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20+ Tips for Getting Women to Notice You While Working Out
How do you impress a girl at the gym? How can you get women to notice you while working out? Will your big muscles attract girls? How do you talk to girls at the gym? From tips on clothes, fashion, and workout gear to suggestions for making a connection and striking up a conversation, this article provides useful advice for guys who think that big biceps and monstrous shoulders are all it takes to hook up with girls at the gym.
8 Etiquette Tips for Impressing a Girl at the Gym
1. Aim to impress her with your personality, not your muscles.
Many guys make the mistake of trying to impress girls with their bulging biceps rather than their charming personalities. Always remind yourself that it's your personality and charisma that will help you to impress a girl at the gym.
2. Don't try to impress her with how much weight you can lift.
Many guys also make the mistake of believing that the amount of weight they lift is directly proportional to how impressive they look at the gym. This is totally untrue, especially from a girl's perspective.
Don't try to flirt with her by showing off how many hundreds of pounds you can bench press or how you can do your bicep curls with the biggest dumbbells on the rack.
3. Use relaxed body language; don't act stiff and puffed up.
Puffing up and keeping your body stiff in an attempt to impress girls is a common sign of attraction in men. But this can also make you look like a weird muscle freak at the gym. Here are some pointers if you want to display confident body language and look attractive at the gym:
- Stand straight and hold your head straight so that it's aligned with your torso.
- Don't inhale and push your chest out to make yourself look bigger.
- Don't keep clenching your muscles to make them look ripped.
- Keep your shoulders wide but relaxed.
- Loosen up your body and don't act uptight.
4. Don't stare at a girl while she is working out.
Staring at a girl continuously while she is working out will make her think that you're some kind of weirdo. You can look at a girl by stealing a few flirty glances, but don't keep staring at her like a pervert.
5. Don't act obsessed with your workout.
You will look like a gym freak if you seem obsessed and meticulous about your workouts all the time. It is good to be dedicated to your training routine, but you will turn a woman off if you seem too aggressive.
This includes avoiding loud grunting and going at the weights as if they were the only thing that matters in your life. Girls like guys who keep fit, but not at the cost of making fitness a priority over everything else. So don't act like a monster by spending your whole life lifting weights or a cardio freak by hogging the treadmills or elliptical.
6. Smell nice; wear a nice men's cologne.
Smelling nice should be a number one priority if you want to impress a girl at the gym. Apply a pleasant-smelling deodorant or cologne before you reach the gym.
Keep a small bottle of your favorite men's fragrance in your gym bag so that you can spray some on after you finish your workout in case you manage to get a coffee date with the girl you like.
7. Wipe off that sweat—carry a personal gym towel with you at all times.
Most girls will agree that the sight of a guy dripping in sweat is generally a turn-off. Everyone expects you to be a little sweaty at the gym, but that doesn't mean you should leave puddles of sweat all over the workout floor.
Carry a personal gym towel with you and dab your forehead, neck, and arms as needed. If you tend to sweat profusely, there are many workout-specific t-shirts available in the stores specifically designed with moisture management and anti-odor technologies.
8. Build a rapport with everyone at the gym.
A girl will instantly notice you in the gym if you're the guy who knows just about everyone on the gym floor. Build a rapport with the trainers, gym staff, and others who generally come to the gym around the same time of day as you.
Girls are naturally attracted to guys who are friendly with everyone. This personality trait makes guys look approachable and easygoing.
This may be a bit tough for guys who are shy, but there is a solution. Instead of being a loud extrovert who shouts his greetings from across the gym floor, shy guys can acknowledge someone's presence with a confident nod. These nods will later evolve into small conversations.
8 Tips for Meeting and Conversing With a Girl at the Gym
1. Make eye contact, and smile if she looks at you.
Just like every other flirty situation in life, your smile is your biggest asset when you are trying to connect with a girl. Make eye contact with her, and flash a cute smile if she looks at you. If she smiles back, it will instantly break the ice.
2. Don't interrupt her workout.
Once you have made eye contact and exchanged smiles with the girl you like, it's time to find an opportunity to start a conversation. But don't interrupt her while she is busy working out.
You'll come across as rude if you make her put down her weights in the middle of a set or ask her to step away from the treadmill when she was at her peak.
3. Don't offer to spot or give advice unless she asks.
Another common mistake many guys make while trying to impress a girl at the gym is when they offer to spot her. Don't encroach on her space, and let her enjoy her workouts. If she wants you to spot, she will ask you.
The same applies to giving unnecessary advice on exercise movements and body form. If you think that she is working out in a way that could harm her body, talk to one of the gym staff and let them guide her.
4. Don't ask a girl to spot you.
You will annoy a girl if you ask her to spot you regardless of how light you are lifting. Unless you personally know the girl, asking her to spot you should completely be off-limits.
5. Talk about something other than gym and working out.
Don't start a boring conversation with a girl at the gym by talking about workouts, diet plans, and other fitness-related stuff. Instead, talk about something else. Here are a few topics that you can use to start a healthy conversation:
- Talk about hobbies.
- Ask a woman about her profession.
- Ask a girl what she does in life apart from working out.
- Movie buffs can gossip about celebrities and upcoming movies.
- Discuss new restaurants and shops that have opened in the area.
6. Compliment her on her workout.
You will come across as obnoxious if you start complimenting a girl on her good looks immediately after breaking the ice with her. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't use flattery to make her feel good.
Compliment her on her workouts and say things that indirectly hint at the fact that you are attracted to her. Below are a few examples:
- Your form is perfect; are you a pro?
- Most girls would die to be able to effortlessly climb that treadmill without breaking a sweat—how do you do it?
- Your exercise style shows that you are really committed to fitness.
- I could learn a thing or two about working out from you.
Use these compliments as a platform upon which you can build a rapport and later give her direct compliments for her look and maybe even her figure.
7. Add her on Facebook after you break the ice with her.
A few flirty conversations should be enough to make her comfortable enough for you to add her on Facebook without looking like a stalker. Look her up on the social network, and add her as a friend. Don't bombard her timeline with silly messages immediately after she responds to your friend request.
Adding her on Facebook will give you lots more to talk about when you meet her at the gym. Use updates from your feed to start conversations with her. For example, on Monday, you can ask her, "So, your pictures show that you had a pretty wild weekend? How was it?"
8. Ask her if she wants to meet outside the gym.
You must act fast after you have started having a conversation with her at the gym. Subtly ask her if she is seeing anyone, and think about how you can ask her out on a date.
You will always be stuck in the friend zone and become her loyal workout buddy if you never let her know you're attracted to her. Here are a few lines you can use to ask her out on a date immediately after your workout session:
- I am feeling so hungry after this workout. Do you want to grab a sub?
- This workout makes me feel like grabbing a healthy salad. Do you want to join me?
- I am driving over to the new cafe that has opened up in the neighborhood. Join me for a cuppa?
Impressing a Girl at the Gym: 6 Tips for Clothes, Fashion, and Workout Gear
1. Wear ankle socks.
Ankle socks are the only type of socks you should be wearing on the gym floor. Knee-high socks or those that sit on the shin are a complete fashion disaster.
Quarter-cut, low-cut, runner socks, and athletic socks are other names given to ankle socks. They generally sit right above the ankles.
2. Don't wear t-shirts that are too tight: Look cute with slightly worn-out tops.
Guys wear body-hugging t-shirts to show off their big biceps, bulging shoulders, inflated chests, and ripped backs. Girls like a guy with a fit body, but that does not necessarily mean they like looking at men wearing tight t-shirts.
Look like a friendly and approachable guy by wearing a comfortable t-shirt that looks natural. A slightly worn-out top that has a bit of character will make you look cute. It is a myth that looking rich by wearing new, brand-name apparel is the only way to get noticed at the gym.
3. Don't wear shorts that are too short or too long.
Training and athletic shorts that sit just above the knee look good on guys at the gym. Wearing shorts that are either too short or too long can give off a weird vibe. Avoid wearing those tiny running shorts or long basketball shorts that sit below your knees.
4. Avoid wearing spandex at the gym.
Spandex and compression clothing look good on bodybuilders, cyclists, or other professional athletes. Avoid such clothes unless you have a ripped body like a pro.
Certain types of compression clothing, especially compression shorts, are engineered to benefit your workouts. So if you must wear compression shorts, wear loose-fitting athletic shorts over them.
5. Don't wear large headphones; wear earbuds instead.
You don't necessarily need to bring your love for music to the gym floor by wearing large headphones. If you prefer carrying your personal music player to the gym, wear earbuds instead.
Apart from looking good, earbuds will also allow you to tune into the background chatter and hear what the girl is up to.
6. Groom your body hair.
If you want to look attractive on the gym floor, moderation and balance are the two most important words when it comes to managing manly body hair.
For example, some girls will be put off if the dense fuzz on your chest hair is glaringly jutting out from the edges of your tank top, while some women may be put off by a cleanly shaven look on your torso. Take tips from heartthrobs like Hugh Jackman and groom your body hair in a way that doesn't take your overall look to either extreme.
aketuk on July 15, 2020:
very important: Don't try to impress her with how much weight you can lift
Mystee Crockett from Everywhere You Want To Be on November 22, 2017:
Great article. I wish I could get more men to read it! Thanks for these great tips.
Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on July 25, 2013:
Great article. Love the personality and behavior tips especially. The first tip is my favorite. Voted Up!