How to Know If a Guy Likes You: 10 Signs to Tell When He Is Interested

Updated on November 15, 2017
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Figuring Out a Guy Likes You Isn't Always Easy

Although it might seem obvious when a guy likes you, figuring out guys isn't always that easy. Almost all women know this. Guys tend to be emotionless and women tend to be emotional and they don't often read each other well.

The signals a guy sends to a woman trying to indicate that he likes her often aren't the signals she's looking for and the signals she's expecting aren't usually the ones he's sending. Basically, figuring out whether a guy likes you or not requires a secret decoder ring nobody appears to be selling.

So how do you tell if a guy likes you? Well, it's this simple: read this article. Below I will outline how to tell when a guy likes you in simple, easy-to-follow steps. By the time you are done, you'll be a walking, talking man-analyzer and will never again be confused about how to tell when a guy likes you and how to tell when he doesn't like you. You'll also get a pretty good idea of when you should turn and run the other way.

Here's a thing to remember though: there are the times when a guy likes you and then there are the times when a guy likes you too much. Women love the former and start to get scared when the latter happens. Be on the lookout for exaggerations of any behaviors that may indicate when a guy likes you too much. Nobody likes a stalker.

Male models will flex a lot if they like you.
Male models will flex a lot if they like you.

The 10 Signs a Guy Likes You

He sleeps with you more than once - a mistake that women often make is that they assume because a guy sleeps with them that they like them, but that's not how men work. Sure, they probably liked you for that five minutes of bliss, but that doesn't mean that they woke up still liking you. A man will sleep with just about any woman at least once.

Men are dogs that way. While many women will form an attachment after that first time and assume that the man must like them, it's not necessarily the case. The big question after the first time is whether or not there will be a second time.

If the man comes back for more, there's an increasing chance that he actually does like you, particularly if there's more to the relationship than just sex. If it's just sex, then the man likes the sex. He doesn't necessarily like you. Just remember not to jump the gun if he sleeps with you once and assume that he likes you.


He returns your calls - another mistake a lot of women make is that they think a man has to call them within a certain amount of time after a first date. However, there's a wide variety of behavior that men exhibit with regard to phone calls that doesn't allow for easy analysis. So, whether a guy takes an hour (bad sign), a day (a little desperate), or a week (a little too long) to return your calls, the point is that he returns them.

If you call or text a guy and he doesn't respond, then you can be pretty sure he's not interested and that he doesn't like you. Just make sure you're not overdoing it on your end. Send one message or call him once and be done with it or else you're being clingy. Be it a woman waiting for a man to return her call or a man waiting for a woman to return his call, it's universal that people who respect and like other people return their calls at some point. People who do not respect and like other people do not return their calls.

If you're pining after somebody who isn't doing you the basic courtesy of returning your calls, move on. We spend way too much time making up weird excuses for why somebody hasn't called us back when the simple reason 99% of the time is that they don't like you at all or don't like you that much.


His pants are tight - What do tight pants have to do with anything you might ask? Actually, I'm stealing this concept from a line spoken by David Cross on the television show "Just Shoot Me". In the episode, David Cross's character is pretending to be mentally slow.

When he comes across a particularly attractive woman, he blurts out "my pants are tight!" to indicate that he doesn't understand why he has suddenly developed an erection. While this single characteristic alone may not be enough to conclude that a man likes you, it's certainly a good indication that he's attracted to you.

This being said, I do recommend you shy away from staring at that particular area in an effort to determine whether his pants are indeed tight. It's something you may just notice or the guy may be shifting around funny or you may figure it out during a hug. No matter what, it's usually a mark in the plus column for you. However, while it's a good sign, don't make too much of it. To paraphrase Eddie Murphy from "48hrs", such things happen to most men when the wind blows.


He wants you to meet his friends - If you've been going out with a guy long enough to kiss, possibly sleep together, and who knows what else, but you've never met any of his friends, you are in trouble. This is not a guy who likes you because guys who like girls want those girls to meet their friends because they're proud to be seen with them.

A guy's friends are vitally important to his existence and their approval means a lot. Don't try to explain away why a guy hasn't introduced you to his friends if he hasn't and you've been going out awhile. He doesn't like you or he's embarrassed by you or whatever.

Something is wrong. And what if he says he doesn't have any male friends? Well, that's a serious problem too. There's something wrong with a guy who doesn't have friends and you should be cautious to the point of not being anywhere near that guy.


He doesn't forget your name - This is something that usually occurs early in a relationship, but it's really something to pay attention to at any time. You see it in the movies a lot. Two people meet, have a great time, then wake up the next morning.

Because the guy was drunk, he can't remember the woman's name. A guy who likes you will not forget your name - ever. If he forgets your name, it's possible that he's an alcoholic or making up an excuse to make you mad.

A guy who forgets your name may also be a player who's going out with so many women that he's actually forgotten your name. No matter the reason, consider forgetting his name and moving onto somebody who's going to give you the respect you deserve... and remember your name.


He's nice to you - Hey, here's a novel idea: if a guy likes you, he's nice to you. This means he doesn't berate you verbally and he certainly never lays a hand on you in anger. Amazingly, this is something many women spend a lot of time rationalizing.

They explain away verbal and physical abuse because the guy is so nice 80% of the time. Well, you know what? 80% isn't enough. A guy who likes you, who's decent and worth being with, doesn't participate in verbal abuse and never strikes you in anger. Obviously, one time is too many. If he does any of these things, he doesn't like you. And if he hits you, call the police.


He doesn't turn and spit into a cup or lick his shirt sleeve after tongue kissing you - I suppose the guy might turn and spit into a cup if he's a tobacco chewer and it's from force of habit or if he forgot to spit out his chew before he kissed you, so you might have some hope here, ladies. Seriously, if a guy likes you, he wants to kiss you.

He doesn't want to avoid it. He probably also wants to tongue kiss you too. However, if he's dodging that kiss or pulling away quickly or outright barfing after making contact with your lips, he probably doesn't like you. Btw, I'm not talking about early on in the dating process either. If a guy hasn't kissed you yet, that may have nothing to do with whether he likes you or not.

He may simply be nervous and doesn't want to put himself out there (and this is another problem entirely and I guarantee his attractiveness will wear off soon enough). This refers to a guy who's already kissed you and seems to be avoiding it suddenly.

If a man likes you, he'll stare from across the room.
If a man likes you, he'll stare from across the room.

He cleans his place when you come over - Some guys are neat freaks, but most are pigs. And even those who aren't pigs probably live at a level of cleanliness far below what you consider acceptable. Thus, if your arrival at a guy's place actually gets him to clean it, you know he wants to make a good impression.

So how can you tell if he just cleaned? Look for these clues: cleaning woman exiting his house as you arrive, track marks from the vacuum on the carpet, smell of deodorizer or Lysol in the air, pooling water on tile from where he overmopped, piles of trash outside his house or next to the dumpster, the dog looks frightened as if to say "who is this guy?"


He pees sitting down - I'm just going to go ahead and admit that my wife has trained me to pee sitting down. I like my wife. Do I feel like I've compromised my manhood? Yes, a little bit. However, I pee sitting down out of respect for my wife's appreciation of cleanliness.

Look, men pee, we spray. We create nastiness. The mere fact that we might pee sitting down acknowledges that we're not likely to clean around the toilet ourselves and have enough respect for whoever is going to do that chore (probably you), that we are now sitting down to pee. We like you and don't want you to go away.

Rarely, the fear of having to clean our own bathrooms is the reason, but usually it's because we like you.


He doesn't sleep with your mother or with your best friend - As silly as this sounds, there are a whole bunch of women on the planet who will rationalize away any behavior, including when their man sleeps with another woman.

Even if he was drunk to the point of blood-alcohol poisoning, there's just no rationalization that works. Nevertheless, there are women on this planet who forgive such things. That being said, when a guy goes out of his way to sleep with somebody because he knows you'll be especially hurt by it, like your best friend or your mother (or a pet), you can be pretty sure he doesn't like you.

Therefore, by avoiding such temptations and not sleeping with them because he knows it would be wrong, he's sending a clear signal that he does like you. Remember, men who like you, don't hurt you.

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Questions & Answers

  • What does it mean when a guy says he loves me after only knowing me for one month, and then takes forever to respond to texts?

    It means he was trying to get you in bed and now that he's slept with you, he's moving on. Or, if you didn't sleep with him, he's bored and is moving on.

  • This guy has been sleeping in my bed. We cuddle and talk all day every day. He stays at my house every night and so does his dog. He gives me little kisses on my cheek and head but we haven't done anything more. I really like this guy. How to approach that conversation?

    To me, that sounds like the guy enjoys this situation with you, but if he's not making a move, that signals to me that he's sleeping with another girl. Your best bet is to date another guy, tell this guy he can't sleep in your bed anymore, and wait for his next move. Right now he's just playing a little game with you, and you need him to make a decision. Even if you have to lie and say you're dating somebody else, I'd do it to find out where he stands. (it's just a white lie. You can say you're dating or going to date and don't want to feel weird about it or have to be untruthful with any potential dates.)

  • A guy I'm seeing has yet to initiate any physical contact even after our fourth date. He has not introduced me to any of his friends. He usually takes hours to reply to my messages. He said he wants to take it slow. Is he just not that into me?

    It's hard to tell, but he's probably not into you, but clearly, you are into him, so you need to stop being the one pushing everything. If he's not responding to your messages, stop sending messages. Guys don't usually say they want to take it slow. My guess is he's not sure about you, or he has other women he's dating, and he's trying to figure out which one he likes best or wants to keep his options open. You need to keep your options open too.

  • My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now, but when we kiss, it always seems like I'm the one kissing him and touching him. Is he just embarrassed or is his lack of enthusiasm while kissing a sign that there is something wrong in our relationship?

    I'm really sorry to say that this is a terrible sign. Honestly, it's pretty common with men, but it could be a sign of a bigger problem. I assume that when you first met, it was mutual attraction, but now you're the one doing all the physical stuff? If he doesn't have that fire for you that he used to have and you want that fire, it might be time to take a break. I think I would suggest taking a break, although you need to be ready for the possibility that he finds somebody else. It's only been three years and this problem will just get worse. Remember, it's okay to move on. There are lots of fish in the sea.

  • What does it means when a guy winks at me but not at the end of a joke but just at the end of a normal thing?

    It means he's got something in his eye.

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    crankalicious 

    4 years ago from Colorado

    I'm so glad you enjoyed the article.

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    Kari 

    4 years ago from Alberta, Canada

    Oh my god, thinking back to my dating days and some of the guys that obviously didn't like me 'that' way - this article hits the nail on the head. Yes, it's funny, but it really is true.

    Sleeping with you more than once - he has some interest in you. Maybe not 'commitment' interest, but some interest.

    He cleans his place...oh my, the number of guys places that I went to where he didn't care less what it looked like. And, my husband always cleaned his place before I came over. Need I say more!

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    Derrick Bennett 

    6 years ago

    Very funny hub, but these things are true. I find myself giving a girl that I like special attention.

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    KurtSt 

    6 years ago

    I disagree with the statement regarding calls. I don't think that returning a call an hour after a message was left for me or even one day later is desperate at all. If I left a message for a woman and she waited a couple days to call me back, I would probably question whether she liked me because I think it is rude to wait that long to return a call from someone I like and I would think that women view this the same way.

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    loulou2 

    7 years ago

    This is fun to read...;-)

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    Sondra 

    7 years ago from Neverland

    There is actually some good info but it all just hit me as funny, sorry :) But then again I TRY my hardest to find humor in everything. Either way, I like your writing style so I became a fan! Honestly, I think the picture of the half naked prepubescent boy started it. He looks all shy and cheesy in his bare-chested glory. See how it's not my fault now?

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    Enluin 

    7 years ago

    uups. Did i forget to write that girl which name i have forgotten? Nice Article. Thank you dude.

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    crankalicious 

    7 years ago from Colorado

    Ardie,

    It's not entirely serious, but not entirely in jest either. I think there's a lot of good information in here that gives you some insight into men. While every person is different, guys do tend to behave in similar ways. In any article on figuring out guys, each woman has to decide what she's going to take from it, so I tried to enclose nuggets of truth in a humorous framework.

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    Sondra 

    7 years ago from Neverland

    Sorry for that typo

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    Sondra 

    7 years ago from Neverland

    Oh pleas please please tell me this was meant in jest hahah This was the absolute funniest article I've ever read on how to tell if a guy likes you. And I completely agree - no stalkers!!!

    If you were being very serious I am sorry! Either way this was a great read for me :)

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