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14 Cute and Creative Ways to Ask Out a Guy Without Sounding Desperate

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Want to ask him out on a date, but you don't know how? Try one of these ideas! (Yes, flowers can be for guys, too!)

Want to ask him out on a date, but you don't know how? Try one of these ideas! (Yes, flowers can be for guys, too!)

You may find yourself asking, "How do I ask a guy out?" Well, there are many sweet and cute ways in which you can ask a guy out on a date and tell him that you have a crush on him. You can avoid sounding desperate by being creative, romantic, and girly. It is not weird for a girl to ask a guy out, so stop feeling nervous and afraid.

14 Ways to Ask a Guy Out

  1. Send him shy and incomplete text messages. Let him figure out what you want to say.
  2. Send a cute note by post.
  3. Find ways in which you can get his help.
  4. Ask a guy out on your birthday.
  5. Go out as friends and come back as boyfriend-girlfriend. It's sneaky, but it's cute.
  6. Give a note to a guy when you are going separate ways.
  7. Ask his best friend to introduce him to you.
  8. Make him ask you out. Play the "Do you have a girlfriend?" game.
  9. Tell your best friend to ask him out for you.
  10. Slip a note in a guy's bag to ask him out.
  11. Sit next to him on the bus.
  12. Be bold and take the direct approach to ask him out. Just say it!
  13. Ask him out by writing a short poem.
  14. Get cozy with your crush. He is yours if he makes the first move.

Even if you are a shy girl, there are ways in which you can say, "I like you," without facing an awkward situation. If he likes you back, there is no reason why he will not be your boyfriend. Below are detailed descriptions for all 14 of the methods mentioned above.

1. Send Him Shy and Incomplete Text Messages

Let him figure out what you want to say. If you are extremely shy, you can use incomplete text messages to give a guy hints that you like him. Such cute advances are generally self-explanatory, and the guy will easily pick up on your clues. Here are some examples of incomplete text messages that you can send.

  • I want to say something to you, but I don't know how to say it.
  • Can we go on a... Nevermind.
  • I have a crush on someone. Should I tell you?
  • I want to say something. But I don't know how you will react.
  • Do you know who I like in class? Umm... Nevermind.
Feeling shy? Send him flirty but incomplete messages. He will figure out that you have a crush on him.

Feeling shy? Send him flirty but incomplete messages. He will figure out that you have a crush on him.

2. Send a Cute Note by Post

Writing a full-page handwritten letter is out-of-date, especially when you haven't even begun dating a guy, but the intense cuteness of a handwritten note is still alive.

Take a small square piece of cardstock or cardboard and write "I like you" with a colorful pen. Draw a tiny rose, balloon, or a small kiss on the corner of the card. Put this in an envelope and send it to your guy by post.

Don't write your name on the card. Give the guy a heads up by telling him that you have sent him something. The expectation will create a small flutter of excitement.

3. Find Ways in Which You Can Get His Help

The easiest way to ask a guy out without sounding desperate is to think about how you can get his help. For example, if your crush is a cool geeky guy, you can ask for his help to install new software on your laptop. If he is a real estate agent, then you can ask him about the latest property prices on behalf of a fictitious friend.

The excuse of getting his help will let you meet with him more often. You can use these opportunities to impress him and get him to like you.

4. Ask a Guy Out on Your Birthday

This works best when the guy is already your friend. Be sure about your feelings, because falling in love with friends can either be extremely blissful or extremely messy.

When he comes to wish you a happy birthday and gives you a gift, flirt with him and say that no one gave you what you really wanted on your birthday. When he asks you about it, make a sweet face, and tell him that you have a crush on him. Tell him that a date with you is what you really wanted as a birthday gift.

5. Go Out as Friends and Come Back as Boyfriend-Girlfriend

If you are crushing on one of your guy friends, ask him if he wants to hang out with you at the movies or at a fast food joint. Don't tell him anything and just go as two friends hanging out with each other.

Pick a sweet moment and tell him that there was a specific reason why you called him to meet you. Be open and let him know that you don't want to remain in the friend zone any longer. Let him know that you have a big crush on him. It's sneaky, but it's cute.

6. Give a Note to a Guy When You Are Going Separate Ways

A super romantic way of asking a guy out is to give him a note just before you are going separate ways. For example, if you and your crush take separate buses from the same bus stop, hand him a note from your seat window while he is still waiting for his bus.

This way, you can avoid the awkwardness associated with the whole situation. You can look at the expression on his face as he unfolds the note and reads it while your bus starts pulling away.

Great Ideas for a First Date


1. Go to a used bookstore or library.

Free, unless you buy something.

2. Go to a flea market.

Free, unless you buy something.

3. Sing karaoke.

Depends on how much you order to drink.

4. Attend a local festival

Sometimes free. Usually no more than $20.

5. Attend a comedy open-mic.

Often free. Sometimes between $5-$10.

6. Watch a movie matinee.

Usually around $7

7. Have a Netflix double feature.

Free, assuming you have a Netflix account.

8. Bake cookies.

Depends on how hungry you are, but probably around $5 total.

7. Ask His Best Friend to Introduce Him to You

This generally works well, but only if you are friends with your crush's best friend. Confess your feelings for your crush to his best pal and ask him to introduce the two of you.

The best part about taking this discreet route is that the friend will tell you upfront if you are the type of girl your crush would like to date. You can also ask questions to find out a bit more about your crush's personality, likes, and dislikes.

8. Make Him Ask You Out—Play the "Do You Have a Girlfriend?" Game

If you think that your crush likes you too, you can start a flirty conversation that eventually leads to a situation where he asks you out. Below are some questions that you should ask him when you have a chat with him on the phone or over text messages.

  • Do you have a girlfriend?
  • Why don't you have a girlfriend?
  • What would your girlfriend be like?
  • Do you like me?
  • I wouldn't mind dating you.
  • Are you asking me out?

A series of such flirty questions will help you find out if he likes you too. Keep giving hints that you have a crush on him, and by the end of the conversation, he will probably have asked you out on a date.

Tell your best friend about your crush and ask her to talk to him.

Tell your best friend about your crush and ask her to talk to him.

9. Tell Your Best Friend to Ask Him Out for You

An easy way of asking a guy out without sounding desperate is to get one of your best friends to do the job for you. Just make sure that your friend isn't prettier than you are.

Your best friend can simply walk over to the guy and ask if he has a minute to talk in private. She can then reveal that you have a crush on him. Have her mention that she thinks that the two of you would make a cute girlfriend-boyfriend pair.

10. Slip a Note in a Guy's Bag to Ask Him Out

Notes slipped into bags, wallets, and pockets have forever been a way in which lovers have expressed themselves. This is a cute and no-nonsense way to tell someone that you like them.

Write "I like you" on a simple piece of paper and fold it many times so you can hold it on the tip of your fingers. Slip it into your crush's bag or jacket pocket.

11. Sit Next to Him on the Bus

Does your crush take public transportation? If he does, make sure that you sit next to him on the bus, train, or tram. Strike up a conversation, and as you "accidentally bump" into him more often, you will get more chances to give him subtle signs that you like him.

Find excuses to do stuff together while you are on the bus. For example, you can share a sandwich together. Or you can take your tablet out and ask him if he wants to watch a movie with you. Share your headphones with him. He'll get the picture.

12. Be Bold and Take the Direct Approach to Ask Him Out—Just Say It!

Girls who are complete extroverts can just use the direct approach and ask a guy out. Boys will love it because they find themselves turned on and intimidated at the same time when a girl is direct about her feelings.

Flirt with him on the phone or in person. Look out for signs in his body language that he likes you. Muster the courage to speak your heart out and just blurt out the three words "I like you."

If you decide to take this route, you should be mentally strong and prepared to handle an instant rejection. Don't break down if he says no, just walk away.

13. Ask Him Out by Writing a Short "I Like You" Poem

The cutest way in which you can ask a guy out is to write a sweet poem for him. Write an introductory line to the poem and explain to him that you have a crush on him, and this is how you feel.

Keep your poem subtle, and don't sound too desperate. Don't write more than five or six lines. At the same time, you must convey that you have a crush on him and that you would like to go on a date with him. Sign off the poem with either your email or phone number and ask him to get in touch if he feels the same way.

14. Get Cozy With Your Crush—He Is Yours If He Makes the First Move

Find out if your crush likes you by getting cozy and personal with him. Start giving hints of your crush on him by sitting very close to him, standing in his personal space, and getting touchy-feely with him.

Plan a moment when you are both alone. A park is a good place to do this. Move closer and sit right next to him. If he likes you, he will immediately reciprocate by getting touchy-feely, or he may even reciprocate by giving you a cute kiss for the first time.

Limit your interaction to a cute peck, and don't get too touchy-feely. Back off and make sure that he is genuine about his feelings. When you start dating each other, don't get too intimate until you are ready to take your new relationship to that level.

Both your friends and his friends can be a big help in getting the two of you together!

Both your friends and his friends can be a big help in getting the two of you together!

More Ways to Ask a Guy Out on a Date

Method Why?

1. Have one of your friends go over and tell him you think he's cute.

This will make you an adorable coward. This way, he still has to make the bigger move.

2. Slide him a note that says, "Do you like me? (circle one) YES NO MAYBE.

It might seem ridiculous for adults, but that's the point. He might find it funny and be intrigued by your sense of humor.

3. Buy him a drink.

Since most guys don't have creeps hitting on them all the time, he might be flattered... and will definitely be able to take a hint.

4. Use a terrible pick-up line.

Since men aren't used to hearing pickup lines used on them, it's likely that he'll find the situation funny.

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