How to Write Your Crush an Anonymous Note

Updated on May 29, 2018

Before you write anything, to anyone, think about why you want to write your crush an anonymous note, rather than signing your own name. Never leave your note anonymous simply to continue hiding from your crush! Sending anonymous notes can be a creative and romantic way to attain your crush’s attention, but it can also end in disaster.

To avoid disaster:

  • Send the note discreetly, via email, or directly into his or her locker. Don’t take the chance of embarrassing your crush by making a public display of it.
  • Make sure that your note makes it to the correct person.
  • Never use the ‘L’ word. And for heaven's sake-- try to not come off as creepy or stalkerish!
  • Never use a cheesy version of “roses are red, violets are blue.”
  • Send notes sparingly. Multiple notes a day comes off as a bit obsessive, and most people don’t find this an attractive quality.

Writing the Note

Step 1

Always write a rough draft on the computer so that you can check your spelling and grammar. You want to make a good first impression.

You might write about how you feel about the person, but don’t spend the whole note talking about yourself. What about him or her intrigues you? Do you admire anything about him or her? Avoid clichés: you’re probably better off not mentioning anything about hearts, or about roses. Don’t be afraid to feel uncomfortable with what you are writing—it’s anonymous.

Step 2

After writing the rough draft and making any immediate, necessary changes, spend a few days not thinking about it. Return to the note with fresh eyes; you’ll notice mistakes, and anything that might sound awkward (or stalkerish). Make any further changes, and then read the note aloud to yourself. Pretend that you are the person who will read it, and make any final revisions.

Step 3

Now that you have the words, it is time to work on the presentation of your note. If you plan on writing a hard copy, choose a nice piece of paper, not just printer paper or notebook paper. Hand write it—even if you have bad handwriting. It’s more personal.

If you are going to send an email, make sure that you create a new email account to send it from, don’t send it from your regular account. You should still try to personalize the email. Change the font, and maybe add some designs or a picture of something your crush has an interest in. He or she will appreciate the extra effort

Sending the Note

Never send your crush an anonymous note through snail mail. It comes off creepy, because you know his or her address and he or she doesn’t know you. Placing a note in his or her locker is classic, and convenient, but don’t let anyone see you or it will no longer be an anonymous note!

You could ask a mutual friend to deliver it to your crush, as long as it is a friend you trust not to begin rumors, or give you away.

If you have any kind of crafty ability, try folding the note in an interesting way. It goes that extra step to personalizing your message, and making it a note that your crush will keep for a long time.


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      21 months ago

      This was quite helpful! But, i'm afraid i'll never be able to "fess up" to my crush. any ideas on how to confidently do that?

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      23 months ago

      i don't think i won't be able to do that because wouldn't be awkward lol and what if he knew who the note was from and come to you and embarrass u in front of everybody i'm confused!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • sgiguere profile imageAUTHOR

      Stephanie Giguere 

      7 years ago from Worcester, MA

      Thanks :) It was an exclusive, and it gave me something different to write about.

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      7 years ago from Las Vegas

      how very interesting! It takes planning and know how to do this, if you get it wrong, it could go bad! Great hub, very creative and solid advice for people with a crush. FB'ed, Pinned and voted Up!


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