How to Impress a Boy: 5 Things You Can Do to Impress a Guy You Really Like

Updated on December 12, 2017
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

What can a girl do to impress a boy? This is a frequently asked question posed by many girls who are interested in a guy, and are looking for ways to get his attention easily and faster. There are definitely many things you can do to impress a guy you like. I have discussed this topic with some of my international friends, and will discuss the points we all agree on.

Why do you want to impress a guy? So that he notices you. Pays attention to you. Gets close and involved. So how can you impress him enough to catch his eye? Here's 5 ways.
Why do you want to impress a guy? So that he notices you. Pays attention to you. Gets close and involved. So how can you impress him enough to catch his eye? Here's 5 ways.

5 Things You Can Do To Impress A Guy You Like

First you need to get a guy to notice you. And then, you'll want to keep him interested in you. But how do you get a guy's attention without being seen as desperate?

Impressing the guy you like shouldn’t be a one dimensional thing, but something you need to approach from many different angles. One technique might not be enough to get his attention (or hold it), so it is best to come up with a few good ideas if you want to succeed with your goal of trying to impress him.

Here's five things you can do to impress a guy you like. Good luck!

1. Be Good At Something

We are all impressed by someone who excels. If you are good at something, people notice. And the guy you like will probably also be impressed. You don't have choose something he's good at too. It can be really exciting to talk to someone who can achieve what you find really difficult.

My Australian friend loves going to the beach, but is not a good surfer. He is most impressed by women who can grab a surfboard and ride the waves.

An American friend is really impressed by girls who are cheerleaders. But he admits when he was at school he was in awe of a girl who was brilliant at math. He couldn't understand how she could calculate difficult problems in her head, without even needing a pen and paper. (He struggled to get the answers cheating with a calculator!)

We all agree that girls who are good at just about anything impress us. Here's a word of warning though. If you are exceptionally good academically, it might be hard for the guy you like to approach you. You might have to speak to him first. Yes, guys can get inferiority complexes too!

2. Be Yourself

Be confident in your own skin. Don't try to be what you aren't because that can easily be noticed by the guy you are trying very hard to impress.

Guys don't like girls who are fake. We like our women to be genuinely friendly. Genuinely interesting. Genuinely interested ... or up-front and honest about their disinterest in a topic or event.

Don't pretend you really like football, fishing or bushwalking if you won't enjoy doing it every weekend. That will just cause problems in the future. Lots of couples have different interests and go their separate ways for a while. But when they get together again, they are excited to see each other and share their news!

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3. Take Care What You Wear

There are so many ways you can impress a guy with the clothes you wear. Of course it depends on the guy, and it depends on you. But the general rule is 'take care what you wear'.

Most women settle into a personal style when choosing their clothing. If you want to impress a guy, give some thought to the clothes you are wearing. Tracksuits are great when you are doing something sporty. And yes, they can be really comfortable to wear around the house. But if you are someone who always wears baggy tracksuit pants and a loose-fitting sweater everywhere you go, that's not very impressive.

Branch out and try something new. At least one outfit that's cute and tight-fitting. If you always wear runners, try a different type of footwear.

If you are afraid you'll look uncomfortable and awkward wearing your new outfit out in public, wear it at home for a while first. Get used to seeing your new image in the mirror, walking in your new shoes, and sitting in a tight skirt. (Or any skirt, if you generally wear pants all the time.)

No need to buy an outfit that's incredibly revealing. Low cleavage doesn't really impress guys. Yes, probably every male you pass will notice your exposed skin. But that's not necessarily because they are impressed.

It can be a lovely change, however, when a girl wears a different of outfit to her normal choice. Not only can a new style of clothing draw more attention to her figure, but a new outfit can make a statement about her personality and confidence. So take care what you wear.

Bare skin is very sexy. But a bare shoulder can be even more attractive and enticing than cleavage.
Bare skin is very sexy. But a bare shoulder can be even more attractive and enticing than cleavage.

4. Let Him Know You Notice Him

Is this so hard? Is it really difficult for girls to give a guy some kind of encouragement?

It really impresses me when a girl allows herself to smile. Or laugh. Or blush. Some kind of indication that she's noticed a guy actually exists.

You don't have to throw yourself at a man, or pretend to be captivated by every word he says. Being a bit aloof can be kind of sexy and appealing. But being a stone wall doesn't work for many women. Sure a few might get away with it, but it comes with a big risk.

If you like a guy, give him a clue. Let him know you notice him, and he'll be more likely to pay attention to you as well.

Guys love it when a girl laughs, smiles or blushes. Anything that gives him a clue she's noticed him!
Guys love it when a girl laughs, smiles or blushes. Anything that gives him a clue she's noticed him!

5. Lend A Helping Hand

This is not to suggest you become a doormat. You're not going to become the girl who is always trying to stick her nose into everyone's business. You won't be standing by to jump into action every time someone needs a helping hand. But you will be keeping an eye out for that perfect opportunity to lend a helping hand as a strategy to impress the guy you like.

There's lots of ways you could be helpful, and gain the attention of that special guy.

  • Help his friend (without looking like you're hitting on his friend, of course.)
  • Help his little sister (with something like homework or music lessons.)
  • Volunteer for a charity group (ideally in a place he walks past every day.)
  • If you know his mother or grandmother, keep an eye out for opportunities to lend a hand.

If your goal is to impress him, look for an opportunity to step up and help. Not only will he notice you, but you'll have something to talk about. Any involvement you have in any of the examples above gives you a great conversation starter. Helping someone else just might be the key to helping you impress the guy of your dreams.

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      Keira 2 days ago

      You are my best

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      Daniel Long 2 days ago from All Over

      Scroll down and you’ll see I’ve answered your question, April. There was no need to post it again so I’ve deleted the repeated message.

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      Daniel Long 3 days ago from All Over

      April, if you’re going to a new school there will be lots of new boys there. You’ll have a much better time if you wait to find a guy who doesn’t seem agitated when you contact him. I think you should be checking out all the options instead of focusing on one guy you happened to meet at the pool.

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      Daniel Long 3 days ago from All Over

      Katie, you won’t know if you don’t try. Even if he tells his sisters and You somehow get teased, you can simply say, ‘I just said hello. Is there something wrong with that?’

      If you’re concerned about your weight shaking your confidence when it comes to boys, this is probably a good time to look at making changes to your diet and exercise habits. Nothing dramatic, just simple modifications that will help with your long term health.

      Even if you never get to know this guy, there’s bound to be other guys in the future. It shouldn’t be a problem if you’re carrying a bit of extra weight, as long as you’re fit and healthy enough to keep up with a future partner who might be into long walks and challenging you to games of tennis etc. Fitness is important.

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      April 3 days ago

      I went to this swimming class and saw this boy there, I thought he was pretty attractive. At first I thought he didn’t like me, whenever he would look at me I would get scared and nervous, he would also talk to me and laugh at things I would yell out of nowhere. but apparently four weeks after the swimming classes I gave asked him for his number and he said that he did.

      Though he lives in a camp far from where I live, which means that he isn’t really in town very often. In the past whenever I would try to text him, he would act like he was agitated by me, and I would Always be one who would start the conversations on text first. I always wish to see him and talk to him, but I feel like I would annoy him from trying to text him.

      After around almost a year of not texting or seeing him, I saw him at the swimming pool and he acted like nothing happened and acted very nice and funny. We had short talks and short eye contacts. I don’t know what to do, should I text him? I mean I’m transferring to his school that he goes to but I asked my friends that go to his school and tell me that he’s only there “sometimes.” It took me that whole 11 months to try and get over him and it worked for a little bit but I started to like him again. I just don’t know.

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      katie 4 days ago

      i like this boy but he is 2 years older than me and he is a loner but so am i and i feel like if i say hi to him he might laugh and tell his sisters and he might get the idea i like him witch i do but i just want to get to know him first and i am also fat so i dont know if he would get along with me or want to get along with me. what do i do?

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      Daniel Long 4 days ago from All Over

      Ask him. ‘What’s up?’

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      Ashley 4 days ago

      Hi guys I have a crush on a boy I told my friends that I like him then I told my ex friend and he told my crush then I grab his hand of my ex friend then he told me he was gonna just tell him a story of a which then I was like suree then he was really then he said once a uponof time then am like are you surios then the teacher saw us then she said why are you three standing up then she screamed and said go to your sit right now and I blush the my ex friend was doing sighs whith his hands then my crush smile at me then I smile back then now for his fault now he sees me whiht a mad mad face idk why

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      Ann 5 days ago

      I met this guy online. We talked just for the sake of having a conversation with someone who seem a bit decent to me among anyone else online. He is actually not my ideal guy for 2 things: He is 10years younger than me, and a heavy smoker. Until we made it in person. It was one of the best dates I ever had. I let him hold my hand, hug me, and kissed me on a cheek. He asked if he could kiss me but I didn't since it was a first date well then later on I gave in without really kissing me back, after series of his requests and attempts. Generally, he is good company and I really enjoyed it. However, it turned out that we have different perspectives when it comes to a relationship. He doens't want commitment and I do. We both were clear about it. It was how the date ended. I am afraid he won't see me again because of that. He didn't text me for 3 days now since that date. I think I want to see me again and have some good and clean fun. I am bored with being single for a year now and I want something new to see and be with even for just friends only. Should I initiate the communication now? What should I do not to sound pushy and confusing?

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      Periwinkle 7 days ago

      Ok so I have a crush

      And he is really nice

      But I don't know how to talk to him

      But we do talk a little

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      Daniel Long 11 days ago from All Over

      Nicol, I think the first step is to admit you’re probably not ‘desperately in love’ with him at this point. You just think he’s really hot and would like to get to know him better. That should take some pressure off.

      So now all you have to do is suggest you catch a movie together or go for a cup of coffee. That’s an easy step to see how you get along socially.

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      Nicol 12 days ago

      hie l have this guy l like we meet everyday during the week but he would be working so would l. l got a hard crush on him but I'm not sure if he likes me too sometimes he acts as if he does .What should l do im desperately in love with him but don't want it to be too obvious

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Say hello. That’s always a good starting point. He’ll either talk with you or he won’t. I don’t see any reason to make a big fuss out of it. There’s lots of reasons why he might be looking in your direction. Give him a chance to speak with you.

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      mummum 2 weeks ago

      I like a boy named Siddharth .He is in my division,I sometimes saw that he is staring at me but as soon as I see him , he looks away.I even thought of telling him but thought what would he think .please tell me what shall I do.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      If he likes another girl, Alice, you'll probably find he's too preoccupied with her to notice anyone right now. The best thing you can do is start talking to him. Just make conversation and break down the barrier of silence. He might suddenly discover he's eager to speak with you again, and that could be the turning point.

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      Alice 2 weeks ago

      So I have a crush, and he says he likes a girl, and I dont think the girl likes him, but im not sure how to get his attention for him to like me.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      One of your group (the bravest one, lol) walks up and invites their group to come and join yours. Works great if you’re having lunch or milkshakes (or thinking of going for one.) Then you all watch out for each other and don’t throw any of your friends under a bus. If you don’t know these guys well already, don’t let any of your friends leave with them.

      You and your friends should set ground rules before you start approaching strangers ... and stick to them.

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      Jenette 3 weeks ago

      What if there was a group of guys and your with your group of girls and you want to get there attention and want them to talk to you How do you do that

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      You have to decide about the clothes you wear, Aana. I can't tell you. I don't know what you look like or what the culture is in your community. Living at the beach, it can be normal to see men and women in stores wearing nothing more than bathers and a shirt for instance. But if someone walked into a store without wearing trousers or a skirt further inland, that would be incredibly inappropriate.

      Instead of thinking showing skin will win him over, I believe you should try talking with him.

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      Aana 4 weeks ago

      Hi

      Actually I like a boy and he once said he likes me but I'm not sure.

      I wear crop sweatshirt and small hot pant . is this good for wearing?

      He lives in front of my house. but he ignores me sometimes

      He is so handsome why he will like me.what should I do?

      I'm good at sports I won lots of medals in basketball game

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      Help him feel at ease, Veda. As he becomes more comfortable around you he’ll open up more.

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      Veda 4 weeks ago

      The person I like is kind of awkward in general, and I usually have to start the conversations, but he seems kind of nervous when he speaks to me? I don't really understand though lol

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      Talk with him. Move your level of interaction away from just teasing and laughing. See if you’re both ready to talk about interesting topics. There must be things you have in common. See if you can identify any.

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      Sylveon Ashglow 4 weeks ago

      I like this guy but I don't know what to do and i am smart and good at sports, I am myself, I tease him and smile, laugh and blush, I care for what I wear and I help him whenever he needs it. I think I'm out. I think he might like me but i don't know. I don't know what else to do so he will fall for me. Please help ASAP.

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      Look closer to home, Annu.

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      Godslove Titus 4 weeks ago

      Just came to realize that this is so true, I need to practice it. Thanks a lot.

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      Annu 4 weeks ago

      I like a boy and he is far from me..I don't know how to impress him..

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      Olivya 4 weeks ago

      Thanks, Daniel. You're the best, and you have amazing advice!!!

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Lots of things feel weird when you’re a teenager, Olyvia, but they’re all part of the journey. I think it is healthy to have your attitude. And I think you should be pleased he’s treating you with respect and not wanting to cross the line. Don’t change yourself. All the guys probably respect you. That’s a good thing.

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Hi, Roses. I understand you’re eager to see what happens but my last response still stands. I think you should just wait and see what happens. Go to the party in a month and he’ll probably be there. You could give him your number then if you want and suggest he call you so you can catch up. But desperately trying to track him down via other people is not a good look. Wait until you see him face to face. Then you’ll see how your conversation goes. You’ll either be drawn to each other or you won’t. It will be fun finding out, and much more ‘natural’.

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      Olivya 5 weeks ago

      Well, that could be a possibility, but the only thing is he's not geeky. I know this because he acts very different around other girls. In fact, he's also had a "friends with benefits" relationship with a girl I know. But around me he seems to change, he's also more respectful. Maybe he's intimidated by me? Because I've had a lot of people come tell me that I'm super intimidating to guys. I don't really know, I'm so confused, because he's sent me mixed signals in the past. What do you think? Another question though; I wouldn't really mind if he sees me only as a friend, or more than that. Is that weird, or is it normal for a teenager?

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      Roses 5 weeks ago

      Sorry there was more to my question but it didn’t show up.

      Our show is over and I’m not going to see him again except at the after party in a month, and maybe next year or if I hang out with his sister. He doesn’t have a phone and his sister doesn’t either but I’m in touch with her best friend so there’s still a communication link there. During the production he wouldn’t really try to come talk to me all the time, but he seems happy when I would talk to him. Our high-fives would drag on for an extra few seconds occasionally and other petty things. He’s even told me at some stage during the show he was all thinking ‘I have to do this for -my name- as she believed I could do it’. So, yeah. Sorry this part of the message did not show up.

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Just wait and see what happens, Roses. I’m guessing he knows you like him. Don’t stress. He may chase you up some time in the future. For now, it just sounds like you had some fun so enjoy the memories.

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      Roses 5 weeks ago

      Hello, so I have a bit of a confusing problem.

      So, we had a school production, and it was based in our school. However, some students from another nearby school joined. The boy I like goes to this other school. We only really became friends towards the end of the production (I was also great friends with his sister). Every time before his performance I would encourage him and I even pecked him on the cheek a few times (he was wearing a wig though so I don’t know

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Hi Olivya. My guess would be he’s young and a bit geeky and trying to get close to you without ‘crossing the line’. He’s trying to be respectful and encouraging and get close all at the same time. Hence the awkwardness. That’s my guess. What do you think?

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      Olivya 5 weeks ago

      hi Daniel I just wanted to know what does it mean when a guy pats your head, somewhat awkwardly, and says well done, i'm proud of you, you always do the right thing?

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      Daniel Long 7 weeks ago from All Over

      If you wrote him a letter which presumably let him know you care about him but he’s not making any moves at all, I suspect you’re wasting your time. You shouldn’t have to chase after him. He might have a different girl (or guy) on his mind. If there’s no active effort from him, go in search of a man who knows how to appreciate you!

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      The Nobody 7 weeks ago

      Hey I've got a crush on this guy and I did everything (literally every thing) on this list and he still hasn't made a move is he playing hard to get or is he being plain dumb. I've also written him a letter and that made us closer he said he understood how I felt , but it also made me more confused......HELP ME PLEASE!

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      Daniel Long 8 weeks ago from All Over

      You know what you should do, Betanya. Be grateful you discovered how unreliable he is before things got serious for you, and walk away from him. Nobody wants to date trouble.

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      Daniel Long 8 weeks ago from All Over

      Mahnoor, I am uncomfortable with the idea of anyone blurting out ‘I love you’ to someone when there’s no real sign of shared romance. Why don’t you just see if you can engage him in conversation and let him see what an interesting person you are. Suggest going some place together and see if you actually get along as a ‘couple’ or not. You might find things are really flat when it is just the two of you.

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      betanya 8 weeks ago

      hi daniel there is this guy i like then i thought he got the same feelings then he asked me out 3 days for a date but he didint come then i heard that he has girlfriend and i saw him kissing that girl wt should i do?

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      Mahnoor 8 weeks ago

      Hii..Daniel.. Im in love with my friend...I think he also likes me but never says to me that he likes me...please tell me what do I do?

      And tell me..Is that okay..if I tell him my feelings?

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      I’m not sure what you’re trying to say, Rina. You might like to try again.

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      Rina 2 months ago

      Hi.Excually i love one guy and he also love me..but every time we both scard that will we get marry in future.

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      Girl with 2 crush’s 2 months ago

      Hi I like 2 people and I don’t know which I like more one is in my class and one is not but I have a feeling that one of them likes me back but I don’t know how to talk to him there’s Alex

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      What do you mean by ‘acting weird’, Rochelle.

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      Rochelle 2 months ago

      I like this boy and we're really good friends. He always asks me whenever I'm sad if i'm ok but I feel like he just sees me as a friend. We always talk and make each other laugh, even if we've had a bad day. I was wondering if I can have some advice on what to do next cause he's been acting weird around me lately...

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Matilda, I think you should spend less time texting and put more effort into talking with the guy. He’s in your class so you see him every day. Make it a long term strategy to get to know him. I’m guessing you’re both really young. If that’s the case, don’t expect him to be interested romantically for a long time yet. So just get to know him ... or wait until you’re both older.

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      Matilda 2 months ago

      I like this boy in my class and he is my best friends cousin and he knows i like him but he doesn’t know I like want him if you know what I mean it’s really awkward and I don’t know what I should do to get his attention and to get him to like me i text him a lot and al he really says is what are you doing then he doesn’t reply. So can you please give me some advice ... xo

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Touching you is not necessarily an indication of liking you in the way you're hoping, Destaney. He should be trying to get to know you before even considering touching you.

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      Destaney 2 months ago

      There is this boy I have liked for 3 or more months idk if he likes me or not but he always tries to touch me

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Jasmine, I don’t understand why you felt the need to swear in your message to him about English class. You need to think about how you are presenting yourself to him (and the rest of the world). You could ask his friend to introduce you but that’s making it all a bit of a big deal. Why not just walk up to him and say hi? I’m sure you’ll think of something to talk about.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Just talk with him, Amanda, and get to know him better. How can anyone really ‘like’ you if they don’t know you?

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      Amanda 2 months ago

      There's this new kid at my school. My friend and I went to talk to him, and now he's in our friend group. I have a tiny crush on him, but everyone's saying that he and my friend should date, and she doesn't like him. She knows I like him. But how do I get him to like me?

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      Lindsay Soto 2 months ago

      I know

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      jasmine 2 months ago

      i really like this one boy n theres nothing to do with populartity since i dont care and pretty popular myself but not amoung his group he is a white boy and im brown meaning indian but im popular in the ghetto group. i really like him but i dont know him like he didnt go to my middle school nor do i think he knows my name. i told my friend also his friend that i like him and got to know him a lil thru his friend and all my friends tell me to say hi talk to him like i got his snap n i snapped him saying r u in ******* english class he says yeah simply i say whats the hw bc i think i read ahead and he says chap 6 i said oof yea i read ahead and thx and he leaves me on open its been like 3 weeks since i have been tryna have streaks with the dude but he never replies he used to look at me like stare at me first semester he dosent anymore and im just hella scred to talk to him like its so hard for me because i think its weird because ive never even met the dude plzz someone help cuz i rly like him and want him.

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      jasmine 2 months ago

      i really like this one boy n theres nothing to do with populartity since i dont care and pretty popular myself but not amoung his group he is a white boy and im brown meaning indian but im popular in the ghetto group. i really like him but i dont know him like he didnt go to my middle school nor do i think he knows my name. i told my friend also his friend that i like him and got to know him a lil thru his friend and all my friends tell me to say hi talk to him like i got his snap n i snapped him saying r u in ******* english class he says yeah simply i say whats the hw bc i think i read ahead and he says chap 6 i said oof yea i read ahead and thx and he leaves me on open its been like 3 weeks since i have been tryna have streaks with the dude but he never replies he used to look at me like stare at me first semester he dosent anymore and im just hella scred to talk to him like its so hard for me because i think its weird because ive never even met the dude plzz someone help cuz i rly like him and want him.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      How you say hi is really easy. You just say, ‘Hi’. If you’re all new at the school together, you should be saying hi to lots of new people.

      Don’t stress about it. You have no idea if he’s actually as nice as you’re hoping, or not. And, while you’re probably feeling very grown up at your new ‘big’ school, you just have to look at the older students to see that all your classmates have a lot of maturing to do in the next few years. So don’t get ahead of yourself just yet. It can’t be fun being viewed as a girl who just chases boys all the time. So I suggest you just be friendly right now instead of trying to find a boyfriend.

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      Anonymous 2 months ago

      I like this boy but he’s really popular and in only two of my classes, he’s really cute but I don’t know how to say hi, it’s the second week of the year and the first year of the 6 year we are there for, any suggestions? I am really stuck. I’m kind of popular but not really, I’m popular in my class but not near him :/

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Polina, one of the easiest ways to start an easygoing conversation is to ask ‘What are you planning for this weekend?’ or ‘Did you do anything interesting last weekend?’ From there it is easy to get into all the things you’d like to do or never get around to doing ... with plenty of opportunities for him to share his own thoughts.

      I think you should start up a conversation with Spencer, and shortly afterwards tell Alex what a nice guy you think S is.

      You’re absolutely right about friends making a ‘claim’ on someone they like. But I think it makes sense for you to actively speak with S first, just to open lines of communication without having to rely on A.

      You’re a clever girl. I’m sure you’re up for the challenge!

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      Polina 3 months ago

      Hey so I actually need two words of advice. First of all, here is the situation: I have a crush on this boy named Spencer, and I'd say I'm pretty good friends with him. He's in my AP Chem class and we're in the school play together, so I see him fairly often and we usually end up bantering. However, I'm better friends with his best friend Alex. Alex, as well as being in my AP Chem class, is also in my AP Physics class. I have a hunch that he might have a crush on me, and so far all of my such hunches have been correct. I really don't want for Alex to "claim" me (y'know, tell his best friend that he has a crush on this girl and so that girl immediately becomes unavailable for the best friend), so should I tell him I have a crush on Spencer? It's a little risky, but I trust Alex. Also, do you have any advice on how to start conversations casually and on how to not be awkward? Like I said earlier, I see him quite a bit but, again, our interactions are mostly banter. However, if we start a conversation it flows naturally. My biggest problem is starting them. Also (sorry for rambling), I feel really awkward around him because we're at that stage where we're friends so we HAVE to acknowledge each other when in the same room, but haven't gotten to the point where we can just approach each other and it won't be weird. Do you think I should just go for it and approach him anyway? Thanks!

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      Con 3 months ago

      Hey cat ya you have a really tough situation on your hands I’m a lad and me and this girl like each other she’s so smart like all a’s but I’m also smart but I get bored easily and some time’s I notice she’s staring at me but Im too shy to look her in the eyes like she shows all the signs but still I’m too scared of rejection so I don’t act. Anyways he too scared of rejection and if you decline he will be so embarrassed and beat himself up about it. Peace con *mic drop*

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      Kat 3 months ago

      I'm great friends with the guy I like. I usually help him with work. I get all A's so I'm decent at academics. We both love drawing and I sometimes help him with that too. I frequently compliment and encourage him. I asked him to the dance and he said yes. I asked if he like anyone and he said yes. I asked who, and I heard him mutter, "It's you." I never dated him but before we both knew we like each other. When we did, he avoided me and I said it wasn't working. I later found out he didn't want to mess up from a friend. I know he still likes me and I like him. I want to confess, but I don't know how. Any advice?

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      Anisha 3 months ago

      I need to impress him by texting but I tried Lott but he is not happy with me while txting

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Yes, Cora, but don’t work too hard at them or he might get the wrong idea.

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      Cora 3 months ago

      Do you suppose these tips would work just for befriending him?

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Talk about all of those things. Pick one to start with and see where the conversation goes.

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      Unknown 3 months ago

      Should I try talking about the class we have together (which is band) or something more personal or just homework?

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      True, you don’t want to look desperate ... but you’ll still need to look at least a bit interested. Otherwise he might never approach you. So think of a reason to talk to him.

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      Unknown 3 months ago

      Their is this one guy that I really like but sometimes he seems really intersted and gives me a lot of really nice comments, but sometimes it seems like he is ignoring me.He is also really shy but really nice at the same time. Also I only have 1 class with him and I don't want to seem to desperate

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Just start by getting him to talk with you, Zoe. Don’t worry about anyone else. If he becomes comfortable with you, it might be easier for him to talk with others in time.

      I think you should should just be talking one on one, and building trust. You won’t have much of a relationship if the two of you can’t communicate.

      I hope you’re not pushing him to ‘perform’ in front of other people. If that’s what you want, I suggest you find a different boyfriend because this one is probably never going to be comfortable making small talk with strangers.

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      Zoe 3 months ago

      im in a relationship but we never really talk. How do i get him to open up and not be shy in front of everyone

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      You’d better start looking for someone else to have as a crush, Izzy, before you make a fool of yourself. Look for someone who is 1) about your own age and 2) not related to you.

      You need to find a young guy who is likely to grow up with the qualities you admire in your cousin. He’s 8 years older than you and a relative ... two very obvious reasons why he’ll never give you ‘attention’ like that.

      You need to accept that your role in his life is never going to be any more than his ‘kid cousin’. Make your own life, Izzy, with a boyfriend your own age.

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      Izzy ice cap 3 months ago

      I have a crush he is my cousin and he is 8 years older than me

      But i realllllllly love him and I think he is somewhat interested in to me

      But what should I do to really get his attention

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Milli, you should tell the guy you don't like to 'back off!' so your message is very clear.

      I guess you'll have to wait and see if you're destined to catch up with the guy you do like.

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      Milli 3 months ago

      But I like someone else who left the only place I could see him a year ago. and now I see him popping out of strange places. And I also have more and more dreams with him in it! I tried to find him on social media but I just can't find him.

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      Milli 3 months ago

      I know a boy who always lean onto me and trying to touch me but I don't like him. He does this to a few of a girls too, but I am too afraid to tell other people. One time I was sitting and he was standing, he stood close and his j was slightly touching me!!!

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Congratulations, Laynie. And thanks for coming back with your update.

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      Laynie 3 months ago

      These tips worked great, I defenetly recommend them! It’s amazing, it took a while but now me and my crush are in a relationship, going on FOUR MONTHS!

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      sara 3 months ago

      It worked for me thanks

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      Unknown 3 months ago

      I don't like someone but l don't know that someone's like me.

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      So you have to decide if you want to risk losing his friendship. Instead of chasing him I think you should ask him to help you find a boyfriend ... and see if he has any good ideas. He might be a really good help.

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      unknown 4 months ago

      i like someone but he doesn't like me he is my best friend but i want it to be more

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      You sound like you’ve answered your own question, Belle. I don’t know how badly you messed up, but people do grow up after high school so he might have a different perspective now.

      Of course they also tend to ‘move on’ so you should be prepared for that. Why not just keep an eye out for a new guy, and avoid past mistakes?

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      Belle 4 months ago

      Do you think there's still a chance? Or should I stop myself from wishful thinking?

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      Belle 4 months ago

      I want him to like me again. But I think I should move on. He's the only guy who have given me all the attention I need. But then I ruined everything. It's been 4yrs already.

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      There’s one really easy way to tell a guy you like him, BM. When you’re talking some time, just smile and say, ‘You’re a nice guy, I like you.’ Or ‘You’re fun. I like you.’

      Don’t make it bigger than it is. If you don’t really know the guy yet, you just want to break the ice and let him know you’re interested, right?

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      Banana Muffin ;) 4 months ago

      I had liked this one guy for a little while. He may like me. I am unsure of how to show him that I like him. Plus, overtime I like him even more. How can I tell him I like him? Thanks ;)

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      If six months younger seems a big deal, vedashree, I’m guessing you must both be very young. In which case, just wait until you are both older and you’re more confident. It won’t seem like such a problem then.

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      vedashree 4 months ago

      actually i like a guy but he is 6 months younger than me and i don't even have the guts to tell him... what can be done in this case?

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      I understood your message but thanks for the further explanation, GabbyGabbs. There's no point getting involved with someone you don't want to be with, so the second guy is automatically out of the picture. (I think anyone who dates one person to get near their friend is asking for trouble.) The longer you leave this 'triangle' unresolved, the more complicated it is likely to get.

      Here's a suggestion if you don't have the confidence to tell the guy you don't like him. I suggest you approach the guy you do like. Ask him for help. Tell him you get the impression his friend likes you, but you're really not interested in his friend so could he please help you get the message across without offending him. Explain it makes you feel uncomfortable.

      The next step then is to let him know you actually like him. How you do that depends a lot on if you think he likes you too. When he says he'll help you, a comment like, 'Thanks. I'd go out with you if you asked me, but not him' would make the message clear. And a simple touch on his arm when you say thanks should get things started.

      If you're not ready yet to let the guy you do like know it, you'll have created a reason to have further conversations with him when he's not with his friend. You'll have that 'bond' after he helps you.

      Of course, things might not work out romantically as you'd like with the guy you like. But at least you'll have stopped the unwanted advances from the other guy.

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      GabbyGabbs 4 months ago

      sorry, I realize I didn't explain that very well. I like this one guy (person1) but his friend likes me (person2). person 2 called my friend ugly, so he's not someone I'd want to be with. (considering he only seems to care about looks and he insulted my friends.) I don't have the guts to tell person2 I don't like him, but I like person 1. what should I do about it?

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      GabbyGabbs 4 months ago

      Hey, I have a crush on this one guy, but his friend likes me. Considering he called all my friends ugly, he's not someone I'd want to be with. However, I don't have the guts to tell him I don't like him, and I like his friend. What should I do about it?

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      Max 4 months ago

      Yes, it does. Thank you. I'll see if that helps. If there's one thing I can understand, it's casting, so thank you for using that terminology. Thank you again.

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      Max, you have the basics of communication happening already. You obviously don't ignore each other. I don't see why you feel the need to tell him you like him right now. You'll feel much less anxious if you set yourself the goal of engaging him in conversation. That's a good first step, and doesn't really need you to get your hopes up.

      He's just a guy, Max. One of millions. If you don't make talking with him bigger than it really is, you'll do just fine. Instead of putting him on a pedestal and thinking that your lifelong future happiness rests in his hands, I suggest you approach the challenge more like you are 'interviewing' him or 'auditioning' him as a possible contestant for consideration in the future.

      Hope that helps.

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      Max 4 months ago

      I have anxiety, but I've liked this guy for a long time. Most the time when we pass we have a silly face stare-off, or when He or I hold the door open for one another, we say thank you strangely and then reply in turn. Other than that, we don't really talk. I've gotten my hopes crushed by so many other guys so I'm nervous about telling him. Could you tell me an easy ANXIETY FRIENDLY way to tell him, or if I should get my hopes up?

      Thank you, Max

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      Sarah, he isn't your boyfriend. Right now he's just a guy that you like. And it makes no sense to say he 'doesn't know we're in love'.

      Okay, I get that you think you're in love with him (but I doubt it because you can't possibly know him well enough to know if you're 'in love' seeing as he's not your boyfriend, and you've not had a chance to get to know him properly.)

      But there's no way you can expect him to be in love with you. Love doesn't happen like that. I'm sure you're a very nice girl who will make someone a really great girlfriend one day. Right now though I think you should step back and wait a few years and leave the guy alone, while you both get a bit older and wiser.

      I'm guessing you're very young, Sarah. So I suggest you continue dreaming about how great it will be to have a boyfriend when the time is right, but don't get obsessed about it and don't get obsessed about any one guy. Remember, the guy gets a say in whether or not he becomes your boyfriend. And he'll be the one to know whether or not he's in love.

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      Daniel Long 4 months ago from All Over

      Hello, Avha. I hope the guy you're meeting will be the kind of guy you are interested in. I think a lot of awkwardness comes from not knowing what to expect, and not knowing if you'll like him and if he'll like you. That's natural.

      I think you should remind yourself what a fabulous woman you are, and that you have lots of good qualities. Be confident when you meet him. I'm sure there's lots about you that a guy would like.

      I encourage you to ask questions of the guy so you can learn what he does for work, and for fun etc. And be prepared to talk about yourself a little as well. It is not a good idea to tell too many secrets or give too much information to a stranger, so pick a few things you can talk about comfortably.

      Give the guy a chance because he might be just as awkward and nervous as you are, so it might take a while for the conversation to get going. But if you have nothing in common and he's someone you don't want to know, just smile and tell him you're not sure what's happening in your future but you'll let him know if there's a chance for a future date. 'At the moment I'm just not sure what I'm doing.'

      Please make sure you meet him in a safe place (somewhere public) and take care, just in case he's not as nice as we both would hope. I guess the best thing to do is to hope for a really nice man and a really nice date, but be confident about walking away if you don't want to be there.

      You're a mature woman, Avha. You have life experience. You just need a bit of confidence. So go and enjoy yourself, and we'll hope for the best.

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      Avha 4 months ago

      Well

      I'm matured woman.

      A guy is coming n I'm meeting him.

      I always feel awkward in meeting men.

      What sud I do?

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      sarah 4 months ago

      hi my boyfriend who isnt my boyfriend yet doesnt know were in love what do i do????????? xx

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