How to Become More Attractive to Women
Ever noticed how some guys seem to get all the girls?
What are they doing differently to you? What do they have that you don't have?
It might be easier than you think to be THAT attractive guy. I've asked women from many different backgrounds what they find attractive in men, and what turns them off. I've also added my own ideas of what I personally like and don't like in men.
The result is a list of some easy tips for things you can do right now to instantly become more attractive to women and greatly increase your chances.
At a Glance - Attraction Tips
- Focus on your good points
- Show your clean side
- Smell good
- Use the power of eye contact
- Good manners - who needs them?
- Be kind to animals
- Attention does not equal attraction
- Be yourself
Concentrate on Your Good Points
You really don't have to have perfect looks to be attractive. You don't even have to be conventionally good looking. Just being happy with your strong points can immediately increase your attractiveness to women.
To be honest, perfect might be fun to look at, but can be a bit too much for most women. It makes us feel worried that other women might always be throwing themselves at you. That's stressful and makes us feel insecure. We want you all to ourselves and we don't want to be fearful that other women will constantly be trying to steal you away. It's true that there are definitely women who will always go for Mr Perfect-Looks, but there are lots and lots of women who are looking for something a bit deeper.
What we really want is a guy who is presentable and confident. We want our men to be acceptable to our friends and our families, and to other women. It's a fine line for some, but if you can master it, you're the winner.
Here are some ways you can play up your stronger features and diminish those things you'd rather go unnoticed:
- Dress to suit your body type. If you're not sure, have a look at what other successful men your shape or size are wearing.
- Shapely backside? Wear good quality pants that sit well and show you off.
- Great hair? Invest in good hair cuts to make the most of it.
- Gorgeous eyes? Don't hide behind shades unless you're in the sun. If you wear glasses, get some professional help in choosing the most flattering frames.
- Warm smile? Use it!
- Work out? Wear clothes that show off your muscles in a subtle way. Clothes that are too tight or too small can look pretentious, so keep it natural.
Everyone has both good points and things they wish they could change. Focus on the good points and that's what women will see.
Dirty or Clean?
Women love a man who gets down and dirty at work or play, but if you're looking for a date, you need to also show your clean side.
Food stains on your clothes, dirty and scrappy fingernails and toenails, greasy hair, scraps of whatever you had for lunch in your facial hair ... these things are never attractive.
Of course, get sweaty at the gym, but also try to be seen after you've showered and got into clean clothes.
If you have a job that is particularly dirty, such as working with oil, go to the extra effort to clean up as much as possible. Women appreciate it.
When you are out with a woman, in her mind and to other women, you represent her and her taste. If you are dirty and look like you don't care, it reflects on her and it can be embarrassing.
Also, if she thinks you're a terrible slob, it's unlikely she'll ever consider a relationship, as all she'll be able to think about is how much work you're going to be when she has to clean up after you.
Make the effort to keep yourself and your clothes clean, and you'll be surprised how much more attractive you are to women.
The sense of smell strongly influences a woman's attraction to anything, not just men.
Most women tend to agree that there's nothing worse than a guy who smells bad ... sorry, but it's the worst turn off, and it's something that is one hundred percent avoidable.
Lots of factors can affect body odor ... the food you eat and how much you sweat, for example. Shower, wash your hair, keep fingernails and toenails neat and clean so nothing can fester under them, and give special attention to your feet.
Always be prepared and aware for when you might be prone to extra sweating - at work, sport or play.
Also, be aware of your breath, keep your teeth clean and carry mints or breath spray.
Sometimes it's hard to smell yourself, so ask a trusted friend, pharmacist or even a doctor, and purchase the right products to control it.
People normally won't tell you unless you ask, and once you know, you can do something about it!
On the other hand, a clean man's natural smell is highly attractive, so don't over use the highly perfumed aftershave or cologne. Moderation is the key. Mainly stick to a product that eliminates the stink and lets your natural aroma come through.
Connect With Your Eyes
So much has been said and written about the relationship between eye contact and attraction, it's a bit overwhelming.
The reason for this is that eyes can communicate more than any words or actions.
Simple ways to use your eyes to attract women:
- Notice her. If you like the look of a woman, catch her eye and hold the gaze just for a moment. Look away and then back at her now and then. If she's looking at you, and her face is relaxed, you have her attention in a good way. Give her a smile and take it from there.
- The eyebrow flash is a great way to acknowledge her or to gage her interest. This is when you quickly raise and lower your eyebrows while looking directly at someone. Much has been made of this as a sign of attraction, but I've found that it's more just a way of saying 'hi' privately or across a crowded room. Of course, if she's saying 'hi' that's a good sign!
- If she's talking, and she's not looking at you, keep watching until she does. Then, look directly into her eyes for a moment. This shows that you are listening and interested in what she has to say.
- The wink ... use it to share a joke or acknowledge something amusing that she has said. That way it's intimate and attractive without being sleazy.
- Don't overdue eye contact. Too much can become creepy and confronting. Hold her gaze just a little longer than you would when you're talking to anyone else, then look away and look back.
Use your eyes to communicate warmth, humor and interest in her, and she'll find herself naturally responding to you.
Good Manners Matter
Women always notice how you behave in public and in private.
Don't make the mistake of underestimating the power of good manners in attracting women.
From the moment of first contact, it's vital to impress her with your manners, as it will distinguish you from all the competition.
A woman wants to know that you are prepared to make an effort for her, and this is probably the simplest way. It is also very important to her that you treat others decently, no matter who they are.
Good manners - almost every romantic hero in history has this one trait in common. The reason is that this is what women universally want! Plain and simple.
Brush up on your manners, and treat women and men alike with respect. Women will appreciate you for it, and you will automatically be seen as attractive.
Be Kind to Animals
This might sound like I'm kidding, but you'd be surprised how highly this features on a woman's list of priorities.
Joking about your hatred of cats or how you permanently dealt with the neighbour's noisy dog might make you a hero amongst your mates, but it doesn't make you more attractive to women.
Don't mistake attention for attraction.
Sure most women will be polite enough not to openly show their disgust, though most will protest loudly and some might even laugh politely. Then they will go home to the beloved pet that you don't yet know about, and let it chew up your number.
There's a very good reason that photos of men showing kindness to animals go viral.
Women love them.
You don't have to pretend to love something that you really can't stand or that makes you break out in an allergic rash at ten feet, but keep your dead cat/bird/dog jokes to yourself ... at least until you know her better.
Attention Does Not Equal Attraction
As I mentioned above, do not mistake attention for attraction.
Lots of guys do things to get attention - they dress in an overly flashy way, they're loud or purposefully rude, they're crude, they brag, they're inappropriate ... the list goes on.
Just because women notice you does not mean that they are attracted to you.
Attraction is positive attention, and not all attention is positive.
It's okay to have a big personality, or to be the life of the party, but also take the time to gage how you are being received. If people are cringing, or laughing at you rather than with you, tone it down.
Be open to women, and don't be afraid to just be yourself.
Women usually have a much stronger intuition than men. If you are pretending to be something you're not, they will notice and become guarded.
Trust and honesty are immensely important factors to women.
The very best tip you can ever be given for attracting women is this ...
Be presentable, relaxed and confident in yourself. Be genuinely interested enough in women to care about them and how they think and feel. Be yourself.
Do these things, and women will love you.
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