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He Stopped Texting Me Out of Nowhere . . .
"I thought we were getting along, but he stopped texting me all of a sudden. Should I text him again? How do I get him to text me back?"
A girl wrote me the above e-mail about a guy she had been out with twice. I wish I could say it was an isolated case, but sadly, it has become very common for guys to stop texting girls without any warning or explanation. (To be fair, women are guilty of doing the same, but this article will focus on why men stop texting women and what to do about it.)
While texting between two people of the opposite sex can help ignite a romance, it can also lead to heartbreak. Read on to discover what to do if a guy suddenly stops texting you, why they suddenly stopped texting you, and if you should even want them to text you back.
How to Get a Guy to Text You Back
Before reading the tips below, ask yourself the following question: Do you really want this guy to text you back? When a guy starts ghosting you, it's a pretty good sign he's a jerk—and you deserve better than that! You should also be wary of getting into a relationship where all the other person wants to do is text. If they don't want to have a real relationship, it may be best just to move on. But if you still want him to text you back, here's what to do.
Note: These tips only apply to early-stage relationships and flings.
Play it cool.
Make it seem like you don't care if he texts you back. If a guy is at all interested in you and thinks you've suddenly become indifferent, he will reach out to you. No matter what you do, don't let him know that he's gotten under your skin!
Resist the urge to keep texting him.
It's been two days and you're dying to reach out to him. Don't! To go along with the point above, if a guy sees a wall of texts from you, you're going to come off as being way too eager (and maybe even a little desperate). Naturally, this is easier said than done, but beyond a simple check-in text if you absolutely must ("Hey, how're you doing?"), do your best to let him make the next move. If he doesn't, don't waste any more time on him!
Keep your messages short and to the point.
If he does get back in touch, keep things short and sweet for a while. Texting him an essay about your feelings and scolding him for his lack of communication will only hurt your chances at keeping him interested. Ever gotten the ubiquitous (and immensely frustrating) "K" in response to your message? Feel free to dish it right back.
Only text him when he texts you.
It all goes back to playing it cool. If he responds to one of your messages, don't take that as a sign that you should inundate him with a barrage of texts about everything you've been thinking and feeling since you communicated last. Try your best to ease back into a good pattern of communication by only texting him when he texts you.
Do NOT try to get his attention by sending a risqué text.
This is a big "No." While it may be very effective at getting a response, is it really the type of response you want to get? If a guy only texts you back because he thinks it will lead to sex, that's a huge red flag. So resist the urge to text him your tatas or anything else that you might regret later.
Know when to walk away.
This is key. If a guy is playing games with you and leaving you feeling bad about yourself, you're better off without him anyway. So if you try one or two of the tips above and he's still ghosting you or being minimally responsive, get out of there! You deserve so much better.
How to Deal with Being Ghosted
Signs He's Going to Ghost You (or Already Is)
These are some ghosting red flags to watch out for when you're texting a guy.
- He's "forgetful." Does he always seem to "forget" you messaged or called? If a guy disappears for weeks and then reaches out with some lame excuse for it, it's a pretty clear sign he's only keeping you on the back burner for the times when it's convenient or desirable for him to be in contact.
- He's brief. When you do communicate, he responds with one-word answers and keeps the conversation short. If you used to find yourself chatting with your guy for hours and now getting him to engage in a conversation is like pulling teeth, it may be time to step away from the relationship.
- He's suddenly unreachable. He hasn't responded to my text, so I'll try his Facebook . . . and his Instagram . . . and maybe his Twitter, just for good measure. Stop! It's highly unlikely that something is wrong with every single one of his accounts, so if he fails to respond to your messages, it probably isn't because he hasn't seen them—he simply doesn't want to.
- He's stopped going to places where you used to see him. This one is both painful and undeniable. If your guy suddenly starts avoiding all the places you used to see each other, it isn't by accident. He doesn't want to see you anymore.
- He told you he didn't want anything serious. If a guy says this from the get-go, kudos to him. Unfortunately, even if you think you guys have a fun, casual thing going on and there isn't any pressure to enter a relationship, he may still ghost you.
- He's suddenly spending a lot of time with a new girl. If he starts hanging out with a new "friend" at the same time that he stops messaging or hanging out with you as much, it's a bad sign for your relationship. Don't waste your time competing for him!
- He blocked you from his accounts. If your guy does this, it's a sure sign that things are over between you. Instead of trying to reach him through other channels, your best bet is to let him go and move on.
Common Reasons a Guy Won't Text You Back
We now live in a world of instant gratification, so if the guy doesn't feel that rush of excitement when he's around you, or if he feels you aren't the perfect match for him right away, he's likely to just keep moving.
The following list is by no means exhaustive, but it should give you a decent idea of why your man might be ghosting you. You'll also notice that the last few reasons are fairly innocuous and can actually be indicators of a healthy relationship, so if you get radio silence for a little bit, don't immediately jump to the conclusion that things are over for good.
- The conversation doesn't interest him, so he doesn't feel the need to reply.
- He's no longer interested in you and doesn't want to hurt you by saying so (note that if you're in an official relationship, it is definitely not okay to end things this way—not that it's ever really okay, in my opinion!).
- He started seeing someone else and doesn't have the decency to tell you.
- He's not interested in you now, but he wants to keep you as a "future" option, so he doesn't cut things off for good.
- He didn't feel you were "the one" right away, so he's already moved on.
- He realized you weren't going to sleep with him and lost interest (harsh, but true—in some cases, this may be the only thing the guy was ever after).
- He's experiencing depression to such a degree that he completely withdrew from everyone around him.
- His phone died.
- He's busy with work, friends, or something else and either hasn't gotten the chance to respond to your text or simply hasn't seen it yet.
- He feels comfortable with you and doesn't feel the need to respond right away anymore.
Why Is Communicating With Men So Hard?
You may be asking yourself why present-day communication seems so complicated compared to all those 80s rom-coms where boy meets girl, boy asks girl out, and boy and girl fall in love. While part of that can simply be chalked up to the unrealistic nature of the silver screen, there is an undercurrent of truth to it. The rise of 21st-century technology has arguably dealt the classic relationship trajectory its biggest blow yet.
Relationships no longer start the way they used to.
In general, it seems that 21st-century boys and men love getting girls' phone numbers and juggling them around. Sadly, this trend appears to be replacing the days when guys—almost as a rule—chatted up girls face-to-face, had personal interactions with them, got to know who they really were, and developed relationships with them.
Okay, it still happens, but the process has been cut very short. Now, you often simply give a guy (that you met at work, school, a bar or club, the bookstore, among friends, and so forth) your phone number and wait for him to get in touch. Or you get a guy's phone number and get in touch with him.
Either way, the crucial first moves in relationships these days are often made via text or social media—and unfortunately, this shift from face-to-face communication to virtual back-and-forths doesn't seem to bode well for relationships.
Ghosting has now become the norm.
He contacts you and you two exchange pleasantries via text. Maybe you hang out, dance, eat dinner, or even kiss. You thought you had a good time and you want to go out again and text a bit in between. Then all of the sudden, this guy you had a good time with doesn't text you at all afterward. Or he says a few words like, "Hey, nice date," and drops off soon after.
Sadly, this pattern is all too familiar these days. Instead of getting to know you and giving you two a chance, this guy has decided to just shut down communication. But why?
The Trouble With Dating in the Tech-Age
What does the ghosting trend say about modern relationships? Nothing good. This problem runs alongside the disturbing trend of fewer men being interested in marriage than ever before. While love at first sight happens, more often, true love is developed as you get to know someone. Those opportunities are being cut off by men who are simply jumping from girl to girl, looking for their perception of perfection. When it doesn't happen, they cut ties quickly.
Many guys like this texting behavior, though. They don't have to see a girl face-to-face to break it off. They don't have to feel responsible. They keep it impersonal. In essence, they get to walk off scot-free. The only way this is beneficial is that a text drop-off could avoid hurtful words a guy might say to tell a woman why he doesn't like her. This doesn't mean it won't hurt at all, but it will hurt less. There are also men who will take every opportunity to insult a girl just because. Trust me—not hearing anything is better than hearing that.
This is not to say that all guys act this way. We all know good guys who treat women well and don't want to waste anyone's time.
Is ghosting a thing only young people do?
Unfortunately, no. When it comes to suddenly cutting off all communication with no explanation, there are quite a few offending age groups—not just teenage guys, but all men with cell phones, period. I have heard the same ghosting scenario from women in their 30s and 40s who started dating in a time before texting was the norm.
Women commonly say things like, "I remember when guys would ask you out on one date, and then another, and you had a boyfriend before you knew it. Now you hardly ever see or hear from them again. Pretty disappointing."
Does ghosting only happen in new relationships?
Though it's far less common, ghosting does happen in established relationships. Whereas in dating scenarios, ghosters will often tell themselves that they don't owe the other person anything (which is incredibly lame), ghosting in relationships often comes down to conflict avoidance and a fear of direct communication. Some men will rationalize "breaking up" this way by saying it's easier and less hurtful. If only that were truth!
Having a serious (or even just semi-serious) relationship end with ghosting is very painful for the person who is ghosted. In these situations, you may choose to send one last follow-up message to that person acknowledging that things are over and asking for an explanation. If you need closure to move on (and most of us do), don't be afraid to ask for it. But, painful as it is, don't expect to hear back either. Your ex may be too cowardly to have that conversation with you, in which case you are truly better off without him!
The Emotional Effects of Ghosting
Women are still delicate in this day and age, and I don't think that is a bad thing. Women are brought up to feel that they are special, beautiful, lovely, feminine. So when they encounter men who don't "get this" about them, it hurts. Being ghosted robs you of closure and the ability to understand why things didn't work out (hint: probably because he's a dick).
It would be different if this kind of texting drop-off happened once or twice, but if you have been in the dating pool lately, you'll know that it is simply commonplace. You can have dates with ten different men in a year, and eight of them will simply vanish.
Being ghosted is not your fault.
When this constantly happens in a woman's life, the message she gets out of it is that she isn't good enough. In reality, she is good enough. You are good enough. Although not everyone is a match for each other, more people would be if they took the time to get to know each other.
In most cases, ghosting comes down to the "ghoster's" immaturity and lack of consideration for others. It is rarely the fault of the "ghosted," and the ghoster's favorite self-soothing line—"I don't owe them anything"—is just a lame excuse to act like a jerk.
You deserve someone who's willing to put in the effort.
Don't ever put more effort into texting than he does. So if he's putting in zero effort and has simply dropped off the face of the earth, don't go on texting him. It might be a little difficult (fine, a lot), but you can stop yourself from sending messages to someone who isn't replying at all. And to be honest, you really should. You deserve to be with someone who treats you well, and that includes taking the time to communicate with you without you having to get on their case about it.
A man should still do the chasing. You are worth that. If he doesn't want to chase you or if he barely gives you any regard (or none at all), then you are probably better off trying to forget he ever existed. Delete him from your contacts and start moving on. This applies to budding relationships too—even if you're still in the early stages of dating or a relationship, he should still be actively showing interest. These are age-old rules of courting communication simply applied to new generations of technology.
Miller, Korin. (2016, April 1). Ghosting Is Way More Common Than You Think. So What Should You Do If It Happens to You? Glamour. Retrieved from www.glamour.com/story/ghosting-is-common
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
Question: What if he stopped texting me, then suddenly starts to text me again?
Answer: I'd let him wait and let him repeat his texts, or let him attempt to contact you. Don't respond right away. See if he is really going to make an effort for you.
Question: What should I do if this guy decides to stop texting me for four days after texting me every single night? Should I text him "Hey"?
Answer: No, don't text him. Distract yourself with other things. If a man likes you few things will stop him from talking to you/texting you.
Question: What if a guy seems really into me, but then stops texting?
Answer: Men are apt to change their mind like anyone else. You will know he is interested if he sends consistent messages or asks you out. Until then distract yourself with things you enjoy.
Question: What do I do if he just suddenly stops messaging me? I only get one text a day, and that's if I spam him.
Answer: If he stops texting you then don't try to text him anymore. It shows a lack of interest on his part. If someone isn't interested for whatever reason then they are not meant for you. You want a guy that shows he likes you and wants to communicate with you. Men should do the chasing.
Question: What should I say to a guy who stopped texting me that I am done?
Answer: If you want him to know you are done with him, don't contact him. He will understand. And you will be able to move on to better things.
Question: There's a guy friend of mine with whom I've been reunited with after many years. We talked over text for around five days, and began sharing everything between us, but suddenly he stopped texting me. What am I suppose to do now?
Answer: This would be difficult to deal with. But I would let him be the initiator of all things, including texting. Don't text him unless he texts you first. If things pick up again slow your responses down so that he has to work a little harder for your attention. Let him do the chasing.
Question: What should I do? The guy I like stopped texting me. After we had sex, he texted me and told me how much he wants to keep my smell. After a couple of days, he stopped texting me completely.
Answer: This is just my opinion, but it sounds like he is playing games. A lot of men will text a lot of different women to "play the field." I would not give him any more time of day unless he wants to become serious and exclusive with you.
Question: If a guy stops texting me, does it mean that he's not interested anymore?
Answer: Yes, generally this is what it means. And it is an extremely common habit for people, so it is not a reflection on you personally.
Question: I went out on six or seven dates with a guy, and I thought we had good chemistry, and things seemed to be going well. Then he slowly started to back off, and he has made no attempts to see me in the past two weeks, and I haven't heard from him in 4 days. I have not attempted to contact him, but I want closure. I want to know what happened and the reason why he backed off. I don't think it's fair that he can disrespect me and lead me on this way and get away with it. What should I do?
Answer: Do nothing except forget about him. I sympathize with you. It hurts when someone you like pulls away. I am going to tell you why you might not want closure. I've personally been in this situation about five times before I was married, with the amount of dates I've been on with them varying. Only one time did I hear a reason why the person didn't want to see me anymore. And what this person said hurt me for a very long time because it seemed purposely hurtful. Many men are not very eloquent in their delivery when they do explain why they don't want to see someone anymore, so they pull back rather than deal with the consequence of what their words might result in.
I personally think when the guy pulls back and says nothing it can be much better than hearing the truth. Either way the guy handles the break-off it still hurts. How people treat you is NOT a reflection of who you are as a person or how valuable you are. In the end just know you were not a match-up. That is all. This might not be what you want to hear, but it is my opinion based on experience.
Question: How to distract myself with other things when I feel so empty and depressed? How to let it go, how to let go of thoughts about him?
Answer: Yes, this part can be a little difficult. The easiest way to do this is to think of something you find exciting. Before I was married, years ago, I got over guys by hiking or traveling to new places. They were the only two things that got me motivated. Think of things you always wanted to do, and try going for it!
Question: He ghosted me once and then after a month I texted him and we started texting again. And everything was great, but he hasn’t texted me since last week and it’s driving me nuts. What do you think?
Answer: You'll need to let him take the initiative. Even though you're a great person, a man that isn't texting, calling, or showing up is showing he lacks interest in pairing up with you.
Question: What if the guy I like seems very interested in me when we meet face-to-face, but hardly taking the initiative to text me or responding to my text messages?
Answer: Personally, I think this guy doesn't like texting.
Question: What should I do if he stopped texting me after he normally texts me every morning?
Answer: Don't text him again until he tries to text you a few times.
Question: I met him a week before on a first date, he stopped texting me after 3 days. It’s been 48 hours since he last texted me. What do I have to do?
Answer: Let him text you first, and if he doesn't, forget about him. The communication only continues between two people when they are really meant for each other.
Question: What if a guy stopped texting me after I offended him and I didn't realize it, but eventually I said I was sorry, but he hasn't replied to the chat yet?
Answer: You did your part and apologized, so that is great. However, it's his turn now, and if he wants to still get back to you, he will.
Question: What should you do if your ex who was calling and texting often, stops?
Answer: I would not do anything about it. If he isn't communicating don't initiate.
Question: It has been 5 days. What if we were sending hearts and then he suddenly stopped replying?
Answer: Don't contact him unless he contacts you as well as being serious about you.
Question: I have been ghosted. Should I ask if I said or did something wrong?
Answer: No, I would not ask him that. Men are not as sensitive as women when it comes to words. Generally the chemistry is not there if a man is not answering. Also, relationships do not develop normally when in-person communication is sacrificed and more texting takes place. In-person chemistry is the strongest component of potential relationship development.
Question: If he stops texting me for 2 days, do I text him?
Answer: No. Don't text him at all if he doesn't get back to you.
Question: I texted a guy who doesn't know me a few days ago. At first he replied with short words and then he stopped answering me. Should I text again?
Answer: No, a man that is interested will respond to you. You don't want one-sided communication.
Question: What do I do when he stops texting me and he won't answer my phone call?
Answer: It sounds like time to drop him from your social agenda and find other people or pastimes to enjoy.
Question: Why would a guy, after a year of seeing each other, block me on everything and stop talking to me?
Answer: I am sorry to hear this happened to you. This would be difficult to experience. I would say he wanted the most drama-free, non-confrontational break-up he could get. Although this leaves you without a specific reason behind his backing out, his actions say he was not interested in continuing a relationship.
Question: So me and this guy that I've known via social media for three years would message on and off. He finally got me to meet him and we hit it off right away. We have gone out several times and would text several times a day. Yes, it got physical and I thought everything was going well. Now after four months he just out of the blue stopped texting or accepting calls. What do I do? It makes no sense at all.
Answer: It would definitely feel confusing if you think everything is going well and someone you were intimate with and liked stopped communicating altogether. Unfortunately, this is the nature of the risk of dating, especially in the age of texting. All you can do is move on and drop him from your plans. I wouldn't even reply if he messages you again because the risk of feeling or getting abandoned again is too high.
Question: In the beginning, this guy stopped texting me (I honestly did not care, however, he then was not texting me for a whole week. He gave me an alternate way of communication so we could talk more and then we talked for weeks. Our conversations were interesting and fun and we talked about everything. He is very busy with sports and working so I understand why maybe he hasn’t texted but it’s been days and I feel like “what happened?”
Answer: Sometimes guys get really busy but basically, a romantic interest cutting off communication is a very common thing these days. Because many men are highly inclined to playing the field, especially when they are young, they are less likely to settle on most women they communicate with. So if you don't get the treatment you are looking for from your current love interest, I suggest leaving him behind as a memory.
Question: During the holidays I met a boy over social media who goes to the same school as me. We talked every day, even at night. But when school started, he stopped texting me for a few days. He says hi to me in school, but nothing more. Should I text him? Or should I talk to him in school?
Answer: No, don't text him. Just say hello back if he goes out of his way to say hello to you. A guy that stops texting you is pulling back from you.
Question: I am supposed to go on a first date tomorrow with a guy I have been texting. He stopped texting me a couple days ago. What should I do?
Answer: It sounds like this guy is dead in the water if he totally stopped communication. I wouldn't contact him to see if you're still going out either. With men, their actions tell you what they feel about you and tell you their intentions towards you. An unreliable guy is worse than no guy at all. Best wishes to you.
Question: I know this boy and started texting him. We were having a really good conversation but that was 6 days ago. I don’t know what to text him now. What do I do? He has seen my last text from 6 days ago but hasn’t replied.
Answer: If he hasn't replied it usually means he doesn't want to reply. In this case it is best to delete his number or forget about him.
Question: I've been seeing this guy for 5 months. He always texts me first and then starts to get distant. I asked him about it and he said that he thinks he has a health issue and that he's not ghosting me and that he really likes me and wants to see me. But then I don't hear from him. Is he being honest or not and what should I do about it?
Answer: No, I don't think this guy is being honest. I think he is trying to make sure you are still available to him when he wants the comfort of attention, but then backs off when he has had enough attention from you. I think he tells you he is sick because he does not want an emotional confrontation with a female in telling you the truth. Men tend to be scared of those things. I think you should let this guy go unless he aggressively goes after a full boyfriend-girlfriend relationship with you and stays that way.
Question: Why does a guy I like stop texting but will read every one of my messages I still send him? We have never had sex, just foreplay once. He said his wasn't sure he was ready again after two really bad relationships. I've stopped talking to him a couple of times but he always contacts me after a few months. I'm confused.?
Answer: I would friend zone this person unless he shows real effort in communicating with you romantically. Sometimes men will say they aren't ready if he doesn't feel a real romantic connection with the woman.
Question: I have been seeing this guy for two months now. We’ve both told each other that we really like each other. The only issue is that we live a little over an hour away from each other. I came back from visiting him 5 days ago and we both haven’t said anything to each other over text. Usually, it’s him to initiate the conversation and tell me he had a good weekend but he hasn’t this time and lately he’s been distant. Should I try and save what conversation we have or move on?
Answer: Let him contact you first. If he doesn't it is a good idea to move on. People change their minds a lot, even when it comes to relationships. When a man is distant it is a sign he does not want to or is not ready to communicate.
Question: My ghoster hasn’t texted me in two days, did not reply to my text (only texted once to ask if he was okay). After no reply I left it at that. But he is watching all of my Snapchat videos and IG stories? Also we live in different states though he’s set to move here WITH me less than 2 weeks from now. He’s been acting really weird the last week or so. And now no reply! I’ve given up my apartment for a bigger place and changed jobs. I feel like this is complete BS.
Answer: What you're going through sounds very stressful. Did he help give a deposit or sign the lease on the bigger apartment? If so, it would seem he would still move in with you. If not, it sounds like something he could back out of with no legal repercussions but incredible emotional difficulty for you. If you temporarily go inactive on your other social media accounts it could spur him on to reach out to you. This would be a difficult spot to be in and I'd be upset too. He could still get back to you, but just be prepared for anything. People can be so unreliable. Good luck. I'd like to hear how this situation works out for you, if you want to come back and post again at that time.
Question: What should I do now that I’ve switched schools and my crush/friend stopped texting me?
Answer: If your crush were still interested he would still be texting. So this is a good time to let new guys be interested in you and forget about ones that aren't.
Question: Why does a guy stop texting me back the next day, after he was sending messages a lot. But he still comments under my photos on Facebook. What does it mean?
Answer: He might not want to text because he doesn't have much to say or finds texting tiring, but he still is retaining some kind of contact with you. He is probably still interested.
Question: Can a guy stop chatting because he is stressed out?
Answer: Yes, it is possible if he has overwhelming stress. But generally if they liked someone I think they would talk because it would help distract them from their stress.
Question: What if I was talking to this guy on and off for several months, and just recently I have not heard from him for about one month?
Answer: It sounds like he has changed his mind and you are free to talk to and meet other guys.
Question: This guy used to text me every day all the time and then he suddenly stopped for two days because of strong depression. Now he doesn't text me unless I say "good morning," and the conversation is really short. What does that mean?
Answer: This generally means he is not interested romantically. A man who likes you will show it in his actions. Getting to know guys in real life with limited to no texting will give you a better chance of finding a worthy boyfriend, because in-person chemistry bonds people much more than texting ever could.
Question: There's a guy from my school that I really like. He texted me first and we've been talking a lot about his favourite band but he started to reply less frequent after one week of texting. And now he received my messages and left them unread for 2 days already. Is he not interested in me? Should I text him back or what should I do?
Answer: It is difficult when a man you like is not answering you. It sounds like he is not focused on you. I would not text him if he is not initiating or answering.
Question: What if a guy stops texting me because he thinks I am not interested in him?
Answer: If you know this for sure, then texting him sounds fine. I would still only text him as much as he texts you thereafter.
Question: What should I do if he stops contacting me completely and says he has problems in his life?
Answer: It sounds like he needs some privacy and alone time to sort out his life, so you will want to give this to him.
Question: What if he texted he loved me several times?
Answer: You will need to find out if he is genuine and if you feel the same way about him.
Question: How long should I wait before I text a guy back?
Answer: At least a few minutes, but otherwise wait longer if you have more pressing things to get done.
Question: I met a guy in a club. We kissed, and he wanted me to come to his house. He had already asked me for my number. I declined to sleep with him from the first night, but he texted me the day after. He was answering after many hours and suddenly stopped. What should I do? ShalI I asked him why he disappeared, or is it too desperate?
Answer: Since this man only answers you hours later, I would drop contact with him. You don't have time to wait around for rude people who don't respect your time. I wouldn't initiate contact or even answer him if he does text you.
Question: How long should I wait to reply to a message after days of him not texting me back?
Answer: At least as long as he took to reply to you, if you even feel like answering.
Question: I know him in person and we went out a lot and texted for two months. I can see that he is treating me differently but after these two days he has stopped because of depression and family issues. As I told you so I'm so confused I don't know what to do?
Answer: It sounds like you can either read that he has depression and family issues, or he has told you this. In either case, you don't have be confused. It sounds like he needs space to work through what is going on in his life. When men go through problems a lot of times they prefer to do it on their own. If he is open to being with you again, I am sure he will reach out to you by his own volition. If a guy starts pulling away it is a sign you will want to respect.
Question: He asks me we should FaceTime sometime and we give each other’s numbers. He then ignores my texts for three days?
Answer: I would stop communicating with this person. If a man is ignoring you it means he is not interested.
Question: We went on a first date, he introduced me to his friends, and they said he told his mom about me. Afterward, he told me he had a great time and wanted to see me again. He texted me all day long for three days and now hasn’t contacted me. What do I do?
Answer: I would let this man contact you rather than you initiate contact with him. Men and women change their minds all the time about pursuing a relationship with someone. Remember this was the first date. Some people will even bring you around their friends without being sure what comes next. In the meantime go out with other guys, meet more people, have fun, etc.
Question: I texted with a guy for seven days, and on the final day, we went on a date. He wanted to have sex, but I didn’t. Afterward, he texted me that he can't text me anymore. What does this mean?
Answer: It sounds like he has moved on because he did not get what he wanted or he is not interested for other reasons. A man should ideally not be putting you in that kind of position on a first date either. I would forget about him.
Question: I was speaking to this guy for about 4 months. We had a couple of phone conversations. We planned to meet twice, both times he bailed. He started to not respond to messages. It started getting to the point if I didn’t initiate the conversations he wouldn’t message. I asked him again about meeting up, and he gave another excuse which was believable. I responded with a nice message and he didn’t reply back. I haven’t message him and he hasn’t responded in 4 days. What do I do?
Answer: It is tough when you like someone and they behave this way. Unfortunately he is giving you all the signals that he is not interested in you romantically. You deserve much better. Don't contact him at all. I wouldn't respond to him even in the future if he begins to talk to you again, because he already stopped talking to you once, and he could do it again.
Question: What if myself and a guy have talked daily for 3 weeks and seen each other twice. He had to travel again out of state for work and now has dropped off the planet. No check in texts and no calls for 2 days. I don't understand?
Answer: When people aren't meant for us they drift away. When they're meant for us they stay and make an effort.
Question: This guy has been ignoring me for about a month. What could that mean? Should I stop hoping for his text? I was hurt so have deleted his number anyway.
Answer: Yes, a person who does not text for a month does not have a genuine romantic interest. I think deleting his number was a good idea.
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GabrielaSab on August 08, 2020:
Hello! what if after months of almost dating he stops texting me all of a sudden but hasn't deleted me from his social media? In fact he still sees my stories. I stopped seeing his.My last text was a "Helloo" the day after he stopped texting me and didn't hear back from him. What should I expect?
Hearts and Lattes (author) on January 31, 2018:
I think your friends probably gave you the right advice there. Good luck, dear Eaton.
hobbyswift on January 30, 2018:
Thanks Hearts and Lattes.
I was reading lots of information around this topic and it appears that MOST men are men, regardless of the gender pursuing them! They don't like being chased, they don't like being heavily texted, they don't like too much emotion(i'm the exception as i'm a highly sensitive guy), they like to play cold alot, if you give up sexually too early they are very likely to jump ship after they have got the goods and move onto what they perceive as a more challenging 'prize'. I realised i was texting him too much, but not in a suffocating way e.g 'did you get my text?' or 'are you there?' etc . Just replying openly to his replies with some depth in my conversation. He was alot more restrained. He is lovely though and it doesn't help my infatuation that he looks like a cross between Zayne Malik and a young Eddie Cibrian lol . It is so hard to restrain yourself when you want to connect with that person deeply. So, i have managed to miss a day texting him, from the urgent advice from friends. I need to ask him for a coffee but i am very scared of rejection. It's so complicated when it's two dudes especially with me being very private. Wish me luck:) Eaton
Hearts and Lattes (author) on January 30, 2018:
I'm not really good at the dynamics in this case, but I wish you luck.
hobbyswift on January 28, 2018:
I was wondering if this is same for a guy who develops a crush on another guy and exchange numbers and do the whole texting thing? I am very into him but my head is so messed up as he only sends short texts and now he stopped texting ,well, since yesterday. into swopping numbers. He has no idea i am bi. I just want to tell him, but im not out and very private. It's been 2 weeks since this happened. I would love to date him and form a r'ship, but i don't understand if the texting game is same for 2 lads?