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The Best Ways to Ask a Girl to a School Dance

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High school is hard enough without the potential for rejection that comes with asking a girl to a school dance, unless if you're dating her (although even that may not be a safeguard).

You can't guarantee that the girl is going to say "yes." There are too many factors... she may have a previous engagement, she may be going with someone else, or she may just plain not like you.

For that reason, you can go ahead and get creative in asking a girl. What do you have to lose? There are other girls too, after all. So you might as well have a little fun in the process.

Below are some ideas that I've come up with. There are also ideas I've heard were used in the past that I am offering based on my preferences as a girl asked to dances.

Just make sure no matter what the answer is that you don't get discouraged. I'd suggest if you're really crazy about this girl... don't use these!

1st Method: The Puzzle

This involves artistic skill and time.

1. Make a really pretty invitation/plea

Get construction paper, make shapes, and use glue, glitter, and other pretty things (but don't make it too girly or anything, unless that's what you think she'd like). Make it look really nice and use nice messages; use her name and be generic otherwise. Don't forget to sign your name too or she won't know who you are!

2. Cut it up into puzzle pieces

End up with as many pieces as you have locations for them. Which brings me to step 3.

3. Put each in an envelope with her name on it and with a clue inside each

Make the first envelope easy for her to find, like have someone else give it to her. In that first one, put a clue as to where the next one will be, and so on.

4. Hide each piece

Somewhere she goes often and/or somewhere new. Eventually she'll end up with all the pieces, hopefully, and you'll get your answer in no time.

PS: You can be even sweeter and put yourself in the location of the last piece and hand it to her.

2nd Method: The String

This one is adorable, fun, and I would so fall for it.

1. Get a long long string

Easy enough.

2. Write messages

Write things like, "Just stringing you along" and "You're almost there" to tape along the string. Or you can write out a long message and the question of asking her to the dance and cut out each word to tape along the string.

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3. Set up the string

Start at her house or her work or wherever and make it lead to where you think she needs to be next, such as from home to work or to school. Or you can make it lead to you and you can ask her yourself.

3rd Method: The Shirt

I really like this one! It's so creative! And I didn't come up with it.

1. Get the shirt and write on the front

Write in permanent marker, "Will you go to the dance with me?" Also write, "Wash this shirt and look on the back to find out who asked you to the dance."

2. Now write on the back

Write a bunch of random girls' names (try not those of anyone you think might like your girl or whom your girl might like...) in washable marker.

Then put your name in permanent marker!

She'll wash the shirt and your name will be the only one left.

Other Ways to Ask a Girl to a Dance

  • Dress up in a gorilla suit, get a bunch of bananas, and go find her somewhere public and say, "I'll go bananas if you don't go to the dance with me!"
  • Get a bunch of keys and put them in a bucket. Take one and colour it and stick it in the middle. Put a note with it saying "Find the key to my heart" and with your address on it. She'll go to your house and you can ask her there.
  • Be cheesy and take chocolate Kisses and make a trail from one place to another where she usually goes. At the beginning leave a note telling her to follow it, and at the end leave a note saying, "Now that I've kissed the ground you walk on, will you go to the dance with me?"
  • Have someone trace the outline of your body on the sidewalk in front of her house and leave a note looking like a police report that somehow asks if she will go to the dance with you.
  • Get a fishbowl with a bunch of fish in it; the little guppie fish are good because you can get a lot of those without them eating each other. Then leave it at her house or her desk or something with a note saying, "Of all the fish in the sea, I choose you to go to the dance with me."


Random Person on October 25, 2017:

This was so good, thank you so much!

Gratitude Journal on June 24, 2013:

Awesome... cute... and funny! Nice hub.

josh on February 02, 2013:

These are the ways that u want people to ask people out wow

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on September 02, 2012:

Sarah, that's a great story! Thanks for sharing!

Sarah on August 30, 2012:

One of my friends got all the teachers in on a plan to ask this guy to saidies. He was in one of his classes when the teacher asked him to bring this paper to this teacher, then this teacher asked him to bring something to the office, then the office had him bring something to another teacher and so on. He had been running all over campus doing pointless erons, until he came to the last stop (which was the class the girl asking him was in) that teacher gave him a paper that said "will you go to the dance with ____?"

Fred on July 03, 2012:

Im in grade 6 and grad is coming. How should I ask my shy girlfriend?

Ron on June 07, 2012:

This is very interesting post, I like your fantastic hub!

best regards,

Ron from Fitness

Ishan on May 22, 2012:

Thanks very creative

kyle herdt on April 26, 2012:

all these r sick which one though

poopscoop on April 18, 2012:

this is so cute!

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on April 17, 2012:

Great idea dancingfreak!

Jon on April 16, 2012:

Thanks but I'm still nervous...

dancingfreak on April 12, 2012:

I asked my friend to go with me (Sadie Hawkin's status!) in one of his classes. I covered up his desk in wrapping paper and made a note that said, "I WANT YOUR BODY" on the cover, and when he flipped it, it said, "... in a suit May 18th" and then my name. It was adorable! He couldn't stop laughing.

XD on March 17, 2012:

wow these are great, my guy friend asked me to prom by writing on a paper ( my history notes) that i see so many ideas, his is lame but i said yes after like 15 minutes lol. i feel bad that i waited for so long ..

freemarketingnow from California on March 14, 2012:

Nice, creative ideas!

no one on March 02, 2012:

Good luck :-)

George on February 26, 2012:

I work with a girl and we don't go to the same school, how should I ask her to my senior prom? we always talk @ work & have talked after work in our cars, we connect & are really comfortable around each other, oh & she has a boyfriend lolol but idk she seems into me

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on February 15, 2012:

I think that if it's from the heart, then it's perfect :)

Nate on February 13, 2012:

So, i am asking a girl to a dance my school is having, im asking her tomorrow (on Valentine's Day) and this is how.

I have a teddy bear, pretty big, and its holding a box of chocolates, it has a card on it, and it says "Happy Valentines Day" To: From:.. so i put To:Katie (her name) and From:Nate (my name) then i put in the blank space.. "Will you be my Valentine? And..."

and on the back i put "Go to black and white with me?" (name of the dance is black and white.)

what do u guys think? im hand delevering it to her with a single red rose.. i also have a necklace that im gonna give her on the day of the dance when we go...

btw: she already said yes but she just wanted me to ask her in person so this is how, ima make her really happy... what do u guys think of the idea though..?

Amandazzz on January 24, 2012:

Im asking my best guy friend to saidies and i dnt wanna do anything romantic. Anyone have any ideas that have to do with twinkies?

John on January 09, 2012:

There's a military ball for afjrotc and i asked a girl to it by taking 5 balloons and sticking words in them saying Will You-Go To The- Military Ball- With me? and the last had my name so i gave them to her teachers to give to her to pop and find the answer. Unfortunately her parents wont let her until she's 16 :( But theres a different girl i want to ask but i think shes friends with the girl i already asked.. Any advice for that?

boo boo on January 04, 2012:

make a puzzle bitchessss

Mantorak on January 02, 2012:

I absolutely love the trace your body on the sidewalk infront of their house idea! Definitely using that one!

Nathan on January 02, 2012:

I'm going to do the shirt one for winter fest. wish me luck.

That guy on December 22, 2011:

Get a clementine and make an incision in it and put a note in the incision.and if you want to cover up the hole put a sticker on it.

Abby on December 15, 2011:

These are all great ideas, OMG!!! I will certanly try these

Kate on November 17, 2011:

I would be careful with the shirt one becuase even though the marker will say washable, it won't always come off. My friend tried to do that idea and not all the names came of when the girl washed it so it didn't work.

matt on November 01, 2011:

Great idea that worked out like a charm. I baked cupcakes and gave them to a girl in one of my girlfriends classes to hand out in class. And after they were all gone I had the ones left over say Will you go to Formal with me? And had the girl give those to my girlfriend.

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on October 29, 2011:

Thanks for the comment and thanks for sharing that idea!

Emma on October 27, 2011:

I would LOVE it if a boy asked me really creative!

Oh so this one football player got the annoucer at the football game to ask this chearleader during half time! He got the water boy to hand her a rose because he was preparing for the second half! OML it was adorable!

guest on October 23, 2011:

I used the tee-shirt idea but on the backk I wrote like 15393262i22928226171829474638 and my phone number was in sharpie so the rest washed off

Eric on October 17, 2011:

so, i'm debating between the puzzle idea going from her locker to me and ashton's idea to see if you can get her to come down to the principal's office and stand there holding a sign. we don't know each other very well, but i'm really hoping she says yes to me.

The real Deal on October 13, 2011:

I came up with my own idea.

Say you are picking her up from somewhere and while you are waiting, roll the windows down. But on the passenger window you have a piece of paper taped it to asking her to prom.

Before you drive off, you make sure she is looking at you and then roll the windows up.

Then look over it the passenger window and ask "can you get that off the window right quick?"

Works like a charm

Chase on October 10, 2011:

Give her a mix cd of a bunch of bands she likes playing love songs, label each track will, you, go, to, the, dance, with, me? Then tell her to put it on a computer and she will read it.

I did this and she gave me one back and when I put it on my computer it said of course I will

richardhemby from Bellevue, Washington on October 10, 2011:

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DG on October 07, 2011:

So I attempted the string one around my neighborhood, and some other girl i didn't know got to the end of the sting first... fml

Bryce on October 06, 2011:

Good Ideas! Here's one I've done in the past:

My school has practice for jazz choir early before school starts. I've been carpooling one of the girls and wanted to ask her to the winter formal. To do this, I played "Dance, Dance, Dance" by the Beach Boys on my car's Ipod player as soon as I parked. I changed the cover art to the message of asking her. It took her by total surprise, especially since I've been acting like it wasn't going to happen!

summertime on October 04, 2011:

i think i mite ask my boyfriend to sadies with the

- frog prince cute one

-or the hysterical throwing fake shit one ps to mitch that is sooooo funny!!!!!

Swimdiva on October 04, 2011:

I'm wanting to ask my really good guy friend to Sadies , and he is extremely shy, so I want to ask him in a fun/embarrassing way to break his bubble of shyness! Do u guys have any ideas?:)

Alex on October 02, 2011:

I think ill try the notes and have ask her teachers to give one to her each saying something romantic and in her last class lead her somewhere ill ask her;)

mickeydamouse on October 02, 2011:

My best friend is making a rap to ask his girlfriend to homecoming and it was the cutest thing ever!

I'm going with my boyfriend but I wasn't asked in a creative way, but I'm just glad to be going with him! lol

Matt on October 01, 2011:


Luckily for you, they don't have proms in sixth grade.

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on September 28, 2011:

Garrett, good luck! And if she says no, don't worry - I know it feels bad at the time, but I can remember when I've asked someone and they said no. It will be okay!

Nick on September 27, 2011:

Good tips. Im in 6th grade and I wanna ask this girl Bianca to the prom but I'm really shy and afraid she'll say no. If she says no I'll die. Plz help!

Garrett on September 25, 2011:

i am going to do the shirt idea, except the one where your name is not on it but when you wash it some letters spell it out, hope it works, I think its a great idea. Will tell if it did :) thanks


zack on September 24, 2011:

what i did was askthe teacher ahead of time if i could walk in her class with me carrying a note that she wouls tink would be from the office with will you go to homecoming with me and she looks up and im holding flowers

ccc on September 24, 2011:

the boy who asked me to homecoming told me he wanted to show me a magic trick, he told me to choose one of the piles of cards and then pick any card and put it back then he told me to pick the top card off the deck and close my eyes and count to ten. When i opened my eyes he was gone and the card said homecoming?

k on September 23, 2011:

funniest thing ever when my friend asked a girl to homecoming by getting the spare keys to her car from her parents and filling her car with tennis balls while she is away. under all of them is a note saying "i didn't have the balls to ask you in person, but will you go to homecoming with me??" hahaha funny and cute

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on September 21, 2011:

I hope it works too! I think it's a cute idea!

Ashton on September 21, 2011:

Okay so if your principal and teachers would agree to this, I was thinking about getting someone to deliver her teacher a note saying "Please have Bianca report to the principal's office, immediately." And she'll be all freaked out while she's walking there, but when she sets foot in the office, i'll be standing there holding a sign that says "gotcha :) will you go to homecoming with me?"

I hope it works, wish me luck! :)

Kaileeee on September 20, 2011:

If a guy dressed up in a gorilla suit and said I'll go bananas if you go to homecoming with me.... I'd be like yes. yes. yes. yes. THAT'S AWESOME.

Coreguy101 on September 17, 2011:

Well sorry but this is pretty stupid. for most of you like.. why don't you just spend some time with the girl somewhere like at school or midnight football game. I simply asked my date to homecoming on the bleachers when the game was just ending. said "yes" and let me escort her to her location where she was gettin picked up. didn't use any tricks or anything just asked. Btw some guy used the "fishbowl" at my school for prom for a woman and he got brutally rejected.. yea :p

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on September 14, 2011:

Jake, thank you for sharing and it's so good to hear! :D

Jake on September 13, 2011:

Thanks for the great ideas im in grade 8 and i took those hershies kissies and glowsticks and got her parents to signal when she got home from baseball they sent her outside and found them they went around her house when she got to the door i was there with a boucque of fllowers and asked her she was so happy and said yes i find it works best simple and easy thanks for the great page girl love it great tips :)

sex hound on September 12, 2011:

i love bunnies

Austin on September 12, 2011:

This is the one Im doing. I got her locker partner to open her locker and im putting a note that says" The kid standing behind you with flowers wants you to go to homecoming with him" and of course ill be standing behind her with flowers waiting for her to turn around.

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on September 10, 2011:

Eaves, I love it!

EAVES14 on September 09, 2011:

I used a different method that you could post on here,(use candy bars for the bracketed)

[SUGAR BABY], please don't [SNICKER]. Will you go to homecoming with me?


John Doe.

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on September 07, 2011:

So cute Cody!

Cody on September 05, 2011:

When I asked my friend to homecoming, we had been outside and it was pretty cold, and I could see she was shivering, so I took my flannel off and put it around her, a couple minutes later I pretended I was checking my pockets for something and asked her if I had left something in my shirt pocket (the one she was wearing) when she checked the pocket and pulled out a piece of paper and a huge grin spread across her face as she said yes :]

tjbd on September 05, 2011:

never use the string one i got sent to jail for 3 years!

Ealezlie on September 03, 2011:

What I'm doing this year is creating a tic tac toe game, which is a running competition for us. But anyways, it's a 4x4 grid, and it will spell out "homecoming?" I'm thinking I'll put it up on the web if anyone's interested.

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on August 31, 2011:

Thank you all for your comments! on August 30, 2011:

My 17 yo son used the String and Shirt idea combined tonight to ask a girl to homecoming. He really liked your ideas. Thanks.

kendall. on August 27, 2011:

uuhmmm , i have to ask my boyfiiend too homecomming , annd he did the starr thing. excpect for prom , hes askinf me to his homecomming , i wanna ask him to mine in a cute manner ,hoooww?

hey on August 24, 2011:

the awkward moment when you do the shirt idea and your names choww

Sun-Girl from Nigeria on June 24, 2011:

Nice hub and thanks for sharing.

big z on May 02, 2011:

I am going to write "name prom?" and then under "yes or yes" lol! i already know she wants to go with me so its more of a joke. don't suggest being so cocky if its uncertain

Umair S Khan from Pakistan on March 17, 2011:

The puzzle part was good.

Carly on March 11, 2011:

Great ideas! Another idea is getting cosomizable emanems and having them say will you go to_____ dance with me? That can be expencive though.

? on March 06, 2011:

these things are so crappy and mushy make sumthin that actually makes the girl think ur really manly like you me the dance tommorow lets do it then walk away fast so she can't reject u... pretty good a?

James S on March 06, 2011:

So many good ideas! Been helping my little bro with asking a girl to the formal all week, basically he's just combining ideas from this like wiki site, but some of these are even better! If you did one of these and it worked can u please submit it to that how i asked site so we can come up with more for my bro lol

Steph on March 05, 2011:

Omg!I would totally be happy if a guy did this to me :)

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on February 27, 2011:

That's fair :)

Leoz on February 23, 2011:

These are really cool ideas but do something original! Don't make a girl like u when u using other peoples ideas!

Sergii on February 05, 2011:

i did the puzzle one and she loved IT. Thanks:) :D.

Stephanie on January 29, 2011:

Thanks for these ideas I proposed to her and she said YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Richard on January 24, 2011:

i used the gorilla one and the girl got scared and punched me in the face

??? on January 20, 2011:

I'm in 6th grade and i'm going to use the string one on a girl to see if she'll go to the dance with me. Except i put th string in a small box with hole on the bottom and the string sticking out. the first note says "pull the string" and there are other notes after it. at the end it says, "will you go to the dance with me?" hope it works and thanks for the idea person who came up with the string idea. I'll reply if it works and if i get a girlfriend i will be overjoyed!!!!!!!!!!! If it works, thenk you in advance, and if not thanks for the idea anyway. :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ham on January 10, 2011:


THNxxxXx :D


Reejh on January 01, 2011:

Omg! I'm so excited, I'm going to use either the string idea or the hangman idea to ask my boyfriend to turnabout! I'm glad I came across this site!!!! Thanks so much!

afzal hny on December 16, 2010:

HeyIt'sMe 3 weeks ago

Good ideas, I'm a senior girl in high school and I wouldn't say no to anyone who asked me creatively.

My guy friend asked me to prom last year in a super cute way! He had one of my friends pull me out of my study hall, blindfold me, and lead me around the school. When she took the blindfold off of me, we were standing by my locker facing 15 of my girl friends who were each holding a flower. They all yelled SURPRISE and handed me their flowers and he stepped out of the middle, handed me more flowers, and asked me to go to prom with him! I loved it!

sim 3 weeks ago

crap, i better ask out my crush before i go to vo tech next year

rachel 36 hours ago

okay some of these are really cheesy but sweet at the same time

rachel on December 14, 2010:

okay some of these are really cheesy but sweet at the same time

sim on November 24, 2010:

crap, i better ask out my crush before i go to vo tech next year

HeyIt'sMe on November 18, 2010:

Good ideas, I'm a senior girl in high school and I wouldn't say no to anyone who asked me creatively.

My guy friend asked me to prom last year in a super cute way! He had one of my friends pull me out of my study hall, blindfold me, and lead me around the school. When she took the blindfold off of me, we were standing by my locker facing 15 of my girl friends who were each holding a flower. They all yelled SURPRISE and handed me their flowers and he stepped out of the middle, handed me more flowers, and asked me to go to prom with him! I loved it!

no one on November 14, 2010:

put oreos all over their car and decorate the inside. you can arrange the oreos into the question or put the question insid ethier car. you stick the oreos on by taking one of the cookies off and sticking the cookie on the car frosting side down

scholarshipsformo from California on October 13, 2010:

Thanks for sharing this!

Sue on October 05, 2010:

Heard of a couple cute ways to answer a date. Get a pair of your pants and pin little papers with the letter P all over them, deliver them to the guy asking with a note saying I was so excited you asked me to the dance that I P'd my pants. I'd love to go with you!

The other idea along the idea of the shirt is have a picture of you with your arms held out ironed on to a t-shirt . Write yes in one hand in permanent marker and no written in washable marker. Attach a note saying to wash the shirt and they would find out the answer.

girlaskingbestfriend. on October 04, 2010:

okay, so i am asking one of my best guy friends. & i have NO idea how to ask him and i need to ask quick before someone else does.. This dance is called "Santa Switch." obviouslly, the dance is in decemeber. He loves oreos so i wanted a cute creative way to ask him with something to do with oreos! any ideas?! pleaaaase help.

TE on October 01, 2010:

k I heard about this one at school the other day.

apparently this girl asked the guy's math teacher who she also had for math just during a different period, anyway she asked the teacher to put a question on the test saying something like, " If ( the girls name) made a banner to hang in the cafeteria that was 2m by 10m that said (guys name) will you go to the dance with me; what would his answer be?" the teacher did this for her so the day after having the test the guy put a banner up in the cafeteria that was 2 by 10 saying "yes (girls name) I thought that this was pretty sweet!! It would only work if you share a teacher and the teacher is nice enough to cooperate.

Heart Broken on September 28, 2010:

Yeahhhhh I did an idea where I spelled out her name, my name and homecoming with a bunch of weed. I would not recommend any of you try that one, it didn't work.

bonnnernoi on September 27, 2010:

it didn't work i used the string one and thought it was candy so i kept eating it.. imagine pooping that thing out

daf on September 23, 2010:

yaaaa... im just going to drop a note in her locker...

Turekboy on September 14, 2010:

I used the shirt idea and it worked great! I bought a pink fitted t-shirt, wrote her name on the front in big letters and under that in smaller letters "will you go to" and under that in big letters "HomeComing" and under that in small letters "with me". Then I wrote the instructions under that, but I wrote them in washable so if she ever wanted to, she could wear the shirt. One more alteration that my dad came up with was to hide the letters of my name, in permanent marker, inside of the other boys' names, so she had no idea that it was going to be me. I delivered it folded and wrapped in cellophane with some roses tied with a ribbon that I picked from the rose bushes at my house. It was perfect.

glassvisage (author) from Northern California on September 14, 2010:

Great ideas!! Thanks for stopping by!

Veeze on September 14, 2010:

So one of my best friends just got asked to homecoming by a guy. She had a practice that ran late so her dad went in to stall when the guy was preparing... When she walked to the car she saw 8 red ballons numbered one to eight then tee was a note on the hood of the car saying pop me with this pen. So she had to pop all of the ballons in number order and in them were little notes saying .will u go to homecoming with me? But then with the last ballon it had the guys name in it.... It was so adorable, now that he has a date now time for me to get one :)

TipOfTheDay on September 13, 2010:

Get a large Little Ceasers pizza (the hot and ready kind) and stick a note on it that says, your hot, im ready, will you go to Sadies with me? All the guys I know would love it (:

BringTheNoise on September 12, 2010:

Alright, this one takes a little bit of setting up and preparation before hand, but is TOTALLY worth it. The first thing you must do is acquire a whole bunch of items that have to do with music, i.e. posters, CDs, records, band t-shirts, etc etc. You assemble all of the items in a creative fashion, and invite the to where you've done this very casually. (Make it so he/she has to walk through it to get to you) At the end of all the music-ness, make a poster that says, "All this music is pretty good, but nothing sounds better then you going to [dance name] with me! and your standing to the side with flowers waiting for the person. Super cute and works every time

Rose on September 04, 2010:

I'd say yes to a guy in a heart beat if he asked me like this.(any tips?) But sadly I have no date for the October upcoming Homecoming. I'm kind of sad but will probably go with girl friends instead. I know some girls last year who didn't get dates and made it a girls night out. THey looked like they were having the most fun at the dance out of anybody!!! Plus they asked each other by leaving notes on the front of each other's lockers saying: Will You Join Our Ladies Night? (insert time here) at Livey's house! Dance Time! And put a word on each of the girls' lockers in order it was hilarious and they started a school trend.

on September 02, 2010:

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