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How to Date White Men

Updated on October 29, 2016
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Are you an African-American woman interested in going interracial? You are in good company because vanilla guy/chocolate girl couples are hot and on the upswing!

Learning how to date white men is as simple as brushing up on some dating tips to make the process fun, lighthearted, and safe.


How to Date White Men

Be Outgoing. White men can be shy. They have been trained by society to watch their aggression towards women. This usually translates to them waiting for your signal. So smile sweetly, make eye contact, and start small talk. You will make it easier for men to feel comfortable enough to ask you out.

  • Watch out for: White men who won't make eye contact with you, look away when you talk, or disengage from a conversation quickly. He could be married, involved, or not the one for you. Don't waste your time. Go find another white man who would love your attention.


Seek Out Men With a Diverse Group of Friends. If you see a good-looking white man that has Asian, Hispanic, or black friends, chances are he will be open to interracial dating.

  • Watch out for: A white man who has a long string of failed relationships with black women. Some white men like the idea of dating a beautiful black woman but aren't interested in marriage. Chances are the women before you found that out. A man who does this is likely to do this with white women too. He is being a playboy. When they say you shouldn't hate the player -- that you should hate the game, no, you should hate the player too. Players can mess up your life way too easily.


Don't Expect to Pay. If you go out on a date with a white man, don't expect to pay for the date or for yourself. Even though when the check comes, it is nice if you say, "Can I help you with that?", it is a gesture of courtship and economic standing that a man should pay for the first date and for many or most of the dates thereafter.

  • Watch out for: On the first few dates, a man who isn't interested in you as a potential partner will ask you to at least pay for yourself or he will be stingy with courtship gestures. Run the other way if this happens. You don't want to mess with a man who doesn't like you or is so-so about you.

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Be Feminine. Part of the fun in finding a great white guy is the thrill of luring him in with your charms. So ditch the pants, don't curse in regular conversation if you normally do, and don't be afraid to wear makeup that highlights your best features. All men like girly-girls -- white, black, Asian, everyone!

  • But watch out for: Keep away from those miniskirts and clear heels! Soft and feminine gives off a good impression. If you are into delicate jewelry, knee-length dresses, and short manicured nails, this will show off you are a class act!


Don't Sleep with Him Early On. Yes, we are all human and we all have needs, but don't feel pressure to sleep with a man just because there is a "three-date-rule" out there in the universe, or because you know how quickly your friends tend to sleep with a guy. You need to know this man is for you and you only.

  • Watch out for: A white guy that wants to "try out" black women or only wants to sleep with you to see what it's like. This means he isn't serious about you as a woman or as a potential partner. You can never build a relationship with this kind of man.

Understanding how to date a white man simply comes down to the rules it takes to build a strong foundation with men in general.

As a woman you have both the allure and the smarts to get a man who will be totally into you.

A lot more women are getting down with the swirl to find the one. Have fun with dating, and I hope you find the love of your life!

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