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How to Tell If a Girl Likes You: Signs That Say She's Definitely Interested

I enjoy sharing my point of view to help others navigate their relationships. I always speak from the heart.

Does She Like Me? How Can I Tell?

Life would be a whole lot less complicated if girls were easy to read, wouldn't it?

That will probably never happen (sorry, guys), but you don't have to go through life completely perplexed and mystified. Every girl you know is giving off subconscious signals all the time. These signs are clues to exactly how she is feeling, and you can learn to recognise and understand them.

Right now, you're looking for the signs that say she definitely likes you.

If a girl is doing any of the following, and especially a combination of these, you can be pretty sure that she's interested!

At a Glance—Positive Signals

  • You sense that she likes you.
  • She's always around.
  • She laughs at all your jokes.
  • Her immediate reaction to you is interest.
  • She uses flirting to single you out.
  • She finds ways to touch you.
  • She often needs your help.
  • Her body languages says she wants you.

You Suspect That She Likes You

Quite often, your instinct is more accurate than you imagine.

If you have a strong feeling that a girl is interested in you, it's highly likely that she is. This seems to be quite easy to read when the feeling isn't reciprocated by you. The difficulty is that, when you're attracted to a girl, emotions and doubts get in the way, and suddenly it's much harder to see things clearly.

Girls are sometimes shy and sometimes like to play hard to get, but generally they will give you enough encouraging signs to let you know that they really are interested.

First and foremost . . . listen to and trust your instincts.

She Seems to Always Be Around

When a girl likes you, you will be constantly on her mind. She will try to be around you at every possible opportunity.

This doesn't mean she will talk to you. If she's shy or uncertain about how you feel, she might just admire from afar (hoping you will talk to her). She might even appear to be ignoring you, but she will make herself obvious to you by talking and laughing a little louder than usual with others or by sitting on her own (making herself available to be approached).

She will be super-aware that you are there, and she will look at you a lot. She might pretend not be looking, but you can probably catch her at it. If you like her and manage to catch her eye, smile warmly and hold her gaze for a moment. If she smiles back and holds your gaze, that's a very positive sign.

She Laughs at Your Jokes

When she likes you, she will see pretty much everything you do in a positive light.

To her, even a bad joke is funny when it's told by you. If it's really terrible, she might groan and roll her eyes, but she'll still smile and appear to have enjoyed the fact that you are joking with her.

The reason for this is simple. Playful conversation is form of courtship. If you are trying to make her laugh, that's a signal that you probably like her. Laughing at your jokes is her subconscious reply saying, "I like you, too."

Her Immediate Reaction Shows Interest

Whenever you talk to her, pay attention to the very first way she reacts to you.

Girls are very good at hiding emotions, especially if they are shy, nervous or feeling a little worried about being rejected. However, if she likes you, she'll be dying for you to talk to her. She won't be able to hide her true feelings in that moment when her wish comes true.

She will smile and seem momentarily excited and interested.

After that, she will probably be unreadable. She might seem forward or, alternatively, she may be flustered. She might look you directly in the eyes, or she might not be able to look properly at you. She might talk non-stop, or she may go quiet.

None of this matters . . . it's that initial moment that will give her away.

She's Flirting . . . She's Not Flirting

Some girls flirt with everyone, so flirting isn't a definite sign that she likes you.

If she flirts only with you, though, that is very positive. She likes you and is happy to show you that she thinks you're special.

Alternatively, strange as it may seem. if she appears to be flirting with everyone except you, all is not lost. Yes, maybe she is trying to tell you that she finds you unattractive and wants you to stop making advances. However, it can also be a sign that she is too coy to flirt directly with you because you matter to her, and she is nervous of rejection. Whether she's a natural flirt, or she is flirting to get your attention, if she does it with others in front of you and not with you, it could still be a good thing.

If this is happening, you need to look for some of the other signs to work out which way it's going for you.

She Touches You . . . Accidentally on Purpose

She might find subtle ways to touch you:

  • Standing a little bit too close and brushing against you
  • Casual hugs
  • Putting her hand on yours or on your arm when she's making a point
  • Brushing lint or something similar off your clothes with her hand
  • Leaning in close and making physical contact if you are both studying a computer screen or book
  • Playful hitting, patting or punching (especially if it involves you having to restrain her)

If you have the opportunity to touch her, pay attention to how she reacts. If she doesn't pull away from "accidental" touching, such as brushing arms, hands etc., your touch is having an electric effect on her, and she definitely likes you.

She Asks for Your Help

If a girl is interested, she will go out of her way to seek your help and advice. Some examples of this are having you carry something for her, asking you for assistance with a problem or project, or even pretending that she can't do something so you'll help her.

She does this because she wants your attention and focus and to have you spend time especially with her. It gives her an excuse to open up lines of communication with you.

Her Body Language Gives Her Away

Our bodies subconsciously give away our deepest secrets every day. A girl's body language can give you many clues as to how she feels about you.

You will instinctively recognise some of her actions as positive or negative, but to understand the more subtle signals, you might need to do some research.

Sometimes it can be hard to read, but positive body language, combined with one or more of the signs above, means she definitely has feelings for you.

All Is Not Lost

Even if you are not getting any of the signals mentioned above from a girl that you like, it's not the end of the world.

Not every couple feels instant attraction to each other.

If you smile warmly and show genuine interest in her, you could very easily turn the situation around and start to see the signs that say she has fallen for you.

Good luck!

Questions & Answers

Question: There is a girl, about two years older than me at school, and every day she is constantly looking at me. Sometimes she holds her gaze for about three or more seconds. Also, a few of her friends look at me a few times, and I sometimes catch her talking to her friends and then they all suddenly look at me. Does this mean that she's interested in me?

Answer: I would say that this sounds very positive to me. Holding your gaze is a strong sign of attraction, as it creates an intimate moment between the two of you. You have deduced that she has told her friends that she likes you. Their behavior certainly suggests that she has. If you like this girl, while nothing is a sure thing, I think that it would be worth your while to ask her out. If she says no, at least you tried!

Question: If a girl ignores you does she hate you?

Answer: Perhaps, but it might mean the opposite. Someone who is indifferent won't really notice you but will interact with you if necessary. Ignoring is a much more deliberate act, which requires that person to be focusing on you when you're around. It could mean she is angry with you. If someone has done something deliberately mean to me, I might purposefully ignore them, both to protect myself from further trouble and to let that person know that their behavior was unacceptable. It is a bit immature, but sometimes ignoring is easier and more effective than confronting a bully or someone who has wronged you.

Another reason she might ignore you is that she might think you like her, and be trying to discourage you. We can be super aware of unwanted attention.

On a more positive note, some people find it really hard to deal with their emotions towards another person. Shyness and insecurity get in the way. Sometimes people are so scared of rejection or of looking foolish that they find it easier to ignore people they really like.

I know it's confusing, so the very best way to find out what's happening is to talk to the girl. Ask her if you have done something wrong. Even if she doesn't answer directly you should be able to tell from her response whether she seems angry or whether she seems flustered, and then act accordingly. If she's angry, try to sort things out with her. If she's flustered, she probably likes you, so be kind and if you like her, ask her out and see what she says.

Question: I'm a girl and have a friend who is also a girl. I heard she was gay. She is texting me, often slaps me and always laughing. Does she like me?

Answer: From what you have said, it seems that this girl is attracted to you and is flirting. If you are interested in her, it's a very positive sign. If you don't have feelings for her, you don't have to end the friendship. Gently discourage the flirting, but continue to do things that friends do together. She is probably trying to work out if you are gay and attracted to her. Perhaps you could share with her about someone else you find attractive just to give her the hint. It is perfectly fine for someone who is not gay to have a gay friend, and plenty of gay people are friends with each other without being attracted.

Question: What is flirting?

Answer: Flirting is the behavior we exhibit when we are attracted to someone, like looking deeply into someone's eyes, gently touching, or laughing at someone's bad jokes. Unfortunately, sometimes people use flirting to manipulate others, so it's very handy to be able to recognize the real thing.

Question: I'm in school. I have a crush on my senior friend and maybe she feels the same. How do I express this?

Answer: What is it that makes you think she feels the same? It's always tricky telling a school friend that you have a crush because she might feel uncomfortable about it and you don't want to affect your friendship with her. As people mature, they start to be more familiar with relationships and cope better, but in school, it is all so new. Perhaps you call to tell her that you love being her friend but was wondering if she would like to try going on a date together. Make it all very relaxed and low pressure. If she says no, just smile, tell her it was worth a try and then continue on as if nothing happened.

Question: I was walking and she was talking with her friend. All of a sudden her friend pushed her onto me with her elbow. It seemed very unnatural and on purpose. What does it mean? She looked so embarrassed and yelled at her friend when I was farther away. She looked so annoyed.

Answer: The friend was trying to embarrass this girl. It probably means that she likes you and has discussed you with the friend. However, it could instead possibly mean that they have both noticed that you like the girl, but she doesn't return your feelings. You will know if that's possible. Either way, it means that you are on this girl's radar, so watch out for further positive signs that she is attracted to you.

Question: On the first day of my class, I was seated near to her. I asked several questions and she answered me. After a while, she moved away from my seat, but she kept making eye contact with me and she was constantly facing in my direction. What does that signal? Does she or doesn't she like me?

Answer: Your experience with this girl could have two meanings. As you had just met her, there is nothing else to complicate the situation, so everything is quite clear. Either she was attracted to you and likes you, or she noticed that you were attracted to her and she was curious to see if she was right. The really positive sign that she liked you is the facing in your direction. Girls who don't necessarily like you but are curious can sometimes make eye contact because they look to see if you are looking at them, but normally the rest of their body language is closed. Facing in your direction is usually a sign of attraction.

Question: The girl I liked remembers me as a weird guy, but everyone changes and I have changed. I would like to woo her on chats, but I don't know how. What can I do?

Answer: How long is it since you saw this girl in person? As you said, everyone changes, so she may have changed too. I suggest that you try and arrange to meet up in a non-threatening situation, such as a reunion with a group of mutual friends. That way you can see if you still really do like her, and she will be able to see that you have matured. After you make that contact, you will find it much easier to continue to woo her in chats. If you can't meet up with her, perhaps you could send her a chat saying something like, "Hey, remember me? I was pretty weird back then, I know! How are you?" and see if she responds. This way you're telling her that you are aware that you might have not been attractive to her then, but you have changed. It could open up the lines of communication.

Question: Is she into you if she invites you on an adventure?

Answer: This sounds very exciting! What kind of adventure has she asked you on? If you like her, go along and see. It doesn't necessarily mean she is attracted to you, but she wouldn't invite you if she didn't want you to be there. Be yourself, have a great time, and be on the alert for more signs of attraction from her.

Question: How do I know she likes me if we never talk?

Answer: Find the opportunity to talk to her. Perhaps she is physically attracted to you, but if you never talk you'll never know. Go for it!

Question: This girl I know likes all my Facebook photos, does she like me?

Answer: Yes, if she likes all your photos and not everyone else's, it is more than likely that she is interested in you.

© 2014 herpointofview


Jackie Daniels on September 28, 2019:

OMG I did show him all of this signs

Doug on July 14, 2019:

It has been plainly obvious since college that no woman has any interest in me whatsoever (in fact they never notice I exist at all), so I never approach women - even those I am very attracted to. I have many women friends who don’t understand why I don’t even try, but to me it is a sure thing that I would by definition be seen as a creep by any woman, so it’s best for me to avoid the inevitable rejection I would get just for smiling and saying hello

Hunter on May 21, 2019:

This article is dead on for me, but I feel that the girl I like has liked a few other boys recently and has told me about them. I’m not sure about the situation but I think she might like me. Im too scared to ask her because we are really good friends now so I don’t know if I should tell her I like her and risk messing up our friendship. Your mention with me touching her and her not pulling away really stood out to me, because that happens and she seems to not mind. We talked all the time until this past Friday, when I went over to her house with an English project. I definitely felt an attraction between us. After that this next week she has been paying a lot less attention to me and hasn’t been talking to me as much. I don’t know if this is hot and cold or not. What are your thoughts?

herpointofview (author) on April 22, 2019:

John achilles, she might like you and be shy about letting you know. Find a reason to talk with her or to help her and see how she reacts. You could mention something you'd like to do, then watch to if she sees interested to join you (a movie, for example). If she does, ask her.

John achilles on April 11, 2019:

She stares at me in school and every where i am with friends she keep on staring at the area, she also smiles when passing by our house and hears my conversation with others, yet she never salutes me .what should i do?

Slartybartfast on March 05, 2019:

That's an awfully roundabout way of saying you have to guess.

Fin from Barstow on February 26, 2019:

some nice (reassuring) words and info....but you still really cannot tell. it's a mystery.

John on February 21, 2019:

Please post a useful article - like how to avoid women or get them to leave us alone?

NessleeQuick on January 01, 2019:

What does it mean if you went to school w/ur crush,you both liked each other, graduated, haven't heard from ea/other in yrs, re-connected on social media, u ask her to hang out sometime but no response?!?!

steve112112 on December 25, 2018:

I have been working with a woman for over 2 years now. I have had affections for her for a little over one year. There has always been flirtation, including prolonged eye contact, brushing, hugging, even back scratching. As I was married at the time, nothing was ever acted upon. She has recently kicked it up a notch and taken opportunities to sit alone with me when possible. Her conversations usually include compliments and a whole bunch of laughter. She will routinely tell me that I am the best person that she knows, telling me that she would steal me away from my family given the chance. She has on several occasions, made it a point to tell me that she doesn’t like me talking to other woman at work and will sometimes say something to me when I do. When I graduated college, she wrote a 2 page letter telling me that I would always have a special place in her heart and actually gave me money(that I tried to return). I am currently going through a divorce although she is currently in a relationship. When I was given the card with letter, I was overwhelmed with emotion. She refused to take back the money she had given me so I offered to buy her a gift for her birthday which was coming up. She flat out refused so I offered to take her out instead and without hesitation, she accepted(with a smile on her face). We went to lunch and she let me take her shopping. I thought that everything went wonderfully. The next day at work seemed like any other. I asked her if she would like to see a movie and she said yes right away. The following day she came to work and acted a bit colder than usual. When she did strike up a conversation, it was to show me a picture of a new apartment that she was going to be moving into with her boyfriend. My heart dropped at that moment and assumed that she was trying to give me a clue that she wasn’t interested. My head pretty much knows that I should probably let this go but I cant help but wonder if I somehow sent off confusing signals to her or if I was simply mistaking flirtatious signs from her and making myself a nuicance.

josie on November 26, 2018:

so I'm a girl and I think this other girl likes me and she is always touching me sooooo um what do I do

Alex on October 28, 2018:

I have no idea what it feels like to be flirted with because no woman had ever flirted with me in my entire life. I work hard, have many hobbies and try not to think about it, but holidays are difficult spent alone and it's really awkward when my friends and work colleagues all bring significant others to events / parties and I'm the only one there alone. Being fundamentally unattractive is a terrible thing, but it's my reality.

matthew on October 13, 2018:

this girl shows a lot of signs that she likes me and she makes me hold her hand at lunch but she has a boyfriend and she said i was just a friend plz help

JJ on October 09, 2018:

Now I can give my friend helpful signals. Yay.

John on September 25, 2018:

Pfffttt... a typically vague and self-serving article written by a woman. But they can't help it; they don't know what they want.

Anyway, why does it even matter if a woman "likes" you? A woman "likes" a man when he has something she wants and is willing to use him to get it - that's all. A man shouldn't be pleased that a woman likes him; it ought to make him raise his defenses.

Whether or not she likes you, a woman is toxic and dangerous.

They are not to be trusted. I never knew peace and happiness until I cut women completely out of my life. I highly recommend it to every man.

Hi on September 07, 2018:

What if she used to talk to you and want to be around you but no longer does?

Ben Dover on August 07, 2018:

If she has sex with you, it’s possible she could like you

BarryThompson on July 20, 2018:

If she scratches the palm of your hand don't leave early!

Rick Scarre on June 14, 2018:

I cant tell if this girl likes me or not. We used to talk a lot, then we stopped. We still talk every now and then. I do see some signals, like she sent me a selfie of her and asked if it was worthy for posting or not. She has a lot of guy friends but she always goes to me for advice. I see her all the time but we don't say hi to each other. She recently dated my friend and broke up with him the next day. I'm getting a lot of missed signals, idk. plz help

Mark on April 09, 2018:

Nope... I've never gotten even one of these signals from any woman. I have lots of woman friends, but none of them (nor any woman) could ever be interested in me in *that* way. Some of us are just unattractive and doomed to be alone forever...

Denzel on March 13, 2018:


Ron on February 12, 2018:

I been texting back and forth a lot and she really likes me and I really like her a lot. We both live near each other.. She's married but she lives up stairs him down. I'm married/separated..shes scared if anyone sees us she has a lot to lose. I'm not being to forward but we do want to see each outher.. I told her I don't want to get her in trouble but I really want to see her and not just for sex either... She calls me and we talk.. Don't really know what to do??

Jenney Rose on February 12, 2018:

My best friend kissed my cheek and said "I love you" She flirts with everyone so I don't if she likes me. Please help!!

Paul on January 23, 2018:

I never show interest in any woman who doesn't show interest in me first because a woman could take a smile or me saying 'hi, I'm Paul' the wrong way and charge me with sexual harassment. As a guy, the court of public opinion would find me guilty no matter what. As such, I keep my interactions with women positive but completely professional. This is the way western society is now - very unfortunate.

Isaac Nizel on December 22, 2017:

I like this girl but she doesn't show that she likes me and she laughs when i make a mistake. What does this mean?

Ronan Mooney on December 15, 2017:

I like this girl in my school, and she likes me too, we sit together at lunch, but whenever other girls come to our table, and maybe start flirting with me, she straightens up and starts eating like we weren't even talking before. Is this a sign that's she likes me? We are also really good freinds. Please get back to me.

Ellie on November 29, 2017:

I like this boy and my bestie thinks that he likes me. I don’t think he does. Whenever I send him streaks on snapchat he doesn’t open them for like a day, but when I send a direct message about the homework he answers straight away. He stares right into my eyes when he talks for me and he smiles. In English I caught him staring at me but whenever I looked at him he turned away

Evan Ducati on September 13, 2017:

I like her - she's shown signs that she might like me but I don't know for sure.

shoaib malik on August 19, 2017:

I like her and i think she likes me to .but we dont know each other

Mackenzie on August 04, 2017:

Great article even 3 years later!!! Thank you so much!

herpointofview (author) on June 20, 2017:

It really depends on why she doesn't like you. There are so many possible reasons to like or dislike someone, and most of them are personal and individual. The best answer I can give you is to be yourself and get on with enjoying life without her. Make yourself as attractive as possible - then if she doesn't like you, you're very likely to attract someone better. Don't push it or her, or she will reject you more. If the opportunity arises to do something with her with mutual friends, do it. Good luck.

bill stewart on June 18, 2017:

how do i get her to like me if i already know if she doesn't like me?

herpointofview (author) on March 13, 2017:

@Confuse, It is hard to know without details. She may just not be ready for a relationship, or something else in her life is holding her back. I would suggest still seeing her, but don't pressure her for now to take the relationship further. If she's going out with you, that's a great sign. When she is ready to commit, she'll let you know. Good luck!

herpointofview (author) on March 13, 2017:

Hi Luke, That is awesome news! I'm so happy for you. Thank you so much for letting me know. You've made my day :)

Luke on March 12, 2017:

Hey it's me again. Just wanted to say that I started to text that girl and we haven't stopped! Thanks for giving me the confidence to do this! I've got high hopes for the future.

Confuse man on March 11, 2017:

I have instincts that this girl is interested in me, but when asked if she would be my girlfriend she did not accept me. Is my instincts wrong? We have been going out 2 person 4-5 times and I think its the right time to express my feeling for her but it seem that I am wrong ?

herpointofview (author) on March 10, 2017:

Hi Luke, Maybe you could find a reason to text her and get things started. For example, you could tell her about a movie you really think she should see, and then "forget" the name of it. You could say you'll look it up when you have a chance and text it to her. I'm not saying play out this exact scenario, but find an excuse to text later in something that you are both talking about. If she texts back, keep the conversation going and see where it leads. Hope this helps!

Luke on March 09, 2017:

There's this girl who's in most of my classes and we do talk a lot. She laughs at my jokes and I laugh at hers (evem though mine are way better lol). I started to fancy her a month or two ago but don't really know if she feels the same way. We don't touch each other cuz we both find that a little weird but whenever I talk to her she's eager to talk back. Funnily enough we don't text each other and if I just texted her from out of nowhere it would be hella awkward. I'm really stuggling with my emotions with her and I can't keep them hidden for long.

herpointofview (author) on March 06, 2017:

Hi John, This is a tricky one. You're right about showing direct interest working, so my conclusions would be that 1. she is super shy or inexperienced or 2. she's already committed to someone else or 3. she's not interested. Insecure girls can be hard work, but it can be worth it if you persist. But how do you know? She might be interested in you, or she may just be looking at you to see if you're looking at her. I guess the quality of the eye contact might be the key. Does she hold your glance? This could be hopeful. If, after catching your eye, she looks directly down but keeps her head fairly still, this could be a good sign, but if she looks away to the side with her whole head, perhaps not so good. My suggestion would be to back off a little and seem a little less interested. This will be less threatening to her. If she she likes you, she will likely be worried she is going to lose you, and start making opportunities to be around you and talk to you. If this happens, you could then ramp up your interest little by little and see what effect it has. It depends on how much you like her and how much effort (risk) you want to put into pursuing her. Good luck!

John Evans on March 06, 2017:

Guys I need help. There is this girl I like, she is shy. I read about directly showing interest works, so I approached her saying "Honestly, I think you're really beautiful." She's a classmate so no need for introductions. But she just quickly said "Thank you" and walked away fast to catch up with her friend, leaving me no room for conversation! In class though she makes intermittent eye contact, but I tried approaching her again to say sorry for coming on a bit strong, and tried having conversation from there but she wasn't so reactive and only gave one word answers, so I realized I had to leave. Every time after that, when we pass by each other and I say hi or bye she just says a dry "Hi" without looking up or gives a quick wave without looking back, or if I don't say anything, she looks down and not at me if I pass by. I mean, what the heck! I messed up, but I don't know if it's all over! We rarely talked before I approached her anyway, so the only thing I can rely on right now is the eye contact and she's Should I give up the chase or not, because I already made my first moves and I don't want to get in more "emotional turmoil"

herpointofview (author) on March 02, 2017:

She is definitely interested, but maybe hasn't decided yet. If you like her, be nice to her!

herpointofview (author) on February 28, 2017:

Hi Lone Wolf, This is a difficult situation to analyze because there are so many players involved - not just you and the girl, but your friend and her friend. From what you have told me, I'm really sorry to say that this girl is possibly not interested at the moment, but there is nothing to say this couldn't change. I think if you want to be sure, you will need to gather up the courage to approach her yourself. She might like you and think your friend was playing a joke, or her friend might have said to her that if you were serious you would have come over. There is too much opportunity for politics to play out. Try and see if you can buy her a coffee or a drink without your friends around. If she agrees, you will know that there is some interest there. I know anxiety makes it awkward, but there are ways to overcome nerves. For example, you could try pretending that you are both actors playing roles, or you could mentally go through what would happen if she rejected you in the worst possible way, and visualize exactly how you could cope and still be cool. I really hope this works out for you.

The lone wolf on February 27, 2017:

I need help herpointofview, so for the past week or two I saw this girl I really liked but I didn't know how to show I did because I have really bad anxiety. So I asked one of my friends to ask her if she liked me so after he told her that I liked her she blushed and smiled but her friend said that she wasn't interested. Please help me figure out what she is trying to tell me.

herpointofview (author) on February 18, 2017:

It most likely means she is interested in you. If you like her, be friendly and see how she responds.

Tristan on February 18, 2017:

So, whenever I'm at school, there's this one girl that just stares at me in class. Sometimes I go to the sink to clean off after art class, or the such, and she comes and starts to talk to me. What could this mean?

Joseph on February 10, 2017:

@herpointofview: Thank's for your reply. Not sure how I could possibly get involved, we always talk around each other when we cross our paths. I have never tried calling her. Yes, I saw the other article, but I still can't see things clearly. Either way, she has not been in touch for lunch, and I haven't either. She definately has a problem but if it had not been for her, I'd be unemployed as I would have left my boring job so this mess has had one benfit for me. My inner self tells me to move on but I can't. She definately knows that I am into her, maybe she enjoys it? We don't have any common friends that I can ask about her so the only way is to meet her physically and ask, I guess.

herpointofview (author) on February 09, 2017:

@joseph From what you have said, this woman sounds like she has a few issues. Women do give off confusing signals sometimes (this article of mine might be of interest to you: https://pairedlife.com/dating/Why-Does-a-Girl-Act-... ). However, my feeling after reading your post is that this woman really is very confused. I know it's hard when you like someone, but I suggest caution if you decide to try and get involved.

herpointofview (author) on February 09, 2017:

@sebastian It sounds positive that she is at least trying to attract your attention, and I think that you are probably right about the intention of her 'sleeping alone' comment. Keep being yourself and watch out for signs. Good luck!

Joseph on February 08, 2017:

This is a great blog btw ! As for my case, I fell for a lady at work five months ago who gave me all of the signs listed in your article above but who also ignored me completely at certain times (sometimes even for an entire week at work – and in meetings) + blew hot and cold signals at me. Tried to ask her for lunch in the canteen once but she declined, I suggested a work-related activity after work (she said she was interested but just didn’t show up on the day), and from then onwards our conversations went down to zero. She started to come to my office though and frequently asked for help with things she could have done very easily herself, sometimes she smiled at me for longer periods. I moved to another department end 12/2016 and gave her a little present + card (signalling that I really wanted to keep in touch with her when I left) not knowing that I would return to the same company in 01/17, but a different site. Tried emailing her twice between christmas and the new year, but never received a reply so I was very sad. Mid jan I saw her in the canteen with another colleague and she ran away pretending not to know me. Last week I bumped into her for a minute, we were not bringing any of this ignoring business up and she spontaniously suggested to contact me for lunch at work (hasn’t happened yet) and I haven’t replied to her question either as I really feel that she is playing me and I don’t know how to react. (she had my contact details and never replied within the 7 weeks that passed) We never got close but she seemed genuine in what she said but had she been interested in me, she would not have taken the chance to never see me again by not replying, would she ? Psychologically, I can’t go on like this and I need a way out : can you help ? How can I bring this up in a conversation and since this will be our first real ‘alone’ time, I am not sure if this counts as a date or where else I could suggest that we go except the canteen that she will accept. I just feel so confused atm.

Sebastian on February 08, 2017:


For 4 years i liked this girl but since a week or so my feelings just exploded and i can't get her out of my mind, heck i can't even eat if i'm thinking about her

And she shows some hints like she is laughing at my jokes and one time i said a bad joke and she was like 2-3 meters behind me and she laughed very loudly(maybe so i can't notice)...when i'm around she seems more cheerful and she always smiles when looking at me

One time we were in a group the conversation was going about sleeping and something and she pointed out that she sleeps alone(is this a hint that she's single?)

Appreciate your response

herpointofview (author) on February 06, 2017:

@Mark, I think this would very much depend on the whole situation, how old you are, and what you mean by 'committed'. I would need to know more before giving proper advice, but usually breaking up another couple does not lead to happiness. However, relationships do break up for other reasons, and her flirting with you could easily be a sign that all is not well in her relationship. Be a good friend, put no pressure on her relationship-wise, and see what happens.

Mark on February 06, 2017:

All of the things mentioned above are checked with the girl whom I like but she is already committed with someone, what should I do?

Mak on February 05, 2017:

She likes you but probably doesn't see a future with you.... But none the less likes being around you. If a girl ever puts herself into a position that could be dangerous or going against your culture it means she really likes you. Good luck!

a difficult one on January 31, 2017:


i want you to read this without judging. simply put i like my cousin and i want to know if she is feeling the same.

a few things i should add

1. Our culture is islamic, touching and flirting is not allowed regardless"

2. since she is a relative things can get very ugly if she does not like me.

Alright. we smile to each other a lot. A LOT on messengers and irl. infact its more like we smile as soon as we see each other.

even though we are not allowed to touch each other she does go out of her way to slightly touch my arm or shoulder. but importantly one day i lost my self in feeling and brushed the back of my hand on her face and cheek. she only smiled at me (in the islam this couldve been very bad if she didnt like me)

she does all the other signs continously.

lastly im afraid im confusing Love with relativity(family) its worth noting we are not living close to each(we see each other for 4 weeks a year at best)

i humbly ask for any help

herpointofview (author) on January 28, 2017:

Hi Steven, It sounds to me like she likes you too. She wants to stare into your eyes and she loves to wear your glasses - these are very positive signs. If it is possible, I think you should ask her to something which could involve a little more intimacy. I understand you are afraid of rejection (aren't we all?!), so maybe you could make it really easy for her to make the first move. Scary movies are popular, because they are a great excuse for a girl to snuggle up to a guy and stay there. Ice skating or other activities where you can innocently hold hands are also good. I once had a guy grab hold of my hand to cross a busy road. It was such a lovely gesture, and of course, I didn't let go once the road was crossed. There is always the risk of rejection, but then, if you don't take risks, you might never know. I hope it works out for you.

Steven on January 26, 2017:

Hey, I like this girl. She laughs at all my jokes, (but most people do) and she always wants to have staring contests (maybe that's how she stares without being weird). She also loves wear my glasses even though she doesn't need to. I really have fealings for her but I'm afraid to be rejected... think you can help me?

herpointofview (author) on January 25, 2017:

If it is appropriate, why not ask her out for lunch, or even just for a coffee. If she can't make it, and she wants to see more of you, she will suggest an alternate arrangement. Daytime dates are great icebreakers because there is no awkwardness afterwards about what happens next, and it's easy to make an excuse to leave if things are going to plan. Good luck!

Dat Boi on January 22, 2017:

I have been interested in this girl for 2 years now and i'm starting to see her laughing, touching, and talking to me a lot more. When I look she happens to be looking at the same time we both turn away and blush at the same time, this she also notices. This article gives me confidence, but i'm not sure how to approach her on this subject

The Hopeless Romantic on January 18, 2017:

Hey I kissed a girl , I told her I really liked her

She told me the next day that she like me but that she shouldn't have kissed me

But every since that she calls me or text to take her places and even afterwards she still wants to hang with me

So I asked her did she have feelings for me

She said she like me but not the way I think

So how is she assuming that I think she likes me a certain way ,My sister said she is interested in me ,and I asked her how you know ? She said Woman intuition- Smh I don't get it

herpointofview (author) on January 08, 2017:

Haha! I know the feeling. Just let him know in subtle ways. If he likes you, he will respond. Good luck!

herpointofview (author) on January 08, 2017:

Try to spend time with her alone, and get to know her as a person. Then you will be able to read her better.

herpointofview (author) on January 08, 2017:

Not recommended unless women in your culture welcome being touched without consent. Mostly, this would be considered disrespectful and would be a complete turn off to most women. If a women was upset enough about it, you might even find yourself up on an assault charge.

Lol on January 06, 2017:

I'm a girl reading this to see what my crush might be looking for LOL desperate

Wijnu on January 05, 2017:

There's this tanned girl, in my opinion, she is too adventurous, about hubby mountain, climbing Hill, go to Beach, touring to town to town. The problem is, almost everyone on a sec likes her, bcs she is smiling a lot. Almost in a blink of an eye everybody will think she likes you. How to deal with the sign?

Josh on January 02, 2017:

Hi. Thank you for enlightening me on some things. I really like this one girl and if I were to trust my instincts, as you suggest I should do, then she has some interest in getting to know me, too. How exciting is that!?!?

She's so beautiful and her gracious presense is subtlely mind-blowing. Never have I met a woman like her.

So I pray to God for her to accept my invitation into my life.

herpointofview (author) on January 01, 2017:

It's wonderful that you have feelings for this girl. Blushing and then getting angry about being teased is a great sign for you that she is interested in you. The anger comes from being embarrassed. She will feel more secure once you two have established a relationship. Good luck!

herpointofview (author) on December 26, 2016:

Why don't you try asking her out for a coffee or something similar during the day? Daytime dates are relaxed and there is less pressure as to what might happen afterwards. If she likes you, she will either accept, or give you a very genuine excuse with the opportunity to reschedule. If she politely declines, you will have your answer without losing any dignity. Good luck!

Nana on December 11, 2016:

If a guy don't really gives and showing his efforts to be appreciated. He himself will be wasted. Most girl are ready to move on or stop chasing her prince charming if the guy showing signs of rejecting.

Girls are not necessarily desperate ya see

herpointofview (author) on December 08, 2016:

She is definitely flirting with you, but she may not want to take things any further. If she says she isn't interested in you, you need to think why she would say that. Perhaps she really is interested, but isn't able to start a relationship at the moment. If you like her, spend time with her and see what develops.

herpointofview (author) on December 08, 2016:

It could mean she likes you. If she shows a few of the other signs I have mentioned, then I would say yes!

Josh on December 05, 2016:

I likes girl and I sit behind her she always looks back at me and if I look back she quickly turns a different direction does this mean she likes me or no?

herpointofview (author) on November 25, 2016:

I hope he likes you too! Try some of the ideas in this article and see if he responds. Good luck.

Sky Chronicles on November 24, 2016:

I only sit with him in math class... should I make a move? I read some of your articles and I think he likes me back. Ugh, boys are so confusing! Help Me Please!!!

herpointofview (author) on November 23, 2016:

It sounds very positive. Enjoy the flirtation and be yourself. Good luck!

Sky Chronicles on November 23, 2016:

I have a crush and I use all of these things. Is this a good thing? I'm so nervous!!

herpointofview (author) on October 27, 2016:

Hi Owen, I think you need to spend more time with this girl and see how things go. To hear from her that she likes you and then to say she doesn't like you must be very confusing for you. Is it possible that something happened to change her mind? I know lots of Christians who date non-Christians and vice versa; I suppose it would depend if it is a potential problem for her or for you. If you get to know each other better, you will be able to read her signs more clearly. I hope it works out the way you would like it to.

Owen on October 26, 2016:

I'm really interested in a girl but its a online relationship :S But I asked her out once she said it was cute and she kinda liked me. But I asked again a few weeks later she said she didn't like, like me. And she us always being quiet she hardly speeks. Is that a sign she likes me? But she us Christian and I'm not so I'm not sure if we can even be together. Please tell me if I can be with her. And tell me if that us a sign if she likes me.

Hypno-toad on October 26, 2016:

I naturally do all of these things to guys but I don't like them. Confusing

herpointofview (author) on October 10, 2016:

@Paul - I don't believe it. If you are interested in women, I'm sure there are women who would be interested in you. I'm not sure why you feel otherwise, but the beauty of this world is that we all have different tastes, and a lot of people are attracted to those outside the mainstream idea of attractive. I hope you have a positive experience and prove yourself wrong in the very near future.

Paul on October 09, 2016:

No - I've never seen any of these signals from any woman. I never approach or talk to women - obviously for good reason - no woman is (or could ever be) interested in me.

maryDary on October 15, 2015:

shit, i just realized that I´m doing all those things... I was hoping it wasn´t a crush, but turns out it is.

whitneyklautschek on December 16, 2014:

I like to join

Jack on October 28, 2014:

@Confused Sounds like she does like you back. Girls don't go all out to touch a guy their not into.

Confused on October 27, 2014:

I can't tell if she likes me or not. One minute she's giving all the signs that she really likes me and the next she's ignoring me as if I don't exist. She does touch me by accident a lot tho. I'm not sure if she is noticing that I'm there or just noticing that I'm noticing she's there. Wish it wasn't so confusing. I like her a lot.

Carrie Lee Night from Northeast United States on September 14, 2014:

Interesting :). I must be an odd ball. I never touched guys, asked for help, laugh more at jokes etc. Once I had confidence I would talk to the guy I was interested in and flat out ask if they had a girlfriend then start from there . simple direct :)

Juan on September 14, 2014:

wow that's awesome bro

B The Great on September 13, 2014:

I have never had a problem getting any type of girl. I think they are so easy to understand. Nice post still.

Sonia Hodge from West Indies on September 04, 2014:

Good article! Girls can be sometimes easy to read!

ThoughtsWriter from America on May 22, 2014:

Good layout and quality information. Thanks.

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