26 Ways to Tell If a Girl Likes You

Updated on November 6, 2017
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

Are you hoping a special girl likes you, but don’t know how to tell if she is really interested in you? Are you looking for hints to tell you what she's thinking? What does it mean when she keeps touching her hair? This article provides 26 things to look for to help you decide if a girl likes you.

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26 Ways to Know If a Girl Likes You

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1. She likes talking to you.
She's eager to have a conversation and stays engaged with you once she's comfortable.
2. She laughs at what you say.
Belly laughs are better than giggles, and it's even better when you're both laughing together.
3. She's afraid to meet your eyes.
Some girls are afraid to be caught looking at you if they like you. (Others might confidently meet your gaze—watch to see if her pupils are dilated.
4. She notices you.
This might take different forms depending on the girl and the situation.
5. She licks her lips.
This is, of course, especially significant if it's not hot out.
6. She smiles at you.
It should be one of those real smiles — the one that makes her eyes crinkle up.
7. She doesn't like you flirting with other girls.
She may react openly, or she might just slip away so she doesn't have to watch.
8. She hugs you.
This could take many forms, but just notice if she's trying to get close to you.
9. She touches you.
Maybe she lightly hits you or touches your clothing.
10. Her friends give you clues that she like you.
Watch for their reactions like giggling or sudden silence if you approach, or notice if they ask you what you think about their friend.
11. She seeks you out to talk to.
Maybe she lingers around you when other people are leaving.
12. She develops interests in your interests.
Has she started listening to your favorite music, or watching your favorite sports teams?
13. She blushes around you.
This happens not once, but many times.
14. She plays with her hair around you.
This could be an unconscious sign that she's imagining you playing with her hair.
15. She bumps into you frequently.
This could be a sign that she wants you to start a conversation with her.
16. She shows off her body.
Does her posture or clothing seem to indicate that she's looking for your attention?
17. Her arms are relaxed or wide when she's talking to you.
Crossed arms is a sign of being closed off.
18. She breaks away from conversations with her friends to talk to you.
This is a great sign that she's into you.
19. She compliments you when you're looking good.
If she notices how you're dressed or changes in your clothing, it's a good bet she likes you.
20. She hints that she's single.
Or she might ask you if you are single.
21. She's down to hang out.
She says yes quickly if you suggest plans and might even suggest plans of her own.
22. She opens up to you.
If she's telling you about problems she doesn't usually talk about, that shows she trusts you a lot.
23. She talks about doing something in the future with you.
Maybe she mentions seeing a movie or a show in a month or so. You're on her mind!
24. She follows you online and likes your posts.
If she's posting stuff and tagging you in it, that's definitely a good sign.
25. She puts away her phone when she's with you.
This shows she's trying to give you her full attention.
26. You text frequently.
If you're texting regularly, and she's initiating too, then she probably likes you. Especially if you're texting at night.

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1. She Likes to Talk to You

Start a conversation with her. If she is happy to chat with you, that's a good sign. Some couples just click from the time they start talking and can talk for hours.

If she's nervous, she might have trouble speaking up. Give her a chance to become comfortable with you. Ask her questions and wait for her to answer. She might need some time to collect her thoughts.

The danger signs are if she looks bored or simply answers your questions with a shrug. Or, even worse, if she grabs hold of a passing friend and allows herself to be dragged away.

2. She Laughs at What You Say

If a girl likes you, she'll laugh in all the right places.

  • Hopefully she genuinely finds you amusing and isn't just working hard to encourage you. But even if she is trying a little too hard, that's okay. She obviously believes you are worth the effort.
  • Some girls get the giggles when they are nervous.

But here's the kind of laughter you definitely want to look for . . .

  • The full belly laugh you both share.

You know the kind. You're both laughing so hard you are almost crying. You feel as though you're about to split in half. The two of you share moments that are simply irresistibly funny.

Others around you think you're both crazy, but the hearty chuckles make perfectly good sense to the two of you.

3. Something Interesting Happens When Your Eyes Meet

A girl who likes you may shy away from looking at you directly. If your gaze meets, she blinks and turns her eyes away. She is not comfortable being caught looking at you. This kind of girl won't want to be seen as 'chasing' you. She waits for you to make the first move and approach her.

But some women speak through their eyes. Lucky you if your gaze connects with a woman whose eyes sparkle and invite you to come and say hello. A confident girl will directly hold your attention for longer than you'd expect before looking away.

If you're making extended eye contact with a woman, that is definitely a positive signal.

4. She Notices You

A girl who really likes you will at least acknowledge that you exist. Even if she's extremely shy, she'll find a way to let you know that she knows you're there.

If a girl completely ignores you, she has no interest in you. But is she really ignoring you, or is she sending you a quiet message that's she's noticed you but doesn't know how to react?

Here's some examples of how a girl who likes you might behave if she's really shy:

  • She's with a group who engage you in conversation, but she stays quiet.
  • She nods, or smiles. Just quickly, but it is a definite nod or smile in your direction.
  • There's a sudden interruption (or end) to her activity as soon as she sees you. Perhaps she stops singing, or dancing, or talking.

Yes, she's noticed you. She's definitely not ignoring you, or she'd just carry on whatever she was doing without missing a beat.

Watch her body language to tell if a girl likes you. Touching her neck or hair could be an unconscious sign that she likes you.
Watch her body language to tell if a girl likes you. Touching her neck or hair could be an unconscious sign that she likes you.

5. She Licks Her Lips

I'm sure you'd like to think that licking her lips is an action that should be interpreted to mean she'd love to kiss you. And yes, she might be dreaming about you kissing her. But don't get too excited just yet.

Licking her lips could simply be a sign of a dry mouth. But you have to wonder—why is her mouth so dry? If it is not an incredibly hot day and she's not just finished running a marathon, I'm guessing she's nervous.

So there's a good chance she likes you.

6. She Smiles at You

A girl who smiles at you, likes you. There's occasionally exceptions to this rule, like the girl who hopes to win some kind of popularity contest and smiles at everyone. But most girls don't bother smiling at someone they don't like.

A shy girl might not grin widely. Her smiles may be brief, but she certainly looks pleased to see you. Sometimes her smile is more in her eyes, rather than plastered on her face.

7. She Doesn't Like You Flirting With Other Girls

A girl who likes you will be uncomfortable if you flirt with other girls. Nobody likes competition. She might react openly, or may just slip away so she doesn't have to watch you giving another girl attention.

Be warned before you flirt with other girls that it might backfire. If you seem to fancy yourself as a ladies' man, she might lose interest in you. How can she trust a boyfriend who is quick to flirt with other girls?

8. She Hugs You

Does she hug you at every opportunity? We only hug people we like. Hugging you could be an excuse to get closer to you and experience the feel of your body.

Perhaps she likes you but can't tell you with words. It may be easier for her to use other strategies like hugging you and making herself very close to you.

Hugs come in different forms. Some girls just wrap themselves around boys they like. It can be a welcoming hug when you cross paths in the street or at the mall. But other girls are more likely to wrap a soothing arm around your shoulder. For instance, if you are seated and struggling with a problem on your computer. She may lean over and give you a shoulder hug, reassuring you that you can solve the problem.

9. She Finds Ways or Excuses to Touch You

She will always find many excuses to touch you or feel your body. Does she touch you when she is sitting next to you? That's a clear hint she's attracted to you. She wants to come closer to you and there is no better way or method for her than touching you on the arms or the hair.

She may pretend to remove an imaginary thing from your arm or hair. Perhaps she brushes crumbs from your chest.

Some girls give light-hearted slaps. Others grab your arm with excitement. If she's touching you, she likes you.

10. Her Friends Give Clues That She Likes You

Her best friends will know if she likes you. Look to them for clues. What do her friends do when you are around? How does she react with her friends?

  • Do her friends glance at you as you approach?
  • Do they smile when you approach them?
  • Are her friends seeming to tease her?
  • Does she look cross, as though she's afraid one of them might tell you she likes you?
  • Have any of her friends asked you if you like her?

Best friends can give lots of subtle clues she likes you.

Does she like you? Look for clues. How she responds to you will tell you if she likes you or not.
Does she like you? Look for clues. How she responds to you will tell you if she likes you or not.

16 More Hints a Girl Likes You

  1. You will learn from her body language if she likes you or not. If she's mirroring your movements, sitting closely to you, finding reasons to touch you, or fidgeting a lot, then she probably likes you.
  2. She will get interested in things you do or like. For instance if you are a fan of Manchester United, she will also develop an interest in that team
  3. You will see her blushing in your presence. This happens not once but many times
  4. Does she play with her hair when you are around her? If yes, that is an unconscious sign that shows her interest in you. She may be imagining you caressing or playing with her hair.
  5. When you are sitting or having a rest somewhere, you will find that she will walk past you a couple of times. Maybe she is trying to get your attention. She wants you to be attracted to her and is probably waiting for you to take the first step and start a conversation with her.
  6. She may lean back in a chair or sofa in order to protrude or display her chest area. She will show you 'what you are missing'. That is a sure sign that she likes you and she wants you to fall for her. She is just waiting for you to approach her.
  7. Her arms are open wide when she is talking to you and that could be interpreted to mean 'I’m open for you.' In other words it’s a sort of unconscious way to encourage you to approach her.
  8. When she is having a conversation with friends and she sees you approaching or in a nearby place, she will break from her friends and come to where you are. She wants to be closer to you at all times and that is a sure sign that you impress her.
  9. She compliments you whenever you are dressed nicely or she sees you in designer clothing. She always likes to see you looking good.
  10. Does she talk about a relationship she had in the past, making it clear that it ended and she is feeling lonely now? If yes, she is probably attracted to you. Don't assume that she's still obsessed with her ex-boyfriend. Consider it an invitation to take his place.
  11. She suggests hanging out with you or doesn't hesitate to say yes when you suggest that you two hang out. If she's down to hang out when you suggest something and doesn't even check to see if she's busy, that's definitely a good sign that she's into you.
  12. She's opened up to you, maybe telling you about something personal in her life or a problem she's dealing with. Being vulnerable often creates a feeling of intimacy, and girls won't do it with someone they don't really trust.
  13. She talks about going to something in the future with you — maybe she mentions that you should go see a movie or a concert together in a month or so. This is a really good sign!
  14. She's followed you on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat — and she likes your posts frequently, or posts stuff on your wall that reminds her of you. If you're sending each other Snapchats frequently or posting back and forth, there's definitely something going on.
  15. She puts away her phone when she's with you. When a girl gives you her full attention and focuses solely on you, that's a good signal that she's really interested in making a good impression on you.
  16. You text frequently (and she initiates too). Regular texting is a sign of friendship and interest. This is especially true if she texts you out of the blue just to find out how you're doing.

Need More Help Or Information?

I was asked the other day if I mind answering questions from guys who are still trying to tell if a girl likes you. Truth is, I don't mind. But you'll have to leave a comment and be prepared to wait a few days if I'm busy (because I do have a life.)

Be prepared for me to be honest with you. You just have to read the existing comments to see I'm not going to just tell you everything is great and you're destined for success. If I'm going to the effort of answering you, I will be honest.

Life is complicated. If you need help to figure out if a girl likes you, that's normal and okay. Sometimes you just need encouragement or a second opinion, so go ahead and ask me your question if you like. A few clues are always helpful, like your age. But don't give me your full name or hers. Have a bit of tact and discretion. I try to delete comments that will cause people embarrassment in the future if they're seen by others.

To the guy who asked if I'll answer all the questions from his friends if he puts a link to this article on his facebook page, my answer is the same. I'll answer questions if any guy wants more help or information when trying to decide if a girl likes you (but not necessarily reply to people who just leave general comments). There just might be a bit of a wait if I get flooded with questions when I'm busy doing other things.

So, sure. Leave a comment. Ask a question. I'll give you and your friends my honest opinion in the hope that it helps.

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      Daniel Long 2 hours ago from All Over

      I’m happy to see you’re on top of things, Trev, and keeping busy. ‘Ask me when I’m older’ is an easy line to use. Nobody gets offended.

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      Daniel Long 2 hours ago from All Over

      If you’re happy having no contact with her, you can keep ignoring her. But if you miss the interaction, you should make the effort to stay in contact. Sounds to me like you don’t really like her. If you did, you’d have respect for her commitment to her uni courses. Do you really expect her to drop everything and jump to meeting your needs? I suspect you’re not the only one who is confused as heck. She said it is a shame you can’t stay the weekend in the dorms, which presumably would give you both some time to catch up. So why aren’t you trying to do that?

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      ConfusedAs Heck 10 hours ago

      We used to whatsapp a lot (for a couple weeks it was everyday) then at our last conversation i tried being a bit less excited because i tried asking her out twice and she said she had uni courses she had to work on. Now its been a week and no one texted the other. I used to start the conversations usually but she initiated some too and today we saw each other and she smiled at me.

      Consulted a guy friend and a girl friend and both said i need to not message her so that i become mkre mysterious... they say (and i sometimes agree) she played with me a bit not going out when i asked but then saying its a shame i cant stay the weekend in the dorms. What should i do?

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      Hice 32 hours ago

      I havent had the time to talk to her because i was focusing on my exams. But while i was studying i was fiddling with my pencil and i noticed her mimick what i was doing. When i stopped, she would continue for a bit and then stop. And when i did it again, she would do it again after a few seconds. Not sure if thats a coincidence or not XD

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      paliatin 36 hours ago

      I noticed she was staring at me a liitle more than usual I'm guessing she probably read it and appreciated it.

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      TrevKay 2 days ago

      Ok thanks! I actually am getting a lot of homework lately luckily I've been getting it all done(yay) I read your last comment I was going to answer it then my phone died but anyways! I also have some ways to get my mind of it.

      1. Play some video games but take a hour brake in between.

      2. Read a book.

      3. Another way of playing video games With with my vr stuff (taking a brake in between)

      Anyways me and her hang out at school we are just friends now because i told her ask me when I'm older and also by the way this is probably my most detailed comment. Anyways yeah we are just friends now. But Thanks! =)

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      paliatin 2 days ago

      Wait so i don't have a choice?i have to talk to her since i called her cutei now that's friggin cool i think I'll talk to her now i don't have a choice I'm glad i did that im gonna talk to her now i think it will be fun

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      paliatin 2 days ago

      Alright I'll see what she says

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      Daniel Long 2 days ago from All Over

      Pal, I don’t know why you told her she was cute via Facebook when you’re still not actually talking to her. She might think that’s kind of creepy. Or maybe she’ll appreciate the gesture. I don’t know the girl at all. One thing is for sure though, you’re going to have to start having real conversations with her now. You can’t tell her she’s cute and then ignore her.

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      Daniel Long 2 days ago from All Over

      I’ll give you the same advice I give everyone, loltk, and that’s to start off just having everyday kind of conversations with her so you can start to get to know each other.

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      paliatin 3 days ago

      Ok i added her and i said she was cute but she hasn't answered me back should i just wait it out?

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      loltk 3 days ago

      I like this girl and I think she likes me and she regularly looks at me and I don't know what to do

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      paliatin 5 days ago

      Ok im gonna add her on facebook and see what she says

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      Daniel Long 5 days ago from All Over

      If I was you, Anton, I’d avoid her. If she’s talking badly about your friend she used to date, she’s likely to do the same thing about you. When there’s obvious signs of future trouble, I steer clear.

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      Anton 5 days ago

      So there is this girl in my class. She's always trying to steal looks at me (though her best friend sits in front of me so I'm not sure) Plus, she was dating one of my friends but not constantly comes up to me and says how shit he was. She's asked 5-6 times if I like this girl/that girl and I've always answered no. But, my friend warned me that she's a bit tricky to handle and lies. What should I do?

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      Eric 5 days ago

      Yes i did thx

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      Karan bhan 6 days ago

      We like each other's company. We used to talk a lot. She never hide any type of problem from me. I always help her. We are more than best friends we used to talk at late night also. She never ignore my message and she has a blind trust on me. I know everything about her and I also know everything about her.

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      Person 6 days ago

      I literally clicked on this to see what guys thought about this despite being a straight female- guys the right girl will come along soon give it time!

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      Daniel Long 6 days ago from All Over

      Chris, I have known way too many insincere women who use ‘sweetheart’ etc when talking to guys. Besides, it reminds me of old ladies and grandmothers. So, no, that’s never going to make it on my list. If it works for you though, that’s fine.

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      Daniel Long 6 days ago from All Over

      Welcome to ‘life’, Trev. We all go through years of wishing, hoping, dreaming, when we’re young. It is part of the process of getting ready for when you’re older. I suggest you busy yourself with your school work. Learn everything you can now so you can afford to get distracted when you’re older and dating. It will help if you don’t have to stress about keeping up in classes.

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      Daniel Long 6 days ago from All Over

      The more you learn about each other. Hice, the better. Talk lots, laugh lots and enjoy her company.

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      Daniel Long 6 days ago from All Over

      Have you read my list, Eric? Start talking to her and look for clues.

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      Daniel Long 6 days ago from All Over

      Hi JJ. If you read through the comments section you’ll see lots of my advice to other guys and I’m guessing you’ll pick up all the hints you need.

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      Daniel Long 6 days ago from All Over

      Karan, she obviously trusts you. But if she’s never met you, how can she love you?

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      Chris 6 days ago

      Not a bad list, but you left out a rather obvious one. If she calls you "honey" or "sweetheart", or any variation thereof, that's a sign, especially if she already knows your name. Even more so if she doesn't use these names with most people.

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      paliatin 7 days ago

      Screw it im talking to her tomorrow. I don't care if i get scared i need to talk to her besides there is a possibility we might become friends if i talk to her my fear will go away

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      TrevKay 7 days ago

      Ok Daniel I agee with you I'm to young and what's it really even mean to have a girlfriend when I'm so young but for some gosh darn reason It just keeps bothering me do you have any ideas how I can get it off my mind? Like I said I agreed with you but it just keeps bothering me. Help me when you can okay thanks! :)

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      Hice 7 days ago

      Ok i am back, ive been busy preparing for exams. Yoday i got to talk to her on the bus. She seemed really happy during the conversation and i got to know a bit about her family too! (E.g. thst she has a sister)

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      eric 7 days ago

      Ok so there's this girl i like and every time i pass by her she looks at me im trying to find a way to talk to her canyou help me i can talk to her it's just that im wondering if she likes me

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      JJ 7 days ago

      Hey Daniel I need help this girl I like is like the best thing that ever happened to me!! But I do not know how to talk to her please help me.... your the best

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      Karan 7 days ago

      I used to talk to my besty at late night . She always reply me frequently and never ignore my message.she used to send lots and lots of heart emojis. We are friends from 5 years. She is 3 years elder from me. But never met each other. We used to talk on Facebook, what's app,instagram. Whenever she asked for help I always help her. She has a blind trust on me . She always reply very fast too my message.

      Plz tell me my besty loves me or not

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      Daniel Long 7 days ago from All Over

      Everyone seems to be in a pretty good place which is great ... except for Pal and John. You two need to stop making this process bigger and scarier than it needs to be. Here’s a couple more tips for you.

      John, there’s nothing wrong with silence. People don’t have to talk all the time. You just need to feel comfortable with the silence and simply enjoy her company. Speak again when something comes to mind.

      You could ask a question or talk about something you did, saw, or thought about recently. Don’t expect her to carry the conversation. You’re the one who is planning to talk with her, so you should be prepared to make the most effort. Make it comfortable for her and she’ll probably join in.

      And Pal, you’ve got start thinking more like a man. ‘Do you want to be my friend?’ is the kind of question little kids in the playground ask when they meet someone new. Just say hello and ask her how her day is going. Talk about everyday things. Talk to her like a person. If you’re really not confident enough to do that right now, I suggest you wait another six months and then see how you feel. No point stressing to the max over something that sooner or later will become quite natural.

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      paliatin 8 days ago

      Ok what should i say when i approach her?should i ask her if she wants to be my friend or just say hello?

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      TrevKay 8 days ago

      Ok your right what does it really even mean to have a girlfriend at my age. I'm young and I really should wait till I'm older. And I just need to be more positive about myself and not so negative. Thanks! (Thanks in a good way not in a bratty way)

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      John 8 days ago

      So its John again.I said to myself that i have to use your advice and thats what i did today and will do,apparently in the class i went near her not to talk to her just because they were some friends of mine and she approached me and said something about a band that we both listen too (we learned that we both listen this bad in friday)she was going to use her hand to touch mine but for some reason she stopped and pull it back,so in our way back a friend of mine litteraly pushed me to go talk to her and he started talking with her friends to leave us alove(her friends saw the pushing xD so im pretty sure they know) anyway we started talking but im kinda shy and when the subject that we were talking about ended there was pure silence for a moment and the silence was HUGE in the end of the road , so the problem that my mind have create is if she just dont want to make me believe that she likes me by not talking and so i was wrong all this time or if she litteraly didnt know what to talk about cause all this made her get shy or something

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      Skrattar du 8 days ago

      Thank you so much for the advice bruh......I too will join a guitar class(as my bro already has one).... you have truly motivated and inspired me to get better..... thanks once again

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      Ultra 8 days ago

      I used the exact same lines which you recommended......she's going abroad forever.....we decided if we are meant to be together ,no situation can separate us....she will come back in my life if it's written in the destiny.....so cheerfully leave it the way it is....and focus on my academics....she too has some exams going on right now, so we decided to hang out the next month....and thanks bro....u helped me a lot...

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      Daniel Long 8 days ago from All Over

      Josh, I passed your message on to a friend of mine who knows much more about your kind of situation than I do. Hoping she’ll get back to you in a day or two.

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      Daniel Long 8 days ago from All Over

      In my very first answer to you, Trev, I explained what I’m thinking about your situation and why I believe you (and all 12 year olds) should wait until you are older before dating. Doesn’t matter if you’re adhd or not. Please go back and see what I said about ‘when you’re 16’.

      Right now I think you should just be talking with all the girls about everyday stuff.

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      TrevKay 9 days ago

      god I feel like such a pointless brat... :(

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      TrevKay 9 days ago

      I am reading your entire answer and not just one paragraph it's just hard for me to think about what I'm going to say and it's just hard for a adhd kid like me (not a exuse) but thanks for trying to help...

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      Daniel Long 9 days ago from All Over

      So you overcame one problem, Ultra, to be faced with another? That kinda sucks, but at least you know she’s interested in you. (Go on, tell me, did you use my line? Or did you just bravely ask her out?)

      Going abroad can mean many things. Is she going somewhere to study, or holiday, or live forever? If I was you, I’d be planning two very special months ... even if I knew we had to say goodbye at the end of it. Lots of special memories can be created in that time. But the two of you will have to decide if you want to go there, or just agree to ‘leave it’ and accept you weren’t meant to get together. Tough decision.

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      Daniel Long 9 days ago from All Over

      Okay, now I understand, Skrattar du. And you are absolutely correct. If she has no interest, you’d just be wasting your time. So you need to walk away and busy yourself with other things. (I took up guitar after one failed relationship. Probably never would have were it not for that disaster. Kept me busy and away from crowds. Love playing guitar now, by the way.)

      Every set back provides an opportunity to go forward in a different direction! So throw yourself into learning some kind of new skill. It may well help you attract (and impress) other girls in the future.

      Things didn’t work out with your crush. No big deal. It happens to all of us at some time, so don’t think you’re the only one. Put it down to life experience and move on.

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      Daniel Long 9 days ago from All Over

      Good luck, Paliatin. Approach her with confidence, and it will be okay.

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      Skrattar du 9 days ago

      I feel it's no use liking her coz she no more shows any interest in me....one sided love is of no use.....

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      Daniel Long 9 days ago from All Over

      Why do you want to stop thinking about your crush, Skrattar du? Is she too young for you? Too old? Married? Or are you not yet old enough to be dating? A few clues would help.

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      Daniel Long 9 days ago from All Over

      John, my advice is to stop listening to those friends who say you don’t have a chance with the girl. You like her and she seems friendly to you. So talk with her every chance you get, and see what happens.

      You won’t know if you are right for each other until you get to know each other better. So make that your goal.

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      paliatin 10 days ago

      Ok ill see if i can talk to her wish me luck ill let you know

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      Ultra 10 days ago

      She accepted my request.....but unfortunately she's gonna go abroad after finishing her 12th....and there are only 2 months left for it.... :'(

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      Skrattar du 10 days ago

      How do you I stop thinking about my crush.... need help please

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      John 10 days ago

      Alright,so there is this girl i like that met her at september (student 17) , 1 month ago i did like 2 conversations with her (my friend made this possible) but other friends were saying that i dont havr chance with that specific girl so i stopped,1 month after ,in school we were teamimg up to play basket and she came out of nowhere and "fixed" my hoodie and then she left,they day after for like the 1st time i was goim home alone,and she noticed me and came to me and started a conversation,she was supposed to go right but she came with me straight forward and turned right when i was going to turn left either way to go home , im not sure if she is just trying to ne friendly or maybe trying to flert,she is a good girl, not too much shy and we have spoke 2 times till yestersay that happened that thing and spoke for the 3rd time, i need an advice pls

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      Hunter 11 days ago

      I'm pretty confident that if I do some more of the things off the list then I can win her over. I'll tell you if it works or if I have any other questions.Thanks:-)

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      Ultra 11 days ago

      Tysm bro......

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      Daniel Long 11 days ago from All Over

      Here’s the best line for you, Ultra ... ‘I would really like to ask you out, but I don’t want to risk losing our friendship. So tell me, should I ask you out or not?’

      Simple. Honest. Effective. If she says ‘no’ just thank her and say ‘Okay, I will protect our friendship. Somewhere in the world there must be another girl as nice as you.’

      You’ll get your answer, which has got to be a good thing.

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      Daniel Long 11 days ago from All Over

      Hunter, are you doing any of the things on this list?

      https://pairedlife.com/dating/How-Do-You-Know-A-Gu...

      You probably already are, in which case she should be able to tell you’re interested in her romantically. If you’re not doing them, try some.

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      Hunter 12 days ago

      I think she is doing most of the stuff but I don't think I'm showing her I like her. How do I show her I like her without saying it?

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      Utra coz u said so 12 days ago

      Sure bro..... thanks for the advice.....my only concern about talking about dating is that I don't wanna lose her as a friend....and I have tried to talk about dating (indirectly)....and she has been quite receptive too.....and yes she had asked me whom I trusted the most in our grp......I did reply that it was she whom I could trust the most (with a ❤ emoj)............once again thanks for your concern....✌

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      Daniel Long 12 days ago from All Over

      If she does all those things, she certainly likes you, Ultra. But you won’t know if she likes you the way you’re hoping or not until you spend more time with her.

      Remember she might also be looking for clues about whether or not you like her ... so maybe move a conversation to the subject of dating in general.

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      Ultra instinct goku 12 days ago

      If she reveals all her secrets, shares her interests.....and trusts me the most.....engages in late night conversation for hours....and makes plans of going out and insists me to join .....does it mean that she likes me?

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      Adder 13 days ago

      Ok ill talk to her, but i feel shy/lack confidence but ill do it!

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      Daniel Long 13 days ago from All Over

      Let me know how it works out, Hice.

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      Daniel Long 13 days ago from All Over

      Adder, I can tell that you like her ... but there’s nothing to indicate that she likes you. Sounds like she’s just doing normal things in a normal day, but you’re trying to read more into it. Why don’t you just talk to her if you like her? She’ll either talk with you or brush you off. Either way, you’ll have more of an idea than you do now.

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      Hi 13 days ago

      Hey thanks for writing this article. Very helpful, and surprising to see you helping out commenters!

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      Daniel Long 13 days ago from All Over

      Trev, I hope you read my entire answer and not just the first paragraph. One of the main reasons for waiting until you’re older before getting a girlfriend is exactly what you’re talking about ... not being mature enough to be aware of the implications of what you’re saying (or doing). That’s okay because you’re only 12 and it becomes easier with time. But don’t lose sight of the fact that you and your friends are only kids. It is much smarter to leave the difficult stuff (like girlfriends) until you’re older and more ‘aware’ if you want to avoid trouble.

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      Hice 13 days ago

      Wow it has been a while! I havent had the time to talk to her, so ill plan on doing thst tomorrow!

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      Adder 13 days ago

      Hello. today i noticed this girl. While i was talking with my friends near the class room, she was talking to her friend but her body was facing in my direction. During class, while i was waiting in line, she was ahead of me by a few people. I noticed her turn around and glance at me for like a second and looked away to to side fscing the front of the line. Also, before i exited the class, i noticed her look at me while she was packing up her stuff for a second and looked down at her belongings after.

      Does she like me?

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      TrevKay 13 days ago

      Not in a very bad way I just don't think what I'm going to say before I say it

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      TrevKay 13 days ago

      yeah good point...... wow i really am a idiot sometimes....

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      Daniel Long 13 days ago from All Over

      Go home and read a book out loud, pal. Get used to the sound of your own voice. At least half an hour each day, out loud, no mumbling.

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      Daniel Long 13 days ago from All Over

      Trev, its really pretty simple. When someone makes you feel glad to be alive, that’s definitely a good thing.

      I’m going to give you a tip. Whether or not you take it is up to you.

      If you can just be friendly and enjoy the company of all the nice girls without making any of them your girlfriend, you’re going to be in a much better position in a few years than the people who are picking on you/teasing you.

      You’re 12. The girls are about the same age. You have no idea which of those girls will be the one you’re desperate to date when you’re 16.

      So if you’re nice to all of them between now and then, and don’t offend any of them, you won’t have any girls who ‘hate’ you or talk badly about you to their friends.

      Yep, that’s the guy you want to be at 16. So just tell people, “I don’t need a girlfriend yet. Ask me when I’m 16 and I’ll tell you who I’m interested in. No point worrying about it now.”

      Maybe your friends will wise up and follow your lead. Really, what exactly does having a girlfriend mean when you’re so young?

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      TrevKay 2 weeks ago

      Ok so I spent some time with the girl in band like I said in my first comment. As we where talking we looked each other in the eye and her eyes like sparkled and I just felt lost like in a good way and most of the time I see here or talk to here she always blushes and she gives me a smile that just makes me feel happy to be alive. So I'm wondering if that's anything really good? Please let me know! Thanks !

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      paliatin 2 weeks ago

      Ok i need your help i didn't know what to say i think my friend is getting in the way he tells me to talk to her and i don't because I'm afraid he might interfere either that or I'm scared i don't know what to say to her i did say i was going to talk to her but i panicked usually i can't talk to her unless she's alone can you give me some advice?

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      TrevKay 2 weeks ago

      So I'm in 7th grade and all the other guys have girlfriends and stuff and I don't and I get picked on I'm only 12 and I've been wondering what's the best way to get a girl cause there's these two girls one in band and one not in band. So the girl in band she would just look at me like stare at me for like 10 seconds then look away and sometimes we make direct eye contact and we look at each other for a while, the girl not in band likes to sit and talk with me all of the time so I've been wondering if these are good or bad. And what's the best way to get a girl.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Just jump back in Ty. Hockey seems like an easy option, but I’m also thinking you should ask her to join you for lunch next time you’re working together. Don’t be nervous, you’ll be happy once you’ve taken that first step.

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      Ty123 2 weeks ago

      There's this girl who I work with on seldom occasion, every time we do we laugh together, and we pretty much never get anything done with all the talking we do. We had a company meeting this morning, and we all sat in groups to talk. Her and I were probably about 20 feet away from one another, but every time I would look up in her direction she was looking at me, she'd look away. We also found out we both like hockey the first day we met, and she mentioned we should catch a game sometime, to which I agreed. I'm pretty sure she likes me, but I'm not very good in this. I'll text her and it normally takes a while for her to respond, but we don't text that much because life is busy. I also haven't had to "meet someone" new for a relationship since i graduated high school 4 years ago, so I'm very nervous to jump back into it

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Ignoring your texts is not very promising, Nina. However it sounds like you have nothing to lose if you try your flowers idea.

      You might be disappointed, but you’re already disappointed so what’s the difference, really? At least you’ll get your answer. If it is time to let go and move on, you’ll know.

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      Nina 2 weeks ago

      I approached her we spoke, got invited to a few of her gigs and I went. Unfortunately, because she got hectically busy we never got time to chat over text. I texted but my text was ignored (blue ticks) which are highly frustrating. However, we spoke in person she hugs, touches my shoulder every now and then,and strangely she would wink at me all the time. Oh yah was introduced to friend. I was thinking of getting her flowers and asking her straight up in person because the texting ain't working for us. Is that a good or bad idea? What should I do rather?

      Last I saw her was invited to a party last year and she insisted to take me home I was drunk out my mind.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Marko, if she says you’re a great friend, you could simply ask her, ‘Do you think we might become more than just friends one day?’

      Don’t pressure her, just tell her you think that might be really nice and ask her what she thinks.

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      Marko213 3 weeks ago

      She talks with me a lot,when i am with group of friends she always finds some space to be next to me. As i saw she check her hair and licks her lips. She has no problem with huging and cheek kisses but she wrote me her opinion and said i am great friend

      Any advice

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      She won’t really like you until she gets to know you, Carcharodon, so talk to her.

      A great conversation starter at this time of year is asking ‘Do you have any plans or goals for this year?’

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      In your situation, Michael, one of my first questions would be ‘So, is there a man in your life who is likely to get jealous if he sees us together? Do you have a boyfriend?’

      Her answer should give you all the clues you need.

      And I hope everyone has a great 2018!

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      Carcharodon 3 weeks ago

      I am just wondering if this girl likes me. So this girl sometimes stares at me but doesn't look away. I remember one time she applied lip stick I think to her lips. One time in the carpet she said good morning to me and it was awkward. After that, she looked at me. I want help to know if this is a sign that she likes me please.

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      Tom C 3 weeks ago

      Let's hope so Daniel! I sent her the "had a great time, would love to see you again soon" text earlier, so we shall see.

      Happy New Year to you all!

      Tom

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      Don’t worry about telling her how you feel, pal. Just get to know her first. You actually might not even like each other as you spend more time together. Talking with her will reveal lots.

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      Michael 3 weeks ago

      Hey there so I was wondering if you could help me out... So there is this girl and we use to date like 7ish years ago and out of the blue she messaged me and asked me how I was doing. I than asked her if she wanted to go out sometime for like coffee or dinner, she said she’d love to therefore we are going out for dinner tomorrow after she gets off work (I’m not sure if this is a date or a friend thing). I’m not sure if she likes me but I was starting to think she did until she posted a picture on her Snapchat story of another guy (she was not in the picture with him). He could just be a close friend or one of her friends boyfriends however I’m not sure. Anyways I would love to here what you have to say and sorry I don’t have much to go off of but we just started talking again like 3 days ago. Tips or advice would also be greatly appreciated. We are both under 21 if that makes a difference by the way.

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      You’re a lucky guy, Tom. Getting lost in a girl’s gaze is just the best, isn’t it?

      Sounds like you’ve just had the first of many great dates with a fabulous girl!

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      paliatin 3 weeks ago

      You kno i was hoping i would see her at walmart or something but i haven't seen her but that doesn't mean i will give up on her i still like her she's actually kind of cute and beutiful at the same time.i wish i could tell her how i feel but i don't know how?

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      paliatin 3 weeks ago

      No i haven't texted her yet and i have to wait until the 9th of january because that's when we go back to school yes i have confidence that i can talk to her i feel really anxious to talk to her and to see what she has to say i am very suspicious and honestly i don't think I'm afraid anymore and yes i will talk to her i said i will get a girlfriend by my sophomore year of high school.i really like her and I've wanted a girlfriend for the past 3 years in middle school it never worked but finally a cute girl comes up to me and says that i am cute i was surprised when i heard that so I'll let you know what she does or says

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      Tom C 3 weeks ago

      Hi Daniel,

      This weekend I went on what I'd consider a first date with a girl I really like. We met a few weeks ago and exchanged telephone numbers. I texted her and said it'd be lovely to spend some time together... she replied in about five minutes and expressed the same sentiment, and suggested we go see a movie.

      We caught a movie, went for some dinner and had a walk. For quite a while after eating we sat talking about various things. Asked each other a lot of questions. We held eye contact a lot. Not to get too mushy but her eyes are utterly enchanting... numerous times I found myself quite lost in her gaze, and she never broke my eye contact when it happened. When we parted later she gave me a hug, and kissed my cheek.

      She is quite an outgoing and vivacious person, and is generally talkative and engaging with people... but I've not often felt a girl look at me the way she does. I know this is only a brief snapshot, but what do you think? Could there be something there?

      Thank you for your time.

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      So did you text her at Christmas, pal? Plus you said a week ago you were going to talk with her, have you done that?

      I’m not sure what you think she should be doing, just because she said you were cute. You really can’t blame the girl if you never end up going out with her. Sounds like your shyness is getting in the way.

      If you can’t show her you are good boyfriend material and be interesting to talk with, I doubt she’s going to stay in contact with you. You had a good attitude when you wrote before. Has that changed?

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      paliatin 3 weeks ago

      I thought she was going to text me on Christmas but yeah i have no idea at all what to do i think I'll just talk to her and see if she texts or calls me I'll let you know.i mean she freaking said herself that i was cute

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      Andrew 3 weeks ago

      Thanks, Daniel.

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      Andrew, you are so NOT friend zoned. Sounds like the basis of a good strong potential romance to me.

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      Jason, encourage her to go with you but definitely don’t ‘force’ her. Have you been seeing her in the past week? She might have lost your number.

      I think you should quickly get in touch with her and ask her again. Tell her you’re looking forward to going with her.

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      Andrew 3 weeks ago

      Hi, I am personal friends with the mother of the girl I like, I do odd home-improvements at her house in my spare time. Her mother knows I like her daughter, she figured it out awhile ago, gave me permission to pursue her daughter. The daughter was stand-offish initially, but within the last month or two, she seems to be opening up. I'll recount yesterday as an example. Her, her mother, and I went to a nearby city that is approximately an hour away from where we live, to see a movie and do some light shopping. Before we left I gave her and her family their Christmas gifts. Hers was a watch, steampunk style(She's into steampunk stuff especially watches) She was exceptionally pleased and exciting, immediately replacing the watch she was wearing with the one I just gave her. She was driving and I was shotgun, her mother dozed in the back. Usually we would sit in silence, but she talked animatedly the whole time about the newest books she was reading or finished, and how she was prone to altitude/reverse altitude sickness. After the movie, her mother went to the restroom, and we were alone together. She asked if I liked it and seemed very concerned about it; she was very pleased when I answered in the affirmative, and shared how her brothers refuse to watch musicals (that's what the movie was) with her and if I liked the genre; again she was pleased when I answered in the affirmative. Later, shopping, she made small talk about favored foods, and small jokes involving my name(i.e. Andy's Andes) upon asking if I liked them. On the way home she switched driving with her mother, intending to read, however she continued to engage me in conversation( Normally she would have been reading quietly ignoring me) especially when her mother would try to talk to me, joining in or pulling the conversation to where it was between just the two of us. She even allowed the conversation to drift and dwell on history for a time(something she didn't do before) I am a history buff, she is not, and she remained engaged and interested. She asked questions about me,(i.e. why I am the way I am) Before she was little interested; she also maintained eye-contact most of the time, before her gaze was apt to wander. When we got back to her house she initiated a series of card games, teaching me her favorite. After she pulled out her paints(She is into art, and has showed me her private notebook) testing some new methods she had read about( This was her first foray into water colours.) she also modeled her skill with acrylic paints ( Also the first time she had painted on canvas-usually she uses card stock). We sat and did that until 2 am when the day caught up with me and I began to doze. She seemed pleased with the little complements I payed to her skill; and she bit me an enthusiastic and warm farewell. I have been going to events where she performs, she is in a choir and does plays; before she would ignore me but the last two times, she seemed pleased to see me, and seemed to blush and act embarrassed when I payed small complements to her performance or dress. Sorry for the long post, but I am confused, does she perhaps like me, or have I been friend zoned?

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      Jason 3 weeks ago

      Hi Daniel, There is a girl I like at where I work and I am hoping she likes me back too. Some of the things you mentioned in your article did happen but some did not. I kind of have a dominant personality and I talk to all the people at work especially with her. She and I are good friends for over 6-8 months now. We travel together in bus to the place we work and we talk a lot when we are with each other. But I difinitely know that she is nervous around me. Her words slip when she talks to me. She smiles and notices me when ever I pass by. She puts her phone away and comes out to talk to me when she sees me approaching. When iam talking to a large group she doesn’t talk but does something that makes me notice her. She laughs at the simple things I say and in fact sometimes we laugh together. But the thing with her is that she gives me good signals at times and kind of confusing signals at other times. When I talked about my previous relationship that ended and asked if she had experienced the same she responded like this, “No I never had experienced that, I do not want all that drama in my life” Does she mean that she’s not open for a relationship?? This happened a month ago and we are far from there. Now recently I asked her out for a special event and told her to message me if she’s interested ( I still do not have her number). She was kind of nervous again when I said that but she was smiling. She asked me how i will let you know. Then I said to message me to my number and gave her my number which she happily accepted. When work was all done and when we were all leaving. I was in a corner replenishing some stuff when she slowly came and gave “that” smile which I can never forget and walked away. Well now it’s been a week and the event is happening in 2 days but she has not messaged me yet. Not even a hi !! Is she waiting for the last moment. This event with her means a lot to me , it can bring us more closer than before. But I did something wrong by telling her that it’s a large event with lots of people, lot of friends , dancing and concert and stuff. I know that she is kind of shy so I don’t know if she is really gonna come. She is kind of like lazy and not outgoing. Should I force her into coming to this event or should I take a step down and ask her what she wanna do, maybe a movie or Netflix and chill like the way she likes it. Again Daniel, I know it’s pretty confusing but would be awesome to know what your thoughts are. Thanks.

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      Talk to the girl, Bill. Face to face. You’re never going to build a real relationship if you rely on Snapchat.

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      Bill 4 weeks ago

      So there is this girl that I really like and I don’t know if she likes me back though. The thing is, ever since like 3 weeks ago we have been non stop Snapchating each other. But whenever she is with her friends she doesn’t respond or she just leaves me on read. I don’t know what to do next. Any help?

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      Maybe she’s just nervous, Karim. And it might be too early to talk too much about how you feel. I think you should just talk with her about general stuff and get to know more about each other before getting too personal.

      She’s not angry with you, so that’s a good thing.