Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.
The New World of Texting
SMS stands for Short Message Service. It was used for the first time on 3 December 1992, when Neil Papworth, a 22-year-old test engineer for SEMA in the UK, used a personal computer to send the message, "Merry Christmas." Since then, texting has become an integral part of human life.
Our texts give us clues about the nature of friendships, our habits, our love interests, and the places we frequent. Relationships are not determined by texting, but text messages can indicate whether two people like each other or not.
Texting and Relationships
Texting can be a great, low-key way to engage with someone you like. If you're needing some clarity on a suspicious exchange of texts, look no further. This article is here to help you sort out whether he leans more toward liking you, or maybe something else.
Texting can be as revealing as body language. Here are some handy things to check in your text messages to garner a better idea of whether he just wants you for your body, if he genuinely likes you, or is just having some fun.
Subject: What Does He Text?
The first thing you should ask when you get a text message: What is this guy saying? Why is he saying it?
Random Positive Messages
Lighthearted texts about anything and everything are always good because they mean that your guy is looking for an excuse to get in touch. Here are some signs of positive, lighthearted messages you might receive from a dude who likes you.
- The conversations do not focus on everyday matters, but instead on humorous things that are inside jokes. Is there a consistent thread that refers back to a significant moment?
- He uses a pet name or nickname for you. He uses one name frequently.
- Positivity is important. If you're bored enough, put your messages on an Excel sheet and decipher how many are positive to you vs. how many seem negative, or neutral.
- Notice if he always responds. Be honest, most text threads are pretty boring. If he keeps responding to you then he must find you engaging. Our busy lives tend to take precedence over texts. Bonus points: he politely exits the conversation.
- He sends you a text about a dream that he had about you.
- He sends you random song lyrics.
- He sends you a joke.
- He comments on something extremely minuscule to see if you noticed too.
- He might refer to nostalgia, such as bringing up Pokémon, Final Fantasy, a Disney movie, etc.
- He doesn't refer to your hot friends. If he constantly talks about one of your friends then he likely has a crush on them.
- His texts are not all business or school related.
- He sends you a message to let you know something reminded him of you.
- He sends you pictures to make you laugh—like animals, things from movies, his shoes.
- He asks random questions to start up a conversation and to figure out your interests.
- He sends you pictures of his food and asks if you want some. He wants to know what you want for lunch.
- He writes a message that sounds more like a story from Shakespearian times. He is trying to be funny and show that he is witty.
- He asks you about your favorite vacations.
- He messages you a lot about his pets.
- He sends you happy holiday or birthday messages. He sends you messages about unimportant holidays like national hide a zucchini on your neighbor's porch day.
- He is crafty. He makes cool items. He sends you a picture and asks if you want one of his handmade items.
If a guy is talking to you about important or personal issues in his life, he clearly both values your opinion and trusts you enough that he can be honest and even emotional around you. Then again, he could just be really weird. Take everything with a grain of salt!
If a guy you like wants to have a serious conversation, even over text, that's a sign that he probably does like you or care about your opinions.
And if he is saying outright that he likes you or values your relationship, well, that's even better.
- Beware of sexting. It's a better sign if, instead of sexting, he texts you as though he respects you. If he sexts you, he may easily be doing this with others. And he could be sharing information or pictures that you send with his friends, so take caution. My own rule of thumb is if you wouldn't want your grandmother to see it, then you probably don't want the whole Internet to see it—send photos wisely.
- He uses positive affirmations rather than bringing you down. Does he compliment you for being punctual, friendly, patient, etc.? This might not mean he is head over heels for you, but he at least has a soft spot for you. (Aladdin complimented Jasmine on her punctuality.)
- He refers to something from a long time ago. Whatever it was, it's stuck with him.
- He says things like, "Thank you" or "I appreciate this." He shows gratitude often.
- He gives unsolicited compliments on your looks, personality, brains, talents, etc.
- He says, "I miss you." That's a big one.
- He offers to help pay for something for you.
- If you need his assistance, he offers help. He may immediately come to your rescue. He might help you with a flat tire, a leaky faucet, or a pesky cabinet door.
- He handles it well if you send him something completely strange. He engages with your random texts.
- He overall seems to enjoy hearing from you and may even in person say that he likes having conversations with you. Could there be a greater sign than that?
- He lets you know of positive things that have happened in his life, whether over text or not, such as doing well on a test, a promotion, or having a new pet.
- His texts usually brighten your day.
- He may talk about personal details such as family, a job problem, etc.
- He asks you out on a date.
- He asks you to accompany him to a formal event because he doesn't want to go alone.
- He invites you to hang out with him one on one.
- He uses flirty emojis like holding hands, the kissy face, hearts, etc.
- He asks if you would like to go see something with him sometime, like an art gallery, a football game, a concert, etc.
- He consistently texts you throughout the week.
- He gets jealous if you mention you're interested in someone else.
Formatting and Length
After all, there’s more to texting than words. What about emoticons? What about length? This section will help you decipher your text message beyond the obvious.
Questions in a text message are a good sign because that means he is trying to continue the conversation. You've probably done this too: formatted a text in the form of a question, or added a question at the end so that there's more guarantee of a response.
If he sends you questions, that's probably what he's doing: he wants to hear from you. Here are some possible questions you might receive in a text from a guy who likes you.
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- He asks you to hang out or do something. This could include: grabbing something to eat, going on a bike ride, going to the movies.
- He says things along the lines of, "Let me know if there's anything I can help with." Guys are programmed to fix things; it's a delicate part of their DNA. If you can figure out what he can fix and have him do it, you'll be able to create a connection.
- He asks if he may have accidentally spotted you, just to start a conversation. I got a call once that asked if I had stepped into a gray van in another state. Obviously, we both knew that was unlikely.
- He asks, "How are you?"
- He is concerned about your well-being and what you are doing with your life.
- He may ask for your help on something that he is not particularly skilled at handling. This is a great sign because it means he respects and trusts you.
- He might ask about some guy that he has seen you with (whether directly or indirectly).
- He does not refer to other girls. OR he asks your advice about them.
- He asks for something back that you may have borrowed: a book, movie, etc. He probably wants an excuse to chat about it with you. And to set up a time where he can see you.
- He asks about your interests. He wants to cater to them.
- He asks a really strange philosophical question because he's curious to see where the conversation will go.
- He asks about what you're wearing. (Could be a booty call.)
- He asks sports-related questions. Guys are often on the hunt for a lady who knows things about sports. They don't always know what to ask, so they try to see if you like the same stuff as them. A guy asking you about your favorite teams and sports is kind of a dead giveaway.
- He goes the direct route and asks if you like him.
- He asks you questions that are actually compliments. He asks you how you're so naturally pretty or how do you do your hair.
Here are some clues that might not seem obvious to you at first. Punctuation, length, even grammar can all be clues that someone likes you.
- If he texts you back and engages in conversation, this is positive, even if his messages are short with one or two words.
- He uses "Hahahaha." Or another text to indicate that he finds something funny.
- Exclamation marks! The more of them, the higher the likelihood he digs you. Also, guys don't use exclamation marks as much as girls. So if he is using them, he probably means them.
- He contacts you in other forms whether phone calls, Facebook, in person, emails, letters, smoke signals, etc. My Facebook back-to-back feed with one guy, in particular, has YouTube videos, "likes" on statuses, little inside jokes here and there, and sometimes even conversations on other people's profiles. This can be a pretty fun way to maintain contact, if done right.
- He sends you texts frequently. Is he sending you texts every day? Once a week? Once a year?
- He isn't playing mind games and has no problem sending two or more messages at once, rather than sending one at a time and waiting for your response. He's eager to talk to you and wants to make certain that you're informed.
- He uses proper grammar.
- He sends you a picture that reminds him of you.
- He refrains from using plain ole' "k."
- He refrains from using "LOL." It's weak, sister. REAL WEAK.
- He is comfortable with writing you a long text message that breaks into six sections. Not necessarily often, but he would do it.
- He avoids curse words or inappropriate language. OR, he uses a lot of language, not all guys are the same.
- He texts you when he is clearly drunk.
- He may send a text in all caps with just your name and exclamation marks.
- You text him and he responds with: "I was just thinking about you!"
Timing: When Does He Text?
Sometimes the timing of a text contains more clues than a text itself. Here are some tips on deciphering the timing and frequency of messages.
This is a classic way to tell if someone likes you. If a guy you like texts you all the time, even if the messages don't seem to have much content, that's a big deal. And if he texts you during important moments in his life, or when he needs help, that's also a big deal. Here are some good signs related to timing.
- After seeing you, he sends you a message that he had a good time. This is a polite affirmation of the time you spent together. This actually makes my day when anyone does this.
- He might not instantly text you back (we all have busy lives), but if he does seem to respond quickly, this is positive. If it takes him more than twenty-four hours without reason, that is suspicious, but don't jump to conclusions. If he never answers at all, that's almost always a bad sign. You could possibly have the wrong number, or he changed his number. (One summer I texted a friend randomly when I thought of him and didn't know that he was on a giant road trip across the country without his phone. When he got back into town, we met up later to discuss his whole trip. So at the end of the day, if you feel like texting, just do it.)
- He texts you during the day rather than at night. 12:00AM–6:00AM is unusual, and more than likely a booty call.
- The two of you text one another more than you text others.
- He texts when you've just gotten back from a long trip, perhaps overseas where you don't have service.
- He attempts to get in touch between 9:00AM–5:00PM to make arrangements to see you. These are hours that show respect on his part.
- He sends you a long text about how wonderful you are when he knows you've had a terrible day.
- The conversation can go back and forth for hours, regardless of how many texts.
- He may consistently text you on a certain day of the week or hour as he may have figured out you were free at that time.
- He respects your time and doesn't eat it all up with texting. It's the right amount of speed for you.
- He isn't known for being a player and texting lots of girls.
What Do You Think?
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
Question: What if we text each other every day? What does that mean?
Answer: You have a healthy connection with each other. Keep talking and see where it goes.
Question: If he texts me everyday what does it mean?
Answer: Consistency is king. If someone texts you every day, that means they think positively of you. Consistency is one of the biggest factors in being able to tell if someone likes you. They may be looking for an opportunity for a date.
Question: If he texts me every day and is very funny and sometimes teases me, what does this mean?
Answer: If anything it means he thinks of you in a positive way. Some guys are naturally funny, and they often like to tease the opposite sex. Is he making sure you in particular laugh, or is he trying to get a crowd to laugh? Is he playfully teasing or is he being mean? It's easier to tell if someone likes you by looking at the specifics, time of day, and how consistent they do these things. And consistency is king when it comes to flirting.
Question: If he sends me a "<3" at the end of a text, what does that mean?
Answer: He probably likes you, is interested in you, or highly attracted to you.
Question: What does it mean if he sits next to me?
Answer: Literally, that could mean anything. In life, we are constantly sitting by people. Now, is he always making a point to sit by you? Is there anything else happening that makes you think he likes you?
Question: What if he texts a :)?
Answer: A happy face isn't too much concern for a headache. A happy face is friendly.
Question: My boyfriend is sick. I sent a text that read: "Hugs, I Miss you." He responded SAME. What does that mean?
Answer: It means he misses you. :)
© 2013 Andrea Lawrence
Gabbie on May 25, 2020:
There is this boy at my school and I think he likes me back because we text often and we usually talk to each other... but I don't want to take my chances.
Lover girl on May 01, 2020:
I like this boy. We don’t text often, but I like him, and I think maybe he likes me. He used to go to the same school as me(that’s how we met), but he moved away. Since we don’t text often, it gets really awkward when we do. I apologized for not texting him more often, and we both agreed to text more often. How do I know if he likes me?
Lee on April 29, 2020:
He always sends me
Autumn on April 26, 2020:
What if he texts you everyday, puts your name in his bio, calls you cute, pretty, perfect, etc. Does he like me?? I really cant tell because he said that he has a problem with flirting with every one on accident
... on March 28, 2020:
what does it mean if he keeps asking you if you like someone, and if you are dating anyone or interested in anyone?
Sofia on December 01, 2019:
What does it mean if he asks, “Are we still friends?”
Single girl on October 14, 2019:
Um what if it's an online guy same age as me and always ask how r u and you are beautiful everytime and u don't know who he is but u feel touched and start blushing
Lady on October 13, 2019:
I met this guy and we kissed then he asked us to vibe ...recently i sent a tect with the word hun in it now he uses that word after each text .he onec said he always stares at me cause im beautiful
We text day in and day out
Good morning and goodnight every day
Bu he said he has a girlfriend
And now im confused as to weather or not he likes me
There is just somuch chemistry between us and my frnds say he likes me but he is scred
What should i do cause i really really like him and he is in a long distance relationship
question on September 18, 2019:
What if he messages you on fb while he is in L.A. and then later in italy for work? (we are not together but we have had moments where it may be more than friends) asking questions about me and how i am doing. i was upset about something and he tried to help figure out what happened even though nothing could be done just so i could have peace of mind. does he like me? He also sent me pictures of where he was. hes not an initiator that i have seen although he does take charge once he is in position. I at least know he thinks i am "gorgeous"
Fatima Qureshi on August 27, 2019:
So he doesnt text often because he went overseas,but he answered correctly to akme i have asked him about me which i have never told him, also he hqs been sending me memes and funny photos, and he has been sending photos of where he is visting,(he doesnt do tht) so what does this means, help
Angela Valerio on August 18, 2019:
What does it mean when a guy your talking to says your not single your all ready married and you dont even know it? Does he mean what he is saying or does he mean something else?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 25, 2019:
Sounds like he is interested.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 25, 2019:
That seems kind of weird.
Tierrs on July 07, 2019:
So I met this guy on an app. We have been talking like every day for hours a day. He messaged me good morning. We talk about some really personal stuff. I've even sent him some weird stuff out of the blue and he cool with it. I've only been talking to him for 4 days. Do you think he likes me.
kinda want thisprivate on July 07, 2019:
What if he only texts me when I post a picture
Harley catnip on July 04, 2019:
So this guy who’s my current friend, said we was going to bed and I told him i’ll he up for a while. After about 20 minutes, he said he never went to sleep, and I just knew and he asked “how?” I said it was either because you needed a break from texting or me. And then.. he said “neither, I like both” and the after a minute of me sitting there flustered and confused he said “in a friendly way”
tahliafincannon on June 30, 2019:
Oof.... I'm trying to figure if this boy likes me
Abby on June 27, 2019:
This guy said that he was gonna watch this movie just because I liked it a lot. He even apologized the next day cause he hadn’t watched it. Then today he said he was watching the second movie, and that it reminded him of me, so he texted me. The text first started with “Abby!!!!!”
Miss Pinky on June 01, 2019:
First thing first he have a girlfriend......and he have no clue that I'm into him..im always the first one to text...but once we started texting he keeps the conversation alive by asking me questions and talking about random stuffs too... Since we're both students still and he stay in other town we don't really text often and I wanna avoid texting him now coz I feel like I'm annoying.... When we text he don't like me to bring up his girlfriend in the conversation... IDK what's going on in his mind 99.9% sure that he don't like me but I wanna know if I should move on or wait a little more.... He's quite a popular guy so he texted few girls and I found out that he blocked messages from me....we ended our last conversation with goodbye and he also told me that he would text me later and that he's busy at the moment... But after some days I decided to text him again that's when I realize I couldn't send him messages.... Please help me!!!and yea he didn't block the other girls who text him his brother is my friend and he perked through his btothers phone.^ ^Does he hate me???
BM on May 29, 2019:
What does it mean if he text me first but the day before I strongly implied that I wanted him to
Angel 2275 on May 13, 2019:
Hey if this guy knows ur in a relationship and ignores the fact that you are in one. When ur with your boyfriend he tends to ignore him and only talks to you about things what does that mean? And if this guy works in an office and tells you to wait for his office manager but leaves alone for like 5 minutes then comes and checks on you and wants to talk to you about your personal life what does that mean? He calls me by my nickname and smiles really big when he is with me or sees me. He also says bye to me if he at his desk and then i go to leave what does that mean?? He txts me back when he sees i ask him about movies and things.
Pha on May 12, 2019:
What if he said "ur addicted to something" and i said "im addicted to what?" and he said " ur addicted to me"??? What does it mean???
Hannah on April 25, 2019:
what if the guy never messages you anymore like he used to?
principessa soliteria on April 22, 2019:
hye i got to knw tbis guy through frnd we work in a ngo together .he is an unique guy i ever met.we chat everyday frm the day we knw each other and ofcrs he start the conversation. one day he ask me that if i like him and i said yes .he doesnt reply anything but he continue chatting with me.one day he said it could be a infactuation but more i talk to him and with him i feel like he loves me.and one day he ask did u miss me .and for me i only swa his face mng to nit when i close my eyes and open my eyes .am i deeply love with him.did he likes me?i am so confused with this stuff
nothxsis on April 20, 2019:
ok so i told him i liked him about two weeks ago and ever since that we have gotten closer, we text more and our conversations are longer, he responds right away and is always available, he seems really nervous around me, and more stuff. my best friend saw him in town and kept asking where i was and what she is doing without me and kept asking about me and stuff. i have a very long and complicated story with him but we are only young teens lol.
boycrazygrl on April 01, 2019:
this is very helpful
Sarah on February 18, 2019:
Sent a text to a man I know and told him “this is just a suggestion-but when you are feeling better you might consider coming over, just a suggestion”. He answered with Ha ha. He has had surgery for melanoma but was negative. Very wonderful that it was nothing. He went running yesterday and I texted him “ “don’t forget the sunscreen”.To that he also answered Ha ha
Desperate on January 06, 2019:
I have been seeing a man for 3 years. He text me everyday and sees me about every 2 weeks. We are great friends and talk about spending the rest of our lives with one another. And how reply in Love we are. He always text he “I miss you”. We have the most amazing connection. However, he went back to his family because of the kids. It’s a long story. Kids are almost grown. He made a promise to his kids he wouldn’t leave again. Long story! Anyway. Do I wait? He wants me too? Do I believe he will leave her? Maybe in a year they ReKindle? He tells me there is Nothing between them. He loves her but he’s not In Love with her. Should I believe this guy? Or maybe I was the rebound chick? The ongoing 3 years of his undying love for me. We have this amazing connection. I believe it’s real. But have my doubts. Help Men. Do you go back because of kids even when u really aren’t necessarily in Love with wife? They have had numerous issues and sleeps on couch most nights. But they still sleep in bed. It’s just not a physical marriage.
Male hoooooman on November 26, 2018:
So I'm a guy and I went to this to see if somebody was gay for me, and I looked at comments, but I need to say something: Guys should be allowed to talk to girls! Most of my friends are female so I should be allowed to text them. I can text somebody without being interested in them. I mean like 80 percent of my close friends are girls so who am I supposed to text? Seriously guys can be friends with girls and not like them. Use your brain! No I'm not gay I'm straight. I also went to this to make sure I'm not sending the wrong signs to people. Btw I don't like somebody and most of these signs are things I do but I like somebody else. Maybe I'm just different from other guys, having my first friend's be girls, and growing up around girls. Hope some people are intelligent and agree with me.
Darlene Munoz on October 08, 2018:
I met this guy on a dating web site we have been texting each other but he is out of the country he is looking for a partner for life a women to love him with all her all he send me pictures of him and his daughter and i send him pictures of me we talk every other day he seems interested in me and i am interested in him he wanrs to meet me when he gets back home what does it mean?
Blank on October 03, 2018:
Hello there. I have a friend and he always initiates our conversations. Usually we start with "Heya" and "Heyo" then he asks "How are you doing". By reflex I always ask him back, them we would go to a different topic after. When it seems the conversation is about to break, he asks "What'cha doing?" if he still hasn't asked it, and by reflex I ask him back. Though they're just little texts, we somehow go from one topic to another. He also texts me almost everyday, the longest inteval we've had is 1 or 2 days.
I don't really know if he likes me or is simply like that.
Ella Freeman on September 27, 2018:
Their is this guy I met a couple of months ago and we are good friends now. Well he's a sophomore in college and ever since he's left he literally texts me like 3 to even 4 times a week!!! One time a tornado touched down where I was at and he heard about it and I didn't have my phone with me and he texted me twice wondering if I was inside or not and I didnt text back in like 6 minutes and he went crazy. He said If you not answering me is funny...I'm not amused. So obviously it shows he cares he also has said ok whatever makes you happy which shows even more that my happiness is important to him Last month he invited me to go somewhere for his birthday and it's in May!! He invited me in September to go to party that's like many months away?!?! He's even planned things to do with me when I see him again and has asked when my birthday was? Out of suspicion I asked why and he said no reason with a emoji face with sunglasses. I think he's up to something but I don't know what. I like this guy alot and I keep getting on/off signs from him. My friends and family are kinda frustrated bc he does so many obvious things but he won't actually come out and tell me that he likes me!! Every time we go out he steps in and pays for me...not to mention he gave me a guitar before he left for college. What are your thoughts on this exactly? I need help..
confused and in love on September 19, 2018:
So I am best friends with this guy I've known since 1st grade... and he wants me to go to a event that is important to him... does he like me??
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 12, 2018:
Sounds like he is on the fence...
Luca on September 05, 2018:
He texts me every day with a good morning msg, and we keep texting all through the day until I go to bed and his evening starts. As we are different countries. Been talking for many months now daily more or less.. We've never met in person only sent face pics and such, so just wish I knew what he meant really even if it's long distance I really like him alot.
Aaliyah on August 29, 2018:
So i text him first but we do that everyday. Its usually between the time 5:00 to 12:00 & sometimes even till one. But he responds like about 1 to 5 mins apart. But even 20min to an hour. He does make me laugh and sends me funny videos sometimes. He sends me
Sory on August 26, 2018:
He texts me almost every day, but most of his texts are about different topics tether then love
And he text me this I do not know what is mean?d;dn,jh
Mary on August 09, 2018:
We text about work all of the time, even though we no longer work in the same place. When we happened to see each other in a work function not too long after we moved departments, he wanted to make sure that I texted him updates about my (professional, I am assuming) life (that was the last thing he said when he walked away, like "I almost forgot, don't forget" body language). I often start the convo. When he knows that I have a bad day, he often reminds me of my talents, etc. When we first started texting, we texted once or twice a week; now, almost every single day and late at night after work hours. We have not talked about personal life all that much because I wanted to keep this trend going; we do have mutual former co-worker/friends that we posted updates about and I purposely frame texts into questions and he often replies yes (or something similar) to give me the go-ahead to explain something (very polite). He is very open to dropping everything since we no longer work together. He is starting to open up with his chance of advancement or a career move. I know that he has a GF (and he always is in a relationship) and is about 15 years apart in age from me, so I think he might be friendly. Signs of anything? Could he just look up to me? People who we used to work with would say to me that he won't let anyone badmouth me (but he could be that protective over his friends - which I know he does text, but not as often we do each other).
Madeline on August 08, 2018:
what does it mean when he ends his sentence with "xxx" ?
Mariah on August 07, 2018:
What does it mean when your crush flicks your back?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 26, 2018:
I think he likes you. This person seems positive, so I think you should spend time around them whether they want you as a friend or a girlfriend. At least, the way you've written about him, he comes off nice.
Sera on July 26, 2018:
I've been texting this guy for awhile and we recently started ft. After we ft he always says that he liked talking to me and hopes that we could do it tomorrow. When we ft we'll joke around, laugh and talk about serious stuff. The other day he mentioned that he wanted a gf and he said the qualifications for one and then he said like me. And he's always offering to help me and asks if i'm not busy so we can ft.He compliments me sometimes after i do and when i don't.He also asked me to go see a movie with him but he said just as friends. But idk if he likes me as more than a friend or just a friend.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 26, 2018:
The conversation may have ended suddenly in his view point. He might have thought the fun and flirting was continuing.
Cynthia Pope on July 23, 2018:
What does it mean when a guy responds with ‘oh ok’ when you say goodnight?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 19, 2018:
Sounds like he is friendly, not romantically interested at this point.
Sabrina on July 16, 2018:
I'm really into a guy when i was studying abroad. I tried any ways in order to get his information or facebook account. Since studying abroad, I've never talk to him. But now, I have his facebook account. I tried to text him first, he did reply fast all of my texts, but he always end up the conversation with "hahahah"and "Ahh ok". He also texted me back by " Hahah ok"almost all the time. What does that mean?? Is he really into me? Or he just wants to be polite by responding my message by short text??
Pocahontas on July 07, 2018:
A guy that I’ve noticed looking at me has said it was alright for me to get his number. So I started texting him, he says he’s not a phone person but sometimes doesn’t responds to my text. I’ve asked a few times if I was bothering him and he replies No, it’s ok. He also says that he’s not ready to hang out with someone yet. He’s recently divorced and so am I, but he often sends me pic of him and his kids. He also has opened up to me about some personal matters. He hasn’t made any flirty comments unlike myself. I’m so confused, is he interested or not?
Dinha on July 05, 2018:
I met this guy online. At the same time I don’t whoto do because i heard about online relationships. He texts me everyday, days and nightt. I’ve been ignoring him for weeks; and he still texts me and also send pictures of him while he’s at work. What does it really mean?
Jacie on July 03, 2018:
What does it mean if he tells you that he is talking to a girl but txts you everyday and flirts with you and obviously shows like he likes you ? What do you do ?
Kayla. on April 28, 2018:
My friend & i like the same boy . He acts like he likes both of us so i’m assuming he does. Yet me and my friend know how eachother of us feel towards him & she goes and hugs him and always looks back at me. We aren’t friends now over this but is there a way i can get that boy.
Alexa on April 01, 2018:
what does it mean when u give him suprise ballon and he opens it later and sends a snap (in sc) and it says:It’s the fucking cutest thing someone has ever done to me! Then he snaps: btw i kinda like u back. in the ballon was a message who says: I like u xxx. can someone tell me what does that really mean. Does he really likes me or he is just like oh she send me a ballon and i feel horible about that because i just kinda like her but not a lot?
Madelaine on March 04, 2018:
Hi! So he works in casino and met him there so every time I come there he always approaches me and have a little talk. One night he asked my email address. I thought it was weird instead of my cp no’s then he emailed me that same night and I emailed him back he stop. after like 3 days he emailed me again since then we exchanging emails everyday. He always say I look great seeing me or I look great. Pls help I don’t know what to do
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 02, 2018:
What kind of texts is he sending you? You may need to explain to him why you want him to stop.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 02, 2018:
Do you know what his reasons were for having a break? Ask him if he still wants to be on a break. And what will change if you are no longer on a break.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on March 02, 2018:
I say keep talking to him, invite him to different things, and try to get more a feel for what is happening. This person does sound positive.
questionablelove on February 20, 2018:
help me understand if he decided to take a break and he still flirt and says he miss my touch after about a month what this means im confused because he says he needs a break but then is all flirty and telin me i love you and stuff
Anonymous on February 14, 2018:
So he always calls me baby or other names like sweet, cute and adorable using exclamation marks. Whenever he feels I am upset he offers to help me, or he will let me text him at night till I sleep... we text everyday, but Idk if he is crushing or just being an overly nice friend.
Unknown on February 05, 2018:
So I met him where I work at, he’s a costumer who comes once a month (exaggeration) before we started talking, one day he gave me his number and I never texted him thinking he’s just a player but then he keeps showing up to my work place and started flirting, he finally got my number and immediately started calling me “baby” both on text and on person. He sends messages like “I miss you” and comes to my work place and says the same thing. He does take long to respond, but every morning I get a “good morning baby” messages and a little talk then he doesn’t respond until the afternoon or night time when I’m off but when I have work he texts me how work is and comes around and still texts me while he’s standing in the front. Does he likes me (he did asked me on a date but I’m not sure if he’s really interested on me) or am I just wasting my time?
lolllllllll on February 05, 2018:
a guy opens hangouts just for the sake of me ....he even said that i am his friend but he never talked to me .........does it mean he had a crush on me
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on February 02, 2018:
Sounds like a crush connection. Keep talking to them. Try inviting them out to something, whether coffee or a movie.
Anon on January 24, 2018:
I have had and denied having this crush on a guy since middle school. He and I became good friends when I reached out to him through social media. Whenever we talk, I usually start the convo. He responds to my replies as soon as I sent them. Recently I told him I miss him, not expecting anythin' in return. He said, "I miss you too."
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:
Sounds like this is too new to tell. He may not be really sure about you.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:
It sounds like right now he has some priorities that he wants to focus on.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:
It sounds like he is a friend. Is he attempting to pay for your drinks, movies, or dinner? This sounds like a nice guy to have as a friend. You may want to find a way to ask questions about his girlfriend, let him steer that conversation -- that will give you some clarity as to what is going on.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:
People have the right to answer and take to their text messages in any fashion that they want. Just because he is spending a lot of time on social media does not correlate to how much time and how quickly he is responding to you.
The key here is how consistent and frequently is he talking directly to you. If he is talking to you daily, this is a good sign.
People have lots of things they are doing, often cultivating a social profile is different than a text conversation.
Try getting to a point in your text conversation where the two of you can see each other in person.
14 on December 28, 2017:
So a guy started texting me through a male friend and he has asked me out but I said I am not sure and the guy gave me another guys snapchat and I started to like that guy we have the top bestfriend thing on snapchat and we only send pics all the time I am the only one to start conversation, idk if he’s shy, awkward or doesn’t like me
Anonymous 14 on December 28, 2017:
One day I texted the boy I like ,he responded that he was fixing his house and that he will be busy for three weeks .so finally when he was over fixing his house , I texted him and he responded that he was in a trip .what can this mean ?
Celia on December 27, 2017:
A guy from work
We work at different stores for the same company therefore never actually work together. We met at the work christmas party and really hit it off have loads in common, easy flowing conversation.
Since then we have texted everyday and met up from time to time for drinks, cinema, dinner, etc.
He has a girlfriend. He has never talked about her to me, but I know that he is in a relationship.
His messages to me are always consistent, funny, slightly flirty, he asks lots of questions, makes lots of compliments, and makes plans to see me often. I think he likes me, but obviously has a girlfriend so I'm not sure!
Megan on December 24, 2017:
I met this guy in college and I could tell he was really interested in me. So after the semester ended I sent him a message. I didn’t hear anything for over 2 days so I assumed he wasn’t interested. But then he responded and said sorry and that he just now seen the message. (I am not sure I believe this since he made a post on his account the day before). Anyway, that night we texted quite a bit and things were good. We were asking each other questions and the conversation was flowing. The next day he messaged me about 4 times throughout the day. The day after he only sent one message and the day after that he didn’t say anything at all. Yesterday he sent one message which leads me to today.
The thing is I don’t expect him to text me everyday or anything I understand we both have lives. I am just confused when I can see that he has been on social media but will take 12-24+ hours to respond. With that being said, his replies are always engaging, and he asks questions, uses emojis and exclamation marks.
Looking at the messages he seems interested, but looking at how long it takes I feel like he might just be trying to be polite. I feel like I am getting mixed signals and I don’t want to bother him if he isn’t interested. What do you think?
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 19, 2017:
Fishy, yes. I think you should keep in contact with him and keep it light and cool. Keep looking for a way to make your schedules match. Try a few more times to see if he'll commit to an in-person meet. Then let it fizzle out if he never tries or keeps getting flaky.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 19, 2017:
Exactly. Independence is attractive. Clingy comes off as not taking care of business.
Toni on December 13, 2017:
This is so true about the consistency. But I'm so confused.
A guy I been texting for a couple of months now. We met twice, had a great time. We spent a lot of texts finding out a lot of common interests about each other.
After the videos, pictures of things he would send of romantic songs, flirting and suggesting places to go. There would be times he was cool with me, calling me 'mate'. I thought it a bit strange
He lets me know of being very busy in the week and free on the weekends. I suggest a place to go, he is all for it but then goes silent about it and kind of disappears. Yet we still text and sends me things and wants my opinion. Is he genuinely busy or just being hot and cold?
I'm slightly afraid of being direct about this because I don't want to ruin the positive vibe.
Maria Cecilia from Philippines on December 11, 2017:
YOu are right the more independent a woman is the more she becomes attractive. Mature guys are attracted to that kind of woman than the clingy ones
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 08, 2017:
They exist somewhere... I do go with the philosophy of being content with your single self, and following your hobbies. Often a good guy comes up from hobbies.
Maria Cecilia from Philippines on November 27, 2017:
all the clues you said just made my heart flutter.... it made me remember those good guys from the Korean drama that I love to watch. Never been in a relationship for a long time and I hope those kind of guys really exist... hahaha no bitterness here...
C on November 25, 2017:
I have been talking to this guy for about two months now. We talk a lot but most of the time, I am the one who starts the conversation. I met him on tinder and we have never met face to face before. The last time I tried to hang out with him, he was not able to make it because he had to see his parents. When I text him sometimes, he does not reply immediately but apologizes for the late reply. When he is not busy with work or school, we can talk for hours. I really like him a lot but I don't know if he feels the same. The texts he sends sometimes makes me think that he does, other times it doesn't. I would like to know if he does.
m on November 20, 2017:
he's my childhood friend, we used to play together when i am at his house. and it's been 9-10 since we saw each other and chatting face to face. it's not normal to set with a man in our culture. from one year i saw his snapchat account on his twitter and i was confused if i should add him or not then i decided to add he and he knows me even if i don't take selfies and he said because he saw my father when i snapped him and he told me about our memories. he asked me if i will join our family gathering or not for couples of time. he saw me accidentally when i snapped and after a while a saw him in an event but i was acting that i didn't see him. after i left the event he said that he saw me and i told him as well. one day he told me why i am not visiting his family house and he asked me to do it and i asked why didn't he come to my house. he loves my mom a lot and he respects her and when i went to his house he wasn't their and when i left he said that he is sad because he didn't see my mom. he forgot my birthday but i didn't forget his birthday and i didn't say happy birthday for him but i tried to show it. it feels weird how i care about him. last weekend he me joke and he said that i am a kid. I am 19 and he is 23. we 're not calling each other, just texting.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on November 16, 2017:
What is happening to you that comes off needy?
Nadine on November 16, 2017:
There are some signs here that happens between us I'm just really awkward and I care alot about him but I'm not able to prove it to him without making myself seem too needy.. Know what I mean ? :/
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 18, 2017:
What is the distance here? I get the impression that there is a spark here considering the amount of texting and consistency.
Unknown girl on October 14, 2017:
I have been texting with this guy for few weeks now and he has feeling over me and I also have the same. We both like each other but he wants to be in relationship with me. Problem is, he lives in another country and he is 2 years younger than me. Before he lied about where he was actually from which made me to trust him less. He text me everyday whenever he gets time and I do the same. I told him that I do like him but love and like has difference and that we sud give time to each other before jumping into this virtual relationship. We both share pics of ourselves and our surroundings, we sometimes do video calls on messenger.
When I told asked him to let’s slow down a bit, he wants to end this relationship. I really like him but m having trust issues over him. Pls suggest me wat does this whole thing mean? he says, he will always Love me and now he breaks up with me.
Unknown on October 11, 2017:
I have been talking to this guy for about a week now and he does some of the things you mentioned but not all of them. He apologizes whenever he replies late. We mostly talk about random things. Does that mean he likes me?
Alex00 on October 07, 2017:
This guy and I met on an app, talked consistently for a few days before he smoothly gave me his number and now we text and it is still consistent and usually initiated anytime before 4 pm. He uses ! marks frequently, emojis and text faces somewhat frequently, cares about how I am/feel and says that he is glad I haven't gotten sick of him yet haha
Though we live a decent ways away from each other, he says we would get along and we talk about multiple things ranging from silly to serious and thought provoking yet still easy to text for hours on end. He calls me a friend and while I'm more than happy with remaining friends, I am simply curious on whether or not he is interested in me so I can let him know somehow about how I feel about just remaining friends although maybe those feelings might change someday. What are your thoughts on this?
Devin92 on October 06, 2017:
This guy acted like he felt neutral about me when hes been texting me over a few years that I worked with in the same office. At times he seemed to like me like when he would open up. He would joke with me and seemed like he cared. We played online games, and really bonded but he always played it cool so I never was sure if he liked me back. when it came time to be honest in person one lunch alone, he actually said "IF things really dont work out with your boyfriend, we can figure out something. But we have to play it by year. I want to take it slow."
I know now your all booing probably lol but when you catch feelings you tell your guy- get to know the other guy. Honestly life is too short. if your bf is too stubborn to leave against your will thats his problem.
unsure on October 01, 2017:
Even after reading this list I'm really unsure if he likes me or we are just friends. I don't think he's interested in me like that but the texting evidence leads to that conclusion. We text everyday, never about the anything particularly important, he usually texts first, uses lots of emojis, lots of teasing and banter + inside jokes. I'm so confused and I'm not of sure if I'm into him like that...
Random person on September 27, 2017:
His friends says that he likes me a lot and on summer holidays we were in touch and he did exactly what you said. I hope he doesn't share with me because I don't know how I would react to it since I almost exploded when my friend got asked on a date. I have once had a crush on him but I got over him but I still blush when i say his name. I think I also have ADHD because I find it I think my mum said that at the doctors and my friend says that I have it. I looked on a site and it says people with ADHD find it hard to get a relationship so I will just have to see what happens.
Thanks for letting me share,
A random person I this 7 billion people on earth
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 26, 2017:
Okay, you guys have only been talking for a very short while, and you added a ton of drama in that short span of time. I think your first priority is to chill out or you are going to push this guy away before you even realize what kind of person he is. Going on about a broken heart after 2-3 weeks of dating is really intense. Be chill, cool, and confident -- stop rushing things.
He wants to keep things going, that's why he texted you. Yes, he likes you. But don't make a big deal about things. You are in the early stages where one of the big priorities is having fun. If it doesn't seem to be fun, he'll probably move on.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 22, 2017:
Glad to hear that!
unknown on September 21, 2017:
thanks you have helped a lot now i know where me and him stand so thanks again!!!!!
Jamie Herrera on September 04, 2017:
My ex likes me 0//0 this is a lot of help.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on July 15, 2017:
Oh, glad to have helped. :)
@ntfarm145 on July 14, 2017:
This was really helpful to me. With me being 100% sure that my crush likes me for me and not my body. So thank u.
Uknown on July 03, 2017:
great now I know where I stand :( thanks for the advise this really did help :)
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on June 18, 2017:
Laquiesha banks on June 17, 2017:
Now I now he likes me thank you
Rose on June 04, 2017:
I cannot believe after reading this news!.Anyway there is a guy who chats with me everyday n i am 16
Joisam on June 02, 2017:
Hello! I've been texting this guy for 2 weeks. Sometimes I was the one who iniates in asking questions about life, work etc... Sometimes he's response are long, sometimes short. But he immediately responds to my questions if he has time everyday. He told me that his sorry if he's response to my questions are short coz his lazy to text long messages and he hopes that I understand. What does this means? Does he see me only as a friend or his not interested at all?
Another thing is because of language barrier. He lives in another continent. But he tries to respond to my questions in english.
Anna Ralph on May 31, 2017:
i love you Andrew
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 20, 2017:
A group you call brothers and sisters? This sounds... kind of weird, to be honest. Why use those words? Since you are a married woman, you may want to address your marriage first before considering another option. He might be seeing you as more of a friend, considering he tells you about his rejection... and that he calls you a sister. That's not really a romantic word.
bunny on May 13, 2017:
I'm a married woman. I know this guy who's 9 years my jnr and we hang out with this group whom we call brothers and sisters.
Somehow we hit off very well and he texts me daily throughout the day with breaks on bet but for sure first thing in the morning before he goes to work and always after work n we can text all night.
He shows a lot of concern for me and will always want to sit beside me when we hang out with the group.
But he told me about a lady he liked and also that he got rejected.
We go out occasionally alone. Everytime we get much closer and more personal he'll address as 'sister'
What do you think