'm crazy about him! I would like he catch my hints!


Fran 20 months ago

I was so sad when this ended...


moto 20 months ago

I met a girl and i was texting with her about 2 years and now.she sends me a lot of smily,texts about her family etc.we daily texts a lot.when she is online all the time she starts the text.few days before i told 'i love u'.she is not avoiding me.she she is acting the same.but she told me to wait for 3 years after that only she can take a decision.


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DonellMcGriff LM 20 months ago

I hated texting until i met her. Now we text each other everyday from good mornings to good nights...


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FatBoyThin 19 months ago from Kinneff, Scotland

Very interesting and useful - all I need now is a girl to text me! Great Hub.


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Engelta 19 months ago from Albania

Some of them are very true, and lots of them are funny! Some times, that is not what's really happening, but everyone is different, and everyone has it's own manners of approaching people or asking for attention. Great hub by the way, you have really put some thought and effort in it!


JP 19 months ago

I've dated this girl before. A year and a half ago. I've missed her like crazy. She's all I want. Well, her and her now ex boyfriend just broke up. She started talking to me again. At first, we talkie on Facebook, then she asked for my number again. So we text and snapchat. She initiated conversation several times. She sends tons of smileys and exclamation marks and texts frequently. That was day one and part of day two. Now it's like she slowed down on the texting and everything. She doesn't respond as fast and doesn't seem to want to talk. Keep in mind I know this girl well, we dated for six months before. I asked her to talk on the phone tonight and she said not tonight. But we do have plans to meet up and go running later this week. I don't know wether or not she wants me back or not. It's very confusing with the mixed signals. She's told me several months before that I was still the best she's ever had basically and said she liked me the best of everyone she dated and was currently dating. I'm not sure if I'm kinda freaking out over nothing or what. I just want things to work out for us. But basically, she talked a lot at first and she was the one keeping the conversation going. And now it's like she doesn't want to talk. What do I do?


JustRandom 19 months ago

JP, I know its hard - but don't try so hard and give her some room for considerations. Especially after a fresh break up, it may be better for your relationship (in the long term) to slow down just that little tad and meeting up in person as soon as possible. At least this is my experience regarding this topic. Emotions can be very harsh on some people as everyone reacts differently.

So, my advice would be to aim for a date as soon as possible and comdortable in order for the two of you to potentially build a stable and loving relationship.

All the best, L. M.


joseph mburu 18 months ago

That information helped me a lot to know that my girl friend loves me


Nicolas 18 months ago

I got 36 responses today she sends me blushing and kissie faces do you think she likes me?


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SerenityHalo 17 months ago from Chicago Author

Most likely yes.


Masi 17 months ago

She texts my name in exclamation marks..what does that mean?..by the way we have been texting for few months now


Johndeer 15 months ago

what does she mean if she says okk wen I ask her something is it like.a I'm gonna ignore it or I can't wait to for it


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SerenityHalo 15 months ago from Chicago Author

@johndeer

I wouldn't look too deep into that. "Okay" is affirmative of whatever was said. It might be kind of bland or apathetic, but other cues might mean trouble rather than just "okay" by itself.


Diane 10 months ago

I noticed that in the early days/months of a relationship men communicate a lot back and forth but as time goes on it becomes less frequent even though they are still together with you. Why the change in frequency of communication?


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SerenityHalo 10 months ago from Chicago Author

@Diane

Good question! A lot of people slow down on texting because it's time consuming. Messages back and forth should slow down after awhile and you should see the person more in person. Texting is a way to get to know each other and give the relationship momentum. Some people like texting more than others. If you've been in a relationship for awhile, consider other aspects of the relationship outside of texting and ask yourself if it is normal or healthy.


Jesus 10 months ago

I got this girl's number today after class and we just startrd texting and she puts some emoticons and exlamation marks. We text all day and really had a good convo late into the night. Do you think she likes me or just see me as a friend?


Jon 10 months ago

Just counted the texts from a girl I like in one day it was 118 yeah buddy


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SerenityHalo 10 months ago from Chicago Author

@Jesus

Hello, Jesus!

I'm leaning toward she likes you. Emoticons + exclamation marks + having a good conversation are all pluses. See if it keeps going that way and you have a winner.


dhruv 9 months ago

I like a girl. Around 2 months ago she told me u are a good friend. But now it has changed.We text each other frequently in a day. Some times she text very cute messages to me and sometimes she acts just normal. Sometimes she sends me some wierd messages like name of the songs.... I don't even understand that message why she is texting me name of the songs. She always text me back whenever she is free. Does she like me or just see me as a good friend?


Kirito 9 months ago

Hello


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SerenityHalo 9 months ago from Chicago Author

@dhruv

The key is to stay consistent! Consistency helps develop romance.


Natalie Thompson 8 months ago

Long article but informative and easy to read! Structuring the numbered sentences with a bold word or phrase at first would make it easier for a reader to locate the type of texts they want to identify. For example 2. Texts often— (in bold)

You obviously are experienced at giving solid advice!


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SerenityHalo 6 months ago from Chicago Author

@Erik

Don't get too focused on this one girl. A crush of that many years can be hard on you. Keep talking to her, be a positive influence in her life.


Gary 4 months ago

I'm confused sends a lot of text one minute then stops what does this mean


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SerenityHalo 4 months ago from Chicago Author

@Gary

I'm not sure that means anything definitely one way or the other. Do they have texting streaks and then stop altogether for days? If they're still talking to you... that is positive.


Connor 3 months ago

This girl DMed me on instagram and we talked for a bit. I woke up this morning and she sent me a message with her snap and told me to add her. We talked for a bit, but it was slow at first because i was busy. Later in the day we started talking very quickly to each other tonight. I have flirted with her a bit, and i can't tell if she has. But me and her, and her one friend ended up going to get slurps because she wouldn't leave me alone unless i came. I haven't gotten much from her on how she feels, but she laughs a lot at my jokes, and she has jokes around with me a little. Does she like me?


Unknown 3 months ago

I don't know if this girl likes me, she texts me a lot of laughing face emojis and a lot of funny pics and memes. We talk a lot like 3 hrs a day and she has done like 3 or 4 suggestive texts in the last week. She has sent me a pic *NOT NUDE* and I have quickly shut down her some of her flirting as I'm shy, however we have flirted but idk if it means anything. She often laughs at my jokes and random antics with a mix of either lol, lmao or haha...

But when one of my friends asked her if she knew me she just said yeah and moved on... I'm so confused rn. She initiates the conversations like 30% of the time. also we met playing a game *we're not nerds* we just got bored over the summer and she left her clan to join mine, I'm not sure why but...yeah

Also we have a lot of back and forth and it brightens my day when we talk.

She has told me some stuff like she plays volleyball and swims and works out. Also she told me she was playing in a quarter final.

I don't know but I kinda like her and I don't know if she likes me....

I used to hate texting until now...

We have only been texting a week so?

She also was nice to me when I broke up with my girlfriend and gave me advice on how to and things.

If anyone could enlighten me on my situation then... Much appreciated

Thank you


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SerenityHalo 3 months ago from Chicago Author

@Unknown

Only a week? This intensity has only been for a week? I'm pretty certain she likes you. Keep the conversation going. Flirt a little bit, tell her she's pretty, try to hang out, and make her smile. Compliments are a good way to show interest. Be media savvy and don't send dirty pics -- those can be used against you. Let her know you think she's pretty. Ask her out when you think it feels right.


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SerenityHalo 3 months ago from Chicago Author

@Connor

Keep talking to her. It's in the really early stages. Sound like she is interested in seeing where it goes and has a positive perception of you. Not sure if it is romantic.


JonathonWhitley 3 months ago

I'm frustrated bc she goes back and forth, she'll send me pics of her, then one word messages and back to pics. She will ask if I want to come over, the next time she has plans.


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SerenityHalo 3 months ago from Chicago Author

@JonathonWhitley

What happens in person is more important than what happens through text. She could have different amounts of free time and busyness which causes her texts to differ in length and variety. Maybe she's not good with words and understands pictures. Is this something you want? Are you liking the chemistry you have through texting?


Eastwood S13 3 months ago

She texted me go away like 100 times...i thnk she likes me...yipeerr


jam 3 months ago

I'm not sure if she likes me we both made bucket list she said we should stay in a hotel she asked me if I live nearby her friends house . She aldosterone asked me if I'm going to England anytime soon


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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author

Sounds like she might be interested.


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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author

I mean, if she's doing it sarcastically.


Unknown 2 months ago

Does number of exclamation marks matter? I've read that 3+ means the complete opposite?? Source: http://thoughtcatalog.com/maya-kachroo-levine/2015...


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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author

Depends on the person.


Laurence 2 months ago

So , there's this girl. We talk like on and off every day all day, like about conversations on her day, sending pics of her cats etc I usually get like 10 or more messages from her on one subject. I've made her laugh a few times. She has sent me pics of herself but not nudes or anything just normal selfies. Today we were having a conversation about this dress she brought and was telling me her size etc. She opens up to me about her anxiety as we're both awkward and both have anxiety too. Could she be interested?


Oi 2 months ago

Sends me 200-300 texts /day for about a month everyday..maybe more sometimes...


Me 2 months ago

This girl im texting is sending mixed signals, she called me deep one time, i usually initiate texting but she always repsonds at some point, I asked her on a date once 3 years ago and about a week ago she texted me out of the blue and now we have been texting daily about simple things, is that a good sign or is me always initiating a sign that this is going downhill?


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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author

@me

Women like when men initiate. If she keeps talking, that is a good sign. If she texted you out of the blue, that is good as well. I say keep talking, see where it goes, raise the curiosity a touch.


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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author

@Laurence

I think she is likely interested. Keep talking and see where it goes. :)


Whatup 7 weeks ago

This girl with who I was talking yesterday via snapchat was almost always using a filter but the snaps were lovely and funny also we spended 2hours and even more on snap together she also laughs alot with my jokes but she doesn't often use emojis or kisses also cuz we talked for the real first time since I met her at a party. When we were at the party she initiaded the conversation but for like 10 mins maybe we were a bit too shy then and in school we don t see each other often but when we meet in class( like for 5 lessons in a whole week) we have a laugh and we talk a bit and sometimes I catch her looking at me but anyways can anyone let me know ?what this means


Craig 7 weeks ago

Right here's mine,

I've known her 3 months, talked to her quite a lot but never really thought much about it the first month, talked a lot but we'd be hanging out with a lot of people.

I had a girlfriend and she had a boyfriend when we first met, I'm single now and I think she is too (not a hundred percent sure but she hasn't mentioned him in weeks and she was going to break up with him the last time she mentioned him).

We'd normally talk a lot during the day but I don't see her anymore but we now talk everyday. Normally starts during the day and ends all the way till bed. A few times a week she either phones me or I phone her and we chat about everything. Lots of emoji's and pictures about everything (hair colour change, dinner, out with friends all of that). She sometimes adds kisses at the end but sometimes doesn't. I'd say it's me starting the texting about 2/3, maybe 3/4 of the time but she's normally the one that calls.

The only problem is English isn't her first language (she's Greek) so I'm not sure if she's into me or if she just likes talking. We're both really busy so when we make plans something normally comes up or we get pulled into meeting with others.

She does use some of the slang words that I say now but honestly, and there's a lot of haha's and big smileys but I'm not kidding here when I say I genuinely have no idea if she's interested. There's also a few inside jokes. Cannot tell if it's interest or if I've ended up being a really good friend.

Sorry for the long one but I'm genuinely confused haha


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SerenityHalo 7 weeks ago from Chicago Author

First things first: definitely establish whether or not she is single. That will help clear the air for you. :) Hopefully this can come up naturally, but it should be something to address.

I really think you have a really good shot here. I think you should see her in person and see where it goes. That will help since English isn't her first language, and I can understand how that would be confusing. European norms are not the same as American ones, and the like, etc. If she is talking to you that constantly about everything, she clearly has a strong connection with you, and I'm thinking it is because she is interested.

I think it should be okay at this point to ask her if she sees you as a friend or someone she could potentially date.

I don't think it'll hurt the friendship if it's strong enough for you to tell her you like her. She's gotta be thinking something is up at this point too.


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SerenityHalo 7 weeks ago from Chicago Author

This sounds like really, really early stages of anything. There may be interest -- I suggest keep doing what you're doing, and let it naturally go the course it is going on currently.


Bharat 7 weeks ago

I have known her 1 year. She never texts me first, everytime I message her first. I remember she texted me once when she needed help. I really don't know if she likes me.


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SerenityHalo 7 weeks ago from Chicago Author

What kind of things do you guys say?


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@SerenityHalo

Sorry!


ohjiho 5 weeks ago

i've been texting a girl for a month now, we used to have crush on each other many years back. Everything was good before she start to take hours to reply my messages, but she never ignore it so far...i asked her once if i annoyed her, what she said was something indicates that my texts bored her....but we still continue to text each other after that...however, i noticed some changes, she stopped liking my social media posts (she used to like almost all of my posts before this). I understand that she might be busy, but when i found out that she's online on social media for hours without replying to my texts, i'm starting to doubt whether this is going anywhere, or am I being too sensitive?


Mike 5 weeks ago

Okay so I've been talking to this girl non stop, everyday for months now. Like very rarely do we go a few hours without texting. But we both have very busy schedules and getting together seems almost impossible. There are times I'll recommend us to hang out and she will sort of change the subject and forget about it.... any ideas? I'm going crazy lol


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SerenityHalo 5 weeks ago from Chicago Author

Don't put too much hope into it! That would be step 1. Otherwise you'll put too much expectation on it and lose her. Keep texting if she is responding. Eventually you'll find a weak spot in the schedule. If you keep talking to her, she'll most likely want to hang out or do something.


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SerenityHalo 5 weeks ago from Chicago Author

In person communication is the most important. You can't weigh a lot on Facebook likes. They are a nice positive indication when they are happening, but it doesn't mean much when they stop. Try changing up how you text. Are you guys living in the same town?


Mike 5 weeks ago

Thanks for the response! Yeah I see your point, it's just a little frustrating is all. She knows I like her. When I told her she said she "I honestly don't know what I want right now" which I could accept if that was the end of it. But she still initiates conversations all the time, sends me pics, sends "xoxo" and we have very serious conversations all the time about the future, our (separate) families etc. So I just find it weird that she doesn't seem too motivated to hang out in person.


Matthew 5 weeks ago

OK, so I'd appreciate some feedback on this matter if you could. 4 years ago I was talking to a woman and we would text all day long, lots of the indicators were present that it was headed somewhere, but she did admit that she had a crush on a guy, that wasn't me. Eventually he wizened up and they eventually had a child. So we stayed friends, and I moved on with my life, moved away to Boston and had my own life and we eventually lost contact. Now, 3 years after our last conversation, I had just moved back to town after recovering from a breakup with someone I really cared for. I've been single for 10 months to give myself time to heal, and I went back onto the same dating site I met the woman on 4 years prior, and she found me and asked me to text her again. We have jumped right back into our rhythm like before, only this time there's no other guy, she had a bad breakup few months prior and said when she found me again it was a sign.

There are many indicators again that she's into me. We text and talk all through the day, and we'll into the evening, but I usually stop it around 10pm as I have a lot going on with my recent move back. Though she will text me well into 2am just to see if I'm sleeping well, she knows I have combat ptsd and tend to wake up a lot. She makes a point to be there when I do have it arise, and talks me down so I can relax.

All of this should be a no brainer I would think, yet I've told her that I still feel strongly about her, but I'm cautiously optimistic about this. There a few flags that raise concern that it will be the same as before and I'm just a feel good flirt to someone else. Rarely a reciprocated compliment thrown my way, even after I point out every beautiful thing about her, she opens up some about her feelings, but never much more than you might tell a work friend. I've politely prodded her to talk, and she will go on at length about many things, but she is reserved about her feelings. She wants to go on a date, but not now, and no date has been set for when this may or may not occur.

She will be a bit flirty like saying she wishes I was there to keep her warm, then tell me she just wants to keep talking and see where it goes. We've been talking again now for a week and it's a hundred plus messages a day from the moment she wakes up till she will literally fall asleep talking to me on the phone. That's how it was years ago too, so I really don't know if she's actually into having a romantic relationship with me or just the deep friendship we've had in the past.


Bob7 4 weeks ago

I text this girl every day, sometimes she starts it and sometimes I do. We been gd friends for about two years but the past 2/3 months we both says we like each other but I always feel like I text too much or she not really interested. She says she still likes me but I'm not too sure, I want to believe her but she just doesn't act like it at all. Never complimented me yet I tell her she's beautiful and that. When she clearly upset I show interest but when I feel upset she never seems to realise, maybe I'm just over thinking things but it really messing me up the now


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SerenityHalo 4 weeks ago from Chicago Author

Have you hung out with her in person? Are you guys seeing each other in person? Maybe that's what you need, a date or something. Things can get easily misconstrued through texting. Girls also don't compliment guys as much, unfortunately. Women are not trying to be jerks, but they understand romance better by responding to someone's energy, not by trying to lead it themselves -- they'll start to feel like they're doing two jobs at once. Now, this doesn't go for everyone, but it is pretty typical. It's a very yin and yang thing. Look into yin and yang.


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SerenityHalo 4 weeks ago from Chicago Author

I think she wants it to be romantic and doesn't want to screw it up either. That's a ton of texting to be going back and forth and definitely shows interest. A lot changes in 4 years, so I think the slate is clean and something new altogether. I say keep talking, please keep talking. I think you should push for a date, and don't get your emotions trying to fast forward things. Take it easy, nice and slow.

She may still have some stuff to work through with her also recent breakup, but since she is the one who found you on a dating site, I think she's genuine about her interest. It might just need a moment for it to get settled and to develop on its way. My best advice: keep it positive. Whatever is going on, be positive, supportive, and let her know you are in it to nourish it. Nothing is wrong with that.

If you want her to compliment you more, you may have to flat out say that -- or say "I like when you compliment me." Women really just are oblivious that guys like compliments; it's not meant to be rude. She definitely likes you. I hope this works out.


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SerenityHalo 4 weeks ago from Chicago Author

I say keep making it positive, and definitely nudge her to make it in person... after awhile that would definitely get old. But if you can keep talking to her and not let that bother you, it may turn into something awesome.


carl 3 weeks ago

Its been three months with my girlfriend and she never text me to start a convesation.if i text her,sometimes she will reply sometimes she wont . i just want her to text me just once to start a conversation in text. i dont know whats going on.


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SerenityHalo 2 weeks ago from Chicago Author

Have you tried telling her how you feel? A lot of women prefer men initiate conversations.


Jacob 10 days ago

A friend of mine does all ten of those things listed at the top and she has told me twice that she doesn't like me, so I wouldn't say it's set in stone. 50 responses sounds like a lot, too, but it isn't because I'm pretty sure I've received nearly 70 or so just today in conversations I didn't start and again, she doesn't like me.

Good to know I'm right in not understanding the situation.


Shug 10 days ago

I met this girl through work and we kinda clicked. We would talk and joke with each other, but nothing serious. At one point I mentioned that I had never been to Medieval Times and she said we should go and picked the time and date when we should go, and we did. We didn't specify it as a date or anything but we went mini-putting afterwards and the a dessert place for a couple of hours, then I drove her back home. I didn't try to kiss her though I could kind of tell there was a sort of tension where we were seeing what the other would do. Since then we've pretty much been texting CONSTANTLY, like at least a few hundred texts a day.

Here's where I'm getting mixed signals. She never flat out compliments me, never sends pics of herself and doesn't really ask for my opinion on anything. However, the conversation keeps flowing smoothly and we send texts the size of essays to each other. We text in the morning, afternoon, evening and night (til 2am or so). She has occasionally mentioned some guys, but always follows it up as an ex or someone she's not into. There's almost always emojis in every text. Whenever we talk about getting drunk (not together) she says she tends to make bad decisions or spends her energy making out. If the conversation tends to naturally end and we see each other at work, she'll text me later starting a new conversation.

I am starting to develop feelings for her and I did ask her since she had a free night if she wanted to do something and she said that she was swamped with work and starting to get sick and sent a few follow up messages apologizing and wanting to reschedule.

I feel like I'm overthinking this and I want to make a move but I don't want to ruin the friendship if I'm wrong.


Darren 9 days ago

Hi,

I've an issue..

I know this girl since primary school, we didn't really hang out together at that time, but we do since around ~4 years. 2 years ago I began developping feelings for her. Just after she broke up with one of my best friends (they had a relationship for a very long time), I decided to ask whether she liked me or not, as my self-confidence wasn't that great and still isn't. She said: "I just ended this relationship.. I'm not looking for another at this moment". One week after that, she got into another relationship with one of my friends! It felt devastating, I must say..

~ 1 year ago she left the circle of friends and we didn't speak that much. A couple of weeks ago, I had a party at one of the friends still in our circle of friends. She asked whether I wanted to go with her to the party, as we both live in the same area and we had to go by bus. We had a fun time and it looked like she kept trying to get my attention through smiling and laughing at what I had to say. Since then we both send a lot of snaps and chat. I'm not sure whether she likes me or not.. She does send a lot of emojis and also heart emoji's.

Any way I can find out whether she likes me? (without letting her know that I still like her?)

Thanks in advance,

Darren


Tino 7 days ago

What if she would be Snapchatting me everyday? Would that be a good sign or a little bit of a sign?


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SerenityHalo 7 days ago from Chicago Author

It's a good sign.


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SerenityHalo 7 days ago from Chicago Author

People who date the same people from the same circle are usually trouble. If she dated one of your best friends and is now flirting with you, this could be a troublesome person. Is this friend of yours still a best friend? Then she dated another friend? That's two people from the same circle. I worry she is leading you on. Does she seem sweet or more sultry? Does she seem to care about your feelings or is being more sexual?


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SerenityHalo 7 days ago from Chicago Author

She is talking to you a lot and I think you guys have a nice flow. The most important thing, actually, is that work romances are delicate (but also have favorable odds). You don't want to screw up that connection because it can make going to work terrible, so as a rule of thumb be careful about not making things negative for the two of you. As for the things you are worrying about, women are not going to compliment you as much and that's okay. There's all kinds of reasons out there, but usually they don't compliment as much, and it's not because they're trying to be rude. Sometimes when they are complimenting you a lot, that's actually suspect for luring you in, maybe just trying to seduce you for your resources but not actually like you. Women have more pressure not to be forward. They want you to pursue them; it'll confuse them if you have them chasing you. A lot of them will drop out if you put them in those situations. Not all, but a lot. It's a yin and yang thing. Women typically (not always) are more yin like and responsive. Men are typically (not always) more yang like, and initiate more instead of the responsive lead. Changing up that dynamic for some people will confuse the crap out of them. And it can reverse itself at times. She sounds like a yin.

Not everyone sends pictures of themselves, and that's okay. It might be too much pressure, or they overanalyze what they're wearing and the lighting. Pictures are not mandatory. And... women don't ask for opinions as much as guys do either. These are not the typical tactics women use to flirt. Usually if a girl is talking a lot, and trying to keep it interesting, that's usually your best sign. I think she likes you. Rescheduling for being sick is fine. She works with you.... so she can't really run away. Don't over think. Instead try to nourish, encourage, and enjoy. Over thinking will backfire on you.


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SerenityHalo 7 days ago from Chicago Author

Sounds like she is giving you mixed signals. And yes, things are not always set in stone. I would feel like someone likes me if they sent me that many messages. That's at least a best friend level. Or an extremely social, chatty person.


Kokode 5 days ago

Okay so, there is this girl at my work. Her and I tend to tease each other. I sometimes tease her by saying, "your boyfriend is here to pick you up." And she would reply, "not my boyfriend, thats my dad out there." One time she even asked if i was in a relatioship, I said, "no, not currently," and she asked me, "why? You're a funny guy." I finally ended up sending her a facebook friend request, and she accepted it that same day. So i decided to message her, to which she would reply almost instantly. But the next day, I messaged her however she didn't reply even though she saw my message. So i sent her a, "hey, how was your day?" She didn't check it or reply, even though I can see she was basically on and off facebook all day. I do not want to seem bothersome, so I do not feel like sending her another message unless she doesn't reply for another day or so. I am getting mixed signals from her, what do you guys think?


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SerenityHalo 4 days ago from Chicago Author

Keep talking to her in person. It seems like you have a good connection there and that is more important. People can have very odd Facebook preferences that can be hard to understand sometimes. It's easy to miss messages on Facebook. Try getting her phone number in a natural way. Text messages are easier to follow with people.


Jack 4 days ago

Currently, I am in Year 9 in secondary school (9th grade I think is the American equivalent?) and for some time now I've noticed this girl in the same classes I am in (bar three) like a few of my posts on Instagram, then immediately remove them. This happens as well on Twitter. I constantly talk to her over text and Instagram but not nearly as much at school, with the conversations we have online always exceeding both of us posting 10, the highest having been 25. They don't contain emojis, but there are a lot of abbreviations only we and a few others understand, and she expresses herself with her text well. Whenever I say something along the lines of, 'Thanks for that,' she'll reply most of the time with, 'Uh, thanks?' She instantly views and responds to my messages with at least a sentence or more of text. For a few months as well now, she'll constantly look at me before turning away to a foreign object when I catch the look, which she shortly and subtly blushes afterwards. She also plays with her hair a lot when nearby me: any idea what's happening, or if I should take the next step?


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SerenityHalo 41 hours ago from Chicago Author

You are getting a lot of quantity from her -- but what is the quality of the content? I say keep talking to her. Things will open up naturally and you'll figure out what you need here. If you feel ready to confess that you like her, do so. If not, you can wait it out and see if things grow anymore.

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