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How to Attract a Boy's Attention

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How to Attract Boys 101

Do you like a boy and want to attract his attention? There are different ways to get a boy's attention, and I want to talk about the right ways and the wrong ways.

If you use the right ways, then you will have a great chance at getting the boy you want because you will play into what he is looking for in a girl!

If you use the wrong ways, then you may become unhappy for a number of reasons. You may end up getting the boy's attention, and you may even turn him into your boyfriend, but in the end, he will realize that you were just using tricks to get him to like you—and that is not attractive to any boy! In other words, he will probably dump your ass.

This article will talk about some ways that are scientifically proven to attract men, plus some things you shouldn't and should do to attract any boy to you.

Don't Do These Things to Get a Boy's Attention and Attract Him!

There are several things you should avoid if you're trying to attract a boy.

Change Yourself

This is how many girls learn how to attract boys (and how to make everyone love them). We end up changing ourselves into what we 'think' a boy wants to see. This means that you pretend to be someone you are not so that you can attract and please him. This is bad!

There are two reasons that this is bad:

  1. You cannot keep up this charade forever. Eventually, he will notice that you are not the person you say you are and start to lose interest in you. Think of it this way, if he likes you because of someone you are not, then will he still like you when you become someone different?
  2. You are not being true to yourself. There is no better path to take in this life than the path you were meant to go on. If you love to write poetry but pretend as if you hate poetry to attract boys, then you are denying yourself a part of your life that you love. This will make you unhappy and, eventually, resentful towards any boy that you end up getting into a relationship with.

Either way, things will not end up happily ever after with the boy. So it is better to be yourself and let him know who you really are when you try to attract him.

Do Something That Goes Against Your Morals

If you feel like you have to drink or do drugs to attract a boy, and you know that you should not be doing them, then don't do it! A boy is not worth going against your morals and making yourself, your friends, and your parents feel bad.

Plus, going against what you know is right will usually land you in a big pool of hot water that affects your image and self-worth. For instance, if you do something dumb like drugs, then pictures of you doing them can get around and affect how other people view you. They may think that you are someone who makes dumb choices and, if there is a boy out there that likes you because of your morals, you may end up losing his interest.

Act Stupid

This recommended move on how to attract boys has been around since the cave-woman, I'm sure. Acting stupid is supposed to make girls look more feminine (which is a horrible stereotype for females), and it makes girls look as though they need a big, strong man to protect them.

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Even though acting stupid to impress a boy may make him view you as vulnerable and feminine, it will not attract him to you for the strong female that you are! Eventually, he will grow tired of your stupidity and leave you for a girl who actually uses the brain in her head. (Believe me, there are no boys who stay with a girl long-term if she doesn't offer anything in the way of brains.)

Use These Proven Tips to Attract Boys

Here are several ways you can attract a boy and pique his interest.

Make Him Interested

The best way to attract a boy is to make him interested in you by catching his attention and showing him how much you really have to offer. A boy wants to get to know a girl that is interesting and exciting, so show him what you've got!

To do this, you have to display your talents or other things that actually make you interesting. For example, maybe you can sing really well. If you know he's around, display your singing talents to your friends and let him hear how great your voice is.

Be Unique

If you want to stand out from all the other girls, then you have to be unique. Being unique is not hard to do because chances are you have some very unique interests, talents, and habits already. Those are the types of things that you will want to display to a boy in order to attract him.

Being unique means not following the crowd. One of the most popular girls in my junior high was extremely unique. She wasn't scared to admit that she was smart, but she still socialized in a way that made everyone like her. She dressed uniquely too.

I remember her coming to school her first day there in bright rainbow socks that made her stand out from a mile away! This girl ended up dating the most popular boys in school because she stood out and was so interesting and unique!

Being unique also means you can ask him out for Valentine's Day dinner or just on a regular date. It shows that you have the courage to ask a guy out, whereas most girls will not ever ask a guy out!

Be a Leader

Another way to stand out and get a boy's attention (and gain his attraction) is to become a leader. This doesn't mean you have to run for school president, but it does mean that you should stand up for the things you believe in.

For example, you can become a leader against school bullying. Most boys will respect you for taking this role and making yourself heard, even if they don't outright say it. (Note: Do not become a leader at doing something mean or wrong like bullying or being bad in school - this is not attractive to most boys.)

Questions & Answers

Question: How can I make a boy love me?

Answer: You can't make anyone love you. All you can do is be yourself and see if he likes you for you.

Question: How can I get a boyfriend?

Answer: I highly recommend checking out Mindvalley and doing some personal growth before you get a boyfriend. It will help you become a better person and a better partner to your boyfriend. Try looking up the quest all access pass! Here's a good review.

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