How to Tell If a Girl Likes You: Signs That Say She's Definitely Interested
Does She Like Me? How Can I Tell?
Life would be a whole lot less complicated if girls were easy to read, wouldn't it?
That will probably never happen (sorry, guys), but you don't have to go through life completely perplexed and mystified. Every girl you know is giving off subconscious signals all the time. These signs are clues to exactly how she is feeling, and you can learn to recognise and understand them.
Right now, you're looking for the signs that say she definitely likes you.
If a girl is doing any of the following, and especially a combination of these, you can be pretty sure that she's interested!
At a Glance—Positive Signals
- You sense that she likes you.
- She's always around.
- She laughs at all your jokes.
- Her immediate reaction to you is interest.
- She uses flirting to single you out.
- She finds ways to touch you.
- She often needs your help.
- Her body languages says she wants you.
You Suspect That She Likes You
Quite often, your instinct is more accurate than you imagine.
If you have a strong feeling that a girl is interested in you, it's highly likely that she is. This seems to be quite easy to read when the feeling isn't reciprocated by you. The difficulty is that, when you're attracted to a girl, emotions and doubts get in the way, and suddenly it's much harder to see things clearly.
Girls are sometimes shy and sometimes like to play hard to get, but generally they will give you enough encouraging signs to let you know that they really are interested.
First and foremost . . . listen to and trust your instincts.
She Seems to Always Be Around
When a girl likes you, you will be constantly on her mind. She will try to be around you at every possible opportunity.
This doesn't mean she will talk to you. If she's shy or uncertain about how you feel, she might just admire from afar (hoping you will talk to her). She might even appear to be ignoring you, but she will make herself obvious to you by talking and laughing a little louder than usual with others or by sitting on her own (making herself available to be approached).
She will be super-aware that you are there, and she will look at you a lot. She might pretend not be looking, but you can probably catch her at it. If you like her and manage to catch her eye, smile warmly and hold her gaze for a moment. If she smiles back and holds your gaze, that's a very positive sign.
She Laughs at Your Jokes
When she likes you, she will see pretty much everything you do in a positive light.
To her, even a bad joke is funny when it's told by you. If it's really terrible, she might groan and roll her eyes, but she'll still smile and appear to have enjoyed the fact that you are joking with her.
The reason for this is simple. Playful conversation is form of courtship. If you are trying to make her laugh, that's a signal that you probably like her. Laughing at your jokes is her subconscious reply saying, "I like you, too."
Her Immediate Reaction Shows Interest
Whenever you talk to her, pay attention to the very first way she reacts to you.
Girls are very good at hiding emotions, especially if they are shy, nervous or feeling a little worried about being rejected. However, if she likes you, she'll be dying for you to talk to her. She won't be able to hide her true feelings in that moment when her wish comes true.
She will smile and seem momentarily excited and interested.
After that, she will probably be unreadable. She might seem forward or, alternatively, she may be flustered. She might look you directly in the eyes, or she might not be able to look properly at you. She might talk non-stop, or she may go quiet.
None of this matters . . . it's that initial moment that will give her away.
She's Flirting . . . She's Not Flirting
Some girls flirt with everyone, so flirting isn't a definite sign that she likes you.
If she flirts only with you, though, that is very positive. She likes you and is happy to show you that she thinks you're special.
Alternatively, strange as it may seem. if she appears to be flirting with everyone except you, all is not lost. Yes, maybe she is trying to tell you that she finds you unattractive and wants you to stop making advances. However, it can also be a sign that she is too coy to flirt directly with you because you matter to her, and she is nervous of rejection. Whether she's a natural flirt, or she is flirting to get your attention, if she does it with others in front of you and not with you, it could still be a good thing.
If this is happening, you need to look for some of the other signs to work out which way it's going for you.
She Touches You . . . Accidentally on Purpose
She might find subtle ways to touch you:
- Standing a little bit too close and brushing against you
- Casual hugs
- Putting her hand on yours or on your arm when she's making a point
- Brushing lint or something similar off your clothes with her hand
- Leaning in close and making physical contact if you are both studying a computer screen or book
- Playful hitting, patting or punching (especially if it involves you having to restrain her)
If you have the opportunity to touch her, pay attention to how she reacts. If she doesn't pull away from "accidental" touching, such as brushing arms, hands etc., your touch is having an electric effect on her, and she definitely likes you.
She Asks for Your Help
If a girl is interested, she will go out of her way to seek your help and advice. Some examples of this are having you carry something for her, asking you for assistance with a problem or project, or even pretending that she can't do something so you'll help her.
She does this because she wants your attention and focus and to have you spend time especially with her. It gives her an excuse to open up lines of communication with you.
Her Body Language Gives Her Away
Our bodies subconsciously give away our deepest secrets every day. A girl's body language can give you many clues as to how she feels about you.
You will instinctively recognise some of her actions as positive or negative, but to understand the more subtle signals, you might need to do some research.
Sometimes it can be hard to read, but positive body language, combined with one or more of the signs above, means she definitely has feelings for you.
All Is Not Lost
Even if you are not getting any of the signals mentioned above from a girl that you like, it's not the end of the world.
Not every couple feels instant attraction to each other.
If you smile warmly and show genuine interest in her, you could very easily turn the situation around and start to see the signs that say she has fallen for you.
Questions & Answers
There is a girl, about two years older than me at school, and every day she is constantly looking at me. Sometimes she holds her gaze for about three or more seconds. Also, a few of her friends look at me a few times, and I sometimes catch her talking to her friends and then they all suddenly look at me. Does this mean that she's interested in me?
I would say that this sounds very positive to me. Holding your gaze is a strong sign of attraction, as it creates an intimate moment between the two of you. You have deduced that she has told her friends that she likes you. Their behavior certainly suggests that she has. If you like this girl, while nothing is a sure thing, I think that it would be worth your while to ask her out. If she says no, at least you tried!Helpful 6
If a girl ignores you does she hate you?
Perhaps, but it might mean the opposite. Someone who is indifferent won't really notice you but will interact with you if necessary. Ignoring is a much more deliberate act, which requires that person to be focusing on you when you're around. It could mean she is angry with you. If someone has done something deliberately mean to me, I might purposefully ignore them, both to protect myself from further trouble and to let that person know that their behavior was unacceptable. It is a bit immature, but sometimes ignoring is easier and more effective than confronting a bully or someone who has wronged you.
Another reason she might ignore you is that she might think you like her, and be trying to discourage you. We can be super aware of unwanted attention.
On a more positive note, some people find it really hard to deal with their emotions towards another person. Shyness and insecurity get in the way. Sometimes people are so scared of rejection or of looking foolish that they find it easier to ignore people they really like.
I know it's confusing, so the very best way to find out what's happening is to talk to the girl. Ask her if you have done something wrong. Even if she doesn't answer directly you should be able to tell from her response whether she seems angry or whether she seems flustered, and then act accordingly. If she's angry, try to sort things out with her. If she's flustered, she probably likes you, so be kind and if you like her, ask her out and see what she says.Helpful 4
What is flirting?
Flirting is the behavior we exhibit when we are attracted to someone, like looking deeply into someone's eyes, gently touching, or laughing at someone's bad jokes. Unfortunately, sometimes people use flirting to manipulate others, so it's very handy to be able to recognize the real thing.Helpful 3
I'm a girl and have a friend who is also a girl. I heard she was gay. She is texting me, often slaps me and always laughing. Does she like me?
From what you have said, it seems that this girl is attracted to you and is flirting. If you are interested in her, it's a very positive sign. If you don't have feelings for her, you don't have to end the friendship. Gently discourage the flirting, but continue to do things that friends do together. She is probably trying to work out if you are gay and attracted to her. Perhaps you could share with her about someone else you find attractive just to give her the hint. It is perfectly fine for someone who is not gay to have a gay friend, and plenty of gay people are friends with each other without being attracted.Helpful 2
I'm in school. I have a crush on my senior friend and maybe she feels the same. How do I express this?
What is it that makes you think she feels the same? It's always tricky telling a school friend that you have a crush because she might feel uncomfortable about it and you don't want to affect your friendship with her. As people mature, they start to be more familiar with relationships and cope better, but in school, it is all so new. Perhaps you call to tell her that you love being her friend but was wondering if she would like to try going on a date together. Make it all very relaxed and low pressure. If she says no, just smile, tell her it was worth a try and then continue on as if nothing happened.Helpful 1
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