How to Make a Man Fall Madly in Love With You: 13 Tips on Making a Guy Like You

Updated on February 27, 2017
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Making a man fall in love with you
Making a man fall in love with you

How to Get a Guy to Love You

Want to make a man fall in love with you forever? You might be asking this question because you like a guy very much and you are looking forward to him feeling the same for you.

He's the man of your dreams, and you adore him. You want him by your side right now but unfortunately you still don’t have him. You're willing to do whatever it takes for him to chase you, like you, get attracted to you and fall madly in love with you but it seems like a huge undertaking.

In this article you will get to learn some of the basic and not so basic things that girls can do in order to attract a man to their side and make him fall in love with them.

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1. Don't Lose Hope

Don’t lose hope. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to be hopeful at all times. Losing hope can be a disease not only in trying to win the heart of a man, but also in all things that we do in our day-to-day life.

Hope for the best, but don't lose sight of reality. When pursuing a man and wanting him to fall in love with you, there are definitely two likely outcomes which are:

  1. He also falls in love with you, or
  2. He might reject your advances.

When pursuing the love of a man it’s important to be hopeful and stay positive. (We all appear more attractive and appealing when we give off good, positive vibes.) But don't hang all your hopes on getting the result you dream about. He has feelings just like you do, and none of us really have control over our hearts!

He might be interested in you as much as you are interested in him. Be motivated by that hope, and take steps to find out. You won't know until you make an effort to catch him. However, you should also prepare for any eventuality and outcome. If this man's not the one for you, there will be another man on your horizon. So don't lose hope!

2. Be Yourself

Be yourself when trying to make a man fall in love with you. It is important to be yourself and not someone else when it comes to personality and character. If you are pretending to be different to your true self when trying to make a guy like you, you are not doing yourself any favors.

By trying not to be yourself, you are clearly indicating or suggesting that you are not comfortable with yourself. Many guys will easily notice this shortcoming in you and quickly become disinterested.

You might be able to keep the façade up for a few weeks, months, or even years. But sooner or later you'll grow tired of hiding your true personality, and he'll get tired of trying to figure out who you really are, what you really like, and when you are actually being sincere.

  • If you have a high-powered job, don't play the dumb blonde.
  • If you hate high heels, don't wear stilettos.
  • Your dog hogs the front seat of your car, and sleeps in your bed? The two of you had better talk about that.
  • You have children? That's definitely worth mentioning up front.

The best relationship is a long relationship. When a man falls madly in love with you, you want that love to last, So be yourself right from the start.

3. Be Aware of Your Appearance

Don’t let your appearance let you down. Your appearance can make you win or lose when it comes to dating. To please a man and make him get interested in you, you should be presentable. Be aware of what you are wearing, whether or not your hair is clean, and if you are dressed appropriately.

Of course you want to look sexy for the man you want to fall in love with you, but sex appeal doesn't necessarily mean body-hugging clothing and lots of cleavage. Jeans and a t-shirt with wind-blown hair can be just as sexy as a manicured look in a formal outfit, in the right circumstances.

Choose your clothing and your style to match the occasion. But be aware of how you look. Do your best to look as good as you can, no matter where you are going. You never know when you might unexpectedly bump into the man of your dreams.

So, before you race out the door to buy the missing ingredient for your quiet dinner at home on your lonesome, change that grubby shirt!

4. Listen, Don't Just Talk!

When you want to please and make a man fall for you, it is important that you listen. Don't just talk. If you chatter incessantly when you are nervous, find some other way to cope with your nerves.

Many girls make the mistake of talking more than they listen when they are around a potential male partner. Girls aren't the only ones, of course. Many men do the same thing. But this is a big mistake that can easily cost you getting the man of your dreams.

Even a man who is generally not talkative will definitely have something to say. Everyone likes to be 'heard'. If you keep talking and talking all the time without giving him the chance to express himself, he's likely to be disappointed. Making it hard for him to get a word in could lower your chances of him falling in love with you.

5. Show Confidence

Confidence is key. Sure, some women seem to make a career out of catching men by playing the victim, or the helpless female. But have you ever noticed how those seemingly helpless souls who catch men by being so 'needy', actually set their trap with confidence and precision?

Without confidence, you risk being left behind. If you want a guy to like you, you need to have a sense of confidence in yourself that will ultimately make you approach him without fearing or sensing any danger.

Liking yourself makes it easy for him to like you too. You're a good person with very special qualities. Be confident that you are worthy of being loved!

More Tips to Make Him Fall in Love With You

  1. Smile and laugh. When you are working on ways to make a guy fall in love with you, it is essential to smile and laugh. Don’t present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you feel comfortable being.

    Guys generally like girls with a sense of humor who can make them feel good. Tell him enjoyable stories, and don't be afraid to laugh. Remember not to go overboard and look like a comedian. It is great to have a partner who is enjoyable and outgoing, but very few people like the idea of living with a comedian.
  2. You have to give, and not just take, to increase your chances of him falling in love with you. A man can easily differentiate between a girl who wants something from him, and one who cares for him.

    There are certainly girls who are after money (gold diggers). Differentiate yourself from the typical gold digger and let him see you are interested in him for his love and not his money or any other material thing
  3. Let him also put some extra effort in. If you keep chasing after a man for months while he is going on with his activities, you'll most likely be seen as a desperate woman. Being available to him always is not really a good thing. Don’t let him get bored.

    Instead, allow him to make advances towards you. Many men enjoy the thrill of the 'chase.' Catch his eye and his attention, and then let him work a little to win you over. Let him notice how much he misses you when you are not around. As soon as he suspects he's falling in love with you, he will definitely do something to get you.
  4. Get to know (and understand) what he does. This is something that could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Ask him whether he needs any help to accomplish a task. If he discovers that you are keenly interested in his plans, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.
  5. Have patience and don’t push him too hard to make important decisions. Patience will definitely pay off. Be patient and go slow when trying to make a man fall in love with you. Don’t expect him to fall in love or say yes to your advances instantly.

    Many men will definitely need time to decide whether he is ready to enter into a relationship with you or not. If he likes you, he will make it obvious. But don’t ever push him to make a quick decision on whether he likes you or not.
  6. Be different from other women. If many women are competing for his attention and are trying very hard to make him fall in love with them, differentiation will definitely give you the cutting edge. Give or show him tangible or intangible evidence to suggest that you are the best option for him.
  7. Don’t be too possessive before he commits his love to you. Many women make the mistake of being too possessive of a man before he even admits his love to them. When this is the case, she may try to protect him from other women so that she remains the only woman in his life.

    This is a strategy that is doomed to fail. Allow him to decide on what is best for him. If you are the one for him, he will definitely fall in love with you.
  8. Have good morals. Good morals are a necessity in convincing a man to love you. Nobody wants to get involved with someone who can't be trusted. Men like women who are disciplined and are not pushovers. Behave maturely towards him and be respectful of him, just as you expect him to be respectful towards you.

If you can be true to yourself and demonstrate all these types of qualities, your perfect match will definitely fall in love with you!

© 2012 Daniel Long


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      Daniel Long 6 days ago from All Over

      It doesn't sound like he likes you the way you want him to, LLRS, but that's not the end of the world. Personally I don't think you should 'wait' or 'confess' again because he already knows you like him and he could ask you out if he wanted to. Who knows, maybe when he's older, he might. But let it be a pleasant surprise if he ever decides to ask you out, don't bother waiting for him.

      The trouble with being obsessed about one person is that it blinds you from seeing other nice people around you. So how will you spot another guy who might be interested in you? Or someone who is actually more suited to you?

      I think your Christmas present to yourself should be letting go of putting all your hopes on that guy. There must be lots of activities available to you at college. Next year I think you should branch out and get involved in other things, and start making new friends and contacts. One of them might be just perfect for you!

      Let's be honest, there's no point setting yourself up for another disappointing year chasing a guy who has obviously been a good 'friend' but doesn't seem to be interested in taking it further. Start the new year willing to meet a new guy.

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      LLRS 6 days ago

      I really need help on this. I'm actually 24 this year and I just started college in January. I met this guy who is a lot younger than me which at first I thought that we were pure best friends. We could chat for the whole day during and after class every single day. In first semester I tried to confess but was rejected, i guess because our relationship wasn't that strong yet. I actually tot that there weren't any hopes left, so I TRIED to change my target into someone else but failed. I would keep on thinking of him every single day and want to see him every day. Now that it's already the end of third semester and Christmas is near. My friends advice to either wait or confess again. BUT I'm afraid that I would get rejected again. I'm not confident enough to confess again and I don't know if I'm suitable for him or not and I don't know how does he feels towards me. A few days ago after meeting him, it feels like he is trying to avoid me. He doesn't find me in whatsapp or snapchat or other social media's. This has been keeping me worried. My friends told me that he might need some time to think about it. This is making me even more worried and even more less confident. We are going to celebrate Christmas this coming thursday. I don't know what will happen... Do you think he likes me?

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      Daniel Long 12 days ago from All Over

      And often men are guilty of forgetting too, Mystee. We all just do the best we can, I guess.

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      Mystee Crockett 13 days ago from Everywhere You Want To Be

      Great suggestions. Every one of these tips is true. Women sometimes forget that they need to act interested, take care of their appearance, and not talk so much.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      McKenzie, I can't figure out what you mean when you say the boy you like a lot plays with your heart. So I have no suggestions about what to do. You'd have to paint a clearer picture of the situation before I could even guess.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Thanks for the trouble you went to with your explanation, Unknown. That obviously took quite a bit of time and effort.

      Here's my thoughts, and I'm always honest. I understand this all seems huge at the moment, but you and your friend are going to change as you grow up. And I'm thinking you're likely to make new friends in middle school and beyond.

      Does he still like you? Yes, he probably does. But liking someone (even liking someone a lot) is hardly reason to get too stressed. Believe me, 'love' is yet to come. Liking a boy for 3 years is liking a boy for 3 years. That's all.

      Don't be in too much of a hurry to get caught up in the whole boyfriend/girlfriend turmoil. I think you'll be more happy in the long term if you allow yourself to just concentrate on study and having fun in middle school, and see how you feel about that boy (and any other boys) in a few years when you're older.

      Kids put pressure on each other to date and say they're 'in love' because it all seems so grown-up. But, fact is, kids your age are not grown-up yet. So I think you should resist the peer pressure.

      Love will hit you like a sledge-hammer when you're older, and there will be no mistaking it. And you'll be old enough to actually enjoy and appreciate the whole experience ... without being embarrassed about what you did when you were a kid.

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      Unknown 2 weeks ago

      I fell in love with my friend. My older brother is friends with his older sister and us 4 and other friends of my brother used to go to the pool during summer. Thats where I met him. He used to go to the same school as me but he moved to 7th grade and I'm still in 6th grade bc he is one year older then me. So last year he found out I had a crush on him during the winter time but at that time he had a girlfriend. But he broke up with her bc he liked me and he asked me out during spring time. But we only went out for a week bc he broke up with me bc my friends were talking shit about his ex and they had remained friends but he thought it was me. And I told him it wasn't and I had told my friends to stop saying bad things about her before we went out. And then he said he just couldn't bc he was going through a lot of things and that he couldn't handle a relationship. So I pretended that I was still friends with the girls who were talking shit about his ex bc I didn't want to give him a hard time. And the 2nd to last day of school he hugged me while walking back to class. And my bff had stayed back with his friends had stayed behind to give both of us some space and my bff said that when he went back with his friends he had said he was gonna carry me but he couldn't bc I was walking. And then the last day of he came up to me amd he said he just wanted to say goodbye bc it be the last time that we would ever see each other again. So yeah we said goodbye and then his best friend asked me what would I do if he carried me and I said he wouldn't he doesn't even like me. And he said yes he does he only broke up with you bc he didn't want to break your heart when he had to leave for middle school and bc he needed time. And then I walked away bc I got sad and mad. And when we were in a relationship we talked through Instagram but I deleted it bc my parents didn't want me to have it anymore. So there was no way to contact him. And during the summer break I was walking through a shoes section at target and he was too. He saw me bc when I looked up he was looking at me but he pretended like he didn't see me and got red. And I didn't say anything either bc I couldn't get a word out. And that's the last time I saw him. But next year I am gonna see him bc I'm going to the same middle school that he is going to. Oh and also one day I saw one of his friends and he said that Jorge wonders if I will want to get back with him next year when we are at the same school again and I was like your joking right now and he said no I'm not but I couldn't answer him bc he had to go bc hus parents were there. And I know you probably think that I'm confused with my feelings but I have liked him for 3 years now and I'm sure that's love. Plz help me with this. Do you think he still likes me ??

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Cheryl, I don't know you and I don't know the guy so feel free to dismiss my suggestion as absurd if you think it is. But to be honest with you, my first thought is that the guy might be secretly gay and somehow feeling under pressure to show he has a girl in his life. You'd be safe to introduce to everyone because he's already told you he's not interested in a real relationship.

      Has he ever had an active relationship with a girl in the 3 years you've known him?

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      cheryl 3 weeks ago

      hi have known this guy for 3 years now, i really like him but i did tell him how i felt, he said he likes me as just a friend, we drifted away from each other and about a month ago we started talking again he takes me everywhere i met his work colleges and his brother and sister which id confusing me why is he taking me to meet everyone and just wants to be friends

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      Good on you for asking him if you are wasting your time, Gracie. If he said 'Something might happen' it could be he's trying to get brave enough to ask you out.

      You could wait a while and see if he makes some kind of move or gesture (especially with Christmas and New Year coming up). Or you could invite him to go somewhere with you, and save him from the problem of figuring out how to ask you.

      If nothing has happened by early next year, it seems fair for you to move on and look for another guy.

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      gracie 3 weeks ago

      we good friends i asked am i wasting my time and he said no something might happen. ughhhh what does he mean . he stares, jokes, tries to impress, shares , and all signs

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      If he doesn't want a relationship, Elizabeth, you're best to move on. If you really are best friends and love each other, your friendship should survive even if you start dating someone new.

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      Elizabeth 3 weeks ago

      We are bestfriends and love each other but he does`nt want a relationship.

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      The right man is worth waiting for, mirriam. If you concentrate on personal growth and getting to know more people, the wait won't seem so long.

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      Siddy, how can I help you when I don't know how he's confusing you? You'll need to tell me more if you want me to give you any ideas.

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      Siddy 4 weeks ago

      Hi I love a guy madly pls help me he is confusing me a lot

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      Emily 5 weeks ago

      hope this works I love him alot!

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Just be natural and friendly. He might be a potential boyfriend in 5 years or more. You're right, at the moment you are way too young to be stressing about boyfriends. Water pistols are way more fun!

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      NOPE this was random 5 weeks ago

      I'm 11 I know too young! But I like this guy. We have all the same classes but 2 I chose band and chorus. We do sit next to each other in 1 class,any I don't think he likes me I wish

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      Daniel Long 6 weeks ago from All Over

      To the girl says she's in love but doesn't know what to say, I'm not convinced you're really in love. How can you be in love with someone you don't talk to? You don't even know him yet.

      If you are to have any relationship, you'll have to start talking. Ask him questions to learn more about him.

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      Hi 6 weeks ago

      I’m inlove without some one an he likes me back I just don’t know what to say

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      Hiba 8 weeks ago

      I’m in love with same one

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      kutemba chicingoh 2 months ago

      Am in a new relationship and this wil definatly help me to make my man fall me

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      maddie 2 months ago

      thank you very helpful i am happy and bc of this i found the love of my life turns out i was doing this stuff all wrong but thank you for the tips

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      Vio 2 months ago

      Thanks for the article, I really learned something from it.

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      Lacy 2 months ago

      I fell in love so hard to not cry I just need him in my arms to feel safe agian

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      maymuna daud 3 months ago

      Thanks this well help us

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      Lena 3 months ago

      Thank you very much, these wonderful advices for sure will help me.

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      sherry 3 months ago

      Thanks it's a great challenge

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      GreatSword23 3 months ago from Belgium

      all of them clearly describes what i want, nice article!

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      muhammad sadiq 4 months ago

      Thanks for sharing, this is a fantastic article Thanks Again Great.

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      Anna lee 4 months ago

      Thank you now I could make the love of my life fall in love

      With me

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      Daniel Long 5 months ago from All Over

      Artemis, I vote for 'dump him'. Any more time you give him will just be time wasted. You deserve much longer than 15 minutes of attention ... and you deserve a reply to your texts.

      Yep, walk away from that loser. Look for a really sweet guy who is really sweet all the time. Good luck.

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      Artemis S. 5 months ago

      So my boyfriend is really sweet and all but when we see each other we always do the same things and he "has to go " after 15 minutes. When I text him he never replies and the time he did reply was cuz of his friend (who is a grl) birthday party. I don't know what to do anymore. Should I dump him? Or give more time? Please help!

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      Smile and laugh. When you are working on ways to make a guy fall in love with you, it is essential to smile and laugh. Don’t present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you fee 6 months ago

      Smile and laugh. When you are working on ways to make a guy fall in love with you, it is essential to smile and laugh. Don’t present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you feel comfortable being.

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      Noate 6 months ago

      I always catch this guy staring and then look at him few seconds then away, he's a quiet guy I don't know if he does like me or not. What's going on with him?

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      Daniel Long 8 months ago from All Over

      Dump that guy, Felisha. You're hurting yourself, and you can't blame him for it. He has a girlfriend and another girl too so you can't be having much of a relationship with him. You're the one making yourself suffer by even considering chasing after him. He doesn't love you, and I don't believe you love him either. Nobody loves a sleaze, which is what he is.

      I suggest you spend more time thinking about yourself, and what you want from a relationship. And also spending a bit more time typing full words instead of abbreviating everything. Don't be in such a hurry, girl. Take time to think things through properly. Good luck.

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