50 Signs a Guy Likes You

Updated on July 17, 2017
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

How to Tell a Guy Is Interested in You

Perhaps there's a co-worker who has caught your eye. Or a fellow student in school with you who makes you weak in the knees every time he comes near.

You are interested in him, but how do you know if they like you? It can be embarrassing for you to ask your friends about how you can tell if he's interested. If you're shy, the last thing you want is for your friends to make a fuss. Or, even worse, to approach and ask him directly.

Here's a list of the top 50 signs that a guy may be interested for you to look over and see if any seem familiar.

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Top 50 Signs He Likes You

  1. He leans towards you whenever you are sitting close to one another.
  2. He rarely turns his back on you.
  3. He smiles a lot and looks at you keenly.
  4. He maintains eye contact with you.
  5. He finds an excuse to touch you whenever he has the chance.
  6. He might try to make you jealous by flirting with other girls who are just friends to him.
  7. He will often show interest in things you like or that matter to you. This is an attempt for him to be closer to you.
  8. If he looks away quickly when you notice he is watching you, then there is a high likelihood that he likes you.
  9. He will be nervous around you — this is especially true if you haven’t known one another for long.
  10. He will have a seemingly never-ending smile on his face whenever you are around him.
  11. He will mimic, imitate, or try to do whatever you happen to do in the way you do it.
  12. He might tease you a lot, and this can especially be a massive sign he likes you when he doesn’t tease other girls around him
  13. He may playfully pinch your body, especially hands and cheeks.
  14. He starts many conversations. He asks questions and is interested in talking to you.
  15. He compliments and congratulates you, even when there is nothing big you have achieved to warrant praise from him.
  16. He compliments your make-up, clothing, or fragrance. This is a way of indirectly telling you 'I like you'.
  17. He may seem jealous when you are with other guys.
  18. He develops a strong interest in your social media conversations and comments. Suddenly he is commenting or liking your Facebook status updates or retweeting the tweets you have made.
  19. He may shower you with gifts.
  20. He prefers to be near you, even when he is supposed to be busy with work or attending to another important task.
  21. You receive lots of phone calls from him. He asks how you are doing and what you are up to. Does he call you often when he has nothing important to tell you? That's a sign.
  22. He will start acting nicer and more generous when you are around him.
  23. If he willingly says yes to everything you ask him to accomplish or do, he likes you. He most likely doesn't want to disappoint you by saying no.
  24. He does not want anyone to offend or insult you in his presence. He will defend you and make sure that you are safe and sound.
  25. He always wants to hang out with you and wants to introduce you to his friends
  26. He is less likely to allow you return back something you have borrowed from him before. He may tell you there is no need to return it and encourage you to keep it for yourself.
  27. He may call you sweetie, honey, baby, and the like.
  28. Does he say (or behave) like he misses you when you are away from one another for some time? He likes you.
  29. He will do things to make you laugh and stay positive.
  30. He will comfort you when you are having a hard time. He is the first one to say sorry when something unfortunate happens to you.
  31. He abandons whatever he is doing in order to find time to be with you and talk to you.
  32. When you are not around, he will ask your friends for clues about where you are.
  33. He may dress to get your attention and impress you.
  34. Body language signs of attraction is a sure way of telling if a guy likes you or not. Observe his body language to tell if he likes you.
  35. He will stare at you from top to bottom. If you see him running his eyes from top to toe, he has an interest in you.
  36. He will sit next to you, lean over you, or hover close by every chance he gets.
  37. He will ask lots of questions. He wants to know more about you and your opinions on varying topics etc.
  38. He wants to be seen with you. He doesn’t feel ashamed of the two of you being seen walking together, having a conversation, or having a great time. All that matters to him is you.
  39. He may tell you that you are beautiful and sexy, even if you don't feel it.
  40. He is your best companion when you are sick or not feeling well. He visits you and spends countless number of hours beside you.
  41. He will offer you unnecessary help to impress you and keep you happy. In the workplace, he may undertake some of your tasks.
  42. He does things aimed at proving to you that he is the most suitable man that you will ever find in your lifetime.
  43. He may offer you financial favors.
  44. He doesn’t mind spending on you and may spend his last dollar in order to impress you.
  45. He will want to be there for important events you may be having like graduating from college or celebrating a birthday.
  46. He will offer you support. This includes grabbing you by the hand to help you cross a busy highway.
  47. He will sacrifice his commitments to do something for you.
  48. He is generous with many nice and kind words.
  49. He will treat you better than he treats any other girl.
  50. When he starts sharing his personal secrets, you know he's definitely falling in love!

Remember to Observe Closely

There is no exact science that will tell you if a guy likes you back or not. However, there are many signs guys display when they are interested that can help you predict (or at least give clues) as to whether he likes you or not.

That said, it is hard to determine if a guy likes you as many factors come into play. Also, the behavior that you see in a man may not necessarily mean interest. Sometimes, only one or two signs may not be enough to make a judgment. Lastly, signs of attraction or love shown by one guy may not be the same used by another.

You should study the man from as many angles as possible before deciding whether he is into you or not.

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      Daniel Long 19 hours ago from All Over

      Holly, girls are just as difficult. We all have trouble getting to know each other. If there’s a guy you particularly like, talk with him and make it easy for him to talk with you. That’s your starting point.

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      whymeholly 24 hours ago

      Why do guys tell you they don't like you when in fact they do? Why do they lie about that? Or do they just think that you don't like them back in the same was? Why are guys so difficult?

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      Daniel Long 3 days ago from All Over

      Happy to help you. Here’s what I suggest you do. Thank him for asking you out, ‘because it was fun having someone want to date me at such a famously romantic time’. Then quickly say ‘But I am so not ready to date. It is okay for you in Year 11, but I’m still in Year 9 and finding this whole process is something I’m just not ready for. So please, will you be my friend again and help things get back to normal?’

      That should do it. When he agrees, as I’m sure he will, grab him by the arm and drag him off for ice cream or to do something you do as friends. Don’t miss a beat. Move straight into friend stuff and you won’t have that awkward stage.

      If he looks shattered (which would be inappropriate given the short time you’ve been dating), give him an ‘excuse’ for his friends so he won’t felt foolish. ‘As much as I hate to admit it, I think I’m still a kid. You need to date someone older.’ That’s a really easy and diplomatic way to exit, and it leaves the way open for you to easily date someone else when you feel the time might be right.

      I’ll be interested to hear how you go, if you feel like writing back.

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      Dont know what to do 5 days ago

      hey, I am friends with this guy, he is in grade 11 and I am in grade 9. And on Valentine's day, he asked me out, I thought I liked him more than just friends, but when we started "dating" , I just started avoiding him without realizing, and he just asks me to hang out all the time, but I keep saying that I have things to do. And I have made a promise to myself before, its like a standard. It is that I would never date anyone shorter than me. I do realize that is hard because myself is 5'8. i also talked with my friends about it, and they said that I should tell him how I feel, and not lead him on. However I really wanna be friends with him, and I don't know how to "break up" with him without getting him hating me and other stuff. I read a lot of the tips you gave to other people, and I thought that you will most likely be able to help me out.

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      Daniel Long 7 days ago from All Over

      Hi again, Lidie. Early teens is/was a tough time for most of us. Lucky the years pass and things get much better! Is it your friends who ‘torture’ you, Lidie? What do you mean? Tell me the problem and we’ll figure out a solution. Can’t wave a magic wand but I’m pretty sure I’ll have a few ideas to help. :)

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      Lidie 8 days ago

      Umm... They torture ME!

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      Daniel Long 8 days ago from All Over

      You say you're a fairly young girl. It certainly sounds like the guy you like is young as well. I suggest you wait while you both mature. I don't believe he's yet at a stage to be much of a partner and it would be a shame to waste what might be a great relationship in the future.

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      yesmuchname 9 days ago

      I'am a fairly young girl and a hopeless romantic, I like this guy and I'am having trouble understanding if he likes me. We have the same group of friends so we met like that and we have been pretty close for almost 2 years now. I've liked him since I laid eyes on him yet he is strange. He doesn't have the best social skills and that's why I'am having trouble. He teases me endlessly, he often writes or doodles on my arms or my notebooks. I've noticed that he blushes around me and he often touches me or bumps into me. I've asked him multiple times if he had a crush and he always says, "no". He only acts this way with me, yet sometimes I can catch him being a bit too 'friendly' around this other girl when I'm around. I plan on confessing soon but I feel like I may get rejected.

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      Daniel Long 10 days ago from All Over

      Some people just don’t want to have kids, Tessi. And at 27, he might not be ready. If you want to have a child I think you need to have a heart to heart talk with him, telling him how you feel. You might have to choose to walk away and find another guy who is ready to be a parent. This guy seems great for you in many ways, but it sure doesn’t sound like he’s interested in long term commitment. At least he’s not lying to you or giving you false hope. Got to give him credit for that I guess.

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      Tessi... 10 days ago

      Since May last year I met a younger guy...,,he shows me all the signs mentioned... we are ok together there are not always arguments and the relationship is stress free....the problem is am 44 and he is 27..... he is not the same nationality as me....not the same religion as me......this guy plans to travel with me...we talked... but if I asked him when will he get married or will have a kid...he goes silent.... what's going on....

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      Daniel Long 12 days ago from All Over

      Lidie, you should give more attention to your friends and stop boring them about your crush. You’re going to need friends by your side as you grow up. Take my word for it, a crush is normal but an obsession isn’t. Your best friends have given you fair warning. Let it go ... before they let you go. Do I think he likes you? No, not in the way you’re hoping, dreaming, obsessing. You’re a child, Lidie. Your time will come, and that’s something to look forward to. But do yourself a favor and stop trying to be older than you are. I think you should plan movie nights with your friends and other fun stuff for your group without torturing them with talk about your crush. It is just part of growing up. We all have to go through it but don’t make it hardest than it needs to be.

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      Lidie 2 weeks ago

      I am kindof friends with this really cute guy and I really think he likes me... He usually starts conversations and compliments me alot! He stares at me sometimes and when I turn to look at him, he turns away... He shows off when I am around. I really ike him... My best friends tell me I have this 'Obsession' since I talk about him alot... He is in 9th grade and I am in 7th but I guess it is fine cuz' my friend has crush on a 10th grader and s he i s in the same grade as me. When I turned 12 I felt VERY obsessed of my crush... I feel as if he likes me, do you? I need advice, can anyone give me?

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      He sounds like a good friend, Dee and because you have so much in common and spend so much time together it would be a shame to play this wrong. I don’t know how old you are but I’m thinking you should just continue the way you are ... and leave the future to Fate. Maybe he’ll be your boyfriend one day ... or maybe he’ll help you get your foot in the door of a Hollywood film some day. I think you should be patient, enjoy his company and wait and see what happens.

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      DeeDee 2 weeks ago

      I like this one guy in my class first period...he was new from another school about a month or two after school had already started. I was the first person/girl he knew since I see him first every day haha. But he told my friend that he finds some things about me unattractive after she assumed he liked me when she saw him and I walking together, as we do normally every day after first period. But yet, he ALWAYS compliments me on things like my outfit and stuff, and he always pokes at my sides and tries to make me laugh. And once I told him that this creepy dude liked me and he said he would fight him off so that the creepy dude would leave me alone and another time I told him this weird kid touched my butt and he told me to let him know if it happened again, sounding mad about it. Him and I both like the same music and want to become actors as a career and we're both in drama club right now. I'm just realllllly trying to figure out if he likes me or not!! But one more thing, he doesn't know I like him....

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Sorry Ard, I don’t know how gay guys respond so I’m not one to be offering advice. All I’d suggest is that you wait and see if he makes an effort to get to know you. At this point though, everyone seems to think he’s straight so you’ll have to be discreet until you figure out what’s really going on. But I’m guessing you already know that.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      There’s a huge difference between Year 12 and Year 9. When you’re in Year 12 you’ll view Year 9 as ‘kids’ (like you view Year 6 kids now.)

      By the time you’re 18 and he’s 21 you might have a chance. The age gap won’t seem so big then.

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      Ard 2 weeks ago

      I have a crush on this dude and I kind of think that he likes me too before I have a crush on him. Lately, I came out as gay to everybody and he also knew. And then I kind of found out that he likes me (I think). The reason why I start to have a crush on him is because before, I mean like in 2 weeks ago, I was in my class, and was about to sit at my place and then I felt like someone was watching me. So I turned my head to him and we literally maintained our eye contact for like 2-3 seconds and then he threw a big, sincere, bright, shiny and excited grin to me which literally melted my heart. I responded to it with a cute smile. And then recently, he started to treat like in an unusual way a guy would treat a guy. He would touch my hand on purpose by giving an excuse like "May I take a look at your rings?", looked at me from head to toe but not in front of me, he would look at me from my bace, I knew that because I turned to him. And so many more,. The majority of the signs you stated looked similar to how he acts towards me and what makes me even more confused now was that he is straight (at least I think he is) or maybe he's in the closet I don't know. Is there any chance for me to know whethe he likes me or not? And also, whenever he sits with me, he often contemplates by looking outside, in a cute way lol.

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      dontknow 2 weeks ago

      Hi, I am friends with this girl, and her brother is very nice and cute. And I kinda like him but he is in grade 12 and I am in grade 9. And he is very popular and on the other hand, I am not. Sometimes, when I hang out with his sister, he just gives us the dirty look. I really wanna get to know him but i don't know what to do.

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      Daniel Long 2 weeks ago from All Over

      Yes, calm and nonpopular person, it sure sounds as if he likes you. He might be nervous, hoping you’re interested in him too. That’s a fun thought isn’t it?

      There’s always the danger you might get your heart broken - or he might get his broken - but I think you should keep talking to each other whenever you get the chance and see where it leads. Unless he’s a jerk, of course. I’m hoping he’s not a jerk because I like the idea of him falling for the smart girl in his math class ... and you falling for him.

      If he asks you to do his homework, he’s definitely a jerk. For now, let’s give him the chance to prove himself.

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      Weirdo 2 weeks ago

      So there is this guy sitting behind me in math. He is pretty tall and plays basket ball so he extends his feet right next to mine and kicks them occasionally. One day, the teacher told us we could work in groups of 2. I wanted to work alone but I heard my name in the back the second the teacher finished talking. Instead of going with his popular friends, he asked me if I wanted to work with him. We started then I heard his friends in the back asking where he was. Then they saw us and started making romantic noises. He didn't let me explain him the problem like I thought he wanted me to, he started talking about really serious stuff like his dreams, his life and people he didn't like. When I would talk, he would look at me straight in the eyes, pass his hands in his hair many times, raised his eyebrows and looked a bit nervous. He was also really close, like 30 cm from my face, so sometimes i would tie my laces because i got nervous too. We have one common friend and when I talked to her about our work, she just had a really weird smile she never showed me before. Plus, we don't really talk about boys like that. I want to know what it means. Does he really like calm and nonpopular person like me?

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      You won’t know if you like each other until you start talking to each other and learning about each other. For all you know he could be texting a bunch of other girls at the same time. So if you think you might be interested in him you’ll have to get his attention and talk with him face to face. See if you share the same sense of humour and things like that.

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      Wannaknow 3 weeks ago

      HI, I know this guy and he just broke up with my friend( we are not really close) and he started texting me, but then stopped. After a weekish, he started texting again, and he text a lot, like about all different things, ( like if I post something, he may reply or comment) and he likes to confuse me in texts and tease me texts, but I don't know if we like each other.

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      I guess, Joya. But a man who manages to hide every sign of being in love is probably not going to be the best partner. Wouldn’t you want your man to be demonstrative and actively show his emotions during a relationship?

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      JOYA AMARE 3 weeks ago

      Is there any possibily that a man loves you secretly but doesnt share any signs?

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      Sounds to me like you’re all really young, Bean. Kids send messages to each other via their friends. You probably won’t find out how he really feels about you until you’re older. You’ll need to actually spend time talking directly with someone to figure out how you/they feel. Be honest. You don’t really know each other yet. But it sounds like he’ll be interested in getting to know you a bit better at some stage.

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      Daniel Long 3 weeks ago from All Over

      You know what to do, Angelina. Be an active part of his band ... and his life. Share your songs with him once you’re confident they’re fine-tuned, but I’m not sure you should be telling him they’re about him just yet. Impress him with your songwriting efforts without making him feel under too much pressure.

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      A human bean 3 weeks ago

      I need a little help here.

      So my friend told my crush I like him. She told me that he was smiling after she told him. I took a glance over at him and he -was- smiling! Later on, my other friend asked him if he liked me back. She said that he said yes at first, but then said no. What does that mean??

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      Angelina 3 weeks ago

      So there is this guy that I have known my whole life and I think he likes me, but I'm not sure. we only have 2 classes together so I'm getting mixed signals. I love music and so does he and he put a band together and I was his first invitation. when I got home I wrote 3 or 4 songs just about him. I don't think he knows that I like him, but I am not sure. What do I do???????? HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      Just be patient, Jasmine. If he dumps his current girlfriend, he’s available. If he doesn’t break up with her, he’s not. So I think you should just be friendly and pleasant while he decides what he wants to do. But don’t be a flirt or throw yourself at him. You don’t want him to take you for granted. And remember, you should expect time talking and getting to know each other before becoming girlfriend and boyfriend if that is to happen. So don’t let your dreams get too far ahead of reality.

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      You’re not making it very easy on yourself or him, are you Rebecca? The guy is trying to engage you in conversation and you’re failing to take the bait. How will either of you know whether or not you like each other if you don’t talk? Have proper conversations and get to know each other. It will become clear soon enough if he likes you or not.

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      Jasmine 4 weeks ago

      I like someone who´s a year older than me and he shows me all these signs that he likes me but he got a girl and today he was like are we ok and I said yeah and he hugged me for the longest time but he has a girl. What should I do?

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      Rebecca 4 weeks ago

      2 years ago, I moved from where I am to a different city and had only a few weeks left of school for my freshman year. Sophomore year started and at the end of sophomore year I got a boyfriend and had to move, we moved back to where we were my freshman year. About 2 weeks passed and my boyfriend broke up with me, and immediately got together with his ex. I had this guy Logan in my English 2 class, I liked him since the end of 8th grade. He was in a relationship when I was, he found out that I broke up with my ex, and then he broke up with his girlfriend. We talked almost every time we had class together but I was to shy to start the conversation.... Junior year started and I have home in my English 3 class. We rarely talk now, but he sometimes tries to make small talk. And when I’m with a friend and he’s near he tries to get closer or moves to where he can see me. The day we got back from Christmas break, I was talking to my friend, and we were in line to get our schedules for second semester. Well Logan was standing in front of my friend. He was asking her about this teacher because he just got his schedule, and I was just looking down at my phone. My friend didn’t know who the teacher was but when he walked by me, he wasn’t very close to touching me, but the started walking closer and bumped into me, like brushed up against my shoulder. I still was looking at my phone because I didn’t know what to do.

      I want to try to find a way to tell him I like him, but I’ve been trying to find ways to know that he likes me to before I say anything. But I keep confusing myself, because I don’t know if he is giving me signals that he likes me to. Can you help me, please??

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      Daniel Long 4 weeks ago from All Over

      When distance proves too big a problem, Angel, either one of you has to relocate or both of you have to move on. Sad to say, but it looks like your guy might have moved on. Perhaps he might have been busy with holidays or family commitments but it is odd he didn’t mention anything to you.

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      Angel 4 weeks ago

      Recently, this guy that I used to like, he text me, telling me that he wants a relationship with me, I told yeah it could work but the only problem was the distance. he called me every night and tell me he wants to see etc. Since the starting of 2018, he stopped calling me at night and he doesn't text me no more. I really like this guy and I really want something with him, what should I do?

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      LOL 5 weeks ago

      A guy I like calls me his little sister but we used to date and it didn't work out but yesterday he kissed me on the cheek what does that mean

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Veronica, you have a list of 50 clues here. If you can’t decide, why not just ask him? ‘Are we just friends, or is something else happening here?’

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      Mir 5 weeks ago

      How can I show her that I like or love her

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      Veronica Smith 5 weeks ago

      there is this guy and we are rlly good friends but idk if he likes me as a friend or as something more. he is super nice and idk when a guy flirts with you can u allaborate

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Maya, he knows you like him. If he isn’t making any real effort to spend time with you, I think you should be moving on. There will be another guy out there just waiting for a girl like you. Seems like you’re wasting your time waiting for ‘Mr Serious’. He should have made more effort by now.

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      Maya 5 weeks ago

      I met this guy about a year ago. He is a very serious type of guy and doesnt really show his feelings. After a while knowing him, I did fell for him and confessed but he didnt really tell me if he reject me or not. I kinda feel like he dont want to tell me that he rejected me because he doesnt want to hurt me but the thing is, he started to change. For example he always take an opportunity to talk to me eventhough the topic is not that important but sadly we only talk through text. Whenever we see each other we dont really talk but sometimes I did caught him looking. Also, recently I saw him update something on his social media that says "keeping it lowkey". Im just confuse because of this..help me?

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      I’m sure there’s more to this story, Sushi, but it didn’t come through. :(

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      Sushi 5 weeks ago

      Well this guy is my classmate and for all I know he kept looking at me in my peripheral view and I also always caught him. And whenever I caught him he don't look away so I am the one who actually pretend that I was looking on someone. And then a day came when we had a project and I was alone in an vehicle myself with other passengers and they were all waiting for me. He was my group mate too.

      Unluckily, I was lost. The place where they were waiting for me was passed by the driver. So I texted my girl group mate and cursed

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      Daniel Long 5 weeks ago from All Over

      Hard to tell what it means, Girl. Doesn’t sound too promising though.

      For now I think you’d better work on your fear of eyeballs. Everyone you meet is going to have them. You’ll appear insincere if you can’t look anyone in the eye.

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      Girl 5 weeks ago

      There's this guy in school, he helps me with my work. He tries to avoid me. But I always see him looking away from me, I can't really look at him in the eyes cause eyeballs scare me. And I always see him walking towards me and then he hesitates and turns away. What does that mean?

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      Daniel Long 6 weeks ago from All Over

      I’m not psychic, Jenna. You haven’t given me much to work with here so I can’t really offer an opinion, sorry.

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      Daniel Long 6 weeks ago from All Over

      It means he likes you, Kylie. I’m surprised if you can’t see that.

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      Jenna 6 weeks ago

      I have someone I like we got in a fight but we went to a movie with the whole grade and he kept on looking at me and then a friend of mine told him I was making fun of him when I wasn't and he told him just leave her alone what does that mean

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      Kylie 6 weeks ago

      I'm crazy about this guy and I don't know what to do

      He always wants me around him

      he's always nice to me

      he offers to take me out for breakfast lunch and dinner every single day just to see me

      what does this mean

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      Daniel Long 7 weeks ago from All Over

      Comes a time sooner or later, Sarah, when we all have to make tough decisions.

      I think the question you have to ask yourself is ‘Do I like Joshua enough to risk hurting Julian?’

      If you don’t think it is worth the risk, just stay friends with both of them.

      Perhaps the ‘nicest’ way to go about it would be to have a talk with Julian first. Tell him he’s a really good friend and you’d value his advice. You like Joshua .... does Julian think Joshua likes you?

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      sarah....... 7 weeks ago

      there is this guy joshua at school(highschool), i like him and this other guy likes me his name is julian. if i choose, i will hurt one of them, and i dont want that, we have know each other(me julian and joshua) a long time( since 1st grade)

      WHAT DO I DO?!?!?! HELP MEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      chloe 8 weeks ago

      mk. thanks

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      Daniel Long 8 weeks ago from All Over

      This is exactly why you shouldn’t bother trying to date anyone at your age, Chloe.

      One of them will probably grow into a boy you really like, and the other may become someone you have absolutely no interest in as he gets older.

      But you may have chosen wrongly and really regret it when you’re older. So I think you should remain friends with both, and wait to see how they both turn out when they’re teenagers.

      You’re going through what everyone goes through at your age. It is just part of life. Worth waiting though.

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      chloe 8 weeks ago

      i mean julian and jj are both super funny and they both have great qualities and im just sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo scared and confused. im scared i will hurt some ones feelings and im confused cuz i dont know who to choose.... please help

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      chloe 8 weeks ago

      and then there is this other guy named julian that likes me too and i kinda like him a little bit but i like jj much more. im just sooo confused!!! who do i choose? what will happen if i choose? im so worried that if i tell jj i like him and he likes me that it will hurt julians' feelings and if i tell julian and he likes me that i will hurt jjs' feelings. UHG!!! IM SOOO CONFUSED!!!!! PLEASE HELP ME

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      chloe 8 weeks ago

      but i really like him and i think he really likes me and i wouldnt do anything older ppl do i would just fell happy inside like a a flower blooming in the sun and maybe we could be closer yo each other. i wouldnt take things far , just to know him better than i do.

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      chloe 8 weeks ago

      ok. thank you i understand much more now. :)

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      Daniel Long 8 weeks ago from All Over

      Hi Chloe. You’re in 6th grade, so how much ‘further’ do you want things to go? No wonder you’re scared.

      Other kids will always try to talk you into making a move on kJ or some other boy. Just ignore your friends and don’t bother looking for a boyfriend until you are about 16. Before then it is just a waste of time and effort. Much better to wait (and let him wait) until you are old enough to actually date.

      Until then just be friends with the guy ... and watch other kids make fools of themselves trying to be older than they really are.

      Like the boy, yes. Try to turn him into a boyfriend? No, not for a long time yet.

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      chloe 8 weeks ago

      there is this guy at school his name is jj i like him like a lot i think he likes me but he denys it i keep giving him tiny hints but i dont think he see's them. my neighbor told me that he told him straight up that jj liked me and that if i opened up to him that things would go further... we'd be more than bros..im just too scared to open up.. what if it is all just a trick. im soo confused and scared. (btw im in 6th grade now.)

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      chloe 8 weeks ago

      hey my crush's name is jj and he stares at me all the time.......whenever he gets the chance.......he even tells me i look cute sometimes

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Just relax around him Madelynne. Make it easy for him to talk to you.

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      Madelynne 2 months ago

      Wow my crushes name is Isaac and he does stare at me all the time and I even catch I

      Him looking at my Lips!!

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      Anna Grove 2 months ago

      Wow That's so dope it so legit I cant even image that wow my dumd freind Aalyiah needs to get a boyfreind and she likes this guy named jordan and she is always talking about him and always fight for him she is so dumd anddespatre she gos to south middle

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      Lanaee 2 months ago

      WOW. I just got in a relationship because I asked him if like me and he said yes. He is my everything, IT WORKS!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!

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      Alma Otis 2 months ago

      Wow so rad it really works. Thanks

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      Olivia 2 months ago

      I’m not in a relationship because I broke up with my boyfriend

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      M&M $ 2 months ago

      Hi I am actually in a relationship and just wanted to see if he actually liked me and thankfully he does ALOT, so it actually works!!!!

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      Krista 2 months ago

      Cool

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      To the girl who wrote under 'I don't know what am I', there's only one thing I want to say to you. And that is, 'Talk to the guy!'

      You've just described the kind of guy most girls would love to have in their lives. So stop stalking him, and start talking with him. (Can you see how crazy that is? You are stalking the guy and avoiding him all at the same time.)

      He's obviously making a genuine effort to impress you and engage you in conversation. But he'll get sick of it sooner or later if you don't make a similar effort back. And I'm guessing you're going to kick yourself if you lose his attention and he starts giving his attention to another girl. So talk to him, and stop avoiding him. (If you talk to him you shouldn't feel the need to stalk him. You can just ask him what he's doing and who he likes.)

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      If you'd broken your message into sentences it would have been easier to read, Herro. But from what I'm getting, I'm thinking you should just continue your relationship as it is right now. Sounds like you're both having fun and enjoying each other's company.

      Let the relationship develop in its own time, and don't put pressure on the guy. Just enjoy being happy, and get excited about the hugs. That should carry you through a few more months at least. Meanwhile, the guy will have time to figure out how he feels about you, and should stop sending mixed signals.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Let's think about this, Anshu. If you blocked the guy in anger because he didn't message you for a whole day and night, he's not the guy for you. And you're not the girl for him.

      Seems to me you really need a guy who will be there for you day and night. And he needs a girl who won't get angry if he's busy for 24 hours.

      Keep looking, Anshu. There's a guy for you out there somewhere. (And while you're looking, I suggest you try and let go of whatever it is that makes you so angry.)

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Ann, if he asks you out, you'll know he's interested in dating you. If he doesn't ask you out, all you know for sure is that he likes you enough to touch you occasionally.

      But why is he touching you? Maybe he's being encouraging. Maybe you remind him of his sister. Maybe he's just a touchy kind of guy.

      Just out of interest, have you watched him when he talks with other men? Does he touch any of them? (Probably helps to consider whether or not he might be gay.)

      I really want the guy to ask you out, but I'm not convinced he's going to. It'd be nice if he proves me wrong though!

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      I dont know what am I 2 months ago

      Hi, there's a guy we know each other for 5 years, we attend the same primary and secondary school, and goes to the same church as well. I feel like I'm interested in him. I find myself always stalking him on what he's doing and who he likes. We aren't that close because I tend to avoid him (I don't even know why) when he tries to talk to me. He is a really nice guy, he is caring & helpful. He laughs and teases me sometimes even though I don't feel like we are that close. I feel awkward in front of him but he looks bright and smooth in front of me. Our conversations are always very formal but he always tries to make it more interesting. I find himself sometimes stares at me and somehow interested in what am I doing. He seems to be more careful of his actions and words in front of me than other people. He treats me different from other people. I don't know whether he thinks I'm very petty or he likes me.

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      Herro 2 months ago

      There’s is this guy and he gives me hugs and is really touchy with me I like him a lot we known each other since I was in 7th grade he makes me happy and we do crazy stuff together and he introduced me to half his friends and we likes to roast me sometimes and I roast him when it was thanks giveing break we had a game and were both in marching band and she came to me gave me a hug and gave me one behind and said I missed you people as if we talk yeah but not like that idk he’s a mix signal shooter idk if he likes me or he said just playin with me idk I don’t want to ruin our relationship by saying hey I like you idk what to do he makes me so happy and he has the best hugs and I’m really good friends with his friends so I think that will help.

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      Herro 2 months ago

      Everyone is saying how can I still get a guy but it’s all about being yourself if he doesn’t like you as a person or your personality he’s not worth it

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      anshu 2 months ago

      hey! anshu here ,again

      he didnt msg whole day and night, so in anger, i blocked him, is this right ? what to do ?

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      Ann 2 months ago

      On Sunday, again as I was going to the gym at 11 am. I changed my rain boots into my training shoes. I looked at the whiteboard of what he wrote down for the class exercise. Suddenly, I didn't notice he comes behind me about the group and times of each group exercise. I felt me touch my back again, I believe so.

      I actually look about 2-3 minutes short, him talking to other woman and the young woman (prob my age) ,I don't see him touching young woman back like he did to me.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      You're going to have to make the effort to help yourself, Nerd girl. I've written lots on this subject so I suggest you spend some time reading. This is your life, and you have to live it. A happy and successful life takes personal effort, but it is worth it.

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      Nerd girl 2 months ago

      I like this guy but i dont know if he is into me please help me.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Hi brisa gil. I'm not sure if you're in a relationship with a boy and you're wondering if he's maybe interested in another girl as well ... or if you're talking about a boy who might like you but you're not yet together.

      One of the things to remember is that often a person isn't quite sure themselves if they really like someone or not. It often takes time to become confident about 'liking' and then 'approaching' someone.

      Not every relationship turns into a happy-ever-after-one. If you are already with the guy, just be true to yourself. Do what you think is right.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Sounds like the guy likes you, Momo. Just be natural around him and as you grow more comfortable with each other you'll soon be able to tell how he really feels.

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      Daniel Long 2 months ago from All Over

      Hi, you have to be more confident and stop worrying about why anyone would pick you. Personal chemistry is not a science, which is a lucky thing. Start liking yourself more, or you might accidentally talk boys out of liking you.

      I suggest you visit the two articles I listed under 'More Helpful Hints' and see if you can get some ideas there to help you.

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      Hi 2 months ago

      I like this boy and not sure if he likes me back, we are friends but he could have any girl and not sure why anyone's would pick me

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Have a conversation with the guy and see if he is interesting enough to keep talking with him. Your other option is to ignore him and wait until you're older. He might still like you when you're ready to get to know him, or he might have moved on to another girl by then.

      Decide for yourself if you are interested in getting to know him or not. Don't let your friends talk you into it if you're not ready. This is your life, not theirs.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      It could take a while to figure out what's going on with him, Ann. But it sure makes it sound like it's fun going to the gym. You'll get fit and healthy with regular visits to the gym. Good thing he's not working in an ice-cream parlor.

      Have you been watching how he acts with other women at the gym when your'e there?

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      Ann 3 months ago

      Also, I forget to put that on October 22 on Sunday.When gym class training is done, I changed my shoes into my rain boot, He asked me before he leaves " Hope to see you on Tuesday!" I told him "maybe" I didn't know why he was hoping to see me on Tuesday, the day he works.

      On the following day off Tuesday on October 24, I go. I didn't know or understand why he was hoping to see me that day. So I heard other trainers say to him 'happy birthday' and inside my head, I was like oh, it's his birthday... that makes sense.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Zohre, there's not enough clues yet to know if he likes you in the way that you're hoping. However it sounds like you're making a good effort to get his attention.

      There's no rule book that says whose 'turn' it is to make the next move. I think it has a lot to do with opportunity. If you have the opportunity to suggest getting a coffee together, for instance, I think you should suggest it.

      In a romance novel the guy would probably make a move now and come forward, but we don't get to write the plot for our real life experiences. You could take a step back and see if he seeks you out because he misses you, however there's always the risk another girl might make a move.

      I'm thinking you should continue the momentum and keep in touch with him. Don't just become a 'fan' on instagram though. You've been encouraging until now. Time to become a potential girlfriend, more than just an admirer of his exhibits.

      Give him a chance to ask you out (and a chance to join you for a coffee) and see what happens. If he doesn't take the chance to spend more time with you, you'll know he's not worth worrying about.

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      Zohre 3 months ago

      Hey. Plz help me. I like a boy in my university. And i showed him my interest by following on instagram and encouraging comments. And also i went to his group exhibition gallery . He noticed me. Sometimes he look at me with smile. We locked the eyes 4-5 times. I heard he introduced me to his friend when i was passing. And once i noticed his friends were looking at me...does it show he likes me? And what should i do? Isn't it his turn to come forward? Because as i said i started showing my interest by comments and... .

      Thank you.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Ann, one of my friends is a trainer and we tease him about being a professional flirt. So I understand your confusion. The guy might be like that with everyone because he needs to keep the gym full to keep his job.

      However, he might actually like you which would be worth finding out. So here's what I suggest ...

      Ask him, 'Are you this nice with everyone?' and see what he says. What he says next should give you a clue. If he says, 'Only the nice women who I like having around' or something like that, you'll know he's just doing his job.

      If he says, 'No' and says something to encourage you, reward him with a big smile and say, 'Well that's good. Because I wouldn't want a man to flirt with me if his heart wasn't in it.'

      That gives him the kind of message that says 'Ask me out if you like me' without you looking (or feeling) like a fool. If he doesn't want to ask you out, he'll probably back off a bit. But you'll look confident and smart, without looking foolish.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Sounds kind of romantic, 'Just plain lost'. If the guy is careful and calm around you, that's a good thing, isn't it?

      I'm guessing he has a boss or a supervisor at work who watches him either on the floor (or via camera from an office) and he's not wanting to appear irresponsible. So if he made an excuse to follow you, that was a good gesture. Got to give him credit for that.

      I don't think he's sending 'mixed signals'. I think he's doing his best around you, but 'life' gets in the way in even the best romances. So why don't you suggest getting lunch together sometime? Spend some time together away from the pressures of being in the workplace and see what happens.

      Don't forget, he's probably looking for clues from you just as you're looking for them from him. So you don't want to be sending mixed messages either. Just suggest lunch.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      Molly, there's all kinds of reasons why someone might not text back as quickly as you'd like. Life gets busy and things can get in the way.

      It has been a couple of days now so hopefully you've heard from him by now. If not, that's not the end of the world. You'll probably get another chance to try again in a few weeks or months time.

      Just do things differently next time. Instead of concentrating on the whole 'like me' question, just get to know the guy. If you get to know him better and let him get to know you, you'll soon enough figure out if you like each other or not.

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      Ann 3 months ago

      I go to gym class training for about a year now. And there's a guy who is a trainer, but I'm not sure if he is being nice to me or he likes me. Whenever I enter the gym, he called my name and same goes as when I or he is leaving. He also raised his eyebrow at me and smile sometimes. When I asked him about what is KB clean and press (example) and he leans towards me and used his hand to touch back of my arm or my back to show it to me. He encouraged me to keep going even I take a bit of break. He sometimes teases me when I asked him to pass me form roller, and he makes fun of me by to see if I can get it (which I can't cuz i'm short). Usually, a guy never compliments me about etc, but about 3 weeks ago when I got a new training shoe; he compliments "it's that a new shoe? It looks good on you" I believe that the 2nd times, he tried to ask me what I'm doing on the weekend.

      I'm afraid to ask him if he likes me that if he doesn't then I make myself look like a fool.

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      Just plain lost 3 months ago

      Okay so I bumped into this guy I thought I lost feelings for since Highschool. I remember he would walk by my bench at school in the morning and whenever I look up, I always somehow lock eyes with him. In class, we’d talk most times, and when I sing while working on an assignment, he would join in. So I bumped into him just yesterday, at his workplace. I had no clue he worked there, so me and my friend just decided to browse their selections. I mean he didn’t acknowledge me when I walked in, but I guess it’s cause I was wearing a hat. It wasn’t till I walked past the register to the other side of the store, that I guess he recognized me. He still didn’t say a word the whole time I was their, but he did I guess make an excuse to go to the back of the store in the area I just walked in. I also remember this time i was working at Macy’s, I was just finishing my tasks, and was leaving the elevator. As soon as the doors opened our eyes met, and he had this toothy grin. When I was going on my lunch, I was going down the escalator and he was coming down it. And he just got off the elevator awhile ago. We made small chat, but it’s like whenever he’s around me he goes form his loud cheery self to a whole other person around me. He’s like more careful and calm when near me and is always finding ways to make small chat. I know most would say it’s obvious, but I’m like getting mixed signals all the time.

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      Molly 3 months ago

      This other boy told me that this guy likes me and I don't know if that's true but i added him on snapchat and he added me back. So I texted him and said hey he said hi I said wyd he said nothing I said that draven said that Luis likes me PS luis is the guy I like and he never texted me back

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      If the guy you like is really studious, that's a good thing. He's bound to be successful and is obviously working towards his goal.

      There's a couple of links at the bottom of this article that lead to other things I've written. You might get some good ideas from them. Just scroll up and take a look.

      But try not to distract the guy too much. lol.

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      confused 3 months ago

      the guy i like is really studious. maybe he is afraid to be distracted from his studies. how do i convince him to date me

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      Tay 3 months ago

      Helped xx

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      I'm not hearing any kind of a problem there, Samantha. Sounds like he's a good guy, doing his best to do the right thing by you.

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      Daniel Long 3 months ago from All Over

      What's wrong with you, Amy? Read your message again and take note of all the positive things the guy has done to try and win you over. How can you doubt that he likes you?

      He's a popular guy so why would he like someone like you? That's easy. He obviously thinks you're fascinating ... and he likes your taste in cars.

      Okay, so if he has a girlfriend he should break up with her before you start dating him. (You don't want to be the other woman. Gets too messy.) But stop worrying about 'prettier girls'. I'm willing to bet you're pretty but just too insecure to know it. And, really, you're probably underestimating the poor guy. Do you really think he's so shallow he only cares about looks? I'm guessing he wants more than just 'pretty' in a girl. Sounds like you suit him just fine.

      I think it is time you asked for a look at his car. See what's different and what's the same as in yours. Is it in better condition? Nicer seat covers? All that kind of stuff. Get him to take you for a drive so you can see if it sounds the same. Go on, you could spend at least a little time together and see how comfortable you feel in his company.

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      Samantha 3 months ago

      In class he asked my to be his partner and he’s really smart but when he works with me he seems to get nervous and is always smiling at me he even offered to put my things away.

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      Amy Jane 3 months ago

      hmm I'm kind of confused with this one guy in my school. He's my friend but we're not that close tho and we had like a same circle of friends. My friends told me that he likes me but im not sure about it. He tries to do the things that i like, for example this one time i posted that "red is my favourite colour" and guess what he wore red the next day and he came all the way to my class that morning and he playfully get mad at me because of the parking space. He's always around...it like he's at all the place I'm at...he always ask my friends where I'm at. He even changed his car to have a same car as me. Everytime i hang out with my friends he always ALWAYS makes an effort to join. He would constantly ask my friend if I'm still there and when I went to my friend's house the other day he came all the way there and the first thing he asked was "wheres Amy?". He constantly doing all these and all of my friends notice it and they kept on telling me that he likes me but im still not sure about it because we never spent time together, we never get to know each other and he's a popular guy so why would he like someone like me? he literally hang out with prettier girls like most of the time. Besides he's close to this one girl but im not sure if thats his gf or what...but if thats his gf then why does he doing all these thing for me? I don't know what to do? what do you think i should do? oh please help hahaa

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