I am a relationship counselor who loves giving advice to others.
How do you know when a girl likes you? What kind of hints or signs do they give?
While some guys will analyze a girl's text message or offhand remark to death, in reality girls are not that hard to figure out if you stay calm and just remember to be yourself. All you have to do is see how she acts and watch her behavior when she's around you.
When she shows you any of the following signs she most likely wants you to ask her out.
Top 8 Signs a Girl Likes You
- She sneaks looks at you, smiles a lot, and seems overly excited to see you.
- She enjoys speaking to you, listens attentively, and asks lots of questions.
- She suddenly starts wearing makeup, dressing differently, or wearing her hair differently around you.
- She teases you and/or touches you.
- She hangs out with you more than her friends, likes the things you like, and keeps bumping into you.
- She sticks up for you.
- She finds excuses to touch you.
- She finds excuses to talk to you.
1. She Sneaks Looks at You, Smiles a Lot, and Seems Overly Excited to See You
One sign a girl is interested in you is when she keeps sneaking looks at you. She wants to look at you, but doesn't want you to know it. Do you catch her looking at you? Does she sometimes look away when caught? Those are pretty good indications that she wants you to notice her. Constantly looking at you is a way of telling you she's attracted to—or at least interested in—you.
Also, If she is quick to say "Hi" and "How are you?" when you first see her, then there's a strong chance she likes you. Remember her actions and body language will communicate more than her words. Girls will do many things to be noticed by you even if they're too shy to speak to you, so be sure to keep an eye out.
2. She Enjoys Speaking to You, Listens Attentively, and Asks Lots of Questions
If she seems to enjoy talking to you, there is a good chance she likes you. This is especially true if she asks you lots of questions about your personal life such as what you like, what you do in your free time, and if you are going out anywhere over the weekend.
A girl who is interested will show interest in your personal life simply because she wants you to know she finds your life interesting and would like to be a part of it. If a girl is shy, she may not approach you very often and, when she does, she may react by going red in the face or hiding her face. Sometimes shy girls will go a whole day without speaking to you.
3. She Suddenly Starts Wearing Makeup, Dressing Differently, or Wearing Her Hair Differently Around You
If you notice a girl suddenly starts dressing up, or wearing more makeup or lip gloss, or doing her hair to make it looks straight and shiny, then there's a good chance she wants you to notice her. Of course, some girls may just want to look good.
But you should consider whether she's dressing up to impress you. If she plays with her hair a lot around you, then you could be the reason for these sudden changes. Girls will often unconsciously play with their hair when they're around a guy they like. If she does feel something for you, she'll want to look her best in front of you.
4. She Teases You and/or Touches You
A girl may tease you by calling you names or playfully hitting you. If she does this in a playful manner, that's a good sign she likes you, since it's common for girls to banter with and get into the personal space of guys they like.
You might think that a girl who teases you or is mean to you doesn't like you. But I can tell you from personal experience it's often the opposite! She may just be trying to get attention because she feels rejected by you or because she wants to hide her true feelings.
5. She Hangs Out With You More Than Her Friends, Likes the Things You Like, and Keeps Bumping Into You
It is likely a girl will try to hang out in places she knows you'll be so that she'll have the opportunity to run into you and speak with you. She may pretend that she just happened to be there for some unrelated reason.
If she spends a lot of her time with you over her friends, that is another big sign. Girls consider their friends a big part of their life, so if she breaks away from to spend more time with you, then she must like you a lot. She may also ask if you want to go get coffee or do homework together. That doesn't happen often but it's a big clue that she wants be spend time alone with you which is her best chance to get your attention and show you what she's got.
6. She Sticks Up for You
A girl who likes you will will stick up for you when others put you down and will give you special treatment, such as giving you lots of compliments and gifts, taking care of you, or doing something she doesn't do for her other guy friends. So if she treats you differently than her other male friends, then it's likely you're the one she wants most out of the pack.
7. She Finds Excuses to Touch You
She might "accidentally" bump into you more often as a way of gauging how you respond, or simply because she wants physical contact with you. She might also give you lots of random hugs, which is a non-sexual and thus non-threatening way to get closer to you.
Or she might put her hand on your arm or shoulder when you're talking. If she does any of these more often than seems normal, then that's a strong sign she's into you.
8. She Finds Excuses to Talk to You
If you're the head of a club she belongs to, it makes sense she'd ask you questions about that club. But if she asks you questions about things she could easily find the answer for herself or by asking someone else, then it's likely she's only asking you because she wants a reason to talk with you.
Patience Is Everything
These are the signs she will give you when she likes you. If she gives you many of the above signs, it's likely she wants to be asked out for a date. Think about the girl you like and whether she's given any of the signs I mentioned above. If you're still not sure don't hesitate to ask me for some advice. I am happy to help.
Also, don't make the mistake of rushing in and professing your feelings for her or asking if she's into you. Patience is everything. Eventually things come your way. Don't rush her, and she will let you know when she's ready.
On the other hand, if she treats you like a friend then you are likely just a friend. Be careful you're not looking for something that isn't there. If she gives you mixed signals then there may be something there.
If you want any dating and relationship questions answered, feel free to drop me a comment. Best wishes!