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How to Ask a Girl to Be Your Girlfriend

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Read on to discover tips and advice for asking the special girl in your life to be your girlfriend.

Read on to discover tips and advice for asking the special girl in your life to be your girlfriend.

Will You Be My Girlfriend?

Maybe it is just a guy thing, but sometimes we take it for granted that because we like a girl romantically she feels the same way. Even if we have been dating the same girl for a couple of weeks we often jump to the conclusion that she is now your girlfriend, even if neither of you has discussed your official status.

Girls in one respect are just the same as guys, they too like to go out sometimes with guys just for fun, with no romantic connotations whatsoever. You know the one, a casual relationship with no strings attached.

Of course, if you have both been dating for a couple of weeks then the chances are that you are both on a similar wavelength and are developing feelings for each other.

Maybe now could be the time to ask her if she would like to make it official and become your girlfriend.

Talk to a girl for 10 seconds in front of your parents and they hear wedding bells.

Talk to a girl for 10 seconds in front of your parents and they hear wedding bells.

Embarrassing Friends And Parents

Have you ever noticed that if you are seen talking to a girl for more than ten seconds your friends, and especially your parents, assume that you like her and that she is your girlfriend?

It's embarrassing, isn't it? especially when your parents start going on about it.

Imagine what is going through their heads when you actually go out on a date with a girl, they automatically assume that you are boyfriend/girlfriend and you are both tagged with that label from then on in even if that first date went really badly and you both decided to go your separate ways.

Parents are really annoying, and if you go out with a girl for a second time, mum and dad begin planning your engagement party. Go out for a third date and the wedding bells begin ringing in your parents' ears as they arrange the seating for the reception.

Your parents and your friends assume that you and that girl are boyfriend/girlfriend and you assume that you are boyfriend/girlfriend when the truth is that you don't really know if you are.

Why Ask Her to Be Your Girlfriend

Asking a girl that you have been dating for a while to be your girlfriend may seem like a pointless waste of time and energy but there is a good reason that you should.

Commitment is a big thing for a girl, she likes to know where she stands with you, she likes to know that you are serious about her and, of course, she likes to know that you feel the same way about her as she does about you.

The simple question, "Will you be my girlfriend?" answers all of those questions in her head and means the world to her, as it shows her that you are committed to her and her alone.

You may look like a couple and you may act like a couple, but does she know that you are girlfriend/boyfriend?

You may look like a couple and you may act like a couple, but does she know that you are girlfriend/boyfriend?

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From Friend To Girlfriend

So you and this beautiful girl have been dating for a couple of weeks and you realise that you are developing some feelings for her, the odds are in your favor that she is developing the same feelings for you too.

Even if you think that she considers you to be her boyfriend, it is only right that you ask her about becoming your girlfriend, even if it is a formality. This way, you both know exactly where you both stand in your relationship and to make it official.

Once you have made your decision to ask her to be your girlfriend take action don't wait for the right time, you can't afford to wait too long because if you miss your chance you could lose her to someone else.

On the other hand, though, don't run up to her in the middle of the street and shout out in front of all of her friends "Will you be my girlfriend!" Although it may sound romantic it would embarrass her and she probably wouldn't want to see you ever again.

One of the surest ways to sweep her off her feet is to pose the question with a big romantic gesture.

One of the surest ways to sweep her off her feet is to pose the question with a big romantic gesture.

How to Ask A Girl to Be Your Girlfriend

Make sure it's the right time. Try not to think of what you are going to say because no matter how many times you rehearse it in your head things never go according to plan. Whether you take her out for a meal, a walk in the park, or a walk along the beach

Test the water before you ask the question. "I really like you a lot" is a great opener, and if she replies with something similar then it's the perfect time to ask, "Will you be my girlfriend"?

Girls like a small personal token from you, not something that you have run out and bought. For example, your class ring, the chain that you wear around your neck or even the sweater that you are wearing – anything that you have on your person that you wear or use regularly. This token item helps to prove your commitment to her.

If she says yes, don't jump up screaming! She can change her mind very quickly, so keep it simple with a cuddle and kiss to seal the deal.

Questions & Answers

Question: I love a girl, but I'm afraid of telling her. What should I do?

Answer: Simple answer: Ask her or lose her because if you don't ask, someone else will.

Question: I have asked someone to be my girlfriend, and she said she will think about it. Do I have a chance?

Answer: Yes, but give her time. She may not be ready to commit yet.

Question: What if a girl you like says that you are just friends?

Answer: If she just wants to be a friend, then the best thing that you can do is to accept that she does not feel the same way about you. Be there for her as a friend whenever she needs you to be.

Question: I asked her for the third time to be my girlfriend, and she still says that she's not ready. What should I do?

Answer: The simple answer is to wait until she is ready, stop asking her or it can come across as creepy or desperate. Give her time, and maybe when she is ready she will let you know.

Question: How should I respond if a boy asks me to be his girlfriend?

Answer: If you want to be his girlfriend say yes if not say no it is as simple as that.

Question: What do I do if I ask a girl out and midway through the relationship she tells me that she had a boyfriend before?

Answer: She is with you now and that is what matters, dont worry about the past and live for the moment

Question: What do I do if I asked a girl out and she said she had someone already?

Answer: It's time to move on. You cant force anyone to feel the same way that you do about them.

Question: How do I ask out a girl if I am ugly?

Answer: Looks do not matter as much as people think they do; it is what is inside that matters. Personality and confidence are the things that make you.

Question: I have asked her out, but she said no. She still has feelings for me. What does this mean?

Answer: If she has feelings for you, then it may be that she is just not ready to have a relationship. Give her some time and the answer may be different.

Question: What is dating about?

Answer: Dating is about getting to know each other; likes, dislikes, how you feel, how she feels, it is how you discover if you might be good for each other, or if you just don't gel.

Question: What do I do if a girl that likes me is nervous around me and walks away ?

Answer: She is probably scared of saying something stupid or coming across as dumb and gets tongue-tied when she is around you. Instead of making herself look silly or saying something foolish she walks away to try again maybe another day.

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