How to Make a Man Fall Madly in Love With You: 13 Tips on Making a Guy Like You

Updated on June 14, 2019
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

How to Get a Guy to Love You

Want to make a man fall in love with you forever? You might be asking this question because you like a guy very much and you are looking forward to him feeling the same for you.

He's the man of your dreams, and you adore him. You want him by your side right now but unfortunately, you still don’t have him. You're willing to do whatever it takes for him to chase you, like you, get attracted to you and fall madly in love with you but it seems like a huge undertaking.

In this article, you will get to learn some of the basic and not so basic things that girls can do in order to attract a man to their side and make him fall in love with them.

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1. Don't Lose Hope

Don’t lose hope. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to be hopeful at all times. Losing hope can be a disease not only in trying to win the heart of a man, but also in all things that we do in our day-to-day life.

Hope for the best, but don't lose sight of reality. When pursuing a man and wanting him to fall in love with you, there are definitely two likely outcomes, which are:

  1. He also falls in love with you
  2. He might reject your advances

When pursuing the love of a man, it’s important to be hopeful and stay positive. (We all appear more attractive and appealing when we give off good, positive vibes.) But don't hang all your hopes on getting the result you dream about. He has feelings just like you do, and none of us really have control over our hearts!

He might be interested in you as much as you are interested in him. Be motivated by that hope, and take steps to find out. You won't know until you make an effort to catch him. However, you should also prepare for any eventuality and outcome. If this man's not the one for you, there will be another man on your horizon. So don't lose hope!

2. Be Yourself

Be yourself when trying to make a man fall in love with you. It is important to be yourself and not someone else when it comes to personality and character. If you are pretending to be different to your true self when trying to make a guy like you, you are not doing yourself any favors.

By trying not to be yourself, you are clearly indicating or suggesting that you are not comfortable with yourself. Many guys will easily notice this shortcoming in you and quickly become disinterested.

You might be able to keep the façade up for a few weeks, months, or even years. But sooner or later you'll grow tired of hiding your true personality, and he'll get tired of trying to figure out who you really are, what you really like, and when you are actually being sincere.

  • If you have a high-powered job, don't play the dumb blonde.
  • If you hate high heels, don't wear stilettos.
  • Your dog hogs the front seat of your car, and sleeps in your bed? The two of you had better talk about that.
  • You have children? That's definitely worth mentioning up front.

The best relationship is a long relationship. When a man falls madly in love with you, you want that love to last, So be yourself right from the start.

3. Be Aware of Your Appearance

Don’t let your appearance let you down. Your appearance can make you win or lose when it comes to dating. To please a man and make him get interested in you, you should be presentable. Be aware of what you are wearing, whether or not your hair is clean, and if you are dressed appropriately.

Of course, you want to look sexy for the man you want to fall in love with you, but sex appeal doesn't necessarily mean body-hugging clothing and lots of cleavage. Jeans and a t-shirt with wind-blown hair can be just as sexy as a manicured look in a formal outfit, in the right circumstances.

Choose your clothing and your style to match the occasion. But be aware of how you look. Do your best to look as good as you can, no matter where you are going. You never know when you might unexpectedly bump into the man of your dreams.

So, before you race out the door to buy the missing ingredient for your quiet dinner at home on your lonesome, change that grubby shirt!

4. Listen, Don't Just Talk!

When you want to please and make a man fall for you, it is important that you listen. Don't just talk. If you chatter incessantly when you are nervous, find some other way to cope with your nerves.

Many girls make the mistake of talking more than they listen when they are around a potential male partner. Girls aren't the only ones, of course. Many men do the same thing. But this is a big mistake that can easily cost you getting the man of your dreams.

Even a man who is generally not talkative will definitely have something to say. Everyone likes to be 'heard.' If you keep talking and talking all the time without giving him the chance to express himself, he's likely to be disappointed. Making it hard for him to get a word in could lower your chances of him falling in love with you.

5. Show Confidence

Confidence is key. Sure, some women seem to make a career out of catching men by playing the victim, or the helpless female. But have you ever noticed how those seemingly helpless souls who catch men by being so 'needy,' actually set their trap with confidence and precision?

Without confidence, you risk being left behind. If you want a guy to like you, you need to have a sense of confidence in yourself that will ultimately make you approach him without fearing or sensing any danger.

Liking yourself makes it easy for him to like you too. You're a good person with very special qualities. Be confident that you are worthy of being loved!

More Tips to Make Him Fall in Love With You

  1. Smile and laugh. When you are working on ways to make a guy fall in love with you, it is essential to smile and laugh. Don’t present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you feel comfortable being.

    Guys generally like girls with a sense of humor who can make them feel good. Tell him enjoyable stories, and don't be afraid to laugh. Remember not to go overboard and look like a comedian. It is great to have a partner who is enjoyable and outgoing, but very few people like the idea of living with a comedian.
  2. You have to give, and not just take, to increase your chances of him falling in love with you. A man can easily differentiate between a girl who wants something from him and one who cares for him.

    There are certainly girls who are after money (gold diggers). Differentiate yourself from the typical gold digger and let him see you are interested in him for his love and not his money or any other material thing
  3. Let him also put some extra effort in. If you keep chasing after a man for months while he is going on with his activities, you'll most likely be seen as a desperate woman. Being available to him always is not really a good thing. Don’t let him get bored.

    Instead, allow him to make advances towards you. Many men enjoy the thrill of the 'chase.' Catch his eye and his attention, and then let him work a little to win you over. Let him notice how much he misses you when you are not around. As soon as he suspects he's falling in love with you, he will definitely do something to get you.
  4. Get to know (and understand) what he does. This is something that could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Ask him whether he needs any help to accomplish a task. If he discovers that you are keenly interested in his plans, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.
  5. Have patience and don’t push him too hard to make important decisions. Patience will definitely pay off. Be patient and go slow when trying to make a man fall in love with you. Don’t expect him to fall in love or say yes to your advances instantly.

    Many men will definitely need time to decide whether he is ready to enter into a relationship with you or not. If he likes you, he will make it obvious. But don’t ever push him to make a quick decision on whether he likes you or not.
  6. Be different from other women. If many women are competing for his attention and are trying very hard to make him fall in love with them, differentiation will definitely give you the cutting edge. Give or show him tangible or intangible evidence to suggest that you are the best option for him.
  7. Don’t be too possessive before he commits his love to you. Many women make the mistake of being too possessive of a man before he even admits his love to them. When this is the case, she may try to protect him from other women so that she remains the only woman in his life.

    This is a strategy that is doomed to fail. Allow him to decide on what is best for him. If you are the one for him, he will definitely fall in love with you.
  8. Have good morals. Good morals are a necessity in convincing a man to love you. Nobody wants to get involved with someone who can't be trusted. Men like women who are disciplined and are not pushovers. Behave maturely towards him and be respectful of him, just as you expect him to be respectful towards you.

If you can be true to yourself and demonstrate all these types of qualities, your perfect match will definitely fall in love with you!

Questions & Answers

  • What should I do if the man I'm interested in ignores my messages, myself and everything about me?

    If he is completely ignoring you, it looks like he’s just not interested. So don’t bother messaging him or chasing him anymore. The world is filled with nice guys, but you won’t notice any of them if you stay obsessed with that guy.

    I suggest you forget about him and keep an open mind about meeting Mr. Right. There might already be some other guy who’d like to get to know you, but you’re not seeing him.

  • He told me that he loves me. I love him too, but he doesn’t have time for me. He’s always with his friends. Do you think he loves me?

    I don’t know if you’re both just kids or if you’re older. If you’re young, maybe he does really like you but doesn’t feel confident enough to walk away from his friends to spend time with a girl.

    If you’re both older, there’s no real excuse for him to ignore you and just spend all his time with his friends. He’s selfish and not the kind of guy you want to commit to because I can’t imagine he’s ever going to change for you.

    Either way, young or old, it doesn’t sound like he truly ‘loves’ you. So you have to decide whether or not you want to dump him and look for someone new. If you stick with him, expect to keep being disappointed.

  • What if his baby’s mama is staying with him, but he’s not married to her, and we are in love with each other?

    What if you were the mother of his baby and living with him, and he was telling another girl he loves her? That’s exactly what is likely to happen to you in the future.

    For all you know, he may still be sleeping with her and she might believe they are actually a couple planning a future together with their child.

    I suspect you are headed for heartbreak. If I was you, I’d step back and encourage him to work out what’s happening with his current relationship instead of trying to start a new relationship with you.

  • I’m a guy and I’m very in love with a man. What should I do?

    The first thing, I guess, is figure out whether or not he’s gay. If he isn’t gay he might not respond well to your advances. In which case, the fantasy is never likely to become a reality.

    If he is gay, I think this is a conversation you should be having with someone who has the experience to share. Sorry, that’s not me.

  • We are in a relationship but he is too shy to talk with me. We don't behave like other couples. What to do to make our relationship work?

    You have a serious problem if he is too shy to talk with you. How will you ever communicate about all the important issues you are likely to face in a long-term relationship? I'm not sure what kind of a relationship you're in or how long you've been together, but if you can't convince him to trust you enough to open up and communicate with you, I genuinely believe you'd be better off with someone else. And I suspect he'd be happier if he waits until he finds a partner better suited to him. Either someone who is happy and comfortable with the silence or someone who has the unique qualities he needs to allow him to feel comfortable enough to be open and communicative.

    I'm sure you see a lot of good qualities in the guy, but if you're envious of other couples, I think you need to find a new partner who allows you to be yourself and have all the noisy interactions and long conversations you crave. A successful relationship requires partners who are well suited to each other.

© 2012 Daniel Long

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    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      40 hours ago from All Over

      I agree, it probably would ruin things Loreena. I think you should wait until you are 18 ... and then see if you still feel the same way.

      He’s your sports coach. You’d be putting him in a really difficult situation if you let him know you have a crush on him. I honestly think you should just keep daydreaming about him until you are old enough for it not to be a problem.

      It will either work out in a few years time, or it won’t. That’s life. We’ve all been there. The crush itself is fine and healthy ... just don’t let it turn into a problem.

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      Julia 

      2 weeks ago

      There are million ways to make a man love you...but maybe there are also a lot of women going after each guy.... who gets to win his heart really depends on him.... i've also tried to check for other tips and of course most of them are inspiring and somewhat helpful just like your article...

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      Loreena 

      3 weeks ago

      I'm in love with my sports coach who just turned 21. I'm almost 16 years old. I want to be with him but I really don't know how he feels about me... We do have a lot of contact, on instagram, whatsapp and snapchat and we talk a lot when we're together but I don't know whether or not I should try to let him know I like him? Because i'm so afraid it will ruin things.

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      5 weeks ago from All Over

      Evelyn, here's an article I wrote that should help you know if a guy likes you. https://pairedlife.com/dating/How-Do-You-Know-A-Gu... Hope it helps.

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      5 weeks ago from All Over

      Hi Ann. Forget about the color of the guy. Any guy who is pressuring you to 'prove' to him that you love him is a jerk. It sounds to me that he's trying to 'guilt' you into being more sexual with him. But I don't think you should do it. The problem is not his color. The problem is his attitude.

      Find another nicer guy. Nobody should ever have to 'prove' their love. Showing love in gentle ways is enough. It takes time to get to know someone and know how you really feel. You can't hurry real love.

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      Evelyn lun 

      5 weeks ago

      how can i know if a guy likes me.i have crush on him.

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      Dewan Fahim 

      6 weeks ago

      Thanks

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      Devii 

      6 weeks ago

      He says he is incapable of romantically loving any girl.

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      Sunflowerlover 

      7 weeks ago

      I really like a guy and hes already kissed me but he told me hes talking to me and another girl .. how do i know if he really feels the same?

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      Ann 

      8 weeks ago

      Hi Sir,

      I’m a black girl and I’m 23 years I have met a white guy and I love him soo much but he keeps saying he doesn’t see anything that I love him I should prove to him and make him feel I love him. Can you pls educate me on how to show love to a white guy? Because I think the way we the Africans show love is different from the white people.

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      Shadow 

      2 months ago

      well I like this boy ullisses he calls me ''mate'' but note with othe girls. And he shows a big smile when im by him he gives other boy a mean look if they flirt with me HELP FIGER OUT IF HE LIKES ME I love him

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      Brandy gray 

      2 months ago

      I love everything I have read here it’s amazing ❤️❤️

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      3 months ago from All Over

      I don’t think it is good if any guy ‘always asks for sex’, Josqueen. If he doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t love you. He should be making every effort to make you feel special and happy.

      If all he does is ask for sex, that suggests he’s not serious about having a loving relationship.

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      3 months ago from All Over

      If all four of you are chasing the same guy, that’s awkward. But if he likes you, as you say, I don’t see why you need to step back.

      I’m thinking you are probably young and at school, so it is all pretty normal. But if you’re an adult, I’d suggest you look for new friends.

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      3 months ago from All Over

      It won’t be fun for either of you, Lothania, if you keep obsessing about him leaving you. You should enjoy the fact he’s around and telling you he loves you. It doesn’t sound to me like you have anything to complain about. Don’t make it unpleasant for him or you will lose him.

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      Leigh 

      3 months ago

      what if a man likes me but my 3 bestfirends also like him?should i just forget what i feel?

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      Lothania 

      3 months ago

      Im in love with this guys ok he says he loves me but im just afraid that he will leave me im so desperate ineed him so bad ithink im obsessed

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      3 months ago from All Over

      Sadie, you are thinking like a 9-year-old. Which is okay, because that’s what you are. When you get old enough to really be in love, you’ll discover real life is different to movies and romance novels.

      Let me explain to you, it absolutely makes no sense to ever say, “I would kill myself for the person I love.” Why would that ever be necessary? How could that possibly make sense?

      If you really love someone, how could you burden them with feeling somehow responsible for your death? (Even if you’ve broken up.) That’s not very loving.

      And if they love you, there’s no way they’d want you to kill yourself, even if they knew they were dying from a terminal disease. Nope, life (and love) don’t work like that. So please get that silly idea out of your head.

      You’re nine, Sadie. You shouldn’t even be reading articles like this one. Start reading about love advice in about ten years. Meanwhile, just enjoy being a kid.

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      3 months ago from All Over

      I have written an entire article here, Samaria. I suggest you read it and try my suggestions. I can’t think of anything more to add that might help you.

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      3 months ago from All Over

      Ah, Pretty allbright, you know you’re dreaming the same dream millions of people do, right? For some it is a pop star or movie star they’ve never met. For you it is a guy who comes to your town who you’ve never met.

      You are trying to trick him by lying to him. I believe if you are to have any chance of getting to know him, you need to stop with the lies and start being honest. Truth is “I’ve seen you around town and would like to meet you.”

      And be honest with yourself too. You haven’t loved him for two years. You’ve been obsessed with the idea of meeting him and him falling in love with you. That’s different.

      I suggest you be very careful how you approach the guy. If you throw yourself at him, he might just take advantage of you. It would be much wiser to step back and think carefully before contacting him again.

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      3 months ago from All Over

      Amstar, gaining perspective on childhood is an important part of the process of growing up and maturing. Yes, some teenage romances last forever. Mine didn’t. Despite thinking I was in love at the time!

      Don’t stress about it. Life is a journey. Wait and see what happens. If you don’t end up with this guy, you’ll probably get together with someone even more suited to you as an adult.

      He’ll always be your first love, but not necessarily your only love. Hope for happiness ... with or without him.

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      Sadie 

      3 months ago

      I havent tryed it yet and im only 9 yrs old and i would kill my self for the person i LOVE

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      Samaira Magar 

      4 months ago

      My boyfriend tells me he loves me and sometimes say i didn't love you

      How to make himself to love me?

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      Pretty allbright 

      4 months ago

      I have secretly loved him for 2years now,he doesn't even knows me buh just twice I saw him since den I've being thinking about him .we do not reside in same town he only comes to my town to visit his parents since his the university.today I took his number from a friend and texted him ,I lied to him dat I saw his number in my phone and he asked for pics which I did sent.how do I make him fall in love with me though his never seen me .plssssssssss help me

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      AMSTAR 

      4 months ago

      i and him are agemates,,we love each other so much and would like to get married and live together forever! we have been in a two year relationship and jst graduates from high school..am afraid of loosing him if he went to further..can you give me some hope?

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      What do you want to confess to him, Rox? That you think he’s a rude and arrogant teacher, and all students hate him?

      You said his eyes sparkle, but that’s the only nice thing you’ve said about him. I think you’re just dreaming. He sounds like a dreadful person to have as a boyfriend. I think you should just treat him like a teacher, do well in your studies ... and find a much nicer guy to be your boyfriend. Someone who is not rude or arrogant, and who doesn’t upset you.

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      Roz 

      4 months ago

      What Should I do ?I study at a university in a second time I have other degree, I have a young handsome teacher, only a year older than me. He's like me and I like him too ... In the university, he's always looking at me, and around me that's embarrassing for me and I never look at him. Sometimes I text him about duties and he answers me .. he's a rude & Arrogant teacher all students hate him, sometimes I'm getting upset of him because his way with us... just say sorry to me.. His eyes sparkle when his talk to me that's killing me ..but he doesn't say anything, What should I do? How I confess to him?

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      You’re young, Mia, and starting to learn some of life’s lessons.

      What I think after reading your story is that boy should no longer be your crush. He’s kissed another girl. Don’t stand in line waiting to be the next one he kisses.

      Find another boy who treats you with more respect. Or wait a few years before obsessing about getting a boyfriend. All the boys in your school will change as they mature. Wait until you can see whether or not they are worth your time and attention.

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      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      Prius, I am sure you will be a wonderful wife and an excellent daughter-in-law. But you are only 19 and this might not be the man for you. Now that you have discovered one man who treats you with respect, I trust you will never settle for a bad relationship again.

      I like to think you will hold your head high and wait for a man to earn your trust and your love before getting married.

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      Priya 

      4 months ago

      Sir, my guy name is nehal and we are from same place the ting is more than me he loves me cares me alot its like we are in relationship but he considers as bestie even though he introduced his friends cousins and own brother and everyone treats me like a princess and i told his cousins that i really love him i want to marry him more than everything after marriage i ll be good daughter in law to his parents as like they are daughter they were like dont worry we r there ll never live u but when i ask him will u marry me he ll be like no that i cant i asked him why he said noo because the thing is his 25 and m 19 so i have more to see my life he ll get married soon itseems at age of 28 i do know what matters here caste or standard all over his parents got love marriage...and i dont have dad only single parent that is only my mom and m only daughter but nehal never made me to feel alone when m sad he cheer up and smile when i get angry he makes me to laugh we have good understanding all qualities but i do know why he do want to marry me but he says dat after marriage if my wife comes i ll never live you i ll be with you till you get grey hair but sir everyday i pray god and cry that i want him in my life till i die because i have suffered alot in my life and i have seen and experienced all my bad incidents even bfr 1yr i got into 4 relationships but it dint workout everyone cheated me no one gave me the true love but what i expected m getting from him i do want to lose him in my life soo please do help me out from this

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      Mia 

      4 months ago

      My crush had told my friend he likes me. She came and told me that but I was too stubborn to listen to her. Then after that he started acting weird around me and didn't look at me in the eyes. The next day he hit me and ran I chased him and caught up with him. Before he left he said he had to ask me something and I was excited to find out what he wanted to ask me. Well the next day we had a basketball game and he never said nothing and avoided looking at me at the end. He sat behind me and was looking at me I could tell. All my friend kept saying was go sit with your boo he right there and it was so embarrassing because she said it out loud. And he left and went after him and we held hands for a little while but he never said anything about it. I was upset and he went out with another girl and they kissed

    • kenyaentrepreneur profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      Olivia, you need to give serious thought to the kind of relationship he's actually in. If he just has a girlfriend and no kids, sure you can try to make him fall madly in love with you. But if he's a family man I personally don't think it is fair to mess with his life like that.

      Plus if he leaves his family to start life with you, it might be you and your kids who get dumped in the future. So maybe just find a different guy.

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      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      Elizabeth, you are wasting your time being in a relationship if you believe you are in love with someone else. Plus it doesn't seem fair to the person who believes you're in a serious relationship with him. So I think you should make a decision and let everyone know what it is.

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      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      Benetta, leave the cheater behind you. There can never be a happy future with a partner who cheats. I don't believe any of us could really love someone we don't trust, and you obviously don't trust him. So I think you should find a better man and experience real love.

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      Daniel Long 

      4 months ago from All Over

      Seven years is more than enough time for your boyfriend to get himself together, Jackie. Hard to imagine you could be any more patient than you've already been.

      Moving on would be best, but maybe that will be difficult once you become his 'ex'. Maybe he'll start dwelling on the 'hurt' he'll have when you part ways.

      Sounds very childish though, if he can't appreciate the woman he's been living with for ten months. My vote would be for you to break up with the boyfriend and wait for a genuine loving man to take his place.

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      Benetta 

      5 months ago

      I love a guy n he love me too bt he cheat too much,what should I do

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      Elizabeth Yakubu 

      5 months ago

      I fall in love with my friend he always give me attention and his time i tell him confidently am in love with him but the problem is both of us are in a different relationship.

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      Jackie murphy 

      5 months ago

      I've been living with my boyfriend for ten months now. He says he loves me and cares for me but i dont think he's in love with me. He still not over the hurt that his ex put him through 7yrs ago. Should i be patient and give him time or move on?

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      OliViA 

      5 months ago

      Is it possible even he is in a relationship?

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      Chin 

      6 months ago

      I have a husband but we are separated, I meet my ex boy friend before and we felt that we still have this strong connection, though he has a live in partner and they have two kids, we still decided to see each other, and he told me that we will talk about our future, is he really serious about it? I just want to know what does he mean when he told me that we will talk about our future?

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      osofuye oluwabukola 

      6 months ago

      i've begin to fall with my classmate and he does not talk to me that much although we are friends he like to play with other girls in our class and whenever our eyes met he always winks at me or called my name does he likes me?

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      Mai 

      6 months ago

      hey says that LOVE it can be the best feeling or the worst feeling in the world

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      Unknown 

      6 months ago

      My friend just got out of a 1 year relationship and is still mad about it but a month after he saids he likes me and wants to get to know me in more than a Freind way but dose no want to get to deep cause he just got out of a relationship. He’s in year 12 but is always to busy for me and never texts me with me saying something first but does answer me when he can. I don’t know if I should still try or back off? Does he really like me or not? How do I know and what do I do?

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      Amy 

      6 months ago

      I am in relationship with a guy but he has girlfriend how to make him mine en see that he reaaly loves me

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      Lozh 

      6 months ago

      Loving is hateful sometime U think that the guy that U love is the best one for U but he is not really the best!!!never and never believe in man never

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      Gavi 

      6 months ago

      I am in luv but my boy doesn't give me anything or taking me for an outing and doesn't want to help me when I have a problem

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      Bridget chabushiku 

      7 months ago

      Men are difficult because they bahave sometimes like children.

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      Doris 

      7 months ago

      I like this guy and he told me that he sees me in a different way but when I told him that I like him, he kissed me. Then I asked him what we are and he said he only kissed me because he wanted to

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      Yasmin 

      7 months ago

      Hi am in love with a guy who we just met recently and he loves me too but he has a wife who cant have kids but am pregnant i am positive which i told him but we had unprotected sex but all he does is to blame him self for the mess he has put his wife in does he really love me or.

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      Rachel 

      7 months ago

      I'm in love with my bestfriend man but the guy approached me first,the guy claims he loves me and since January 27 he is proving to me how much he loves.he is so much insecure with me he claims he doesn't want to lose me and I'm scared bcoz he was dating my friend...He made me promise never to leave him no matter what.what should I do

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      Gifty 

      7 months ago

      I love a guy but I don’t know if he also love Me but he gives me all the needed attention

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      helenhelen 

      8 months ago

      I love dis guy but He loves another girl. Later he told me he loves me. But I found out dat de girl rejected him. Nd I think dats why He proposed to me. So I rejected him.. but I still love him. And He knew me before de other arrived. Wht should I do

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      Priyanka 

      8 months ago

      Hi , I met this doctor , whom we are consulting for my brother .. we interacted and he started to like my pictures and showed me interest but now after 1 day he has no interest in me. Please suggest what should I do to get his attention

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      gracie indira 

      8 months ago

      Hello guys...its like I have a crush on a man but its very difficult for me to make him mine.....please I need your advice.

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      peace 

      8 months ago

      I had a guy who love n care for me

      but he want n sleep with another girl

      What should I do.

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      Rija 

      8 months ago

      How do i force him to confess his love or likeness to me ? When we are from other cities ????

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      Bimbo 

      8 months ago

      This guy loves me and he gave me alot of reasons to fall for him..after falling for him, he dosent call or really have my time..and he claims to love me..Pls what can i do?

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Marian, if you are ‘in a relationship ‘ with a guy who is dating another girl, that’s not a good relationship to be in. I think you should tell him you’re or interested in being a part-time partner. If he’s not prepared to commit to you, look for someone else.

      It is not the kind of relationship you want. I’m not convinced he’s the type of guy you want (or need). So I don’t believe you should waste time or effort trying to ‘win’ him.

      The guy sounds to me like he’ll never make a good, reliable, loving partner. Look for someone better!

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      marian theric 

      9 months ago

      am in a relationship with a guy who is dating with another girl what must i do in order for him to be mine

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      Daniel Long 

      9 months ago from All Over

      Falling in love with someone who is married is always filled with problems. But there are certainly some couples who make it work and manage to successfully include a partner's children in their future family.

      Unfortunately I don't believe the married man you've fallen in love with is really in love with you. I'm sorry to say it but if he doesn't get upset when you argue, that's not a good sign.

      Plus if he doesn't want to meet your mother, that's probably because he doesn't want her asking if he's going to leave his wife and children and do the right by thing by you.

      My advice? I think you should drop him and find another man who you can trust. I don't think you want to be involved with this man, even if he does leave his wife and two kids.

      First, there's the problem of his heartbroken family. They'd blame you.

      But even more importantly, he's a man who has cheated on his wife and kids. If you ever become his wife and have children, how will you know if he is cheating on you? I believe you should find a better man.

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      Daniel Long 

      10 months ago from All Over

      Sorry, friends. I've just noticed I missed a bunch of comments but most people will no longer be looking for answers after a few weeks have passed so I won't take the time writing replies to all of them.

      But Bella, I'm writing to you (and others in your position) because your note troubles me.

      You said you were dating a guy for 5 weeks, had sex twice, then he started not talking to you. You asked me what I think you should do.

      In short, I think you should learn from your mistakes. Having sex with that guy was obviously a big mistake. But it is done now, so it is time to move on with a better, clearer idea of what you want out of life ... and what you expect from a future partner.

      I think you should be going to a doctor and making sure you're not pregnant, and not infected with a sexually transmitted disease. Then start fresh.

      Forget about the guy you slept with who no longer talks to you. And avoid all the many, many guys who would treat you the same way. There's absolutely no reason to sleep with a guy in such a short time. If a guy is genuinely interested in spending time with you and learning more about you, it won't bother him if you make him wait for sex.

      And I mean make him wait. Make yourself wait too. Sexually transmitted diseases are way too common in today's world, and that should be reason enough to avoid sex with anyone who is not committed to you and willing to stick around.

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      Daniel Long 

      10 months ago from All Over

      Neither of you will have a fulfilling relationship if he's gay, Red, so you'd better find that out before getting any more involved.

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      Daniel Long 

      10 months ago from All Over

      Treat him with respect, Vivian, and expect the same in return.

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      Red 

      10 months ago

      I think my man is gay what should i do i love him but just cant be with a gay man...

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      Pet 

      10 months ago

      I a guy n met a very handsome young fella. He approached me at the bus stop n started talking to me. Since then we are being hanging out like “couple”, I really like him to be my bf n it seems he also likes me. He is very special with me. I fell in love with him n would like he to be mine n just mine, to be together for the rest of our lives.

      But he never moves forward, what can I do to make him to start showing his love to me without hurting his feelings toward me?

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      FAVOUR 

      10 months ago

      GOOD ADVICE

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      Unknown 

      10 months ago

      A married man falling for me? We work together!

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      Josh 

      10 months ago

      I’m a gay man, I met a wonderful 21 years boy at the bus station. He asked me if I was also waiting for the same bus. We started talking n since then we are being meeting almost everyday, having tea, going to eat and just for a talk.

      I am falling in love with him!!

      Is an especial man!

      Sometimes he shows a very strong interest for me, but sometimes I feel like he is more into friendship but I know he would like to be my boyfriend.

      What should I do to make him to go to the next step without “hurt” his feelings and not loosing him?

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      siyu 

      10 months ago

      I think he has a girlfriend .But sometimes he smiles with me.I really really love him.what I should do to make relationship

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      Lizanny 

      10 months ago

      I really like him, he has talked to me about family issues and I did the same. In class he looks at me abd when I look back at him he looks away. I think he is trying to make me jelous beacuase he is dating one of my best friends but Im okay with that I just need to know if he likes me or not. What should I do?

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      Vivian torres 

      10 months ago

      im in a relation ship with this guy and i want to be his and only his how do i keep it that way

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      Teddy shelitah 

      10 months ago

      Thanks for the page we have learnt much

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      Mithzy 

      11 months ago

      Ok so, a week ago i meet my childhood friend at the mall of course i said hi. We were both surprised to see each other since we graduated two years ago. He complimented me on how diffrent i look and i asked him how he was doing. He immediately answered about his last relationship and how he hates his ex girlfriend, he gave me the whole story. I was surprised at first and we were also walking around the mall. He did tell me he dosent want to go back to his ex and he would jokingly say how girls find a guys butt attractive. I told him that im not like other girls and said that if i want to touch his butt he wouldnt care. He did tell me how he was doing at work and school, he even showed me one of his tattoo's on his chest close to his nipple, like he lifted his whole shirt to show it to me in public instead of showing from the top which surprised me. We had coffee were he would have direct eye contact, lunch, and exchanged numbers, we even hugged. Does it sound like hes interested in me?

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      Bella 

      11 months ago

      I dating these guy for 5weeks we had sex twice then he started not talking to me so please what should I do

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      Nosmilo 

      11 months ago

      i fell in live with a guy but he's got a girlfriend,and the girlfriend calls when we together although he told me he feels happy with me than with her,am confused what should i do?

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      tatiana 

      11 months ago

      i really like this guy but i told him i have a boyfriend since then he never talked to me plz help me

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      Joy 

      11 months ago

      I recently met with my child hood friend and we love each other but the problem is that he has a girlfriend and he first broke up with her because of me n then later went back to her and told me that he doesn't know if we are compatible with each other that she has been there with him when he needed someone I don't know what to do I really do love him how would I make him see that and make him mine

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      Michaella 

      11 months ago

      I want my boyfriend to love me and me only

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      adedamola 

      11 months ago

      i fall in love with a man with my favourite complexion and stature and i want him to be with me forever.how can i win his heart......i have his contact already.

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      bew 

      11 months ago

      He loved me, believed and feel more comfortable to talk. but I destroy it. It was not about cheating. he said he will never be together with me same as the past. But can be friends. How can i get him back and make him fall in love with me again?

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      Suzan 

      11 months ago

      I met this guy some weeks ago....I really like him...but I don't know how to make him chase me, am scared of rejection

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      amy 

      11 months ago

      im totally in love with this guy hunter in my class and he seems to like me but im not quit sure....

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      Scilla 

      11 months ago

      We have been dating for 3 years and i don't really know whether he loves me or not. He likes being around me and behave like best friends. What should i do to see his love

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      windy 

      12 months ago

      how do i know my bf loves me the way he claims to.

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      Rosebud 

      12 months ago

      I meet a guy and he asked me out but because he lies so much ,i told him i will think about it..

      because i broke up not long ago ,i decided to wait,

      this Guy keeps coming to my end with His friend for about 3times

      i speak much and more comfortable with his friend than him

      he disappeared for weeks and i called his friend to pass my message on and he did friend ,he still did not call

      His friend advised to try visiting him ,i told him i dont know his house ,he decided to direct me but i refused that if he cares he will call or visit

      i continued speaking with his friend and

      after some 2 months ,he then came back with stories that he loves me and so on

      i told him i will think about it

      my issue is i like his friend because he is real and a gentleman

      we have gone out couple of times ,Asked me out and i accepted

      we are dating

      this other guy is in and disturbing me.

      His friend is afraid to loose me and he feels he has betrayed his friend and doesn't know what to do but still wants us to continue

      what should i do ?

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      Novy 

      12 months ago

      Im married but my married don’t work anymore. We stay together just becouse of my doughter.I found a bf online and we feel both inlove we meet and we feel so inlove but suddenly my bf changes he don’t talk to me anymore. Do you think he still interested on me or no more. I told him to be honest how he feel he Said he loves me.

      But im confused the way he act.So i need to stop talking to him ?

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      Kumud 

      12 months ago

      I was in a relationship with a guy for almost 2 months and we know each other for like 3 years but the reason we broke up was that he told me that whatever he felt for me was not love but nothing less than love and I am a lot more than his friend...he dated me because he wanted someone to share his feelings and his everything.....I don’t know what does that mean....what should I do now

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      AM ZIGGY S.I 

      12 months ago

      MY GIRL LOVE ME I LOVE HER A LOT BUT SHE IS AFRAID OF ME IN SETING THINGS WANT TO ASK IS THAT HOW EVERY GIRL IS? OR IS SHE A PRETENDER

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      rashida 

      12 months ago

      hi I have a guy we are dating but I don't know if he really loves me

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      Kaileigh 

      12 months ago

      I like this dude but I don’t know if he likes me what do I do?

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      Ndaly 

      12 months ago

      I, ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for quite sometime,,,,the problem with him is that he replies to my texts whenever he feels like,,,he doesn't pick my calls,,,,when he finds missed calls he doesn't call back,,,,we had an argument the other day and i went as far as abusing him,,,then it was yesterday when i apologised to him and he forgave me but he hasn,t change,,,,he still ignores my texts and doesn't pick my calls,,,,what should i do,,,i love him so much,,,,i Don,t want to loose him,,,,,

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      florence 

      12 months ago

      i believe am loveable but i ended up falling in love with a wrong guy and left heartbroken

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      Zainab 

      12 months ago

      How will I know if my bf tuly love me

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      faithjepleting47 

      12 months ago

      ihave a man who claimed to love me bt i realised he wasin relationship with another girl so i walked away.recenty he realised that the girl never loved him now he wants me back.what to i du

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      rach 

      13 months ago

      So, I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. we have known eachother for awhile though but never talked to each other till recently. He was dating this girl for 2 years and they broke up 6 months ago , he messgaed me on instagram asking if i wanted to hangout sometime so i gave him my number! well we started texting for awhile but he isn't very consistent with texting and when we finally hung out i brought up how i always tect him for and he leaves me on read but then reply's to what i said couple days later. his reason was with school and work he has to work off his phone and my messages get pushed back and he would forget to reply, when he realized he forgot he had said it was too late to respond so i wouldnt bother. the next week he didnt talk much saying he had been, which i new he would be with what he had going on and moving out of his apartment that week. well he was active on snapchat at some concert so i thought i text him again and he never replied but still active on social media. i don't know if i shouldn't worry about it and text him again or just forget about it, maybe he isn't interested. i need help everyone i ask doesn't carer they just tell me i don't know. and i really need help figuring out what should i do.

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      SUKKI 

      13 months ago

      How can I communicate more with my partner

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      Laura 

      13 months ago

      I like this guy and he likes me too, but i don"t know what to do to keep him, i easily loose guys and i don"t want to loose this one . i want to know how to make him fall madly in love with me

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      natasha 

      13 months ago

      hi I like a man I don't know anything of him a friend introduce us and he sometime calls if I say hi but then he gets quit must I still keep on greeting him

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      Nancy 

      13 months ago

      I've been with a guy for nine years now but we haven't gotten married...l love him soo much and he also do love me but he cheats a lot.i do everything to make him happy but he still cheats.what can I do to make him stop?

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      Aiyana 

      13 months ago

      I need help I am 10 years old and there's this guy named Josette and I like him and he kind of likes me so I need your help he rated me a 6 so I need yall's help get him to fully like me

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