Signs He Doesn't Like You Through Texting


What His Texts Really Mean

Sometimes it is hard to tell whether someone likes you or not. This post is intended to help you realize when a guy isn't interested in you, based on how he texts. Of course, all rules have exceptions, and some people are just bad at texting. Be careful not to jump to conclusions too quickly or overanalyze things.

Generally, men are not into double meanings and tend to communicate in a straightforward way. Other ways of communicating, especially face-to-face, will give you a stronger grasp on the situation, so remember to also look for other indications outside of texting such as body language. However, if texts are all you have to go on, don’t worry: even text messages contain lots of clues.

The following is a list of signs you can use to determine if he leans more toward liking you...or not being interested at all. I’ve divided them into three categories:

  1. Totally Not Interested
  2. Friend Zone
  3. Booty Call

My favorite texts to receive from guys are:

  • Asking me to hang out with him
  • Pictures of him
  • When he compliments me
  • When he tries to make me laugh
  • When he tries to cheer me up on a sad day
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Totally Not Interested

If these signs describe your communication with a guy you like, you’d be better off moving on and finding someone else who better appreciates your interest. These signs indicate a guy who either is completely uninterested in you in any way, or who is just a complete asshole who doesn’t care if he acts inconsiderate. Either way, you deserve better.

  1. He never responds to anything you ever send him.
  2. There is absolutely no interaction. Zero interaction means zero things are happening. There's no momentum. That doesn't mean you should send hateful or aggressive messages, because negativity is worse than zero.
  3. He regularly takes 24 hours (or longer) to reply. It's okay to wait a couple of hours or so because we all have busy days or, if it was late and he went to bed, the next morning. But if there's no response, it might not mean he hates you, but you might not be a priority of any kind.
  4. He only texts you about business matters or school matters.
  5. His texts are colorless. There's no joking, no flirting, nothing. They sound boring and typical.
  6. He never texts you anything unnecessary or random. If his text has a reasonable context, then it isn't necessarily an excuse to get in touch.
  7. He'll avoid even the most minute personal details about himself. He won't tell you about his job, though most guys love to talk about their job.
  8. He texts you only for homework answers.
  9. None of his texts inquire into your well-being. There will be no message asking how are you, if you had a good morning, or if you did well on a test.
  10. He never invites you to anything through texting. Surely, he'll invite you to something whether a concert, poker, a walk--seriously.
  11. When he cancels, he doesn't bother to give you a reason.
  12. He doesn't care that you are sick.
  13. He doesn't text more than once every three months. Generally, I would say more than once a month, but there are some exceptions. Such as, if he suddenly starts talking to you out of nowhere and you never see him, he probably has an interest in you. He may be so far removed from your daily life that texting too often may come off too random
  14. He consistently only sends one word responses when context would require a longer response. This may mean he reads your messages, but doesn't care to write as much. You may want to try calling him or another mode of communication in case this is just a texting problem.
  15. There is no emotion to the texts. No smileys. No emoticons. No exclamation marks. Nothing. He never congratulates you on anything.
  16. He doesn't seem to know who you are. He may ask, "Who is this?"
  17. He asks you to stop texting him or to leave him alone; he is too busy. If he asks you to stop texting, it means you are texting too much and he can't handle it and it may be getting in the way of things he wants to do for himself whether job related or social networking.
  18. Everything he sends to you is mean, hurtful, and rude. He clearly wants to get rid of you.
  19. He consistently uses the wrong name for you.
  20. If he refers to you as a "bitch," he most likely isn't interested in you in a good way...or at all.


Friend Zone

Sometimes a guy really likes you as a friend, but is uncomfortable with the idea of being more. There are lots of possible reasons for this. Maybe he likes someone else, he’s gay, or he just doesn’t see you that way. If this is the case, my advice is, again, to try to find somebody else. You could even enlist his help.

After all, since he likes you as a friend he’d probably love to set you up with one of his guy friends. Anyway, the following are signs that he respects and admires you as a friend, but isn’t looking for anything more.

  1. His texts are more like what he would send to his guy friends, like scratching his balls, farting, and talking about beer. No guy would resort to this unless he is inept or does not care to impress you at all.
  2. He refers to you more frequently as "buddy" or "bro." The qualifiers he uses to define you should be self-explanatory. Guys don't generally use the word "buddy" if they see you as romantic potential, unless this guy is losing it and really likes you and has no idea what to say anymore.
  3. If you receive a text from one of his friends and that friend says that your interest gave him that phone number... your interest probably doesn't like you, but his friend does.
  4. If he cancels on you, don't immediately jump to conclusions. See if he would like to visit with you some other time and try to reschedule. Try to see what are the reasons why he canceled. Guys, unfortunately, cancel a lot but that doesn't mean they are not interested in you. There could be a number of reasons they have to cancel, so don't sweat it too much.
  5. He asks for advice on another woman. This screams he sees you primarily as a friend.
  6. He tells you that his friends are free to hang out with you instead. This means that he may enjoy your company, but if he is passing you off to his friends this may mean the guy is more interested in seeing somebody else and he doesn't want to give the wrong impression. He likes you enough that he'd want you to mix in with his group of friends, which is a compliment. And you may find someone who is more in synch with you from the friend group.
  7. You see him write lengthy text messages but you never receive any. Clearly, he has the capacity to do so, and can be heartfelt, but just isn't to you.
  8. If he seems to be mainly interested in men, he might be your gay best friend. But remember, bisexuality exists! Don’t make assumptions.
  9. When you make a flirty pass, he doesn't respond by being flirty or enthusiastic, but keeps it strictly friendly. Worse, he says you are being weird. That may mean he doesn't get it or like what you are saying. He isn't connecting.
  10. He uses the word "platonic" in reference to you.
  11. Guys don't usually pour out all their feelings in text form. If he does, he may have some interest in you beyond friendship.


Booty Call

If you really like a guy and he only sees you as a booty call, it’s better to know sooner rather than later so you don’t get too attached. If you want an emotional, committed relationship but he only wants sex, you should probably keep your distance to protect your feelings. The following are signs that he is only interested in a casual or physical relationship.

  1. He only texts you between the hours of 12:00am-5:00am.
  2. He has a girlfriend, is in a relationship of some kind, or is married. You do not want someone who is willing to flirt around while they are in a relationship; this has bad indications that he would do the same to you if in a relationship, so just look right past him. There's other great guys out there, just wait.
  3. He only texts you pictures of his body, especially his chest or “dick pics.”
  4. If you see an "I love you" text to someone else on his phone, beware that he may be cheating or is about to cheat.
  5. He accidentally texts you information that was meant for another woman.
  6. You out-text him by a large percent, such as 80%. When texting, the communication should appear fairly even from text to text. At least, there shouldn't be a noticeable one-sided texter. You may occasionally double text, especially if he does this himself, and generally if the messages are related. Do not over-text. It's overwhelming and comes off as needy.
  7. He never apologizes if he is late to respond. He never apologizes, period. If he has never used the phrase "I'm sorry" when doing something hurtful, it's because he isn't emotionally involved enough to care and he has too big of an ego.
  8. If he sends you texts being upset about the cleanliness of his home, he probably is just annoyed with how you left his house (unless he’s your roommate of course.)
  9. If he only sends you mass texts it probably means he wants to socialize and party. And you are invited!
  10. Avoid putting too much expectation on the whole situation because that may intimidate the guy away from you.
  11. If he suddenly stops texting you, be cautious. He may be busy, but he may have also found interest in someone else.
  12. If he regularly cleans out his text messages from you, that may mean he has no attachment.
  13. If he demands certain services of you such as backrubs, sandwiches, and other odd things this may mean he likes you or sees you as his maid. You can playfully joke back with him or tell him off; how he responds here is key.
  14. If he says you are similar to one of his exes, be wary. This may mean he automatically doesn't like you. It can also mean that you are his type...or that you are close enough to his ex that it is like dating her anyway.

Does he like me?

  • Definitely!
  • No.
  • He just likes me as a friend.
  • He just wants a booty call.
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Kierstin 17 months ago

this has cleared it up. He likes me, at least somewhat.

CC 15 months ago

I would like to ask..I met the guy online and we went out movie and dinner once 2 weeks ago. He sent me 'thanks for a nice evening' bla bla bla, at that time, I thought, he was being polite.

Then, he keeps text me every day but a bit more slow response.

I thought he was not interested in me, as he didnt ask me out again, then I texted him to say, if we couldnt be more than fds, Im ok to be friends. Then he replied 'thanks for my message and no problem being friends at the moment, as many things happened at the sametime (he is divorcing now), then all in sudden, his messages come more often again...and he keeps sending me everyday, morning, daytime and good nite(with my name).

Im really confused now that whether...he wants to keep me around as he may have other 'better' option or really is interested in he never asks me out again...since the 1st date.(or meeting)

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SerenityHalo 15 months ago from Chicago Author


If he's going through a divorce, it can be all over the place. I don't recommend putting too much faith into him at this point. He probably likes you, but his life is a mess right now so there's no telling where you'll fall into place.

CC 14 months ago

really thanks your advice.

Just..we met two more times for dinner in 4 weeks, but really like friends, he just kissed my cheek goodbye, no holding hands.

Then, he keeps texting me till now..nearly 2 months...

Is it possible that he just sees me as a friend or just keep me around?

Thanks for advice again.

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SerenityHalo 14 months ago from Chicago Author


Guys who are just friends don't usually kiss on the cheek, unless they're European or gay. I have no idea why hand holding is related to that at all. But guys going through divorce are usually not ones you want to get worked up over. They're transitioning and kind of all over the place. Plus, just because they're saying they're going through divorce or will doesn't mean that will actually happen. Keep your eyes open and don't limit yourself to this one.

CC 14 months ago

Thanks for your advice again. The reason why I mentioned hand holding was..

I saw many informaton from different websites, said..3 date rule, hand holding, kiss or go further..Im not sure, it's true or not. As we just have good bye kiss, that's why I mentioned it.

But really thanks for your advice, I shall take it seriously and try to open my eyes for others.

wte 13 months ago

Hi, so I have this classmate ... I really like him and I know he likes me as well. Last week we went to a party together, and I confessed to him; we kissed the entire evening, and he seemed pretty interested in me, although, I suggested him only a friends with benefits relationship. The following days he wrote to me as well, and we were planning some secret dates. However, at school we did not talk at all, but we skipped some classes together, and he seemed to have the same attitude towards me, a mix between relaxation and interest. Right after our last date I sent him a funny message on FB, but he didn't reply, so I stopped because I am afraid he lost his interest in our secret relationship, and I don't want to look like a freak (it felt like I was the only one starting a conversation - lately). I act normal around him, and sometimes he looks deeply and long into my eyes. It`s been 4 days since we last spoke and I believe he is somehow playing with me - this is fading away. What do you think?

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SerenityHalo 13 months ago from Chicago Author

@wte 4 days isn't something to panic over. If you're wanting a "friends with benefits relationship" it is likely to fizzle out. That kind of relation doesn't come with a sharp amount of commitment. It gives him the freedom to treat you with mixed signals and it be okay because it's under the guise of "friendship" and not a serious thing. People often don't reply to Facebook messages, emails, and texts. People are busy; it's been enough time that you can send something short. If you send a couple of messages and there's no reply, don't over think it. You've done your job to express your interest, and that's the real goal there.

Gina 12 months ago

This guy and i just started texting.He always responds to my messages.But sometimes itll be two days..or two hours.i told him "woah two days thats different."

He said why are you worried about the days lol,ive been busy with work.

How are you?

Its normal to react that way.Its two days!But hes always responding with questions to get to know me more,very supportive attitude.

I went to an audition told him i froze and forgot my lines.he said no you were nervous you knew your lines.(sweet right?)

Im just confused!Help

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SerenityHalo 12 months ago from Chicago Author


Even though a lot of dating guides say that there's about a 24 hour window for messages, it's okay if people go outside that. If there's back and forth messaging that's a good sign, whether as friends or more. He might not necessarily know what he wants yet, which may cause for a little delay. Don't get upset with him over this because that would confuse him and make him feel like he is being put on the spot. What happens in person is always more important than messages. Don't let your life be dictated by messaging. Keep your messages positive and upbeat. Keep up the confidence -- you're a knock out and everything is going to work out for you. Good luck and the very best to you.

nadia 12 months ago

Hi i just started talking to this guy. We met online but didn't meet yet. We haven't spoken for more than a day. He replies late but wants to meet me this week. I told him I would like to chat for a little to get to know him before we meet and he said he has no problem with that and that I'm wonderful. And then when we continue the chatting he just reads the msg and doesn't reply. He also moved to durban for his job which cost him his girlfriend and he said it's been tough but they outgrew each other. I'm really confused as I am always meeting guys like this. Need some good advice when it comes to situations like this

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SerenityHalo 12 months ago from Chicago Author


Hi, Nadia. Did he have a girlfriend while he was talking to you? If so -- that is a definite red flag. Are you wanting him as a friend or more than a friend? It sounds like he may be busy if he just moved for a job. It can take awhile to transition into a new setting and work environment. Sometimes people read messages without answering them. In fact, this is grossly common. Usually, guys will pick up the ball if they want to spend time with you whether as a friend or more. It won't always feel like 100% of the initiating process is in your hands. I'd say don't focus on this one guy too much. He may be honestly busy. If you want to hangout with him, try being straight forward about it -- if you want to chat, be straight forward about it. Not pushy or mean, but just say what you'd like. That might be helpful. We as women tend to over think these things when guys might not be on the same page at all.

anony- 12 months ago

I might what seemed like a cool guy on tinder recently, and since we've spoken the conversations have always been great, for example we would spend over 8 hrs straight on the phone talking. He not too long ago begun calling me bae and boo (jokingly of course). Soon after we met in person at my dorm because he needed a sleeping stop, and I wasn't very much worried being that I was a virgin and he seemed nice. Once he came over we cuddled because I've never done that before but things got heated... things transpired but i still remained a virgin. Afterwards we slept, he left and we remained communicating since. Obviously after that day he would be my bf so he came a week later for an hour because he was busy, similar actions transpired and he left again. later that week I guess he got busy, and I begun to have people in my ear telling me to hold off on communicating to see if he reaches out first, turns out that he didn't. Two days after I tried calling and got no response, immediately silently panicking. Over a span of 24 hrs I called 5 times and texted once. By the fifth call he texted saying he was busy and later explained to me that he thinks that we rushed into this and that he initially didn't want a relationship. I later agreed and asked what it was he wanted to do and hadn't received a reply in reference to that particular question. A few days later I texted hey, and replied within an hour and we've been talking for a day or two (hours apart) type of replies. I like him and I agree with him but I'm not sure what I should do or where i should stand.

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SerenityHalo 12 months ago from Chicago Author


The problem with a lot of online dating is there a lot of people who are using it to hookup and simply that. It's really difficult to weed through it and find someone who actually wants a solid relationship, if that's what you are wanting. Generally, if a guy says he isn't looking for a relationship, he means it. You can keep chatting with him, but you might not want to latch onto him too much more and instead keep your options open. What do you believe is being a virgin? If that means something to you, consider what standards you want to have for yourself. Do you need to be in a committed relationship before you have sex? Or do you need something even more committed (like being engaged or married)? You take on new responsibilities when you become sexually active, such as getting birth control, i.e. Healthy relationships often start with exploring your emotions, thoughts, etc. If you've just started college, you may only know so much about yourself. There's plenty, plenty of people you can potentially date, so you don't need to rush into anything. You get to decide your own timing; no one else does. This guy here sounds like he only wants one thing: your body. If he keeps talking to you and you don't give him what you've got, he might be genuine. There's no definite way to define a relationship until both people agree that they are in a relationship verbally. Never assume a kiss or more means you are in a relationship.

Lux 10 months ago

Hi, i've known a guy online for 7 months. I never meet him outside. I usually text him first, i text him many times a day. But him, he just reply in a short answer and sometimes not reply . When i ask him if he wants to meet me, he said he really wants, but in fact he can't. He always busy, he works and read the books after working, and he write the acticles too. I used to ask him if he like me or not, he told me he likes me but i don't understand why he text back in a short answer or not reply me when i text him.

As i mentioned above, does he actually like me or just cheat me? thanks :)

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SerenityHalo 10 months ago from Chicago Author


Not sure from this information if any cheating is involved. I think what's most important is for you to ask yourself what are your needs. If he isn't communicating the way you desire, that could be a problem. He may very well like you and be busy. But if a guy really, really wants a woman -- being busy isn't an issue. I think he's lukewarm with you and is focusing more on his ambitions. I wouldn't focus on this guy too much at this point, but try talking with other guys who might get your needs better.

-best of luck!

nikki 9 months ago

I've known this guy for close to 2 years now, and we've recently cushy up with each other through text. I'm very confused because there are days where he will initiate a conversation (rarely) and other times where we don't talk for a week. I want to text him first of course but I want to see if he will come back to me. Also, he can be very rude sometimes, and I can't tell if he's joking because he always continues the conversation, he doesn't just cut me off.

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SerenityHalo 9 months ago from Chicago Author


Sounds shaky. If he sounds rude to you, why are you continuing the conversation? Not talking for a week is okay sometimes -- but there should be somedays where it is noticeable that you are talking a lot. A guy who likes you will compliment you, try to hang out with you, and do what he can to spend time with you because he likes the connection. If the conversations are not leaning toward what you can do in person, it may just be meaningless banter... and if he is being rude, that sounds more buddy like, unless he is seriously bad at reading you and flirting.

Sarah 8 months ago

I met this guy online, he has his kids full time and I hear from him daily but short sweet txts... we've gone out 2 times to dinner and he's joined me at a friend's party fit in well with them... but he seems to be very quiet with me... thus far I've seen him every 4-5 days and today would be the next 5 day rule... but even though he mentioned usually after the 3rd date he introduces his children... he wants me to come over after they are in bed... ok we've hung out 4 different times and I'm wondering if I gave in to quickly to him sexually... when he said come over after they go to bed because his sister isn't feeling well and can't watch kids tonight... I asked what are we doing here... he replied how about I call u tonight, we both have a really long weekend coming with our kids... I'm heading out of town, and he has to work... just wondering if he's really into meach or should I tell him I want to date other guys, because he obviously doesn't want to make time for me... today he had off, knows I can take a lunch from work and never bothered to tell me he had it off... when I inquired he commented he just bought lunch for his sister because she does so much for him with watching kids etc... I said that was nice and to have a great day... now not a word?? Uggg so confused

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SerenityHalo 8 months ago from Chicago Author


How long have you known this guy? Once a week seeing someone isn't bad. Don't know if you should drop the guy. Be honest about what you want, and relax. If you want to date other guys -- do. Doesn't sound like commitment is on the table yet. Talk to him openly.


Sarah 8 months ago

Well I had asked last week and he had said he isn't talking to others... just not used to guys like this lol... they usually won't leave me alone and smother me to death lol... just know I won't see him till next weekend now because I get my kids back for my week tomorrow... guess once every 2 weeks isn't bad either lol... I've been chatting with him a couple months started dating about a month ago

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SerenityHalo 8 months ago from Chicago Author


Sounds alright. Couldn't hurt to tell him you want to see him more.

Sarah 8 months ago

So I talked to him last night... I was right .. he said he's attracted to me sexully his words because I'm gorgeous and hot... but something is missing... I told him well I guess I you're not willing to make time to get to know me, I shouldn't waste my time because I want more than that in a relationship... so done dating him

Sarah 8 months ago

Well I was right... I talked to him last night... I asked him if he's even really into me... his words I'm sexually attracted to you because you're hot and gorgeous... but yes something is missing.... my reply was well if you'd actually take the time to spend with me and get to know me instead of avoiding doing things together... maybe you would... but since u don't want to take that time, there is no sense in me wasting my time... sucks because I really liked him... but story of my life guys who are into me I'm not and guys I'm into are not into me

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SerenityHalo 8 months ago from Chicago Author


Good for you for calling it off. Finding someone is not an easy thing to do. But if you know when to call it quits, you'll be saving yourself some time.

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SerenityHalo 7 months ago from Chicago Author


This guy you described is no good. They're playing you to get benefits. It's not going to turn into a real thing. Don't do things you're not interested in doing. Cut him off.

lyca 7 months ago

There is a guy whom i know before but know i know his name.i chat him hi and he replied hello.after 5 hours ago he say hi to me and i reply a hello and he seen it but doesnt reply.i say to him"you say hi yo me but when i replied you do not answer"he told me that he will not do that again and i ask him if his message is for me or he is just wrong send .then he told me the message is for me but i cant see any message from him that he is interested to me.does he like me or he is just making fun of me.

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SerenityHalo 7 months ago from Chicago Author


This is literally nothing. You have nothing. I'm sorry.

@angela 5 months ago

I had a bf and we've been going back and forth between in a realtionship and fwb, and it's super confusing now but from when I look at him and hang out with him it seems that he really loves me , but recently his texting style has been short and his responses are like 5hrs to respond and things feel weird and everything is confusing to me at this point, any advise ? Because I don't know what to do anymore

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SerenityHalo 5 months ago from Chicago Author


Relationships often have less texting frequency after awhile. If it's back and forth, you may want to ask yourself why that is happening. Do you want a solid relationship or do you just want to be friends? In person communication is more important than texting. You probably need to talk to him to establish what are your relationship goals. Do you both want to be in a relationship, do you want to just have fun??? This is more important to look into than what is happening with texting.

just wondering 3 months ago

I met a guy the last two weeks of school (I'm from out of state). I've tried to keep the conversation going over text this summer with modest success -

just wondering 3 months ago

Sorry! That posted before I was done. I've tried to keep the conversation going over text, with modest success. I saw him a few weeks ago; he drove a few hours to meet me when I was passing through the area. I know we'd be hanging out one on one if we were in the same area. When he texts me we have good conversations, but not too deep. I feel like he isn't big on texting (he has a flip phone), but I kinda feel like if he liked me, he'd text me more. Is there any hope?!

Robbie 3 months ago

I met this guy on line and gave him my number he text me two days after that. Things were going pretty good until Sunday night. I was at a friends house fell asleep friend ending up texting him and couple more people from my phone. He stop replying to my text so I told him I wouldn't text or call him no more because I don't have time for games. He replies back okay,because dude didn't know him let alone text him that was childish. Then I said wasn't going to call and text but i send a million messages and continuously do. That throws red flags to him. Then yesterday he replied I was still talking about it and he wanted to know what my problem was. So I am confused I am wondering if he is still interested or should I just move on. And yes we had made plans to see each other way before all that happened. But I didn't hear from him that night at all. The next morning he claimed he couldn't get a good reception and his head was hurting. Plus he had to be at work super early the following morning. I am really confused on how he feels since all that happened

Kris 3 months ago

I've been texting this guy for like two weeks. He seems to really like me; we text all day, he tells me personal things about himself, he's very flirty & sweet. but when he FINALLY asked me out i of course said yes. he seemed really excited about it but after we discussed the details and got it all planned he stopped texting me its only been two days and the date is this friday. but should i be worried that he's seems to have lost interest in me now that he's kinda got me??

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SerenityHalo 3 months ago from Chicago Author

@just wondering

It's possible he likes you; he might try to express that more in the future. Some people definitely are not big texters.

Kersty 2 months ago

I met this guy two years ago we were housemates and we have been friends since. I always liked him more than a friend but never told him. I have been living in my own place in a different town to him for a year we have stayed in contact with text every so often and he tells me that he likes me and I have now told him that I like him too our conversations continue to be every so often which i am ok with but I don't know if he is really in to me as much as he has told me and im worried because I am falling in love with him i am trying not to but its not easy as i haven't felt this way about anyone the way that I feel for him but how do I know if he really means how he feels plz help

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SerenityHalo 2 months ago from Chicago Author


You have to trust someone if they tell you they like you. People don't usually throw that around unless they are jerks, and I would imagine you know him well enough to know that. It's okay if you like him more than he does you, especially at the start. Just help things develop and grow, rather than focusing on who likes who more. If he is willing to talk and see where things go, you are in good shape.

LINA 2 months ago

okay so me and this boy are classmates and I have liked him since first grade

so we are now in sixth and I like him so I texted him. at first he would reply then he stopped. he would just read them. now I have realized that I text him too much so I have stopped. now I text him only one hi. and now he is always replying and joking. every hour he texts wanna chat.

does this mean he has developed a crush on me or just wants to get to know me and be one of my good friends?

looking forward to your reply.

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SerenityHalo 8 weeks ago from Chicago Author


This is a really early stage and very puppy love. Keep the conversation friendly, engaging, and don't come on too strong. You're in the sixth grade. Enjoy your time in school, and don't let any boy prevent you from doing well in school, no matter how cute he is. Do well in school, join clubs, and know that when you graduate high school you've set yourself up in a way that you have a lot of opportunities. This might be crazy, but don't rush into dating. Take your time. Love yourself. Dating starts to click more in your 20s. Make this a lovely relationship that you can depend upon in your life. Start making a good social network now. Be sweet, be kind, and remember that it's all going to go by fast -- so love and be kind to people around you. You'll make a difference by the conversations you have, and the way you treat people. Wisdom is a symptom of kindness. If I could tell my 12 year old self what to do, it would be have faith, encourage those who are sad, and if you're struggling in a class, get help. You can do math with the right teachers and tutors. The sky is the limit, love. You are important, even if you don't see that everyday.

Nathalia 7 weeks ago

So, I met a guy online (the typical) and it's been 2 months since we started texting and all.

But the thing is, since last week's Sunday when he asked me to date him again and I sent him my bra pic (we had dated before but I had told him it was better just be friends), he started texting less and less with me (but we still talk everyday) and yesterday I asked him why is he "so busy" as he says - and he said it's "nothing important" but he won't answer the question so better just drop it, and I didn't like that.

I know he's very private and all but if he really "loves" me like he says he does and that cares about me, he'd tell me no matter what, right?? He knows he can tell me anything but looks like he doesn't trust me or something and I wish it was different.

I don't know what to do anymore, what should I do??

Please, help me!

......... 7 weeks ago

There is this guy that i really like but i don't know if he likes me back.

We have been texting through instagram and at first he had made it clear telling my friend he wasnt into me.But through out the summer we texted like 8 times a month and a couple days ago i told him that i feel bad because i always started the text and i told him it was my fault but he assured me saying it wasnt and how we all deserve second chances but i then said i cant keep chasing after him the next they i was honest and told him i was going through stuff and it wasnt that i was mad at him that i sent those text and i asked if we could start over he said sure.but this is all over text and i want to get to know him and talk to him in reality but we have no classes toghter only by our locker but we dont talk we just gaze at each other. what do i do i really want to progress a relationship with this boy. and do u think he has feelings for me becuse he aways text in a caring manner?

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SerenityHalo 5 weeks ago from Chicago Author

I.... would.... say.... this is probably a mess. This sounds like a high school or junior high relationship, which I think is too young for this stuff anyway, as I'm an old hag. I think you should concentrate on school and your own interests, and if this boy becomes available and interested in you, he won't lose you. But really -- you have a lot of life ahead of you. And I know that's not the most wonderful thing to hear right now. But he's probably too young to make sense with and needs to figure out himself. Dating makes a lot more sense as you get older.

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SerenityHalo 5 weeks ago from Chicago Author

You should drop the texting. You're putting too much emphasis on texting, and if he isn't keeping up it'll just get weirder and more messed up. You need in person contact, FaceTime, something else. It's difficult to evaluate guys by their texting methods, but some are just not into it. You can't force him to like you. Just show him positivity.

Asiangirl 3 weeks ago

so im an asian and I met an american guy online. We chat but not that much as thw first time was we are about to get some sleep. The next day we talk about why we hooked up with online dating and it seems that he wants to settle down. We are both 29, and I really like him but im kinda afraid because im an asian and he's not, not sure if american guy has a problem with that, and for the long distance that we have. When I talked to him using the online dating site he said that "No more online dating talk pls, you're better than that" he just said that we used facebook messenger instead. Im just wondering how will I know if he's into me? He's busy right now from work, I totally undertand and I don't bombard him with messages. I just simply text "Hope you have a great day today. Goodnight" He always reply but also says he have to go do some work again. So basically we havent talked that much and not that intimate so I dont know where I stand.

Sorchia 3 weeks ago

He is very confusing, I think he just wants to play around behind hos wifes back because he is bored with her. But Im not that girl.. why even send me a puc of his dick ? He wants me to send him naked pics says its my turn ! Whatttt???

But after I said what I said above about how I feel he never responded?? Do you think he will respond.

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SerenityHalo 3 weeks ago from Chicago Author


This guy sounds terrible. I think you shouldn't care whether he responds to you or not.

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SerenityHalo 3 weeks ago from Chicago Author


This sounds like it could be sketchy. I don't think your being Asian matters in this. I think this guy might not be fully interested.

@DiscreteGal 2 weeks ago

I was wondering if you could help.

I really like this guy but am unsure if he likes me back. We've been talking for a year now and he rarely texts first. I've always been the one to initiate the conversations but when we get a convo going he seems interested.

Just the other day I texted him, I care about him more than he thinks and I'll always be there for him. He responded with, "I'll always be there for you too as long as you want me there."

Is this implying that he wouldn't care if I decided to stop texting him and walk out of his life or am I over analyzing the situation?

Fabgirl 2 weeks ago

Hi I was wondering if you could

Help. I recently met a guy on tinder about two months ago. Things have been going well and we have been texting in paragraphs over these two months with flirting and emoticons. All of sudden last week he hasn't replied to my last text message. Which is unusual for him because he replies to my text within 3 days because he works long hours 4am to 10pm so I never worry due to the amount of thought that goes into each text. Since last week I have checked in four times. I have yet to hear back and I am starting to think I never will. Can you help me out? Am I overreacting? And did I mess things up by checking in?

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SerenityHalo 2 weeks ago from Chicago Author

If you have set the stage that you'll be the on initiating texts.... that's most likely how things will stand.

If you are wanting him to initiate more, let him know you like guys who initiate, and you also on a separate note (in a different discussion) like to receive texts from him. It makes you feel good. It makes you feel like he is thinking about you throughout his day.

The text he sent you -- there is nothing wrong with it. He likes you, he wants to confirm it. He is saying that as long as you have a spot there for him, he'll be there, but he isn't being clingy either -- if you told him you no longer wanted him, he would respect that. This is all good. Don't look for negativity here. It's all positive.

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SerenityHalo 2 weeks ago from Chicago Author

You didn't mess things up by checking in. I don't think this is one you, though I don't have your text messages to read. What did your first text message say that received no response? I hope he communicates with you. Do you guys only talk through text? Have you guys ever met in person? If you don't get a response after awhile he could be ghosting you.

Fabgirl 2 weeks ago

His last message to me was asking me what my weekend plans were and talking about me settling into my apartment. I simply responded to him telling him what I had planned and an update on my move. Nothing bad happened between us. It's been almost two weeks. Maybe he is ghosting me? Or maybe I came off needy from checking in a few times since especially with the recent weather conditions. Today I texted him and asked him to be upfront and honest if he is longer interested.

In my past relationship I allowed my ex to come and in out of my life and ghost me and ignore me so often that I am wounded from it. How should I move forward?

Fabgirl 2 weeks ago

And as of right now our only form of communication is texting. We have been flirting a lot and bring up seeing each other in person. He asked to bring a housewarming gift. Wants to go on a tour of the east coast with me etc.

Love 11 days ago

My guy is not a cheater but he is really so much caring. . . He is bothered about me my family,studies,sleep and most importantly my emotions . . .yes of course he wasn't the same at very first but now am sure that he wont leave me crying always . . . and I was . . . I am . . and I will be always loving him . . . He is my Man . . . My sweet soul . . .

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SerenityHalo 11 days ago from Chicago Author

Has he texted you back yet? It's really hard to keep a purely texting conversation kind of relationship alive without it turning into ghosting. It helps to meet people in person and have them in parts of your life we you consistently see each other -- hobbies, work, church, school, those kind of things create a connection that makes it harder to ghost. You need a guy who has a consistent connection with you, and doesn't make you feel it is going off and on. That's not cool on his part. I think your instincts are right on what is happening. I hope he contacts you back.

Wendy Simone 9 days ago


I am wondering if you could tell in via a guys point of view what dos it mean when after you had sex with a for the second time , the first time was rushed and fast and unexpected after our meeting for a drink , and than made a second time to hook up and I spent the night and than after I left his place in the morning we kissed and wave good bye , I texted him saing thank you and a kiss emj and he sent back in text this " it was lonley and a smile emj" so we are both in our late 40's so what does that mean is he saying that he doesn't want to see me again?

Georgia 8 days ago


I met a guy a month ago, he's been messaging first every day for the last month. We've met up a few times and been at the same event which he bought me and my friends drinks and stayed quiet close to me, I like him but the only problem is that me and his friend had a little thing not too long ago (we only kissed) and I'm not sure what he's about.. yes he's messages me every day even early mornings and we continue to talk till the night time but sometimes he messages me with not much conversation! Like hi, you ok? And If I respond and say "I'm good thanks, just getting ready for work" he will respond with "nice" and that's it, he sometimes doesn't make effort to make conversation, even though he's the one messaging me first lol I'm just really confused as to what this guy really wants or does he actually like me? Cause am starting to like him but just not sure as to what he's about

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SerenityHalo 8 days ago from Chicago Author

Conversations in person are more important than text. He probably likes you, but not every text conversation will be too extensive. Texting is more for meeting up and helping direct the connection you have.

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SerenityHalo 8 days ago from Chicago Author

Did he mean lonely or lovely? You should just ask him. You guys are in your 40s. Put everything out in the open.

suellen 5 days ago

Ive been seeing this much younger man now for 5 weeks. Im 59 he's 28. He went away to visit his family 2 hrs from me and took him 3 days to text. This was after an obvious connection between us. I texted him first wondering what was going on...his texts were robotic, different from him in person. I stuck to my guns. If it took him 12 hours to reply with a text then Id take even longer. He came back for a few days. Now he's gone again working out of state for 5 weeks. I did talk to him and told him how I felt about his texting. He texted me pretty quick this time, but still ...if you read his texts you would think he isnt that in to me. He told me he loved me and I feel the same way. Am i placing too much emphasis on his texting? He told me he sucked at it but he'd try to improve on it...I dunno

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SerenityHalo 2 days ago from Chicago Author

Yes, too much emphasis on text. Don't worry so much about response time. This is going to be tough with the age gap. Try to connect in person if possible.

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