How to Impress a Boy: 5 Things You Can Do to Impress a Guy You Really Like

Updated on December 12, 2017
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

What can a girl do to impress a boy? This is a frequently asked question posed by many girls who are interested in a guy, and are looking for ways to get his attention easily and faster. There are definitely many things you can do to impress a guy you like. I have discussed this topic with some of my international friends, and will discuss the points we all agree on.

Why do you want to impress a guy? So that he notices you. Pays attention to you. Gets close and involved. So how can you impress him enough to catch his eye? Here's 5 ways.
Why do you want to impress a guy? So that he notices you. Pays attention to you. Gets close and involved. So how can you impress him enough to catch his eye? Here's 5 ways.

5 Things You Can Do To Impress A Guy You Like

First you need to get a guy to notice you. And then, you'll want to keep him interested in you. But how do you get a guy's attention without being seen as desperate?

Impressing the guy you like shouldn’t be a one dimensional thing, but something you need to approach from many different angles. One technique might not be enough to get his attention (or hold it), so it is best to come up with a few good ideas if you want to succeed with your goal of trying to impress him.

Here's five things you can do to impress a guy you like. Good luck!

1. Be Good At Something

We are all impressed by someone who excels. If you are good at something, people notice. And the guy you like will probably also be impressed. You don't have choose something he's good at too. It can be really exciting to talk to someone who can achieve what you find really difficult.

My Australian friend loves going to the beach, but is not a good surfer. He is most impressed by women who can grab a surfboard and ride the waves.

An American friend is really impressed by girls who are cheerleaders. But he admits when he was at school he was in awe of a girl who was brilliant at math. He couldn't understand how she could calculate difficult problems in her head, without even needing a pen and paper. (He struggled to get the answers cheating with a calculator!)

We all agree that girls who are good at just about anything impress us. Here's a word of warning though. If you are exceptionally good academically, it might be hard for the guy you like to approach you. You might have to speak to him first. Yes, guys can get inferiority complexes too!

2. Be Yourself

Be confident in your own skin. Don't try to be what you aren't because that can easily be noticed by the guy you are trying very hard to impress.

Guys don't like girls who are fake. We like our women to be genuinely friendly. Genuinely interesting. Genuinely interested ... or up-front and honest about their disinterest in a topic or event.

Don't pretend you really like football, fishing or bushwalking if you won't enjoy doing it every weekend. That will just cause problems in the future. Lots of couples have different interests and go their separate ways for a while. But when they get together again, they are excited to see each other and share their news!

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3. Take Care What You Wear

There are so many ways you can impress a guy with the clothes you wear. Of course it depends on the guy, and it depends on you. But the general rule is 'take care what you wear'.

Most women settle into a personal style when choosing their clothing. If you want to impress a guy, give some thought to the clothes you are wearing. Tracksuits are great when you are doing something sporty. And yes, they can be really comfortable to wear around the house. But if you are someone who always wears baggy tracksuit pants and a loose-fitting sweater everywhere you go, that's not very impressive.

Branch out and try something new. At least one outfit that's cute and tight-fitting. If you always wear runners, try a different type of footwear.

If you are afraid you'll look uncomfortable and awkward wearing your new outfit out in public, wear it at home for a while first. Get used to seeing your new image in the mirror, walking in your new shoes, and sitting in a tight skirt. (Or any skirt, if you generally wear pants all the time.)

No need to buy an outfit that's incredibly revealing. Low cleavage doesn't really impress guys. Yes, probably every male you pass will notice your exposed skin. But that's not necessarily because they are impressed.

It can be a lovely change, however, when a girl wears a different of outfit to her normal choice. Not only can a new style of clothing draw more attention to her figure, but a new outfit can make a statement about her personality and confidence. So take care what you wear.

Bare skin is very sexy. But a bare shoulder can be even more attractive and enticing than cleavage.
Bare skin is very sexy. But a bare shoulder can be even more attractive and enticing than cleavage.

4. Let Him Know You Notice Him

Is this so hard? Is it really difficult for girls to give a guy some kind of encouragement?

It really impresses me when a girl allows herself to smile. Or laugh. Or blush. Some kind of indication that she's noticed a guy actually exists.

You don't have to throw yourself at a man, or pretend to be captivated by every word he says. Being a bit aloof can be kind of sexy and appealing. But being a stone wall doesn't work for many women. Sure a few might get away with it, but it comes with a big risk.

If you like a guy, give him a clue. Let him know you notice him, and he'll be more likely to pay attention to you as well.

Guys love it when a girl laughs, smiles or blushes. Anything that gives him a clue she's noticed him!
Guys love it when a girl laughs, smiles or blushes. Anything that gives him a clue she's noticed him!

5. Lend A Helping Hand

This is not to suggest you become a doormat. You're not going to become the girl who is always trying to stick her nose into everyone's business. You won't be standing by to jump into action every time someone needs a helping hand. But you will be keeping an eye out for that perfect opportunity to lend a helping hand as a strategy to impress the guy you like.

There's lots of ways you could be helpful, and gain the attention of that special guy.

  • Help his friend (without looking like you're hitting on his friend, of course.)
  • Help his little sister (with something like homework or music lessons.)
  • Volunteer for a charity group (ideally in a place he walks past every day.)
  • If you know his mother or grandmother, keep an eye out for opportunities to lend a hand.

If your goal is to impress him, look for an opportunity to step up and help. Not only will he notice you, but you'll have something to talk about. Any involvement you have in any of the examples above gives you a great conversation starter. Helping someone else just might be the key to helping you impress the guy of your dreams.

Questions & Answers

  • I like a boy. How do I tell him or express my feelings to him?

    If you're not even talking with each other yet, don't stress about telling him you like him or expressing your 'feelings' yet. That's not a wise move. You might think he seems really nice from a distance, but he might be really awful when you get to know him. So I suggest you spend time getting to know him first. Talk, chat, laugh, all that kind of stuff.

    If things are going really well between you, it becomes an easy step to say, 'I like you. You're nice.' Or 'I like you. You make me laugh.' It doesn't have to be a big deal though. Just tell him.

  • How do I start a conversation with a boy?

    Start conversations with boys the same way you start a conversation with any of your friends. Say "hi," then ask how their day is going; that kind of thing.

    Boys are people too, you know. Approach a boy and ask him questions, and I’m pretty sure you’ll find the answers. That gets your conversation started.

  • Should I be a tomboy or a girly girl? I am a tomboy originally. Will he like me when I oil my hair and wear two ponies?

    If you're a tomboy, you're probably not going to be comfortable pretending to be a girly girl. That is, unless you're looking for an excuse to be less of a tomboy, and are feeling like you want to be more girly. I believe we should all be true to ourselves. So I don't believe you should try to be someone you're not.

  • I really like a guy from University, but people say that he is a playboy. I admire him as a person. How do I ask him on a date?

    You've been warned he's a playboy, so I hope you won't be expecting heaps of sympathy from your friends if he breaks your heart. I find it hard to understand why any girl would want to chase a playboy.

    Perhaps you like a challenge and like to think he'll be different with you. But you know he probably won't be different, don't you? He's likely to dump you and move onto someone else. Or maybe just move onto someone else while he's still dating you. But if you're determined to ask the playboy on a date, that shouldn't be too difficult.

    - Tell him you're interested in seeing a particular movie, and invite him to join you.

    - Challenge him to a game of tennis or squash, billiards or pool.

    - Suggest a meal or getting a coffee together.

    If he's the playboy your friends say he is, he's likely to accept any of those options.

  • How can I impress a boy who thinks I'm ugly?

    Are you asking me how to impress a guy who thinks you’re ugly? Gee, I don’t think you should bother trying to impress a guy like that.

    Forget him. Find a guy who sees your great qualities and appreciates you for who you are. You don’t need a loser like this other guy in your life.

© 2012 Daniel Long

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      Josie 

      3 days ago

      Thanks so much for your advice! Much love

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      Daniel Long 

      9 days ago from All Over

      Josie, I'm sorry I didn't write back to you earlier. I found your questions and here's what I think.

      The first guy behaved in a way that says 'warning' to me. He's obviously the jealous type and that whole business about suddenly having a girlfriend is weird. If he did get a girlfriend so quickly, that's a sign he wasn't really into you. And if he didn't really but just said he did, that shows he's into mind games and not being honest.

      I know you liked him before all the fuss, but I don't think you should even consider trying to have a relationship with someone who becomes furious and irrational like he did. The future will be filled with problems with a guy like him.

      The guy with the warm smile who responds to your messages sounds like he's mature and much more interesting. If you think you both have a crush on each other, that's great!

      I also like the fact you live so close to each other. There's lots of chances for you to cross paths and say hi. And because you can see him from your window, you can wave. (If he had a girlfriend, I'm sure you would have seen them together sometime in the past few years.)

      I'm glad you recovered from your embarrassment and made contact with him again. Next time you see him in the bar or near your home, I think you should try and make plans to spend some more time with him socially.

      If there's a movie you'd like to see, ask if he's interested in going with you. Or you could ask him if he's ever been to a particular restaurant or coffee shop near your home ... ask for his opinion of it. Then say you'd like to check it out but you don't really want to go there alone.

      There's lots of ways you could make it clear to him you're interested in spending more time with him and getting to know him better. Gee, maybe you could ask him if he likes Mexican food or Indian food or some other type of food you like, and then tell him you're planning on cooking some to try out a recipe that looks interesting. Would he like to come around and taste test it when you're cooking? (Instead of just asking him to come for the dinner, I think it is more fun if he comes while you're preparing it. Much less formal and more fun. You can share a wine while it is cooking.)

      Yes, I definitely think the second guy sounds like your best option. Good luck.

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      Lilly 

      2 weeks ago

      I like a boy whose really sweet a does really nice things for people. I don't know if gen likes me back beacause every time we try to get to know each other things happen to keep us apart. I don't know if he just wants to be my friend and polite or if he actually likes me. What should I do?

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      Neha 

      3 weeks ago

      I love a boy who is noticing me and his should i express my love in action

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      lulu 

      3 weeks ago

      I need to make him fall in love with me but he has a girlfriend allready

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      daddy lynn 

      4 weeks ago

      I like this boy, and ion think he likes me but on snap he nicknamed me “bbg” and said that we should date but then he said nvm and he always asked my favorite sports and fishing and hunting and I like all them things so we actually have something to talk about and he said that I had a chance and he offered me to hang out but I was busy bc it was my moms birthday, he always stares at me he also tried to talk to me but we are both to shy. Ion know what too do

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      Parinita gogoi 

      4 weeks ago

      How should I make him fall in love on me at school, because he is shy

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      POLO 

      4 weeks ago

      I like my best friend who has a strong personality and least intrested in love. How to make him fall in love with me?

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      Josie 

      5 weeks ago

      Hello there, I have been waiting for a response for a month now and I haven't had one. Please am still waiting

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      Dhskak 

      5 weeks ago

      There is the guy from Instagram that I met and I guess I really like him but idk how he feels

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      Claire 

      6 weeks ago

      so there's this boy and my mom knows I like him he's super cute but he doesn't go to my school and I see him like 1 or 2 a month and he said that he likes me and I don't know if he means in a friend way or more than a friend way. but we were at a rodeo and he was saying bye to me and he gave me a hug and omg I did not expect it and I think I'm gonna ask him to hang with me at the fair and see where that takes me do you think that's a good idea?

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      Donnie 

      6 weeks ago

      This year on Oct 18, after school waiting for the bus, I started talking to my friends friend. And he seemed interested in me that day for some reason. It was my birthday that day of course, and I said to him it was my birthday and I was hoping for a birthday kiss from someone but I didn't get one:D And he made a cute face like he was thinking about it, idk how to explain it. And I had to go so I said bye. And a couple days after that I didn't see him and than I found out his relative past away. I felt really bad because he seemed so happy before. And now hes just distant, short in his words, hardly makes eye contact, and is not interested in what Im saying. But before all this happened he gave me a kiss when he got back:) I was actualy forced by his friends and my friends to go up to him cause I was so shy. Took about 4 attempts for him to kiss me right:DD, (i dont think he kissed a girl before) but he has very soft lips. Hes a good guy. Hes just mysterious to me. Im dwelling over the fact that hes not interested in me. Idk what to do, his friends say that hes always boring and awkward like that. I just dont know what to do. I want to confront him but Im afraid what he might say. Can someone help me out?

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      Kyle Kimberly 

      7 weeks ago

      An eighteen years guy keeps teasing u n makes u feel special but u are scared dat ,dats how he is but u love him n want to be sure he likes u as well.

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      A selfless lover  

      7 weeks ago

      I love a boy. I started liking him in 2018 and I still love him. He is also the inspiration of all the romantic poems I have written which are appreciated by all those who read them. But, he already has a girlfriend. But I don't want to take him away from his girlfriend. Because, he got her after a lot of hardwork. He started liking her in 2014 and finally she accepted his love this year, after so many years. But I know that she is doesn't actually love him. Even he was aware of this. But still he is happy being with her. I can go on cursing his girlfriend but, when I remember the smile on his face while talking to her, I don't feel like doing so. I don't want to take away his peace. I know he is very handsome, kindhearted, has a good moral character etc(his goodness will not end) . But he is incomplete with the smile on his face . I just want to see him happy. When he is happy, I am also happy.

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      kaylee pack 

      7 weeks ago

      i am in 6th grade and i want a boy to like me but i seem desperate!

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      cat101 

      8 weeks ago

      Hey, SO I like this guy in my class he is so nice but he like me and my friends as dating and he use to date my other friends and I really want to know if he could like date me but I am never alone with him my friends are always there.And he invited. Me to play mystery wheel with him and I live Down the road from him. And he is also a youtuber I am 1 but we are both gamers and I really want to date him. Plz tell me how to ask him out

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      Help 

      2 months ago

      I like this guy but we rarely talk and I want to start talking again but I am not sure how because I only see him 3 times in a school day and only 2 times Tuesday & Thursday

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      Alisha 

      2 months ago

      Mine is complicated. I have a crush on this boy,he’s in 1 of my classes and I’ve known him for a couple of weeks and we barely talk! And I think he might like this other girl because he sat beside her purposely but I think they are friends idk!

      He might also like me too not sure he used to like my recent pictures but then I was very rude to him and he stopped liking them ever since but yesterday at school he could not stop staring at me.And in the hall ways he left his friends and past me in the hall like 20 times I was sitting down .I don’t like his friend (they think I like someone else) and also in the class I am with him (computer class)everyone including the teacher made up a thing that I like this kid named (Jon) and all they talk about is that ,but I told everyone I hate Jon no one listens so my mood break and I became rude .Even before I had stronger feelings for him I saw him look at me a couple of times when I was looking away .Yesterday I had my earphones and I asked the teacher if I can listen to music and before the teacher replied he said look Mr I didn’t even bring mine because he got in trouble for using it the other day !:d He talks to other girls but doesn’t seem to notice me (maybe it’s because he knows I reject lots of people

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      emilyh. 

      2 months ago

      okay so i like this guy right, so i can kinda tell because he acts so flirty around me, plus his friends tell me who i am frients with as well. but the thing is that he is so damn shy. and the fact that i know that he likes me too makes me mad because he might be afaraid to make the commitment and i dont want to pressure him. and i also think that we might be a thing someday and if i dont get this guy before highschool i might just fucking explode

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      xina 

      2 months ago

      I love this guy, ND he loves me too. but he's having a girlfriend,how can I express my feelings to him.

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      Josie 

      3 months ago

      Am 21 and not very open to the extent that I can't even start conversations properly with people. I have few friends and always indoor as well... I met this guy at school and we became classmates then friends of which some students started saying we were a thing but one day, my friend made fun of him saying am going on a date whereas he had already given me a biscuit of which I said "am gonna eat it with my date" He suddenly turned mute and his face started changing (red and green) so my friend told me "he's furious" then he said "why will u give the biscuit to another guy" I replied saying it was a joke and that I was sorry but he gave a deaf ears to my apology. He didn't come to school the next day neither did he replied to my messages but came to school only to say that he's gotten a girlfriend overnight.. His friend told us that it seems he liked me but was afraid to say it and I was blunt to his feelings all those times... Afterwards his behaviour towards me changed even though we talked and all and I asked why he was absent, didn't reply to my messages and he suddenly having a girlfriend... All he said was "why do u care?" I felt down the whole week so noticed and asked if everything was alright but I said yes... We left school like that and I must confess that I liked his company to bits... Now where I stay I know a guy who I don't know whether he's taken or not but guess so even though I've never seen him with a girl in the last three years(only in our neighborhood since I don't go out a lot)... We greet each other with a warm smile and sometimes ask each others health but we kinda not get too far with it... Strangely for me, we seem to have a crush on each other though am not sure but that's the vibe I get anytime I see him.. I once started a conversation with him on messanger of which he surprisingly responded but didn't know how to go ahead so I stopped since then I was embarrased to look at him whenever I see him.. I saw him one day and didn't mind him awkwardly, he also didn't say a word.. But after some weeks, we started greeting each other again especially in a bar we frequently see each other since my friend's dad owns it. I normaly see him on weekends and oh we live in the same house but different apartments so I usually see him through my window. Any ideas about the two guys and for me as well please?

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      Riley 

      3 months ago

      So i like this guy and he is very athletic just like me. He had just got done running in his cross country meet and we were chilling with his friends and i was the only girl. So his friends untied one of my shoe and the guy that i like offered to tie my shoe. I hesitated but still let him tie my shoe and i put my foot lower and he said "cmon put your foot higher im not going to hurt you, i promise." So i put my foot up higher amd his friends said "awe you guys would make a great couple" he kept tying my shoe but looked up and smiled. I can't tell if he likes me or not but im pretty sure that he does.

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      Selena 

      3 months ago

      So i like this guy.... And in class we poke each other!... And he grabbed my waist. I dont know if he want to be more than friends. He looks at me alot. Does he like me? We talk alot in class.

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      Midiam Tekle 

      3 months ago

      Hiiii!! I love a boy from my class ! We are in the same class . He knows who I am but he has never talked to me but he talks to my friends and I am not always in school and he talks in the class and ask the teachers where I am ! How can I make him my friend or my boyfriend! I really love this boy !??

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      Kristy 

      3 months ago

      There's a guy in my class room and I like him a lot, but he likes another girl and I don't know about me . Once I made a card written I love you n he saw it I said to him that go n show to ur cursh, so he put it in front of me n said I'm joking n was blushing... He acts as a normal class mate but if I say something to do then he does, but if others say he doesn't. Earlier he used to not to listen me , do my things , but now he does do my work patiently , so does he like me or not?

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      Isabella 

      4 months ago

      I am 20 years and am in love with a guy who is dj, bt we just act to be friends, he also has feelings for me because when we goes for a party he gets jealous and he changes his moods when he see me with another guy, how do i do so as to confess his feelings towards me or what should i do to make him realise that i do love him? Please help because i do love him

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      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      You’ll get to an age where your family will be less strict, Laiba. It sounds like this guy is not the one for you anyway. It shouldn’t be so hard to talk with a guy. Wait for the guy who responds quickly and eagerly every time you talk.

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      Zoni 

      4 months ago

      Thanks

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      Help 

      4 months ago

      There is a boy in my computer class he always look at me and when I look him back he gave a sweet smile I like him but how can I impress him??

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      Laiba 

      4 months ago

      It is so hard to talk with my guy,because my family is very strick.When I see him, he don't response me.

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      Daniel Long 

      6 months ago from All Over

      Come on. He blocked you on snap and follows you on insta and likes what you post. That’s hardly a declaration of love, is it. If you really like the guy try talking with him in the real world and see how you get on.

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      unknown 

      6 months ago

      so there is this guy i rely like and he blocked me on snap and follows me on insta and likes everything i post is he into me or no?

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      Alka Singh 

      6 months ago

      thanks for post ..i really need this one..

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      Daniel Long 

      6 months ago from All Over

      Tell him if he asks you out you'll say yes, but he's wasting his time chasing your friend because she says she just sees him like a brother ... and you're really not enjoying hearing him talk about her all the time.

      Then give him time to think about all of that. Maybe he'll ask you out, even if it is not right away. Meanwhile, please stop the 'killing me inside' way of thinking. He's just a guy that you like. Nothing more significant than that. If you don't get together with this guy, there will be another better guy somewhere in your future. So try to keep perspective.

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      Help 

      6 months ago

      I need help I like this guy but he likes my friend and my friend sees him like a brother. He keeps asking me for advice for her and it is slowly killing me inside. How do I get him to like me.

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      Daniel Long 

      6 months ago from All Over

      Hi DuDu. I’m hearing you. Here’s what I suggest. Spend the time asking him questions and talking about things and places that interest you ... until you hit on something you have in common or an interest you share.

      Then quick as a flash, without waiting because then it becomes awkward, suggest you go to (or do) whatever it is you discover you have in common. That can be as simple as ‘Oh, I’d love to go there. Want to come with me?’

      Because you’re an adult you can make a firm date without having to ask parents for permission or any other messing around. So I’m thinking it should be pretty easy for you to just make a suggestion and then make it happen. If he’s interested I’m sure he’ll jump at the chance to join you.

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      DuDu 

      6 months ago

      Hi Daniel, really nice posts you have. And all questions are related to the younger student population. well, even the grown ups have issues with making guys like them hehe and impressing them. I just met a guy who is smart, beautiful and really nice. He is a friend of a friend and i don't usually hang out that much with my friend. But we are always going to house parties and bdays together. My crush has suggested that we should meet again like a group. The thing is how do I take it from there. I mean i will talk to him and be myself and not go overboard. but I am feeling that i will not have many opportunities to impress him so the ones i am going to meet him on need to count. So what to do. how to build a bridge between me and him??

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      Daniel Long 

      6 months ago from All Over

      Hi Bubble. You know what a pleasant surprise it was to see the guy after five years? Well aaa other five years will pass just as quickly. And when you see the guy then, you’ll be ready to try dating him because the age gap won’t be such an issue.

      Childhood flames sometimes turn into adult partners. What spoils your chances of future happiness with a guy is trying to stumble into a relationship too early. So I suggest you wait.

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      Bubble 

      6 months ago

      There is a guy I liked when I was in class 4th and he was in 6th and after 5 years I met him yesterday of course he is in 11th class as of now. He is two years older then me. But earlier when we were kids we both used to like each other. And I still like that guy. So I met him yesterday in a party I was really happy and excited and we had a eye contact for like 10 seconds or so and we both were kind of blushing and smiling. We both were really happy to see each other. But I can't predict anything as of now bcz after so long we met yesterday I don't have his contact number or anything. So I just wanted to know how can I get him to like me or does he even likes me?

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      If the guy can’t be nice all the time, walk away. Do you really want to be involved with someone whose moods change daily? That can’t possibly be an attractive proposition for a long term relationship.

      It is worth waiting for a guy you can trust to be consistently kind and pleasant to you.

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      Melissa lungu 

      7 months ago

      Wow

      I am touched

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      Anonymous 

      7 months ago

      So i like this guy that i think likes me back and all my friends are saying how we will be a good couple and he looks like he enjoys the teasing but i don't we sit at the same table and he kicks me 24/7 and is always teasing me but the next day he acts like the nicer guy never existed he made me cry and i don't know what to do i've never felt like this before and i guess i hope he likes me back he said im pretty and we always talk on snapchat and other social medias but he says he doesnt like me and once he even hugged me and was blushing after but it could have been a dare from his friends ._.

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Joy, you need to ease up a bit. The guy probably got busy or his phone battery went flat or someone started talking to him face to face and he put his phone away. If you’re going to stress out like this, you’ll waste a lot of time and effort. Not worth the drama, really.

      I know you said you met him, but ‘April 2018’ is this month. So I’m wondering if you have actually met him, or just added that bit so you don’t sound like you’ve not met him yet.

      Here’s a word of warning ... for now and in the future. The cute young guy you think you’re talking to online might be a dirty old man, or a predator even if he’s young.So it is really dangerous to ‘develop feelings’ for someone you don’t actually know anything about. If he’s not a part of your real world and none of your friends know him, beware.

      I don’t believe you should give him your address for your party in case he becomes a stalker. And you should NEVER agree to ‘sneak off’ and meet him. Girls have been murdered that way.

      Here’s another clue to keep you safe. If a guy tells you he’s ‘ugly’, you should believe him. He’s probably talking about his personality and is giving you a disguised kind of warning. There’s a big difference between ‘I’m not really good looking’ and ‘I’m ugly’.

      So ... I think you should forget about the online guy. Find a nice guy who you meet in person, who other people know and respect. And when you start texting with the new guy, don’t stress if he doesn’t write back straight away.

      Okay, so you probably won’t have a boyfriend before this coming birthday... but I’m guessing you’ll have found someone special (who you can safely trust) before your next birthday. Now that you have a better appreciation for the value in finding a local guy, you’ll probably view them more positively. (And you won’t risk becoming another police statistic for online predators.)

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      I don’t know, Saskia. He obviously likes borrowing your stuff. I’m expecting him to ‘give’ a little though. I’m puzzled about why he calls you ‘wife’.

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Kaelynn, I think you should just talk with the guy without letting the whole ‘liking him’ thing get in the way. Having a crush is fun. We all know most crushes never progress to a relationship, but that shouldn’t stop us from enjoying them.

      Yes, you might be one of the lucky ones who ends up dating their crush, but don’t stress about it if you’re not. I believe he’ll notice if you just respond to your friends telling him you like him in an easy-going way. Don’t deny it, but don’t make a big deal out of it.

      ‘Yes, I said I like you, because I do. Doesn’t mean I want to marry you or spend all day every day with you. I just said I like you. That’s okay, isn’t it?’

      He’ll probably say ‘yes’, and you’ll say ‘Good. So let’s just get on with the day, shall we?’

      If he likes you, he’ll find a way to let you know.

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      joyx2 

      7 months ago

      So I met this guy through instagram, we talked since 2017, I started having feelings for him. During our convo, I sometimes ask him if he wants to catch up,, he says he’s keen and asks what were going to do (we have never met in person) but then when the day of our hangout is close by, he gives me excuses. I like this (i havent really told him my feelings yet).. he tells me his ugly but i really dont think so. Around April 2018, we had a school ball, and that’s the first time I’ve met him and we took a photo together, i was so happy that I finally got to meet him. My thoughts on him hasnt changed. I messaged him on insta.. we started talking for a bit.. and messaged him again and talked for abjt..(thats only becoz i like him).. i messaged him again saying “hiii” and he replied with “Yo” and then i asked him “Hows it” he hasnt replied its been hours and hours :( I just feel sad when he doesnt reply back i just feel like im bothering him and annoying. I also plan on inviting him on my bday party sooon. I really hope he comes. Should i just stop talking to him and just messaged him when I invite him to my party? What should i do?

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      Kaelynn 

      7 months ago

      I have a crush on this guy who is also a football player on my schools team, and i have had a crush on him for a long time and I told my friends about it. Tomorrow will be two or three weeks since my friends told him. We have only talked once since then and it is kinda awkward. I don’t think he likes me back but I don’t want him to think bad of me. I also want him to notice me more. What should I do?

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      saskia jones 

      7 months ago

      this guy, he takes most of the stuff i let him borrow and he calls me wife does that mean he likes me?

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      Keira 

      7 months ago

      You are my best

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Scroll down and you’ll see I’ve answered your question, April. There was no need to post it again so I’ve deleted the repeated message.

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      April, if you’re going to a new school there will be lots of new boys there. You’ll have a much better time if you wait to find a guy who doesn’t seem agitated when you contact him. I think you should be checking out all the options instead of focusing on one guy you happened to meet at the pool.

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Katie, you won’t know if you don’t try. Even if he tells his sisters and You somehow get teased, you can simply say, ‘I just said hello. Is there something wrong with that?’

      If you’re concerned about your weight shaking your confidence when it comes to boys, this is probably a good time to look at making changes to your diet and exercise habits. Nothing dramatic, just simple modifications that will help with your long term health.

      Even if you never get to know this guy, there’s bound to be other guys in the future. It shouldn’t be a problem if you’re carrying a bit of extra weight, as long as you’re fit and healthy enough to keep up with a future partner who might be into long walks and challenging you to games of tennis etc. Fitness is important.

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      April 

      7 months ago

      I went to this swimming class and saw this boy there, I thought he was pretty attractive. At first I thought he didn’t like me, whenever he would look at me I would get scared and nervous, he would also talk to me and laugh at things I would yell out of nowhere. but apparently four weeks after the swimming classes I gave asked him for his number and he said that he did.

      Though he lives in a camp far from where I live, which means that he isn’t really in town very often. In the past whenever I would try to text him, he would act like he was agitated by me, and I would Always be one who would start the conversations on text first. I always wish to see him and talk to him, but I feel like I would annoy him from trying to text him.

      After around almost a year of not texting or seeing him, I saw him at the swimming pool and he acted like nothing happened and acted very nice and funny. We had short talks and short eye contacts. I don’t know what to do, should I text him? I mean I’m transferring to his school that he goes to but I asked my friends that go to his school and tell me that he’s only there “sometimes.” It took me that whole 11 months to try and get over him and it worked for a little bit but I started to like him again. I just don’t know.

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      katie 

      7 months ago

      i like this boy but he is 2 years older than me and he is a loner but so am i and i feel like if i say hi to him he might laugh and tell his sisters and he might get the idea i like him witch i do but i just want to get to know him first and i am also fat so i dont know if he would get along with me or want to get along with me. what do i do?

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Ask him. ‘What’s up?’

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      Ashley 

      7 months ago

      Hi guys I have a crush on a boy I told my friends that I like him then I told my ex friend and he told my crush then I grab his hand of my ex friend then he told me he was gonna just tell him a story of a which then I was like suree then he was really then he said once a uponof time then am like are you surios then the teacher saw us then she said why are you three standing up then she screamed and said go to your sit right now and I blush the my ex friend was doing sighs whith his hands then my crush smile at me then I smile back then now for his fault now he sees me whiht a mad mad face idk why

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      Ann 

      8 months ago

      I met this guy online. We talked just for the sake of having a conversation with someone who seem a bit decent to me among anyone else online. He is actually not my ideal guy for 2 things: He is 10years younger than me, and a heavy smoker. Until we made it in person. It was one of the best dates I ever had. I let him hold my hand, hug me, and kissed me on a cheek. He asked if he could kiss me but I didn't since it was a first date well then later on I gave in without really kissing me back, after series of his requests and attempts. Generally, he is good company and I really enjoyed it. However, it turned out that we have different perspectives when it comes to a relationship. He doens't want commitment and I do. We both were clear about it. It was how the date ended. I am afraid he won't see me again because of that. He didn't text me for 3 days now since that date. I think I want to see me again and have some good and clean fun. I am bored with being single for a year now and I want something new to see and be with even for just friends only. Should I initiate the communication now? What should I do not to sound pushy and confusing?

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      Periwinkle 

      8 months ago

      Ok so I have a crush

      And he is really nice

      But I don't know how to talk to him

      But we do talk a little

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Nicol, I think the first step is to admit you’re probably not ‘desperately in love’ with him at this point. You just think he’s really hot and would like to get to know him better. That should take some pressure off.

      So now all you have to do is suggest you catch a movie together or go for a cup of coffee. That’s an easy step to see how you get along socially.

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      Nicol 

      8 months ago

      hie l have this guy l like we meet everyday during the week but he would be working so would l. l got a hard crush on him but I'm not sure if he likes me too sometimes he acts as if he does .What should l do im desperately in love with him but don't want it to be too obvious

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Say hello. That’s always a good starting point. He’ll either talk with you or he won’t. I don’t see any reason to make a big fuss out of it. There’s lots of reasons why he might be looking in your direction. Give him a chance to speak with you.

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      mummum 

      8 months ago

      I like a boy named Siddharth .He is in my division,I sometimes saw that he is staring at me but as soon as I see him , he looks away.I even thought of telling him but thought what would he think .please tell me what shall I do.

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      If he likes another girl, Alice, you'll probably find he's too preoccupied with her to notice anyone right now. The best thing you can do is start talking to him. Just make conversation and break down the barrier of silence. He might suddenly discover he's eager to speak with you again, and that could be the turning point.

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      Alice 

      8 months ago

      So I have a crush, and he says he likes a girl, and I dont think the girl likes him, but im not sure how to get his attention for him to like me.

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      One of your group (the bravest one, lol) walks up and invites their group to come and join yours. Works great if you’re having lunch or milkshakes (or thinking of going for one.) Then you all watch out for each other and don’t throw any of your friends under a bus. If you don’t know these guys well already, don’t let any of your friends leave with them.

      You and your friends should set ground rules before you start approaching strangers ... and stick to them.

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      Jenette 

      8 months ago

      What if there was a group of guys and your with your group of girls and you want to get there attention and want them to talk to you How do you do that

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      You have to decide about the clothes you wear, Aana. I can't tell you. I don't know what you look like or what the culture is in your community. Living at the beach, it can be normal to see men and women in stores wearing nothing more than bathers and a shirt for instance. But if someone walked into a store without wearing trousers or a skirt further inland, that would be incredibly inappropriate.

      Instead of thinking showing skin will win him over, I believe you should try talking with him.

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      Aana 

      8 months ago

      Hi

      Actually I like a boy and he once said he likes me but I'm not sure.

      I wear crop sweatshirt and small hot pant . is this good for wearing?

      He lives in front of my house. but he ignores me sometimes

      He is so handsome why he will like me.what should I do?

      I'm good at sports I won lots of medals in basketball game

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Help him feel at ease, Veda. As he becomes more comfortable around you he’ll open up more.

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      Veda 

      8 months ago

      The person I like is kind of awkward in general, and I usually have to start the conversations, but he seems kind of nervous when he speaks to me? I don't really understand though lol

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Talk with him. Move your level of interaction away from just teasing and laughing. See if you’re both ready to talk about interesting topics. There must be things you have in common. See if you can identify any.

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      Sylveon Ashglow 

      8 months ago

      I like this guy but I don't know what to do and i am smart and good at sports, I am myself, I tease him and smile, laugh and blush, I care for what I wear and I help him whenever he needs it. I think I'm out. I think he might like me but i don't know. I don't know what else to do so he will fall for me. Please help ASAP.

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Look closer to home, Annu.

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      Godslove Titus 

      8 months ago

      Just came to realize that this is so true, I need to practice it. Thanks a lot.

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      Annu 

      8 months ago

      I like a boy and he is far from me..I don't know how to impress him..

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      Olivya 

      8 months ago

      Thanks, Daniel. You're the best, and you have amazing advice!!!

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Lots of things feel weird when you’re a teenager, Olyvia, but they’re all part of the journey. I think it is healthy to have your attitude. And I think you should be pleased he’s treating you with respect and not wanting to cross the line. Don’t change yourself. All the guys probably respect you. That’s a good thing.

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Hi, Roses. I understand you’re eager to see what happens but my last response still stands. I think you should just wait and see what happens. Go to the party in a month and he’ll probably be there. You could give him your number then if you want and suggest he call you so you can catch up. But desperately trying to track him down via other people is not a good look. Wait until you see him face to face. Then you’ll see how your conversation goes. You’ll either be drawn to each other or you won’t. It will be fun finding out, and much more ‘natural’.

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      Olivya 

      9 months ago

      Well, that could be a possibility, but the only thing is he's not geeky. I know this because he acts very different around other girls. In fact, he's also had a "friends with benefits" relationship with a girl I know. But around me he seems to change, he's also more respectful. Maybe he's intimidated by me? Because I've had a lot of people come tell me that I'm super intimidating to guys. I don't really know, I'm so confused, because he's sent me mixed signals in the past. What do you think? Another question though; I wouldn't really mind if he sees me only as a friend, or more than that. Is that weird, or is it normal for a teenager?

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      Roses 

      9 months ago

      Sorry there was more to my question but it didn’t show up.

      Our show is over and I’m not going to see him again except at the after party in a month, and maybe next year or if I hang out with his sister. He doesn’t have a phone and his sister doesn’t either but I’m in touch with her best friend so there’s still a communication link there. During the production he wouldn’t really try to come talk to me all the time, but he seems happy when I would talk to him. Our high-fives would drag on for an extra few seconds occasionally and other petty things. He’s even told me at some stage during the show he was all thinking ‘I have to do this for -my name- as she believed I could do it’. So, yeah. Sorry this part of the message did not show up.

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Just wait and see what happens, Roses. I’m guessing he knows you like him. Don’t stress. He may chase you up some time in the future. For now, it just sounds like you had some fun so enjoy the memories.

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      Roses 

      9 months ago

      Hello, so I have a bit of a confusing problem.

      So, we had a school production, and it was based in our school. However, some students from another nearby school joined. The boy I like goes to this other school. We only really became friends towards the end of the production (I was also great friends with his sister). Every time before his performance I would encourage him and I even pecked him on the cheek a few times (he was wearing a wig though so I don’t know

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Hi Olivya. My guess would be he’s young and a bit geeky and trying to get close to you without ‘crossing the line’. He’s trying to be respectful and encouraging and get close all at the same time. Hence the awkwardness. That’s my guess. What do you think?

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      Olivya 

      9 months ago

      hi Daniel I just wanted to know what does it mean when a guy pats your head, somewhat awkwardly, and says well done, i'm proud of you, you always do the right thing?

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      If you wrote him a letter which presumably let him know you care about him but he’s not making any moves at all, I suspect you’re wasting your time. You shouldn’t have to chase after him. He might have a different girl (or guy) on his mind. If there’s no active effort from him, go in search of a man who knows how to appreciate you!

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      The Nobody 

      9 months ago

      Hey I've got a crush on this guy and I did everything (literally every thing) on this list and he still hasn't made a move is he playing hard to get or is he being plain dumb. I've also written him a letter and that made us closer he said he understood how I felt , but it also made me more confused......HELP ME PLEASE!

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      You know what you should do, Betanya. Be grateful you discovered how unreliable he is before things got serious for you, and walk away from him. Nobody wants to date trouble.

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Mahnoor, I am uncomfortable with the idea of anyone blurting out ‘I love you’ to someone when there’s no real sign of shared romance. Why don’t you just see if you can engage him in conversation and let him see what an interesting person you are. Suggest going some place together and see if you actually get along as a ‘couple’ or not. You might find things are really flat when it is just the two of you.

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      betanya 

      9 months ago

      hi daniel there is this guy i like then i thought he got the same feelings then he asked me out 3 days for a date but he didint come then i heard that he has girlfriend and i saw him kissing that girl wt should i do?

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      Mahnoor 

      9 months ago

      Hii..Daniel.. Im in love with my friend...I think he also likes me but never says to me that he likes me...please tell me what do I do?

      And tell me..Is that okay..if I tell him my feelings?

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      I’m not sure what you’re trying to say, Rina. You might like to try again.

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      Rina 

      9 months ago

      Hi.Excually i love one guy and he also love me..but every time we both scard that will we get marry in future.

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      Girl with 2 crush’s 

      10 months ago

      Hi I like 2 people and I don’t know which I like more one is in my class and one is not but I have a feeling that one of them likes me back but I don’t know how to talk to him there’s Alex

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      Daniel Long 

      10 months ago from All Over

      What do you mean by ‘acting weird’, Rochelle.

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      Rochelle 

      10 months ago

      I like this boy and we're really good friends. He always asks me whenever I'm sad if i'm ok but I feel like he just sees me as a friend. We always talk and make each other laugh, even if we've had a bad day. I was wondering if I can have some advice on what to do next cause he's been acting weird around me lately...

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      Daniel Long 

      10 months ago from All Over

      Matilda, I think you should spend less time texting and put more effort into talking with the guy. He’s in your class so you see him every day. Make it a long term strategy to get to know him. I’m guessing you’re both really young. If that’s the case, don’t expect him to be interested romantically for a long time yet. So just get to know him ... or wait until you’re both older.

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      Matilda 

      10 months ago

      I like this boy in my class and he is my best friends cousin and he knows i like him but he doesn’t know I like want him if you know what I mean it’s really awkward and I don’t know what I should do to get his attention and to get him to like me i text him a lot and al he really says is what are you doing then he doesn’t reply. So can you please give me some advice ... xo

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      Daniel Long 

      10 months ago from All Over

      Touching you is not necessarily an indication of liking you in the way you're hoping, Destaney. He should be trying to get to know you before even considering touching you.

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      Destaney 

      10 months ago

      There is this boy I have liked for 3 or more months idk if he likes me or not but he always tries to touch me

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      Daniel Long 

      10 months ago from All Over

      Jasmine, I don’t understand why you felt the need to swear in your message to him about English class. You need to think about how you are presenting yourself to him (and the rest of the world). You could ask his friend to introduce you but that’s making it all a bit of a big deal. Why not just walk up to him and say hi? I’m sure you’ll think of something to talk about.

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