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Signs He Likes You Through Texting

Updated on February 20, 2017
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Andrea loves to write on the zodiac, Myers Briggs, and texting. She is an expert on romance and relationships. She also has two cats.

SMS stands for Short Message Service. It was used for the first time on 3 December 1992, when Neil Papworth, a 22-year-old test engineer for SEMA in the UK used a personal computer to send the message, "Merry Christmas." Since then, texting has become an integral part of human life.

Our texts can give clues about the nature of friendships, our habits, our love interests, and the places we frequent. Relationships are not determined by texting, but text messages can still be indicators of the level of interest two people have in each other.

Texting and Relationships

Texting can be a great, low key way to engage with someone you've got your eyes on. If you're needing some clarity in what's happening in a suspicious exchange of texts, look no further. This hub is here to help you sort out whether he leans more toward liking you.... or maybe something else.

Texting can be as revealing as body language. Here are some handy things to check in your text messages to garner a better idea of whether he just wants you for your body, if he genuinely likes you, or is just having some fun.

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Subject: What Does He Text?

The first things you should ask when you get a text message: What is this guy saying? Why is he saying it?

Random Positive Messages

Lighthearted texts about anything and everything are always good, because they mean that this guy is looking for an excuse to get in touch. Here are some signs of positive, lighthearted messages you might receive from a guy who likes you.

  1. The conversations do not focus on everyday matters, but instead on humorous things that are inside jokes. Is there a consistent thread that refers back to a significant moment?
  2. He uses a pet name or nickname for you. He uses the same one consistently.
  3. Positivity is important. If you're bored enough, put your messages on an Excel sheet and decipher how many are positive to you vs. how many seem negative... or neutral.
  4. Notice if he always responds. Many people opt out of texting after awhile if it doesn't seem pertinent anymore. Our busy lives tend to take precedent over texts. Bonus points: he politely says when he has to leave a conversation.
  5. He sends you a text about a dream that he had... about you.
  6. He sends you random song lyrics.
  7. He sends you a joke.
  8. He comments on something extremely minuscule to see if you noticed too.
  9. He might refer to nostalgia, such as bringing up Pokémon, Final Fantasy, a Disney movie, etc.
  10. He doesn't refer to your hot friends. If he is referring to a hot friend of yours a lot, he may want help getting connected with her.
  11. His texts are not all business or school focused.
  12. He may send you a message to let you know something has reminded him of you.
  13. He sends you pictures to make you laugh -- like animals, things from movies, his shoes.

Serious Stuff

If a guy is talking to you about important or personal issues in his life, he clearly both values your opinion and trusts you enough that he can be honest and even emotional around you. Then again -- he could just be really weird. Take everything with a grain of salt. ;)

If a guy you like wants to have a serious conversation, even over text, that's a sign that he probably does like you or care about your opinions.

And if he is saying outright that he likes you or values your relationship, well, that's even better.

  1. Beware of sexting. It's a better sign if, instead of sexting, he texts you as though he respects you. If he sexts you, he may easily be doing this with others. And he could be sharing information or pictures that you send with his friends, so take caution. My own rule of thumb is if you wouldn't your grandmother to see it, then you probably don't want the whole Internet to see it -- send photos wisely.
  2. He uses positive affirmations rather than bringing you down. Does he compliment you for being punctual, friendly, patient, etc.? This might not mean he is head over heels for you, but he at least has a soft spot for you. (Aladdin complimented Jasmine on her punctuality.)
  3. He refers to something from a long time ago. Whatever it was... it's stuck with him.
  4. He says things like, "Thank you" or "I appreciate this." He says this often.
  5. He give unsolicited compliments on your looks, personality, brains, talents, etc.
  6. He says, "I miss you."
  7. He offers to help pay for something for you.
  8. If you need his assistance, he doesn't delay to offer help. He may immediately come to your rescue.
  9. He handles it well if you send him something completely strange.
  10. He overall seems to enjoy hearing from you and may even in person say that he likes having conversations with you. Could there be a greater sign then that?
  11. He lets you know of positive things that have happened in his life, whether over text or not, such as doing well on a test, a promotion, or having a new pet.
  12. His texts usually brighten your day.
  13. He may talk about personal details such as family, a job problem, etc.

Formatting and Length

After all, there’s more to texting than words. What about emoticons? What about length? This section will help you decipher your text message beyond the obvious...

Questions

Questions in a text message are a good sign because that means he is trying to continue the conversation. You've probably done this too: formatted a text in the form of a question, or adding a question at the end so that there's more guarantee of a response.

If he sends you questions, that's probably what he's doing: he want to hear from you. Here are some possible questions you might receive in a text from a guy who likes you.

  1. He asks you to hangout or do something. This could include: grabbing something to eat, going on a bike ride, going to the movies.
  2. He says things along the lines of, "Let me know if there's anything I can help with." Guys are programmed to fix things; it's a delicate part of their DNA. If you can figure out what he can fix and have him do it, you'll be able to create a connection.
  3. He asks if he may have accidentally spotted you, just to start a conversation. I got a call once that asked if I had stepped into a gray van in another state. Obviously, we both knew that was unlikely.
  4. He asks, "How are you?"
  5. He is concerned about your wellbeing and what you are doing with your life.
  6. He may ask for your help on something that he is not particularly skilled at handling. This is a great sign because it means he respects and trusts you.
  7. He might ask about some guy that he has seen you with (whether directly or indirectly).
  8. He does not refer to other girls. OR he asks your advice about them.
  9. He asks for something back that you may have borrowed: a book, movie, etc. He probably wants an excuse to chat about it with you. And to setup a time where he can see you.

Drunk texting means he probably likes you.
Drunk texting means he probably likes you.

Formatting

Here are some clues that might not seem obvious to you at first. Punctuation, length, even grammar can all be clues as to what your guy is thinking and how he feels about you.

  1. If he texts you back and engages in conversation this is positive, even if his messages are short with one or two words.
  2. He uses "Hahahaha." Or another text to indicate that he finds something funny.
  3. Exclamation marks! The more of them the higher likelihood he digs you. Also, guys don't use exclamation marks as much as girls. So if he is using them -- he probably means them.
  4. He contacts you in other forms whether phone calls, Facebook, in person, emails, letters, smoke signals, etc. My Facebook back-to-back feed with one guy in particular has YouTube videos, "likes" on statuses, little inside jokes here and there, and sometimes even conversations on other people's profiles. This can be a pretty fun way to maintain contact, if done right.
  5. He sends you texts frequently. Is he sending you texts everyday? Once a week? Once a year?
  6. He isn't playing mind games and has no problem sending two or more messages at once,
    rather than sending one at a time and waiting for your response. He's eager to talk to you and wants to make certain that you are informed.
  7. He uses proper grammar.
  8. He sends you a picture that reminds him of you.
  9. He refrains from using plain ole' "k."
  10. He refrains from using "LOL." It's weak, sister. REAL WEAK.
  11. He is comfortable with writing you a long text message that breaks into six sections. Not necessarily often, but he would do it.
  12. He avoids curse words or foul language. OR... he uses a lot of language... not all guys are the same.
  13. He texts you when he is clearly drunk.
  14. He may send a text in all caps with just your name and exclamation marks.

Timing: When Does He Text?

Sometimes the timing of a text contains more clues than a text itself. Here are some tips on deciphering the timing and frequency of messages.

Making arrangements to see you is always a good sign.
Making arrangements to see you is always a good sign.

Timing

This is a classic way to tell if someone likes you. If a guy you like texts you all the time, even if the messages don't seem to have much content, that's a big deal. And if he texts you during important moments in his life, or when he needs help, that's also a big deal. Here are some good signs related to timing.

  1. After seeing you he sends you a message that he had a good time. This is a polite affirmation of the time you spent together. This actually makes my day when anyone does this.
  2. He might not instantly text you back (we all have busy lives) but if he does seem to respond quickly, this is positive. If it takes him more than twenty four hours without reason, that is suspicious, but don't jump to conclusions. If he never answers at all that's almost always a bad sign. You could possibly have the wrong number or he changed his number. I will say though that one summer I texted a friend randomly when I thought of him and didn't know that he was on a giant road trip across the country without his phone. When he got back into town we met up later to discuss his whole trip. So at the end of the day... if you feel like texting, just do it.
  3. He texts you during the day rather than at night. 12:00AM-6:00AM is unusual, and more than likely a booty call.
  4. The two of you text one another more than you text others.
  5. He texts when you've just gotten back from a long trip, perhaps overseas where you don't have service.
  6. He attempts to get in touch between 9:00AM-5:00PM to make arrangements to see you. These are hours that show respect on his part.
  7. He sends you a long text about how wonderful you are when he knows you've had a terrible day.
  8. The conversation can go back and forth for hours, regardless of how many texts.
  9. He may consistently text you on a certain day of the week or hour as he may have figured out you were free at that time.
  10. He respects your time and doesn't eat it all up with texting. It's the right amount of speed for you.
  11. He isn't known for being a player and texting lots of girls.

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      Della 3 years ago

      thank you...now I'm sure of him.

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      Gabrielle 3 years ago

      This was a big help. Im positive of him now :)

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      Emily 3 years ago

      Thank you, this was interesting to read and has given me motivation to take the next step with him :)

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      Haley 3 years ago

      I am looking for a boy friend

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      Ashten 3 years ago

      Oh...my....god!!!! It's all us!!! Even die to 57 and 60!!!!!!!! I seriously thought someone was setting me up when I read number 60 cuz it's like his life!!!

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      jenny234 3 years ago

      I like cooks

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      3 years ago

      Oh yes yes he does most of these things...ahh what would I not do to have him spell those three silly words ;) I want my M so bad

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      Amy 3 years ago

      when I read those,i knew I did something wrong,i fell apary after words,becuz I lost him,becuz those few things I didn't do :))

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      Andrew 3 years ago

      Haha I checked this because I wanted to see the POV of my female friend and I found out that made myself obvious that, yeah... :)

      Hmm.. maybe she knows?

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      Rachel 2 years ago

      There's this guy that I've been messaging for about two months now and he does most of these things!:) He's my cousin's best friend but they live an hour away :/ I've never actually met him, but I think we both really like each other :)

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      Emma 2 years ago

      Oh my gosh. I so hope he doesn't see this article because I do so many of these things....

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      Aly 2 years ago

      Thanks he does some but not all hopefully he does though

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      katherin 2 years ago

      my ex boyfriend use to do all these things and more but me and him are done for something stupid but i know he still has feelings for me

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      Ash 2 years ago

      This makes me very sure that he likes me :) buut :( im still not certain. I don't wanna get my heart stomped on but hes beed starting the conversations over text first for 4 days now. And he never used to text me. I think he liked me before because we were pretty close but he never actually asked me out but now its like he always wants to talk to me. :) i wonder what hes thinking actually.

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      Katrin19 2 years ago

      This article is very detailed, helpful and direct. He made some of these signs. I met him on https://kovla.com/datings/us/honolulu , and i just start to use it, so i'm not expert yet) So articles like this one, is very helpful for me)

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      katra147 2 years ago

      Well,well,well I geuss that's him alright#reasontosmile:)

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      Kierstin 2 years ago

      I'm unsure. We text each other a lot. We've been texting until 1:00 in the morning for three days straight (I got his number 3 days ago) . He keeps trying to ask me what my secret is and why I won't tell him. And we use a ton of emojis and we text a lot of funny things. And every time he sends me a goodnight before he stops texting. But I'm not sure. Because when he asked me if I like him I said maybe and he automatically changed the subject and asked me what I was doing even though he asked me that already. I really like him but I'm not sure if he likes me. But this is helpful.

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      CD 24 months ago

      What about if he does most of this, but keeps telling you that you guys are just friends. He is not looking for a commitment. What does that mean?

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      Andrea Lawrence 24 months ago from Chicago

      Take him at his word for now. He probably isn't looking for anything serious, but may enjoy flirting or talking.

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      Anonymous 23 months ago

      I like this guy.We play basketball together and hangout every now and then...How do I make my move?

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      lol 22 months ago

      Probably a good point is whether he asks questions about you...this guy I'm texting has ME doing all the conversation starters (what's your favorite band etc etc)...obviously doesn't like you if he doesn't care to know more about you, which sucks for me

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      avianna.M 21 months ago

      The......this was very a very good article...it showed that the guy that im with at this moment didn't really like me..and that i should breakup with him before he breaks my heart ....so thank you...now im going to go cry so.....

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      Yabs :* 18 months ago

      We text each other every night after school but I don't know if he likes me. What I'm gonna do?

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      Andrea Lawrence 18 months ago from Chicago

      @yabs

      Keep texting. Try to spend time after school or on the weekend in person. People are different when they are not in front of a phone.

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      aly 17 months ago

      We have just started talking to each other a week ago. I think I've started to like him. He lives a continent away but, he says that he would like to meet me once he comes back. Is that a good sign?

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      Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

      @aly

      Have you met this person in the past? Someone you met randomly from another continent sounds automatically sketchy.

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      Emily40 17 months ago

      Very interesting and detailed. I can actually pick out the guys that likes me. Which wouldnt matter i only concentrate on one guy and the way he texts me. Sometimes i can tell if hes busy upset when he misses me not by telling me he misses me but i may just get a pet name call out of the blue or a kiss something cute, makes me get butterflies.

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      Shaloo Walia 17 months ago

      Interesting!

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      rida 16 months ago

      he wanys to continue to text me but said he has never think me as he shld be

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      Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

      @rida

      That does not sound good.

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      cherry 16 months ago

      Well my guy, we have a past. He has a girl now but weve been texting through personal cells. Last i asked him if seeing each other would flame that old spark. He said maybe,, id have to meet him between my city and his to find out. What do you think that says about him and our situation?

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      Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

      @cherry

      The odds are always against you when someone is already synched up with someone else. Don't get your hopes up too high -- he may like you, but sometimes people continue to flirt outside of their relationships as a matter of flattery. I say cut him loose. If he pursues you, you'll know it. If he misses you, he'll do something about it. It's shaky ground whenever someone is already in a relationship with someone else.

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      Ok 16 months ago

      This noy text me alot we meet in elemtaty school and he recently meet up with me for thr first time at my house we text everyday and he has a nickname for me (fam) we sebd eachother kissy face till i accidently called him family since then all the kissy emojis have stopped but we still talk everyday and he always ask what im wearing how do i reply to that..hw says he wants to comeover sometime but he is going pro in soccer and he stays busy...i want to tell him i like him but im not sure how to tell him without actually telling him..he shares his problems with me and when he gets new shoes he askes me which ones he should choose and he has shared private stuff with me and we alwys send these emojis to eachother

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      Ok 16 months ago

      I left this out but he talked about how he was gonna give me this amazing hug when he saw me and I'm not so fond a hug so whenever you give me a hug I kind of like world up and he said he still hug me in this hug was amazing but his soccer is taking a lot over his our relationship as I don't know what we are everyday after school we talk to each other and then he have to stop talking to me around 5 and then you start talking to me around 9 cuz he can get back from soccer and we talk and talk all night I just don't know how to go about it does he like me does he not like me

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      Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

      @ok

      You mentioned elementary school... are you in elementary school?

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      Vivian 15 months ago

      This is kind of hard to decifer. He LOVES to make jokes and I cant tell if he is hiding anything or not. He is from another country so his englsih is a bit rusty n i cant tell if he is saying what he means to say( or if he is just being a Jerk). He is confusing but a great personality nonetheless.

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      Andrea Lawrence 15 months ago from Chicago

      @Vivian

      Texting with someone who's first language isn't your language is a whole other ball game. Most likely if they're taking the effort to talk to you when it's that difficult, they like you... and probably think you're friendly enough to get along with. Could these language hang ups also hint at him being a jerk? Possibly. There could be some cultural differences playing at hand here. I would use signals outside of texting at that point to judge his character. Character is different from whether they like you or not.

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      Jaquie 14 months ago

      I have been seeing this guy for some time now, since 2013. I have 2 children and he has none. We have been friends for years before I was married, he was the best man at my wedding. We went our separate ways and re connected in 2012. We text everyday and when I am with the kids he wishes me a great weekend. It is him that usually initiates the texts, sometime one text and sometimes never stops. I like hearing from him. I know he has a very busy schedule , he has a lot of pride in his career and I respect that but lately the texting has changed. I hear all the time that men pull away and go to their man cave but I find it strange how lately he has been distance (silent or MIA), and the texts too. I text anyways to say hi,,,etc,,,but should I just let him be and live my life without him. I rather him tell me that he is moving on then just avoiding the situation or me...

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      Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

      @Jaquie

      Give it a little bit of time. Sometimes people need breaks from texting for a week or two. You can ask him how busy he is. He may need to see you in person rather than so much texting. Texting can wear heavy on a person after awhile if the pay off isn't strong enough.

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      Jaquie 14 months ago

      Thank you for your response!

      I asked him to get together before he goes on his business trip, so will see what his answer will be.

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      Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

      @Jaquie

      Awesome! Let me know how it goes.

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      Jaquie 14 months ago

      So he responded 1 day later and from his response it sounded as if he is avoiding the situation.

      I responded back and told him that people make time for what they want to make time for, not to worry your job will fall into place , have an awesome vacation and safe travels.

      That's as much as I can do. I have been through so much that I will not allow myself to be treated this way. It's simple if he wants to continue or not just let me know...

      I feel I made the right choice.?

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      Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

      @Jaquie

      I wouldn't bother him too much at this point. If you put too much pressure on someone before they're ready to commit to something, it can make them leave faster than just about anything. You might be putting too much pressure on it.

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      Jaquie 14 months ago

      That's the thing I do not pressure him, but I will leave this alone and he knows how to reach me if he would like to. My gut tells me it could be some time before I hear from him, or even if i ever do again...

      Thank you! I will post any updates.

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      Jaquie 13 months ago

      Hello, so I received a response from the last text I had sent him.

      He basically said his week is rough and he is over whelmed with his up coming trip. He also asked how my week is going?with a

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      Jaquie 13 months ago

      It got cut off..meant to say:

      With a

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @Jaquie

      If he is asking about your week, that is a good sign. It's easy to get caught up with things and overwhelmed. The best route to take is to show that you're a supportive person. If he is just a weasel, time will tell.

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      Brit 13 months ago

      And if he tells you he is going to impress you, is this a sign also?

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @Brit

      Depends. Need more context.

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      Jaquie 13 months ago

      So it's been 3 weeks since I last heard from him. As he usually gets in touch when he gets back from business or vacation. This time not a single word, so I guess like you say "he is just a weasel".

      If this is what he has chosen, He could of just spoke up.

      If he is happy, I am happy for him.

      Brit: Just tell him no need to impress , just to be himself.

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @Jaquie

      Sorry to hear that! Better to cut him off now than later.

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      Jaquie 13 months ago

      I am sorry too, we have been friends for 30 years and together for the last 4 years. I really enjoyed our conversations and togetherness. I had better talks with him than I ever did with my ex husband. It hurts, I think I lost an old time friend. I have cut him off... :(

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @Jaquie

      I hope that things will get better. Sometimes they boomerang and come right back to you, so don't be surprised if that happens. I'd say go live your life to the fullest... and inevitably you'll find someone.

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      Jaquie 13 months ago

      I will figure that out when the time happens.

      Thank you much!

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      Hii 13 months ago

      So... there's this guy I message, we've known each for a while now. We are in a relationship but .. he doesn't seem to be messaging me back often.. we are in high school btw but he lives in a different state so I don't know what he's doing. He doesn't tell me why he doesn't respond .. he's also not on fb alot, maybe he's busy with school? But when he is on , he's very sweet and tells me how much he loves me and all. But I don't know if his words are true.. I know it's bad to doubt, but I really want to know if they are true and what he is doing in his life that is so busy..

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @Hii

      High school boys don't usually talk a whole lot. Some people are not super interested in Facebook.

      If he is being nice / sweet to you on Facebook, that is a good sign. Look for how he communicates in person and not just through messages. That will be key.

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      Hii 13 months ago

      Well... the problem is he lives in another state at the moment ^_^

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @Hii

      I wouldn't worry too much. High school relationships are very young... and generally don't pan out. Focus more on yourself at this point.

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      MonkeyGirl23 13 months ago

      Long story short, I met this guy at a friend's wedding and there was an after party. We talked the whole night, drank shots together and he has initiated the text the whole time with positive messages. The only thing is he lives in Chicago, since then we've been texting. It's only been a week but I think this guy likes me? He keeps saying how he'll cook home made tacos for me when I come to Chicago or taking me to a beautiful scenic route.

      I mean.. if this guy wasn't interested, he would of left straight to Chicago without texting me/asking for my number.

      What are your thoughts?

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @MonkeyGirl23

      I think he is definitely interested. I would for sure keep the conversation going if you are interested. Maybe going to Chicago currently is too soon since you guys just met... I don't know what the distance is between you and him. I would keep texting, maybe also include Skype and Facetime. It sounds like you hit it off really well.

      Keep chatting and get to know him before traveling to meet him, especially if it requires a plane ticket. I think continuing the conversation will help you to figure out whether you trust him or getting out of uncertainty. Or if it's even something you really want.

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      Monkeygirl23 13 months ago

      Sorry. I forgot to mention that I live in Houston and he lives in Chicago. Thank you so much for your advice and thoughts! I will definitely keep that in mind. I'm at the phase where I'm getting to know him. We are actually meeting in gulf shore Alabama for a music festival in a couple of weeks so hopefully it works out.

      Thanks again!

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @Monkeygirl23

      Sounds like things are going on the right track! I read recently that those first few dates are about having fun and figuring things out with our uncertainties. So I guess the most important thing right now is... start a fun, positive connection and see where it goes.

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      MonkeyGirl23 13 months ago

      Yeah definitely! I have a question.. so we haven't skyped or talked on the phone yet. Do I let him initiate that? It's only been 2 weeks so far. I know it's still early but my girl brain is like.. errrr just wait for him to say something about it? We did ask each other if we like to talk to the phone, we were mutual and left it at that. Also, thank you so much your advice again. I hope it works out with this person and will see where it goes.

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      Andrea Lawrence 13 months ago from Chicago

      @MonkeyGirl23

      I think it's okay to initiate Skype or Facetime at this point if you feel comfortable. It won't hurt anything.

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      Mr.Brar 10 months ago

      First of all i am a guy..Well after reading whole article....i can conclude ...i am in love with a girl......i text her like...most of free time...sometimes in busy time too...:P....i have never text a girl except my own sister..well ....i always check inbox...if she replied.....and i like when she laughs on pics i send her...i dont know whether she love me or not....but god knows my heart beat for her ...and my mom dad...too.

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      Andrea Lawrence 9 months ago from Chicago

      Are you dating the girl yet? Glad the texting is going well. ;)

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      DMM 8 months ago

      There s that guy whos taking my advice about another girl and he s like always telling me stuff about him ... And her

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      If you don't want that.... you should tell him.

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      Vee 7 months ago

      I been talking to this guy for almost a month.

      We exchanged numbers for academic purpose, but now been constantly texting each other. Hes in 2 of my classes, during which we exchange pleasant greetings. He notices when I walk in ( or maybe I look for him when I walk in).Past week he and his friends waited for me after class too, but I find it bit difficult to talk him face to face so I often say "I'm gonna get going'' and go off on my own. Yes we text, mainly because that's where I feel comfortable. I like him. He is a very jovial guy, friendly with everyone, which is why I can't understand his cues ( Is he like that with everyone?). We once talked about the vibes we send off and I told he seems bit flirty, to which he felt offended I assume, he justified saying he isn't a flirt, he just like to make people smile and hes very loyal and would never hurt anyone's feeling. He called me the reserved and the "family type" .

      I tried to take dig and asked " why are we talking so much" for it hes like " why aren't you having fun as well" . We been sharing our expectations of life partners, how we both wanted to get into a relationship . He even shared the name he wants to name his daughter lol. During our convo I said I enjoyed cooking and I wanted to feed my future husband well and he said " lucky guy, I hope I find a girl like that". Don't know what that meant. I been indirect with him saying he will meet "his girl soon" . I am trying to hold off bit, because I don't want to get hurt... Does he like me?

      Sorry for this long message, this comment could be confusing as my thoughts right now lol....so any feedback will be appreciated.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      It sounds like you two are just getting to know each other. And wouldn't put too much pressure on it or overthink it. Try hanging out with him, and if it seems good to you, keep at it. I think you have your own uncertainties to deal with first. I can't tell at this point if he is interested in you more than a friend.

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      Akwasi Maru 6 months ago from Macon, Georgia

      I've never seen a hub so detailed about texting. You sound like an expert.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      The better of an expert I am, the more helpful I am to others.

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      bangi29 3 months ago

      Hello everyone, i believe you are well and gearing up for the only the only day that has been dedicated to people who are in love. The 14th day of every February month is when we turn to our loved ones and shower them with gifts and praises just to show how great full we are that they are in our lives. I have decided to dedicate this year’s valentine day to the unsung heroes in lives and in my case it’s my MOTHER. I cannot help but wonder how these beautiful beings hold it together. Every time i look back and think of what can go wrong when you are young, am amazed beyond word at how mothers end up making us who we are at the end. Imagine the most powerful man in the world, the president of the United States was also once a baby hey! Am sure most of you and even himself cannot bring himself to think that right now. He had a mother who tended to his every need. It is for this small but important reason my friends that i for one will dedicate this year’s Valentine’s Day to my unsung hero my mother. May you be rewarded for everything little thing that you did for me MOTHER.

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      Lynn 2 months ago

      I recently started seeing someone from my past. We live in two different states. Had two dates and we slept together. He texts me and I know he cares about me, but he never calls me, only text me. What's up with that?

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      Tell him you like phone calls. That's the only way he'll know you like phone calls.

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      Sammy 2 months ago

      So, there is this guy I know. We did a class together and later on we became friends. Over the ending of our class, that's when we really first started to talk to each, then over the ending of the summer we really connected and we'd talk daily. But I still can't figure him out. We once went on a group hang out, just three of us. I thought he liked my other friend, but that day he was always next to me, always only really talking to me and stuff. Then for the rest of the summer and the months that followed, we would speak every day. Sometimes he'd get strangely mean towards me. Then other times, he'd either share things about his past, share random lyrics from songs, even a few times he drunk texted me after being out with 'groupies' lol. Fast forward to now, we still talk pretty much everyday, he's never said to me verbatim that he's interested, so it's just sometimes what he does makes me wonder if he is, or not. I noticed he started saying good morning more often too and he says he really enjoys talking to me and our conversations are fun, he's complimented me before saying I am talented and such, but what throws me for a loop is that he now as of late seeks my advice on girls he's 'interested' in, or just people he think it could possibly work with. And then he insists on sometimes telling me about his dating ventures. How, in a case like that would I narrow down if he's interested in me or not? Especially since he's never said it.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      He might not be reading that you're interested in him. Sounds like he really enjoys you, mostly for friendship. I think you should be straight with him and ask him how he would feel if you took it romantic. That'll stop your own anxiety, you'll get an answer, and some direction here. If he is as good as a friend as you describe, he'll still be in the picture. You'll feel better if you stand up to your feelings. And having this conversation we only strengthen the two of you.

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      Jasmine 2 months ago

      Okay, so. I'm sure he likes me, but I wanna make sure.

      So there's this popular guy at my school, right? Well, I got his number through prank calling. And my phone saved his number, so I left it at that, and didn't bother with it for a while. Until I was texting a friend named Hayden, about, well personal shit. I sent the message "Hey, dude, are thing better with your mom?" and apparently it was the wrong one. It was the popular kid. So he sent me the message "Lol, wrong number homie" and so I apologized multiple times, for being dumb and he just said "Its fine who are you btw" and I replied back with "Im Jasmine." and he replied with "Ok" and I left it at that, cause it would be creepy to send him anything else.

      Well a month later, I got a new message from him, (I thought he deleted my number, but I guess not)

      He was like, "Are you friends with Alyssa?" and after that we started talking from that, acting buddy on buddy, and let me say he was replying immediately, laughing at ever little story I told, and after a while, he said "pic?" and I was like "I don't feel comfortable.. my self esteem.. is not that high." and he replied back with "Don't worry, i'll give you esteem" and then he sent me a funny picture of himself, (i could tell he was shirt less because all it showed his shoulders with no sleeves expect bare skin), and then I sent a picture of myself, and he just said "oh yeah, ive seen you at school" and I agreed, and ended the conversation there. And then suddenly out of nowhere, he sent a message saying wyd, and started it up again. I talked to him more after that, and then I told him I really wanted to meet him for being so chill and he was "Sure. Yeah! Of course." and he seemed really up to it, and after that we talked so naturally to each other. But im not sure if hes being really nice or what?

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like he is interested and wants to see where it goes. He found the way you guys met intriguing, so he wants to see if that quirky connection would be like that in person. You piqued his interest and it seemed natural rather than forced.

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      Anonymous 111 2 months ago

      So I met this guy at my cousins party, I didn't talk to him that day. But the next day since we had a little family get together again, basically an after party, I saw him again we didn't talk at all.

      But then later about 2 hours before I left, I talked to him nervously, and he kind of talked with few words.

      Then I asked him if he had Snapchat, he said no. Then I said if he had Instagram he said yeah so he gave it to me. But then he asked for my name on Facebook, I told him my name and everything, he added me and after I left I shakes his hand when I said goodbye.

      Then in the car I texted him hey and he replied with a Hey!

      Since the we been talking, it's been a week since we started talking. There's been two conversations that I've told him, Everytime I talk to him he makes me smile. He said that it makes him happy that his making someone smile.

      Then I told him that I taught I was boring too talk too, he then said no you always have something to say. And his always using emojis that are smiling and blushy face. His older than me by 2 years. Even if we leave a conversation at night we continue it the next day. Sometimes he falls asleep and tells me sorry if I didn't answer I fell asleep. I tell him no problem that Im usually sleep, but I won't be to just have an excuse to talk to him.

      I don't of his into me or not. But we've been playing 21 questions and I've learned a lot about him and his learned a lot about me, I found a lot of things we have in common.

      And recently he started liking my posts.

      There was one that said Everytime I talk to you I fall in love with your smile, so I said on the post before I posted it, or your eyes and the way you are. And he liked it.

      Please let me know if he likes before I get the wrong idea of him liking me. I got 30 things he does from this post.

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      Anonymous111emana 2 months ago

      First I posted with the username anonymous111 but I decided to create an account so it would be easier to access later on.

      So I met this guy at my cousins party, I didn't talk to him that day. But the next day since we had a little family get together again, basically an after party, I saw him again we didn't talk at all.

      But then later about 2 hours before I left, I talked to him nervously, and he kind of talked with few words.

      Then I asked him if he had Snapchat, he said no. Then I said if he had Instagram he said yeah so he gave it to me. But then he asked for my name on Facebook, I told him my name and everything, he added me and after I left I shakes his hand when I said goodbye.

      Then in the car I texted him hey and he replied with a Hey!

      Since the we been talking, it's been a week since we started talking. There's been two conversations that I've told him, Everytime I talk to him he makes me smile. He said that it makes him happy that his making someone smile.

      Then I told him that I taught I was boring too talk too, he then said no you always have something to say. And his always using emojis that are smiling and blushy face. His older than me by 2 years. Even if we leave a conversation at night we continue it the next day. Sometimes he falls asleep and tells me sorry if I didn't answer I fell asleep. I tell him no problem that Im usually sleep, but I won't be to just have an excuse to talk to him.

      I don't of his into me or not. But we've been playing 21 questions and I've learned a lot about him and his learned a lot about me, I found a lot of things we have in common.

      And recently he started liking my posts.

      There was one that said Everytime I talk to you I fall in love with your smile, so I said on the post before I posted it, or your eyes and the way you are. And he liked it.

      Please let me know if he likes before I get the wrong idea of him liking me. I got 30 things he does from this post.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      It sounds like he likes you. Keep talking to him. Be confident.

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      Lisa 7 weeks ago

      Thank you extremely helpful.

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      Newtothis 7 weeks ago

      A couple of months ago a male friend and I started texting. Just random things at first, then more personal things about our lives. We are both in our 40s. He is divorced and I am legally separated. We both considered it a friendship at first, but our texts became more personal and at times casually flirty. We have talked on the phone twice for hours, but never gotten together to do anything, even just as friends, though we talk about doing so. He is a really really great guy. But his ex wife damaged him emotionally very deeply, so he considers himself completely damaged goods. I have recently developed feelings for him stronger than that of friendship. And because of our ages, rather than just ignore them, I felt it was only fair to tell him how I was feeling, through text of course. I told him I understood if he hated me now and never wanted to hear from me again. He responded by saying first of all he could never hate me, and that he very much enjoyed talking to me, and asked me to give him some time to process and respond to my text. It's been 2 days and no reaponse. I am so anxious now, feeling like I've completely ruined what was a great friendship. Should I just leave him alone now? Or go ahead and text him and ask what he's thinking? I'm too old for a texting relationship!

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 weeks ago from Chicago

      I think everything is going to be okay. Give a moment to breathe. With that much talking between the two of you, he probably deep down expected this. I doubt it is a complete surprise to him, but maybe if it has been a long time since he's been single he somehow could be tone deaf here.

      I don't think you damaged the relationship at all. I doubt he would hate you, especially for sharing your feelings. I think it was a good thing that you put yourself out there, it is usually better to say those things in person or through a phone call rather than text. Then you can read facial cues or voice cues.

      If his wife left him in a bad emotional state, he may need therapy before getting into a relationship. He probably needs to build his self confidence up again, and get his feet wet. When you are emotionally low it can give you low faith in yourself and the world around you -- bad news is this lack of faith can lead to destructive behavior.

      He may honestly not be ready for a serious relationship, and that's not on you. You haven't done anything wrong. Leave him alone for about a week, then send him something that is friendly, warm, and possibly funny. Do that to break the ice a little and bring some positivity here. He might not give you a real response after that, but you'll get the wheels turning again to at least be conversating comfortably. He may take some time to process this, and that's okay. Some people know instantly what to do... others take months. (Most people are more sooner than later when it comes to this.) So be patient, don't worry that he hates you, and you are never too old for texting.

      So yes, give it a week. Then start friendly texting again. Don't approach the elephant in the room. He is aware. That's all you need to do at this point. ;) Let him know the option is open, get it off your chest, and then let whatever happens... happen. And you are in that last stage there.

      I am pretty sure you guys will at the very least be friends here. That's a good place to be.

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      Paula 5 weeks ago

      I realy like a guy+I have a bff. I think he's into my bff. What I'm going to do? Theres no way i can stop liking him. At school.......... My bestF talks with him and do everything like they are together:( I reallllly like him. My best friend said that shes been talking with about me for a realy long time and she Said that he realy likes me. I think she dont want me to know that they are together. Everynight im crying and dreaming about him. I hope that you can help me. Please.

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      Paula 5 weeks ago

      Theres been this guy that i really like+I have a bestfriend. Idk why i think he likes my bff. Hes just talking to her and they both are laughing. At school hes looking at her butt everytime and realyyy im jealous. She told me that he likes me and she been talking to him everytime just about me and know what? I think she just dont want me to know that they are together. What now? I hope you can help me to get oit of this mess. Please......... ;(

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 weeks ago from Chicago

      Don't jump to conclusions. The two of them may just be friends. I don't think someone would tell you a person they are seeing likes you and try to be encouraging about that. This would conflict with their own goals if they had interest in the same person.

      Work on confidence here so you can send the right vibe. Make sure you trust your friend. Try reaching out to this guy more. Think of creative ways you can interact with him.

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      Lattu 4 weeks ago

      Lattu as he calls me! We are bst of frnds now. Both of us hv been talking to each other for over one mnth from now. He constantly says dat he loves me , often say positive things to me. We even kissed each other over text and imagination and he said he liked the feeling of kissing me wch I lykd too. But I'm confused, does he really likes me more than a frnd or he is jst being a flirt! Plzz help andrea lawrence sir!

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      Cry 2 weeks ago

      He says "I missed you." One time, then he compliments me a lot.

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      tati 2 weeks ago

      wow its so a great advaice i learn a lot things&it also correct like like like

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 weeks ago from Chicago

      Excellent! Hope you can find other hubs here that fit your needs and hopes.

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      Anon female 2 weeks ago

      So I need advise even if the truth hurts. A guy and I have been friends for 3 1/2 years and I texted him randomly this week. The texts from him had a lot of the things you posted... but we were definitely flirting. Just as it was about to blow into more, he abruptly (feels like it to me) stopped texting me. After a week, he hasn't texted me back at all. I don't know what's going on through his head and I'm definitely not going to blow up his phone. A text with SOMETHING would've been better than nothing.

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      bunny 13 days ago

      I'm a married woman. I know this guy who's 9 years my jnr and we hang out with this group whom we call brothers and sisters.

      Somehow we hit off very well and he texts me daily throughout the day with breaks on bet but for sure first thing in the morning before he goes to work and always after work n we can text all night.

      He shows a lot of concern for me and will always want to sit beside me when we hang out with the group.

      But he told me about a lady he liked and also that he got rejected.

      We go out occasionally alone. Everytime we get much closer and more personal he'll address as 'sister'

      What do you think

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 days ago from Chicago

      A group you call brothers and sisters? This sounds... kind of weird, to be honest. Why use those words? Since you are a married woman, you may want to address your marriage first before considering another option. He might be seeing you as more of a friend, considering he tells you about his rejection... and that he calls you a sister. That's not really a romantic word.

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