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How to Attract a Boy's Attention


How To Attract Boys 101

Do you like a boy and want to attract his attention? There are different ways to get a boy's attention, and I want to talk about the right ways and the wrong ways.

If you use the right ways, then you will have a great chance at getting the boy you want because you will play into what he is looking for in a girl!

If you use the wrong ways, then you may become unhappy for a number of reasons. You may end up getting the boy's attention, and you may even turn him in to your boyfriend, but in the end he will realize that you were just using tricks to get him to like you - and that is not attractive to any boy! In other words, he will probably dump your ass.

This article will talk about some ways that are scientifically proven to attract men, plus some things you shouldn't and should do to attract any boy to you.

7 Scientifically Proven Ways to Attract Men

Don't Do The Following Things To Get A Boy's Attention And Attract Him!

Change Yourself - This is how many girls learn how to attract boys (and how to make everyone love them). We end up changing ourselves into what we 'think' a boy wants to see. This means that you pretend to be someone you are not so that you can attract and please him. This is bad!

There are two reasons that this is bad:

  1. You cannot keep up this charade forever. Eventually, he will notice that you are not the person you say you are and start to lose interest in you. Think of this way, if he likes you because of someone you are not, then will he still like you when you become someone different?
  2. You are not being true to yourself. There is no better path to take in this life than the path you were meant to go on. If you love to write poetry, but pretend as if you hate poetry to attract boys, then you are denying yourself a part of your life that you love. This will make you unhappy and, eventually, resentful towards any boy that you end up getting into a relationship with.

Either way, things will not end up happily ever after with the boy. So it is better to be yourself and let him know who you really are when you try to attract him.

Do Something That Goes Against Your Morals - If you feel like you have to drink or do drugs to attract a boy, and you know that you should not be doing them, then don't do it! A boy is not worth going against your morals and making yourself, your friends, and your parents feel bad.

Plus, going against what you know is right will usually land you in a big pool of hot water that affects your image and self-worth. For instance, if you do something dumb like drugs, then pictures of you doing them can get around and affect how other people view you.They may think that you are someone who makes dumb choices and, if there is a boy out there that likes you because of your morals, you may end up losing his interest.

Act Stupid - This recommended move on how to attract boys has been around since the cave-woman, I'm sure. Acting stupid is supposed to make girls look more feminine (which is a horrible stereotype for females) and it makes girls look as though they need a big, strong man to protect them.

Even though acting stupid to impress a boy may make him view you as vulnerable and feminine, it will not attract him to you for the strong female that you are! Eventually he will grow tired of your stupidity and leave you for a girl who actually uses the brain in her head. (Believe me, there are no boys who stay with a girl long-term if she doesn't offer anything in the way of brains.)

15 More Things NOT To Do To Attract A Boy's Attention!

Instead, Use These Proven Tips On How To Attract Boys

Make Him Interested - The best way to attract a boy is to make him interested in you by catching his attention and showing him how much you really have to offer. A boy wants to get to know a girl that is interesting and exciting, so show him what you've got!

To do this, you have to display your talents or other things that actually make you interesting. For example, maybe you can sing really well. If you know he's around, display your singing talents to your friends and let him hear how great your voice is.

Be Unique - If you want to stand out from all the other girls, then you have to be unique. Being unique is not hard to do because chances are you have some very unique interests, talents, and habits already. Those are the types of things that you will want to display to a boy in order to attract him.

Being unique means not following the crowd. One of the most popular girls in my junior high was extremely unique. She wasn't scared to admit that she was smart, but she still socialized in a way that made everyone like her. She dressed uniquely too. I remember her coming to school her first day there in bright rainbow socks that made her stand out from a mile away! This girl ended up dating the most popular boys in school because she stood out and was so interesting and unique!

Being unique also means you can ask him out for Valentine's Day dinner or just on a regular date. It shows that you have the courage to ask a guy out, where most girls will not ever ask a guy out!

Be a Leader - Another way to stand out and get a boy's attention (and gain his attraction) is to become a leader. This doesn't mean you have to run for school president, but it does mean that you should stand up for the things you believe in.

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For example, you can become a leader against school bullying. Most boys will respect you for taking this role and making yourself heard, even if they don't outright say it. (Note: Do not become a leader at doing something mean or wrong like bullying or being bad in school - this is not attractive to most boys.)

Questions & Answers

Question: How can I make a boy love me?

Answer: You can't make anyone love you. All you can do is be yourself and see if he likes you for you.

Question: How can I get a boyfriend?

Answer: I highly recommend checking out Mindvalley and doing some personal growth before you get a boyfriend. It will help you become a better person and a better partner to your boyfriend. Try looking up the quest all access pass! Here's a good review.

Do You Have Any Tips Or Comments On How To Attract Boys? Please Share!

Kari (author) on March 17, 2019:

@Honey - Lose interest in this guy. He's a loser. Only losers would tell you that if you have sex with them they will stay but if you don't they will leave.

A guy who likes you will like you with or without sex. He won't give you loser ultimatums.

What a loser! Seriously. He's trash. Find someone better.

honey on March 16, 2019:

what should i do if he wants to have sex with me?

i like it but i am scared of him that he shares it with his friends.

he ask me : if u have sex with me i will stay, but if u wont i will leave."

so what should i do?

Kari (author) on November 07, 2018:

@Vic - Getting past that nervousness and awkwardness is a part o dating. We are all nervous and awkward when we like someone and when we first start forming a relationship. You just have to push through the fear and go for it - talk to him, go out somewhere together, see if there really is a spark or not - otherwise you will never know what could've been.

Think about it this way: If you give it a shot, and you don't work out, then other boys will know you are available because the chances of you and him working are off the table.

Vic on November 06, 2018:

so there's this guy that everybody has been shipping me with and its an ongoing tease, they think that were in love with each other and the truth is that I do like him. He's kind of awkward but he's also pretty popular and definitely cute. He's not the kind to flirt or date but I do know he likes me, or at least liked. I'm always nervous and awkward around him and I just cant let my true self go for him to be attracted. I want to date him but there's very little spark lol and I cant attract any other boy because of the ongoing and restless shipping everyone has heard about me and that guy. Please help I'm feeling pretty hopeless.

Kari (author) on September 03, 2018:

@Ari - You are going to just have to tell him how you feel.

Decide what is worse:

- Not saying anything and agonizing over wanting to date him and, possibly, watching him date other girls.

- Telling him and possibly beginning a relationship with him.

If he doesn't feel the same way, then that's something you will have to deal with one way or the other. But, there is a chance that he will feel the same way or at least want to try to date.

Ari on September 02, 2018:

I realllyyyy like this guy. He knows that I like him and he likes me too. We ‘agreed’ it was best not to date because we never see each other in person or talk in person. Now that, that is said I don’t actually agree with it. I DO want to date him and I want to be with him. But I don’t know how to tell him. And if he still wants to just stay friends then I don’t want him to be scared of me and I want to still talk to him without it being really ackward. Help!!

Kari (author) on August 10, 2018:

@caitlin - Well, then make him know. Hang out with him. Show him how amazing you are.

caitlin on August 10, 2018:

i have a serious issue this guys i like doesn't even know that i'm an option

Kari (author) on May 09, 2017:

@Josie - What kind of advice do you need?

Josie on May 07, 2017:

I like the ideas but it's really complicated and I need advise asap

Aeva Gono from Philippines on May 29, 2016:

Oh wow! I never thought that there are actually great ways to attract a boy's attention. Great hub!

Kari (author) on August 12, 2014:

@PMARTIN: Not sure if you read the article completely. First, I don't say that men want stupid cave women. I say that women have been acting stupid since that time, and that it will not attract him for the right reasons. Eventually he will grow tired of the stupidity, and look for a girl who uses her brain. (Just read past the first sentence and you will see what I'm talking about.)

Again, you have to read past the headings in order to understand what I was really talking about. The focus is on NOT changing yourself. You just have to read the article.

PMARTIN on August 12, 2014:

I had some problems with the article. First boys/men do not want stupid cave women and that in itself is a damaging stereotype. What men don't like are boasting women who has to remind you how smart they are especially by tell men how dumb they are. As for not changing who you are because no boy is worth it--your article is about changing tactics!!! Bottom line you DO change bad habits for good one to attract. clean yourself up, dress modestly, be kind to everyone (children, elderly, animals, etc). Keep the bold social views of how she is "strong independent woman" off the table. Girls don't like a bragging boys, well it goes both ways. He wants a soft girl he can hold hands with and have sweet moments with--not a competitor. Just be a sweetheart to everyone and your attract right boys, right friends and right opportunities.

Kari (author) on January 27, 2014:

@chinmay - That's exactly the point I made.

Chinmay Das from Mumbai, India on January 27, 2014:

Pretending to be someone else could turn out to be a negative aspect in the long run.

If you are with someone, eventually he's gonna find out.Better stay with someone who accepts you for who you are.


David McKenzie from Canada on May 20, 2013:

Pretending to be someone you aren't must create a lot of stress.

Isn't the purpose of getting a relationship is to find someone you can feel comfortable just being yourself with?

Kari (author) on March 17, 2013:

A boy who doesn't like you for you is not worth your energy! It takes a lot of energy to be someone you are not and I'm glad that you decided to be yourself this year. If you have confidence in yourself, then I'm sure he will see that in you. Also, don't tell yourself that this boy will never like you now, because you may be writing a self fulfilling prophecy - meaning if you say it enough, then it may come true!

Bethany on March 16, 2013:

There is this really cute boy whom I like who lives down the block from me. He acts like he likes me too sometimes. I'm really trying to become friends with him. But oh, how bad I feel about myself! I was acting like someone else, but it had come out of bad influence. There is this girl at my church who is CONSTANTLY fooling around, loud, boisterous, and silly and she gets the attention of almost every boy. Of course, I decided I should act that way to get attention........I knew it was a stupid decision, but I felt like I had no my true self wasn't good enough. So I did it, and it seemed to work, but after a while I think he was getting a little annoyed, but this was all last year. This year I will be completely different. I now truly understand how foolish that decision was, and regret it greatly. I just need to have more confidence in being myself and NO ONE ELSE. But oh, he'll probably never like me now! Someone please tell me that there is still hope......that he just might still like me!!!!!

lovedoctor926 on January 31, 2013:

Voting up fantastic! You should never have to change who you are or compromise your values for anyone.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 31, 2013:

Top of the list ideas here, so well explained and can work well too.

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