Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.
How to Get a Guy to Love You
Want to make a man fall in love with you forever? You might be asking this question because you like a guy very much and you are looking forward to him feeling the same for you.
He's the man of your dreams, and you adore him. You want him by your side right now but unfortunately, you still don’t have him. You're willing to do whatever it takes for him to chase you, like you, get attracted to you and fall madly in love with you but it seems like a huge undertaking.
In this article, you will get to learn some of the basic and not so basic things that girls can do in order to attract a man to their side and make him fall in love with them.
1. Don't Lose Hope
Don’t lose hope. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to be hopeful at all times. Losing hope can be a disease not only in trying to win the heart of a man, but also in all things that we do in our day-to-day life.
Hope for the best, but don't lose sight of reality. When pursuing a man and wanting him to fall in love with you, there are definitely two likely outcomes, which are:
- He also falls in love with you
- He might reject your advances
When pursuing the love of a man, it’s important to be hopeful and stay positive. (We all appear more attractive and appealing when we give off good, positive vibes.) But don't hang all your hopes on getting the result you dream about. He has feelings just like you do, and none of us really have control over our hearts!
He might be interested in you as much as you are interested in him. Be motivated by that hope, and take steps to find out. You won't know until you make an effort to catch him. However, you should also prepare for any eventuality and outcome. If this man's not the one for you, there will be another man on your horizon. So don't lose hope!
2. Be Yourself
Be yourself when trying to make a man fall in love with you. It is important to be yourself and not someone else when it comes to personality and character. If you are pretending to be different to your true self when trying to make a guy like you, you are not doing yourself any favors.
By trying not to be yourself, you are clearly indicating or suggesting that you are not comfortable with yourself. Many guys will easily notice this shortcoming in you and quickly become disinterested.
You might be able to keep the façade up for a few weeks, months, or even years. But sooner or later you'll grow tired of hiding your true personality, and he'll get tired of trying to figure out who you really are, what you really like, and when you are actually being sincere.
- If you have a high-powered job, don't play the dumb blonde.
- If you hate high heels, don't wear stilettos.
- Your dog hogs the front seat of your car, and sleeps in your bed? The two of you had better talk about that.
- You have children? That's definitely worth mentioning up front.
The best relationship is a long relationship. When a man falls madly in love with you, you want that love to last, So be yourself right from the start.
3. Be Aware of Your Appearance
Don’t let your appearance let you down. Your appearance can make you win or lose when it comes to dating. To please a man and make him get interested in you, you should be presentable. Be aware of what you are wearing, whether or not your hair is clean, and if you are dressed appropriately.
Of course, you want to look sexy for the man you want to fall in love with you, but sex appeal doesn't necessarily mean body-hugging clothing and lots of cleavage. Jeans and a t-shirt with wind-blown hair can be just as sexy as a manicured look in a formal outfit, in the right circumstances.
Choose your clothing and your style to match the occasion. But be aware of how you look. Do your best to look as good as you can, no matter where you are going. You never know when you might unexpectedly bump into the man of your dreams.
So, before you race out the door to buy the missing ingredient for your quiet dinner at home on your lonesome, change that grubby shirt!
4. Listen, Don't Just Talk!
When you want to please and make a man fall for you, it is important that you listen. Don't just talk. If you chatter incessantly when you are nervous, find some other way to cope with your nerves.
Many girls make the mistake of talking more than they listen when they are around a potential male partner. Girls aren't the only ones, of course. Many men do the same thing. But this is a big mistake that can easily cost you getting the man of your dreams.
Even a man who is generally not talkative will definitely have something to say. Everyone likes to be 'heard.' If you keep talking and talking all the time without giving him the chance to express himself, he's likely to be disappointed. Making it hard for him to get a word in could lower your chances of him falling in love with you.
5. Show Confidence
Confidence is key. Sure, some women seem to make a career out of catching men by playing the victim, or the helpless female. But have you ever noticed how those seemingly helpless souls who catch men by being so 'needy,' actually set their trap with confidence and precision?
Without confidence, you risk being left behind. If you want a guy to like you, you need to have a sense of confidence in yourself that will ultimately make you approach him without fearing or sensing any danger.
Liking yourself makes it easy for him to like you too. You're a good person with very special qualities. Be confident that you are worthy of being loved!
More Tips to Make Him Fall in Love With You
- Smile and laugh. When you are working on ways to make a guy fall in love with you, it is essential to smile and laugh. Don’t present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you feel comfortable being.
Guys generally like girls with a sense of humor who can make them feel good. Tell him enjoyable stories, and don't be afraid to laugh. Remember not to go overboard and look like a comedian. It is great to have a partner who is enjoyable and outgoing, but very few people like the idea of living with a comedian.
- You have to give, and not just take, to increase your chances of him falling in love with you. A man can easily differentiate between a girl who wants something from him and one who cares for him.
There are certainly girls who are after money (gold diggers). Differentiate yourself from the typical gold digger and let him see you are interested in him for his love and not his money or any other material thing
- Let him also put some extra effort in. If you keep chasing after a man for months while he is going on with his activities, you'll most likely be seen as a desperate woman. Being available to him always is not really a good thing. Don’t let him get bored.
Instead, allow him to make advances towards you. Many men enjoy the thrill of the 'chase.' Catch his eye and his attention, and then let him work a little to win you over. Let him notice how much he misses you when you are not around. As soon as he suspects he's falling in love with you, he will definitely do something to get you.
- Get to know (and understand) what he does. This is something that could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Ask him whether he needs any help to accomplish a task. If he discovers that you are keenly interested in his plans, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.
- Have patience and don’t push him too hard to make important decisions. Patience will definitely pay off. Be patient and go slow when trying to make a man fall in love with you. Don’t expect him to fall in love or say yes to your advances instantly.
Many men will definitely need time to decide whether he is ready to enter into a relationship with you or not. If he likes you, he will make it obvious. But don’t ever push him to make a quick decision on whether he likes you or not.
- Be different from other women. If many women are competing for his attention and are trying very hard to make him fall in love with them, differentiation will definitely give you the cutting edge. Give or show him tangible or intangible evidence to suggest that you are the best option for him.
- Don’t be too possessive before he commits his love to you. Many women make the mistake of being too possessive of a man before he even admits his love to them. When this is the case, she may try to protect him from other women so that she remains the only woman in his life.
This is a strategy that is doomed to fail. Allow him to decide on what is best for him. If you are the one for him, he will definitely fall in love with you.
- Have good morals. Good morals are a necessity in convincing a man to love you. Nobody wants to get involved with someone who can't be trusted. Men like women who are disciplined and are not pushovers. Behave maturely towards him and be respectful of him, just as you expect him to be respectful towards you.
If you can be true to yourself and demonstrate all these types of qualities, your perfect match will definitely fall in love with you!
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Questions & Answers
Question: What should I do if the man I'm interested in ignores my messages, myself and everything about me?
Answer: If he is completely ignoring you, it looks like he’s just not interested. So don’t bother messaging him or chasing him anymore. The world is filled with nice guys, but you won’t notice any of them if you stay obsessed with that guy.
I suggest you forget about him and keep an open mind about meeting Mr. Right. There might already be some other guy who’d like to get to know you, but you’re not seeing him.
Question: He told me that he loves me. I love him too, but he doesn’t have time for me. He’s always with his friends. Do you think he loves me?
Answer: I don’t know if you’re both just kids or if you’re older. If you’re young, maybe he does really like you but doesn’t feel confident enough to walk away from his friends to spend time with a girl.
If you’re both older, there’s no real excuse for him to ignore you and just spend all his time with his friends. He’s selfish and not the kind of guy you want to commit to because I can’t imagine he’s ever going to change for you.
Either way, young or old, it doesn’t sound like he truly ‘loves’ you. So you have to decide whether or not you want to dump him and look for someone new. If you stick with him, expect to keep being disappointed.
Question: What if his baby’s mama is staying with him, but he’s not married to her, and we are in love with each other?
Answer: What if you were the mother of his baby and living with him, and he was telling another girl he loves her? That’s exactly what is likely to happen to you in the future.
For all you know, he may still be sleeping with her and she might believe they are actually a couple planning a future together with their child.
I suspect you are headed for heartbreak. If I was you, I’d step back and encourage him to work out what’s happening with his current relationship instead of trying to start a new relationship with you.
Question: I’m a guy and I’m very in love with a man. What should I do?
Answer: The first thing, I guess, is figure out whether or not he’s gay. If he isn’t gay he might not respond well to your advances. In which case, the fantasy is never likely to become a reality.
If he is gay, I think this is a conversation you should be having with someone who has the experience to share. Sorry, that’s not me.
Question: We are in a relationship but he is too shy to talk with me. We don't behave like other couples. What to do to make our relationship work?
Answer: You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.
I'm sure you see a lot of good qualities in the guy, but if you're envious of other couples, I think you need to find a new partner who allows you to be yourself and have all the noisy interactions and long conversations you crave. A successful relationship requires partners who are well suited to each other.
Question: Is it okay for me to call or text him even if he hasn't yet?
Answer: There’s no reason in this day and age that stops a girl from making the first contact.
Question: My husband recently fell in love with some other woman and he told me that I am a great friend, almost like a guardian to him. He loves my company but does not feel romantic towards me. What should I do to make him feel that for me?
Answer: If your husband has told you he's in love with another woman and spoken gently about loving your company but not feeling romantic towards you, it sounds like he genuinely respects you and cares for you. Many women are treated badly during a marriage breakdown. I believe you both deserve credit for having a respectful relationship. Obviously, there's a great history of caring between you both.
What can you do to make your husband feel romantic towards you, and fall back in love with you? I think that's a question you can answer much better than I can. You should remember the best times you had together. What made those times special? How were you both different to today? Can you recreate or revisit the way you used to be?
I suggest you talk with your husband, remind him of how wonderful things were between the two of you, and ask him if there's any chance you might be able to regain the spark. You loved each other enough to marry. You were passionate about each other. Tell him you don't want to just walk away from years of a beautiful relationship without making whatever effort is required to revive your love affair. Ask him if he'll please try with you.
You might be pleasantly surprised. Perhaps your husband misses the intimacy and romance you once shared and the other woman simply fills a role that's slipped from your lives. If the other woman has not yet won his heart, a passionate kiss might put you both back on track.
But you have to accept his heart might have moved on, sadly.
If he's genuinely fallen in love with her (instead of just falling into her arms or her bed), you're entering a new stage in your life. I hope you manage to protect the respectful relationship you appear to have if he becomes your ex. And I trust there will be another man who falls in love with you in the future, once you've had time to heal your broken heart.
But for now, I think it is worth having a real heart-to-heart with your husband about reigniting the intimacy and loving, if you're both willing to go there again and see if you can make it work.
Question: It seems like I'm in a relationship, but I'm not. We do everything a couple does, but he says he doesn't want a girlfriend. He treats me like one though. What should I do?
Answer: It sounds to me like he’s taking you for granted. Tell him you want a boyfriend, and if that’s not going to be him, you’ll have to look for someone else.
If he doesn’t want to step up, look for a guy who absolutely adores you. He’s out there somewhere and will make you feel so much more special.
Question: A girl loves a guy, but she doesn’t know whether the boy loves her or not. The boy is also acting like he loves her. But there is a problem. Many people told the girl that the guy has a girlfriend. Now they are not talking to each other because they had a fight and the boy is not talking to the girl. So what can she do now to make him talk back? The boy said that he has no girlfriend. Is the boy honest or dishonest?
Answer: If lots of people are telling you the guy has a girlfriend, he probably has. Especially if he’s not talking with you after your fight. I don’t know the guy so I might be judging him wrong, but I’m guessing he knows he’s been caught.
For me the big issue would be the problem of him not talking. If he won’t communicate with you after your first fight and try to work things out, he doesn’t sound like a very good partner. I can’t imagine things getting any easier in the future so I don’t think you should bother with him.
Question: Why does this guy always want to be around me, hold me, always watch me and always want me to smile?
Answer: Why does he act like someone who likes you? I’m guessing ‘because he does’.
But if you’re not into him and think he’s a bit too keen and somewhat obsessed, you shouldn’t encourage him. Ask your friends and family to help come up with ways to put more distance between you and him.
Question: What should I do if the man I like is heart broken and can't get over the harmful memories of his ex? Meanwhile, he likes me and does not want me to go, but he keeps telling me he needs to get over the pain first.
Answer: I can't see any reason why a new girlfriend should have to listen to her man cry and complain about his ex. There's absolutely nothing romantic about him sharing his pain from his broken heart. That's a process he needs to go through alone, or with friends who don't have an emotional involvement.
I suggest you tell him you're sorry he's hurting, and that you hope he'll get in touch somectime in the future when he feels he has healed. 'If the time is right for both of us, maybe then we can see how things work out.' Then I think you should walk away and be open to getting to know other guys.
By the time he feels he has healed, you might have another boyfriend and no longer be interested in this guy. Or perhaps you'll be happy to go out with him. But it would be best with a fresh start. You don't want a guy who gets in the habit of crying on your shoulder about another girl. No, that's not a good place to start. Are you always supposed to feel sorry for him, and worry that you might be doing something that reminds him of his ex?
Leave the guy to get over his pain. You don't have to live through his grieving process.
Question: What makes a younger man like an older woman?
Answer: I suspect it has a lot to do with confidence and experience. An older woman has had time to discover what she likes and doesn’t like, and what she wants in a man. She’s generally more forthright than younger women, which saves time and can be a turn-on for some guys.
Question: What if he wants and likes me, but is not in love?
Answer: I’m sure there’s lots of people in long relationships with partners they don’t love, but that doesn’t sound at all attractive. Why settle for a partner who doesn’t love you?
Question: I have a crush on a guy. We are always talking to each other. He says he really loves me, but he says he doesn't like marriage. What do I do to make him marry me?
Answer: When I have a crush on someone, it means I'm interested in them and want to get to know them better. When I love someone, it means I care about them and want them to be happy. I feel protective towards them and genuinely care. When I'm really 'in love' with someone, it becomes even more intense, and I can't stand the thought of living without them.
I had lots of crushes, quite a few people I loved, some I've been in love with ... but only one I ever wanted to marry. So I did. And we are very, very happy together in our marriage.
So in answer to your question, if you only have a crush on the guy, I don't believe you should want to marry him. You haven't said you love him and you haven't said you're in love with him so why would you want to marry the guy? And yes, I believe he could really love you without wanting to marry you.
I suggest you either keep enjoying the guy's company and wait and see if you fall in love with each other and someday discover you're both so in love you want to marry, or find another guy.
Question: I always see this man staring or glancing at me from a distance. He is always there around me and even my groups when we are chatting. My friends also noticed it. But the thing is, he doesn't seem that friendly or interested when we two talked in person. Why is this?
Answer: I’d be a bit concerned about a man who is always around but doesn’t want to be noticed or involved in conversations.
I suggest you and your friends take a few photos of him then ask around to see if anyone knows who he is and anything about him. He might turn out to be a guy you want to avoid actively.
Question: I like him. He likes me. What does that mean?
Answer: It means you like each other, but where that leads depends a lot on your age/s and marital status.
Two people liking each other is generally great news. Although sometimes it just means a whole heap of potential trouble. In which case, avoid the drama and walk away.
Question: What should I do if the man I'm in love with gives mixed signals?
Answer: Ask him questions. Direct questions like "Why did you do that?" and "What does that mean?" You say you're in love with him so I guess you must already be in a relationship with him. In which case, it is only fair that you expect honest answers to figure out what's going on.
But if you simply have a crush on the guy (with the hope he might fall in love with you), the mixed messages suggest to me that he's not as interested as you'd like. Don't waste time thinking you're 'in love' with a guy if you're just thinking he's incredibly hot and you're dreaming about what might be.
I believe true love has a solid foundation based on mutual respect and caring. If he's sending mixed signals, I do not see evidence of the respect and caring elements. So I think you should probably leave that guy behind you and be ready for when you meet another guy who values you more.
You really should be asking the guy himself the questions, if you're close enough to have honest heart-to-heart talks.
Question: When we first dated he was madly in love with me but we broke up and then we got back together again, but now it seems like he doesn’t love me the way he did before and doesn't care about me. Why?
Answer: I think it is definitely possible to break up and then have a strong and committed relationship when the couple gets back together. But it only works if both partners feel heartbroken when they’re apart and genuinely feel as though they belong together.
If one of them just feels it is ‘easier’ than being single or gets back together out of ‘habit’, the relationship seems destined to fail.
Sometimes it is an issue of losing trust or respect (depending on the circumstances of the break up). Or perhaps the second time around just doesn’t feel as good or as fun as the first.
Sounds to me like you should bravely walk away and accept it isn’t working. No point staying in a relationship that’s only going to make you unhappy.
Question: I am in love with a guy, but he says he doesn’t know what love is, and he doesn’t think he will say it until he’s ready to fully commit to someone for the rest of his life. What do I do? How do I help him understand what love is?
Answer: From the small amount you've written here, I can tell your definition of 'love' is very different from his. I respect the guy for not saying 'I love you' until he's ready to fully commit to someone for the rest of his life. And I fully understand what he means when he says he doesn't know what love is.
In my youth, I can remember thinking I was in love, until years later when I really fell in love, and suddenly my previous relationships were exposed as pretty lame compared to the real thing. Yep, I think the guy you say you're in love with is pretty smart. When he's ready to commit to someone for the rest of his life, he'll be in love.
Forget about trying to 'help him understand what love is.' He already knows. He might not have experienced the feeling yet, but he knows what he's waiting for. More power to him.
If you want a boyfriend who tells you he loves you before he really knows you or feels confident you're really 'the one', I think you'd better look for another guy.
But if you really are in love with this guy, I think you're going to have to accept you can be boyfriend and girlfriend with lots of the trimmings and advantages of being in a relationship, without declaring undying love and planning a marriage. Yes, maybe he'll fall in love with you in time. But he's obviously a guy who won't be pushed. So you either stay with him and see if love grows between you, or you don't.
Question: I cheated on my boyfriend. I told him the truth, and that I'm sorry and asked him to forgive me. He forgave me, but he still doesn’t trust me. I love him, and I don't want to lose him. I want him to trust me again. He thinks I'm talking with another guy, but I will never cheat on him again because I love him so much. What should I do? How can I prove to him that he's wrong and that I really love him?
Answer: If you cheated on your boyfriend and he said he forgives you, it sounds like he must love you. But I understand why he doesn’t trust you. He didn’t think you’d cheat on him before, so how can he be certain it won’t happen again?
Trust is the foundation of any good relationship. We need to be able to trust our partner with our money, our secrets, and lots of other things including our love, our hearts.
You can’t blame the guy for feeling burned. And while I appreciate the difficult position you now find yourself in and I know you genuinely want to prove to him you’ve changed, I’m not sure you can ever heal that kind of hurt. Poor guy, poor you.
I think you have to prepare yourself for the inevitable end of this relationship. You love him, but I doubt either of you could be happy together forever with such a big mistake behind you. That kind of fear in his heart is not likely to go away. And you’re going to get pretty sick of it if you’re still trying to convince him you can be trusted in five or ten years time.
Think about that. You’ll know you’ve changed, but he’ll probably still be frightened it might happen again. I suggest that you seriously consider learning from this experience and moving on. Never make the same mistake in future relationships.
You’ve loved this guy and you’ll love again. I have no doubt you’ll both shed a lot of tears and feel heartbroken for a while, but in the long term, I’m sure you’ll both be happier if you start fresh with new partners who you can trust and who trust you.
If you cheated on him, obviously something wasn’t right between you two. I think you’ll discover that when you find Mr. Right that you simply will never even consider cheating on him. True love is worth protecting. Once you find it, you won’t risk losing it.
Question: What should I do if my partner ignores me?
Answer: Get dressed up, smile, and try engaging him in an evening of fun, dinner, etc. If he’s still ignoring you, talk with him and tell him how you feel.
If there’s still no improvement, I think you should consider dumping him and finding a new, more attentive partner.
Question: I like a boy but he doesn’t like me, and another boy likes me but I don’t like him. What should I do?
Answer: I think you should sit back and wait for the perfect guy to show up. We’ve all been in the same position you’re in now at some time in our lives.
Maybe the guy you like will feel the same way about you in the future. Maybe the guy you currently don’t like will do something endearing that makes you warm to him. Or maybe a completely different guy will show up in your life and be a perfect match for you.
I think you should just be patient. Now isn’t the right time for you, but times change, and your turn is coming.
Question: My friend likes this guy. I also like him, but she doesn't know. This guy shows no interest in her, but he likes to look at me. Every time I look at him, he is looking at me. What does this mean for my friend and me?
Answer: I don’t know how old you are, but I’m guessing you’re at school. And I’m guessing you and your friend are generally together. Which means every time you look at him and he’s looking in your direction, he’s probably looking in her direction too. So if she was to turn and look at him, she could think the same thing.
I think you should ask yourself if you’re willing to risk your friendship at this stage in your life. School romances rarely last long. If you’re sure he has no interest in her, there’s no danger of them getting together and leaving you behind.
I hope you have other friends who will stand by you if you really like the guy and you’re willing to risk upsetting your friend.
Question: My boyfriend and I chat a lot by phone, but he doesn't want to spend time with me, and I'm always complaining about it. What should I do?
Answer: If you want to spend time with your boyfriend but he's not in a position to give you the time you need (or simply doesn't want to), that's a problem.
But to me, the even bigger problem is that you are getting in the habit of 'always complaining' to your boyfriend. If you're not getting what you think you need from a relationship, I suggest you walk away and find a new boyfriend.
Just make sure you don't continue that habit of complaining to every guy you ever date. We all like to enjoy talking and spending time with our partners, and one who complains all the time is not much fun to be around.
Question: I have a friend who is ten and she likes a boy. What should she do?
Answer: I think your friend should wait until she’s a lot older than ten before worrying about boys and dating and all the complications that come with it.
She should be friends with him while waiting to see what kind of teenager he grows into. (and waiting for herself to grow into a more mature version of her as well.)
Question: He is my classmate, but one girl always talks to him and likes him and I also like him, but we don't talk and we just see each other. How can I start our friendship and then move to a relationship and fall in love madly?
Answer: Let's think about this for a minute. The other girl who likes your classmate always talks to him, but you don't. So he's getting to know her and feels comfortable around her while you're just watching them from a distance. If you want to start a friendship with him, you have to start talking with him.
Will a relationship develop and will you both fall madly in love? That's impossible to predict. But one thing is certain. You have no chance of a future together if you don't make an effort to get some conversations started.
Question: I am married to a dead relationship. I have met the most amazing man but he wont commit because I'm married. What do I do?
Answer: You say he is amazing and he won’t commit because you’re married. You also say your relationship with your husband is “dead”. So it seems pretty clear that your best move would be to formally end your marriage and make room for the man you’re in love with to enter your life.
Divorce can be unpleasant and uncomfortable, but nowhere near as unpleasant as staying in a loveless marriage and losing the one who makes you happy and is ready to commit to you if you’re free.
Please treat your current husband with kindness and respect. You obviously cared for each other a great deal when you married. Don’t lose sight of that in your excitement to move on. Your husband deserves to be treated with respect.
Question: I was dating this guy, but them someone dared him to say he loves his ex (it's possible he still likes her). He tells me it was just a dare but after I broke up with him, he began to date his ex (the one who he said he loved). Does he really want to be with me still?
Answer: Sadly, I think the answer to that is pretty obvious. If he really wanted to be with you, he would be. Or at least he wouldn't be getting involved with his ex again with all the complications.
But most importantly, I don't think it makes any sense for you to even consider getting back with the guy. He's currently dating his ex after telling her he loves her while he was going out with you. Who cares if it was a dare? It was disrespectful to you. And he's back with her either way.
So I think you should file your experience with him in your 'life lessons' archive, and look for someone new.
Question: Why is he so awkward around me though he is a super active, friendly, party guy with everyone else? I see him staring at me a lot, but is it possible he dislikes me instead of being interested in me?
Answer: There’s only one thing to do if you want to find out, and that’s to start conversations with him. If he makes an effort to continue the conversation, he likes you. If he cuts you off and looks for an escape route, he doesn’t.
Either way, you’ll have your answer. And that will be better than not knowing.
Question: I like this guy and I think he likes me back. The only problem is we both are shy when it comes to these things. What should I do?
Answer: I think you should be brave together and talk, or be kind of silent together and don't talk much. But either way, you should make the effort to try to get together. It sounds like you're going to understand him and he's going to understand you much better than others might. The secret to success will be breaking the ice and allowing each other to be themselves without fear.
Here's a link to an article I wrote that might help you. https://pairedlife.com/etiquette/MyShyness
Question: Should I ask a guy out or wait for him to do it?
Answer: There's no reason why a girl can't ask a guy out. I'll give you the same advice I'd give to a guy, and that is to make it a smooth and easy part of a conversation. Don't make a big deal out of it because if you do, it can become awkward. Instead of asking 'Do you want to go out with me?' and forcing him to give a yes or no answer, make it easier for both of you.
Tell him you're planning to go somewhere or see some movie or you're trying to find someone to go ten-pin bowling with you ... and ask him if he'd like to come along. That's a much less difficult way for you to ask him out and give him the chance to say yes without feeling like it is an official 'date' (or say no without hurting your feelings too badly.)
After one or more of these casual get-togethers you'll know how you feel about each other. And after you've suggested the first one, he might suggest the next one.
Question: If a fat girl likes a handsome boy, what should she do?
Answer: She should simply be herself without being self-conscious or stressed. I'm not convinced that a person's body shape makes much difference if they have the right kind of personality. There's all kinds of different reasons why people carry extra weight. Maybe the girl might feel inspired to try and lose a little weight by changing her lifestyle choices, because that's probably going to help her feel more confident. Of course, if she doesn't have the kind of personality that clicks with the guy she likes, it probably won't make much difference to him ... but it always feels better to feel healthy so I think she should consider doing it anyway.
I also think she should not be put off by how handsome she thinks the boy is. He might not consider himself handsome at all. He might just consider himself to be Mr Average. If he does think he's really hot and loves himself, he's probably not much fun to be around anyway. In which case, she should concentrate on getting fit and energetic and ready for the next nice guy who comes along some time in the future.
Question: He told me he loved me. Then he said he wanted to be friends only. Then we stopped talking because of our finals. Now he says he's bored of me, so we talk much less.
I really like him and want him to give me attention like he used to. What should I do?
Answer: Here’s my honest answer. You might not like it, but I respect you enough to share what I believe is the best advice.
You and your guy have grown apart. It would be awkward and probably kind of humiliating trying to force him or trick him or guilt him into giving you attention like he used to. He no longer feels the way he did, so it is not going to work.
What should you do? Accept you’ve grown apart, and treasure what you once had. You’re very lucky! You know how it feels to be loved! So don’t ruin that precious memory for either of you.
Set your heart on being loved again. Not today or tomorrow probably, but sometime soon. Once you let go of the past, you’ll be ready for a bright, new future with an amazing new guy.
And who knows, perhaps in a few years when you and your guy have left study and exams behind you and created new, interesting lives, you might cross paths and fall in love all over again. Probably not very likely, but it will never happen if you don’t let him go without drama right now.
Question: What should I do to make my ex -girlfriend fall in love with me all over again?
Answer: I have a few suggestions if you want to win your ex-girlfriend back. It is up to you to choose which are most relevant.
- Be romantic. Show her you love her.
- Be different. Prove to her you've changed your attitude towards her and won't take her for granted.
- Be faithful. Don't chase other girls or ignore her. She needs to know you value her presence in your life.
- Apologize. Something went wrong the last time, and you need to identify what that was and demonstrate you won't make the same mistakes.
- Be prepared to give her space and to move on if she's still not interested after you've tried your best to win her back.
Just because you want to renew your relationship doesn't mean she does. Sometimes you can win a girl back, but sometimes you have to accept a relationship is over. People grow apart, trust gets lost, and it might never be the way it was. But the earth keeps turning and broken hearts heal so don't get depressed if it doesn't come together the way you're hoping. Try your best and see what happens.
Question: Why is it that when we were friends, we were close but when he proposed and I accepted we are now distant from each other?
Answer: I’ve seen this happen and it always disappoints me. I’ve had arguments with some of my friends about this very thing. Here’s what I think has happened ...
When you were his friend or his girlfriend it was easy to tell his guy friends he was going to meet you and spend time with you. Now that you’re engaged and soon to be his wife, I suspect it is that whole ‘ball and chain’ rubbish some guys rave on about. Suddenly his friends might be encouraging him to not race to see you ... and may be talking about him being ‘under your thumb’. So he starts becoming distant.
For other guys, once they are engaged or married they start taking the girl for granted. They just don’t try to make her happy any more because they’ve ‘won’ her already.
Either way, if that’s what’s happening to you I believe you should see it as a warning sign of what to expect in the future. Tell him you agreed to marry a man who treated you well and he doesn’t seem to be that man any more. If he can’t be the man you fell in love with, why would you marry him?
I’m sure you’re looking forward to a magical wedding day and you’ve probably told all your friends and family you’re getting married, but it would be easier to end the relationship now than after you’re married.
If you raise the issue with him, he might see what a big mistake he’s making and change his attitude, returning to how things were. But if you’re not convinced, and fear your future together will be like this, I think you should seriously consider walking away.
When you marry, you want to truly believe you can be ‘happy ever after’. Sadly, it doesn’t sound like that with this guy.
Question: What should I do if he asked me on a date?
Answer: If he asks you on a date, you should be prepared with your answer. Yes or no? Don't say 'yes' just because he asks you. Lots of guys aren't worth going out with, so don't be one of those girls who can't say no. It is easier to not go on the first date than to start going out with someone you don't really like and then have to get yourself out of future date invitations.
Before deciding whether or not to date a guy, ask yourself a few questions:
- Do you like him?
- Do you trust him?
- Will he treat you with respect?
- Is he going to accept it if you don't want another date, without becoming some kind of creepy stalker?
- Are you mature enough to start dating?
You need to have the confidence to say 'no' if he tries to take you somewhere you don't want to go, wants you to use drugs or alcohol, or tries to put the hard word on you to get intimate with him.
If you're not ready to enjoy a date with a guy without fear he might try to pressure you into something you're not ready for, just say no. But if you really like him and you're old enough and mature enough to look after yourself, then say yes and go out and enjoy yourself.
Question: I like this guy, and he flirts with me quite a bit. My friends told me that they think he likes me. He also flirts with another girl. What do I do?
Answer: Keep things in perspective. He has an interest in you, so if you like him, you could talk to him and get to know him better. If you're old enough to be dating, give him a chance to ask you out, or you could suggest you both go to a movie or a new coffee shop or whatever.
But if you're still young, like in your early teens, I suggest you step back and not chase a date. Just talk with him, laugh with him, become comfortable around each other. There's plenty of years ahead of you for the whole dating game.
Question: I am in a relationship with a famous person, and all girls are doing their best to have him. What should I do so I won’t lose him to another girl? What should I do so we can end up married?
Answer: It must be tough being in a relationship with a famous guy if all the girls are chasing him. I'm not famous, and I won't pretend I have any idea where your guy's head is at. But here's what I suggest you do.
I think you should talk to your guy and tell him how you feel. Ask him what he wants from you, and encourage him to be honest with you so you can both figure out if you're likely to have a future together.
I know lots of famous guys have long-lasting relationships with girlfriends who become wives. But at least as many (probably more) end up ditching their partners to take advantage of all the women chasing them.
Perhaps your boyfriend wants you to be by his side all the time (or nearly all the time). In which case, are you prepared to do that?
Or maybe he wants you to stay home and raise children while he travels. You'd have to ask yourself if you'd be happy doing that.
I think in your position, the big challenge will be trust. Maybe you trust him, but don't trust the women throwing themselves at him. You need to decide whether or not you have enough confidence in your guy to remain loyal to you.
If you don't, perhaps you should consider wishing him well and walking away. But if you're confident the two of you can work it out, then give it a go. I do think one thing you should ask him is to promise he will phone you and tell you if ever he meets another woman he wants to sleep with. So you both know your relationship is over before he comes home and lies to you.
Question: I have a man who lives with his child’s mother but he is planning to get engaged to me and marry. He is planning to move in with me. His child’s mother is always cursing him. What must I do?
Answer: You must give serious thought to whether you could be really happy with this man. If you are just caught up in the moment without there being genuine love, I’d be inclined to walk away.
He has a child and you must be prepared to make room for that child in his life, and yours. The child has a mother, and you can’t change that. So you’ll be entering a complicated relationship.
Some people are willing to accept the complications, but some aren’t. Make your decision now. If you think you’ll spend your life regretting it and fighting with your man about his ex and his child, don’t let him move in and don’t even consider marrying him. There’s plenty of other men in the world.
I think you’d have to really love him to get involved. And you must accept it is not fair to have a ‘competition’ with his child for attention. Kids need their fathers and both you and your man should remember that.
Question: He loves me and I also love him, but I don't want to be in a relationship yet. What can I do?
Answer: Tell him what you’re thinking, just like you told me. But be prepared to explain to him your reasons for not wanting to be in a relationship.
And give him some kind of timeline or event when you think you might be ready. For instance, a birthday or finishing school or whatever.
Question: He loves me and next year wants to get married. He has a son with his old girlfriend. I’m scared because he always tells me he has to take care of the son because of his mistake and the son is not well. What should I do?
Answer: You should sit down and think through the issues very carefully. I think your boyfriend sounds like a loving and honorable man who has a genuine commitment to doing the right thing by his son. I believe it is great that he faces up to his responsibilities. I guess that he'd be equally committed to you and any children you may have in the future. That's a good thing, isn't it?
I don't understand why you'd be scared. Unless you are the jealous type and don't like the thought of anyone else having your boyfriend's attention. If you can't feel warm and caring towards the son, there's no way you should be marrying the father. You'll make your life, the guy's life, and the son's life pretty miserable.
Don't marry the guy if you believe you'll be jealous of the son. In the long run, I think it would be better for all of you if you walk away now instead of waiting until your relationships become even more complicated.
© 2012 Daniel Long
Shubh on September 10, 2020:
We have met on social sites. Because of quarantine we haven't met yet. Bt now our bond has became more than a friends. Im getting same love nd care from him bt he dont want to commitment wht should i do to make him fall in love with me for commitment
Anita on September 09, 2020:
I like it
Me on September 08, 2020:
My boyfriend lies a lot and he tells me that he's not another woman and that he never has time for me until like 9:00 p.m. to like 10:00 in the morning and then throughout the day he just text me all the time he might call once but if I call him he's never able to answer the phone so now I don't even call him anymore.he always gets me the book trips and he never shows up or he's never ready but he always put in emphasis like we're going somewhere and he never comes out on top.his actions are speaking way louder than his words things that he say he has I found out he doesn't have so what should I do should I tell him about himself to leave him alone or should I just let it run its course and move on with my life?
naleen on August 28, 2020:
i have this crush on this guy at work, and i am sure he does as well, I am an indian and he is white, but he is afraid of making a move what do i do,we have a good relationship we talk and understand each other.
Yumiko on August 26, 2020:
The first thing that I think when I wake up and before sleeping is him. But it seems like the is not interested in me. Because he replies too late. Our daily chat is 10 messages on average (by each person). But when he replies he acts like he also likes me. He is in another country. That's why I sleep late and wake up early for taking to him more (because of our time difference. It's 9 hours). But he is always busy with his life. Maybe I'm in the another country. So doesn't think relationship with me. I was also not into relationship. And I never had. It's first time that I feel like this. But because of his actions I get hurt. What should I do?
Mayannie on August 21, 2020:
I'm deeply Fall in love with a man who's in love with another woman, but Everytime when we're together he treated me like his girlfriend we did like couples doing, especially when we're together in bed he cares me a lot, when I'm sick he took care of me his very sweet, he always cooked for dinner and lunch... But there are times I don't understand him, I don't understand him.. and I can't read his mind. I just wanted to know if loves me too but his really good in hiding his feelings, and I don't want to be assuming... Please help me... What should I do... If his just take for granted maybe I should change my self?
Kriti Chouhan on August 19, 2020:
Hii.. I have a crush On a In my neighborhood. But he always teases me and make fun of me. It hurts me a lot. What should I do ?
Gift on August 15, 2020:
I love him but he does not replie my message he does not pick my calls
sacha on August 15, 2020:
Iam in love with a boy who loves my friend, How can he stop loving my friend and love me
Neha Singh on August 14, 2020:
How can i make a heartbroken guy fall in love with me who's ex has been married ?
Christianah on August 11, 2020:
He has already have one kids but not marrying the woman again but 4years to this time he’s taking his boy back from her but am always unhappy that won’t he latter go and marry the woman that born for him at early stage
k on August 11, 2020:
i need help
Tife on August 06, 2020:
I love this guy at first sight, and he claim to love me too but his work is 7am-7pm and we only chart, but he keeps saying he can't promise marriage because he doesn't know what the future hold
Nana P on August 06, 2020:
I love a guy and he loves me and his friend loves me too, but I don't know what to do because the guy's friend is a jealous fellow, if I be the guy's girlfriend, the guy's friend may do something bad.... Please what should I do, I am 17yrs old.
Silvia on August 05, 2020:
I love a boy and he loves me
He wants me to be his girlfriend but I am not ready, even though I love him.
Please should I accept or what should I do?
Racheqi on August 05, 2020:
I love this boy and he loves me too
I am not ready to date but he wants us to date each other
What should I do
Nelly on August 03, 2020:
Hi I think I kind of maybe juust little bit love my friend who have Girlfriend and I wanna know if he is falling for me
Bcs we can joke about getting married about sleeping in the same bed he would have half of the bed and like that then he said finally someone who can understand him is me then we can talk even for hours and we were yoking about being NEIGHBORS and helping each other and that he said he will be the only one in my bed the only NEIGHBOR and also Im I was helping him a lot with things he didnt understand with his girlfriend and he also said that he like me kind of and also he siad If we would end up together when we will be 20 he would be glad and also he said he love his Girlfriend soo much but also he had this feeling with another girl too and also I think maybe He is falling in love with me Im not sure but I wanna know please answer me thank you for reading it answer bye
Sahiba on July 30, 2020:
I really love him ..he is married because he have not time for me ....i only waiting of his ....but he dont care
Hayley on July 29, 2020:
I told him i like him but he didn't reply like he is not sure what do i have to do????
Princess on July 29, 2020:
If i love someone i will do anytin to make him feel d same for me thanks my advise is dat do not hide ur feelings from d one u love unless another girl is on d way to snatch.
bbco on July 27, 2020:
I have a boyfriend , he love me because of my pretty look on my face, but he don't know that i have a scar on my forearm and i always hiding it. because i am afraid to let him see it. i think he only love me because of my appearance what should i do? what am i going to do for not to leave me.
Khadeejah on July 23, 2020:
We live together, talk to each other and we're soooooooo close but don't admit we're in love so what do I do to make him admit it
Natania imoh on July 20, 2020:
If you were crushing on someone for over 3years and you stopped crushing on that person, later on you had a boyfriend that you love and told you that he loves you but dont know how to talk to girls,and later on the on you was crushing on later came back and tells you that he loves you,what do you think i sjould do know pls?
K.srujana sri on July 13, 2020:
I love u
Zalia on July 12, 2020:
Um madly in love with one guy but I can't tell him any time we call each other and chat but i don't know whether he also loves me or not
hamees on July 08, 2020:
there was a guy that i had a crush on and then we talked . everything was fine and he said he has feelings for me too. then we drifted apart. i was lost and didn't know what i really wanted for a couple of months. we kept talking but not as frequently. now, we are back on talking so much and i want him back , he was the one for me and i'm sure of that now. i want to make it up for him and show him that i really love him; but he said he has feelings for a girl. i don't know what to do. i want to have hope and try to get him back.
Bless on June 22, 2020:
Please I love this guy and he said he loves me too but the problem is that he's thinks he can't take care of me... So he said we should be friends rather... But I really love him..am confused please what should I do
stacey on June 19, 2020:
im inlove with someone but he doesnt even care
Riya pandey on June 18, 2020:
So we were in a relationship 4 months but suddenly he left me coz he was confused. In me n his ex n now we still talk as a friend's n we get attach again he has respect n love n. Care for me but he don't want any relationship coz coz he is broken due to fake love n fake friend's n he asked for. A break he want me to move on wid someone else
Simran on June 12, 2020:
The one whom i love...he has a past story....he told me that his life was screwed up after breakup..and now he doesnt want to love or be in a relationship again...i guess he's scared of being in a relation....he talks to me...avoids me at times....i told him my feelings....he said....he told he dont like"relationships".....he doesn't talk to any girl....i told him to block me...but he doesn't block me....even though i text him now...he will reply to my text...i dont knw what to do....can you help me...what to do? Or have idea what is he upto?
Patricia on June 11, 2020:
What if his in another i
Faith on June 06, 2020:
This guy likes me but he cant get over his ex
Azka on June 04, 2020:
I have a friend since 2 months now we talk daily on phone bcz hes not from my country so , im starting to like him & he says he likes me too but as a bestfriend , i did told him that i have feelings for him but he says that we are so far & if you were in my country i would love to meet you in person , like he said that we could be a thing if we were in same country , but our countries are not friends either Pakistan & India ... What should i do ....
Anne on May 29, 2020:
I'm in a long distance relationship. The communication was okay but kinda boring. The thing is, i want to see him through videocall but he is making some excuses. He got cheated with his prev partner. What should i do to make things work out between us?
Ghost Angel on May 23, 2020:
I been with my man for 4 years now , we had some issues here and there and separated but I always felt like I still had our relationship & future that was our glue. While we were separated I never had any other guy in my life that I would be close to or even have feelings for , I couldn't see myself even having a sexual relationship nor even just dating another guy. My heart and mind still was set on my one and only love. Wherever he was or whoever he was spending his time with. I convinced myself that he only had love for me and it really felt as though we both felt the same. I felt like I was his woman and he was still my man, and we were just taking the time apart to get to know how much we actually miss eachother and stay true . Also find our way back in each others arms, and really understand that we need to have more trust and confidence in our relationship. I missed him . And couldn't wait until the day we could both come to our senses and never want to be apart like that again . But sometimes I wonder ... Was he feeling the same as I was ? Or was he actually trying to forget about me.
Cassandra on May 23, 2020:
I'm dating a married man and he agrees to marry me with some terms and conditions which I'm fine with
Is it advisable to marry him?
Sandy on May 23, 2020:
I love this guy from my church and he is also my Facebook friend though when ever I try chatting him he won't reply, when I managed to ask him why he always aviod me he said he hadly chat on this platform vand am confused on what to do,so what can I do
Debbie on May 22, 2020:
I love this guy who happens to be my pastor's son and my Facebook friend but he seems not to notice me each time I try chatting him on Facebook , so what can I do?
Aubree on May 14, 2020:
i ment he doesnt like me but his siter keeps saying he is lying and that he likes me idk if i should beilive it...
Aubree on May 14, 2020:
wht do i do if i like the boy and he likes me back ive known him for awhile and i started liking him from thismyear from last year his siter says hes hiding something from me and ik he isnt with someone and he keeps turning pink when i ask him sertion things he also tells me things ive never heard him say to other people his sister says he acted like that last time he had a crush does he actaully like me...?
Karabo on May 10, 2020:
Am new here ND I haven't sent pictures yet
Amber on May 06, 2020:
I want my bf francesco to fall in love with me i need help please
Jaymama on May 01, 2020:
He doesn’t wat me to see his status
Etta on April 29, 2020:
Thank you that was really helpful. me and my boy friend have been getting along
Hillary on April 28, 2020:
How to know if my best guy friend likes me and loves me what should i do should i tell him that i really like him and love him or should i wait and have him tell me how he feels about me
nkuah on April 26, 2020:
I love a guy very serious and I
told him and he said he have a girlfriend, but I also love him badly what should I do
Yinky on April 25, 2020:
There is a guy i love i know he has a girlfriend before we started dating but it seems things are not working well between them again he ask me a question that if he get me pregnant what will I do which i ask him if his ready for that he said no until next year i ask him if his planning to spend the rest of his life with me which he said if God says but his not use to calling me and always saying he love me which am confused maybe he truly love me or not
Bella56 on April 24, 2020:
Iam so glad to share this with you
What should I do
If the man IAM interested in he interested in me too but suddenly he ingores my messages and calls and everything about me
Please answer me
IAM in love with him
Gena on April 23, 2020:
What should I do if the man I interested in him likes talk with me and suddenly he ingores my calls my messages everything about me
Lea on April 14, 2020:
So i have a boyfriend, we live in together for almost a year and a half. We always fights and i always physically hurt him more.. Our fights are perhaps due to some cultural differences, he is a muslim and he dont allow me to talk on my colleagues or even boss out of work time, while these instances are very rare and emergency as i am an executive secretary.. He is 34 and i am 28.. I feel like im adjusting too much for him and but he is the one who cannot understand everything which makes me irritated and later leads to a fight. I dont know, im inlove with him so much and im pretty sure he loves me too dearly. So on April 7, it was my birthday.. we are both working abroad, so this is my 2nd birthday out of my hometown, and due to the coronavirus we are at home celebrating my birthday. But then, after we cook spend time together as usual, he makes me feel special for cleaning the whole house.. Then we supposed to get drunk. However, he gaves me an attitude which raise my blood pressure. Its my birthday! No one should gives me an attitude. So we fought, then after an hour he reached out to me and told me. youre not happy are you? I said im happy. He keeps talking too much and mentioned that youre not happy i know, because i cant give you the life you dreamed of, youre a materialistic lady just like any other lady.. Like, WTF? We are living for 18months and im paying everything in half! I have higher pay than him, perhaps thats the reason why he is intimidated. So, Now.. I am not talking to him for almost 5 days now and so does he. Any advice?
i need a man. on April 12, 2020:
i need a man.
Nicky on April 11, 2020:
Shak on April 01, 2020:
Is it good to do all of those
Nisha on March 30, 2020:
How can we know the boy was in another relationship ? If I think he is in another relationship what can I do?we both are engaged but I think he is not happy ☹️
Precious Jabla on March 28, 2020:
i love this guy
elizabeth merrett on March 17, 2020:
My now ex broke up with me and I still like him and I think he likes me but my fake friend ex best friend and someone else like him so how do I get him to fall for me and not them ?
Emma on March 08, 2020:
Online date.. I'm new to it and haven't posted a picture because I'm not sure if I want people to see me in the big ocean of fish..
Ok, first and foremost, I'm older.. 54.. I think I'm cute. So my question is this. How do you know when its appropriate to exchange numbers and/or set up a meeting coffee date.. I have been single for about 3 years, so this is all new to me.. (dating online).
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
There's a simple way to find the answer to your question, Random Person. Just ask him, "Why don't you hold my hand anymore? What's changed?"
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
Essy, if you are not happy it is time to move on. Maybe some day the guy you think you're in love with will decide he can't live without you and come chasing you to the ends of the earth, begging you to be his girl. But don't hold your breath for that day. There's every possibility he'll always remain the kind of guy who can't open up or commit.
So, what do I think you should do? I think you should walk away with your head held high and leave him to dwell in his own misery. Don't let yourself get upset about might or might not be with this guy. Move on and see what the future holds!
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
Madison, everyone I know has been rejected at least once ... including me. When the time is right, you won't be rejected and the wait for the right partner will feel worth it!
Random Person on March 06, 2020:
The guy i like used to say things like "hold my hand" and "you know friends are likely to end up dating right?", but now he's distant...what does that mean? he doesn't like me right?
Essy on March 06, 2020:
I love this guy. But i think i pushed the relationship. He lefted his babymom before we go together but they still had a thing going on. They are completely over their break up but the feelings for her are still there and i feel like im getting the shitty e d of things cause its like hes scared to open up to me and say he loves me n tell me I'm beautiful. What should i do ? Im confused
madisonhenley on March 06, 2020:
why do people reject me
LOnley FOrever on February 21, 2020:
I like a guy but he doesnt like me back but everyone says he does
Ruthia heart on February 17, 2020:
Ofcourse am realy pround of my boy coz he love me so much and i know sometymes i make him annoyed but i do requests for apologize then i see he dont mind of that.
Winnie on February 16, 2020:
I would like to know more about this concept..
Grace on February 12, 2020:
We met from a friend of his that is supposed to be my boyfriend but didn't work out, i had sex with my supposed boyfriend but i like his friend and he seems to like me too but am not just sure if its headed anywhere and don't know how this supposed boyfriend of mine will feel.
Gloria on January 31, 2020:
I love a guy,but he told me he has a girlfriend but he never promise her marriage.but we friends for now.what should I do
ANABEL on January 26, 2020:
WOW LOVE U
Jennifer on January 25, 2020:
I have a friend who i love and i know he loves me, because he spent most of his times with me but we are not dating cus he has never asked me out. What should I do, should i keep hoping that one day he will?
ann on January 23, 2020:
how do u know if truly ur boyfriend loves u after both of u come back together from d space u gave each other
Shaziya on January 17, 2020:
I am Shaziya . I like him and we are good friends too . I told him that I have started feeling for him but instead of giving a straight answer he is giving mixed signals. He invites me for coffee but I decline the offer as I am nervous type. He doesn't chat with me on social media but encourages conversations in person. He makes me jealous with
other girls. He says to my friends that he likes me but never confesses it before me. I am 18 years old . What shall I do ??
Shaziya on January 16, 2020:
We are good friends . I like him . he doesn't chat with me on social media but encourages conversations in person. He invites me for coffee but I decline his offer. I told him that I love him but he is giving all mix signals. I am 18 years old. What should I do ??
Julia UwU on January 16, 2020:
I think I'm in love with my now ex's best friend. My now ex broke up with me except I might be in love with his friend and i don't know what to do.
Marissa revola on January 14, 2020:
I like my best friend and he says he likes me, we've been best friends for 7 months and 2 months ago we started talking more than friends. his ex which is my acquaintance found out that we kissed and is being immature and acting like a 5-year-old about it. they broke up 5 months ago and claims she's over him. things have been iffy since she found out and I really don't want to lose him. I also lowkey feel like im being played. what could help?
Chama on January 04, 2020:
I love a guy and he always say he loves me too...... But he is proud and never accept his faults..... He don't make effort to check on me if we have problems ... I always need to make the firstloves e And if we make up he will always remain me that he love me
Sharifa on January 04, 2020:
My boyfriend likes sex a lot. And how will i do to limit it?
liknu on January 04, 2020:
well you see i like this guy but i dont know if he likes me back but looks like another guy likes me who is his friend but i am really in love with him not his frnd should i just wait for him to love me back or just ..what should i do .he did once liked a girl but now he doesnt so he does give me intrest but hasnt said anything if he did love me wouldnt he had already confessed so...i am really confused
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Naroka blessing on December 26, 2019:
I meet this guy on Facebook the day we saw i fell in love with him and have already told him but he is not responding as fast as i wish
Lebo on December 23, 2019:
he said he's not ready for a relationship and I love him how do I make him feel the same
christy on December 16, 2019:
i had a small issues with him all of a sudden he started avoiding me,i called to apologise bt his still ignoring me should i jst allow him be
Bella on December 12, 2019:
I like this guy and he likes me too. How do I keep him from going away?
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on December 09, 2019:
Talk with him, Megan. He's your boyfriend so you should be able to have honest conversations.
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on December 09, 2019:
Lionel, there's always an element of luck involved. You could start by doing your best to attract his attention and earn his respect. You want him to view you in a positive way
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on December 09, 2019:
It sounds like he's not the right guy for you, Winifred.
I suggest you get to know the next guy better before you have sex with him. It doesn't make sense to be having sex with a guy if you're not likely to have a long and happy future together.
Megan Marx on December 06, 2019:
My boyfriend never wants to have sex anymore. It’s been months. What do I do? I’m wondering if he’s even still attracted to me.
Lionel Robbins on December 05, 2019:
How can I make a guy love me
rashida on November 29, 2019:
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winifred on November 29, 2019:
my boyfriend said he loves me and I really love him too. Before we started the relationship he told me, he dnt like calling people and visiting people. Any time I complain that he dnt call or visit. he do apologize. but am tired dnt no wat to do.
And I do feel as if am forcing myself to him
maybe its because we had sex on our first date
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on November 17, 2019:
You have to decide how much you trust him, Rebecca. I would have expected him to at least talk with you on the phone in front of her so she knows you exist.
Rebecca on October 27, 2019:
He sad he love me like no other then next day text me and tells me he's got it one of his ex is coming to drink and she may spend the night and I should just stay at home cuz he didn't want conflict
Zee on October 17, 2019:
I am working in company a guy comes there as Co worker. he said that all things through massges.he Misses me but in front of others he ingors me. what this???
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on October 13, 2019:
I agree, it probably would ruin things Loreena. I think you should wait until you are 18 ... and then see if you still feel the same way.
He’s your sports coach. You’d be putting him in a really difficult situation if you let him know you have a crush on him. I honestly think you should just keep daydreaming about him until you are old enough for it not to be a problem.
It will either work out in a few years time, or it won’t. That’s life. We’ve all been there. The crush itself is fine and healthy ... just don’t let it turn into a problem.
Helgadonna Lyngdoh on October 10, 2019:
I need help as my boyfriend ignore me and want to enjoy with his friend only
Julia on September 26, 2019:
There are million ways to make a man love you...but maybe there are also a lot of women going after each guy.... who gets to win his heart really depends on him.... i've also tried to check for other tips and of course most of them are inspiring and somewhat helpful just like your article...
emily on September 19, 2019:
have you seen people do these things
Loreena on September 17, 2019:
I'm in love with my sports coach who just turned 21. I'm almost 16 years old. I want to be with him but I really don't know how he feels about me... We do have a lot of contact, on instagram, whatsapp and snapchat and we talk a lot when we're together but I don't know whether or not I should try to let him know I like him? Because i'm so afraid it will ruin things.
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on September 09, 2019:
Evelyn, here's an article I wrote that should help you know if a guy likes you. https://pairedlife.com/dating/How-Do-You-Know-A-Gu... Hope it helps.