Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.
How to Tell a Guy Is Interested in You
Perhaps there's a co-worker who has caught your eye. Or a fellow student in school with you who makes you weak in the knees every time he comes near.
You are interested in him, but how do you know if they like you? It can be embarrassing for you to ask your friends about how you can tell if he's interested. If you're shy, the last thing you want is for your friends to make a fuss. Or, even worse, to approach and ask him directly.
Here's a list of the top 50 signs that a guy may be interested in you. Look over them and see if any seem familiar.
Top 50 Signs He Likes You
- He leans towards you whenever you are sitting close to one another.
- He rarely turns his back on you.
- He smiles a lot and looks at you keenly.
- He maintains eye contact with you.
- He finds an excuse to touch you whenever he has the chance.
- He might try to make you jealous by flirting with other girls who are just friends to him.
- He will often show interest in things you like or that matter to you. This is an attempt for him to be closer to you.
- If he looks away quickly when you notice he is watching you, then there is a high likelihood that he likes you.
- He will be nervous around you—this is especially true if you haven’t known one another for long.
- He will have a seemingly never-ending smile on his face whenever you are around him.
- He will mimic, imitate, or try to do whatever you happen to do in the way you do it.
- He might tease you a lot, and this can especially be a massive sign he likes you when he doesn’t tease other girls around him
- He may playfully pinch your body, especially hands and cheeks.
- He starts many conversations. He asks questions and is interested in talking to you.
- He compliments and congratulates you, even when there is nothing big you have achieved to warrant praise from him.
- He compliments your make-up, clothing, or fragrance. This is a way of indirectly telling you 'I like you'.
- He may seem jealous when you are with other guys.
- He develops a strong interest in your social media conversations and comments. Suddenly he is commenting or liking your Facebook status updates or retweeting the tweets you have made.
- He may shower you with gifts.
- He prefers to be near you, even when he is supposed to be busy with work or attending to another important task.
- You receive lots of phone calls from him. He asks how you are doing and what you are up to. Does he call you often when he has nothing important to tell you? That's a sign.
- He will start acting nicer and more generous when you are around him.
- If he willingly says yes to everything you ask him to accomplish or do, he likes you. He most likely doesn't want to disappoint you by saying no.
- He does not want anyone to offend or insult you in his presence. He will defend you and make sure that you are safe and sound.
- He always wants to hang out with you and wants to introduce you to his friends
- He is less likely to allow you return back something you have borrowed from him before. He may tell you there is no need to return it and encourage you to keep it for yourself.
- He may call you sweetie, honey, baby, and the like.
- Does he say (or behave) like he misses you when you are away from one another for some time? He likes you.
- He will do things to make you laugh and stay positive.
- He will comfort you when you are having a hard time. He is the first one to say sorry when something unfortunate happens to you.
- He abandons whatever he is doing in order to find time to be with you and talk to you.
- When you are not around, he will ask your friends for clues about where you are.
- He may dress to get your attention and impress you.
- Body language signs of attraction is a sure way of telling if a guy likes you or not. Observe his body language to tell if he likes you.
- He will stare at you from top to bottom. If you see him running his eyes from top to toe, he has an interest in you.
- He will sit next to you, lean over you, or hover close by every chance he gets.
- He will ask lots of questions. He wants to know more about you and your opinions on varying topics etc.
- He wants to be seen with you. He doesn’t feel ashamed of the two of you being seen walking together, having a conversation, or having a great time. All that matters to him is you.
- He may tell you that you are beautiful and sexy, even if you don't feel it.
- He is your best companion when you are sick or not feeling well. He visits you and spends countless number of hours beside you.
- He will offer you unnecessary help to impress you and keep you happy. In the workplace, he may undertake some of your tasks.
- He does things aimed at proving to you that he is the most suitable man that you will ever find in your lifetime.
- He may offer you financial favors.
- He doesn’t mind spending on you and may spend his last dollar in order to impress you.
- He will want to be there for important events you may be having like graduating from college or celebrating a birthday.
- He will offer you support. This includes grabbing you by the hand to help you cross a busy highway.
- He will sacrifice his commitments to do something for you.
- He is generous with many nice and kind words.
- He will treat you better than he treats any other girl.
- When he starts sharing his personal secrets, you know he's definitely falling in love!
Remember to Observe Closely
There is no exact science that will tell you if a guy likes you back or not. However, there are many signs guys display when they are interested that can help you predict (or at least give clues) as to whether he likes you or not.
That said, it is hard to determine if a guy likes you as many factors come into play. Also, the behavior that you see in a man may not necessarily mean interest. Sometimes, only one or two signs may not be enough to make a judgment. Lastly, signs of attraction or love shown by one guy may not be the same used by another.
You should study the man from as many angles as possible before deciding whether he is into you or not.
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Questions & Answers
Question: I’ve been hanging out with this guy that I’ve been interested in for a month or two now, and he’s exhibited signs that were mentioned in your article, but I’m not sure. I have his number, and we text a little, but I feel really nervous about texting him because I don't want to come off as annoying. We talk incessantly when we see each other in person, but when we text it just seems like neither of us knows what to talk about. Is this normal and what should I do next?
Answer: Texting is very popular, but many people can’t actually talk face to face. You’re one of the lucky ones! It is much better to build a relationship in person so be happy that you and your guy talk so much when you see each other.
I suggest you just use texting to arrange your next meeting, for example, when and where to meet. Leave all the important news and fun chatting to when you see each other in person.
Question: I don't know if a guy I like is really into me, but he acts awkwardly when I’m around him. He tries to make me laugh, he stares at me a lot, and he likes to be close to me. Are these signs that he likes me?
Answer: Yes, those are among the many signs I’ve listed in my article. See if you can spot any more if you’re still not sure if the guy likes you.
Question: Can a teacher like a student who is eight years younger?
Answer: I’m guessing you’re the student. I have some friends who are teachers, and every year there are students flirting with them and sometimes even declaring their ‘love.’
It is not unusual to have a crush on a hot teacher. But that’s all it can be, just a crush. Why? Because teachers can get in huge trouble if they behave inappropriately with a student. Some teachers have even gone to jail because of it.
The truth is, my teacher friends are all in happy, loving relationships and have no interest at all in students. So while you’re dreaming about your teacher, I’m guessing he’s already living a happy life.
You should be concentrating on your schoolwork. Do well and graduate. There is the slightest possibility your teacher might someday consider dating you ... but you’d have to be old enough to have graduated from school.
Eight years is a big gap when you’re just a teenager. By the time you’re in your 20s, it won’t seem so big, but you know he’ll probably be married by then if he’s not already.
I think instead of wasting your youth obsessing about an older man who is out of your reach; you should be looking at guys your age. Aim to find a boyfriend among the students, not your teachers.
Question: What does it mean if a guys' face gets red when he is talking to you?
Answer: If the guy's face gets red when he is talking to you, I'm guessing he's either nervous or embarrassed. Either way, that's not a bad thing.
Don't make any comment about it because you'll only make it worse for him. I think the more time you spend talking to each other, the more comfortable he'll feel around you.
Question: I have a friend and we are seatmates at school. He tells me his personal secrets and his hobbies. He keeps asking me if I know who his crush is but I’ve mentioned every girl in the school, but still the answer is no. Would it be possible that it is me?
Answer: You have a few ways you could reply to find out if you are his crush. Which option you choose will depend on whether or not you are happy to be his crush.
If you just want to be friends, you should respond in a way that gives him a chance to say, ‘No, not you’ without being too embarrassed. So if you really don’t want him to admit you’re his crush, say something like ...
‘I’m running out of ideas. I hope you’re not going to tell me it’s me!’
But if you’re happy to be his crush, you could say ....
‘About the only girl left in the whole school is me.’ Then wait and see what he says.
If you like him a lot and want him to know it, simply say ...
‘It would be nice if it was me.’
My final suggestion if you want to force him to say he has a crush on you, instead of you having to ask if it is you ...
‘If you want me to know who your crush is, you’re going to have to tell me. I’m not guessing anymore.’
Question: How do I ask someone to be my boyfriend?
Answer: There's a process to follow before you can expect someone to be your boyfriend. You have to know each other well enough to know that you actually like each other. Being a proper boyfriend or girlfriend requires an element of commitment. So I'd expect you'd have been dating for a while before asking him to be your boyfriend. In which case, just ask him.
If you haven't even gone out at all yet, just ask "Do you want to go out sometime?" That will begin the process.
Question: A guy I know looks at me for short periods of time in class, and he just kind of tries to make me laugh, but then again, he always tries to make anyone laugh. Does he like me?
Answer: Well, he doesn’t ‘not’ like you, or he’d probably ignore you. It sounds like he’s a friendly, outgoing kind of guy. It can be really hard to read what’s going on in that kind of guy’s head.
Don’t stress about it. Just enjoy any attention he’s giving you, and wait and see what happens in the future.
Question: What does it mean if a guy makes direct eye contact and smiles at me?
Answer: Talk with the guy. You’re not going to learn anything much about each other if all you’re doing is looking and smiling.
Question: What does it mean when one of my crush's friends says something in front of me, and then he says to his friend, ‘Hey if you’re going to say anything, you better say something nice’?
Answer: I’d say your crush cares about your feelings, or he’s trying to teach his friend to have good manners. Either way, he sounds like a nice guy.
Question: During a youth trip, this boy always walked beside me and was always protecting me. He even asked why I was crying that day. He was really worried. Does he like me?
Answer: Isn't it nice to know there are nice guys in the world who make an effort to care about someone in need? He sounds like a good guy who stepped up to help you during your difficulties on the youth trip.
But I think you should be grateful for his help without expecting him to continue his kindness now the youth trip is over. Don't confuse kindness with romantic interest. I think the guy was just being kind. Good on him.
Now it is time for you to get yourself together and move on with your life on a daily basis. If that guy doesn't have a role in your daily life, you shouldn't have any expectations. Just be pleased he helped you when you needed it. But don't think that being 'needy' in a general sense is going to attract his attention. That's not what builds a romance.
Question: What does it mean if a guy says 'yes' to everything I want?
Answer: If he says ‘yes’ to everything you want, I’m guessing he’s trying very hard to make you happy. I hope you appreciate how rare that is!
Question: What if he is a womanizer and you have a crush on him? How will you know if he likes you?
Answer: Your question raises a few possible answers. I'm guessing you're saying you have a crush on someone but don't know if he's a womanizer. So you're wondering how to tell if any guy is a womanizer.
If that's the case, I suggest you could be asking others who know him. Has he had lots of girlfriends? Do his relationships last very long? You could also be asking him the same questions.
But maybe your question is slightly different. Perhaps you already know the guy is a womanizer but you still have a crush on him, and you're asking me how will you know if he likes you. In that case, I'd be suggesting it doesn't matter if he likes you or not. The guy is obviously trouble and destined to break your heart. So I don't think you should waste time and effort on him. Find someone else to have a crush on.
Question: Only four out of these fifty signs happened to me. Does my crush like me?
Answer: Four out of a possible fifty is not very encouraging. I think maybe you like him more than he likes you. If he doesn’t become warmer to you soon, I suggest you move on and look for another guy.
Question: There is a guy nurse at my mom's nursing home. He calls me 'babe' and says, "Why are you not here more often?" Yesterday, when I was going in the elevator to see my mom on the second floor, he said, "Hold the elevator. I will go for a ride." Does this mean he likes me?
Answer: Two possible scenarios spring to my mind. One is that he likes you, yes. The other is that maybe he's bored at work and just looking for ways to amuse himself and get out of other tasks. I guess your mission will be to figure out which option is most likely.
Strike up a conversation and learn more about him. Ask him how long he's been working there and if he likes it and that kind of thing. That's a good starting point, I think. There's nothing to lose just chatting with the guy if you think he seems nice and you're interested in him.
Question: If while playing tag a boy always tags me, does this mean he likes me?
Answer: If he keeps tagging you, he’s chasing you and touching you. But maybe you’re just easy to catch.
I don’t think you should get your hopes up just yet. See what happens in the future.
Question: A guy always looks at me all the time. Does he like me?
Answer: This article gives you 50 signs a guy likes you. If the only sign you're getting from the guy is him looking at you, I don't think you should be getting too excited. Keep an eye out for some of the 49 other signs I've listed here.
Question: Does he like me if he calls me Princess?
Answer: It depends on how he says it and what's going on at the time. Sure, calling a girl 'Princess' might indicate a guy likes her, But it also might be used sarcastically if the girl is acting 'precious' and being too demanding.
Take a look at how you behave and decide whether he's calling you that because he values you and thinks you're special, or if he's trying to tell you that you seem to be too demanding and not very easy to get along with.
Question: I have a guy best friend. We call each other husband and wife because I said he was my husband and now he calls me his wife. But then I noticed he called me cute, and he says he misses me. Does he like me?
Answer: It certainly sounds like he likes you. He’s obviously very fond of you. But does he like you in a romantic way? It is hard to tell from a distance.
There are 50 things to look for on my list from this article. If he fits the description for the majority of them, I suspect he’s smitten.
The power of suggestion is a remarkable thing. If he’s telling you you’re cute and he misses you, maybe he’s starting to imagine you in the role of his future wife.
Or maybe he’s just a big softie. Either way, he sounds like a nice guy to be around!
Question: I slept with a guy and after we slept together he tells me that he has a girlfriend. I met his girlfriend and things were very awkward. At first it seems as if the guy loves me. My friends think that I'm loose for sleeping with this guy...but I love him. How do I solve this? Does he love me?
Answer: What a shame you’re in such an awkward predicament. I’m guessing by now you’ve figured out you’re not really in love with the guy. You might have thought you were before, and I guess you were hoping for a love story with a happy ending, but that doesn’t sound very likely.
I sure hope you used protection. And I hope you’ve learned enough from this experience to know in the future how important it Is to talk with a guy and get to know him before sleeping with him. At least find out if he has a girlfriend or not.
A guy who cheats on his girlfriend is not a guy worth having. If he cheats on his current girlfriend, he’d probably cheat on you too even if you were his girlfriend.
Do I think he loves you? Sadly for you, no I don’t. I doubt the guy loves his girlfriend either. I suspect he’s chasing physical contact, not emotional involvement.
So I think you should view this encounter as a life lesson to help you make better decisions in the future. And I think you should tell your friends you made a mistake and will be more careful in the future. Ask your friends to help you feel better about yourself because I’m thinking you need their support right now.
Question: People always say that it looks like this boy and I are dating because of how we ‘act,’ when we’re really just friends. But then, most of his friends say that we’ll be perfect together, and he keeps denying it, but he keeps calling me pretty, beautiful, the cutest girl in the world, etc. What I don’t get is why he doesn’t want to say that in front of our friends, but when we’re alone he would say it. What does that mean?
Answer: This is a conversation you need to have with your guy. Ask him. He’s the only one who knows the answer.
If you become more affectionate in private, he may become more confident in front of his friends.
Question: What if a guy puts his arm around me guiding me out of a restaurant? Does he like me? He also called me really precious, but I don’t know if he likes me. I really like him.
Answer: Putting his arm around you to guide you from a restaurant is another excuse for touching someone we like. That’s a positive sign.
Calling you "really precious" suggests that he values you. It sounds a bit quaint and old-fashioned in a kind of sexy way. It is not a standard kind of line that rolls easily off the tongue, so I’m guessing he’s sincere.
If you also see him doing most of the things on my list, I’d say he’s definitely interested. So if you like him, I think you should cozy up.
Question: If a boy shoves me with his shoulder then he smiles at me, does he like me?
Answer: There are better and clearer ways of showing affection. Bumping a girl with your shoulder and grinning sounds like the kind of thing a young boy might do if he likes a girl. Yes, he may well like you, but I’d expect to see more than pushing and shoving before being convinced the boy was mature enough for any relationship.
Question: I have this guy whom l met just three weeks ago, and l like him. Until today, I thought he liked me too. We don’t talk. Actually, we have never talked. He just keeps following me. But since three days ago he is acting differently. Different as in not noticing me, and not even saying anything when we are alone. Do you think he doesn't like me?
Answer: So you met the guy three weeks ago, and he followed you around, but you’ve never actually spoken to each other, even when you were alone. Gee, that sounds awkward.
How can the guy even know if he likes you? What does he know about you? He might have been interested enough to follow you around for a few weeks, but if neither of you was brave enough even to say hello, I’m not surprised he gave up.
You’ve never talked. If you want any chance of getting to know someone, the silence needs to be broken. So if you think you like him, just say hi to the guy.
Question: How do I get the phone number of a guy I like?
Answer: The best way to get the phone number of a guy you like is to ask him if he wants to swap numbers. There's no point getting his number if you're not going to use it so don't bother being sneaky about it. Otherwise, you'll just be stressing about how and when, if ever, to call it.
If you've swapped numbers, he shouldn't be surprised if you call or text. Plus he will be more likely to contact you because you offered your number to him.
Question: How do I tell my best guy friend that I really like him?
Answer: The simplest way is to ask, "Can I talk with you about something please?" (So he knows you’re serious and he has to pay attention.) Then say, "I really like you. Is that a problem for us?"
You can’t be positive what he’ll say, so be prepared for a further discussion that could go either way. Just in case he’s never considered dating you and is uncomfortable with the idea, be ready to deal with that.
You might need to say something like, "That’s okay, I’ll get over you. We can be just friends if that’s how it has to be."
Or if you really can’t stand the thought of him dating other girls in the future, and you don’t want to be his friend and to have to be nice to them, it might be time to start putting more distance between you and finding other friends.
But if you believe there’s real chemistry between you, give it a try. It would be a shame not to try being a couple just because you were both too afraid to raise the subject.
Question: What does it mean when a guy you like stares at you, and when you look up, he turns red or blushes?
Answer: I’m guessing the poor guy is shy and feels embarrassed when you catch him looking at you. If you’re interested in him, you could at least start saying hi to him.
One of you has to make an effort to get a conversation started; it might as well be you.
Question: If he always wants to talk to me and also always looks at me, does he like me?
Answer: From what you’ve said, I’m guessing he likes you. Otherwise, why would he bother talking to you?
If you want to go out with him, you could suggest going somewhere together. Just work it into one of your conversations.
Question: What if he lives across the street and we were talking one day, and when I went to say ‘bye’, we kissed multiple times. What does that mean?
Answer: I’m not sure what it means emotionally for either of you. I do think you need to be careful though. Becoming too intimate too quickly can spoil a blossoming relationship.
I don’t know how old you are, but I hope you’re old enough to understand you don’t have to kiss a guy just because he thinks it is a good idea.
If he lives across the street, you don’t want him putting the hard word on you all the time. Make sure you’re confident to say ‘no’ ... as many times as it takes to have him treat you with respect.
I’ve known way too many guys over the years who are just racing to get physical. A kiss is nice, but the pressure to keep kissing leads to pressure to do more.
So you ask me ‘What does it mean?’ I don’t know the guy, but I suspect it means he’s just after physical contact. If he were after ‘romance’ or a proper girlfriend, I’d expect him to be treating you with respect. Asking you out, trying to be helpful, all those kind of things.
Question: What does it mean when a guy gets close to my face and winks at me?
Answer: If that's the best the guy has to offer, I can't see why you'd bother with him. Firstly, he's not a good communicator. Why isn't he using words? Secondly, he sounds kind of creepy. Who does that kind of thing?
I think you should wait and see if he can behave like a normal human being before getting excited about spending any time at all with a guy who just gets close to your face and winks at you.
Question: Should I dump my boyfriend because he hates my best friend for no apparent reason, and she was in my life first?
Answer: Choosing between your best friend and your boyfriend should not necessarily be about who was in your life first. In many ways, it has to do with who is likely to be in your life longest.
Trust is also a factor. If your boyfriend hates your bestie for no apparent reason, you have to wonder why.
If you trust your friend and there’s no reason for your boyfriend to be acting strangely towards your friend, then yes, dump the boyfriend. Find a guy who is not so weird and controlling.
Question: If a guy I just met is giving me candy and trying to impress me, does it mean that he has feelings for me?
Answer: Maybe he likes you. Giving a box of chocolates is seen as a romantic gesture in many cultures. But just sharing a handful of sweets could indicate that he merely has a sweet tooth.
You’ll need to look for more clues than just the candy.
Question: What if the guy avoids me, but his friends say he likes me?
Answer: Either his friends are trying to make him uncomfortable by setting you up, or he’s too shy to approach with you.
But if you like him, why don’t you just talk to him? Preferably when his friends aren’t around, so he doesn’t have to worry about what they say.
Question: My friend gives me hints that he likes me. For example, his really good friend said to me "Go run to your boyfriend," and I was like "He’s not mine." And he said ‘That’s what he told me."
He also called me babe and said "I’m your boyfriend" under his breath. What should I do?
Answer: Set him straight. Tell him he’s your friend, not your boyfriend. Tell him you like him as a friend and not to get creepy on you, Then link arms with him and say, "Let’s go talk with our other friends and get things back to normal, okay?"
I think it is always wiser to make a quiet and smooth transition back to ‘friends’ instead of having an ugly confrontation and outright rejection.
Question: There is this boy who sits in front of me in one of my classes. He's really hot, and he called me babe and wanted me to call him babe. He also pretends not to look at me, but I can tell he is. Does this mean he likes me?
Answer: I can think of a few reasons why he did the ‘babe’ thing. He might be showing off, or he might have a bet with his friends, and maybe he actually likes you.
I think you should talk with the guy and see if he can keep a conversation going. If he’s not mature enough to do that yet, you’ll just have to busy yourself with your studies and wait until he grows up a bit. Trying to get you to call him ‘babe’ straight up does sound a bit childish. But he might someday develop a personality to match his good looks so don’t write him off forever.
Question: Is it possible for a guy to love me and not know it? if yes, how do I make him realise it?
Answer: In theory, I suppose it is possible. If you’re spending lots of time together, perhaps step back a bit and make him seek you out. See if he misses you enough to chase you.
I do struggle a bit with the idea of a guy being in love and not knowing it. Unfortunately, in my experience, it is quite common for one in a couple to be more in love and committed than the other. Those relationships tend to fizzle out sooner or later.
If you can’t get the kind of attention from him that you want, it might be time to look for a different guy. One who loves you and definitely knows it.
Question: How can I get over being nervous and panicky when I want to or when I talk to my crush?
Answer: I’ve written an article outlining what I think are the best ways to overcome shyness:
Question: I like my old classmate, but I’m not sure how he feels. I feel the chemistry, and he said he liked me, but he never really makes moves, and isn’t really a touchy-feely dude. What do you think?
Answer: If you’re a young woman and he’s a young man, you could plant a kiss on him and see if that gets his attention.
If you’re a young girl and he’s just a boy, I suggest you wait until he matures. There will be plenty of time when you’re both older.
Question: There is this guy in my church who says he likes me. He has exhibited all the signs shown in your article, but I do not like him. What should I do?
Answer: Letting someone down gently is difficult, but it is worth making an effort. Being rude or nasty to the guy who likes you just creates bad feelings and tension. Some guys react badly to rejection, but if you don't like the guy you have no option other than rejecting him. The question is 'how?' and I have a few thoughts on that.
I'll write an entire article to help you with this question as soon as I get time. When I do, I'll post a link to it at the bottom of this post here.
Question: My best friend’s brother has a crush on me, and I think I might like him back. What do I do?
Answer: I’m thinking you should probably talk with your best friend and see how she feels about it. If she’s happy about you possibly dating her brother, that’s helpful. If she’s not, you might have to decide how much you value her friendship. It could get complicated if you and her brother were to break up, for instance.
You need to decide if her brother is worth the risk to your friendship.
Question: I have been talking to a guy for two months. We have become very good friends, doing late night chit chat. He shares everything with me, like his personal problems or whatever is going on in his life. Do you think he has a crush on me?
Answer: I wish I could simply say ‘yes’, but it is more complicated than that. It sounds to me like you are friends on the internet. I’m thinking the two of you may have never met. If this is the case, the man you think you are friends with may not even really exist.
Yes, some people meet and eventually even marry after getting to know each other online. But sadly, it is more common for people to be deceived by an online ‘lover’. Old men with wives pretending to be young, single men. Sometimes even women pretending to be virile, young men. That sort of thing. It is easy to create a fantasy persona and deceive people online.
So, do I think this guy has a crush on you? No, I don’t. Not in the way two people who see each other face to face in the real world can develop a crush.
I truly believe it would be a big mistake to even consider developing any kind of online ‘romance’. It is not safe to reveal your identity, where you live or where you work to someone who is essentially a stranger. They could be stalking you and you’d never know. (Even if he’s sent you photos, they may not really be him.) And you should NEVER send intimate photos of yourself.
I understand you are enjoying the company and attention, but I fear you are walking through a minefield of potential problems. Please look in the real world for your future partner. Don’t allow yourself to develop a crush on someone you don’t really know ... and don’t allow him to develop a crush on you. Too much can go wrong.
Question: I love this guy in school. We met in the library. He is so beautiful. I love him even when he is not at school. I feel weakness in my legs. But how do I know if he loves me back?
Answer: It’s great you’ve found a guy you’re attracted to, but don’t forget you’ve only just met him. A bit early to be making declarations of love.
But, you’re excited and that’s fun ... as long as you don’t end up in tears and grieving the love that never was. Because, quite honestly, there’s not much chance a guy you’ve just met in the library will be feeling ‘in love’ with you before you’ve ever spent any time together.
You like him. Maybe he likes you. There are ways to tell, but asking me is not one of them. You’ve seen my list of ‘50 Signs a Guy Likes You’. See how many of the signs I listed can be matched with your guy.
If you can identify 30 or more of those hints when it comes to your guy, I believe you’re safe to assume he likes you. But in your case, I’m guessing you don’t know him well enough yet to know how he behaves in different situations.
So I suggest you resist the temptation to obsess about your ‘love’, and just make it your goal to get to know the hot guy a bit better before worrying about how much you like each other. Otherwise, you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment.
Don’t be one of those girls who end up sobbing for weeks, claiming she’s ‘heartbroken’ about a guy she never really knew.
Feeling attracted is far more common than actuality ‘falling in love’. Attraction is part of the fun part, so don’t spoil it. Just enjoy trying to get to know him better.
Question: My crush asked me to dance; then he offered to play ping pong with me. Sometimes, he stares at me. What does this mean?
Answer: He obviously likes you enough to ask you to dance and play ping pong with him. That’s a good start. Talk with the guy and figure out if you get along and how much you have in common.
You don’t have to like the guy just because he shows interest in you. You’ll need to get to know him better before you decide.
Question: What do you do when a guy asks you out on a date?
Answer: You either accept his invitation, or you turn him down gently. Either way, I think you should thank him for asking you.
I believe it is appropriate to set a few guidelines when accepting a date so there’s no room for confusion later. For instance:
‘Thanks, that would be great. But you need to know I’m not interested in any kind of physical relationship right now, so I understand if you want to change your mind. But if you’re happy to go and hang out and talk and get to know each other better, I’m up for that."
If he tries to cross the non-physical line, you should confidently remind him of your agreement. But if you do want to get physical, like kissing, you’ll need to revise your rules. Otherwise, you might get stuck in the friend zone forever.
Question: So there’s this guy I like, (I’m a boy), and he likes to “hit” on me. Like saying really sexual stuff and I really, really like him. Today I was drinking water and there was a small crowd. I heard his voice and I looked up and he said “making my way through the crowd” to get to ME. I said hi. And then he introduced me to the crowd as his boyfriend. And we’re not even dating! Please help me. Does he like me? Because I like him.
Answer: Either he really likes you or he’s a natural flirt who likes to be the centre of attention. Sounds like a very romantic gesture if he’s genuine. But you won’t know how sincere he is unless you perhaps have mutual friends who can offer an opinion. He sounds like fun though. Time will tell if there’s a real relationship to be had. I suggest you enjoy his company and attention, but don’t give your heart away just yet. You’re on a bit of a roller coaster ride by the sound of it.
Question: Recently a guy has been looking at me and he smiles most of the time, but he didn't ask for my friend request or even follow me. Neither has he made a move. What should I do?
Answer: You haven't said you actually like the guy, but if you do like him, then I suggest you put on your brave face and say hello to him for starters. Just chat with him briefly as you pass by and see if he responds by talking to you when he sees you as well. That's the best way to figure out if he is interested in getting to know you or not.
Face to face contact is so much better (and clearer) than a feeble friend request online. You could take forever trying to decide if he likes you, or you can start talking with him and see what happens.
Question: This boy and I used to date, but only for a day, and I’ve liked him ever since. I went out with him and my friends, and he was looking at me, and we were throwing stuff at each other, which my friend called flirting. I don’t know if he feels the same way. What should I do?
Answer: Here's what I think you should do. Keep enjoying his company, and keep flirting if it feels right. But don't make a bigger drama out of this situation than it deserves to be. Only a young person would say, "We used to date" when they only went out once. You both have a lot of changes heading your way as you age and develop, so I don't think you should spend too much effort stressing about it. Keep sight of your age and immaturity, not that it is a bad thing. Just know that you'll be an adult soon enough, and that's the time to focus on actual dating. For now, just have fun.
Question: What does it mean if my crush told me he didn't want me to keep on hurting myself, but in a nice way? He compliments my boots. He asked me if I was good, because I was crying because something personal happened?.
Answer: Your crush sounds like a nice guy. Caring and concerned. It sure sounds to me like he cares about you.
It also sounds to me like you definitely should not be hurting yourself. You want your crush to respect you, so make an effort to respect yourself. For me, it is hard to like someone when I'm busy feeling sorry for them.
We all have bad days, and of course, it is okay to cry sometimes. But don't base your friendship with this guy on him feeling sorry for you because you self-harm and cry.
I think you should put on the boots he likes and walk up to him confidently and start a conversation about something bright and happy so that he can see you at your positive best. Lift your head (and your heart) and enjoy his company. Even if it doesn't turn into a great love story, it sounds to me like your crush will be a good friend.
Question: There's a guy who is always staring at me. He once escorted me home and asked for a hug. When I hugged him he immediately kissed/smooched me twice.
I'm so confused because I once saw him with love bites but he said he's not dating.
What do I do next?
Answer: Here’s what I think you should do. Look at the evidence, and accept the guy is not really someone you can trust. So he’s not really someone you should bother dating.
Someone was obviously into him enough to give him love bites, but he didn’t acknowledge them. That’s rude.
He asked you for a hug, then moved in for kissing. Why didn’t he just ask you if you mind if he kisses you, instead of ‘tricking’ you into getting close?
And here you are now, feeling confused. So he obviously hasn’t made you feel like you’re really special and he only has eyes for you.
I think the next thing you should do is keep your distance from him, and look for / wait for a nicer guy to get involved with. I suspect the current guy will be making moves on as many girls as he can. Don’t get caught up playing his games. Just walk away from him and get on with your life!
Question: I have a boyfriend who works in an outside country, but he doesn’t text me and he gives nothing, does he love me?
Answer: Sadly, you obviously don’t think he loves you. If you believed he loves you, there’d be no need to look for ‘50 signs a guy likes you’ ... and then write to me.
Here’s what I’m thinking. If your boyfriend can’t make you feel special and loved in the early stages of your relationship, there’s not much hope he’ll make the effort in future years.
So whether he loves you or not isn’t really the main issue. Because you can’t confidently feel whatever love he might have, I believe you should dump him and look for another boyfriend.
If you are going to have a long term relationship, you need a partner who makes you feel loved and respected. This guy doesn’t do it for you so there’s no point wasting time waiting while he’s overseas. I think you should tell him it isn’t working for you and you want to break up.
© 2012 Daniel Long
Jacinta on September 10, 2020:
Also one of Sebs best friends calls me His Girlfriend.
Btw, I can't talk to him properly face to face
Jacinta on September 10, 2020:
I have a crush. My BFFT likes him too, but she already has a so called " boy friend ". I think that Seb likes me back but I'm not entirely sure, he has shown some of the signs on your list. Is it weird to be glad that everyone knows your Cush in the grade ? He looks and smiles at me, one time we sat next to each other and we nudged ( moved ) closer together, we had a laughing moment, we have stared at each other before, I think sometimes he try's to act cool around me ( but idk ) and I'm gf, it was someone's birthday and he was handing out ice blocks, he gave one to me and said " can you have them ? " ( I think this shows he cares ) What does anyone who has had experience think ?
Ellen on August 22, 2020:
Hi, I’m interesting in a guy he is on the committee of my RSL club I see him when I go there every time or at the shop he owns when I see him I feel happy to see him I know he has been looking at me and I do too even when I’m close to him he smiles and sometimes our finger touch each other when we both give each other money I just realised that his face goes red when I’m close to him, I just want to know are these the signs that he likes me
Crush on August 03, 2020:
Are there any tips on how can I get his number. We are good friends and if I ask him for his number I am afraid that he'll not like me. Please help me.
Novela on August 02, 2020:
Ok, I really tried to connect with this guy I like but I just don't know if he's interested and we aren't close or even in the same class so checking for these are kinda hard and now that I have confidence we don't have school TwT what should I do?
Felicity on July 18, 2020:
Mary on June 29, 2020:
I have a guy his name is emma u no wht i dot no if this guy likes all he jt want sex from cause wht he does,he does not cal me ,he introduce me to hs frind,when am around him we laugh ,we start joking ok when we ar together we feel happly .do u think ie love me?
Eliana h on June 20, 2020:
I like this guy and I don't know if he likes me or not
Other mom on June 09, 2020:
Yes you could improve but also this is good.
OMOWUMI on May 29, 2020:
I noticed that a cute guy is madly in love with me,But he is to shy to tell me.
Meow on May 28, 2020:
I don’t know what to say
Izzy on April 17, 2020:
He does mostly all but mostly the guy in my class does 3 4 8 11 and 20 ya he like me i kinda new it from da start lol
Emily on April 14, 2020:
What of time flies when you're talking with him? Cause if so we like each other and can you show you like him two?
Ethan k on April 12, 2020:
He is so cute and handsome . But he does hi Dreyahna you so nice to me .
Queen on March 31, 2020:
There is this guy i liked...i told him about my feelings and he said he feels the same way too...but it cant work out that he has a girlfriend..and that we can be friends,which we are now
He calls me bestie, he calls anything ge feels bored and likes playing alot with me...and looks straight into my eyes like he wants to say something but could not ....what do you think?
Anonymous on March 30, 2020:
I just met this guy at med school and i have known him for 6 months and as surprising it is we call each other best friends, we cuddle each other a lot and i feel like he likes being a bit physical(not in an inappropriate way),people say he looks at me a lot but i havent noticed and he denies having feelings for me and instead asks me if i have feelings for him and i told him that i dont thi k of him in any other way, its a bit complicated between us and we spend a lot of time together like study, groceries etc and he basically has told me a lot about himself. Somethings that only a giy friend of his knows i dont know if he likes me, and is being in denial since i told him i font feel anything for me or i am overthinking.one last thi g-we know each others ohone passwords and we kinda have no secrets and we r like partners in crime
chase from Nigeria on March 27, 2020:
We have been dating for over 4month now he is asking me to come over...he his asking me for sex also
Paula on March 27, 2020:
What does it means when a guy just pike you for two weeks
Ashly on March 24, 2020:
This kid does all these things. Im nervous. I dont know what to do!
Ur mom on March 23, 2020:
I legit came here to check accurately if this is good or nah, it’s pretty good but I think you can improve it a bit
Skylar Graves on March 22, 2020:
I knew this guy for a while and one day he texted me heart emoji with eyes.Soes this mean he likes me?
Dakota on March 15, 2020:
Theres a boy in my class and he seems to have a liking in me he always wants to be near me he hangs around me and he’s so comfortable around me he drinks my stuff and acts like nothings wrong with that and then he stands up for me and makes me laugh all the time and I enjoy being around him, he’s reallyyyyyy nice to me and I hope he doesn’t see this
Mariah on March 11, 2020:
my crush does all of these things what should I do
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
Good luck, hekk. Enjoy the journey!
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on March 07, 2020:
Cadencevega, your crush is not ready to date yet. There's nothing wrong with that. Keep being friends and maybe you'll get together some time in the future. Or maybe you'll grow sick of him and move onto being interested in somebody else. That's life.
Don't let your friends spoil what sounds like a fun relationship. They're making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be. I suggest you just continue being the same way with him now as you were before.
hekk on March 04, 2020:
Ummmm... Im a guy. Don't get me wrong, I am a straight man. Im just reading this to find out ways to flirt better with my best friend/crush. I want to know what they will notice.
Cadencevega on March 01, 2020:
My crush is two years older then me. He’d always hug me, talk to me, and sit in classes we have together. Every time at lunch he’d call my name and say hi then hug me, we’d talk and hangout until lunch ends. Since a week ago on Friday (today’s Monday) my best friends told me he called me cute and said he’d date me but he isn’t ready to date now. After my best friends told me this my stomach got butterflies, I didn’t believe them. The next period (class) he said hi but just talked to my best friends
A guy on February 26, 2020:
Lots of these are true but if you take somting from him and he doesnt say anything about it he likes you
Goldycorn on February 08, 2020:
I just found out that is kind nice sweet boy likes me thank you
lebo on February 06, 2020:
i like it
Gillian on February 06, 2020:
There's a boy in some of my classes and sometimes he can be really nice to me but he also annoys me on purpose, he also steals some of my stuff sometimes and messes around as well as shipping me with a lot of other boys. Is it possible that he likes me?
Megan on February 05, 2020:
I have WAY too many crushes...
katie thompson on February 05, 2020:
This are really good steps
A fucking guy on January 29, 2020:
yeah a lot of it is true, but not all of it
Nicole Osagie on January 22, 2020:
I love the steps yay
OMG on January 13, 2020:
I have two people that. Like me.
Shivakshi on January 08, 2020:
It was so useful for me to know that a boy likes me and these all sings came true.. but still I am in a doubt that does that person love me or not . So please can you tell me any 1 Singh that he likes me and it should be 100 percent sure.Please
Bella on December 29, 2019:
If a guy asked me out before and I said no,then the next day he tells me he likes my best friend.Does that mean he likes me?
Stephanie on December 27, 2019:
There's this guy i have a crush on, he always keeps starring at me den he smiles after wards buh am not sure if he truly loves me back
Puki on December 20, 2019:
I like a guy from my university.. He is a scholar, i told him how i feel about him.. In response he told me to study,i am not mature enough to handle this situation thats y i should study... My masters are over but he still in touch with me.. Some times he tells me why i am not visiting university.. He is still giving me mixed signals after knowing how i feel about him.. I dnt know what to do with it..
Gabriella on December 15, 2019:
I have likeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Ummmmmm 1 crush and these tips are great
jessica on December 14, 2019:
I think a guy likes me he's always trying to make me laugh and smile, he's always talking to me, and he stares at me a lot. I like him as well.
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on November 24, 2019:
You haven’t given me enough clues to know how much he likes you, unknown. Work through my list of 50 points and look for more than just talking, joking around and eye contact.
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on November 24, 2019:
Bella, he’s your best friend, not a stranger. You should be able to talk with him directly. Maybe say something like, “Do you think our relationship has changed a bit lately?” Then tell him you sometimes feel like you’re getting a crush on him and ask, “Is that weird?”
Start the conversation and see what happens. You’ll soon figure out if you should back off and tell him it is okay, you’re over it ... or if he feels the same way.
unknown on November 21, 2019:
i like him alot idk if he likes me too. we talk and joke around and soooo much eye contact. i like him sssssssssoooooooooooo much ugh idk my bestie likes him too. she does not know i do. do u think he likes me back?
Dayianna on November 21, 2019:
Idk now if the guy i like likes he does like to talk to me a lot
Bella on November 20, 2019:
I have a crush on my best friend we have become closer and he always stares and smiles at me. If I catch him staring he will stare back. He also told me he was nervous but not why. Does he like me??
Miliani on November 07, 2019:
Um idk now if a guy like me but he always stares at me every day and sometimes when he is starring I look at him and he looks away. so yea
Shhh Its A Secret on November 07, 2019:
It was a long time ago but I liked him and he said he did'nt feel the same. He showed so many of these signs... So my life was a lie. :3
Allison on November 03, 2019:
I like 2 boys but Idk Who to like.but one of the boy lifted his eyebrow at me everyday at class,lunch,at the bus.The other boy just look at me or nowhere. So what should I do and one of the boys help me at the bus someone say I have big head and he say no you do to the person can me big head.So idk what to do can you tell me .(bye bye).
Jayden on October 29, 2019:
..this is for a friend I was never on here
Ramona Rosario on October 18, 2019:
Well the guy dont have a phone but this will help me know more about him
Bna on October 17, 2019:
So I met a guy a week ago we exchanged numbers an we’ve been texting back an forth he calls an FaceTimes me all day everyday does he like me. I really like him. We met on his birthday which was also my daughters birthday. He seen me in a crowd of people an kept his eye on me the whole time an later after his fight (he’s a wrestler) he come looking for me. Please help if you can
Priscilla on October 13, 2019:
I like a boy but I don’t know if he likes me back
B lasagna on October 11, 2019:
For number 19 I thought it said gifs instead of gifts
Debby on October 04, 2019:
Hi this boy seems to like me. I like him he ask me if i would go out with him but then said his friends dared him. he seems to like me he trips me makes fun of me and smiles a lot what do I do?
Lilly on October 03, 2019:
thanks that really helped me
Anxious on October 02, 2019:
I like a boy in my chior. Is there a way to hint at this without being too obvious? I don't want to be embarrassed in front of him.
kayla on September 19, 2019:
i like this guy and everyone always says he likes me even his best friends say he likes me. How can I really tell?
Star on September 17, 2019:
I have a best friend who is a boy. His friends told me he liked me but he doesn’t act like it. But sometimes he shows the signs that he does.
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on September 16, 2019:
Tough being ‘That Girl’ who lacks confidence. I understand what you’re saying. Here’s a few thoughts for you ...
We all take risks when entering any relationship, even with general friends. Yes, we might get hurt by people we choose to trust. But you won’t know unless you try.
Please don’t blame everyone else in the world for the damage your family caused you. There are actually lots of good people out there who will be worthy of your trust and friendship.
Your family messed up your childhood. Don’t let them mess up your adult life as well. Try judging everyone you meet on their own merits, instead of fearing they will disappoint you like your family has.
You sound very likeable to me! Let yourself be yourself and see what happens with the guy you like. He might not be ‘the one’ but that’s okay. The experience of getting to know him is part of the exciting journey of ‘life’.
You have to drop those walls sooner or later. Remain guarded when it comes to your family ... but don’t be afraid to let others enter your world.
No need to rush into intimacy. As you become more confident and comfortable in yourself, you’ll find a new ‘normal’ where you do actually trust someone enough to become intimate without fear.
Life is exciting. Look forward to the future ... and leave the hurt of your childhood in the past. I know you can do it!
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on September 16, 2019:
The answer is simple, Faith. You say hi and you chat with him whenever you get the chance. It would be lame to blurt out ‘I like you’ so don’t go there. Just talk about general stuff and see how you get along.
Sounds like you both need time to build up confidence, so just start with conversations that don’t create pressure. Later on when you feel comfortable with each other, one of you might suggest going out.
Hi on September 14, 2019:
I think my crush likes me :)
That Girl on September 13, 2019:
hey, im really just a girl that really likes a guy. I like him a lot, and I know that he won't like me because well I'm me. He has been getting close with my 2 best friends and i keep getting jealous, my other friend says that that is a good sign but I just don't see it. maybe its because I grew up with a horrible family and little to no trust in me but I don't know. I want him to like me but I'm also scared at the thought of being in a relationship. I'm scared to become intimate and I have no idea why. I want to be normal and feel safe and feel like I can hug him and kiss him but the thought of that makes me scared, I think it could be because I'm scared that if I let down my walls... thye aren't gonna get build back up. And I also know that you gotta have trust in a relationship, I know that because that's my main thing for ideal relationships. And I want to trust him but there's that part that's scared to open up and possibly get hurt again... I don't honestly know what to do... but I guess I'm fine.
faith rich on September 11, 2019:
i like this boy but i don't know if he feels the same way how do i let him know without even telling him
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on September 09, 2019:
Some guys like a girl to be jealous, but I don't see it as a good quality. The world is filled with people who still talk with an ex. It doesn't mean they still want to be together. It just means they are nice people who are civil and not rude.
Why are you wasting time and effort being suspicious and thinking he is lying? That sounds like a really unhealthy relationship. If you don't trust him, don't be with him. Either accept what he says and have a nice time together, or walk away.
Sure, you might end up with a broken heart if he ends up doing the wrong thing by you, but that's a risk we all take in every relationship ... whether our new love has an ex they talk to or not. I personally think trust is very important. I would never want to be with a partner who didn't trust me.
Meg on September 08, 2019:
We sort of like each other but i a year younger and he’s going to high school next year
Barabara on September 07, 2019:
This guy stalks me he have pinch my checks and hug me and have push guys away me just to talk to me
kwandour on September 02, 2019:
My boyfriend is lying to me saying he broke up with his ex and I ask him he told he doesn't want to see her anymore I don't know if he is lyung or not coz they are still talking what can I dodo?
Grace on September 01, 2019:
hi I Ave know this guy for over ,,5 months we are very close he loves spending time with me do compliment my make up tell me am sexy take me on a date we do chat but he don't say a word we both pretend we are cool I don't know if he have fellings for me
AbiiGaile on August 22, 2019:
Hi. I'm just gonna share this story. This guys is the man I like from the class and he is the President... One day, all my classmates are blaming me non-sense for not bringing the thing that I was assigned to bring but I sincerely, wasn't informed. So he took all the blame I received saying that "I should be the one responsible for this because I erased her name and assigned another person to bring it so it's all my fault" that's what he said but I didn't hear it. It came from my friend who also blamed me for what I did which is OK for me... Well, this guy also gave me compliments that I have a good singing voice and I'm confident. Just sharing...
WillowLikesBailey on August 20, 2019:
My friend is called Bailey and I've been friends with him for years and I've liked him for years. I don't know what to say to him because I don't know if he likes me to!!!
kiwineedshelp on August 15, 2019:
i need help.this guy is a family friend. lives abroad but comes like once a year and stays at our place for 3 weeks. and it just i am so so so confused about it all. does he like me does her not what is even going on? So he does stare at me alot and finds ways to hold my hand .we go to the movies eveytime he and his family visits us. the last time a whole bunch of us went and i sat at the very end and he sat in the start of the row with my brother and his brother. then he started looking around and once he spotted me he got up and sat next to me and it was so nice. i didnt even ask him to do that and i was crushing real hard. we talk to snapchat and he sends me snaps throughout his day. idk what is going on? and he always always always buys me shit when were out shopping. he will always pay for the food and even though im continously stopping him he doesnt stop. he just says " no im going to pay you already know this " he begs me to play sports with him and I AM A MESS SOMEONE HELP ME HES COMING NEXT MONTH I NEED TO KNOW THIS IS URGENT
Yad on August 03, 2019:
He is actually 8yrs older than me , he does most of the thibgs on the list above .. Meaning he is in love with me ...He mostly asks if i like him and when i say no ,his mood changes .. I dont want to like him coz am scared he might dump me but he is truly caring ,always there for me ,if i am to like him, he must be mine forever or not at all.help me what should i do ??
Sandeep Aulakh on July 14, 2019:
I really like a boy but there is a problem may be he likes me or not
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on June 23, 2019:
If he wants to be close, I’m guessing he likes you, Betty. But I think you did the right thing putting space between you to protect your reputation. Keep talking with him. Figure out if you actually like him ... or just like the attention.
Shawna#23476 on June 19, 2019:
Betty on June 19, 2019:
I was out camping with some friends and one night one of them, who I was caressing him, decides to sleep next to me when he had his stuff at a spot next to his guy friend. For awhile we were very close to each other, that at the end I decided to move away from him because I didn’t wanted my other friends to think something else. Point is what does it mean when a guy randomly decides to sleep next to you? Does that mean anything?? He hangs out with other girls but like I can’t stop thinking about that night. Like why did he end up sleeping next to me if he was gonna be more comfortable with his friend who had pillows and blankets,
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on June 18, 2019:
Ivy, it might be time to make clear to him you’re glad he’s a friend ... and that he’ll be able to give you advice when the time comes that you’re looking for a boyfriend. He should get the message you’re not interested.
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on June 18, 2019:
It sounds to me like.the three of you are young, Isabella, and he’s just having fun. ‘Cheating’ will take on a whole new.meaning when you are older.
Ivy on June 17, 2019:
Omg one of my friends fits all of them now i'm getting nervous cuz i don't like him like that...
Isabella and Her friend on June 17, 2019:
Hi, so we have the same crush. His name is Jhair, And some of these listed things are what he does. He looks at my friend, IS ALWAYS around her, and he likes imitating her. He also like to do this to me.
Jhair LOVES to cheat/play on other girls. He also as a girlfriend too!
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on June 17, 2019:
Tough question, Fordlove714. If he was 27 without children, I’d be thinking it’s only a matter of time until he wants kids. But he has two kids, and maybe he’s thinking two is enough. So yes, he might be genuine.
However you obviously still have concerns. I guess the question you have to ask yourself is whether his current attention (including in the bedroom) is good for you right now. If it suits you to have his company under the current arrangements, any improvement in time and commitment will be a bonus.
But if you want to be confident your next relationship will be lifelong, maybe he’s not the right guy for you. We both know that people change when they get to their thirties. Unfortunately there’s no way of guessing just what changes he’ll go through. Perhaps he’ll be your perfect partner long term. Are you happy to stick with him long enough to find out? If you’re prepared to try, it might end in heartbreak ... but that’s a risk we take with every relationship.
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on June 17, 2019:
He certainly likes you, Daisy. Whether or not he likes you romantically is hard to say. But I think you should continue enjoying his attention and see what happens as you get older.
Fordlove714 on June 13, 2019:
So I'm 45 and involved with a 27 year old. I didn't realize he was 27 when we starting spending time together, although he was aware of my age. I don't really know our status but we've been spending time together for about 2-1/2 months. He's not always consistent when we make plans. He's married but in the process of getting divorced at least that's what he's told me. I'm also married but separated. I like him but I'm trying to figure out if he's really genuine and how he feels about me. He calls me sweetie, babe, love and other pet names. He also holds my hand when we're out and is very affectionate. We text often but sometimes he doesn't text back for hours or sometimes a day or 2. He is very busy with his 2 boys, work and school so I try to keep that in mind but I still feel like I' don't have any priority. Not even sure I should expect that when he has young kids. I've tried to break things off several times but he always becomes more attentive when I do. We also started sleeping together. He has told me that he wishes that we both didn't have the ties that we have so we could be more free and less stressed but I don't really get that since he and his soon to be ex don't even live together. Don't know what to think or how to feel. Do you think he really wants to be with me and that he's being genuine?
Daizy on June 12, 2019:
look there's this guy who keeps teasing me at school,he stares at me a lot and when ever I'm upset or angry he will often make me laugh.Does he like me?
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on June 07, 2019:
Why do you think he’s a liar? I think he likes you more than you like yourself. I suggest you enjoy him saying such nice things to you, and accept that you’re a nice person and he does actually like you.
Kelsea on June 06, 2019:
So this guy is always complementing me and calling me nice names always talking bout how he misses me wen I come home from college at I'm thinking he may be lieing how can I tell he's not
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on June 06, 2019:
To the girl in first year of high school this coming school year, with a crush on a young man graduating from college, here’s my reply.
You really have to accept that you’re just dreaming. There’s no way in a million years a guy that old is going to wait for you to become old enough to interest him, and date.
You’re going into high school. Start thinking like a high schooler and wait until you’re an adult before setting your sights on older men. You won’t have much fun at school if you can’t accept your peers as your best social group. Don’t be impatient. Enjoy your youth!
khushi on June 05, 2019:
Daniel Long (author) from All Over on May 26, 2019:
This advice might surprise you, but here's what I think you should do regarding the three guys who like you, Human.
Because next year they'll all be going to Boy's college, I think you should just continue enjoying the company of all three of them and not make any decision to choose one and upset the other two.
Might sound kind of crazy, but I'm thinking it makes good sense to wait for a few years and see how they all turn out as they mature a bit more. It is nearly impossible to guess how they'll change ... and one of them might be just perfect for you in a few years. Seems to me like it is worth the wait so you get the good one.
Human on May 18, 2019:
So, I am confuzzled.
I have three close male friends, and all of them show some signs of liking me..
One of them straight up told me (and one of the other two) that he likes me. He will jump up and down when he first sees me in the morning, or just speed-walk to me. He talks with me a lot, but when I leave, he will supposedly not talk with the other two.
The second one always makes jokes, and he is constantly getting distracted from important things when I'm around. He'll stop doing his school work during class time just to talk to me.
And the last one... He is the strangest...
He'll find ways to talk with me, and him and I talk on Discord all the time. During class time, he'll play with my hair, tease me, and wrap his arm around my shoulders.
Thinking about it, they may actually have crushes, but if they do, they might want to tell me before the end of this year. This year is the last year that we will be able to see each other at school, because next year they'll be going to Boy's college.
Erina Rina on May 07, 2019:
He doesn’t like me
I do everything but he doesn’t like me more
School girl on May 01, 2019:
Does he like me if he constantly rubs his shoulder against me?
Joel AKA ~roxy~ or ~trexy~ on April 24, 2019:
i really think a good guy friend of mine likes me. and he kinda does all of this signs. his brother said he likes me and his friends too and when they say that he is just smiling
Rather not say on April 13, 2019:
There is this boy that I liked for a long time and two of my friends seem to have liked him in the pass now I told them I have feelings for him and one of them are trying to hook me up with him the other one I am not friends with anymore. So now he has been a little flirtatious but he is always playing around with me and the girl that is trying to hook us up. I know he is not a player because we grew to be best friends. I love him to death but I don't want to ruin our friendship. A lot of girls in the pass broke his heart ,like my friend that is trying to hook us up , but she didn't really do it. So ima try to get more closer then next year ima tell him I have feelings and hopefully take my vCard. Thanks for listening
cant it be me on April 13, 2019:
I love someone. that's the truth. I cant change the fact that Im still into him even though we don't have a relationship. we have an age gap and also he has a girlfriend. I check all the signs to proove something when someone ask me why him? but still have no signs. What can I do to make him fall in love with me or make me his fallback or like me or be his friend. im a first year highschool this coming school year and hes graduating from collage. I think im probably inlove to someone who thinks its just a puppy love because im too young. So can you answer my question. just answer it once. thank you
Soconfused on April 08, 2019:
My crushs friend does things to get me to notice him and it can really be annoying sometimes, but I found some of these signs coming from my crush, so now i'm confused. Someone please reply!
Z on April 07, 2019:
For the past 2 years, I've been getting closer to my childhood friend. we only met 3 times as kids. We often meet up in group settings with our friends and family. He often hangs around me when he could talk to anyone in the room. He's very quiet (I think its because he doesn't know what to say; like starting a conversation) But for some reason, he's been getting really confident and talking and hanging around me a lot. Whenever we're together, we could literally talk for 2 hours or more. He'll find ways to tease me and laugh (innocent jokes). We have good banter and often times, I'll be on one side of the room, trying to not seclude myself in the corner for too long, he'll follow me around like a lost puppy.
Another funny thing he does is how he always has this intense stare. As if what I'm saying is life or death lol. All my friends know him and how he acts and are saying that this is different. That he doesn't give everyone the same attention he gives me.
I keep telling them he would never like me and that he's just comfortable around me but now I don't know what to think.
Jasmine on March 19, 2019:
See when my crush looks at me my friends tell me then I look at him a he turns his head quickly