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What Do Girls Mean When They Text?
Girls often text differently from their male counterparts. If you're a guy, it can be tough to figure out what a girl really means.
Is she just asking for directions, or something more? Was that really just a picture of puppies? Once you understand how she's trying to communicate with you over text, it will be a lot easier to tell if she's interested.
Top 10 Signs She Likes You Over Text
Before we get into the details, here are the top ten ways you can know if a girl likes you through text. Below you'll find plenty more ways and lots of details.
- She texts you very frequently and often initiates conversation.
- She keeps the conversation going when she could have ended it.
- She sends you pictures, either of things that she thinks are funny or cute or pictures of herself.
- She replies to your texts quickly.
- She texts you at night.
- She uses lots of emojis and rarely gives you one-word answers to your texts.
- She sends you poetry, song lyrics, or articles that she likes.
- She asks you questions.
- She teases you.
- She asks to hang out with you or see you in person.
Subject: What Is She Texting You About?
This should be your first question: what is she talking about? And is there a deeper meaning beneath her words?
How to Interpret Lighthearted Texting
There are lots of fun, little texts that you may not even think about, but that also give subtle hints that this girl likes you and wants you to like her. Here are some signs to look out for.
- If she sends you a message that is meant to be taken as funny or random, and it's out of the blue, she probably wants to flirt with you.
- If she is asking for directions or something basic, she is probably only asking for directions.
- She'll bring up inside jokes as a way to break the ice.
- Any kind of "breaking the ice" topics are a good sign that she likes you. If you have no idea why she's starting a conversation through text and it seems comical, she definitely likes you.
- If she brings up anything featuring words such as: shower, bed, or clothing changes, she might be flirting. Girls are not as direct as guys and these seem like hot buzz words to throw to see if you react. Girls who do this might not be looking for a relationship, but something more short term. Either way, they're probably being flirty.
- If she asks what you like about her looks, such as whether her hair is curly or straight, it's because she wants to know what appeals to you. Same goes with what colors suit her, which of her outfits you like best, etc.
- Girls may get weird or shy away if you become too overt or sexual. Be a gentleman to her so you don't freak her out. Girls are more sensitive in some ways about language, so consider the possible effect of an innocent innuendo about 5Xs before sending.
- She will have an assortment of nicknames for you. If you receive a message with more than ONE nickname, she likes you.
- If she calls you out for something or playfully teases you, she's comfortable with you and may be being flirty.
- If she says, "EWWWWW!" or something of the sort . . . . that's not a great response.
- If she texts you about her family or pets, she probably wants you to know them and associates you with them, or is very close to her family.
- Same goes for texting you about anything positive or cute. She probably associates you with those feelings. Seriously, once I texted a guy about puppies that I saw from my car. I wasn't really texting him about puppies. I was really saying "I WISH YOU COULD BE HERE AND SEE THESE CUTE PUPPIES BECAUSE I LIKE PUPPIES AND I LIKE YOU AND YOU'RE CUTE!" Sometimes this is what women are really feeling and they try to tone it down so you won't run away. He ended up liking the puppy text, by the way. ;)
- If she compliments your strong arms, shoulders, or how you hug, she's trying to find a nice way to say she likes when you touch her.
- If she talks about other guys to you, this isn't good. Guys sometimes talk about the girls they like to the girl they really like; girls don't really do that. If they tell you about guys they like, most likely they see you as a friend. Girls keep their business private when they think they might have a chance with you.
Is She Texting You About Serious Subjects? She Seriously Likes You.
If a girl is texting you during tough times or about serious things in her life, and especially if she's allowing herself to be emotionally vulnerable with you, that's a huge deal because it means she trusts and respects you. Of course, a girl might trust and respect you and still only see you as a friend. But chances are, if she's letting herself get that close to you, she probably likes you as something more. The following are text message signs that will let you know that this girl really, really likes you.
- If she sends you a nice text after you have had a breakup with someone else, consider this a sign of careful interest. She's on top of what's going on, but she doesn't want to be a jerk and swoop in on you. Instead, she's checking in on you to see how you're doing and see if she can do something about it. She wants to be around you, and to be there for you if you need it.
- If she texts you when there's a problem and she needs help. You're one of the few people she thinks will be handy in a situation that takes problem-solving, whether killing a spider, finding her keys, or comforting her when she is sad.
- If she writes to you talking about her day, she likes the attention you give her and she wants to open up to you. If she's talking a lot to you, she wants you to open up. She may not be sure how to get you to talk. Women love listeners, but they love when you talk too. They see it as an affirmation that the relationship isn't just one-sided.
- If she texts you a compliment, she might be thinking of you and missing you.
- If she texts you an "I miss you" out of the blue or after a long text conversation: sweet goodness, go meet up with her. She's either been dying to say that, or has been thinking about you a lot and is probably feeling like others don't compare. Because, you know, others don't compare. :)
- She'll give you advice. Girls knows it's weird to give advice in a text message, especially long advice, but if she cares about you and notices something that you're doing is off, then she'll be dying to confront it. BECAUSE SHE CARES.
- If she texts you about events that are way out in the future, she might want you to accompany her and is telling you to keep your calendar free...for her. Women drop hints about what they want to do with you. They have visions about having fun, and they want someone to go with them, play games, eat food, and spend quality time.
- If she texts you an "I'm sorry" message, then she doesn't want to be on bad terms with you. She cares about you and about what you think of her. She probably really is sorry.
- If she texts you "I like you" or "I love you" multiply this by about 20. Unless she dishes that out to everyone, those words are gutsy.
- If a woman texts you when she is sad this can go two ways: 1.) Unfortunately, she may be manipulating you and knows that emotions will hook a guy, or 2.) She may need comfort and sees you as someone she can trust when vulnerable.
- If a woman is being vulnerable with you, and is truly honest, that shouldn't be taken for granted. She probably MORE than likes you. Try to respect that vulnerability and act worthy of her trust.
Timing: When Is She Texting?
Timing and context are all important when figuring out text messages. How often does she text you?
Context: Trying to Meet Up
Are you trying to upgrade your interactions from social media to real life hanging out? Here are some signs that will help you figure out if she'd like to do that, too, and if she is using text messaging to try and find a way to spend more time with you.
- If she mentions something that could be an activity, she's trying to gauge if you would like to do that activity with her. For example, "Do you like bowling?" means she wants to go bowling with you.
- If she texts you to try to meet up with you, she's trying to create a connection and see how you're doing. Questions such as asking you to do a favor for her, asking to borrow a book, or asking you to escort her through an unpleasant situation are all good signs. These are open-ended interactions that create an opportunity for you
- If she says she is busy, more than likely she'll try to schedule you in at another time right then and there. If she leaves it at ambiguous "busy" she's probably trying to be nice about letting you down, or is completely booked (either way, it's better to leave the ball in her court.)
- If she makes up a ridiculous excuse like, "I have to watch my cat tonight." OR "I'm washing my hair tonight." Then you are the equivalent of dirt.
- If she texts you to see if you are going to a party, she more than likely wants to go with you or see you there.
What the Frequency and Timing of Her Texts Mean
Often, the amount a girl texts you is even more important than what she's actually texting. Time of day, frequency, and occasion can all be important clues as to how much a girl likes you. Here are some signs relating to not what she texts you, but when and how often.
- When a girl really, really likes you she will text you a lot. She may initiate several conversations, though this will frustrate her because she will think that you don't like her if you never initiate.
- If she texts you back when it's unnecessary, she wants to keep the conversation alive. Any part on her to keep the conversation alive, especially the longer it goes on, is an obvious indication that she enjoys talking / flirting with you.
- If she doesn't text back at all after several days, that's a big bad sign. Women don't typically do that. She may forget, but usually will send a courtesy text to apologize. Flat-out forgetting several times is weird.
- Some women are not as overt as others, she may rely more on her sense of humor and the amount of texts she sends. There's nothing wrong with her, she just prefers to be cool rather than a total flirtbag.
- Sometimes girls send you back a response to AFFIRM that they like you. Keep this in mind!
- With each 10 responses given in a day, the bigger the chance that she likes you. For instance, 10 texts a day is a lot, 20 is very indicative, 30 is flat out obvious, with 40 you should go see her, and 50 is incredible.
- If she texts you on and off throughout an entire day, that is indicative...on both your parts.
- If she initiates some sort of texting game with you, she may be trying to gauge your interest and figure you out. This may be for fun, but the longer it continues, the more likely she is crushing on you.
- If she texts late at night, and it's not a booty call, she likes you. She knows 1am is a strange time, and would have to really trust and think you're safe if she is doing so if it's not overt.
- Girls will consistently text if they like you. They will try to figure out some sort of pattern. If you are getting a lot of texts in a week, month, year, two years—try thinking about all of it together.
- If she sends you texts every day, she likes you.
- If she texts you after a hangout saying that she enjoyed spending time with you, it is unlikely to just be courtesy.
- If she texts all your guy friends a whole lot, then she is either a big texter, or is hoping one of you will get the hint.
- If she doesn't text you the day of her birthday or a few days after, you screwed up.
- If she doesn't text you when she is gone for a weekend and you are in a relationship, she might be considering breaking up with you.
Beyond Words: Pictures and Formatting
A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words: Texting in Pics
If the girl you like is sending you pictures, that's a great sign. Usually, she'll either send you a picture of something she thinks is cool or funny (like a funny license place or a cute dog) or she'll send you pictures of herself. If she sends you pictures of other stuff, she's saying "This reminded me of you," or she simply likes you so much that she wants to share fun moments with you. If she's sending you pictures of herself, that's even better.
- She'll send you pictures of her animals that she thinks are cute because she hopes it'll make a positive impression, and because if she likes you, she wants you to like her animals as much as she does.
- If she sends pictures of herself to you: yeah, she likes you. Do not share pictures of her with your friends ever. It's for you.
- If she sends pictures with her face and she wants to show you her outfit, such as for school or work, she likes you in a a serious way and wants your opinion.
- If you get pictures of certain specific body parts, something more scandalous, especially without her face visible, that probably means you are a booty call.
- If she sends you a lot of pictures that are just random: she likes you and wants to share little moments with you.
- If she posts pictures on her Instagram, count the amount that are related to you. The more the better. If she has lots of pictures with everyone, then this isn't as accurate.
- If she texts you back with a picture of something you gave her with smiley faces, she's trying to affirm that she likes you back, and she appreciates your gift.
- Girls are more likely to use smileys and exclamation marks than boys. The winky face is a dead giveaway. If there's an overabundance of smileys, exclamation marks, and overall excitement, that's also an positive sign.
Pay Attention to the Formatting and Length of Her Texts
After all, there's more to text messages than the words themselves. Length, syntax, even punctuation can be an indicator of whether a girl likes you. A general rule is: the more time she spends on a text for you, the more she cares about you and about what you think. So, longer texts, well-written texts, proper spelling: those are all good signs.
- You may get a few overwhelming, long-winded texts. It's not because she's crazy or doesn't know how to be concise, she really cares about you, and for whatever reason isn't given the chance to say some things straight to your face. She may give long winded advice or send you the longest rants of goofiness. Don't let it overwhelm you. Take it as a major compliment that she's crushing on you.
- It's a bad sign if a girl only texts you one word responses. Women generally hate receiving these and think something is wrong or you're just not interested. A one word response from a woman is frowned upon.
- If her texts become less excited, she may find the relationship less exciting. Even if the relationship is leveling out, encourage her crazy texting. Happy, fun texting is a good indication of relationship health. When it becomes only a means of contact and sorting affairs, you're getting dull.
- If her responses are flat, she may be busy. Do not immediately think she is annoyed. She may be...but consider that she might be busy.
- The words k, okay, and fine are not great indicators.
- Any form of XOXOXOX is a dead giveaway.
- If she communicates a lot with you in other written mediums, social networks, and emails, she likes you. Girls want to create connection. They want responses so they can feel confident about your interest, and they want to figure out if you're right for them without being too obvious.
- Be cautious of drunk texts. These can be indicative, but sometimes girls just send drunken texts out of their ridiculousness and love for the world. Men drunk texting generally means more, especially if it doesn't have overt sexual tones.
- If she sends you poetry, such as haikus, she is trying to have fun with you. If this becomes a consistent thing, she likes you.
- If she sends you song lyrics, come on, seriously...she likes you.
- If she sends you a text with the worst grammar you have ever seen, bad spelling, no real thought: either she doesn't care or is drunk. Girls try to be particular about punctuation and crap, especially as they get older. High schools girls may be more into abbreviations and slang, but someone in grad school? Obviously, this stuff would be beneath them.
K on August 08, 2020:
Me and my crush do streaks and she's sent a pic of her in a tight shirt and a mirror selfie of her showing off her ass, often sending pics of her and not a black screen, once a couple of months ago she sent me a meme "maybe if i get feelings for corona it'll go away", when I talk to her sometimes she uses a few emojis including
Boi2007 on April 02, 2020:
So I kinda like this girl and I read this article a bit and she does a lot of these things. She texts me everyday, she sends me over 70 text replies per day, and she texts me until about midnight every night. So I texted her just to test the waters and asked her if she liked me, she basically said that she doesn’t like anyone with all the stuff that’s going on right now but she wants to be “really good friends.” I’m a little bit confused because of all the so called “hints” she was dropping. I have continued texting her however and she still texts me basically all day every day and she will still text me late at night.Thoughts?
Fahim on March 29, 2020:
If she text you when she is gone for a weekend and you are not in a relationship, what that does mean?
Anonymously Guy on March 14, 2020:
i have a crush but before i had interested about her she was clingy last year at school like she's showing body language that she likes me but i didn't notice it before long... when time pass by i noticed that i like her but i am thinking that "was she the first to have a crush on me or am i misunderstanding?" we always chat and she replies whenever I'm the first one who starts the topic, she laugh when i post something funny but i don't think she's trying to get close to me or to get more infos about me. I'll try this month that i will just wait for a while till she chats me.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 18, 2020:
Here is my recommendation.... try dating some other people at the same time. I don't think getting involved with someone who is married is ever clean cut. I usually don't recommend it and try to push people to find something else that's better suited and gives you everything you really want.
Affairs can get pretty involved, and can come with some collateral or even legal damage. You'll be hurting your wallet and potentially sanity this way. I think getting too attached to this person could be bad for you, and you deserve a more healthy relationship that isn't founded on secrets, an affair, and the like. If someone who is married is willing to cheat on their partner for you, what stops them from also cheating on you?
The big question is why did she stop talking to you and why did she start talking to you again?
I say, don't put stock into this person. They're calling the shots in this, and it's not the best deal you can get. Life is short. Don't waste it on someone who can't really be there for you. We have so many tools in this day and age that it's easier to find someone than ever.
There are other people who can have deep and meaningful conversations with you and have the time to invest in you.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 18, 2020:
Good luck ;)
DazedAndDepressed on February 17, 2020:
I was reading some of your responses to previous comments and enjoy your upfront and honest style of writing. I’m basically looking for confirmation here and one of your glaring insights that I have to be overlooking here. But basically I started an affair with what, I thought, was one of my best friends(Which is the first red flag) With a married woman and mother of one. I’ve know her for about 6 years and at this point we’ve been having a full blown affair for over a year now. How this ties into your text article. Is that texting is obviously our main form of communication. She recently ghosted me for about 5 months(wow, the issues here make me want to stop writing this now) But I hope this scenario can help someone. But basically, we started texting again. I feel the depression underlying my small bits of false happiness. When she sends me random texts late at night or in the middle of the day when I know she’s busy. We haven’t seen each other since she ghosted me. But I guess I’m asking. Does it sound like she’s just using me? Keeping me around when things in her marriage get boring or rocky? We are both highly sensitive and emotionally intelligent people. So our text exchanges being 3 hours or 15 minutes are usually filled with deep meaningful and effortless conversation. I know I need to cut all ties. But I couldn’t focus on anything else for the last 5 months
Loverboy on February 16, 2020:
I appreciate this, I hope you're right and my gut tells me I am too. I'm going for this :D
Omen on February 14, 2020:
Friendzoned, or she could change her mind
Ok on January 21, 2020:
Like 9 out of 10 points above are happening with me during text. The problem is the girl is already in a relationship. Help me out on this one.
Andreas on December 22, 2019:
Hi I know a girl and I like her, I don’t really completely know if she does maybe, because a lot of signs like the sending pics of animal and family are same, but once she texted me something like that she is out with her male friend so gimme me an hour till I get home so we can play minecraft. She didn’t said boyfriend cuz here in Czech Republic we also say male friend and female friends as friends and we say boyfriend and girlfriend as someone to love. Does she like me or not?
Please help :(
J on December 18, 2019:
Me and this girl been talking for a while now. She makes me feel like I am somebody. We text through out the day but a lot. She also sent me pics of her and I did the same. She sent one first. I feel like we have this connection I’ve had these weird dreams lately (not about her) but they say dreams have signs and I been looking up on it. All positive signs that everything might work out. I hope it does. She tells me all of her problems and she feels like I’m the only one that could help her and I do. And I cherish those small moment because they bring the best out of people. I think we both like each other. What do you think?
Miss on December 04, 2019:
I am a girl and I feel called out because I do most of them
Zane on December 04, 2019:
If we have a convo and she texts me 97 times but not with the best grammar do you think she likes me because I just don’t know. She also played a game with me and I won and we texted a TON of emojis. Also we texted for 2 1/2 hours. AT NIGHT.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 28, 2019:
This may just be the way she communicates with messages -- she takes her time and likely is doing several things at once. The "seen" part of messages shouldn't be trusted as it isn't always accurate. Send her another message or two if she's taking awhile to reply back, or try another form of communication.
Rafa on October 27, 2019:
This girl reads the message leaves me on seen and then replies. Sometimes after 30 min, after a day and her new record: replied after 5 days of leaving m on seen. This last one she asked a question (first time ever), I send her messages in Italian and seemed interested about me learning italian.
PD. we went out on a date once and she's very introverted. What does it mean to reply after leaving me on seen. Usually I just go on when someone seems not interested, and I've searched about this behavior and asked about this to female friends about, but they're as confused as me with this girl. Any help?
Lachlan Richardson on September 06, 2019:
There’s this girl that I’ve been talking to on Snapchat. She often texts me late at night, she opens my messages immediatley, she texts me quotes or song lyrics but I think she sends them to everyone.could you guys tell me if she’s into me or not?
Jonathan Mason on August 24, 2019:
Not all girls fit this description because some just don't like to text anybody that much I know a girl like that I personally also don't like taxing that much it just is kind of a It's article doesn't speak for all women
Cameron on August 07, 2019:
There's this girl I've known for several years now and we recently reconnected. We've hung out a couple times as well. We text a lot and sometimes she texts GIPHYs or stickers on Instagram. Does that mean she likes me?
in love in you on March 07, 2019:
lol i like it lol
InLove on November 29, 2018:
I like a girl but i dont really know if she likes me back. I guess i have been spamming her but she said today she will text me later but i havent had any word from her. I think shes single and shes also my friend. We dont really talk but last year..we always talked. We dont have the same classes but I see her in the hallways. One time this year she sent me an laughing emoji then a red heart. I need some help. Please.
Karan on October 11, 2018:
There is a girl with whom I use to talk on Instagram. She becomes more and more frank with me. Now she started ignoring my message and comments because she saw my photo with another girl.
Nick Fox on August 08, 2018:
The girl I like, I asked her if she wanted to hang out more and she repied “I mean it what ever happens happens”.
i am a shadow on July 22, 2018:
the girl im texting is showing most of these signs and she replied 170 times in on day but im not sure how it works if you live in different states. what do I do
Anon on June 25, 2018:
So there's a girl and we have been friends for a very long time and drifted apart when we were younger. In the last six months we have started spending more time together again, going for walks or out for coffee and trampolining, never as dates, just as friends.
We text each other most days and see each other at least once a week. She always uses emojis in her texts with me and recently started to use my name as well in said texts.
Over the last couple of weeks I have come to find that I have quite strong feelings for her but I am unsure of how to proceed or whether it is even something that I should follow up on? We've been friends for 35 years and there was always something between us when we were younger but life took us in different directions and now I'm just not sure if it is a good idea to try and talk to her about this?
justarandom16yo on May 01, 2018:
I like this one girl and she responds usually instant or with a small break. We chat every day almost and on-off all day especially at night. She tells me about her problems i try to comfort her.. and it seems she really cares since for example she tells me to "go eat something for god's sake" when i haven't eaten in like 2 days. Anyways she told me she "doesn't see a future with us being more than friends" but still keeps almost all of these points on... i don't know what to do. Last night she was drunk and we did the same. plz help xd
Anonymous on April 30, 2018:
I like this girl and she never initiates texts but she replys every time like in 5 or ten minutes. One of my friends asked her out and she said no she likes someone else. Also she never sends me pictures randomly except once when she was crying about something. We talk alot in class in fact she teaches me spanish. In class she starts conversations but over text never. So im wondering if she likes me and how do i find out if she likes me
I don’t have a name on March 23, 2018:
If my crush uses bad grammar on purpose to be funny and she does it with everyone, what does that mean?
If when ever I say “kill me” or “OMG I want to die” she says “nOOOO” what does that mean?
Also, how can I tell if she likes me as a friend or more, if she calls me a friend but uses some of the cute signs, and I’m not a guy? Also I told her that I like her but she didn’t say “sorry I only like you as a friend” or something like that she said “ok, don’t be scared, there is no problem with that” then she hugged me. Help, I am a girl but girls are still confusing. Does she like me what do I do please help.
Anonomys on March 23, 2018:
Lots of these really don’t fit my crushes personality but the article itself was still helpful
Johnnie Earwood on March 23, 2018:
If a lady sends you a picture of her and her older son plus fives you her private email address is that a sign she is interesting in you
Anonymous on March 04, 2018:
Pictures of herself, nothing revealing but she appears on the pictures smiling. Sometimes selfies and sometimes taken by someone else. Also sends me pictures of random places (views from her workplaces, trips or places refered to me, like buildings I used to work). Its more random rather than something usual, always after I wish her a nice trip or starting a conversation.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 02, 2018:
What kind of pictures? Sending pictures is pretty flirtatious. It sounds like she has a thing for you, but may also be playing head games with you. Not sure if she is looking for anything serious if she has a boyfriend.
Anonymous on February 13, 2018:
I really like this girl, but has a boyfriend. She keeps sending me pictures of her. I don't ask for them, she just sends me pictures: she went on a trip and send me a picture of her there, when i asked if she had returned, she sent 2 more of the views from her offices. I asked the name of her company and sent me a photo of her wearing a backpack with her company's name on it. I invited her to an evet and accepted to go with me. I actually reply to her in a very normal way, like no emojis, i take some hours or days to reply (i dont reply when i am at work).
She does not talk about her boyfriend with me and says she really likes what i do in my work. We also have hanged out some times.
Does she likes me or she is just playing? I mean she gives good signs, but how do i know its not a frienship.
Erik on January 06, 2018:
There this girl that responds very efusivelly to my texts: lots of emojis, like 6 in a row, some of them like the blured smiley, monkeys, hellooooo’s, etc. Even when I text her very plain.
If I asked her for a favor and she does it.
She asked me if I noticed her wearing a present I gave her in her profile picture.
If she tries to hang out, she or I cancells and immediatelly proposses next week. Starting the conversation with the topic of hanging out.
If she nicely complain when you dont reply or she texts you more.
If I call her she talks diferent, sounds very exited or apologizes if she couldnt answer?
Note 1: she may or may not have a boyfriend, last time I saw her she told me she might be in a relationship but she wasn’t sure.
Note 2: she used to cancel every time y asked her out and didn’t proposed any other day.
Note 3: these actions are atypical, she didn’t text me like that before, or at least she didn’t seem so excited or responded just to be polite
Noto 4: I used to text her like every week and then I stopped because she went cold. She started contact again but was still cold so I was very carefull texting her.
Karan on December 22, 2017:
Plz bro tell me more things to know that my besty love me or not
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 21, 2017:
It sounds like you need to meet in person.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 19, 2017:
Need more info. Can't read minds.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 08, 2017:
Well, you may have confused her if you told her you don't like her. That could have hurt her feelings.
I think you should talk to her more and keep the communication rolling. If you like her. I think she is genuinely curious about you.
Anonymous on November 29, 2017:
So there is this girl that I like and idk if she likes me back. She facetimed me 2 days in a row. She texts me everyday and she likes to start hello first. One of my friends that are girls snitched on me and told her so now she is very suspicious. I got her to believe me that I don't like her but I think she is having second thoughts because I rarely talk to her now. I still texts her a lot but mostly just texts. She interrogates me a lot of times. Also Question: If she face times you a lot does that mean she likes you? Anyways please help me I really need to know how do I know if she likes me back?
guest on November 25, 2017:
so there this boy and i really like him and it seems like he likes me to. He likes to randomly send pics of his face and its really cute. when i ask him if i bored him or annoy him and he tells me i dont. he texts me like really fast or waits a long time to respond. I have told him i like him and even my sister told him i like him and he still hasn't brought up asking me out. So do you know what i should do
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 16, 2017:
Sounds flirtatious. Try changing the subject to something (just about anything besides school) and see how she responds. Add some humor, add something interesting and playful.
Stranger on October 24, 2017:
Shoot! There’s a girl in my highschool I’ve fell For and a week after I met her she would sent message text that she knew where I was and I asked how and she said,”cause I’m a stalker and I’m stalking you” and I said lol but she would text me everyday when I got in the bus but she stays like half an hour longer at the school then I do but she would always text me and say plain and simply the word hi. And I would say hi back and she would say lol! I didn’t get that but after that she sent me three pictures. One was of her beautiful self from the neck up, the second was her from the neck down and she was in really nice clothes and the other was her with a friend and she drew all over her friends face. I’m so stupid! After that I tried to keep a conversation going. I regret two things, I didn’t save the pictures and I didn’t compliment how beautiful she looked. After that we text everyknow and then but we usually just talk at school.
Steve on October 22, 2017:
Hi Andrea, now I have the text part but more so phone calls. She calls me when she is going to work, at work and going home from work. Plus calls when she is at home with her kids.
I have been introduced to the family, friends and the kids at various times since i have known her. She sends me loads of photos of herself plus the occasional music video, where love etc. play a big part in the lyrics.
A female friend of mine when i told her of this said oh my god she really likes you.
She uses various words to describe me, Mr Lovely, Cutie, Sweetie, Sweetness, funny in a cute way and a number of others.
Do you think I am mis-reading that she has some sort of attraction towards me?
James on October 05, 2017:
Hi Andrea, very interesting article.
There’s this girl who KNOWS I LIKE HER.
Lately she’s been texting me more than usual, she’s the one initiating the conversation and responds quite fast, although she stops repliying if I try to keep the conversation going.
Last week she sent me a picture out of the blue of a building in which I used to work, telling me she was nearby one week before and making a joke about it.
I didn’t responded her for two days and she sent me a link of something she thought I would be interested in. I teased her and she continued the conversation.
What do you think?
Karan on September 27, 2017:
I used talking to my besty daily . she use reply my message at midnight also. I always get fast reply from her
Some time she use to send heart emoji to me. She always reply me at late night also. Can i say that my besty likes me or love me
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 26, 2017:
She likes you. You guys need to communicate with each other and not get this third person involved so much.
Tyler on September 26, 2017:
So i was going to go fishing with a girl but I found out from my friend that she wasn't aloud to date but she sent me a text saying her friend wanted to fish with me. So I texted her friend for confirmation and she said yes but she wanted her friend to come with. And a few days later I texted her again asking if she she could fish next weekend and she said she thinks she can and said the first girl I asked was free to. So I texted the first girl to make sure she had an open schedule and she said her friend spoke for her and she was busy(so the second girl basically lied). But after that the first girl started sending me selfies on Snapchat and idk what that's suppose to mean
John on September 17, 2017:
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 16, 2017:
Emojis are positive interactions. Not always an indication they like you in a romantic way.
If she texts you back and forth, that is a good indication, especially in such a short timeframe.
30 minutes to an hour... is a good turn around time. But my philosophy is if you're getting a response and constant communication, you are are in good shape.
If she is greeting you in another language she may be trying to shake things up and make it more interesting.
I say keep talking to her and flirting. These are positive signs, but not necessarily meaning she likes you. If it keeps being consistent for a long period of time, there is likely some amount of interest.
John on September 14, 2017:
Hi, sorry it didn't posted well, my questions are Does a girl like you...
If she answers with smiley faces, such as ":)" "XD" or the one laughing with tears to your flirting texts?
If she texts you, you don't answer and she texts you again about 10 min later to continue with the conversation
If she responds after 30min/1hour that she saw the message?
If she greets you through text in another language (in german or french)?
Jason on September 02, 2017:
I've been texting a girl for about 3 months now. We met like 2 times and she was sending me clear signals she liked me. We haven't seen each other for 1,5 month because of the summer holidays but we kept on texting (it became less frequent and intense than in the beginning but it's still at least once a day). Today she told me that she doesn't like me sending photos of myself to her as often as I have been doing it and when I told her that she should've told me earlier she responded that she is not that kind of a girl that tells but rather a guy should notice by himself.. then I responded that I clearly screwed that one (with the photos) and just got a thumbs up as an answer. Do I have any chances left with her? Or did she do it just to inform me she doesn't like it and still likes me?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 15, 2017:
Late night calls from 9pm to 2am or late night calls from 1am to 2am? This would make a big difference.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 15, 2017:
These things are circumstantial. The more interactions and so forth, the more likely it leans toward a romantic connection. Of course, many positive friendly things can be just that... friendly. (but you're not in a bad spot if you are friends.)
Judith on July 15, 2017:
What. A girl can't be polite? Can't be friendly if she doesn't likes you as something else? Why I would text for example about a serious topic just with the person I like? Or why I can't use a lot of emojis with just friends? I think most of the actions that "can be taken as hints that a girl likes you" are perfectly fit able in a friend to friend conversation. If a use correct grammar with you I must see you as something else than a friend? That's ridiculous, or what about compliments or sorries? I can't say something nice to a friend? I could do all or most of these actions with just a friend to be honest.
By the way, sorry if there's a mistake on what I wrote, English is not my first language.
jake on July 15, 2017:
late night calls until 2am. does she likes me?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 01, 2017:
Proposing like engagement? Are the two of you in a relationship? Have you told him you like him?
Jessica on June 29, 2017:
All the signs that had been stated above is true. He texts me everyday and most of the time i will be the one who starts the conversation. He will make the conversation longer and longer. He shares his personal life with me and comfort me during my hard times. But then why he is not proposing me or telling that he likes me?
Charles on June 05, 2017:
Finally I talked to her in person. I told her y really liked her, she kept quiet for a short time (she didn't blushed) and finally told me that "she never said anything because I never said anything". She told me she was datig someone (and that she didnt even know how it happened). I asked her if she ever thought about dating me and she said that she thought about that when we met. She also told me she didn't wanted to date somewone who knew her in her last relationship because she remembers her ex.
She didn't rejected me nor accepted to be my girlfriend. She didn't told me (specifically) I like her but I think she does.
Two days after that she texted me to ask me about my sports team.
I think she is very confussed since her breakup. Do you think I gave her some time or just give a try and go for it?
Thanks for all your help
Charles on May 30, 2017:
I called her and asked her out again and she said it was very difficult for her on this week.
I told her that she always comes up with excuses, because she hangs out with all her friends. She told me she hanged out with someone yesterday (I beleive a guy) and she told me she would tell me sometime on the week when she could spend time with me.
To be honest I was kinda rude on the phone, and she played very deffensive (she defended herself telling me we hanged out on my birthday, 5 months ago) and that I was overreacting because she cancels to everyone all the time. I told her that I wanted to hang out with her for almost 3 weeks now and she has time to hang out with her friends, go to concerts, hang out with someone (most probably a guy) and a friend who is currently on town.
She never proposes another date, she jyst cancells and tells me she has a very crazy schedule. I have no reason to not believe her. I told her she is the only one who knows her schedule and she can easily pick up one day, but never does.
On the texting, last week she was very responsive, sending many mesages to my questions, even with some gaps between her messages (she texted me twice, then waited 10 minutes and texted me again). Yesterday she send me a sorry message for not responding and very large hahaha's, on FB and Whatsapp.
She confusses me too much.
Brian on May 29, 2017:
I'm talking to this girl and for a week we talked in the phone for 5 hours every night and we talked her day flirted all that it wasn't one sided either. But recently she takes long to answer me like an hour each text and then respond very poorly? Is she into me or not we've hung out and everything am I in the friend zone? Because I told her how I feel and she said she likes me but nows a bad time because she's recently single
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 20, 2017:
I think she's interested. She might be telling you about the other guys to let you know she has guy friends, but isn't in anything romantically. I think she really liked the earrings. I think you should keep talking to her and try to hang out again. She's being flustered around you, so I think she has a little crush.
Charles on May 18, 2017:
The girl I wrote you about invited me to her birthday party. I gave her some earring of my own design. In the party she continuously talked about me with her friends (male and female), she also told me to pay attention to a song I shared with her while it was playing, and changed her earring for the ones I gave her. When I was going, she left the party and waited with me while my uber picked me up. We were still waiting when she asked me if I wanted to se her room, I obviously said yes and went to see her room. She turned on the lights and ran to stand aside her bed, I approached her but then she ran back to were I was. Two days after her party she liked all my FB statuses of the past month.
She changed her PP to one where she uses my earrings, just after I told her I wanted her to be my model. I wrote her she was beautiful and I was glad she accepted to be my model and I think she blushed.
BUT, she also told me that she was hanging out with 3 guy she met at her work, but she isn’t interested in any of them. Two of them are much older the her, she went to dinner with them but she is interesed only academically. The last is 2 years older than her but she says she is not interested in him, she just likes him because he is like her in the work.
She continuously sends me mixed signs. I want to ask her in person what she thinks about me, but she always has other plans and never propose another day. What do you think? Is she interested and only playing hard? or she just wants to be my friend?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 11, 2017:
You should text her back.
Abdullah on May 08, 2017:
I have a question this girl texted me first when we havent talked in 2 years
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 22, 2017:
Sounds like early stages of a romance. If you have been friends that long it might be difficult to get past that. You should keep talking with her, try flirting a little more. She may truly be busy and frequently. If you feel comfortable, you should ask her what she thinks of you.
Charles on April 21, 2017:
I've been friend with a girl I like for 7 years. She recently broke with her boyfriend and we have been texting every week. Most of the times I initiate conversation and very few she starts.
She has sent me random pictures of places and some pictures of herself. Last week she went on a trip, I wrote her and she replied 2 days later but sent a picture of where she was. I didn't replied and the next day she sent me more pictures of the place and one of her.
She has sent me photos of her little cousins, her job, herself, of both of us, videos of projects she made, (I just have asked for pictures once and she sent them to me, one day later)
She also uses lots of hahaha, exclamation marks and smiley faces. we even had a long conversation without saying anything (she just sent ":)" and y only replied with "?" and she said she liked it. So far I believe she is interested, but when I invite her to hang out she just not seems so interested. She makes work excuses, or hangs out with her friends or with her family; and she never propose another day to hang out.
I invited her to the movies once and to hang out another (about 4 months ago) and she went those times.She even texted me saying she enjoyed those, but after that she always have another plan.
She invited me to her prom party and to hang out with her friends, but treats me different to them (she is more touchy with them, has more confidence) and she was ashamed (and pointed at me) when one of her friends said something about her.
She has called me just to ask me questions about some things that she has doubts about my profession.
She has also left me on seen some times, and replied one word texts.
From the few times she has initiated the convo, she asked if I liked some music after changing my profile pic. She liked my posts and bragged about that (now she doesn't do it anymore), and also brags frequently (she is the best cousin, she never gets angry, etc)
The last one (and also the worst) she tried to pair me with a girl she didn't know in a bar.
I don't know what to think of this girl.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 04, 2017:
I think if you can make a positive connection out of this woman one way or another, then you are on the right track. Friendships are not easy to come by these days. I would love for the two of you to have a romantic connection. Thank you for the feedback!
Kindle Gainso on April 04, 2017:
Nothing irreversible happened, I am being patient, and won't haste things. I have no short-term goals with this girl. I think she cares about me, maybe as a friend or just in politeness. I maybe #2, but you know the frog #2 was the one who survived (Two Frogs in the Milk)
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 03, 2017:
I think if she is talking to you a lot, even if not initiating, you are probably in good shape. You do need to relax. Don't push so much pressure on a relationship, or her, or yourself. Just breathe. Figure out what is triggering your anxieties and lessen it from that standpoint.
Kindle Gainso on April 02, 2017:
Thanks for the reply.
I don't know she is with someone or not, and I have never met her. Also, the blunder wasn't totally my fault. She had posted her approx. location on public forum, and I said that she lives in that city, and she thought I was lurking on her.
BTW, we had another chat marathon 5 hrs with about 200 back-n-forth while I was driving, the chat ended with me hinting her that I want to be with her, and she tricked/cajoled me to explicitly tell her what the hint means, and I cracked, and told her I want to be with her (PG 13). She told me that she doesn't knows me (we met online). So I apologized rather dramatically (nothing fake), and told her that I would stay away from her for a while, because it became a little awkward. She wasn't angry at this, rather consoling me that I shouldn't apologize and not feel bad, and told me that it's OK, and relax.
I think she was caught off-guard when I told her that, and was just polite enough not to blast me. What's your opinion?
BTW I'll stay away from her, wait for her to initiate after this.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 01, 2017:
I'll try my best here to help you out. I'm not sure what was the exact blunder you made with this woman initially. It seems it provoked an angry response from her, but she continued to talk to you -- and for hours. Patient + calm + angry is a unique mix... so you must have made a very strange forward blunder.
Have you two met in person? Is she single or seeing someone else? Keep the connection going, stay positive, be friendly. Slowly increase the texting. Don't just dismiss her too quickly. Watch your own patience. Like her, but don't control her. Be accepting with the progress you receive on this. Try to get to know her more. Ask her questions. Start with more fun-loving questions and work your way to more meaningful questions.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 01, 2017:
Congrats and good luck!
Kindle Gainso on April 01, 2017:
I'm looking for having a longterm relationship with a girl, I met online. She responded to an online comment, that I had posted. I looked up her profile, she is beautiful no doubt about it, but the thing that was more important was her personality. She is very patient & calm, and that just blew me off. I panicked & the first move that I made was a blunder, I think I scared/pissed her off, I realized immediately so I backed-off, but kept in touch with her; we were having 1/2 messages per day for two days. As I said she isn't very impatient, so she didn't shoo me off immediately.
At the same time when I came in contact with her, there was another guy; really good looking, muscular guy was in contact with her; and I know she is falling for him; she went out of the way to convince him that there was no misunderstanding between them - I think she's into him. I'm not a muscular guy, but I'm not puny either, I'm little chubby, and have really good career. I'm no match to the other guy in terms of the looks, but I have a good, high paying job. I work with Wall Street firms. So this may be the only plus point for me, but she doesn't knows about that. Also, I am really good at negotiations, as far as I know.
After initial blunder that I did, I thought I blew my chance for good, but I told her to PM me on chat. Two days later (yesterday) middle of the night, I get a anger-filled message from her wanting an explanation about my initial blunder, I apologized to her and told her that because I was attracted to her, I had panicked and made a boo-boo, she probably got convinced and we chatted for almost 2 hours that night before she dozed-off.
Today we had 1-2 back-n-forth but no real conversation. At this point, I'm confused as to what make off this situation. I am kind off desperate for her, though I haven't shown my desperation, but I cannot control it. She's nice girl.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Jonas on April 01, 2017:
Everything I've researched adds up she definitely like me
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 26, 2017:
Send her multiple hearts back. Keep the conversation going. Increasing the flirting a little bit each time and see if she reciprocates.
Need Help on March 22, 2017:
So there's this girl I like. We've been texting on Instagram and you know, just asking each other some breaking the ice questions, and it's been pretty good. However, sometimes she would send a Love Heart out of the blue and then just continue. I thought her thumb must of slipped or something but she's done it MULTIPLE times. I mean about 3 times a day. It's either, she has shaky thumbs or she's doing something a rather (FYI: she knows I like her), and I REALLLLY need some help with understanding what's going on.
Hammad on March 21, 2017:
What if girl says every time THANK YOU when you help her?
Bobisafrog on March 18, 2017:
I got in touch with a childhood friend we've been texting almost a year now. (in 8 days it will be a year) She talks to me whenever she breaks up with her boyfriend, and i give her advice. We would both vent to each other, she has her boyfriend issues, i have abuse issues, were like personal counselors she said. We would talk 30-40 times a day and she would call me her bestie (and occasionally boo, whatever that means) and its would be followed with hearts. 2 days ago she asked me if she should get these piercing with a picture of her with them on, I said its her body and that means its her decision and hers alone, and that it would be wrong of me to influence her choice otherwise. Right after that conversation was over she asked if I could come to her birthday party. I told her I'm in oklahoma city, i'll ask my father, and he was undecided. I told her to know that i'd miss my own graduation for it. I asked her what would she want for her gift, she said just something sparkly. She sent me an picture of the invitation since the rest were given out to everybody. And i told her I was looking back through our messages and there were a few times when i din't listento here i just was ranting about some other crap. She said She's here for me no matter what happens. I told her the chance of me coming to her party are higher, she said "Yay!". And i told her its not for sure. She told me to tell my dad "Please let (my name) come to my B-Day party. then we video chatted (all this happened in the timepsan of 2 days mind you) a bit. Then i told her that i found out i couldn't come, that i was mad, i explained why, but still told her i'm getting her a present still, that is going to be definite! she said she can come see me in the weekend. I told her i cant be at the party via facetime, or video chat. She was happy about that and i told her i could just vid chat, or send a prerecorded message. She then of course said Thanks bestie followed by hearts. (she is so indecisive, its unbelievable) i said no problem, just text me a bit before the singing and ican go to someplace quiet and can then video call her. She said okay thanks followed by a golden hands in prayer. I said Uw. then she typed a big heart and little heart trailing off of the big heart. Then we texted random gifs to each other. the next morning I texted her the happy birthday parody song (the one about how she looks like a monkey and smells like one too) she typed 2 laughing so hard tears came out emojis.then i told her i'm off to get her gift. She text me 3 smiling blushing emojis. i asked her what gem she wanted then when i came home i asked her if she wanted me to send her a pic of the gift, i teased her by sending her a pic of the box. then she said oh. then i felt like jerk so I sent her the picture of the gift. She said I love it. And here were at present day. situation like this has happened before, but there's too many of them to type without getting carpal tunnel syndrome, so this story will have to suffice.
Does she like me based on this summary of what happened in a year
Erik on March 12, 2017:
I met this girl through a girl friend that she visited and after she left my friend texted me ''XY sent you a kiss.'' Before we were flirting a bit and got along well but it wasn't really obvious and we didn't makeout or anything. How do i respond as sending a kiss seems more like a girls thing to do?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 27, 2017:
Be nice to her. Romantic. Entertaining. Charming. All that jazz.
Adiga on February 27, 2017:
Now,,,,how to deal with her?
Celtic on February 23, 2017:
So I've been texting this girl for about 6 or so months now.. it might even be a year, but I haven't really been paying attention. We text everyday; In the morning she says gm and asks me what I'm doing, then after school starts talking with me and even at night we talk.. a lot. But the huge problem is.. She has a boyfriend.. and I know it sounds horrible that I'm crushing on a girl that's taken, but it's not the eaisest to get over someone. Anyway, we met oddly enough by me telling her I liked her, I knew she was dating the other guy but I honestly I could not hold back anymore.. Eventually I learned she liked me for about a year and a half.. just up until she met the other guy.
Eventually we started to become really close friends.. and a soon as she said "your a good friend to me" I felt like I got shot with the friend zone bullet... We talked a lot during the summer and she mostly answered with one word responses but sometimes told me story's and stuff, but we'd talk about random things and what's going on rn all day, even though it was slow, we stilled texted quiet a bit. Then school came in, I learned she was in my homeroom, but so was her boyfriend... She didn't have any of my other classes with me either so it was pretty much just homeroom or 9th period. That's when we really started talking (over text).. She opened up to me as if we'd known each other for years, telling me more personal and trusting stories and telling me what's going on in her life. We talked everyday and responded to each other's messages almost asoon as we got them. It was really fast paced, but I kept feeling like I had shackles around my legs and I wanted to tell her she's cute and pretty and flirt but.. you could probably take a stab at why I don't... We didn't talk much in person because of no classes together and her being with her bf at 9th and having different friends and stuff.. but then we started talking at 9th, even when her bf was there.. he played it off as if I'm just her friend..
We'd talk about deep stuff and happy stuff and funny stuff and just about everything you can think we could talk about without getting really personal or flirty. Just a couple days ago we were talking and we laughed at what she said and when we stopped laughing we kinda gave each other a long stare for like.. maybe 10 or so seconds.. She stared at my eyes and I stared at hers giving each other a nice, calm smile across our faces.. I texted her and she was telling me happy moments in her life and she said me being their at 9th with her were a couple of nice memories..
Maybe about a day ago I asked her if she still liked me, last time I asked was in July and she said kinda. It was kinda akward asking and my heart raced super fast, but she replied with "yeah.. kinda.." Basically nothing really changed.
She said that bc I'm so nice to her and always there for her, that really made her happy and made her like me..
We don't send ;) faces or send a lot of pictures (unless like snapchat), and we may not "hang out a lot" in person but we can talk for hours.. sometimes we just pull all nighters talking to one another.. She says I'm one of the few she can trust and that she doesn't know where she'd be without me..
My point is we talk all time.. I tried counting how many times in a day we talk but my finger got tired of scrolling so much.. We have a lot of inside jokes and joke about the stupidest stuff... Im always on her "11:11" snapchat story thing, and we share and listen to each other's songs and we send new moves to each other and ask for each other's opinions.. but I can't help but feel.. even though she said she "kinda likes me" that she could maybe mean more than that.. Maybe I'm just so far in the friend zone my head started thinking this way.. Either way I feel like there's more to what she thinks of me but I don't know what to do because of her bf and kinda liking me and classes and stuff..
oh btw I feel as stupid beyond all h because before she started dating her bf we had a mutual friend and our mutual friend said she was trying to convince the girl I like to ask her bf out... and may of kinda encouraged it but this was before I liked her because we didn't talk at all.. so yea.. As soon as I realized I did that I pretty much smacked my self in the head.. but you know past is in the past right?.. heh..
Anyway sorry for the long message
Anon on February 23, 2017:
I really like this girl at my college, we talk in person almost everyday and by text almost everyday, the other day we were texting and the conversation got onto caring about what people think of us, she asked me if I was often worried about what she thought about me (I had told her that I often replay conversations in my head if I think they went badly and I care what the person thinks), I told her that I did and asked her why.
From this point I will quote the exact texts that we sent (for context)
Her: Because I'm curious I think you have been a topic of thought for me and so I wondered if you had done the same
Me: Well yes I cant deny that you have been "on my mind" so to speak
Her: Hahah good this sounds like we like each other how awkwardly appropriate on Valentine's Day
You might be wondering why I need your advice after that but when I next saw her we were at a first aid training meeting (we're both in a group similar to Saint John's Ambo) so I spoke to her before she left saying that we should probably have a chat at some point soon, she asked what about. Now I'm really awkward around girls so I weakly replied "you know the thing we spoke about by text the other night?".
A couple of days later I text her apologising for being a bit off with her at the training night, she said that she hadn't noticed but still hadn't worked out what I meant we should have a chat about
I will now quote again:
Me: I meant we should probably have a chat about how we feel about each other
Her: Oh I see.. Well before we make this really awkward just know I really see you as just a very good friend whom I can trust and rely on.
This was last week and now I'm really confused, I also feel like she has been avoiding me at college as when she enters a study zone she normally sits with me and a few of our other friends. This week she always sits by herself if I'm there first, if I get there last she is sat with our friends as normal!
Sorry if this is long and confusing but I'm at my wits end as I feel like not only have I lost any chance with her I'm also loosing her as a friend!
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 18, 2017:
She sounds super flirtatious... and in general. I'm not sure if she is just interested in you or others. There is potential here.
Tom 123123 on February 16, 2017:
Hi Andrea, met a girl at a party, she asks for my snapchat, didn't talk to her for a month or so. I'm at uni and she is friends with my flat mate, turns out I'm going to be living with her next year in accommodation. So naturally we start seeing her more as she wants to get to know us for next year. I went out clubbing with her and she was quite physical, touching and hugging and taking pictures. Nothing else happened that night and i thought nothing of it. However recently we went out again but she had to leave early to catch a flight. When i got back from the club we started texting a little about the night, and we ended up talking from 3am to 6:30am when her flight was. She sends me a lot of love hearts and kisses and calls me babe etc. She liked a couple of my pictures on Facebook during our convo and we had really good banter and she kept the convo going when i was going to go to sleep. I don't know if she is into me or is just trying to be friendly for next year, or if she just wanted someone to talk to while waiting for her flight.
Doctor on February 14, 2017:
Hello Andrea nice post
I met this girl on a flight and we started talking we hit it off immediately she was laughing at my ridiculous jokes on the flight I am quite reserved so I didn't want to ask her for her number and ruin my self esteem if she said no , so as we were about to reach our destination mind you it was a 4 hour flight she suddenly asked me for my number and I gave it to her , the flight landed we went separate ways and finally after two weeks she texts me out of the blue and I was elated
So we do text each other often these days she sends me a lot of winky faces emojis and all that I find myself being drawn to this girl but I don't want to ruin my image in front of her by spilling out my feelings for her
She is the one who initiates all of the conversations and sometimes she goes offline for like two days and then comes up saying that she was busy n all that , I always give her a wide margin n then again I say stuff that she likes I hate my jokes they are kinda lame but still she seems fascinated by them haha
Anyhoo today was Valentine's Day and she sends me a Valentine's Day greetings and I wish her back and she was like my friends are having a blast n all that , so I tell her that it's okay she will find a guy too in the future
What am I to infer from all these I have to tell u I'm 29 she is 20 and we are miles apart she chats with me at night and then all of a sudden she is like " I hate to break the bad news but it's kinda late " n I am like I know I understand then again in the morning she texts me
Do u think there is a possibility that she might like me and I don't wanna rush into things and ruin this friendship ... rite now I'm just a good friend who makes her laugh a lot do u think it can progress further
Sorry for the long post
Jason on February 12, 2017:
If she sends me photos of her and her pets, could that mean she likes me?
She's also still talking to me after turning me down a few weeks ago.
CJL on February 09, 2017:
she sent me over a hundred with a lot of laughing faces. Does she like me
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 20, 2017:
Keep talking to her and hanging out with her. And it will naturally come up. Sounds like it's a good connection.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 20, 2017:
She wants to send a positive message. Could mean more depending on context.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 16, 2017:
Keep talking to her. Be consistent. That's where you go from here. The more you talk, hang out, the more she will open up. Don't make it much more complicated than that. Do cute gestures for her. She'll get the idea and warm up to you if she's interested. Open up your romantic side, pick out a flower for her, buy her something that reminded you of her, take her to things she likes, write her notes by hand. Oh, definitely write her notes by hand. Get her candy, chocolate, jewelry. Be sweet.
Joseph on January 14, 2017:
I have been talking to this girl for a couple of weeks now and she seems to be interested but I'm still uncertain. She never used to initiate conversation that much and I seemed to be doing all the work. However over the past week she seemed to initiate a lot of the conversations and sometimes messages me telling me to have a great day. Almost all her texts end up having a laughing emoji or an lol at the end of it, sometimes even 3 plus emojis. We usually text for 5 plus hours and she responds in a flash. When I see her in class she never really talks, is quiet and as soon as I get home we text for almost the rest of the day. What are your thoughts?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 13, 2017:
I think you should move on. It sounds like you gave her mixed signals when you lost interest. It doesn't sound like she is interested anymore.
Rocky on January 13, 2017:
Theres a girl,,, we chated earlier It was many messages a day.. it was very sexual every time then we once meet... Kissed each other... Than i kind of lost interest.. Bdw its a long distance relationship... But we never proposed.. Abd after 2-3 months she is not taking my calls as earlier and messaging me... Very late with long replies.
I asked her i hace romentic feelings about her... But she said she would nit be able to have that feeling...
I am getting obsessed what to do.. Plz helo
christian on January 11, 2017:
Hi ive been talking lately to my childhood friend that came back after 10 years or so and i initiated the contact and most of the time she would have a smily emoji in her messages and she sent me a picture of her in the couch smiling to the camera. And the other instance i was in class and she was teasing me and sent me a picture of her bed saying its comfertable while im in class busting my ass haha does she like me?
B on January 09, 2017:
I have been talking ti this girl for a month and she has never told me she liked me and she said if she likes someone she would tell them but she does some of those things up there, but she don't text me back really fast but he told me she would rather speak in person than text, we go to the same school but I am a sophomore and she's a freshman so I don't know if she likes me or not.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 08, 2017:
Hello there! Boy this one is complicated. It sounds like she is confused with her feelings. I think if you really care about her, I would be her friend one way or the other. If you come to a point where you just can't stand it anymore because your feelings are not being reciprocated, I think it's okay to take a break from each other and tell her that, because it's not easy when you have feelings for someone and you're not really getting them back. I think you guys have a strong enough friendship that you can talk to her and tell her that you do have feelings for her, and that it is okay if she does not, whether she ever does or eventually does.... you are there for her. Being a good friend is extremely important in life. It's hard on people when friendships end because of different feelings and goals. Tell her that you are interested, but not going to force it on her. That it isn't exactly easy to see her date. Let her know you are open to what she wants to try. Keep it positive and loving, and you never know what might end up happening. This kind of focus will help you navigate through this tough situation. You can always dial things back, and say the interactions are too flirty right now if you are only friends. Be open minded, say you are willing to learn, and the last thing you want to do is hurt her feelings.
Jake Ryan on January 02, 2017:
Me and this girl have been really good friends for a while (We're both High School students as well), and we talk all the time. We usually use snapchat but do text sometimes. Before, she used to talk about other guys and stuff, (also, she knows how I feel about her and I would like to date her) but then they'd go and break her heart or hurt her, and she'd come back to me to talk to about it. After the 3rd time, which was around 2 weeks ago, she started talk to me WAY more often. She'd text me in the mornings, and send me snapchats all day, more than 70 texts and a ton more snap chats, and just always seem to love my company. She'd tell me things that she's never told anyone, and things she's went through in the past, and always comes to me if she's feeling sad or angry about someone. The past few days, she's been staying up really late talking to me, texting me from 11am all the way until 4am (omly a few hours where she didn't text, but she'd initiate the next time she was ready) the next morning a few times. She'd constantly talk about her family, we'd constantly send selfies back and forth, she'd send pictures of her pets, and she was always excited in her texts. She would RARELY send one word replies too. We've talked about many personal things, including past relationships. She always teases me about a bunch of things and we always laugh it off. She's never been one to send emojis to me or anyone in the past, but during these two weeks, she's sent a lot and sent a few heart emojis too. She always tries to cheer me up and be there for me if I need it, and always comes to me for comfort. When we're not staying up late, it's because she falls asleep early while talking to me. She's asked if I've ever been in love with anyone (My response was no because I've never been in a relationship), she teases me about never having a first kiss and stuff like that (Which I haven't), but before these 2 weeks, when she knew I liked her, and she knows I still do I assume, she told me she didn't feel the same and didn't really want a relationship like that with me. But then after the third guy hurt her, she came back to me and started acting like this. How should I take this, and how should I react? She shows MANY of the signs stated, but I feel like she doesn't feel the same about me. Any help is appreciated! Thank you for your time and for making the article!
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 30, 2016:
First you got to like yourself! Well, you should try that first. :)
gyhi on December 29, 2016:
No one likes me lol