How to Make a Man Fall Madly in Love With You: 13 Tips on Making a Guy Like You

Updated on February 27, 2017
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

Making a man fall in love with you
Making a man fall in love with you

How to Get a Guy to Love You

Want to make a man fall in love with you forever? You might be asking this question because you like a guy very much and you are looking forward to him feeling the same for you.

He's the man of your dreams, and you adore him. You want him by your side right now but unfortunately you still don’t have him. You're willing to do whatever it takes for him to chase you, like you, get attracted to you and fall madly in love with you but it seems like a huge undertaking.

In this article you will get to learn some of the basic and not so basic things that girls can do in order to attract a man to their side and make him fall in love with them.

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1. Don't Lose Hope

Don’t lose hope. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to be hopeful at all times. Losing hope can be a disease not only in trying to win the heart of a man, but also in all things that we do in our day-to-day life.

Hope for the best, but don't lose sight of reality. When pursuing a man and wanting him to fall in love with you, there are definitely two likely outcomes which are:

  1. He also falls in love with you, or
  2. He might reject your advances.

When pursuing the love of a man it’s important to be hopeful and stay positive. (We all appear more attractive and appealing when we give off good, positive vibes.) But don't hang all your hopes on getting the result you dream about. He has feelings just like you do, and none of us really have control over our hearts!

He might be interested in you as much as you are interested in him. Be motivated by that hope, and take steps to find out. You won't know until you make an effort to catch him. However, you should also prepare for any eventuality and outcome. If this man's not the one for you, there will be another man on your horizon. So don't lose hope!

2. Be Yourself

Be yourself when trying to make a man fall in love with you. It is important to be yourself and not someone else when it comes to personality and character. If you are pretending to be different to your true self when trying to make a guy like you, you are not doing yourself any favors.

By trying not to be yourself, you are clearly indicating or suggesting that you are not comfortable with yourself. Many guys will easily notice this shortcoming in you and quickly become disinterested.

You might be able to keep the façade up for a few weeks, months, or even years. But sooner or later you'll grow tired of hiding your true personality, and he'll get tired of trying to figure out who you really are, what you really like, and when you are actually being sincere.

  • If you have a high-powered job, don't play the dumb blonde.
  • If you hate high heels, don't wear stilettos.
  • Your dog hogs the front seat of your car, and sleeps in your bed? The two of you had better talk about that.
  • You have children? That's definitely worth mentioning up front.

The best relationship is a long relationship. When a man falls madly in love with you, you want that love to last, So be yourself right from the start.

3. Be Aware of Your Appearance

Don’t let your appearance let you down. Your appearance can make you win or lose when it comes to dating. To please a man and make him get interested in you, you should be presentable. Be aware of what you are wearing, whether or not your hair is clean, and if you are dressed appropriately.

Of course you want to look sexy for the man you want to fall in love with you, but sex appeal doesn't necessarily mean body-hugging clothing and lots of cleavage. Jeans and a t-shirt with wind-blown hair can be just as sexy as a manicured look in a formal outfit, in the right circumstances.

Choose your clothing and your style to match the occasion. But be aware of how you look. Do your best to look as good as you can, no matter where you are going. You never know when you might unexpectedly bump into the man of your dreams.

So, before you race out the door to buy the missing ingredient for your quiet dinner at home on your lonesome, change that grubby shirt!

4. Listen, Don't Just Talk!

When you want to please and make a man fall for you, it is important that you listen. Don't just talk. If you chatter incessantly when you are nervous, find some other way to cope with your nerves.

Many girls make the mistake of talking more than they listen when they are around a potential male partner. Girls aren't the only ones, of course. Many men do the same thing. But this is a big mistake that can easily cost you getting the man of your dreams.

Even a man who is generally not talkative will definitely have something to say. Everyone likes to be 'heard'. If you keep talking and talking all the time without giving him the chance to express himself, he's likely to be disappointed. Making it hard for him to get a word in could lower your chances of him falling in love with you.

5. Show Confidence

Confidence is key. Sure, some women seem to make a career out of catching men by playing the victim, or the helpless female. But have you ever noticed how those seemingly helpless souls who catch men by being so 'needy', actually set their trap with confidence and precision?

Without confidence, you risk being left behind. If you want a guy to like you, you need to have a sense of confidence in yourself that will ultimately make you approach him without fearing or sensing any danger.

Liking yourself makes it easy for him to like you too. You're a good person with very special qualities. Be confident that you are worthy of being loved!

More Tips to Make Him Fall in Love With You

  1. Smile and laugh. When you are working on ways to make a guy fall in love with you, it is essential to smile and laugh. Don’t present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you feel comfortable being.

    Guys generally like girls with a sense of humor who can make them feel good. Tell him enjoyable stories, and don't be afraid to laugh. Remember not to go overboard and look like a comedian. It is great to have a partner who is enjoyable and outgoing, but very few people like the idea of living with a comedian.
  2. You have to give, and not just take, to increase your chances of him falling in love with you. A man can easily differentiate between a girl who wants something from him, and one who cares for him.

    There are certainly girls who are after money (gold diggers). Differentiate yourself from the typical gold digger and let him see you are interested in him for his love and not his money or any other material thing
  3. Let him also put some extra effort in. If you keep chasing after a man for months while he is going on with his activities, you'll most likely be seen as a desperate woman. Being available to him always is not really a good thing. Don’t let him get bored.

    Instead, allow him to make advances towards you. Many men enjoy the thrill of the 'chase.' Catch his eye and his attention, and then let him work a little to win you over. Let him notice how much he misses you when you are not around. As soon as he suspects he's falling in love with you, he will definitely do something to get you.
  4. Get to know (and understand) what he does. This is something that could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Ask him whether he needs any help to accomplish a task. If he discovers that you are keenly interested in his plans, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.
  5. Have patience and don’t push him too hard to make important decisions. Patience will definitely pay off. Be patient and go slow when trying to make a man fall in love with you. Don’t expect him to fall in love or say yes to your advances instantly.

    Many men will definitely need time to decide whether he is ready to enter into a relationship with you or not. If he likes you, he will make it obvious. But don’t ever push him to make a quick decision on whether he likes you or not.
  6. Be different from other women. If many women are competing for his attention and are trying very hard to make him fall in love with them, differentiation will definitely give you the cutting edge. Give or show him tangible or intangible evidence to suggest that you are the best option for him.
  7. Don’t be too possessive before he commits his love to you. Many women make the mistake of being too possessive of a man before he even admits his love to them. When this is the case, she may try to protect him from other women so that she remains the only woman in his life.

    This is a strategy that is doomed to fail. Allow him to decide on what is best for him. If you are the one for him, he will definitely fall in love with you.
  8. Have good morals. Good morals are a necessity in convincing a man to love you. Nobody wants to get involved with someone who can't be trusted. Men like women who are disciplined and are not pushovers. Behave maturely towards him and be respectful of him, just as you expect him to be respectful towards you.

If you can be true to yourself and demonstrate all these types of qualities, your perfect match will definitely fall in love with you!

Questions & Answers

  • What should I do if the man I'm interested in ignores my messages, myself and everything about me?

    If he is completely ignoring you, it looks like he’s just not interested. So don’t bother messaging him or chasing him anymore. The world is filled with nice guys, but you won’t notice any of them if you stay obsessed with that guy.

    I suggest you forget about him and keep an open mind about meeting Mr. Right. There might already be some other guy who’d like to get to know you, but you’re not seeing him.

  • He told me that he loves me. I love him too, but he doesn’t have time for me. He’s always with his friends. Do you think he loves me?

    I don’t know if you’re both just kids or if you’re older. If you’re young, maybe he does really like you but doesn’t feel confident enough to walk away from his friends to spend time with a girl.

    If you’re both older, there’s no real excuse for him to ignore you and just spend all his time with his friends. He’s selfish and not the kind of guy you want to commit to because I can’t imagine he’s ever going to change for you.

    Either way, young or old, it doesn’t sound like he truly ‘loves’ you. So you have to decide whether or not you want to dump him and look for someone new. If you stick with him, expect to keep being disappointed.

  • What if his baby’s mama is staying with him, but he’s not married to her, and we are in love with each other?

    What if you were the mother of his baby and living with him, and he was telling another girl he loves her? That’s exactly what is likely to happen to you in the future.

    For all you know, he may still be sleeping with her and she might believe they are actually a couple planning a future together with their child.

    I suspect you are headed for heartbreak. If I was you, I’d step back and encourage him to work out what’s happening with his current relationship instead of trying to start a new relationship with you.

  • We are in a relationship but he is too shy to talk with me. We don't behave like other couples. What to do to make our relationship work?

    You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.

    I'm sure you see a lot of good qualities in the guy, but if you're envious of other couples, I think you need to find a new partner who allows you to be yourself and have all the noisy interactions and long conversations you crave. A successful relationship requires partners who are well suited to each other.

  • Is it okay for me to call or text him even if he hasn't yet?

    There’s no reason in this day and age that stops a girl from making the first contact.

© 2012 Daniel Long

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    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      2 days ago from All Over

      Sorry, friends. I've just noticed I missed a bunch of comments but most people will no longer be looking for answers after a few weeks have passed so I won't take the time writing replies to all of them.

      But Bella, I'm writing to you (and others in your position) because your note troubles me.

      You said you were dating a guy for 5 weeks, had sex twice, then he started not talking to you. You asked me what I think you should do.

      In short, I think you should learn from your mistakes. Having sex with that guy was obviously a big mistake. But it is done now, so it is time to move on with a better, clearer idea of what you want out of life ... and what you expect from a future partner.

      I think you should be going to a doctor and making sure you're not pregnant, and not infected with a sexually transmitted disease. Then start fresh.

      Forget about the guy you slept with who no longer talks to you. And avoid all the many, many guys who would treat you the same way. There's absolutely no reason to sleep with a guy in such a short time. If a guy is genuinely interested in spending time with you and learning more about you, it won't bother him if you make him wait for sex.

      And I mean make him wait. Make yourself wait too. Sexually transmitted diseases are way too common in today's world, and that should be reason enough to avoid sex with anyone who is not committed to you and willing to stick around.

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      Daniel Long 

      2 days ago from All Over

      Neither of you will have a fulfilling relationship if he's gay, Red, so you'd better find that out before getting any more involved.

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      Daniel Long 

      2 days ago from All Over

      Treat him with respect, Vivian, and expect the same in return.

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      Red 

      5 days ago

      I think my man is gay what should i do i love him but just cant be with a gay man...

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      Pet 

      2 weeks ago

      I a guy n met a very handsome young fella. He approached me at the bus stop n started talking to me. Since then we are being hanging out like “couple”, I really like him to be my bf n it seems he also likes me. He is very special with me. I fell in love with him n would like he to be mine n just mine, to be together for the rest of our lives.

      But he never moves forward, what can I do to make him to start showing his love to me without hurting his feelings toward me?

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      FAVOUR 

      2 weeks ago

      GOOD ADVICE

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      Unknown 

      2 weeks ago

      A married man falling for me? We work together!

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      Josh 

      2 weeks ago

      I’m a gay man, I met a wonderful 21 years boy at the bus station. He asked me if I was also waiting for the same bus. We started talking n since then we are being meeting almost everyday, having tea, going to eat and just for a talk.

      I am falling in love with him!!

      Is an especial man!

      Sometimes he shows a very strong interest for me, but sometimes I feel like he is more into friendship but I know he would like to be my boyfriend.

      What should I do to make him to go to the next step without “hurt” his feelings and not loosing him?

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      siyu 

      2 weeks ago

      I think he has a girlfriend .But sometimes he smiles with me.I really really love him.what I should do to make relationship

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      Lizanny 

      2 weeks ago

      I really like him, he has talked to me about family issues and I did the same. In class he looks at me abd when I look back at him he looks away. I think he is trying to make me jelous beacuase he is dating one of my best friends but Im okay with that I just need to know if he likes me or not. What should I do?

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      Vivian torres 

      3 weeks ago

      im in a relation ship with this guy and i want to be his and only his how do i keep it that way

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      Teddy shelitah 

      3 weeks ago

      Thanks for the page we have learnt much

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      Mithzy 

      4 weeks ago

      Ok so, a week ago i meet my childhood friend at the mall of course i said hi. We were both surprised to see each other since we graduated two years ago. He complimented me on how diffrent i look and i asked him how he was doing. He immediately answered about his last relationship and how he hates his ex girlfriend, he gave me the whole story. I was surprised at first and we were also walking around the mall. He did tell me he dosent want to go back to his ex and he would jokingly say how girls find a guys butt attractive. I told him that im not like other girls and said that if i want to touch his butt he wouldnt care. He did tell me how he was doing at work and school, he even showed me one of his tattoo's on his chest close to his nipple, like he lifted his whole shirt to show it to me in public instead of showing from the top which surprised me. We had coffee were he would have direct eye contact, lunch, and exchanged numbers, we even hugged. Does it sound like hes interested in me?

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      Bella 

      4 weeks ago

      I dating these guy for 5weeks we had sex twice then he started not talking to me so please what should I do

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      Nosmilo 

      4 weeks ago

      i fell in live with a guy but he's got a girlfriend,and the girlfriend calls when we together although he told me he feels happy with me than with her,am confused what should i do?

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      tatiana 

      4 weeks ago

      i really like this guy but i told him i have a boyfriend since then he never talked to me plz help me

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      Joy 

      4 weeks ago

      I recently met with my child hood friend and we love each other but the problem is that he has a girlfriend and he first broke up with her because of me n then later went back to her and told me that he doesn't know if we are compatible with each other that she has been there with him when he needed someone I don't know what to do I really do love him how would I make him see that and make him mine

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      Michaella 

      4 weeks ago

      I want my boyfriend to love me and me only

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      adedamola 

      6 weeks ago

      i fall in love with a man with my favourite complexion and stature and i want him to be with me forever.how can i win his heart......i have his contact already.

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      bew 

      6 weeks ago

      He loved me, believed and feel more comfortable to talk. but I destroy it. It was not about cheating. he said he will never be together with me same as the past. But can be friends. How can i get him back and make him fall in love with me again?

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      Suzan 

      6 weeks ago

      I met this guy some weeks ago....I really like him...but I don't know how to make him chase me, am scared of rejection

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      amy 

      6 weeks ago

      im totally in love with this guy hunter in my class and he seems to like me but im not quit sure....

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      Scilla 

      7 weeks ago

      We have been dating for 3 years and i don't really know whether he loves me or not. He likes being around me and behave like best friends. What should i do to see his love

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      windy 

      2 months ago

      how do i know my bf loves me the way he claims to.

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      Rosebud 

      2 months ago

      I meet a guy and he asked me out but because he lies so much ,i told him i will think about it..

      because i broke up not long ago ,i decided to wait,

      this Guy keeps coming to my end with His friend for about 3times

      i speak much and more comfortable with his friend than him

      he disappeared for weeks and i called his friend to pass my message on and he did friend ,he still did not call

      His friend advised to try visiting him ,i told him i dont know his house ,he decided to direct me but i refused that if he cares he will call or visit

      i continued speaking with his friend and

      after some 2 months ,he then came back with stories that he loves me and so on

      i told him i will think about it

      my issue is i like his friend because he is real and a gentleman

      we have gone out couple of times ,Asked me out and i accepted

      we are dating

      this other guy is in and disturbing me.

      His friend is afraid to loose me and he feels he has betrayed his friend and doesn't know what to do but still wants us to continue

      what should i do ?

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      Novy 

      2 months ago

      Im married but my married don’t work anymore. We stay together just becouse of my doughter.I found a bf online and we feel both inlove we meet and we feel so inlove but suddenly my bf changes he don’t talk to me anymore. Do you think he still interested on me or no more. I told him to be honest how he feel he Said he loves me.

      But im confused the way he act.So i need to stop talking to him ?

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      Kumud 

      2 months ago

      I was in a relationship with a guy for almost 2 months and we know each other for like 3 years but the reason we broke up was that he told me that whatever he felt for me was not love but nothing less than love and I am a lot more than his friend...he dated me because he wanted someone to share his feelings and his everything.....I don’t know what does that mean....what should I do now

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      AM ZIGGY S.I 

      2 months ago

      MY GIRL LOVE ME I LOVE HER A LOT BUT SHE IS AFRAID OF ME IN SETING THINGS WANT TO ASK IS THAT HOW EVERY GIRL IS? OR IS SHE A PRETENDER

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      rashida 

      2 months ago

      hi I have a guy we are dating but I don't know if he really loves me

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      Kaileigh 

      2 months ago

      I like this dude but I don’t know if he likes me what do I do?

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      Ndaly 

      2 months ago

      I, ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for quite sometime,,,,the problem with him is that he replies to my texts whenever he feels like,,,he doesn't pick my calls,,,,when he finds missed calls he doesn't call back,,,,we had an argument the other day and i went as far as abusing him,,,then it was yesterday when i apologised to him and he forgave me but he hasn,t change,,,,he still ignores my texts and doesn't pick my calls,,,,what should i do,,,i love him so much,,,,i Don,t want to loose him,,,,,

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      florence 

      2 months ago

      i believe am loveable but i ended up falling in love with a wrong guy and left heartbroken

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      Zainab 

      2 months ago

      How will I know if my bf tuly love me

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      faithjepleting47 

      2 months ago

      ihave a man who claimed to love me bt i realised he wasin relationship with another girl so i walked away.recenty he realised that the girl never loved him now he wants me back.what to i du

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      rach 

      3 months ago

      So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.

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      SUKKI 

      3 months ago

      How can I communicate more with my partner

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      Laura 

      3 months ago

      I like this guy and he likes me too, but i don"t know what to do to keep him, i easily loose guys and i don"t want to loose this one . i want to know how to make him fall madly in love with me

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      natasha 

      3 months ago

      hi I like a man I don't know anything of him a friend introduce us and he sometime calls if I say hi but then he gets quit must I still keep on greeting him

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      Nancy 

      3 months ago

      I've been with a guy for nine years now but we haven't gotten married...l love him soo much and he also do love me but he cheats a lot.i do everything to make him happy but he still cheats.what can I do to make him stop?

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      Aiyana 

      3 months ago

      I need help I am 10 years old and there's this guy named Josette and I like him and he kind of likes me so I need your help he rated me a 6 so I need yall's help get him to fully like me

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      kw 

      3 months ago

      hi I have a guy he is in my second period its the 3rd day of school and i just met him i find him attractive and cute i don't know what to say for him to like me he started up our first convo and tried to make me laughand he looks at me a lot what does that mean and what should i do

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      Aisha singhania 

      3 months ago

      I'm in love with a boy n his name is NIKHIL n u know what i dont have to do this now because he loves me too n he propose i'm very happy

      I LOVE U

      Nikhil

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      Zaza 

      3 months ago

      Hi, I like a guy who is dating some one else..he says he likes me to.Whenever we argue he always changes his WhatsApp profile picture and puts a picture of them together. He acts funny when I ask him to introduce me to his single friends. He keeps saying that this is only a friendship but asked me to meet his mum and wanted to take me on a vacation.

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      SD 

      3 months ago

      Hi i dont want to show up my name.

      I like a guy who also likes me. We have same interests.

      We dated on and off making up mind that we should not fall in love for each other.

      As the time passed we understood well. I felt he is perfect to me. He is caring loving crazy and spends most of the time with me.

      I fell in love for his kindness and loyalty and kid kind off behaviour.

      Eventually when I spoke to him about love relation ship and marriage he backed off saying he had already made up his mind not be in love with me. He says he is happy with me and he likes me.

      I am lost and confused whether to let him go or to keep in touch. I have done all sort of things to make him happy. PLEASE let me know what to do!

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      Maya 

      4 months ago

      I like this nurse male doctor, we both had eye contact for about 30 secs, and I don't know him well and I was realised from the hospital any help how to get over him because I know i won't see him again and idk if he has a girlfriend.

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      Faye Marie aldea 

      4 months ago

      Hi my question is how can I change him to nice to me because he is inclement to me and we don't have a closure?

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      Anonymous 

      4 months ago

      I like a guy a lot but he is not ready to be in a relationship what should i do?

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      Kira 

      4 months ago

      I have a boyfriend

      He loves me so much and even I do.But ,sometimes, I feel like I don't need him,I don't love hime and I don't wanna be with him anymore.sometimes, I feel like I really love him so much. Please tell me what should I do. In fact, I don't wanna lose him.What should I do to make my mind right all the time

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      jamya 

      4 months ago

      I Love you

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      If you’re sure he has a girlfriend, you probably should just wait ... and keep being friendly but not pushy.

      If you’re not sure though, you could ask him if the girl you see him with is his girlfriend. They might just be friends.

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      kawtar 

      4 months ago

      I like him and I think he likes me back but he has a girlfriend what can i do ? im lost :(

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      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      AA, I don’t think it is wise to publish your full name online so I have deleted your message. Now, about the stretch marks ... you won’t know how he’s going to react until he sees them. I can’t guess. But I think you should give him the chance to accept you as you are.

      Maybe he won’t react well which will be a crying shame. Or maybe he’ll be fine. Got to give him the chance though. Don’t you be the one to decide how he should feel!

      You’re in a relationship now. When the time feels right, tell him you’re embarrassed about your body so you don’t like to show it. Tell him you trust him to not make you feel worse than you already do. Then see what happens. Good luck!

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      Daniel Long 

      5 months ago from All Over

      If you're young, Tori, I think you're best to just keep being special friends as you are now. Wait and see what happens in the future. You don't want to make him feel awkward and under pressure. Besides, both you and him are going to change as you get older. I think you should wait and see if you still find him interesting and attractive when he's a bit older.

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      Daniel Long 

      5 months ago from All Over

      Madelin, he's not the guy for you. Leave him behind you and look forward to meeting someone really nice in the future who appreciates you and treats you properly. You might have to wait a while, but it will be worth the wait. The guy who is ignoring you is not the right guy. Don't stress about it, just move on.

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      Daniel Long 

      5 months ago from All Over

      Why are you supposed to be moving in with your crush, Miss 12? Are you a foster kid moving in with his family? You know you're going to have to wait for at least four years before making any kind of move on him, don't you? If you do anything stupid like sneaking into his room, you could both end up in a heap of trouble. He could be charged if he's intimate with you in any way before you're 16 ... and you'll be ruining your own chance at having happy teenage years. So please, either accept that nothing should be happening with him for a long time yet, or ask to be placed with a different family.

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      Daniel Long 

      5 months ago from All Over

      Amy, you're wasting your time obsessing about your cousin. Do some google searches and you'll soon discover there's no romantic future with family members including cousins for good reason. Genetic mutations and birth defects are a common result in children born between family members. In many countries it is illegal for cousins to marry.

      So I suggest you accept that's one relationship that is a really bad idea. Start meeting guys outside your family circle. That's where you should be looking for romance.

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      Daniel Long 

      5 months ago from All Over

      You're expecting a bit too much, I think, Rose. You're just starting to get to know each other. How can you expect him to be in love with you so soon? He probably doesn't even know yet. Give it more time and see how things how work out between you.

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      Daniel Long 

      5 months ago from All Over

      Suggest he text you or call you sometime, Nelisiwe. If he doesn't make the effort after you've suggested it, you'll know he's not sincere.

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      Tori 

      5 months ago

      I like this guy and we hangout a lot. We have common interest, love to talk to each, and we have the same group of friends. But I don't know if he likes me. How do I know if he likes me, as more than a friend?

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      Madelin 

      5 months ago

      So this boy likes me he's always staring at me but he's going out with someone quit like the year then they break up then I asked him to go out and he said later just because they had just broke up then he goes out with another girl so I'm confused on Like how to deal with this and it feels like he's just playing with my feelings and he starts ignoring me .

      Like when I'm in my regular clothes like he stares at me alot and and I kind of think he likes me but when I'm in my school uniform he doesn't pay any attention to me and he doesn't bother to talk to me or get to know me but then when I asked him out he was like I don't know yet but I feel like if you really did like me he would come and talk to me to know me so we can get to know each other he talks more to the other girls and he talks to me it's like having to get to know each other if we can talk and then I'm going as soon as I'm starting the conversation and it's like he doesn't real want to talk to me in the longest conversation we've ever had is it was about like five minutes and then it just got really crazy and his first girlfriend knew that I liked it and then I tried to be friends with his girlfriend to get closer to him but that didn't seem to work but I don't want to really be a man stealer I want him to want me and I don't want to be his third where I want to be his number one so now I'm like crossed up and I don't even know what to do anymore I just stop talking to him in trying to get closer to him and he just left me alone and I left him alone and it was like that's that but I still really like him then I don't know what to do.

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      ??12?? 

      5 months ago

      I'm supposed to move in with my crush what should I do and he knows I like him, but I don't want people to know and if he doesn't like me or if I tell him I like him and push it to far to soon or if he doesn't like me then it might be really akward. P.S I'm 12

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      Amy 

      5 months ago

      So there is this guy i love and he is my cousin he is usually very silent and doesnt talk too much....he only talks freely. with his bestie and who is also our cousin but i love him so much and how do i make him fall in love with me

      He is also very silent yet intelligent guy

      I REALLY wanna be with him

      I dunno how

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      Rose 

      5 months ago

      I met a guy few months ago and he always smile at me whenever we are together if I ask him for anything he gives me he calls all the time but I dont if he loves me or not

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      Nelisiwe 

      6 months ago

      I have a crush on this guy and he tells me that also but I dont get his calls nor texts from him but when he's with me he tells me that im sweet he loves me and im beautiful but no texts or calls from him when we are together you'd bet that we are dating please tell me what to do when he does this

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      Aslie 

      6 months ago

      Love it

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      Daniel Long 

      6 months ago from All Over

      Time to stop forgiving him, Blendina. Move on. You’ll never be happy with that guy. Find one who is loyal and true to you.

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      Blendina 

      6 months ago

      im in a relationship with my guy we use to be like friends do almost everything together. But when things have changed and he sleeps aroud n always forgive him but he won't change.

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      Daniel Long 

      6 months ago from All Over

      Looks to me like the guy values his job. Either he’s worried if things don’t work out it could become unpleasant at work, or maybe his employer has a ‘no dating coworkers’ policy as some places do. There’s probably not much you can do unless he changes his mind. So maybe just step back a little and see if he tries to approach you again.

      But remember, as important as a potential love interest is, being in love won’t pay the bills. So you have to respect the guy for his self control and keeping his eye on building his career. He wouldn’t be as attractive if he was a slacker not interested in working.

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      Jeshika Anne 

      6 months ago

      Okay I need some guy advice. I started a new job about 6 months and was immediately attracted to a guy that works there. We do not work for the same company, rather my company works for the company that he works for. I admired him from afar for about a month, simply exchanging hello's when we pass each other in the hallway, until I decided to dive in and let him know that I was interested in getting to know him. We became very flirty and would talk about little things here and there every time we would see each other, which is a lot since it's a small building.

      It never really went beyond flirting and he said that it's because we work together. He asked me out for drinks about a month ago, which is the first time we talked or hung out outside of work. We had a lovely time, talked about everything imaginable. We ended the night with a hug and he called to make sure I made it home okay.

      In the past few weeks, we're not as flirty as we used to be and we still do not talk outside of work. I have texted him a few times and he has replied but it never really turned into a conversation as I felt like I was becoming too pushy. He has said to me that he's "not in any rush" but he seems to be stalling. During the drinks, he seemed very interested, back at work he has become distant.

      So that leads me to ask, is it really just work and his feeling that there is no need to rush that things are moving at a snails pace or is he really just not interested and I cannot see it?

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Katherine, I don’t doubt he likes you. Clearly he does. But he’s crossed the line if he’s telling you not to be friends with people. I don’t think you should let him control you that way. If you let him boss you around, that will become his new ‘normal’ and you won’t enjoy it.

      Make clear from the very beginning that there has to be room in your life for other people. If faced with the choice of having ‘all or nothing’ in a relationship, I believe ‘nothing’ is the best and safest choice. There’s plenty of other guys out there who are happy to have a relationship without controlling their partner.

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Emma if you’ve broken up with a guy and you don’t trust him anymore, there’s no point revisiting the same problems and drama. Just tell him you’re over and it is time for both of you to walk away and move on.

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      Katherine 

      7 months ago

      I have a friend and his name is Carlos.

      I told him that he is my bestfriend and I will not keep secrets from him and he also told me that I should not keep secretservice from him and told me not to text and talk face to face with other guy.It looks like he is caring about me.

      But I also care about him.

      Whenever I made anything delicious food I really want to give it for her.

      I don't know whether I like this guy or not and one of my friend also have crush on him but he doesn't like this girl and he alsof told me notrim to friend with her.Whenever he sees me he tried to smile at me and of course I also smile back at him and sometimes he really feel so shyam that his face turned very red and he looks really cute.Everyday I text with him but not everyday whenever I have free time.

      Pliz Daniel tell me that what's is this all about .

      Did he really like me or not ?

      I am eagerlyrics waiting for your reply and beautiful advice.

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      emma 

      7 months ago

      my boyfriend broked up with me and now he wants me back but im afraid he will the same what can I do??????

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      Anonymous 

      7 months ago

      I like this guy, but idk if he likes me back. We talk almost all the time, but i know he also talks to other girl. I just want to know if he likes me

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      Olivia, if he’s not treating you like his one and only, I think you should forget about him. He’s not the guy you should be kissing. Sounds like he’ll just take you for granted. Better to walk away early if you know he’s not going to treat you well.

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      My advice, Sorde, would be to leave that relationship and find a guy who cares. You don’t want to be stuck forever with a guy like that one.

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      Olivia Shields 

      7 months ago

      so I like this guy I've kissed him once he said he liked me but he keep using me as a second choose what do I do

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      I think the easiest way to tell him you like him if you’re not sure he feels the same way is to just state it as a fact. Not a big dramatic moment. Just something like, ‘I like spending time with you. We should do this more often.’

      Then be ready to suggest somewhere you’d like to go or a movie you’d like to see. It makes it easier if you are ready with an idea, instead of the awkwardness of trying to figure out what you could do.

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      Zayree 

      7 months ago

      How do I get him to really like me cause we're just friends but I wanna tell him I like him without anything weird happening!! What do I do???

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      DIDAS 

      7 months ago

      Am so much into him so am just trying my best to get him by my side. am going through hill right now. love is a very strong thing. but thanks

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      Daniel Long 

      7 months ago from All Over

      I think you should just move on without making a fuss about it, Alisha. It sounds as though your relationship has run its course. You gave it a good try but there's been no progress so it is time to start being open to the idea of dating someone who is local.

      Perhaps in five or ten years time the two of you might cross paths and get on brilliantly, but for now it just sounds like you're allowing him to live his life doing whatever he's doing and you're being taken for granted.

      Being taken for granted is not something you should ever accept, so I believe you should make the decision to move on.

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      Alisha 

      7 months ago

      There’s this guy we met in summer school and had a thing but fell out , now he hit me up again and we’ve been talking for 1 year and 5 months but he hasn’t came to see me even once. Everytime I ask him he says he does like me he’s just been really busy with school and work and hasn’t the free time but makes promises to make the time soon, idk what to do if I should continue waiting or give up cuz it’s been so long, now it feels like we talk even less he replies once a day if I get lucky and I asked him if he’d just like me to leave I have no problem with it but he insists he’s just mad busy idk what to do plz help

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      You're welcome, Lilly, but I don't know if it is a good thing to have ten guys secretly loving you. That could make life rather complicated, but I guess you'll end up choosing one and seeing how things work out with him some time in the future.

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      Lilly 

      8 months ago

      You are so much cool and this had helped me a lot because I have more than ten people who loves me secretly so thank you very much for this and thank you so much for reading this letter because this is all for you guys of who had made this for other people

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      It sounds to me like you’ll have to be patient. If the guy’s not interested in dating, he’s not going to respond well to pressure. So just stay friendly. It might be a year or more before he feels mature enough to give it another try.

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      anonymous 

      8 months ago

      well i like this guy but some days hes saying stuff like i love you and being nice and playful and those days where he is just quiet. his friend who is a girl helps me to find more about him and he only has ever had 1 girlfriend and he hasn't dated anyone since they broke up which was last year. The girl who is talking to him for me (btw she is only mentioning me in conversations to see what he says she is not asking him out for me..thats weak.) she said that one of her other friends had a crush on him and he said he isn't into her and is not wanting to be in a relationship and this was a while ago not far. But its so hard to tell because she also said that when this guy talks to girls, but not like that she says that to the girl it feels like he likes her to but hes only being friendly. i'm losing hope and i have no idea if we can ever be a thing. i think he is only being friendly but thinking back of all the things he said to me i think he is kind of interested i guess.

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      If you are working together there should be lots of chances to talk and get to know each other a bit better. Of course there’s no guarantee that someone we have a crush on will feel the same way back, but we won’t know if we don’t try.

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      dunlizz 

      8 months ago

      We are working together in the same office

      And i love him i dont no how maybe the relationship will work out

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      Lizzie 

      8 months ago

      Nice approach thanks.

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      I'm not sure what's stopping you from approaching your crush, Jenner. Just start talking with him about something ... anything. That will make you more approachable.

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Jerry, I think you might be mixing up the concepts of 'love' and 'like', If you're at school and you talk to him occasionally and he's happy, he probably likes you. Not the same thing as loving you but I don't think you can be expecting love just yet..

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      Jerry 

      8 months ago

      I have a guy friend in school I think he love me because of after month or days I talk him he will be happy that time and day and I think I do love him and he also

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      Jess, I don’t understand what you’re trying to say to me. Maybe you’d like to take a little longer to explain. Are you asking me a question?

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      Daniel Long 

      8 months ago from All Over

      You’re both 18 so you’re not really into the ‘adult’ stage of relationships that comes after being burned a few times and having your hearts broken. To be honest, you might be on the brink of your first big disappointment. But that’s okay, we all go through being broken hearted and live to face another day ... and fall in love again. So here’s what I think.

      To save face, don’t tell him there was no boyfriend. Just say it didn’t work out. When he asks why, say something like ‘If you really want to know, it’s because he wasn’t you. For some crazy reason, I just miss you all the time.’

      You’re in different colleges so that complicates things. Long distance relationships are really hard to maintain.

      I’ll be really surprised if he declares he feels the same, but he might. And if he doesn’t, I think however the conversation goes will be really good for you. You need to know how he feels one way or the other so you can move forward. If there’s no hope with him, you’ll be ready to get involved with another guy. And, believe it or not, you’ll probably have a much more loving and passionate relationship with a guy who didn’t know you as a child and simply sees you as an amazing woman who has walked into his life.

      This longtime friend of yours may become a trusted confidant in the future when you both have different partners.

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      Psst 

      8 months ago

      Me and this guy have been friends since middle school.. we're 18 now. We were inseparable. Then I moved to another city and then I realized I really loved him. The only one I ever miss is him. In school we helped each other get over breakups school tests friendship issues everything. When I told him he said he loved me only as a friend or "sister".

      I was heartbroken. This was 2 years ago. We used to fight a lot but now it's sorted because I told him I have a boyfriend. But I actually don't. It's just to make him chase me... My plan was to not talk to him for a few months so that he misses me. But I keep finding myself texting back, answering his calls, etc... I love only him.

      He has a crush in his college that he obsesses over. He doesn't want me as a girlfriend but whenever he is in trouble or depressed he talks only to me... He apologized for his behavior but he didn't say he loves me...

      How long should I wait before I tell him the truth? If I tell him I don't have a boyfriend he will think of me as desperate and needy and also that I can't get one cuz I'm not attractive... It's just that I'm waiting for him, being loyal.. not that I can't get a bf...

      What should I do?

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Joy, you’re asking for trouble putting your contact details on a website for everyone to see. I deleted your posts and suggest you be more careful in the future. Please be aware of your personal safety.

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Hi Alura. Why don’t you just tell him if you’re both free in the future it could be fun to see if you’d work out as a couple, but there’s no point even thinking about that until he clears up what’s going on with his current partner. That will give him hope, if that’s what he needs.

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      Alura 

      9 months ago

      There's this guy I know that has admitted to liking me, but still lives with an on and off girlfriend that he's struggling to leave because supposedly she's as bad as my ex husband was. I'd like to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I will say that he hasn't tried to do anything with me other than admit his feelings.

      I refuse to admit my own feelings till I know he's completely done with her. My biggest fear is what to do once he is done, if that happens. I've been in plenty of relationships, but I wouldn't know how to be in one with him because he's the longest, closest, male friendship I've ever had and at the same time, and we're deeply attracted to each other.

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Mak, you could wait for a time when you’re both quiet but feeling good together, and ask him why it feels so comfortable. So right. Ask him if he thinks there’s a problem if you both actually discover you really enjoy each other. You might discover he already feels the same way.

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      MakJones 

      9 months ago

      Hi. I have a huge crush on this guy I've been sleeping with for the past week. He's a mutual friend and we've planned to hang out before, but just recently did so. He's everything I need and I had no idea he would be in my heart so fast. Problem is, he and I both share the 'I'm single' lifestyle, not necessarily looking for a relationship but not really erasing the idea either. We've expressed that we like each other, and we act like a couple does occasionally, but I can't understand the vibe he gives out. He makes me feel special, calls me beautiful and will even tickle me just so he can see my genuine smile. I want a relationship with him more than anything. I mean he's 24, I'm 23. We both own your own property. We both are unable to have children and are okay with that. We're both cancers and like anime. We have the same hobbies and same concepts while still maintaining individuality. I think we'd be perfect, and I've never been more willing to work on forming the best relationship for us. I was wanting to know, how would I likely be able to make a guy think of me as much as I think of him? How do I show him my feelings without coming off as clingy, desperate, or just lonely? Please help at your latest convenience.

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