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How to Pick Up a Straight Man at the Gym

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Hot Gym Guy

Hot Gym Guy

How to Pick Up Guys at the Gym

Is there a hot straight man at your gym that you have been keeping your eye on? Does he seem to work out around the same time that you do every day? When you glance at him, does your heart skip a beat, causing you to get all worked up?

If so, you have a major man-crush on the straight guy at your gym!

But what can you do about it? And how do you handle things if you sense he might be a little curious about you. Is there any way you can make a straight man from your gym fantasy come true?

This brief article will examine how to pick up a straight dude at the gym the right way and help you maximize your chances for a realistic connection, regardless of whether he is straight or bi-curious.

You will need to do a few steps in advance if you want to really make your fantasy come true.

I'll let you in on a little secret right now - the advice I am about to give has worked for me and for a few friends of mine with results that were amazing. Are you ready to learn more?

Let’s jump right in!

Hot Gym Guy

Hot Gym Guy

Step #1: Find Out the Guy’s Name

This simple step will give you the ability to do a background check on the dude before you start making any moves.

Finding out his name will then let you do a Google search and potentially a social media search, using Facebook, Twitter, and the like. Doing your homework in advance will save you a bunch of time later.

Getting His Name

There are a number of ways you can discover the guy’s name you are cruising. Some are on the up and up, while others are a bit sneaky.

Here are three choices:

  1. Ask someone at the front desk or talk to other gym members in a discreet way.
  2. Wait until the dude checks into at the front desk and closely watch his personal information as he swipes in.
  3. However, the easiest way is to eavesdrop on his conversations at the gym and listen for a name.

However, if he is the quiet type and keeps to himself, you will need to follow choice 1 or 2.

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Search the Internet

Search the Internet

Step #2: Search the Internet and Social Media

This particular step is all based on step #1. Assuming you have his name, you can now go about doing an Internet search. Here, you are going to snoop around and see if the guy appears to be gay or straight.

If he is straight, you will pretty much need to end your efforts unless you have reason to believe that the guy might be curious.

If he is gay or you suspect he might be down with meeting, move on to step #3.

Get Him to Spot You!

Get Him to Spot You!

Step #3: Get All Muscled up and Ask For a Spot

Pick the day you are going to make your move. Dress somewhat sexy but keep it tamed down. When you get to your gym, make sure you are working on equipment that will be near his location. Because you have been watching this guy for a while now, you should pretty much know his entire workout routine.

In a friendly way, make eye contact with your target and, later on, walk over to him and ask for a spot.

Avoid the temptation to strike up major conversations at this point – just ask for the spot. If you want to introduce yourself at some point, that is fine. You will need to act like you do not know his name when he offers his; however – remember, you already know it from step #1.

The idea here is to gauge his response and to confirm any potential interest. My suggestion here is to pick something fairly simple while avoiding anything embarrassing.

For example, asking him to spot you while doing a military press would probably be OK. Asking him to spot you while you lay flat on the bench press while he stands behind you (and maybe even elevated depending upon the bench) is a bad idea! Think about this for a minute, and it will make sense.

Step #4: Say Thanks and Walk Away for That Day

Now that you have made verbal and perhaps quasi-physical contact, you should have a basic understanding of what you are dealing with.

You will be tempted to want to ask him for another spot a bit later, but I suggest you not do it. The goal here was to establish contact. Your next contact will happen during a future gym visit – so keep reading.

Step #5: Make Sure You Say Hello Next Time

During this step, you now have a permission slip to make say hello and even make small-talk. The boundary was established from step #3, which loosened up the ground a bit for conversation.

Keep these conversations simple and easy.

Maybe ask a few questions that relate to something you know he is interested in, based off your social media snooping activities from step #2. And it goes without saying, make sure you talk about the gym and working out. The reason being is that you both already have that much in common.

Step #6: Repeat Step 5 Several Times With a Twist

There is an old saying – slow and steady wins the race. Allow a few “bump-ins” at the gym to occur before you start going for the gold. Remember, your goal is a hook-up with your fantasy gym guy, not some random hook-up off a phone app.

Each and every time you see this guy, keep it upbeat and positive. Hopefully, he is now offering to spot you, or you are offering to spot him.

Now that you two have been talking and sharing, you should have a good sense of what is possible. On one of these random visits, make sure he notices you checking him out. I suggest being somewhat obvious but not ridiculous.

Step #7: Make Your Move

This is the critical step and the one you have been building up to on your quest to pick up a hot guy at the gym.

The best advice I can give you is to simply ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. If the dude is gay, he will know exactly what you mean.

If the guy is straight but curious, you will likely have your work cut out for you. It might help if you go out to a local straight bar to tie one on. If he hasn't picked up your vibe at this point, the dude is either clueless or is likely waiting for you to make a move. If he is not interested, he would have communicated this to you by now.

Regardless, I would suggest that you get it over with fairly quickly and not wimp out. Otherwise, you are just going to be holding on to fantasies forever.

Final Thoughts

Many readers here will say it is a bad idea to hook up with someone from the gym they work out in.

I can’t lie – there is a lot of truth in this advice.

All I can say is that if you really want to do it anyway, the approach I have laid out here can work. I am not saying it works 100% of the time, but I am saying that I have had success with it and more than once.

FYI: The "straight" guys I have connected with have turned out to be a lot more experienced than I thought. Some of the married ones really shocked me.

Remember to use caution. If you play your cards right something fun could happen with the straight guy at your gym you have been wanting.

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