Signs He Wants to Ask You Out

Updated on September 26, 2016
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Andrea loves to write about the zodiac, Myers Briggs, and texting. She is an expert on romance and relationships. She also has two cats.

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Isn't it the worst when you're on pins and needles waiting for someone to ask you out? I think it's harder for women to come right out and say they like someone. Usually we want men to ask us out because it shows he's got guts and a plan and can handle this emotional stuff. It takes a little bit of the power out when you ask him out yourself. Sometimes it's what you got to do. Let it naturally come up. You may naturally ask someone out without even realizing it. I think what helps is to not focus on it so much. That can be distracting and pulling you out of interacting with who you like.

Signs He Wants to Ask You Out

1. Gets Your Phone Number

Maybe the two of you have been meeting up at the same place for months. He's probably wanted to add you on Facebook or get your number in some discrete way, but it's not always easy. If you just moved or started taking classes at an unfamiliar place, no one may have mutual friends with you. He doesn't know your last name. He doesn't want to creep you out, he wants to get your contact information so he can talk to you outside of the normal event you two frequent. If shortly after getting your contact information he sends you a message, it means that he definitely wants you to see him in a positive light. Consider what kind of messages he sends you, the time of day, and how frequent. Do you start to be the only on who initiates -- that's a bad sign. He shouldn't always initiate either. Unless he has confidence like no other, it's kind of cruel to never initiate. Is he adding emoticons, before you even do? He definitely has some sort of intentions.

2. He Wants to Know Your Schedule

Before inviting you to anything, he'll want to lock down your schedule. He wants a quick yes. He doesn't want a long, complicated answer. That's too much for anyone's nerves. He doesn't want to be rejected just because of your schedule. He wants a clear yes. That makes life a lot more simple. He also wants to know what kind of things you do, what's your job situation like, if you're too busy, if you're seeing anyone seriously, and if you're doing anything cool that he may want to do too. Also, this preps your brain to be thinking of schedules too. If you're thinking about what you're doing it clues you in to what you could be doing... with him.

3. Touches You

He consistently is giving you signals with his body language. Does he hug you? Does he suddenly feel awkward around you? Maybe he'll move your hair behind your ear. Maybe he'll stare at you for too long, or will overt his eyes quickly. Humans touch what they like. If he likes you, his eyes and hands will probably follow. Is he complimenting you a lot on top of that? Maybe every time you see him, he's prepared to give a compliment. Try to reciprocate his body language, throw back some compliments when you can, and smile. If he thinks you'll take it well, he'll continue doing these things you like. If you're not into it, let him know. Don't keep encouraging it if you already know you could care less.

4. His Eyeballs

He'll look at you. He'll even tell you sometimes that he was watching you. His eyes are drawn to you, and you'll catch him staring at you. Try staring back. Give him eye contact back. Guys will let you know they're interested in you with their eye gestures. Sometimes they may smile back, other times they may just look like a deer with their eyes in the headlights.

5. He Jokes About Dating You

Maybe he jokes about what it would be like to be married to you, maybe he jokes about you as his girlfriend to his friend. It may be sarcastic, but that sarcasm may be a cover up that he actually would want to date you. He may compliment how the two of you make a great team, he may say "if we ever get to the point where we are dating," he may say you remind him of an ex. If you like him back, you may want to tease him about your "pretend" romance too.

6. He Brings You Gifts

He starts bringing you food from the vending machine, he orders you food, he brings you something back from his travels, or he just brings you whatever reminds him of you. He wants to see if it brings you a smile, he wants to connect with you. He wants you to know he's on your side. This could be just a friendly gesture, so don't get too crazy if he brings you cookies.

7. He Messages You "Good Morning"

When a guy messages you throughout the day with good morning, good afternoon, and good night -- he has one goal. He wants you to think of him. He wants to be your first thought of the day. He wants to communicate with you the whole day. He's opening up conversation to that level just with a simple "good morning." It's pretty simple, but pretty clever. The message in and of itself isn't that flirty, but it helps open up the day for more flirtatious of possibilities. Which is incredibly endearing.

8. He'll Linger

Maybe it's the end of a long meeting, a class, or a movie. But he'll linger a little bit. He wants to talk to you, and he probably would like for it to go somewhere. The problem is that a lot of times when these things end, it can be terrible to figure out what to talk about and there's a lot of gravity for most people to just go home. There's a lot of pressure and opportunity here. He might not want to say goodbye when he knows that then there's several hours before he can see you again, and that sucks.

9. Car Honking

Yes, cat calling is wrong, but this is something different. You'll be walking down the street when suddenly someone is honking at you like crazy. For whatever reason, when a guy likes you and he suddenly sees you walking down the street like an epiphany, he'll honk at you like it's the greatest moment in his entire life. He'll keep honking till you look at him, which is exciting for him because you'll most likely be surprised and flash him a big smile or say hello. If you are walking down the street and a guy does this to you -- he totally is smitten. In fact, he might not have known he was this smitten until this moment happened and hit him square in the face. He probably hopes you'll run to his car and just get inside -- but you're more mature than that. You'll play it off coy, sweet, and charming.

10. He'll Get Weirdly Emotional Around You

Everyone is saying goodbye, there's an odd mist in the air, and he's giving you a look like you've never seen on his face. He's preparing to say it, and may even say, "I've wanted to say this for a long time." Hopefully, he'll spit it out after that, otherwise a number of things may happen or interrupt him and completely throw him off balance. He's trying to get the words out, but there's some truth to things tend to speed up right at the moment you try to say these things. His whole demeanor will change, and you'll definitely pick up that he likes you, but it may mystify you in the moment.

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        Gurl in destress 7 weeks ago

        Please help me there’s this guy I like and I can’t tel if he likes me back

        I catch him starting at me all the time he will go out of his way to help me. And he is always picking on me. It’s playful though. Please help me I don’t know what to do

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        In need of HELP!!!!! 7 weeks ago

        There's a boy I like but I'm not sure if he likes me. He annoys me, he laughs with me, he picks on me, calls me names and he stares at me. Today I was looking behind him and he started staring at me and I'm just like what are you looking at. PLEASE HELP I'M DESPERATE!!!!!!! Also I think he's liked me for 1 year, especially how last year we were at the same community pool and he went out of his way just to say hi to me. Again PLEASE HELP I'M DESPERATE I AM SO CONFUSED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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        Girl in Distress 2 months ago

        my friend came back to school today (he was sick yesterday) and during advisory he sat behind me and started playing with my hair then he asked is ur hair automatically curly i replied yes then he said i just noticed that ur hair is down today hes getting more physical what do i do?

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        Symphany 2 months ago

        What do u do if ur best friend thats a boy likes u and tells u to ur face and is going to ask u out but u have a boy friend and u like that friend back? Help?

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        Elena 2 months ago

        What if a guy stares at u and like jokes around with u by taking pictures of u as a joke and then shows u.....Whag does that mean?..... Does that mean he may like u

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        Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

        Hmmm... Let's break this down:

        Best friend talked to (boy).

        (Boy) says he likes... someone who is... her best friend?

        It means that he likes one of your best friend's best friends. Whether that's YOU or another one of her friends. How well known is your friendship with your best friend?

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        Shay 7 months ago

        What if my best freind (who is a girl) has talked to him and he had said that he likes someone who is her best freind..... what does that mean.

        Thank you

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        Crystal Henze 8 months ago

        What happens if you ask a guy "Do you want to ask me out?" and he says I don't know

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        Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

        Sounds a little flirtatious. I think you should keep talking to him and try to break the ice around the two of you. He may be interested, but not sure where to go yet. Keep being engaging and approachable and that will help.

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        lolno 9 months ago

        So me and my crush seem to like each other but for some reason lately he's been changing his schedule to see me. Like at lunch he goes in the longer lines (I eat slow fyi and he eats fast) also lately he hasn't been really talking to other girls. I thought one day his brother honked at me or something. I also saw him one time by himself outside but my friend needed me. It looked like he was looking for something or I don't know. This is the week before spring break. I mean I dont know maybe he wants to ask me out or something? I've also seen him kind of smile at me. He also acts like a goofball around me and he tackles his friends when I'm around I'm guessing. I wish I could ask him out but I seriously don't have the guts. We also don't have any classes with each other anymore :-( or this term. But yeah I dont know

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        Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

        Good luck!

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        Christine Francis 13 months ago

        I agree with everything you you have made it very clear for me I think someone is about to ask me out

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        Andrea Lawrence 15 months ago from Chicago

        Have they asked you out?

        Playing around doesn't necessarily means someone likes you as a romantic interest, they could see you as a buddy, which is alright too. :)

        You just tell them you like them when they tell you they like you. Keep it simple.

        Guys ask a girl out when they sense a connection and want to see where it goes.

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        Ashen Gray 15 months ago

        If a guy plays around you a lot does that mean he likes you? An how to say you like them back with out coming off to strong? What makes a guy want to ask a girl out?

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        Getrude Hillary 2 years ago

        So true. I enjoyed reading.