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How to Get Your Boyfriend's Attention and Make Him Want You More

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Making your boyfriend want you is about knowing when to give and when to hold back.

Making your boyfriend want you is about knowing when to give and when to hold back.

11 Ways to Make Him Want You Even More

Practical rather than cheesy, this article looks at things you can do in your everyday life to make your boyfriend want you more and more. Let's forget complicated relationship advice and reverse psychology tips that ask you to ignore him—here is a 21st-century, no-nonsense guide to getting his attention.

1. Surprise Him by Dressing Up

Look at any of the popular women's magazines and you will find airbrushed pictures of dazzling divas on one page after another. Such flawless looks may not be possible in real life, but you will make your boyfriend want you more if you manage to pull it off once in a while.

Don't confuse this with putting on kilos of makeup and displaying model-like behavior all the time. Just give him a glimpse of what you can transform into if you desired. Your sexy look will be engraved in his mind for a long, long time.

2. Ask Him Out for a Date Once in a While

It is no secret that the 21st-century woman still loves a chivalrous man. However, you'll probably surprise him if you make the first move and ask him out on a date for a change.

This could go either way—he could feel relaxed and happy giving you the reins of planning your romantic rendezvous, or he could feel weirdly surprised watching you take charge. Either way, you will get his attention.

Reserve the tables, drive him there, drop him off at his home, and look into his eyes as you say "I love you" and kiss him goodnight. Do whatever it takes to show him that you can wear the pants, too.

Busting out a spontaneous dance move will make your SO look twice!

Busting out a spontaneous dance move will make your SO look twice!

3. Learn a Dance Move

Don't confuse this with learning how to dance—not all of us are comfortable shaking a leg. All you need to do to get your boyfriend's undivided attention is to learn a single dance move and bust it out at the right time.

Whether it is a sexy twist or an elegant twirl, make sure to do it when he least expects it. You are likely to see raised eyebrows and a priceless look on his face.

4. Stop Calling Him Those Mushy Names

It's great to call your partner mushy and cute names, but you could risk falling in the "comfort zone" trap if you overdo it. No matter how sensitive your guy is, deep down inside, he is still a guy. He could possibly be turned off if you keep using cute names all the time.

Think of how he would want to hear his name from a girl and call him by it often.

5. Put on a Stellar Performance in Bed

Many relationship gurus may tell you to abstain from sex if you want your boyfriend's attention and make him crave you even more, but that's the exact opposite of my point here.

If you and your guy have already taken your relationship to the bed, put on a stellar performance and leave him panting for more. Feel free to take initiative in the sack, dominating and satisfying him like never before. When he's not with you and starts to fantasize, all he will think about is you and only you.

Who said mutual support couldn't be a turn-on?

Who said mutual support couldn't be a turn-on?

6. Support Him and Massage His Ego

Ego plays a massive role in a guy's personality, and so does the presence of a supportive partner. Just like you love to lean on his shoulder, make sure that yours is available when he needs one.

Be supportive of the things he does and what he believes in. Give him compliments when he is feeling down to give his confidence a slight boost. Slowly but surely, he will be addicted to the kick he gets every time he is with you. And as a bonus, this feeling will make him miss you every time he is away from you.

7. Learn How to Say No

Just like how women may not want to be with men who are pushovers, men will love it if the woman in their arms isn't one either.

Show him that you know when to put your foot down and say no in both your personal and professional life. Not only will you make him want you more, but he will also have high regard and respect for you as an individual.

8. Focus on Your Own Life and Success

Guys like girls who have focus, whether it is in their studies, sports, career, or any other activity. Show him that you are a woman with dreams, passion, and ambition. Focus on your own life and vigorously pursue whatever you are doing at the moment.

Men are naturally attracted to successful women—if you manage to become one, there is little more you will need to do to make him want you more and more.

9. Carry Yourself With Confidence

We all love to hang out with people who are confident and have high levels of self-respect. A confident personality automatically attracts attention and over time, garners respect. Your boyfriend will beam with pride when he walks alongside you.

10. Be Attached, But Don't Be Needy

The best thing about being in love is that you get to share your life with somebody you care about. Being in a relationship itself is all about depending on each other, but things can take a frustrating turn if one partner becomes too needy.

Would you like it if you had a possessive boyfriend to deal with? Assuming the answer is no, if you find yourself heavily depending on your guy for just about everything, you should take a time out and give your relationship a fresh twist. Show him that you are an independent person who can get things done on your own.

11. Show Him That You Have a Life of Your Own

It's good to be absorbed in your partner's life and spend hour after hour cuddling and doing all the naughty things a couple is supposed to do. But at the end of the day, people like to be around folks who have a life of their own—partners included.

It is fine if you can't talk to him for a few days because you have been busy with a group project at college. It is ok if you chose to skip a date because you have to stay back at work to finish something on a tight deadline.

Making him want you more is all about making him realize that you are a passionate girl who has a fire in her heart and a plan in her head, living life on her own terms.

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