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How to Talk to a Girl Online: Proven Openers

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Dating Online

According to Pew Research, online dating has lost much of the stigma it used to have. Almost half the American public knows someone who has tried online dating or met a partner online (and one-in-five adults between 24 and 34 have tried dating online). So, you're not alone!

Many people actually do find each other online and end up having long-term relationships. It's a pretty convenient way to meet someone. My dad even met someone on Eharmony last year and is still dating her to this day.

Even though it's getting more popular, talking to women online isn't that easy. Although, when trying to start conversations, there are some proven things that work. I'm going to share with you some of the things that I've learned to get you talking, and possibly meeting, women. So, listen up!

Topics This Article Explores

  • Opening lines
  • General approaches to starting conversations online
  • Tips on engaging in conversation
  • Tips on making a great profile

Getting a Date Online

I'm going to help you boost your game and give you proven openers that get women talking to you like nothing else. I'm also going to give you some tips on engaging in conversation.

First, I want to give you the scoop. 70% of girls who go on POF (Plenty of Fish) go on just to have a conversation. Some girls like the feeling of having a lot of guys talking to them. But there are also a lot of women who are on online dating sites because they would actually like to meet someone. They don't just want an online friend and they're not on there to boost their ego. So when you're trying to start conversations, remember that everything you do should move towards meeting in person and taking things offline.

My Experience With Online Dating

I used PlentyOfFish because it was free. I was NOT going to pay to do online dating. I still use it time and again when I'm bored, probably like some women do.

I physically met five of the girls I talked to on POF, and I lost count of how many numbers I got.

I actually got so good at conversing that I got to the root of why some girls don't want to meet up. Some girls really are scared to meet up with men from online dating with a site like POF, where it's hard to really know who you're talking to, and I don't blame them. POF is so risk-free it actually becomes a little risky, especially for women.

On other sites that you pay for, like eHarmony and Match.com and Zoosk, the site has all your information like where you live and your phonenumber. They even go through a confirmation process to validate your identity which makes it more comforting to women.

So if a woman doesn't want to meet up, there are a million reasons why that could be. She might be busy, in a relationship, out of town, recovering from bad experiences with men, or nervous. The problem isn't necessarily you. Don't get hung up on it, and just move on.

But you're here for the good stuff, so here we go:

My Four Proven Openers for Chatting up Girls Online

  1. Quick question, why come on here if you're going to ignore all the guys anyway.

    Explanation: I actually made this up and 90% of the time it works fabulously. You will get an instant reply. Even if she's a little defensive at first, it's much better than no response. This is a perfect teasing conversation starter.
  2. You're cute, it's too bad you go for the jock type.

    Explanation: She'll like the fact you gave her a compliment, but she'll be intrigued or outraged at how you think you know her. You can easily calm her down, though. Here's how I do it:

    Girl: Excuse me? How would you know I go for the jock guy, you don't know who I am.

    Me: Well I have a good eye, I can spot those kinds of girls when I see them.

    Girl: Well not me.

    Me: Ur right, I guess it takes time to get to know "some" girls. So what makes you different?

    And I'm in...
  3. pffffffffffft.

    Explanation: This one actually only worked for me 50% of the time, but I didn't use it that much. I thought it would be kind of weird and offbeat, something no other guy would use. It's worth a shot for you at least.
  4. You're cute, it's too bad you're one of those shy girls.

    This is an excellent opener for someone who is a sensitive guy because it matches you well. The way to engage her is similar to my second opener.

These are the ones that have worked really well for me, but here are some other pointers in case you tried these already or you want some other approaches to test out.

Have fun!

Have fun!

More Fun Openers to Use to Pick Up Women (Especially for Tinder and Similar Apps)

Getting a girl to respond to you on Tinder or similar sites is less about relationships and more about the game. Most women are using it to have fun, so have some fun! If you can make them laugh, then you're in. Don't forget to make a good profile too (see end of article).

Tips for Getting a Girl to Talk to You on Tinder (or Similar)

  • Use their name if you know it.
  • Make her feel an emotion (surprised, excited, insulted). Feeling something (even if it might be seen as slightly negative) is better than feeling nothing.
  • Say something unique. Most guys don't put any effort into their messages. If you do, you'll likely see better results.

Suggestive and Confident Openers:

  1. Are you busy right now? Because you could be. With me. Doing it. Right now.
  2. Do you like muscles? I just went to the store and got some. We could share them. I'm talking about meat, btw. Also, I'm ripped.
  3. :) + :P = :00000 (get it?)
  4. Annnnnnnnd .. . . . I think we're married now. This is an eloping platform, right?
  5. You are the only woman that exists.
  6. Oh no. Now that I've seen your face I can't remember anything else in my life. I hope I don't have to be at work right now.
  7. FYI my profile is fake. If you want, though, you can get to know the model in the photos.
  8. I'm sure you get this all the time but DAMN GIRL, your face reminds me that I need to wash my sheets soon.
  9. Did you know that I run a back rub delivery service? Give me your number and your address and I'll be there as soon as I can.
  10. Did you know how much I love and respect all women? If we go on a date, you'll get to see just how much I respect you. I'll respect the sh**t out of you.
  11. Nice selfies :) You certainly have quite the hand.
  12. We both find each other attractive. Let's just skip the nonsense and get to the inevitable. What's your #?
  13. Pizza is my second favorite thing to eat in bed.
  14. I haven't figured out if you're going to be the nicest girl on my naughty list, or the naughtiest girl on my nice list.
  15. Very cool profile (almost as cool as mine)
  16. There's so many terrible things going on the world right now that it's hard to know what to do. Do you like making out?
  17. So yes I'm fully available as a man to date, but I thought I should also let you know about this lawn-mowing business I have. And my muscles. I have those.
  18. Are you trying to work on your golf swing? I don't play, but I'd still like to show you how.
  19. FAQ: Yes, I reciprocate. Yes, I'm open to being both big and little spoon. No, I don't validate.
  20. I'm so manly my beard is growing its own beard.
  21. I was thinking the morning after our date, I could make you some over easy eggs and then we could shower together before hopping on a plane to Paris. Any of that sound good to you?
  22. You like a decent rapper for a while girl.

Nerdy or Awkward Openers:

  1. I'm kind of a rebel. I open chip bags from the bottom.
  2. Wow you are so pretty and I look like a foot. Not even a sexy foot, just a normal foot with hair on the knuckles. Hey! Body hair! That's hot, right?
  3. Guess who has two thumbs and just got off his parent's cellphone plan. This guy! Give me your number and I can send you a pic of my thumbs for proof.
  4. I think I love you more than anyone's ever loved me.
  5. You look cut. I'd like to get some workout tips from you.
  6. OK look, I know I'm way out of my league here, can we just cut to the chase and have you ignore this message as fast as possible.
  7. You might not be able to take me home to Mom, but you can definitely take me home. Please do, actually. I'm homeless. Alternatively, can I dog-sit for you?
  8. Not to get political or anything, but voting booths really turn me on. Have you ever tried a hanging chad?
  9. I read the newspaper this morning and I'm not fifty years old. How turned on are you right now?
  10. Do you ever think about how life is just one long slow crawl to the middle? It'd be nice to see you there. I mean, we could see each other beforehand too.
Do something that's cute and you.

Do something that's cute and you.

Sweet Openers:

  1. Prettiest smile I've seen in a while. OH MY GOD I JUST RHYMED.
  2. Cute smile :)
  3. :)
  5. Cute photos!
  6. Nice profile - I'm way outclassed.

Mean and Edgy Openers:

  1. Oh no you're trouble aren't you?
  2. You found me! You were looking for trouble right?
  3. Your parents will not like me. I can already tell.
  4. I can already tell you're not really a "take home to mama" girl.
  5. You're not really my type, but my type also sucks. Want to go out?
  6. Sorry you're not really my type.
  7. Wow you are not attractive enough to do that lip thing.
  8. Based on what I've seen, you seem like one of those crazy girls.

Funny Openers:

  1. Dang girl, are you an angel? Because you fell from heaven . . . oh dammit. I messed that one up. So . . . what's up?
  2. I'm right behind you. Wait, sorry that was someone else. Okay now look. DANGIT. Still someone else. Hold on I'm on my way!
  3. WHEW thank God I found you! I've been dreaming about you so long I was worried you didn't actually exist and that I was INSANE.
  4. Did you hear about that puppy stranded on a lifeboat in the middle of the Pacific ocean? Apparently its last wish was for us to go on a date. It was so cute!
  5. Hello, yes, I'd like to sign up to join the religion where we worship your face. Yes, the face-worshipping religion.
  6. Stop objectifying me! I'm a person too, you know.
  7. I don't care what your roommate did. Whatever it was, I just want to let you know that you're right and I'm here just to listen to you.
  8. If you'd like to opt out of a relationship with (INSERT NAME), please send an email to alone4ever@gmail.com. If you do nothing, you will continue to receive messages.
  9. Do you ever have so much money in your pockets that you get bruises on your thighs. UGH. Life is so hard.
  10. I've thought it over, and I'm okay with naming our first child Ray, though I don't think it's fair to doom him to a life as a comedian or a truck driver. If she's a girl, though, she'll definitely be hot. Whoa was that pervy?
  11. Do you ever lay down and stare up into the stars at night and wonder why there is so much sadness in the world, and why there are so many times in movies when you see someone make an incredible sandwich but they never get to eat it, or why we haven't met yet?
  12. If we went on a date, where would we go, and why didn't you just let me pay for your meal?

Confusing Openers:

  1. Gotta run! They're after me!
  2. Your wish is my command.
  3. NBD but I just ate a footlong sub.
Be interesting.

Be interesting.

Top Tips for Starting Conversations with Girls Online

This section will give some general guidelines for starting real conversations with women online for sites like OKCupid, POF, eHarmony. It's a little more than just trying to pick them up. Below you'll also find some more approaches and examples both of what to do and what not to do.

  1. Don't say the first thing that jumps into your head. So . . . forget just saying "hi." This is what 90% of guys do. Make an effort to stand out.
  2. Don't say anything like "Ur gorgeous." Women hear compliments like that all the time. According to OKCupid's data blog OKTrends, messages that have words like "sexy," "beautiful," "hot," and "cutie," all received less responses. Girls aren't listening to that stuff, so quit saying it.
  3. Stop trying to be cool or cocky. Being arrogant is a turnoff for women. Use words that make you seem a little vulnerable like "sorry" and "awkward" and "probably." Online dating can be a minefield for women, so being less threatening will up your chances of making it into the real world.
  4. Tease. Online conversations are perfect for lighthearted teasing. You can really get to know her when you meet her in person.
  5. Be outgoing and positive. No one likes someone who's negative all the time. People are attracted to happiness.
  6. Relax if she doesn't respond. It's okay. You're not going to get a home run every time you hit the ball. Relax. Don't chase her. There are tons more women out there.
  7. Be enthusiastic about getting to know her. Ask her questions about herself, but leave the heavy getting-to-know-you stuff for in person.
  8. Use good grammar. On OKTrends, they found that messages with slang like "u," "ur," "ya," and "hit" and "can't" got fewer responses. The only exceptions were "lol" and "hahaha."
  9. Talk about her specific interests that you read in her profile, and tell her that you saw it there. Say something like, "You have good taste in music! I love Alicia Keys too." Or you can tease her about her tastes too, like "Alicia Keys, really?"
  10. Learn from your mistakes! Notice what works and what doesn't, and who's responding to what you're putting out there.
  11. Remember that the ultimate goal of this is to meet up with a woman in person. Don't keep the messaging going on for too long before asking for a number or to meet up. That said, don't push for it too soon either. The longer you're messaging each other, the longer you'll be messaging each other. Unless you went online to get a pen pal, that can get old really fast. Be bold! Ask to see her in person.
  12. Keep it short. Long messages are hard to respond to.
  13. Make her feel something! Make her laugh, surprise her, or tease her. An emotional response is a good start to a conversation.
  14. Have fun!
Your opening line could make someone's day!

Your opening line could make someone's day!

General Approaches to Try for OKCupid, POF, and other Online Dating Sites

For sites that are more known for people looking for relationships, it's best to try some other kinds of approaches, which will vary depending on your age, where you live, and who you're trying to meet. Remember that this is just a guide and not a law. Here are some approaches you can try:

1. Whimsical Statement Related to the Girl's Profile

Example: A cup of coffee turns me from a grumpy morning person to a happy morning person! My favorite spot is Philz. Have you been there?

An opener like this shows that you read her profile and saw that she likes coffee. You also gave her an easy question to answer if she wants to continue the conversation.

2. Comment Followed by a Date Suggestion

Example: I went to school in Boston too! I loved running on the Charles in fall. It was so beautiful. Also, I'm going to be a little bold here . . . I'm going to a dodgeball tournament with my friends on Monday night. Want to come? You seem like the kind of girl that might be into that sort of thing.

Whoa whoa whoa, you say. Isn't that too fast? Not at all. Many women online don't want to stay there. Show them that you've read their profile and then say something like "This is a little bold, but . . . " and give them an activity that you're going to and see if they want to go. It works best if it's a group hangout. You can combine it with a drink beforehand, making it really effective to find out more about who they are as a person.

If she takes a look at your pictures and profile and thinks you look cool, you're in.

3. Comment and Question

Let's say a woman who now lives in Austin, TX says she's from Montgomery, Alabama and talks about how much she shamelessly loves country music:

A sample message could be: Why shameless? Country music is God's gift to mankind. Have you been to Alamo? (a bar that plays bluegrass in Austin)

This shows the girl that you read her profile, and then gives her an easy question to respond to. Yes or no. As a bonus, if she hasn't been to that bar, then you can invite her to go out there.

4. A One-Sentence Opener and Date Suggestion

Example: Talk Spain and tennis with me over whiskey in the city? I enjoyed your profile :) Tom.

This message is genius. It shows the girl that you read her profile, have an idea of things she'd like to talk about and where she'd like to go, and introduces you to her. If she wants to meet up with you, she'll say yes and you'll exchange numbers. If she doesn't, then you won't waste your time messaging her.

Now you have your openers, get ready to respond to her replies!

There are some approaches which seem to be really common that actually don't work at all. Learn them, avoid them, and move on. Here they are:

1. The Generic "How's It Going?"

Example: Hi

This is a pretty common conversation approach, which is like you'd use if you were meeting a stranger in real life, so you say "Hi" or "How's your day been so far?"

This is definitely better than some other ways of talking to women online (i.e. hey sexy), but it's also pretty boring. It doesn't show that you've taken any time to read her profile or figure out what she might be in to. It's a really easy message to pass up, and unless you're Brad Pitt, she's probably not going to respond.

If you really want to use this approach, at least use an unusual greeting with proper grammar, like "Howdy" or "Oh hey there."

2. Introducing Yourself and then Asking a Generic Question

Example: Hey! I'm _____. How are you doing today?

This approach, like the above, is not so bad, though you probably won't see much success with it. Just like in real life, it's a little boring to just intro your name and then ask them how they're doing. They hear that kind of stuff every day. It's also easy to cut-and-paste this kind of message and when it's not even that interesting to start out with, it'll be easy for a girl to ignore.

Another problem with this approach is that you have to get from the awkward "hello we are both strangers" to going on a date with them. That's probably going to take more messages than you want to send or she'll want to respond to.

3. Random "get-to-know-you" question

This could be anything from a "Would you rather . . . " question to a "What would you do if . . . " question to any one of those lame icebreaker questions we've all had to deal with. They're bad for two reasons. One is that they sound like you Googled "good ways to start conversation with women" and went with the first one you saw.

Two is that they don't actually get any closer to you meeting up in person. Instead, you'll know that she'd rather die by razorblades than in a fire. How useful is that? It's not. Use questions and information that tells her about you and lets you get information about who she is.

4. "Hey sexy, beautiful, etc."

Like I mentioned above, women tend to ignore questions that start out with a physical compliment and you can safely assume that they'e already received dozens, if not hundreds, of similar messages. Make them feel interesting. You, by proxy, will also seem more interesting.

5. "I'm new to this whole online dating thing . . ."

Messages about how you're new to online dating and are not really sure how it works are boring. First of all, they focus on yourself and your own lack of confidence and they make her feel awkward because now she has to reassure you that it's okay. She doesn't want to be your mom. At worst, she'll also assume she's strange for trying online dating too.

Similarly, don't ask women how long they've been doing online dating. Those kinds of questions lead nowhere. Why does it matter?

6. "Hey I noticed you misspelled you're as your"

First messages that critique a woman's profile might seem cute, but they're just really annoying. No one wants to go on a date with someone who will be their judge for the entire evening. If you like her, talking about noticing her spelling error might be the perfect thing to bring up on your 20th date, or never.

7. Messages that are obviously cut-and-pasted

Take an extra minute and send her a message that shows you read her profile and are interested in her specifically.

8. "What's the craziest message you got on OKCupid?"

You might think this will make you stand out as "not one of those guys," and it does. Unfortunately, it makes you into a different kind of guy, one that doesn't get a response to his message.

Sure, most people know that women tend to get a lot of messages from men and that some of them are ridiculous. That fact, however, has nothing to do with you and her, and really nothing to do with her. So why are you asking it?

9. Complimenting a woman on her profile or giving her bonus points

This is kind of a tricky one. In some cases, you can tell a girl that you liked her profile and it will totally work for you. In others, it just makes it sound like she passed a test, and tests aren't fun. Saying something like, "You have one of the best profiles I've seen!" will make it seem like you've seen millions of profiles. No woman wants to be reminded that they're just another one in a crowd.

Similarly, giving a woman "bonus points" if she likes something that you do or can guess something about you based on a hint you placed in your profile makes you seem like you are always testing a lot of women and that they're just another dumb girl you're putting through their fool-proof test. None of these are good ways to start out with someone you think is attractive.

Avoid messaging each other for too long. Pick a date and a place and go for it.

Avoid messaging each other for too long. Pick a date and a place and go for it.

Engaging in Conversation After the Opener

The conversation part is where many people hit a wall. They either send too many messages and the conversation dies off before they get a chance to meet in real life, or they push for a date too soon when one party isn't ready.

The best advice for engaging in conversation is to stay positive, ask her specific questions about herself with information you got from her profile, and ask for a date as soon as possible (within three messages).

This is why the best openers start with a combination of showing the girl you read her profile and are interested in her and introducing yourself in a way that make the girl feel comfortable. Keep it simple! The more words you say, the more likely you're going to say something stupid.

Remember, you're going to make mistakes, and that's okay. The important thing is to make sure that you learn from them.

Online Dating Poll

The opener is just part of the equation. If you have a killer opener but your profile looks like a dud, the girl's not going to message you back.

If you want women to talk to you, you gotta look like someone worth talking to. Right? I've seen too many disastrous profiles that make guys look undateable. This is something that can happen even to good guys who are "just trying to be themselves" in online dating.

Here are some tips for shaping up your profile.

How to Make the Best Profile

Your Pictures

Your profile picture is the first thing a girl's going to see when she sees your message, so make it count! It also appears in a lot of places on most dating sites and will definitely be your first impression.

Make Your Face Look Good

Your profile picture should be a pic of your face, nothing else. If it's blurry, if you're wearing sunglasses or a hat, if the picture is too dark, it's likely going to be a pass for her. Ideally, you'd also be doing something and looking away from the camera but a nice photo will do as well.

If you think that this is the perfect time to be holding a dog or a puppy, think again. If you love dogs or have kids, she'll learn about that in your profile.

OKCupid had a great blog post about how to find your best face for online dating. Some of the main takeaways:

  • Pictures with flash age your face by seven years.
  • Take your photos outside either in the late afternoon or in the early morning.
  • Blur the background of your photo so that your face is the clearest part. This is really easy to do with online photo editors like Pixlr by using the focal point adjustment.
  • Smile and look friendly.
  • Have a friend take your photo for you so you can avoid the dreaded selfie pic. When they take it, think about the last thing that made you laugh and smile like you mean it.
  • Don't be a show-off and kill the bro-shot or the gang sign pictures. You don't look cool. You look immature.
Pictures of you doing something you love will help women understand more about who you are. They're better than the bathroom selfie.

Pictures of you doing something you love will help women understand more about who you are. They're better than the bathroom selfie.

Don't Try to Hide Who You Are

For the rest of your photos, you'll want at least one clear body shot and some pictures that give a hint as to who you are and how you spend your time. Do you have hobbies? What do you do with your friends? Don't post too many pictures of you with alcohol or with other women. Those can give the wrong impression.

If you're not proud of your body or your face, use the photos as a way to show off your personality and something that you are proud of about yourself. If women feel like they don't know what you look like or that you're hiding something, they will almost certainly not agree to go out with you.

Keep It Fresh

It's also a good idea to test out a couple of profile pictures and rotate them every two weeks or so. What you think is a great photo might not actually be that attractive for the women you're trying to attract.

Also, stay recent. All pictures should be within the last six months or so, maybe a year. If you don't have any recent pictures, this is a great time to go do something fun with your friends and have them do a photo shoot with you.

Your Profile Name

Remember that kid in middle school with the weird name that everyone made fun of? Consider this round two. Choose a profile name that talks about your interests or how you define yourself. Putting a little thought into this will go a long way. Avoid anything sexual, cocky, or stupid.

This is not the time to try out bigdaddy_67 or 6romeo9. Just don't.

How to Talk about Yourself: Profile Description

Filling out your profile description can be daunting. If you think it's hard, you're not alone. Tons of guys don't know how to talk about themselves or do it in a way that sounds attractive. Luckily, there are some proven ways to make yourself look good when you're trying to tell strangers who you are

Be Confident

Don't talk about how awkward you feel filling out a profile or say anything like "I don't really know what to say or how this online dating stuff works." It makes you sound unconfident and uninteresting. That's not how you want to come across, is it?

Be Honest

As tempting as it may be, you shouldn't lie about the hard facts. Don't say you don't have kids if you do. Don't say you're a lawyer when you're a paralegal. Should you end up meeting a woman in person, it will be hard for her to accept the fact you lied to her even if she might have liked you otherwise. Dishonesty is a turn-off.

That said, if you occasionally smoke but wouldn't mind giving it up, it's okay to say you don't smoke. You know if you're being deceptive or not.

Don't lie about your profession. If you're not proud of the way you made money, instead emphasize where you want to be in a couple of years or what your goals are. That shows that you're driven and that you have a plan for your life. Women are into that.

Be Real

Be open about your intent. If you actually want to meet someone, don't be shy about saying that. Downplaying your reasons for being online by saying that you don't have time for a relationship will only deter women from engaging with you at all.

Positivity is attractive.

Positivity is attractive.

Be Positive

This should go without saying, but your profile is not the place to complain about women or past relationships. In fact, it's not the place to complain at all. Talking negatively about women or anything will make you seem negative and unfun, and ultimately uninteresting. Be positive. Talk about what you do like.

A laundry list of what you're not looking for is really unattractive too (i.e. "Don't bother if you're a smoker or don't workout.") It makes you seem judgey, arrogant, and closed-minded. Talk about what you are looking for instead.

Be Interesting

Tell a funny story! Girls like funny. Making them laugh is a great way to get them interested.

Talk about your quirks. If you're not sure what quirks you have, then ask your friends about some of the things they notice you doing. Being unique is how you're going to be able to attract attention in a sea of men.

Be Brief

Avoid going into a speech about your likes and dislikes. Imagine you're at a bar and a girl comes up to you and starts listing every single one of her favorite songs. No thanks. Instead, think of your interests as potential conversation starters. Just a little bit will do.

A longer profile is not necessarily better, and it doesn't have to be perfect. Again, in a blog from OKCupid, researchers found that profile pictures accounted for almost 90% of a person's impression of their profile. Your words, while helpful, are secondary. Keep your answers short, upbeat, and unique.

Meeting up in person is always the best way to get to know someone. Assume you'll really get to know each other then.

Look Smart

Use spell check and proper grammar. Obviously you should still sound like yourself, but you don't want to sound like a dummy or like someone who doesn't care enough to put a good impression of themselves out there.

Give some thought to your username .This is one way to make a good first impression.

Give some thought to your username .This is one way to make a good first impression.

You Get What You Give

Like in many things, the kind of responses you get from women reflect what you're putting out there.

Did you put time into your profile? Would the kind of woman you want to date be attracted to the person from your profile?

Did you put time into your messages? Are you sending messages that the kind of woman you want to date would want to respond to?

If you're not having any luck, talk to a close friend (female friend if possible) and get their input on what you're doing. Be open to their suggestions. Remember that part of the fun is making mistakes AND learning from them.

Good luck out there!

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Lots of interesting info here. If my child weren't taken, I'd definitely try to find out if she was doing online dating and show her this article.

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Neko on February 29, 2020:

These strategies are bad because no one like to be stereotyped. These comments will only turn out negative and soon she will stop replying to you. Who are you to stereotype me and ask me to justify how im different, when your the intrested one. Look men just be yourself if she wants to talk she will

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I like to play basketball and football and make music

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Hi how are you?

Jack on December 07, 2019:

Give me your mobile number

Sony on December 05, 2019:


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Vishal on November 20, 2019:


Slartybartfast on November 13, 2019:

Spent way to much time writing my profile, reading other profiles, reading advice on how to write a profile then writing a new profile using that advice then finding contradictory advice on how to write a profile etc etc c.

I paid for the subscription , paid for the extras, spent time writing well thought out introductions after reading their profile. Waited .... No response...

Wrote some more.... no response.

Reduced my expectations then write some more messages ..

I must have sent nearly twenty messages . It got to the point I was messaging women I wasn't attracted to at all just to be ignored.

So I called it quits. What a waste of time and money.

Faisal jamalF on November 11, 2019:


Hamid on November 08, 2019:

Thank you

Sam on October 22, 2019:

I just wanna talk to someone who interested .... Plzz

Francis on September 26, 2019:

Hello guys i am male kid 13 yearsold and i log on this page because i want to see a girl friendly, so please respond someone pleas i want to be your friend.

Suhas on September 21, 2019:

Ii m 45 year's

Marty Muso on September 13, 2019:

This really works. I've been using these lines and they almost always get a response. I just had the wildest chat with this girl. I'm getting pretty good at it now and these tips have helped a lot. Thanks

duhblaisetaku on September 08, 2019:

nice one

ibrahim ismail on August 29, 2019:

this really work

Haider on August 28, 2019:

Hi wanna be my gf

Captain Ramadan on August 20, 2019:


gaurav tripathi on August 18, 2019:

i can talk to any one girls

because i love only one

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Mrs Bucket on July 08, 2019:

This is awful, this creep knows nothing. Don't listen to this moron.. yada yada yawn..

saurabh raj on May 31, 2019:

Good nigth



Pascaliano on May 22, 2019:

Hi bby girl

Satyajeet on May 19, 2019:

Radhe radhe

Kamil on April 29, 2019:

You look beautiful

Ankit kumar on April 24, 2019:


Tiffany on April 08, 2019:

I really like a girlfriend so bad

Jay on April 03, 2019:

Whats your name

Deklan on March 07, 2019:

I'm looking for girl that doesn't care about how old they are

Slartybartfast on March 05, 2019:

I tried online dating.

Meth is a much better choice.

Cyanide is a better choice.

Put it this way, because of my lifestyle I have the choice between online dating and not dating and I'm not online.

I would rather go the rest of my life alone.

Anna on February 09, 2019:

This nice

Eddie bailey on February 05, 2019:

I’m looking for a girl that is 17 to 26

Eddie bailey on February 05, 2019:

Hey there everyone

Keithh on November 25, 2018:

Im 32 yrs old, no game or confidence, however after reading all of this it definately has opened my eyes to a number of don'ts i have used and profile no no's. I feel putting this new information into work i should at least be able to get someone to notice me! Thank you!!!

Rhoe on October 20, 2018:

I really don't care what you guys think about this out there I'm someone who's 50 years of age and I'm dating a 32 year old who looks like thank you a model and likes me for who I am that's a win-win

Wes on October 16, 2018:

Thanks so much... You've given me game

Sonu on September 10, 2018:


Abishek Rana from Paris on September 07, 2018:

I agree on a lot of tips your shared, particularly your advice on sharing funny stories, jokes, and being interesting to a girl because that'll make her laugh, giggle, and give a lot of positive emotions (a lot of guys only appear serious and boring).

When talking to a girl online, it's also better not to text her often. Don't resond her right away, because it'll create a sense of mystery and you won't come across as a creep who text her 10 messages every other day.

To get a girl out, make your text short and sweet, and take charge of the interaction, by giving her the exact location and time to meet, where you'll guys go, and what you'll do. It'll make her feel comfortable and she'll more likely show up.

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lucmgz on August 07, 2018:

I found a website that is filled with girls that you can talk to! Some confidence is required but I went on a few dates with girls I met there. It is called http://chatbolo.com, lets you choose the location of the people you want to meet, be yourself and dont be afraid to make the first move, thats all i can say

Kelvin on July 12, 2018:

I want the best girlfriend online

James wood on July 05, 2018:

I need a girl to talk to

Andruw Erickson on May 30, 2018:

I need a girl that Is 11 or 12 to talk to

Stella Smith from United States on April 26, 2018:

This is really a helpful blog. Based on user experiences though, you can ask a girl out anytime with a 10 minute conversation. you just have to settle the location, make sure its a safe environment.. most of all, make her say yes first.

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sanjoy karmakar on April 12, 2018:

Hi I need girlfriends

man on April 12, 2018:

I how are you

Andrew on March 19, 2018:


Daryl on March 12, 2018:

Hello I want to talk to you

Naveen on March 12, 2018:

Help me

Miki on February 21, 2018:

I learn mikeshiruwaa technique and it work greats.

JD on January 07, 2018:

Holyshit guys. This work like a charm for me. I live in a small mountain town and I'm pulling women from all over the place.

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Thomas42 on October 29, 2017:

You can get the full experience of online dating without actually joining a site.

Take a picture of your shower curtain.

Spend a few days asking yourself questions like "If I was a type of cheese what cracker would I best be served on?"

Write long heartfelt letters and then throw them away unread.

Buy expensive tickets to events you have no interest in, get dressed up, drive 100 miles to the event, wait around outside in the parking lot for about an hour then go home.

Eat a meal at a fancy restaurant alone.

Write your credit card numbers on the walls of public restrooms.

randy on October 19, 2017:

how do you get girls to to like you in 1 or 2 days if they dont like you at school i am a good guy and i like to go on dates

randy on September 27, 2017:

what do you do if you like a girl and she dont like you

Azan khan on May 10, 2017:


Tyler batttese on September 25, 2016:

Looking for a lady

Chris on August 09, 2016:

Dosent matter what you say. If a girl likes what she sees she'll respond.

Andres on April 08, 2016:

Hey how are you

realtalk247 on March 10, 2016:

Great advice for meeting people online. I think many people are challenged when it comes to creating dialogue.

Some of the cheesy lines were cute and I did smile.

Great openers and online daters, don't forget to ask for the sale (date/phone number)

King on August 04, 2015:

Some of these are so cheesy it's unbelievable

ELVS on June 08, 2015:

While I am all for the short term success which can be achieved by negging, it seems like a poor basis for a genuine human connection

Neil on April 17, 2015:

One opener that gets their attention that I made up (similar to something I heard from Richard La Ruina) is, "I have two felonies, three kids from separate women who I never see, herpes, a drug problem and a penchant for drunk fighting. Also I hate puppies and fun. Sound appealing?" This gets their attention because it's silly and they're gonna know you're not serious because it's preposterous.

Awc on March 19, 2015:

Dude thank you so much. I've been using the 1st opener a lot and it's been working very well. And it's so much fun trying to figure out what else to say after lmao. But it really has been working like a charm. I already got a girls number and I'm hanging out with her next Sunday and I'm still talkin a bit with a bunch other really attractive girls as well

Alll on February 19, 2015:

Thank U using one of your opened question got a lot of women to respond

artritte on February 13, 2015:

You is cute

ks on February 10, 2015:

Guys, insulting her does not work, maybe for young girls but not a women. The jock one is okay but the shy thing would not get me to respond, then again im 30yrs.

Steve on January 31, 2015:

It worked perfectly for me... two numbers from dimes in 30 minutes total!!! Swear to God!!

angier williams on November 13, 2014:

I really would like to find a nice girl

Marshall on November 13, 2014:

I'll say that the first opener definitely works. In a day and a half i've had about 20 beautiful women respond to me. All of either black, hispanic, or mixed race. Not to be racial or anything but seeing i'm mixed (1/2 black, 1/2 white) i honestly don't get many responses from white women no matter what i write lol. But my suggestion would be to change the wording a bit. a few of the women were confused by what i said. 2 though i was being rude and actually cussed me out lol. so i used "Quick question, why come on here if you know all the guys on here aren't worth your time and you'll just ignore them anyway? lol". Works better for me. But quick disclaimer: in my opinion no opener is going to get a woman to respond to you if she's not attracted to you. So guys do anything it takes to make yourself more attractive. Get in shape if you're not already. Post better pictures. Write a better profile. It will all help. Women have many guys trying to talk to them. you have to stand out in all areas. Good luck

will on October 31, 2014:

Thos advice is bull shite and pisses women off

Adrian on October 09, 2014:

plenty of fish is bull shite some girls I like don't reply to me they just block me or deleted my message why is that when I say hi how you to a girl she just don't reply to me and I don't get many message need your help

Marcus on September 26, 2014:

You're right,

Chad on September 05, 2014:

I am interested in movie s, music I am fast cool brave smart I love thin white girls that where short shirts and blond girls.

mortizz on August 25, 2014:

So I've been using these, and you're right, they do get a response more often than not, problem is I seem to be just pissing the girls off:

Girl 1 : "not being rude but I don't like your attitude so please don't message me again."

Girl 2: "A civil conversation usually starts with a greeting of some sort & then something which shows wit & grabs my interest. Are you under the impression that you have messaged me before & I have ignored you?

I reply to guys who are either cute or piss me off? Guess which category you've fallen under? Shame because had you attempted to message me something civil you would have fallen under the first category! : p"

Emma on August 21, 2014:

"They still have that childhood belief that they are going to be kidnapped, this was deep lol"

You're spot on, but there is a larger issue here that you need to consider when picking up girls online.

The culture around dating from a female perspective can be terrifying. If a girl is willing to get in the car with you without any precautions, then she's either extremely naïve or is irresponsible to a point of a high school attitude. As awesome as that sounds, she'll make for a shitty girlfriend.

What you need to do is create a safe environment for any girl online. Don't joke about things like rape or real life violence. These are legitimate concerns in dating culture for women. Similarly, you need to be respectful about any reservations she has. Not giving you her facebook or twiter, though rare for online dating, is not a personal rejection. It can be a simple protection of her privacy until she gets to know you better. Most importantly, if you get a first date, then don't assume you'll be picking her up. "Do you want to meet me there, or should I come pick you up you?" is perfect. Dating someone a woman doesn't know personally takes more preparation than looking good. If you are dealing with a responsible, self-preserving woman, then she will have her own transportation, she'll have given trusted friends her location information for the night, and may have taken other precautions. This sounds like a lot of things for one woman to do before one date, and it is, but it's also both necessary and so normal to women that it shouldn't be obvious on the actual date. Just be aware, gentlemen, and don't be personally affronted when she turns down the ride home.

dzbals on July 10, 2014:

Your Quick question, why come on here if you're going to ignore all the guys anyway. Gets a response every time almost immediately its awesome but I've taken to it more of a game and at times even lectured a few of the chicks about their choices ha just having fun run care if I get a positive or negative response its all about fun in the game

notengonada on June 27, 2014:

hooking up online sure has become a chore since the days of of AIM and the like,. now even ugly girls get to be dick picky.

Pimpin on June 21, 2014:

I googled this out of curiosity, philosopher, nice work! Couldn't have done better myself...

Pimpin on June 21, 2014:


You have to pay attention to the profile to decide which opening line to use. Makes it easier to build on their responses. The philosopher has given you some great openers which I have tried myself and had continued success with. Pof has become more of an entertainment thing for me.

I'd like to go on and on and tell you what to do because I honestly feel sorry for you, quite frankly I don't have the patients to type it all right now.

I've used his lines word for word and they work but you have to choose which line to use on who. Take his lines and make them your own as well. Look at what they are in to and research it, google it if you have to, after their response, change the subject and inquire to their interests with an intelligent question or ponder her response for a while and think of what she means by it.

Honestly, have a few beers or smoke a dubee, helps the creativity flow.

Try to come up with your own lines. Think of what is going on right now. For example. I've used this on 7 women so far and had a 100% response today. " what are you doing on line on the longest day of the year, shouldn't you be on a patio somewhere enjoying the sun?" Guess what I'm doing tonight? I have 3 options, that's a good take!

Be patient, don't respond right away, wait a few hours or even a day. Think of what you are going to say.

Good luck!

Raj on June 18, 2014:

Can u give me sme mre ways to open up her .. Really visited many sites

But urz wz amazing plz give sme mre open up lines n wt to do after getting a strange lines frm her ..

ricky on June 10, 2014:

girl give me her number what to say text her

Trey King on May 24, 2014:

Lol i want to use the jock line,but I kinda do already look like the jock type from my pics .I think that would backfire on me haha.Im going to try anyway

PoeticPhilosophy (author) from Canada on May 16, 2014:

lol, that's a good response. Not to be mean, but, you're being insecure.

"Excuse me" is exactly how I said she would respond, and I gave you a way on how to engage after that.

"Is that your way of getting a girl's attention" is a girls way of teasing, and means, she's into you!

You will learn this as you go on, and like I said, that is as far as I can lead you, as, you need to create the building blocks for yourself.

Kunal on May 16, 2014:

I tried the 1st line opener, and I DID get responses from girls...However, all of them seemed negative...

A few of them responded back saying "Excuse me?"

One responded back and said "Is that your way of getting a girl's attention?"

Adrian on May 13, 2014:

I just said pffft to a girl and she replyed yessss what do I say now

Vince on May 05, 2014:

What's a good engage for #1?

caleb on April 24, 2014:

Dude this worked like a charm I can't even believe it!

Miguel on April 07, 2014:

Hate to admit it but you know what you're doing!! Used the line about ignoring all the guys..and got almost the exact response.."How do you know I ignore all the guys?" ha good work man!!

Arpit on April 06, 2014:

i want a girlfriend

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