Gay Men: 7 Places to Find Your Next Boyfriend That Are Not in a Bar

Updated on November 9, 2018

Another Night at Bars?

You are a gay man who has been single far too long. You are good looking and smart, have a great set of friends, and take care of yourself: A “real catch,” you tell your buds. But something deep inside is telling you that the way you have been going about finding a man isn’t working.

As you check yourself in the mirror before getting ready to hit the bars again, you think,

“There has got to be a better way than the gay bars! I keep going week after week and no luck. Will it happen tonight? Oh crap, is that a pimple?”

Places to find a boyfriend that's not a bar
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Seriously, being a gay man and trying to find someone to date is a real chore. There are tons of hurdles to overcome that can make it feel like the deck is stacked against us. One major barrier can be figuring out where to meet someone. While bars can be a fun place to hang out with our friends, they are not always conducive to romantic connections. And let's face it—as time goes on, the inability to meet a quality person can take its toll on our confidence.

After speaking with a number of formerly single gay men who are now happily partnered, I will now reveal seven places to find your next boyfriend that are not a bar.

7 Places to Find Your Next Boyfriend That Are Not a Bar

What follows are seven suggestions for places for gay men to meet a potential boyfriend that do not include a bar or nightclub.

You'll find suggestions you've heard before, some of that are unconventional, and others that may even be silly. But if you're trying to break out of the bars, you may want to give them all a chance. I will add that this list is by no means exhaustive—please feel free to add ideas in the comment section at the end of this article.

You have tried everything else–so what else do you have to lose? Okay—let's look at the list!

1. Dating Apps and Web Sites

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You may be thinking that using apps and websites seems silly, but many gay men have met the guy of their dreams by using these types of platforms. Popular ones include OKCupid and Gay.

Others that are not as well known but nonetheless effective include the apps VGL Gay, Mister, and Tinder. Some of these are free while others cost a small amount (or charge a nominal fee for premium services). The great thing about apps and websites is that most all of them nowadays allow the user to input certain search criteria or filter out folks based on user preferences. You can also check MeetUp for gay groups of common interests in your area. If you like outdoor activities, check out Gay Outdoors.

Tips and Pointers:

Some report feeling “desperate” using apps and websites for dating purposes. If you are one of those people, you need to rethink this and do so quickly. According to recent research, there are 41 million people in the US who are currently looking to meet that special someone online. This statistic does not speak to the number of single gay men specifically, but we make up a fair amount of that number.

If you have tried dating using apps and sites before with no luck, consider using a different app. Scroll through your smartphone's options and pick something new. The idea here is to create change. Remember, dating is a numbers game. You have to put yourself out there in order to make it happen.

And here is one final point on this suggestion—while Grindr, Scruff, and other apps are great tools for meeting people, keep in mind that some of these platforms are more sexually charged than others. There is nothing wrong with this but if your goal is to date, using the right app is important.

2. Facebook

Keep reading this, and don’t skim because it is important. Reflexively, some may turn their nose up at the thought of using Facebook to “mine for dates,” but here is the thing you may not know: there are tons of gay people on this social media platform. We are talking millions! There are a number of fan pages and groups on Facebook that are specifically designed for gay men who are single and relationship-ready. Type “gay single dating” into Facebook's search box and see what comes up–lots! Remember, the people who are putting themselves out there are doing so with the same motivations that you are–to connect with someone for romance.

Tips and Pointers:

Did you know you can search Facebook for people on your friends list that are single? You sure can! Just punch in “single friends” or “my single friends” in the search box and see what comes up. You might be surprised. Of course, identification as single on Facebook depends on what the user indicates in their profile. But using this approach does allow you to see potential candidates. If they are an acquaintance, why not consider going out for a coffee? Later on the both of you might figure out that was your "first" date. Again, what do you have to lose?

3. LGBQ Events and Fundraisers

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As a population, we gays are very giving. Plus, many of us like to get all dolled up and go to events, like fundraisers for the different causes we support. Some examples include cancer-related events, HIV/AIDS-related causes, civil rights galas, and the list goes on. And if you are thinking that you won’t go to one of these events if it means having to go alone, please reconsider! Many gay men make the mistake of bringing a +1 to an event because they are embarrassed to be alone. The problem is that your +1 may be sending a glitchy signal to your potential next man that you are “with” someone. Get rid of the wing-man. Why confuse folks?

Tips and Pointers:

Several gay men have reported that they met the guy of their dreams by offering to be a “Table Captain” for a given event. In this capacity, you help to fill the table by soliciting people for donations. As captain, you have control over who is seated at your table—which is a huge advantage for you! Plus, you get to network with others who may be single and thereby expand your circle of available men.

Go to the fundraiser with the mindset of supporting the cause you care about, but be open to meeting someone new. Attitude is everything. It was the famous French philosopher Renee Descartes who said, "I think –therefore I am." What do you think?

4. Local Community Classes

This particular suggestion has worked well for many gay men who were formerly single. Do you like photography? What about painting, fitness, biking, aviation, cooking, horticulture, and so forth? One of the great things about about taking a class is the built-in advantage of a shared interest! Many classes are free or at little cost. You can find them by doing a Google search using your hometown or county in the search terms and seeing what pops up. Throw in the word “gay” as part of your search and refine your choices even more.

Tips and Pointers:

Chose a community class you are genuinely interested in and not just one where you think all of the hot men will be. We gays come in variety of shapes, ages, and sizes and we aren’t as cookie-cutter as many of the stereotypes people sometimes believe. Remember, it is only a shared interest if it is genuine.

5. Volunteer

This particular suggestion is a twofer when you think about it. First, you get the benefit of giving the gift of yourself to a cause you care about. Second, you will undoubtedly meet new people. More than a few happily partnered gay men have reported that they met their man through this approach. And so if you care about the environment for example, why not contact your local Greenpeace? If your passion is supporting your local LGBT community center, why not call them to see how they can use your gifts?

Tips and Pointers:

Some people worry about the time commitment required to volunteer for an organization. This is a very valid concern. It helps if you are up front about what you can and cannot do when you speak to the volunteer coordinator. Even if you can only be a greeter for an annual event or work the coat check, for example, it is something. And hey, a little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing.

6. Professional Organizations

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Yep, you read that right! A professional organization to which you may already belong likely has a chapter dedicated for LGBT members.

  • Are you a pilot? Why not join the National Gay Pilots Association (NGPA).
  • Are you a lawyer? Do a search on gay lawyer associations and see what pops up. In New York, Chicago, and Los Angeles for example, there are city-focused professional associations for lawyers.
  • Are you a doctor, nurse, physician’s assistant, or therapist? Guess what? There are gay chapters just for LGBT folks.

The point here is that whatever you do for employment, there is likely a professional organization with a gay-focused subdivision. Almost all of them hold events, including socials, mixers, and fundraisers. If you belong to one of these associations, great—your work is half done. If not, why not look for one that fits your particular background?

Tips and Pointers:

Use your professional organization’s LGBT subchapter as a way of networking and expanding your circle of available, single gay men. It is completely okay to let people know you are “on the market,” so to speak. As mentioned earlier, dating is a numbers game. But if you don’t play it, you can’t win. It’s all about attitude and knowing what you want, right?

7. Local Gay-Friendly Church or Spiritual Center

Some may recoil at this suggestion, but guess what? Many partnered men have reported meeting their husband at their local gay-friendly church or spiritual center. There are a lot of gay men who are deeply spiritual—and not just the bat-crap, self-loathing types that we often hear about, either.

If you have a local place of worship or other community-based venue for spirituality and you identify with what is offered, why not give it a try? More and more, religious organizations are recognizing that LGBT folks have spiritual needs. You might be surprised at what you find when you do a quick Google search on “gay + spiritual” in your area.

If you are one of those people who are not sure what you believe in, consider taking the Belief-o-Matic self-assessment. It’s free and you will likely learn something about yourself that perhaps you did not know before. Did you know there are gay communities of Agnostics, Quakers, Pagans, Humanists, and so forth? There sure are! And there are gay atheists who congregate, as well. Take the self-assessment to see where you fit in.

Tips and Pointers:

Obviously, going to a local gay-friendly church or spiritual center should be about your spiritual nourishment and well-being. Think about this first before you decide which venue for spirituality is best for you. However, this does not mean you can’t also meet new people, enjoy deeply meaningful connections, and perhaps bump into your new boyfriend!

Final Thoughts

The dream that one day, you will meet the guy of your dreams is a wonderful thing to dream about. But fantasizing and doing something to make it happen are two different things.

If you want to meet your next boyfriend, then you will have to take control of the process. The Promethean spark of love only happens if there are two available people who happen to be at the right place at the right time.

Gay bars are great but let’s be real–you are over them and have been for a long time! That’s why you read this article, isn’t it? Why not try something new? Tomorrow could be a great day!

Did I miss any places to find boyfriends? Leave suggestions in the comments!

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        The Echelon Scene 

        5 days ago

        Great article! There are indeed wonderful gay men out there- it's just time consuming trying to find them. I am a gay matchmaker and have been for 8 years- and believe me, it's a full time job. This article is right - Facebook can be a good tool as you can see mutual friends and you can have your friend vouch for the person. This is essential- we need to be able to vouch for everyone we work with at The Echelon Scene, so we screen and meet everyone in person. BUT, ask your friend to be as unbiased as possible- and ask your friend to contemplate if you have complementing values. This is key!

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        Dan allmettDan 

        5 weeks ago

        Want a young cute bf to love and make happy

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        Louis 

        6 weeks ago

        Shout out to Steeltone!

        I am very much interested to know you and hopefully become your friend. I have nothing much to say but i know how you feel. And i understand where you're coming from. I hope this simple message of mine will touch your loving heart. Its really hard and difficult to find people you want to share your heart and soul these days, but who knows..

        I still believe that somewhere there..someone will be our good and better partner in life.. God bless.

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        Steeltone 

        2 months ago

        Thanks CBJ. It seems that the search for love knows no boundaries. I live in a small, conservative town, and no gay bars or clubs. So, I don't have to try to avoid them. I do enjoy visiting gay clubs when I travel to larger cities, and have met some nice people and remain friends with a couple I met in a club in Atlanta several years ago. I'm a 60 year old man, searching for a partner. As I have aged, I've come to understand that the man I hope to meet is not a supermodel but is emotionally available, mature and kind. And, I remain optimistic that I'll meet him. In the meantime, I try to stay healthy, active and social. My friends and my family mean so much to my happiness, and I plan to invite my partner to that group.

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        VP 

        2 months ago

        Many probably won't want to hear this, but this sagely advice is still true: You can't love someone until you can love yourself. A problem in the gay community is we often have high expectations with little room for flexibility. Curbing idealizations is key to finding sustainable partnerships.

        There's no doubt the conventionally hot, bearded, chiseled man is yummy, but these men represent a small subset of the gay community; prioritizing the Adonis (who has his own problems and insecurities, too, mind you) won't get you into a loving relationship. The proclivity of gay men to value physical attractiveness over emotional intelligence and communication is short-sighted. Good looks WILL fade; the foundations you've built with someone who's been with you through your deepest lows is what makes a relationship.

        My advice is to work on yourself. Always work on yourself. Know what makes you happy and build relationships and communities based on those factors. A few of my key "rules":

        1. Don't give unavailable men your time.

        2. Be vulnerable; honesty is not synonymous with weakness.

        3. Communicate your needs—ALWAYS.

        4. Be kind and forgive yourself and those who have hurt you often.

        5. Don't be racist or a misogynist.

        Looking for love is hard—online and off. If you're older and looking for someone younger, know it's probably not going to be easy for you. If you're a person of color who only wants to date white men, deal with your internalized racism (I'm Asian and trust me, loving other men of color is incredibly empowering). If the beginning of your dating profile reads: "Looking for [insert sex position], attractive, fit, etc..." you're looking for sex, not love, so be real about that because longterm relationships are not built on who tops and who bottoms.

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        Jayquan king 

        2 months ago

        I need a boyfriend

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        will bowl 

        3 months ago from Elkhart in

        looking for love in all the wrong places // wanting to start out in the back seat.

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        Maluk 

        3 months ago

        Hello White Beautifull Hairless Cute Virgin Teen Age under 19 Years Old Bottom guys Meet me For Love fun and Marriage

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        men freed 

        4 months ago

        i like a boyfriend

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        Jake Statefarm 

        4 months ago

        Firstly, I want to know how many people actually sign up at community colleges to "meet" people. Not to mention...IT COST MONEY!!! Should I mention how many millennials are in debt for college loans. Who the f*** has time or the money to take an arbitrary course hoping to meet "the one"...so yea, needless to say I don't need to "try" this scenario to know how unlikely it is.

        Next....Volunteer? Have you been to the rural south? Sure I can volunteer at Walmart. Or volunteer at a local hospital...even though I already work there. But these are hardly two places I'd imagine meeting a compatible match. I've seen these advice tips given all over the internet and I'm convinced thise that are giving them live in either New York, LA or some other multimillion populous. For guys like me, stuck in the south...there really are only two options. Grindr...don't get me started. Or driving an hour to a gay bar since there aren't even any of those around. And these alliance groups? Seriously? I've searched everywhere for a local chapter of any of these organizations and not 1 to be found anywhere near where I live. And I sure your next suggestion will be to relocate, and while that may be the best option...it's still frustratingly inconvenient and expensive...not to mention the risk and time wasted if it all goes to shit. Why is it that only gay men that live in places like NY or LA seem to have such wonderful lives? Are the rest of us just suppose to deal with it or join you? All in all...it's a shit deal, high risk with very low reward, constant solitude and perpetual stereotypes....I'd rather have Cancer quite personally.

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        S duty 

        4 months ago

        Thanks for knowing this but I wish to know exact religious place.

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        Ro Jones 

        5 months ago

        I want I boyfriend

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        Gary 

        5 months ago

        I am mature, Italian, tan, gray bottom but versatile looking for a fit masculine top who is versatile but likes to take charge. I enjoy men with nice size packages - not small ones. I host on the southshore mid suffolk county, Long Island. Locals preferred. All ages who are fit & masculine are good.

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        Marshall 

        6 months ago

        The last relationship i was in lasted 9 years but there were signs day one he brought items from his last marriage and told me he could not get ride of them wedding picture i still stayed faithful until he sleeping with my best friend and i did not find out until he had died from aids and i never touch my partner and got tested my test came back neg. I was hurt i am ok but still single do not want my nexts partner to be controling or hurt me i have faith

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        Kavin 

        6 months ago

        Very hard to find good men .

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        Man looking for fun 

        6 months ago

        Hi. Find me

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        Single 

        7 months ago

        Well, this is a helpful article ... I'm still single and I really can't tell if these venues for meeting guys really work ... but I do hope I find the right one.

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        Butch 

        7 months ago

        Think more of the problem is gay culture itself. Finding men that are men that know what they want out of life takes time. Shallow is the thing that runs rampant in the culture and it just gets old. Main thing, you have to be true to yourself and what you seek and stay away from all the unnecessary drama and bull. In bigger cities, these are options, where I live, things to do or clubs to join are pretty much non-existent. Just have to remain positive and realize you don't need someone in your life to be happy...although it is nice to have someone to share things with.

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        lauren 

        7 months ago

        Love u

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        Evp1 

        7 months ago

        I am a married man who is craving for a fwb only i am bi

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        Sojoua 

        7 months ago

        A little about me I currently live in sunny Arizona. Love it here yes it’s hot but our winters are beautiful. I’m blk 145 slim and trim I’ll be 52 next month look 36 get carded often. I’m totall into movies I can binge watch movies all day. I go to as many Festivals here in the valley as much as I can. I write poetry script writing I love the Art galleries here in the valley. And also quite times at the house, I’m not looking to have sex with anyone I want a Relationship no one nightstands here. If your living in the valley hit me up.

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        Dam allmett 

        8 months ago

        Lookingfor lovefun loving serious like 18 to 30 im 70 love to kiss and cyddle

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        Martin 

        9 months ago

        : ) Ello

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        Hockeyman0218 

        9 months ago

        The problem that I have is often on dating sites there are a lot of effeminate men and not men's men.

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        j burns 

        9 months ago

        am so bi curious...have been for a long time...would love to be with the right guy...

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        James 

        9 months ago

        Hi I've looking for someones who s care me and love

        Me what I am ! Pls I need someones to love me

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        Pankaj 

        10 months ago

        Yes I am

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        Steve muhando 

        10 months ago

        I need a guy whom Is serious . I will love him as a husband and treasure him. Please anyone there?

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        bill 

        10 months ago

        available during business hours only. east city. prefer to be a bottom, but flexible. (really)

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        robert sienkiewic 

        11 months ago

        not lookin for something to serious wright now but what ever happens should stay with you and me.

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        Rashaun 

        11 months ago

        I like boys and around cleveland,ohio im 19 years old im gay and proud

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        bevans 

        12 months ago

        looking for older blk male arounnd pittsburgh, pa

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        james 

        12 months ago

        very hard to meet decent loyal real down to earth guys in a bar i hate the bar scene where do you go to meet others they say try a church or a group or some kind of acrivity groups

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        Willie 

        12 months ago

        Looking for a steady partner. I am loyal and want to be in a relationship. Please

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        wannanabe sissy 

        12 months ago

        dont know what to do

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        francys 

        12 months ago

        i love boys

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        Austin 

        12 months ago

        I love boys

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        collin1620 

        12 months ago

        I begin think I,ve tried them all.and all so far seems the game playing deal.it makes one wonder about men to men.men,or are they just over grown boys

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        Mohamed 

        13 months ago

        I am 31 gay looking to find relationship

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        Marky 

        13 months ago

        im looking for a nice young live in roommate

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        Rod 

        13 months ago from Sedro Woolley Wa.

        older single in Washington state , looking for relationship

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        ROD 

        13 months ago

        Older looking for younger relationship,

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        George "Bear" 

        15 months ago

        I hate going now to bars there use to be good quality guys there but not any more.I use to meet good quality men at a straight gym . I find the gay community in the gay village are real snobby "if you are not a typical gay activists or look a certain way they want nothing to do with you.

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        Hi 

        16 months ago

        I’m 18 live near London, England and want a nice loyal bf with great personality

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        David 

        16 months ago

        I am trying to find my true love its a gay life I guess..

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        Michael 

        16 months ago

        I would like to just talk to you and I hope you can help I have been looking for someone with a good persanoite I can't seem too find any one

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        joe 

        17 months ago

        65 years looking for tops men sny age but preferred around my age

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        Francisco 

        17 months ago

        I'd like clarify something in regard what dating websites generally dont and is because places like OLCupid, albeit free and with many men options, by being free anybody can use it, couples looking for a third for fun or love, bored men browsing and looking to find, simply guys looking for and because of there's a lack of "quality men" we found ourselves going on dates that don't workout (if they don't flake on you the very day of the date...)

        For those of you who are SERIOUS and commited to find a partner, you need to chose more discretionary websites that usually comes with membership costs (they vary based on different factors but all aimed to pair you with the right candidates). No one who pays money (even top money) for dating online services unless seriously invested and a great gatekeeper for bored couples or gossipy flakey men.

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        Nig 

        18 months ago

        Got the same problem can't find some one to have fun with surly it can't be that hard

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        T Bennett 

        18 months ago

        interesting and very true.

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        John Frye 

        19 months ago

        I am looking for cars & to love me want I am I want to love good man I don't car want age you are.

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        Sam 

        19 months ago

        Hello age 27 am looking for a nice guy to date with please help me am single, from Southern Africa Zambia. Someone who is mature and good to me

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        David 

        21 months ago

        Perhaps I'm single because of my personality. I've been told that I am peculiar and quirky. I wish I were somewhat average sometimes. Deep down there I am still that shy and lonely guy who dreams about a little home for me and a man to protect me and love me. Nonetheless, I try to remain strong and confident. Well, that's life. Life is a mess. Life is a bitch, but this doesn't mean you have to be one. I'm not.

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        paul OGarra 

        2 years ago

        Hi..I think the problem is all this social media hype and a radical overuse of technology. Most people dont really want to be labelled or have to fit into defined groups in order to meet other people. My advice and i have never been alone for more than two or three months in all my 65 years is go out, or as my mother used to say, join clubs. Nothing changes only that the powers that me want to control us better for their own nefarious purposes.

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        Sebastian 

        2 years ago

        Im looking for someone i could share the hardship and joy of life. Someone with whom i could take pride in each of our victories and put my backs and tears behind each of our struggles. Someone who would see the virtue of a knight instead of madman. Someone with whom i could strive for greatness. The one who would forgive my trespasses for i too am still learning to love. Someone who does not give up on words and promises but are willing to go through pain and wrong while building something and perhaps the only thing that really matters. Is out there another madman another man of chivalry? Or have all days of glory passed in favor of cheap hedonism?

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        MJ2 

        2 years ago

        David from 4 months ago...14 years is a long time. I've been in a relationship for 30 years...that's also a long time. I'm not sure monogamy is the answer either. I think we need variety. There is no easy answer, unless you meet your soul mate.

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        kenny 

        2 years ago

        Happy new year 2017 hope we can share love and life

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        kwame 

        2 years ago

        i need a guy who will treat me queen and i will give my all

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        Sontaya 

        2 years ago

        Hi, My name is Sontaya i am from Thailand, my line ID : pailouin , I need a nice boy friend

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        Steve 

        2 years ago

        Ron I exist so you are wrong! I want the same! I feel the same! So don't give up!

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        Michael 

        2 years ago

        I live on the side of a mountain in a great home. I'm 56 and in shape and was once one of the 26+ good-looking men that are so tragically without a date. Your site is for those great looking hunks that didn't score last Saturday night.

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        Douglas 

        2 years ago

        Lookmeup in Winston Salem NC

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        anonymous 

        2 years ago

        I'm a 24 Year old Latino male who's in the closet due to professional reasons. :/

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        Xin 

        2 years ago

        I'm looking for a serious boyfriend. Thanks.

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        hi 

        2 years ago

        i am looking for a hot boyfriend

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        pecansailR 

        2 years ago

        Am a Latino Silver-Bear!! In the Closet!!

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        Brandon 

        3 years ago

        Sorry for the bad grammar and misspelling in my previous comment, basically what i was saying is that the stereotype of muscle men that most gay men want... Just want sex... And from what I've gathered... Most gay men in general... Just want sex...

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        Brandon 

        3 years ago

        I've found that the typical tall, muscled/athletic men that are what most gay men look for, myself included, sadly enough, are just wanting to look for sex, and aren't generally (from experience dating them) the commuted type, my guess is that since truer buff and toned, their ego rises and they know they can hook up with nearly any man they please... So in their minds, they don't need to be tied down.

        I'm pretty much over the dating scene, and don't even want to hook up... Barely any gay man close to my age (20s) really wants a relationship these days...

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        Peter 

        3 years ago

        I'll preface this with saying its an opinion based on anecdotal evidence and personal experience, rather than statistics. I trust much of this will ring true to many though. Also I feel none of this contradicts the above.

        As a gay man happily partnered for 10 years now (trust me...that's 30 in gay years) surrounded by single gay friends yet to have a boyfriend that come to me for magical insight, this is my 2 cents, after listening to their woes.

        More often the lack of gay population seems to be secondary to the mindset of partner hunting developed unconsciously from the scene, in which a 6 pack or big guns are considered more important than the ability to put two words together, let alone for any type of emotional connection. When I ask my friends what their ideal partner is, despite them being great boyfriend material, their 'type' has evolved into primary importance on physical attributes and anything else is secondary. Invariably this leads to very short-term relationships as they get to know each other beyond mutual interest in the gym. It also means that anyone who doesnt have the ideal physical profile can suffer from low self esteem, and the growth rate of eating disorders among gay men have never been higher.

        Then there are the ones who want a boyfriend, any boyfriend, and think of single life as being hell. As a result they either pick poor matches doomed to failure out of desparation, or sink their claws in on the first date and jealousy and fear just destroys any chance of getting further.

        So, to add another item on the list, I'd recommend opening your mind up to looking beyond your pictured 'type' because it might jut be putting blinkers on, and if you are still single after exhaustive searching then it clearly isnt working for you. Be happy and confident with yourself as a single person who doesnt 'need' anyone to make you feel complete. Finally, keep in mind in the tightknit minority community, chances are a high percentage of your friends and acquaintences are gay. Look again beyond your existing relationship with them and you might find something more.

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        JobyTodd 

        3 years ago

        Thank you for the article.

        I teach.

        I write.

        I do some of the items suggested.

        Being single sucks.

        Yorktown, VA.

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        who likes me...am from phillippines 

        3 years ago

        Hi to all

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        CB Jones 

        4 years ago

        Eddie you are funny

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        tray 

        4 years ago

        I need one boyfriend

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        Alex 

        4 years ago

        Sweet jesus that's bleak.

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        CB Jones 

        5 years ago

        Thanks Sherya, I appreciate you sharing here. Always needs to be an alternative to the bars for sure!

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