Signs Someone is Flirting with You in Texts

Updated on August 11, 2016
SerenityHalo profile image

Andrea loves to write about the zodiac, Myers Briggs, and texting. She is an expert on romance and relationships. She also has two cats.

Flirting through texting is easier said than done. Whether you're trying to get into a relationship or just have sex on your mind, you need to exude charm. For the sake of keeping things brief, this article will focus on the former: flirting with someone you want to date seriously. Texting is a way to show someone you're thinking about them when you're not together. These are some tricks that will help you inch closer to who you like.

Texting Someone You Just Met

Generally, you want to have made some kind of connection in person before attempting flirtatious or inviting texts. If they don't really know you already, it may be harder to win them over. However, if you want to flirt with someone you just met, a great thing to say is:

"I don't know you very well, but you seem cool. I wouldn't mind getting to know you more."

You could make it slightly more specific to that person, but keep it simple, considerate, and sincere. Sometimes stating the obvious is exactly what you need to do. It's a good text to send to test the waters.

Casually inviting someone for a drink is a nice way to initiate.
Casually inviting someone for a drink is a nice way to initiate.

Be Sincere and Take Control

For starters, when it comes to flirting, it is best to be direct. Many people will understand your hints, but it saves a lot of time to just directly say "Hey, would you like to hang out with me?" Most will appreciate your straightforwardness.

You may be hoping that after a long text conversation that the person on the other end will ask you out, you can try it. This works occasionally. But if you're up-front, this may help avoid a long conversation that unintentionally annoys the other person rather than building up chemistry.

Here are some more tips:

  • Do not over-text. The conversation should be two-sided, and as close to 50-50 as possible.
  • It's okay to send more than one text, especially if the two texts are related and are sent relatively in the same time frame.
  • A simple "How are you?" can help break the ice and is a good way to check up on someone if they've been quiet for awhile.
  • If they're giving you one-word responses, do not go off the deep end; it doesn't necessarily mean they're uninterested. Your ultimate goal is to see each other in person, not to spend hours and hours texting.
  • The day after you've been around each other, whether with a group of people or one-on-one, follow up with something funny referring to the event. Try to bring up happy moments in a creative, endearing way. It shows that you enjoy the person and gets them to associate you with positive things.
  • Men, if ladies are sending you a lot of texts and they keep mentioning random things to do, they're hoping you'll want to join them and you should ask to join them. They're trying to figure out what interests you, but are probably shy about directly asking you out.
  • Be enthusiastic and positive. Don't be a downer. No one wants long, negative texts.
  • Ask questions. Some ideas: "What do you think of what happened last night?"; "How long have you lived around here?"; or "If you could be any of the X-Men, which one would you be, and why?"
  • If you have gotten them a gift, send them a picture of the wrapped gift and tell them you have something for them.
  • Do ask them how their morning, day, or evening went. After you've built a connection you should send these kinds of messages. It shows you've been thinking about them.
  • Whenever something goes wrong, say, "I'm sorry."
  • Rather than compliment their physique, compliment their character. Tell them when you notice them being generous, funny, kind, gentle, or strong.
  • Ask them what they like for dinner, then make plans either to go somewhere that food is served or make it for them.
  • Take some days off of texting to give the other person some space. This lets them know you can exist without them.
  • Occasionally, use emoticons or smileys.
  • If they're a little nerdy, try sending haikus and see if they'll reply with haikus.
  • Use exclamation marks sparingly, but use them. It's an indicator that a guy likes you if he is being pretty friendly with the exclamation marks.

Follow-up after you've seen them.
Follow-up after you've seen them.
  • If you honestly don't know what to say, talk about the weather. Weather talk helps break the ice. Plus, there is some cool emoji for weather on the iPhone.
  • Find out if they like animals. Do they like dogs? Send them a picture of your dog and ask if they would like to meet it.
  • When you are going to meet up, say that you are excited to see them.
  • Text the person you are about to meet if you're running late and give them a reason why you're late.
  • If you have to cancel, do it as early as possible and reschedule immediately.
  • Tell the person that you had a good time with them. (If you did, that is.)
  • Be genuine. People can read through smarm and nonsense. Keep it simple and sweet.

Wish them well and check up on them.
Wish them well and check up on them.
  • Ask if they like flowers.
  • Early on, show only the very tip of the iceberg when it comes to your feelings. Say how you felt holding their hand.
  • If you caught them singing a song, send them the lyrics of that song even if you are currently hanging out with them.
  • Say, "I miss you," especially if you've been away.

What flirtatious interactions in texting work the best for you?

See results

Texting in a Long-Distance Relationship

If you're already in a relationship, then texting can be a great way to keep things going when you can't be together physically.

  • Set up times through texting when you can talk on the phone, Skype, or even visit. Text at least three times a week.
  • Reassure them that you miss them, that everything will work out, and what you like about them. Let them know you wish you could be there.
  • Text them about important dates as reminders. Make sure to be in touch for things like graduation, recitals, family events, weddings, and so forth.
  • If they are sick and you can't be there, send them happy texts telling them to get well. Call them if you can.
  • Send them pictures of gifts that they gave you and say that you've kept those items in special places.
  • Text them inside jokes from the past.
  • Ask them questions about what they like about you or what they hope will happen next in the relationship.
  • Ask them questions about the cool things they are doing where they live.
  • Plan when you will see each other next as this will help take some of the anxiety away and build excitement.
  • Find out what is their address and send them a letter so you can write more than you can in a text.
  • Text them about what is happening in your own life. Let them know they are missed and loved.
  • Ask them what their favorite candy is so you can mail it to them.
  • Text them asking about if they remember when you first met, when you first started dating, or when you first started falling in love.

Questions & Answers

    Comments

      0 of 8192 characters used
      Post Comment

      • profile image

        Sheniqua 4 months ago

        Like it lol

      • profile image

        Jasmine 7 months ago

        This was really interesting to read actually! I'm going to text someone tomorrow and look out for these signs. Hopefully I'll get a clear response, otherwise, I'll have to come back to this helpful website...

        Thanks so much Andrea Lawrence! You rock!

      • SerenityHalo profile image
        Author

        Andrea Lawrence 20 months ago from Chicago

        Good for you!

      • profile image

        eashanwali 3 years ago

        Flirting is an art, where you use your imagination and creativity to bring out the flirt in you. For more stuff visit http://www.collegeokplease.com

      working

      This website uses cookies

      As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, pairedlife.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

      For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: "https://pairedlife.com/privacy-policy#gdpr"

      Show Details
      Necessary
      HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
      LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
      Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
      AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
      HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
      HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
      Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
      CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
      Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
      Features
      Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
      Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
      Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
      Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
      Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
      VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
      PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
      Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
      MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
      Marketing
      Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
      Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
      Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
      Statistics
      Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
      ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
      Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)