How to Impress a Boy: 5 Things You Can Do to Impress a Guy You Really Like
What can a girl do to impress a boy? This is a frequently asked question posed by many girls who are interested in a guy, and are looking for ways to get his attention easily and faster. There are definitely many things you can do to impress a guy you like. I have discussed this topic with some of my international friends, and will discuss the points we all agree on.
5 Things You Can Do To Impress A Guy You Like
First you need to get a guy to notice you. And then, you'll want to keep him interested in you. But how do you get a guy's attention without being seen as desperate?
Impressing the guy you like shouldn’t be a one dimensional thing, but something you need to approach from many different angles. One technique might not be enough to get his attention (or hold it), so it is best to come up with a few good ideas if you want to succeed with your goal of trying to impress him.
Here's five things you can do to impress a guy you like. Good luck!
1. Be Good At Something
We are all impressed by someone who excels. If you are good at something, people notice. And the guy you like will probably also be impressed. You don't have choose something he's good at too. It can be really exciting to talk to someone who can achieve what you find really difficult.
My Australian friend loves going to the beach, but is not a good surfer. He is most impressed by women who can grab a surfboard and ride the waves.
An American friend is really impressed by girls who are cheerleaders. But he admits when he was at school he was in awe of a girl who was brilliant at math. He couldn't understand how she could calculate difficult problems in her head, without even needing a pen and paper. (He struggled to get the answers cheating with a calculator!)
We all agree that girls who are good at just about anything impress us. Here's a word of warning though. If you are exceptionally good academically, it might be hard for the guy you like to approach you. You might have to speak to him first. Yes, guys can get inferiority complexes too!
2. Be Yourself
Be confident in your own skin. Don't try to be what you aren't because that can easily be noticed by the guy you are trying very hard to impress.
Guys don't like girls who are fake. We like our women to be genuinely friendly. Genuinely interesting. Genuinely interested ... or up-front and honest about their disinterest in a topic or event.
Don't pretend you really like football, fishing or bushwalking if you won't enjoy doing it every weekend. That will just cause problems in the future. Lots of couples have different interests and go their separate ways for a while. But when they get together again, they are excited to see each other and share their news!
Are you in a relationship?
3. Take Care What You Wear
There are so many ways you can impress a guy with the clothes you wear. Of course it depends on the guy, and it depends on you. But the general rule is 'take care what you wear'.
Most women settle into a personal style when choosing their clothing. If you want to impress a guy, give some thought to the clothes you are wearing. Tracksuits are great when you are doing something sporty. And yes, they can be really comfortable to wear around the house. But if you are someone who always wears baggy tracksuit pants and a loose-fitting sweater everywhere you go, that's not very impressive.
Branch out and try something new. At least one outfit that's cute and tight-fitting. If you always wear runners, try a different type of footwear.
If you are afraid you'll look uncomfortable and awkward wearing your new outfit out in public, wear it at home for a while first. Get used to seeing your new image in the mirror, walking in your new shoes, and sitting in a tight skirt. (Or any skirt, if you generally wear pants all the time.)
No need to buy an outfit that's incredibly revealing. Low cleavage doesn't really impress guys. Yes, probably every male you pass will notice your exposed skin. But that's not necessarily because they are impressed.
It can be a lovely change, however, when a girl wears a different of outfit to her normal choice. Not only can a new style of clothing draw more attention to her figure, but a new outfit can make a statement about her personality and confidence. So take care what you wear.
4. Let Him Know You Notice Him
Is this so hard? Is it really difficult for girls to give a guy some kind of encouragement?
It really impresses me when a girl allows herself to smile. Or laugh. Or blush. Some kind of indication that she's noticed a guy actually exists.
You don't have to throw yourself at a man, or pretend to be captivated by every word he says. Being a bit aloof can be kind of sexy and appealing. But being a stone wall doesn't work for many women. Sure a few might get away with it, but it comes with a big risk.
If you like a guy, give him a clue. Let him know you notice him, and he'll be more likely to pay attention to you as well.
5. Lend A Helping Hand
This is not to suggest you become a doormat. You're not going to become the girl who is always trying to stick her nose into everyone's business. You won't be standing by to jump into action every time someone needs a helping hand. But you will be keeping an eye out for that perfect opportunity to lend a helping hand as a strategy to impress the guy you like.
There's lots of ways you could be helpful, and gain the attention of that special guy.
- Help his friend (without looking like you're hitting on his friend, of course.)
- Help his little sister (with something like homework or music lessons.)
- Volunteer for a charity group (ideally in a place he walks past every day.)
- If you know his mother or grandmother, keep an eye out for opportunities to lend a hand.
If your goal is to impress him, look for an opportunity to step up and help. Not only will he notice you, but you'll have something to talk about. Any involvement you have in any of the examples above gives you a great conversation starter. Helping someone else just might be the key to helping you impress the guy of your dreams.
Questions & Answers
I like this boy but he does not like me back, and he is popular in my school. What do I do?
You do what 99% of the people in the world have done when the person they like doesn’t like them back. And that is, get over it and move on. Sure, it is disappointing. But all the disappointments we face are simply part of the experience of life. And with each experience, we all become a little more resilient.
We can’t go through life expecting everyone to like us and everything to go our way. (It is kind of cool to learn that when we’re young. Toughens us up and prepares us for the big, wide world after graduation from school.)
When you walk down the street, every adult you pass will have liked someone (probably more than one) who didn’t like them back. Even people who are madly in love with a wonderful partner today, had their hearts broken at some time in the past.
The popular boy in your school is not going to be the love of your life. The love of your life (when you eventually meet him) will be SO much better than the kid who doesn’t like you.
How can I impress a boy who thinks I'm ugly?
Are you asking me how to impress a guy who thinks you’re ugly? Gee, I don’t think you should bother trying to impress a guy like that.
Forget him. Find a guy who sees your great qualities and appreciates you for who you are. You don’t need a loser like this other guy in your life.
I have a close male friend. I have feelings for him, and he also has feelings for me. But he’s not loyal. I know, but still, I want to change him. So what can I do?
I’m trying to imagine a man who is in the habit of playing around changing because a good woman wants to change him, and I’m having trouble with it.
I’ve discussed it with my friends, and we are in agreement on the following points: -
- A guy like that will only change if he wants to, which is not the same thing as his partner wanting him to.
- It must be incredibly stressful for a woman who half-expects her partner to cheat on her sometime in the future.
- A good friend doesn’t necessarily make a good boyfriend or husband.
- A guy who decides to try being faithful for the first time generally has a brand new woman in his life. (And is generally ‘older,’ with a bunch of failed relationships behind him.)
We don’t know what your friend is like, and of course, we don’t know for sure that you couldn’t make a relationship with him work. But if you’ve known him long enough and well enough to know he isn’t loyal, there’s a risk he’ll say, ‘You knew what I was like before we even got together.’
So if you try to change him, be prepared for him to disappoint you. It seems like the easier (and likely, happier) option is to keep him as a friend if you want, but look for a new man to be your partner.
© 2012 Daniel Long