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How to Tell If a Girl Likes You - Signs That Say She's Definitely Interested

Updated on June 17, 2016

Does She Like Me? How Can I Tell?

Life would be a whole lot less complicated if girls were easy to read, wouldn't it?

That will probably never happen (sorry guys), but you don't have to go through life completely perplexed and mystified. Every girl you know is giving off subconscious signals all the time. These signs are clues to exactly how she is feeling, and you can learn to recognise and understand them.

Right now, you're looking for the signs that say she definitely likes you.

If a girl is doing any of the following, and especially a combination of these, you can be pretty sure that she's interested!

At a Glance - Positive Signals

  • You sense that she likes you
  • She's always around
  • She laughs at all your jokes
  • Her immediate reaction to you is interest
  • She uses flirting to single you out
  • She finds ways to touch you
  • She often needs your help
  • Her body languages says she wants you

You Suspect That She Likes You

Quite often, your instinct is more accurate than you imagine.

If you have a strong feeling that a girl is interested in you, it's highly likely that she is. This seems to be quite easy to read when the feeling isn't reciprocated by you. The difficulty is that, when you're attracted to a girl, emotions and doubts get in the way, and suddenly it's much harder to see things clearly.

Girls are sometimes shy and sometimes like to play hard to get, but generally they will give you enough encouraging signs to let you know that they really are interested.

First and foremost ... listen to and trust your instincts.

She Seems To Always Be Around

When a girl likes you, you will be constantly on her mind. She will try to be around you at every possible opportunity.

This doesn't mean she will talk to you. If she's shy or uncertain about how you feel, she might just admire from afar (hoping you will talk to her). She might even appear to be ignoring you, but she will make herself obvious to you, by talking and laughing a little louder than usual with others, or sitting on her own (making herself available to be approached).

She will be super aware that you are there, and will look at you a lot. She might pretend not be looking, but you can probably catch her at it. If you like her and manage to catch her eye, smile warmly and hold her gaze for a moment. If she smiles back and holds your gaze, that's a very positive sign.


She Laughs At Your Jokes

When she likes you, she will see pretty much everything you do in a positive light.

To her, even a bad joke is funny when it's told by you. If it's really terrible, she might groan and roll her eyes, but she'll still smile and appear to have enjoyed the fact that you are joking with her.

The reason for this is simple. Playful conversation is form of courtship. If you are trying to make her laugh, that's a signal that you probably like her. Laughing at your jokes is her subconscious reply saying, "I like you, too."

Her Immediate Reaction Shows Interest

Whenever you talk to her, pay attention to the very first way she reacts to you.

Girls are very good at hiding emotions, especially if they are shy, nervous or feeling a little worried about being rejected. However, if she likes you, she'll be dying for you to talk to her. She won't be able to hide her true feelings in that moment when her wish comes true.

She will smile, and seem momentarily excited and interested.

After that, she will probably be unreadable. She might seem forward or alternatively, she may be flustered. She might look you directly in the eyes, or she might not be able to look properly at you. She might talk non-stop, or she may go quiet.

None of this matters ... it's that initial moment that will give her away.


She's Flirting ... She's Not Flirting

Some girls flirt with everyone, so flirting isn't a definite sign that she likes you.

If she flirts only with you, though, that is very positive. She likes you and is happy to show you that she thinks you're special.

Alternatively, strange as it may seem. if she appears to be flirting with everyone except you, all is not lost. Yes, maybe she is trying to tell you that she finds you unattractive and wants you to stop making advances. However, it can also be a sign that she is too coy to flirt directly with you because you matter to her, and she is nervous of rejection. Whether she's a natural flirt, or she is flirting to get your attention, if she does it with others in front of you and not with you, it could still be a good thing.

If this is happening, you need to look for some of the other signs to work out which way it's going for you.

She Touches You ... Accidentally on Purpose

She might find subtle ways to touch you ...

  • Standing a little bit too close and brushing against you
  • Casual hugs
  • Putting her hand on yours or on your arm when she's making a point
  • Brushing lint or something similar off your clothes with her hand
  • Leaning in close and making physical contact if you are both studying a computer screen or book
  • Playful hitting, patting or punching (especially if it involves you having to restrain her)

If you have the opportunity to touch her, pay attention to how she reacts. If she doesn't pull away from "accidental" touching, such as brushing arms, hands etc., your touch is having an electric effect on her, and she definitely likes you.

She Asks For Your Help

If a girl is interested, she will go out of her way to seek your help and advice. Some examples of this are having you carry something for her, asking you for assistance with a problem or project, or even her pretending that she can't do something so you'll help her.

She does this because she wants your attention and focus, and to have you spend time especially with her. It gives her an excuse to open up lines of communication with you.

Her Body Language Gives Her Away

Our bodies subconsciously give away our deepest secrets every day. A girl's body language can give you many clues as to how she feels about you.

You will instinctively recognise some of her actions as positive or negative, but to understand the more subtle signals, you might need to do some research.

Sometimes it can be hard to read, but positive body language, combined with one or more of the signs above, means she definitely has feelings for you.

All Is Not Lost

Even if you are not getting any of the signals mentioned above from a girl that you like, it's not the end of the world.

Not every couple feels instant attraction to each other.

If you smile warmly and show genuine interest in her, you could very easily turn the situation around and start to see the signs that say she has fallen for you.

Good luck!

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    • ThoughtsWriter profile image

      ThoughtsWriter 2 years ago from America

      Good layout and quality information. Thanks.

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      Sonia Hodge 2 years ago from West Indies

      Good article! Girls can be sometimes easy to read!

    • B The Great 2 years ago

      I have never had a problem getting any type of girl. I think they are so easy to understand. Nice post still.

    • Juan 2 years ago

      wow that's awesome bro

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      Kept private 2 years ago from Northeast United States

      Interesting :). I must be an odd ball. I never touched guys, asked for help, laugh more at jokes etc. Once I had confidence I would talk to the guy I was interested in and flat out ask if they had a girlfriend then start from there . simple direct :)

    • Confused 2 years ago

      I can't tell if she likes me or not. One minute she's giving all the signs that she really likes me and the next she's ignoring me as if I don't exist. She does touch me by accident a lot tho. I'm not sure if she is noticing that I'm there or just noticing that I'm noticing she's there. Wish it wasn't so confusing. I like her a lot.

    • Jack 2 years ago

      @Confused Sounds like she does like you back. Girls don't go all out to touch a guy their not into.

    • whitneyklautschek 2 years ago

      I like to join

    • maryDary 15 months ago

      shit, i just realized that I´m doing all those things... I was hoping it wasn´t a crush, but turns out it is.

    • # Mimi 3 months ago

      I don't usually touch him by accident but laugh at his jokes so he's probably lost

    • Paul 3 months ago

      No - I've never seen any of these signals from any woman. I never approach or talk to women - obviously for good reason - no woman is (or could ever be) interested in me.

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      herpointofview 3 months ago

      @Paul - I don't believe it. If you are interested in women, I'm sure there are women who would be interested in you. I'm not sure why you feel otherwise, but the beauty of this world is that we all have different tastes, and a lot of people are attracted to those outside the mainstream idea of attractive. I hope you have a positive experience and prove yourself wrong in the very near future.

    • Hypno-toad 2 months ago

      I naturally do all of these things to guys but I don't like them. Confusing

    • Owen 2 months ago

      I'm really interested in a girl but its a online relationship :S But I asked her out once she said it was cute and she kinda liked me. But I asked again a few weeks later she said she didn't like, like me. And she us always being quiet she hardly speeks. Is that a sign she likes me? But she us Christian and I'm not so I'm not sure if we can even be together. Please tell me if I can be with her. And tell me if that us a sign if she likes me.

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      herpointofview 2 months ago

      Hi Owen, I think you need to spend more time with this girl and see how things go. To hear from her that she likes you and then to say she doesn't like you must be very confusing for you. Is it possible that something happened to change her mind? I know lots of Christians who date non-Christians and vice versa; I suppose it would depend if it is a potential problem for her or for you. If you get to know each other better, you will be able to read her signs more clearly. I hope it works out the way you would like it to.

    • Sky Chronicles 7 weeks ago

      I have a crush and I use all of these things. Is this a good thing? I'm so nervous!!

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      herpointofview 7 weeks ago

      It sounds very positive. Enjoy the flirtation and be yourself. Good luck!

    • Sky Chronicles 7 weeks ago

      I only sit with him in math class... should I make a move? I read some of your articles and I think he likes me back. Ugh, boys are so confusing! Help Me Please!!!

    • Sky Chronicles 7 weeks ago

      I see him tomorrow. Any advice? I hope he likes me!!!!

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      herpointofview 7 weeks ago

      I hope he likes you too! Try some of the ideas in this article and see if he responds. Good luck.

    • Josh 6 weeks ago

      I likes girl and I sit behind her she always looks back at me and if I look back she quickly turns a different direction does this mean she likes me or no?

    • Confused 6 weeks ago

      It's been a long time since I've been on the dating scene I was married for a while long period of time till she recently a young lady moved into the neighborhood she is interested but she says she not I'm coming confused but she gives great hugs and rubs my back and I do the same I blow a kiss to her and she catches it puts it by her heart sometimes what do you think signed confused

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      herpointofview 5 weeks ago

      It could mean she likes you. If she shows a few of the other signs I have mentioned, then I would say yes!

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      herpointofview 5 weeks ago

      She is definitely flirting with you, but she may not want to take things any further. If she says she isn't interested in you, you need to think why she would say that. Perhaps she really is interested, but isn't able to start a relationship at the moment. If you like her, spend time with her and see what develops.

    • Nana 5 weeks ago

      If a guy don't really gives and showing his efforts to be appreciated. He himself will be wasted. Most girl are ready to move on or stop chasing her prince charming if the guy showing signs of rejecting.

      Girls are not necessarily desperate ya see

    • edward 4 weeks ago

      i know a woman that on more than one occasion she let her hair down then started to stroke her hair

    • LitFamHam :) 4 weeks ago

      She flirts a little with me, and my instinct is telling me that she likes me, but I don't know if my crush on her is clouding my vision or not.

    • Loading.... 3 weeks ago

      There is this girl at my church that I like and sometimes I think that she likes me and sometimes don't. CAN YOU HELP ME I AM CONFUSE

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      herpointofview 3 weeks ago

      Why don't you try asking her out for a coffee or something similar during the day? Daytime dates are relaxed and there is less pressure as to what might happen afterwards. If she likes you, she will either accept, or give you a very genuine excuse with the opportunity to reschedule. If she politely declines, you will have your answer without losing any dignity. Good luck!

    • ashwath 2 weeks ago

      hey i m a teenager,n i have found my love..i dnt knw whether she likes me or not but when my frnds teases her by my name ......she blushes but very next second angry....what would be wrong.???????

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      herpointofview 2 weeks ago

      It's wonderful that you have feelings for this girl. Blushing and then getting angry about being teased is a great sign for you that she is interested in you. The anger comes from being embarrassed. She will feel more secure once you two have established a relationship. Good luck!

    • Josh 2 weeks ago

      Hi. Thank you for enlightening me on some things. I really like this one girl and if I were to trust my instincts, as you suggest I should do, then she has some interest in getting to know me, too. How exciting is that!?!?

      She's so beautiful and her gracious presense is subtlely mind-blowing. Never have I met a woman like her.

      So I pray to God for her to accept my invitation into my life.

    • douchy 11 days ago

      Pinch her butt one day and tell her she has a peach of an ass that u could not resist picking. If she gets shocked but then doesn't make a big deal out of it or starts becoming more comfortable around you, she just might be your soul mate.

    • Wijnu 11 days ago

      There's this tanned girl, in my opinion, she is too adventurous, about hubby mountain, climbing Hill, go to Beach, touring to town to town. The problem is, almost everyone on a sec likes her, bcs she is smiling a lot. Almost in a blink of an eye everybody will think she likes you. How to deal with the sign?

    • Lol 11 days ago

      I'm a girl reading this to see what my crush might be looking for LOL desperate

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      herpointofview 9 days ago

      Not recommended unless women in your culture welcome being touched without consent. Mostly, this would be considered disrespectful and would be a complete turn off to most women. If a women was upset enough about it, you might even find yourself up on an assault charge.

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      herpointofview 9 days ago

      Try to spend time with her alone, and get to know her as a person. Then you will be able to read her better.

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      herpointofview 9 days ago

      Haha! I know the feeling. Just let him know in subtle ways. If he likes you, he will respond. Good luck!

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