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How to Write Your Crush an Anonymous Note

Stephanie is a graduate Pony Clubber, a rock climber, hiker, poet, writing tutor, belly dancer, yoga student, and gymnastics teacher.

Want to stay anonymous? Be sneaky!

Want to stay anonymous? Be sneaky!

Secret Anonymous Message for Crush

Before you write anything, to anyone, think about why you want to write your crush an anonymous note, rather than signing your own name. Never leave your note anonymous simply to continue hiding from your crush! Sending anonymous notes can be a creative and romantic way to attain your crush’s attention, but it can also end in disaster.

What to Avoid

  • Send the note discreetly, via email, or directly into their locker. Don’t take the chance of embarrassing your crush by making a public display of it.
  • Make sure that your note makes it to the correct person.
  • Never use the ‘L’ word. And for heaven's sake-- try not to come off as creepy or stalkerish!
  • Never use a cheesy version of “roses are red, violets are blue.”
  • Send notes sparingly. Multiple notes a day come off as obsessive, and most people don’t find this an attractive quality.
Writing a love note isn't as hard as you might think!

Writing a love note isn't as hard as you might think!

Writing the Note

Step 1

Always write a rough draft on the computer so that you can check your spelling and grammar. You want to make a good first impression.

You might write about how you feel about the person, but don’t spend the whole note talking about yourself. What about them intrigues you? Do you admire anything about them? Avoid clichés: you’re probably better off not mentioning anything about hearts or about roses. Don’t be afraid to feel uncomfortable with what you are writing—it’s anonymous.

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Step 2

After writing the rough draft and making any immediate, necessary changes, spend a few days not thinking about it. Return to the note with fresh eyes; you’ll notice mistakes and anything that might sound awkward (or stalkerish). Make any further changes, and then read the note aloud to yourself. Pretend that you are the person who will read it and make any final revisions.

Step 3

Now that you have the words, it is time to work on the presentation of your note. If you plan on writing a hard copy, choose a nice piece of paper, not just printer paper or notebook paper. Handwrite it—even if you have bad handwriting. It’s more personal.

If you are going to send an email, make sure that you create a new email account to send it from, don’t send it from your regular account. You should still try to personalize the email. Change the font, and maybe add some designs or a picture of something your crush has an interest in. They will appreciate the extra effort!

Leave the note in or near the locker!

Leave the note in or near the locker!

Sending the Note

Never send your crush an anonymous note through snail mail. It comes off creepy because you know their address, and they don’t know you. Placing a note in their locker is classic and convenient, but don’t let anyone see you, or it will no longer be an anonymous note!

You could ask a mutual friend to deliver it to your crush, as long as it is a friend you trust not to begin rumors or give you away.

If you have any kind of crafty ability, try folding the note in an interesting way. It goes that extra step to personalizing your message and making it a note that your crush will keep for a long time.

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