How to Date Your Best Friend Without Ruining the Friendship
Falling in love with your best friend really is one of the greatest things that can happen to a person. However, at the start of a relationship between best friends there may be concerns over the risk to the friendship you share. If the relationship doesn't work out, many friends worry that they would no longer be able to have a friendship. You have to decide if you want to take the risk of taking your relationship further, if you are willing to work at your relationship then it can be worth that risk.
Of course there is no guarantee that just because this person is your best friend that you will be the perfect couple, break ups do happen and this is often the worry for friends who want to take their relationship further. You have to make sure that becoming a couple really is what you both want; once this decision is made there is no turning back.
What if you break up?
If the worst was to happen, would you still be able to be friends with the person? It is a difficult question to answer, but if you really do have a strong friendship then the answer to this question should be yes. Of course there is always the chance that your relationship will end badly and you simply won’t be able to remain friends anymore. You both have to decide if you want the relationship between you to change badly enough that it out weighs that risk.
How is dating a friend different?
Dating a close friend is completely different from dating someone that you hardly know. In most relationships the first few weeks or months are really spend doing nothing more than getting to know each other. When you are dating your best friend you will already know most everything about one another, so you bypass this stage altogether.
Of course, knowing someone so well is also a good thing, you already know what each other likes to do so planning your dates will be a lot easier. There will not be any of the usual awkward getting to know you dinners, you will also already know that you enjoy spending time together and likely have similar interests.
The trick is when dating your best friend, not to rush into anything. Make sure that it is in fact what you both want, and remember that just because you know each other well as friends doesn’t mean that you know each other as partners. There are still things that you will have to learn about each other, like any other relationship communication is key.
Your relationship will change
Be prepared for the change in your relationship, not just with each other but with those around you. Some people may think it strange that after such a long time being friends you suddenly decide to date, don’t be put off by this it is simply other people adjusting to the change in your relationship. Keep people informed so that they do not think that you have been secretly hiding your relationship from them, as this is a common thought when friends start dating and can make people think that they are not important to you or you would have told them sooner.
Make sure you communicate with each other, it can be strange at first to be in a different type of relationship with someone than the one you are used to. You may react to situations differently now that you are a couple, for example if someone chats up your friend you don't usually mind, but if you are the jealous type and someone chats up your boyfriend you might make an issue of it. Make sure you discuss any of these situations as they arise, your partner needs to understand your changed feelings, and what if anything they can do to make you feel better if these situations occur.
Dating your best friend really is a great experience, especially if that relationship turns into real love and commitment. There really is nothing like knowing that you are going to spend the rest of your life with your best friend. Trust me I know, I will be marrying mine next summer.