26 Ways to Tell If a Girl Likes You

Updated on February 24, 2018
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

Are you hoping a special girl likes you, but don’t know how to tell if she is really interested in you? Are you looking for hints to tell you what she's thinking? What does it mean when she keeps touching her hair? This article provides 26 things to look for to help you decide if a girl likes you.

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26 Ways to Know If a Girl Likes You

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1. She likes talking to you.
She's eager to have a conversation and stays engaged with you once she's comfortable.
2. She laughs at what you say.
Belly laughs are better than giggles, and it's even better when you're both laughing together.
3. She's afraid to meet your eyes.
Some girls are afraid to be caught looking at you if they like you. (Others might confidently meet your gaze—watch to see if her pupils are dilated.
4. She notices you.
This might take different forms depending on the girl and the situation.
5. She licks her lips.
This is, of course, especially significant if it's not hot out.
6. She smiles at you.
It should be one of those real smiles — the one that makes her eyes crinkle up.
7. She doesn't like you flirting with other girls.
She may react openly, or she might just slip away so she doesn't have to watch.
8. She hugs you.
This could take many forms, but just notice if she's trying to get close to you.
9. She touches you.
Maybe she lightly hits you or touches your clothing.
10. Her friends give you clues that she like you.
Watch for their reactions like giggling or sudden silence if you approach, or notice if they ask you what you think about their friend.
11. She seeks you out to talk to.
Maybe she lingers around you when other people are leaving.
12. She develops interests in your interests.
Has she started listening to your favorite music, or watching your favorite sports teams?
13. She blushes around you.
This happens not once, but many times.
14. She plays with her hair around you.
This could be an unconscious sign that she's imagining you playing with her hair.
15. She bumps into you frequently.
This could be a sign that she wants you to start a conversation with her.
16. She shows off her body.
Does her posture or clothing seem to indicate that she's looking for your attention?
17. Her arms are relaxed or wide when she's talking to you.
Crossed arms is a sign of being closed off.
18. She breaks away from conversations with her friends to talk to you.
This is a great sign that she's into you.
19. She compliments you when you're looking good.
If she notices how you're dressed or changes in your clothing, it's a good bet she likes you.
20. She hints that she's single.
Or she might ask you if you are single.
21. She's down to hang out.
She says yes quickly if you suggest plans and might even suggest plans of her own.
22. She opens up to you.
If she's telling you about problems she doesn't usually talk about, that shows she trusts you a lot.
23. She talks about doing something in the future with you.
Maybe she mentions seeing a movie or a show in a month or so. You're on her mind!
24. She follows you online and likes your posts.
If she's posting stuff and tagging you in it, that's definitely a good sign.
25. She puts away her phone when she's with you.
This shows she's trying to give you her full attention.
26. You text frequently.
If you're texting regularly, and she's initiating too, then she probably likes you. Especially if you're texting at night.

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1. She Likes to Talk to You

Start a conversation with her. If she is happy to chat with you, that's a good sign. Some couples just click from the time they start talking and can talk for hours.

If she's nervous, she might have trouble speaking up. Give her a chance to become comfortable with you. Ask her questions and wait for her to answer. She might need some time to collect her thoughts.

The danger signs are if she looks bored or simply answers your questions with a shrug. Or, even worse, if she grabs hold of a passing friend and allows herself to be dragged away.

2. She Laughs at What You Say

If a girl likes you, she'll laugh in all the right places.

  • Hopefully she genuinely finds you amusing and isn't just working hard to encourage you. But even if she is trying a little too hard, that's okay. She obviously believes you are worth the effort.
  • Some girls get the giggles when they are nervous.

But here's the kind of laughter you definitely want to look for . . .

  • The full belly laugh you both share.

You know the kind. You're both laughing so hard you are almost crying. You feel as though you're about to split in half. The two of you share moments that are simply irresistibly funny.

Others around you think you're both crazy, but the hearty chuckles make perfectly good sense to the two of you.

3. Something Interesting Happens When Your Eyes Meet

A girl who likes you may shy away from looking at you directly. If your gaze meets, she blinks and turns her eyes away. She is not comfortable being caught looking at you. This kind of girl won't want to be seen as 'chasing' you. She waits for you to make the first move and approach her.

But some women speak through their eyes. Lucky you if your gaze connects with a woman whose eyes sparkle and invite you to come and say hello. A confident girl will directly hold your attention for longer than you'd expect before looking away.

If you're making extended eye contact with a woman, that is definitely a positive signal.

4. She Notices You

A girl who really likes you will at least acknowledge that you exist. Even if she's extremely shy, she'll find a way to let you know that she knows you're there.

If a girl completely ignores you, she has no interest in you. But is she really ignoring you, or is she sending you a quiet message that's she's noticed you but doesn't know how to react?

Here's some examples of how a girl who likes you might behave if she's really shy:

  • She's with a group who engage you in conversation, but she stays quiet.
  • She nods, or smiles. Just quickly, but it is a definite nod or smile in your direction.
  • There's a sudden interruption (or end) to her activity as soon as she sees you. Perhaps she stops singing, or dancing, or talking.

Yes, she's noticed you. She's definitely not ignoring you, or she'd just carry on whatever she was doing without missing a beat.

Watch her body language to tell if a girl likes you. Touching her neck or hair could be an unconscious sign that she likes you.
Watch her body language to tell if a girl likes you. Touching her neck or hair could be an unconscious sign that she likes you.

5. She Licks Her Lips

I'm sure you'd like to think that licking her lips is an action that should be interpreted to mean she'd love to kiss you. And yes, she might be dreaming about you kissing her. But don't get too excited just yet.

Licking her lips could simply be a sign of a dry mouth. But you have to wonder—why is her mouth so dry? If it is not an incredibly hot day and she's not just finished running a marathon, I'm guessing she's nervous.

So there's a good chance she likes you.

6. She Smiles at You

A girl who smiles at you, likes you. There's occasionally exceptions to this rule, like the girl who hopes to win some kind of popularity contest and smiles at everyone. But most girls don't bother smiling at someone they don't like.

A shy girl might not grin widely. Her smiles may be brief, but she certainly looks pleased to see you. Sometimes her smile is more in her eyes, rather than plastered on her face.

7. She Doesn't Like You Flirting With Other Girls

A girl who likes you will be uncomfortable if you flirt with other girls. Nobody likes competition. She might react openly, or may just slip away so she doesn't have to watch you giving another girl attention.

Be warned before you flirt with other girls that it might backfire. If you seem to fancy yourself as a ladies' man, she might lose interest in you. How can she trust a boyfriend who is quick to flirt with other girls?

8. She Hugs You

Does she hug you at every opportunity? We only hug people we like. Hugging you could be an excuse to get closer to you and experience the feel of your body.

Perhaps she likes you but can't tell you with words. It may be easier for her to use other strategies like hugging you and making herself very close to you.

Hugs come in different forms. Some girls just wrap themselves around boys they like. It can be a welcoming hug when you cross paths in the street or at the mall. But other girls are more likely to wrap a soothing arm around your shoulder. For instance, if you are seated and struggling with a problem on your computer. She may lean over and give you a shoulder hug, reassuring you that you can solve the problem.

9. She Finds Ways or Excuses to Touch You

She will always find many excuses to touch you or feel your body. Does she touch you when she is sitting next to you? That's a clear hint she's attracted to you. She wants to come closer to you and there is no better way or method for her than touching you on the arms or the hair.

She may pretend to remove an imaginary thing from your arm or hair. Perhaps she brushes crumbs from your chest.

Some girls give light-hearted slaps. Others grab your arm with excitement. If she's touching you, she likes you.

10. Her Friends Give Clues That She Likes You

Her best friends will know if she likes you. Look to them for clues. What do her friends do when you are around? How does she react with her friends?

  • Do her friends glance at you as you approach?
  • Do they smile when you approach them?
  • Are her friends seeming to tease her?
  • Does she look cross, as though she's afraid one of them might tell you she likes you?
  • Have any of her friends asked you if you like her?

Best friends can give lots of subtle clues she likes you.

Does she like you? Look for clues. How she responds to you will tell you if she likes you or not.
Does she like you? Look for clues. How she responds to you will tell you if she likes you or not.

16 More Hints a Girl Likes You

  1. You will learn from her body language if she likes you or not. If she's mirroring your movements, sitting closely to you, finding reasons to touch you, or fidgeting a lot, then she probably likes you.
  2. She will get interested in things you do or like. For instance if you are a fan of Manchester United, she will also develop an interest in that team
  3. You will see her blushing in your presence. This happens not once but many times
  4. Does she play with her hair when you are around her? If yes, that is an unconscious sign that shows her interest in you. She may be imagining you caressing or playing with her hair.
  5. When you are sitting or having a rest somewhere, you will find that she will walk past you a couple of times. Maybe she is trying to get your attention. She wants you to be attracted to her and is probably waiting for you to take the first step and start a conversation with her.
  6. She may lean back in a chair or sofa in order to protrude or display her chest area. She will show you 'what you are missing'. That is a sure sign that she likes you and she wants you to fall for her. She is just waiting for you to approach her.
  7. Her arms are open wide when she is talking to you and that could be interpreted to mean 'I’m open for you.' In other words it’s a sort of unconscious way to encourage you to approach her.
  8. When she is having a conversation with friends and she sees you approaching or in a nearby place, she will break from her friends and come to where you are. She wants to be closer to you at all times and that is a sure sign that you impress her.
  9. She compliments you whenever you are dressed nicely or she sees you in designer clothing. She always likes to see you looking good.
  10. Does she talk about a relationship she had in the past, making it clear that it ended and she is feeling lonely now? If yes, she is probably attracted to you. Don't assume that she's still obsessed with her ex-boyfriend. Consider it an invitation to take his place.
  11. She suggests hanging out with you or doesn't hesitate to say yes when you suggest that you two hang out. If she's down to hang out when you suggest something and doesn't even check to see if she's busy, that's definitely a good sign that she's into you.
  12. She's opened up to you, maybe telling you about something personal in her life or a problem she's dealing with. Being vulnerable often creates a feeling of intimacy, and girls won't do it with someone they don't really trust.
  13. She talks about going to something in the future with you — maybe she mentions that you should go see a movie or a concert together in a month or so. This is a really good sign!
  14. She's followed you on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat — and she likes your posts frequently, or posts stuff on your wall that reminds her of you. If you're sending each other Snapchats frequently or posting back and forth, there's definitely something going on.
  15. She puts away her phone when she's with you. When a girl gives you her full attention and focuses solely on you, that's a good signal that she's really interested in making a good impression on you.
  16. You text frequently (and she initiates too). Regular texting is a sign of friendship and interest. This is especially true if she texts you out of the blue just to find out how you're doing.

Need More Help Or Information?

I was asked the other day if I mind answering questions from guys who are still trying to tell if a girl likes you. Truth is, I don't mind. But you'll have to leave a comment and be prepared to wait a few days if I'm busy (because I do have a life.)

Be prepared for me to be honest with you. You just have to read the existing comments to see I'm not going to just tell you everything is great and you're destined for success. If I'm going to the effort of answering you, I will be honest.

Life is complicated. If you need help to figure out if a girl likes you, that's normal and okay. Sometimes you just need encouragement or a second opinion, so go ahead and ask me your question if you like. A few clues are always helpful, like your age. But don't give me your full name or hers. Have a bit of tact and discretion. I try to delete comments that will cause people embarrassment in the future if they're seen by others.

To the guy who asked if I'll answer all the questions from his friends if he puts a link to this article on his facebook page, my answer is the same. I'll answer questions if any guy wants more help or information when trying to decide if a girl likes you (but not necessarily reply to people who just leave general comments). There just might be a bit of a wait if I get flooded with questions when I'm busy doing other things.

So, sure. Leave a comment. Ask a question. I'll give you and your friends my honest opinion in the hope that it helps.

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      Chance 8 days ago

      There is this girl i really like that i can never seem to cross paths with, what should i do. I don't have any classes or a place where i see her around the school, i am very confused on what to do. Please get back to me as soon as possible.

      sincerely,

      Chance

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      Peter 9 days ago

      Does she like me if she has the same sense of humour as I do, asked me about family and other personal stuff a while ago and seems to be enjoying my company overall, but almost never initiates a conversation with me? I'm still wondering about this, beacuse I believe we have a lot in common, but I don't want to do the first step prematurely.

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      Serghei pula 12 days ago

      I invited this girl two times for restaurant but she agrees but last minute she always find an excuse like I’m sick does it mean she doesn’t know how to say no or you think her excuse is legit?

      I always talk with her about basketball and Soccerball but I never see her say or show sign she doesn’t like but without being sexist do girl like when we talk aboot sports? Thank you in advance

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      Traktor prostakov 12 days ago

      If you text a girl and she is online but doesn’t texte you or days later does it mean she doesn’t care or she busy.

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      john 2 weeks ago

      How can i find out if the young mennonite lady likes me form hope indiana tell me

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      If a girl has made such a significant impression on you, I see no reason why you shouldn’t invite her out after only one week.

      However you need to be aware she might be reluctant about going anywhere secluded or remote with a guy she’s just met. So I don’t know how she’d feel about a picnic or biking.

      She might need to know you better before accepting your invitation to go out, but you won’t know unless you ask.

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      Andrei 2 weeks ago

      If you know the girl for one week should I start inviting her to picnics or biking or should I wait and build a friendship before getting to close quickly

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Talk with the girl, Jacko. We build relationships by talking with each other. Talk, smile, ask how her day is going, have a genuine interest in what she’s doing. The more you know about each other, the clearer it will become if you like each other.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Hi Hub. I think you should forget about communicating with her on social media and concentrate on talking with her in person. Put your phone in your pocket next time you see her and tell her she has your undivided attention.

      That’s what will impress her more than anything.

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      Jacko 2 weeks ago

      I believe that this girl that is in all of my classes (highschool) might like me. She does most of the things mentioned above, like she is always looking at me, she gets shy/nervous near me, she tries to be near or next to me, and she is always complimenting me! I recently got her phone number (a month ago) and she has opened up a bit since this. I think that she is the right person for me, and I curgently like her more than a friend. Do you think that she might like me, and what should my next step be?

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      Hub 2 weeks ago

      Hi! I have a question. Here's the scenario (of what happened today)

      So I got on the same bus with a girl that I know from school. So I approached her and said hi. I was also trying to send snaps on SnapChat to maintain my streaks with my friends. It seemed like she was waiting for me to talk (as I felt like she was looking at me while I was staring at my phone), so I apologized and said that I was sending a snap to maintain my streaks. I asked her if she knew about this (as she recently accepted my friend request on snapchat). She said yes, and said that she used to do streaks before, but she recently started to do it again.

      My question is, Is she hinting to me that I should start communicating with her on social media? (as in gaining an interest in me?) Or is this just a coincidence?

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      You know all you have to do is start talking to the girl, don't you nerf? Start some kind of general conversation and see how you get along.

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      nerfpunk 3 weeks ago

      I think this girl i like likes me but cant tell. She does a few of the things you mentioned. But not freqently does this mean she is just really confident or does sbe not like me?

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      Always happy to catch up with you, Zephyr. I think you should invite her by text but tell her you can phone her to make arrangements.

      Because you did homeschooling activities together, I guess your parents all know each other so it shouldn’t be too difficult to arrange.

      Texting has worked for you fine until now.

      I’m sure your parents understand why you want to meet in person again. You can’t stay isolated all the time.

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      Zephyr 3 weeks ago

      Hey, it's me again. I hate to monopolize your time like this, but I'd love some more assistance. Hopefully this all comes through ok... I am determined to ask this girl who I like out sometime soon, as most of my friends are encouraging me to, and I want to as well. I'm unsure as to whether she likes me or not, but she shares personal stories with me, compliments me (and I return the favor), and I think we've had some good laughs. We text very frequently, and I hope these are good signs. Now, my major problem is that we don't see each other in person anymore, as the programs where we saw each other have ended. I'm not sure if asking someone out via text is appropriate, as I have zero experience with this. I suppose I could call her though. Do you have any advice for me? Thank you!

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      You say offering an apology is ‘not your style’ and you try to make excuses for telling a girl you hope she dies. Not cool. Not acceptable.

      I believe any girl is much better off without having those sorts of complications in her life. If you make girls cry, it is not enough to just regret it.

      If your message is true (and you and I both know why I doubt it is an authentic and sincere message), you’d definitely need to address your personal issues and change your attitude and behavior if you ever want to be trusted by a girl.

      So I suggest you get some professional help to help you with all your issues.

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      Devin 4 weeks ago

      Hey so i like this girl Leila she is really cute and everybody tells me she likes me even she told me and i like her back but im a complete jerk she asked me out twice the same day and i was pissed at my ex and she asked if i was into her i said no because she is my ex well anyways Leila told me she loved me and i was mad people can say that and they betray you i told her hope you die and i regret it completely she cried and i wanted to apoligize but thats just not my style i guess i dont know what to do every day when she comes to school she looks like she doesnt sleep and i fear its because of me please help im not that kind of guy that shows much emotion due to my rough childhood having my mother die and my father abusing me i feel helpless.

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      I wouldn’t bother asking your co-worker if.she likes you, Znoodle. Just ask her if she wants to hang out. If she says yes, that tells you she likes you, doesn’t it?

      About your problem with being quiet and kind of shy, take a look at my article about Shyness Remedies. I’m thinking it might help you become more confident and less stressed about dating.

      It sounds to me like she wants to get to know you and spend time with you. That’s something you should be doing outside of work hours, so invite her somewhere.

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      It warms the heart to discover someone you can feel so good around, Izzy. I understand your confusion though. Yes, you’re right, she might be viewing you as a ‘bestie’ instead of seeing you as a potential partner.

      It would be a shame to lose her if you make a move she considers inappropriate. I’m thinking perhaps you just keep having a great time together and wait until college comes around. You don’t want her thinking she has to ‘break up’ with you before she leaves. Might be worth staying ‘friends’ until you figure out how that’s going to work out.

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      Znoodle6032121123 5 weeks ago

      I'm new to this, and new to dating aswell, I've been friends with a co-worker of mine, and I like her but I don't know if she likes me back and I don't want to make it awkward if she doesn't so I haven't asked. but we seem to get along well, and recently she always has a smile on her face when I'm talking to her, and she asks if im okay each time I see her. and she some times make teases me about things and playfully punches me, and I said once I said Ouch, No add and she added me 3mins after i said that and she said she barely uses her phone. she always encourages me to do stuff I'm not sure about it because I use to be a quiet kid so i'm not obvious to this. any advice would be nice if you don't mind. I haven't asked her to hang out at all because I've been busy with stuff. I'm scared to ask, I know im a wuss lol

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      Izzy03 5 weeks ago

      i probably should of said this in my last thing but i thought it might help. we're so similar in like every aspect. we're always agreeing on what we believe in and with everything we talk about in general. Appearance doesn't really matter to me; she doesn't look like a model but she is absolutely gorgeous.

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      Izzy03 5 weeks ago

      my heart has put me in a silly situation where i like this girl who is going to go to college soon. she's kind of a social butterfly which makes it hard for me to tell if the signs she's giving off are just how she is or is around me. we basically text every day for hours straight. she's always bumping into me. we make jokes... well I make sarcastic jokes that makes her give me an adorable smile. we're always make a lot of eye contact but i always look away because I'm kind of shy with this type of stuff. and she makes sure I'm paying attention when she talks to me. normally with people it takes months or years to get me to trust them with my deep feelings but after i met her i just couldn't help myself in telling her everything. she always says that she doesn't want me to get hurt, and that she won't leave me when she goes off to college. maybe this is just how a good friend is supposed to act but that's why i came here.

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      Smarmy2 5 weeks ago

      %13 of people in a relationship

      Something is wrong here, an article entitled "26 Ways to Tell If a Girl Likes You" has a poll that says %13 of the people are in a relationship.

      If you're in a relationship, why are you reading this article?

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      David 5 weeks ago

      Girls are like cats. Their feelings are based of non verbal communication, eye contact, emotions. They read men's emotions through eye contact, as well as make men feel emotions through eye contact. Also include eye contact & they sense a man's smell.

      Men are like dogs. They resort to verbal communication, and are interested in how the girl thinks.

      Tips:

      1. Make random spontaneous trolly jokes, make the girl giggle & smile.

      2. Compliment her new hair style and manicure, followed by a quick eye content & smile.

      3. Whenever conversation pauses, make good eye contact, smile and show a little blush. If she likes you, she will smile back and blush as well.

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Ian, if she seems like the perfect girl, that's reason enough to put yourself out on a limb and get to know her better.

      Yes, she might reject your invitation to join you for a coffee or a milkshake or a movie or whatever ... but what you have lost? Not much, in the grand scheme of life.

      And she might accept your invitation. In which case, what have you gained? Time with a perfect woman and the chance to get to know her better,

      I think that's worth the risk, don't you?

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      Ian 6 weeks ago

      Hi, I'm new to this but i'll just get to the point. There's this girl I met a few weeks ago at a tennis game. After a few games, I started talking to her, both at the tennis courts and on the phone and I really like her. We've had some good laughs and chats, as well as tennis games. She's great in every way, personality, looks and brains. Basically the perfect package. It's just hard to tell if she likes me as well. I've caught her looking in my direction when no ones around me a few times but other then that she's very good at hiding any signs. How do I find out if she really does like me when barely any signs are given or does she just wanna be friends??

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      Daniel Long 6 weeks ago from All Over

      I’m thinking she definitely notices you, Manuel, and probably likes you. Start having conversations with her to show you are approachable. When you start chatting you’ll have more of an idea.

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      Manuel 6 weeks ago

      Since i go to high school my crush sits in front of me and most of the time she turns to look but im not sure why and also she says sorry a lot to me when even the slightest thing happens does she like me???

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      Daniel Long 6 weeks ago from All Over

      That’s fine, Z. Technology is great when it works, but we all know things don’t always go to plan. Now, back to the issue of your girl.

      It sounds like you are ‘fishing’ for her to tell you she likes you. I’m not sure that’s a good thing. I think you should just be staying in touch and talking about things and getting to know each other, so that you’ll be more ‘aware’ of each other the next time you meet.

      I’ve mentioned this very topic to a few friends and we all agree that ‘romances’ carried out via text often fall flat when the couple is face to face. Better to wait until some time in the future when you are together. Then you can tell her that you like her, and see how she reacts.

      Her secret crush might be a famous musician, and she might think it is just a general conversation topic you suggested. So don’t get your hopes up, and don’t feel broken hearted.

      Your goal was to stay in touch with her between meet-ups, and you’re doing that. So be happy, and chill.

      It will be harder to fix it if you push her too far in these early stages. So I suggest you stay away from topics that are best discussed when you can actually see her face, and her reactions.

      Not sure if I’ve answered all your questions or not. Let me know.

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      Zephyr 6 weeks ago

      Also, we were asking each other random questions the other day, and I asked if she had any secret crushes. She responded no, and for a few minutes I was heartbroken, until a few question later she said "back to the crushed question, yes I do have one." She says she forgot because she was tired, and I'm really not sure what it all means. I'm so sorry for the confusion with it cutting off my messages. Thank you!

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      Daniel Long 7 weeks ago from All Over

      Sure, I remember you, Z. Home schooling and you got the girl’s number. I’m glad to see you’re putting it to good use. Only part of your message came through. It doesn’t show your questions. Maybe you could pick up where it drops out and send me the rest. Then I’ll get back to you.

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      Zephyr 7 weeks ago

      And all of this is over text, by the way, in case that wasn't clear.

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      Zephyr 7 weeks ago

      Hallo! Remember me? Well, I'm back and have a few questions for u. That girl from whom I got a number? Well I'm really not sure how she feels about me. She opens up a lot to me (she's said she's "weird" a few times and I've told her repeatedly that I like that she's different), we're very similar in music, movie, academic, and other things, about a week ago, I told her that she was easier to talk to than anyone else and she said "I'm nit like everyone else, I care about how my friends feel. I feel like I can be myself around her, and she doesn't seem to mind, and she uses a lot of

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      Daniel Long 7 weeks ago from All Over

      If I was you, Low, I’d be telling her ‘I believe honesty is important in any relationship, and I honestly think you’re great. So now I’m torn between wanting to ask you on a date ... and not wanting to risk our friendship if that would make you uncomfortable. So, what do you think I should do?’

      That leaves the way open for her to say if she’d rather just say friends. In which case you can say, ‘Okay, I can do that. But you’re going to have to stop being so close to perfect.’

      If you keep it ‘light’ I’m guessing you’ll be able to maintain the relationship whatever her answer is. If she gets distant at all, you could pick things up again with a line like ‘That worked. I’m just seeing you as a friend again. So let’s get back to being friends, yeah?’

      But I’m hoping you get the positive response and I think you’ll regret it if you don’t try. Let me know how it goes because it sounds to me like you’d be good together.

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      L.o.w 7 weeks ago

      We are both 20 and have been in relationships. All I'm sure is that she cares about me just not sure if its romantic or not. Like she literally remembers everything that I tell her, which is something that caughts me off guard since im not used to someone paying that much attention to what i say, but at the same time she might just have really good memory.

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      Daniel Long 7 weeks ago from All Over

      I'm thinking her age (and yours) will be the deciding factor here, L.o.w. It sounds like you're both on track for a future romance, but if she's too young to be considering the idea of having an actual boyfriend you probably don't want to push the boundaries of your current relationship.

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      L.o.w 8 weeks ago

      I have problems figuring out what this one girl thinks of me. We met at a social gathering where we hit it off. After that I started going there in a regular basis just to talk to her. I just found myself capable of sharing my views with her and even opening up about my personal life and she opened up about some personal things too. I took it a step further by inviting her to hang out with my friends outside of the social gathering, which went well and she in turn invited me to celebrate her Birthday and to other outings.

      The problem is I don't want ruin relationship we already have by admitting my feelings to her and she's the kind of person who's very social by nature, which means she might just genuinely want to be my friend.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Congratulations, Zephyr. I’m happy to have helped you. If you have any more dating dilemmas in the future, just come back and ask. I expect you to use her number now that you have it. No doubt she’ll be waiting to hear from you. My one last suggestion for now is to resist the temptation to overload her with your presence. Be upbeat and positive, but be aware that her parents might be keeping an eye on what you’re writing to her. So don’t blow your chance for ongoing communication with her.

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      Zephyr 2 months ago

      Thank you Daniel! I took your advice into account and she gave me her number today. I know it's not as huge as I think it is, but this rocks! If you have any future advice for me, let me know

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Why won’t you see her for four months? Does she spend that time at home in France? You could go visit her if you’re rich , or talk to her using technology if you’re not. Seems pointless to leave things hanging through the break.

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      Just Another Lover 2 months ago

      Hey Man, I am a college student and there is this french girl that I have been talking to for a while. She took me for her formal and then we guys held hands, took cute photographs and danced romantically after having drinks. I don't know what to do. Highkey wanna make her mine and date her but the semester is about to end and we guys won't see each other for 4 months.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      You have lots of excuses for getting her email plus phone number if you’re both home schooling, Zephyr. I’m sure youust have documents or links or some kind of schooly stuff you could offer to share with her.

      Plus why not ask her if she has lots of.friends or if she’s interested in maybe talking face to face between meetings because you’d love the chance to chat (or text) with someone your own age.

      Tell your parents it is hardly ‘dating’. You’re just being sociable. They can’t object to that. Then you can just figure out how well you do or don’t get on before actually asking her out sometime in the future.

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      Zephyr 2 months ago

      Hi! I've seen you helping with other people down below, so here goes! I have a "special someone" that I really want to get to know better, maybe eventually go out with. The only problem is that I'm homeschooled (she is too) so we see each other twice a week maybe. The events where we see each other are ending at the end of this month, and I think now would be as good a time as ever to see if I could get her number. Do you know a good way to go about that? I'm also wondering what I would do if we aren't dating by the this time next year, because she will have "aged out" of the things we see each other at. I would really love some help with this, thanks! Btw my parents are the protective type and they seem to want to keep me from dating until I could actually go somewhere with it. They know I have a crush on her, and I'm going to tell them I'm trying to get her number. Saw your replies down below about that subject and I'll use them. Thank you so much!

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      There’s things we do when we like someone, Ricochet, and there’s just no hiding them. My advice to you is pretty much the same as I wrote to the last person, including my suggestion to follow the link in this article to my Shyness Remedies.

      As for your parents, don’t worry if they see it as a crush or a developing relationship. As parents of a teenager they must know you’re going to ask someone out sooner or later. Tell them not to worry about whether or not you get your heart broken. (It happens to all of us and we survive.) Just ask them to be supportive as you venture into the world of dating.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      ‘Are you flirting with me?’ is the kind of question that generally gets a ‘no’ answer. A much better question is ‘Do you want to go to a movie sometime?’ Then you’re more likely to get a ‘yes’ or a ‘maybe’ and just have to firm up a time.

      Meanwhile, try out my ‘Shyness Remedies’ to help get you more confident.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Yes, it will help you Joe. But don’t just grab hold of one clue. The more signs the better your chance. At your age you might have to wait a while so don’t be in too much of a hurry.

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      Ricochet17 2 months ago

      So, I've had this crush for the LONGEST time and I'm really not sure if the feeling is shared. I think it's clear that I like her (I can't stop smiling, she catches me looking at her, etc) but I always act so weird. I can't stop thinking about her, and try to have regular conversations with her, but I've always been socially awkward. Any tips? My other problem is trying to figure out how she feels towards me, like if we're just friends or she wants to be something more. I caught her twirling her hair earlier today, and she NEVER does that. I'm not sure if I'm just seeing things where they aren't. I'm under 18 as well, so I think my parents just see it as a crush, and if I did want it to be more than that I'm not sure how they'd respond. I'd love it if you could help me out! Thanks

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      Unknow 2 months ago

      Hi daniel, i have know this girl for quite long, but sometimes i still dont understand if there is any intentions of her actions. I did ask her before but she say she wasn't flirting with me. i got this feeling that she like me but can it be possible that she is just shy?I know she is single.but im not sure if she like the other guy or she is waiting for me to make a move. im a shy guy too, so im very passive and im not sure what to do, but i want to ask her to go out but im only scared it will become awkward next time

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      Joe Gato 2 months ago

      Will this help in high school? I'm in high school now.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      So if she’s the cousin of the guy who is married to your sister, I don’t see a problem. You’ll just have to find more time to catch up with her.

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      Div 2 months ago

      I like this girl however there'S one problem she's my brother in laws cousin!! We used to talk regularly but since I started working we don't talk much in fact now it's more of wishing each other on birthdays and on festiv days...but she always checks my posts and updates.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Being clueless is a natural part of life, Christian. Experience teaches us lots of things, but learning along the way is fun too. You’ll never know if things might have worked out with her unless you try. I can’t see you’ve got anything to lose so I think you should keep talking with her and asking her out until it’s not fun anymore.

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      Christian 2 months ago

      Hey! I am really clueless about a girl I like. She is a colleague of mine. I was on her first house Party, but acted quite cold around her. Since then we never found a Moment to talk alone. She glances at me from time to time and moves her eyes away when I Meet her glance. In group conversation she normally takes interest in my activities (what I did last week with friends, if I go home, which law firm I applies to). We talked online many times and invited her out some times, but she had no time. I also had to refuse an offer for Lunch some weeks ago. But normally she never Starts a conversation with me online. I Made some moves, but she did not approach me in any way. Sure she is nice, smiles at me but she is nice to everyone. I really have no clueless what to do. She also had a boyfriend until recently, but thats over now.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Dan, after her exams I think you should get together for another drinks session. At some point you should find a chance to ask, ‘So are you telling me you’d have no interest in dating me, even if I asked you?’

      That should steer the conversation in a direction that gives you an answer.

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      Dan Snow 2 months ago

      During the drinks session, we clicked really well, and after that we were constantly messaging back and forth over the next few days. However, she is very selective of her friends and so far only has a few friends she hang out with. She confides that she has turned cold toward a guy friend of 5 years who tried pursuing her persistently despite her hints of no interest. She also tells me somewhat jokingly that she's only warm with me because I have not confessed my interest. lol. At this point she is busy with her exams and would not be free till two weeks later. However i feel we've hit a stalemate in our messaging (it's tiring to exchange daily banter of routine without a real purpose). My question is, how do I know if she's interested in me? ?

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      No, that wasn’t a wrong move. Better to wait until it is just the two of you instead of her being conscious of child and maybe other family watching. You can both be more honest and open when you’re alone. Don’t overthink it, just go with the moment. You won’t know if you don’t try.

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      Souljah11 2 months ago

      Daniel,

      She is most definitely not married nor has she been. I’m going to do that when we go out! Like I said in my previous post she invited me to dinner with the family her step mother made some comments about me being good looking and that I probably have quite a few dates lined up and I’m pretty sure I could have kissed her that evening when we parted ways I got the feeling it was n the air but out of respect I didn’t because her child was right there. Wrong move?

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      I’m guessing she’s not married, Soulja. So I think you should kiss her sometime during your date. You know you want to. We just aren’t sure how she’ll respond. But I think you should kiss her sooner rather than later. Here’s why ...

      You’ll have made your feelings absolutely clear to her so there will be no more ‘question’ left hanging in the air. If she makes it clear she’s not interested, you can decide whether or not to continue as just friends. It should be easy for you to apologise and say now that you know the rules, you’ll follow them.

      But you might be pleasantly surprised. Perhaps she’s just waiting, unsure of how you feel so soon after your divorce.

      Give her a sincere and meaningful kiss (if she’s not married), then stop and see what happens next. Whichever way she plays it, you’ll cope just fine.

      I will certainly be interested to hear how it works out for you.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Sure, one or more of your girl friends might think you’re interested, Garrett. Unless you’re in the friend zone. Do you want them to think you’re interested, or not? You could adjust your actions to send a clearer message.

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      Souljah11 2 months ago

      Daniel,

      I’m recently divorced and have hung out with a long time friend recently on quite a few occasions. Her and I had a fling in high school and have remained close since even throughout my marriage what started as a play date for the kids turned into me catching feelings she’s invited me to dinner with her family and her and I constantly text sometimes she initiated the convo sometimes I do. We are going out soon just the two of us as I asked her out and her step mother made some comments in front of her about me being handsome and prolly having all the women. I feel like there’s definitely mutual interest but I’m worried I’m over anylzing it and am not sure how to really tell if she’s feeling the same about me as I am about her? Where should I go from here what should my next move be I’ve been out the dating scene or courting if you will for a decade!

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      Garrett 2 months ago

      Hi Daniel, I do many of these things to my girl friends even though I'm a guy. Will that be taken as interest? For example I consistently initiate text conversations and open up personally.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      What is it you’re going to ask her, Troopy? If she likes you? That could be awkward. Why don’t you just give her a small something as a nice gesture. It could be as simple as a pen that writes really nicely or even an eraser that leaves no marks. Just a little something she’ll keep and use.

      Any gift bigger or more expensive than that might make her uncomfortable. If she asks if she can really keep it or why you’re giving it to her, that’s the time to say, ‘Keep it. I like you. I want you to have it.’

      Don’t bother wrapping it or making a fuss. Keep the conversation comfortable.

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      The Iron troopy 2 months ago

      I really really like this girl in my class and when we do social studies we are social studies partners and sometimes she puts her hand on mine and leaves it there for a while she also very happy and laughs when I talk to her I think she likes me but I want to get her a gift for when I ask her what should I get.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      I wrote an article with my suggestions of 'shyness remedies' that might help you, Steve. Take a look at it and see if you can become confident enough to talk with Julie.

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      Steve Martinez 2 months ago

      I'm a 9th grader and there's this girl that's also a 9th grader and her name is Julie. We have 3 classes together, She stares at me when she is done with her work and sometimes she Gazes at me and I look back at her and she still looks at me. She only has girls as her friends and when I pass by them they look at me or start smiling. I don't talk to Julie at all because I'm shy and nervous and she is Really beautiful.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Be brave, Ciuwas. Suggest going out to do something together in one of your texts. That way it’s just words on a screen and nobody has to look embarrassed. She’ll be able to say ‘Okay’ pretty easily!

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Girls can initiate contact too, Michael. If you find it too much of a chore, you’ll miss some golden opportunities to meet great people.

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      Ciuwas 2 months ago

      Whats up Daniel! Haven't thought about this page in a while. Just a quick questions again. The same girl who is trying to flatter me, we just trade texts. The interval of response is various from immediate to 10 mins, but nothing more. It's been noted that even though she has other friends, she doesn't exchange texts with them, or just not with enthusiasm. However, she likes to exchange texts with me, up to 1 AM. Shes always up for anything, but she's shy, and I don't wanna put pressure, and I don't wanna be rejected. Mixed signals here man!

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      Michael 2 months ago

      why is it guys always have to initiate interest? I will never just go up to a girl and say " I like you" or even ask her out some place. I don't believe in doing anything with someone I don't know even if I do find them attractive. For some reason the art of doing this seems more like a chore than anything.

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      paliatin 3 months ago

      Thx for your help this helped me get a girlfriend

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      Chance 3 months ago

      There is this girl in school I don't have any classes with and I really like her what should I do? In the past I told her that I liked her but I think I made her uncomfortable and not like me. She sitts one table away from me at lunch and I can't move there so I can't start any conversation with her.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      It sounds like you’re popular, Jasper, if you’ve dated three girls in a group of friends... although it sounds like it didn’t work out with any of them. I suggest you just take time to have conversations with them and make an informed choice before dating another one.

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      ping 3 months ago

      I don't like her i like someone else

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      Someone Random 3 months ago

      I need Help

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      Jasper 3 months ago

      Hi im not so popular but i strong and very fast so there's this group of girls in my class I've dated three of there friends and every time I walk or run or do somthing they ether laugh, glance at me, but i sit behind them in class and they listen to what i say so what's going on

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      ping 3 months ago

      Yeah i already talk to her

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      Semi 3 months ago

      Thank you so much Daniel.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Ping, there’s not enough clues to know if she likes you. Some girls just have a habit of playing with their hair. And sometimes people just seem to stare when they’re thinking about other things. Give it time and look for more clues. If you like her, why aren’t you talking with her? If you sit next to each other there must be things you could say to start a conversation.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Sports and music are good to concentrate on while you’re waiting for years to pass, Semi. Don’t worry about your friend liking the same girl. It doesn’t have to be a big drama. She’s already made it clear she can see you’re all too young to be dating. Just be friends with your friend because that’s the relationship that’s likely to last the longest. Talk about it with him now. Tell him you’re both going to have to accept that one day she might choose to go out with one of you ... or neither of you. Truth be told, sometime in the future she might have gone out with both of you while getting to know you better. So ...

      It is really important to remember that life is a journey. Lots of highs and lows, twists and turns. You’re going to meet lots of girls/women in your lifetime so don’t view this as anything bigger than it is. You’ll survive whatever happens, Semi. Just enjoy the journey!

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      ping 3 months ago

      Okay there's this girl stares named Jamylah she's always playing with her hair around me she sits next to me in class every time i see her she's always playing with her hair does this mean she likes me?

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      Semi 3 months ago

      Thank you Daniel, btw I play the guitar and I am really good at basketball and soccer. I have another quick question, what if this girl that I asked out, might also like another guy (I am not sure if she like him but he likes her) who I am best friends with?

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      Tony 3 months ago

      This helped me get a girlfriend thanks

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Bree, you know you’re not doing yourself any favours if you try to guilt-trip the guy or make him feel sorry for you, don’t you? I remember being young when being ‘heartbroken’ seemed kind of cool and ‘normal’ if someone didn’t like me the way I thought I liked them. But then I figured out it really was a waste of time and effort. Besides, early relationships rarely work out. Instead of setting yourself up for the stress of worrying about what he’s thinking all spring break, I think you should just decide to enjoy your spring break and encourage him to do the same. Leave him with a lasting image of you smiling and saying to have a great break. Then when you see him next you’ll be able to ask him how his break was and have some fun stories of your own. I think that’s a much better position to be in.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      You can’t rush these things, Semi. The girl has given you an absolutely fantastic answer, and she makes perfect sense. If you’re both not yet teenagers there’s only one thing you can do, and that’s wait. Meanwhile I suggest you concentrate on your school work and learning to play a musical instrument and developing all kinds of skills that will serve you well in the future. You’re not going to be attractive to any girls when you’re older if you simply obsess about dating. Become a guy who performs well at school and has other talents. All those skills will make you a better ‘catch’ when you are older.

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      Bree 3 months ago

      I really like this guy, but a few months ago he said that he likes another girl. I was heart broken. I decided to talk to him next week tuesday and tell him i like him, and then not come to school. And then it is spring break so he can think about it then.

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      Semi 3 months ago

      Hi, I asked out this girl but she rejected me and said only because we are not teens yet. What should I do?

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Same advice, Charles. If you genuinely care, let her see it.

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      Charles 3 months ago

      Hi Daniel,

      Yes, i was with her and saw her eyes were glassy, so i asked her if she had cryied and why: she told me she got frustrated in the traffic and was late.

      Also she hadn’t eaten anything, so i told her she should eat something, so i inited her something, even though the concert had already started I took a moment so she could eat.

      In the concert my friends bought me some popcorn so i also gave those to her. There was a part on the concert where while holdin her i told her i really apreciated her been there with me, and she told me i must be really mad at her for been late, so i told her that i had cooled (i was very serious, not actually angry, but i never yelled at her or something like that, it was more stress of being late)

      About the jacket, time ago i tried her to wear a jacket when she was freezing, so i didn’t consider it this time.

      Thanks for the advice about her emotional needs. All night we teased each other and i think she enjoyed the night. Also, as i told you, she let me hug her and i didn’t felt her uncormftable (neither as cormftable as i would liked). One of my friends told me that while dinning we acted as a couple, but i couldn’t be very sure.

      Anyway thanks for the response and I will appreciate if you got any other advice knowing these details of the story.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      I think you should be more aware of her feelings, Charles. Looks like you’re walking a fine line right now. If you don’t change your approach you’re likely to lose her. Here’s what stands out in your story ...

      She was late, you were angry, she’d been crying on the way there. Hard to believe you were angry. If the girl you care about has been crying, why didn’t your concern for her kick in? You don’t mention in your comment why she was crying. I hope you asked her at least.

      Not surprised she didn’t respond physically. Sounds like you failed to meet her emotional needs, so what did you expect? Sounds like you might get another chance ... but also sounds like she’ll reject you again if your focus is on where you’re putting your hands.

      Next time your girl is freezing and you’re wearing a jacket or sweater, take it off and let her wear it. Then she’ll be the one to offer the hugs.

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      Charles 3 months ago

      Hi, i’ve invited this girl to a concert and a couple. In the concert i was very physical: i hold her all the concert from the low back and my hand rested in her leg. She was not physical with me, though (she only hugged me when we met at the event. She was late and i was a bit angry. She had been crying on the way to the concert).

      After the concert we went with my friends for dinner and she told me she really liked the concert and she liked me to invite her to hang out.

      Also there was a guy from her work and she presented me as her friend.

      I hugged her because she was freezing (last time i did this she moved away)

      I really belive she likes me but:

      1. she wasn’t physical with me

      2. She rejected me on the past

      What do you think?

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Do I really have to tell you why saying hi is a good idea? If you have any interest in getting to know the girl you’re going to have to speak with her sooner or later. You say hi to break the silence. First time you’ll at least find out if she’s willing to say hi back. If you’re feeling like her response is positive you ask her how her day is going. Sometimes it takes a few brief encounters to get a conversation started. But if you never say hi you’re not likely to find out if you actually do like each other or not. If you don’t want to get to know her, just ignore her when she looks at you.

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      ??? 3 months ago

      Why say Hi though. just to see how she reacts.

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      ??? 3 months ago

      Ok I will do that. But when I catch her doing it she looks away automatically like she is embarrassed to be caught.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Geez, I don’t get the fuss about girls ‘staring’. That’s not enough on its own to tell you anything. Walk up and say ‘hi’ and see what happens.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      I get that you’re confused, but I don’t see why you’re sad. You said you’d like to be more than friends on Friday and she contacted you on Sunday. That’s looking pretty positive. She’s young so she might not have been thinking of anyone ‘that way’ but I’ll bet she’s going to start giving you some thought. So you need to decide whether or not she’s worth the wait. I’d be hopeful and keep being friendly with her. Seems pointless to be impatient and/or feel crushed. She knows how you feel now so why not wait and see what happens?

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      ??? 3 months ago

      there is this girl that does stare at me frequently, and I don't know how if she likes me or not. she smiles a lot so that is out, so what do I do.

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      Curious Goi 3 months ago

      Hi. It's been awhile. In that time a few things have happened, so I'll just go chronologically. I didnt ask her to a dance as you said, although I went. We didn't slow dance but, but she showed me how to do a dance near the end. I said I liked her dress. This was January. Then it was just same old same old, until I got a phone, and asked for her number. She gladly gave it to me, and we text regularly. The thing is, ive started all but one conversation. Finally I couldn't stand it anymore and while on the bus last Friday I asked her to a movie. She said giggled and said she wasnt sure. Later we texted and she asked if we did see a movie wether it would be as friends or as more than friends. When i said more than friends, she proceeded to tell me I was a hilarious person but she didn't think of me like that. I kindly respected this. I had kind of lost all hope, until today (Sunday) she texted me and started a conversation. This was the first time she had done this. I'm really confused, sad, and hopeful. Should i still try but respectfully, or just give up? I need to know ;-;

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Hang on a minute. Forget about how she stares at you. I see a definite problem here ...

      She talks with you, she agrees to hang out with you, she gives you her phone number ... and you’re going to give up? Sounds to me like you’ve been getting on just fine. So how come you’ve decided she’s not interested in you?

      I’m left wondering exactly how you’re expecting her to react if she does think you are interesting. These things take time. If you can’t be bothered trying to build on the early positive signs, that’s a problem. If you’re expecting her to throw herself at you, I don’t believe that’s going to happen.

      I think you should continue talking and hanging out, and phone her up sometimes. That’s the way you’ll eventually find out if you like each other enough to move on from there.

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      Anon 3 months ago

      There's this girl that caught my interest. I've notice she stairs at me a lot. I've talked to her and everything. Of course, I'm terrible at meeting new people so I brought my friend and she brought her friend. So we all went to hang out together. Even when she was talking to her friend, she kept looking at me. I didn't know to much as it could be she's just being friendly or thought I was listening when i wasn't. But, assuming she also pretty shy as she didn't talk to my friend. We have talked a bit here and there. Short talks but it some thing I guess. Got her number and everything. I Initiated a conversation but also very very short (2 days ago was the last talk). My thought right now is, she isn't fully interested in me or never was. But the constant stairs is what confuses me. Any thoughts about this? Thanks in advance.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      I’m not sure how you’ve decided she already knows how you feel about her. She might not have a clue. You have to remember that other people can’t see inside your head the way you can. I suspect she’s busy thinking about her current relationship with her boyfriend so you’re probably not on her radar the way you are hoping. But that’s okay.

      You’re asking me if she really loves you. From what you’ve told me, I don’t think so. But things change with time. Maybe she’ll grow tired of her boyfriend some day and be ready to start noticing other possibilities. In which case, if you’ve always been nice and she can trust you, you might be in the running.

      Of course you might have found someone else by then. Life holds unexpected surprises.

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