Gay Men: 7 Places to Find Your Next Boyfriend That Are Not in a Bar

Updated on November 9, 2018

Another Night at Bars?

You are a gay man who has been single far too long. You are good looking and smart, have a great set of friends, and take care of yourself: A “real catch,” you tell your buds. But something deep inside is telling you that the way you have been going about finding a man isn’t working.

As you check yourself in the mirror before getting ready to hit the bars again, you think,

“There has got to be a better way than the gay bars! I keep going week after week and no luck. Will it happen tonight? Oh crap, is that a pimple?”

Places to find a boyfriend that's not a bar
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Seriously, being a gay man and trying to find someone to date is a real chore. There are tons of hurdles to overcome that can make it feel like the deck is stacked against us. One major barrier can be figuring out where to meet someone. While bars can be a fun place to hang out with our friends, they are not always conducive to romantic connections. And let's face it—as time goes on, the inability to meet a quality person can take its toll on our confidence.

After speaking with a number of formerly single gay men who are now happily partnered, I will now reveal seven places to find your next boyfriend that are not a bar.

7 Places to Find Your Next Boyfriend That Are Not a Bar

What follows are seven suggestions for places for gay men to meet a potential boyfriend that do not include a bar or nightclub.

You'll find suggestions you've heard before, some of that are unconventional, and others that may even be silly. But if you're trying to break out of the bars, you may want to give them all a chance. I will add that this list is by no means exhaustive—please feel free to add ideas in the comment section at the end of this article.

You have tried everything else–so what else do you have to lose? Okay—let's look at the list!

1. Dating Apps and Web Sites

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You may be thinking that using apps and websites seems silly, but many gay men have met the guy of their dreams by using these types of platforms. Popular ones include OKCupid and Gay.

Others that are not as well known but nonetheless effective include the apps VGL Gay, Mister, and Tinder. Some of these are free while others cost a small amount (or charge a nominal fee for premium services). The great thing about apps and websites is that most all of them nowadays allow the user to input certain search criteria or filter out folks based on user preferences. You can also check MeetUp for gay groups of common interests in your area. If you like outdoor activities, check out Gay Outdoors.

Tips and Pointers:

Some report feeling “desperate” using apps and websites for dating purposes. If you are one of those people, you need to rethink this and do so quickly. According to recent research, there are 41 million people in the US who are currently looking to meet that special someone online. This statistic does not speak to the number of single gay men specifically, but we make up a fair amount of that number.

If you have tried dating using apps and sites before with no luck, consider using a different app. Scroll through your smartphone's options and pick something new. The idea here is to create change. Remember, dating is a numbers game. You have to put yourself out there in order to make it happen.

And here is one final point on this suggestion—while Grindr, Scruff, and other apps are great tools for meeting people, keep in mind that some of these platforms are more sexually charged than others. There is nothing wrong with this but if your goal is to date, using the right app is important.

2. Facebook

Keep reading this, and don’t skim because it is important. Reflexively, some may turn their nose up at the thought of using Facebook to “mine for dates,” but here is the thing you may not know: there are tons of gay people on this social media platform. We are talking millions! There are a number of fan pages and groups on Facebook that are specifically designed for gay men who are single and relationship-ready. Type “gay single dating” into Facebook's search box and see what comes up–lots! Remember, the people who are putting themselves out there are doing so with the same motivations that you are–to connect with someone for romance.

Tips and Pointers:

Did you know you can search Facebook for people on your friends list that are single? You sure can! Just punch in “single friends” or “my single friends” in the search box and see what comes up. You might be surprised. Of course, identification as single on Facebook depends on what the user indicates in their profile. But using this approach does allow you to see potential candidates. If they are an acquaintance, why not consider going out for a coffee? Later on the both of you might figure out that was your "first" date. Again, what do you have to lose?

3. LGBQ Events and Fundraisers

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As a population, we gays are very giving. Plus, many of us like to get all dolled up and go to events, like fundraisers for the different causes we support. Some examples include cancer-related events, HIV/AIDS-related causes, civil rights galas, and the list goes on. And if you are thinking that you won’t go to one of these events if it means having to go alone, please reconsider! Many gay men make the mistake of bringing a +1 to an event because they are embarrassed to be alone. The problem is that your +1 may be sending a glitchy signal to your potential next man that you are “with” someone. Get rid of the wing-man. Why confuse folks?

Tips and Pointers:

Several gay men have reported that they met the guy of their dreams by offering to be a “Table Captain” for a given event. In this capacity, you help to fill the table by soliciting people for donations. As captain, you have control over who is seated at your table—which is a huge advantage for you! Plus, you get to network with others who may be single and thereby expand your circle of available men.

Go to the fundraiser with the mindset of supporting the cause you care about, but be open to meeting someone new. Attitude is everything. It was the famous French philosopher Renee Descartes who said, "I think –therefore I am." What do you think?

4. Local Community Classes

This particular suggestion has worked well for many gay men who were formerly single. Do you like photography? What about painting, fitness, biking, aviation, cooking, horticulture, and so forth? One of the great things about about taking a class is the built-in advantage of a shared interest! Many classes are free or at little cost. You can find them by doing a Google search using your hometown or county in the search terms and seeing what pops up. Throw in the word “gay” as part of your search and refine your choices even more.

Tips and Pointers:

Chose a community class you are genuinely interested in and not just one where you think all of the hot men will be. We gays come in variety of shapes, ages, and sizes and we aren’t as cookie-cutter as many of the stereotypes people sometimes believe. Remember, it is only a shared interest if it is genuine.

5. Volunteer

This particular suggestion is a twofer when you think about it. First, you get the benefit of giving the gift of yourself to a cause you care about. Second, you will undoubtedly meet new people. More than a few happily partnered gay men have reported that they met their man through this approach. And so if you care about the environment for example, why not contact your local Greenpeace? If your passion is supporting your local LGBT community center, why not call them to see how they can use your gifts?

Tips and Pointers:

Some people worry about the time commitment required to volunteer for an organization. This is a very valid concern. It helps if you are up front about what you can and cannot do when you speak to the volunteer coordinator. Even if you can only be a greeter for an annual event or work the coat check, for example, it is something. And hey, a little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing.

6. Professional Organizations

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Yep, you read that right! A professional organization to which you may already belong likely has a chapter dedicated for LGBT members.

  • Are you a pilot? Why not join the National Gay Pilots Association (NGPA).
  • Are you a lawyer? Do a search on gay lawyer associations and see what pops up. In New York, Chicago, and Los Angeles for example, there are city-focused professional associations for lawyers.
  • Are you a doctor, nurse, physician’s assistant, or therapist? Guess what? There are gay chapters just for LGBT folks.

The point here is that whatever you do for employment, there is likely a professional organization with a gay-focused subdivision. Almost all of them hold events, including socials, mixers, and fundraisers. If you belong to one of these associations, great—your work is half done. If not, why not look for one that fits your particular background?

Tips and Pointers:

Use your professional organization’s LGBT subchapter as a way of networking and expanding your circle of available, single gay men. It is completely okay to let people know you are “on the market,” so to speak. As mentioned earlier, dating is a numbers game. But if you don’t play it, you can’t win. It’s all about attitude and knowing what you want, right?

7. Local Gay-Friendly Church or Spiritual Center

Some may recoil at this suggestion, but guess what? Many partnered men have reported meeting their husband at their local gay-friendly church or spiritual center. There are a lot of gay men who are deeply spiritual—and not just the bat-crap, self-loathing types that we often hear about, either.

If you have a local place of worship or other community-based venue for spirituality and you identify with what is offered, why not give it a try? More and more, religious organizations are recognizing that LGBT folks have spiritual needs. You might be surprised at what you find when you do a quick Google search on “gay + spiritual” in your area.

If you are one of those people who are not sure what you believe in, consider taking the Belief-o-Matic self-assessment. It’s free and you will likely learn something about yourself that perhaps you did not know before. Did you know there are gay communities of Agnostics, Quakers, Pagans, Humanists, and so forth? There sure are! And there are gay atheists who congregate, as well. Take the self-assessment to see where you fit in.

Tips and Pointers:

Obviously, going to a local gay-friendly church or spiritual center should be about your spiritual nourishment and well-being. Think about this first before you decide which venue for spirituality is best for you. However, this does not mean you can’t also meet new people, enjoy deeply meaningful connections, and perhaps bump into your new boyfriend!

Final Thoughts

The dream that one day, you will meet the guy of your dreams is a wonderful thing to dream about. But fantasizing and doing something to make it happen are two different things.

If you want to meet your next boyfriend, then you will have to take control of the process. The Promethean spark of love only happens if there are two available people who happen to be at the right place at the right time.

Gay bars are great but let’s be real–you are over them and have been for a long time! That’s why you read this article, isn’t it? Why not try something new? Tomorrow could be a great day!

Did I miss any places to find boyfriends? Leave suggestions in the comments!

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      Sheldon Clemendore 

      16 hours ago

      LookinGay artist/humanitarian looking for my soulmate..someone who can see me for who can see, love and respect all of me, who i am within and without, as i will him of course

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      Marshall 

      6 days ago

      The last relationship i was in lasted 9 years but there were signs day one he brought items from his last marriage and told me he could not get ride of them wedding picture i still stayed faithful until he sleeping with my best friend and i did not find out until he had died from aids and i never touch my partner and got tested my test came back neg. I was hurt i am ok but still single do not want my nexts partner to be controling or hurt me i have faith

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      Kavin 

      2 weeks ago

      Very hard to find good men .

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      Man looking for fun 

      2 weeks ago

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      Single 

      3 weeks ago

      Well, this is a helpful article ... I'm still single and I really can't tell if these venues for meeting guys really work ... but I do hope I find the right one.

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      daveisconfused 

      3 weeks ago

      i am looking for a young couple, there are alot of things i am curious about what a man has to offer and really enjoy what a woman has to offer. I would like to have the best of both worlds but am not comfortable with a man off the hop. I am in Windsor Ontario, please send email to dave.reid3000@gmail.com

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      Butch 

      3 weeks ago

      Think more of the problem is gay culture itself. Finding men that are men that know what they want out of life takes time. Shallow is the thing that runs rampant in the culture and it just gets old. Main thing, you have to be true to yourself and what you seek and stay away from all the unnecessary drama and bull. In bigger cities, these are options, where I live, things to do or clubs to join are pretty much non-existent. Just have to remain positive and realize you don't need someone in your life to be happy...although it is nice to have someone to share things with.

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      lauren 

      4 weeks ago

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      5 weeks ago

      I am a married man who is craving for a fwb only i am bi

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      7 weeks ago

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      2 months ago

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      2 months ago

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      3 months ago

      The problem that I have is often on dating sites there are a lot of effeminate men and not men's men.

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      3 months ago

      Yes I am

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      4 months ago from Philippines

      Hello ... I am looking for someone to share my life with ... and I hope and pray it's you.

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      4 months ago

      I need a guy whom Is serious . I will love him as a husband and treasure him. Please anyone there?

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      Kelly 

      4 months ago

      I am bicurious I am made love to a man and I didn't stop with my girlfriend's best friend it was awesome like going down I guess I'm both now doing anything and everything I can't even trust you don't like sucking dick to and making out do everything you do is hurt that was awesome he had a big dick and made me come over and over it is friend joined in so so suck my eyes getting f*****turn me on so freaking bad show me freaking crazy I love it when a guy comes inside me or am I too strong I love it I guess I'm gay I guess I'm both ways like to dress up and all play girl-sexy

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      bill 

      4 months ago

      available during business hours only. east city. prefer to be a bottom, but flexible. (really)

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      5 months ago

      not lookin for something to serious wright now but what ever happens should stay with you and me.

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      5 months ago

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      6 months ago

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      james 

      6 months ago

      very hard to meet decent loyal real down to earth guys in a bar i hate the bar scene where do you go to meet others they say try a church or a group or some kind of acrivity groups

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      Willie 

      6 months ago

      Looking for a steady partner. I am loyal and want to be in a relationship. Please

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      6 months ago

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      6 months ago

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      6 months ago

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      6 months ago

      I begin think I,ve tried them all.and all so far seems the game playing deal.it makes one wonder about men to men.men,or are they just over grown boys

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      San Diego Calif 

      6 months ago

      Attractive professional black guy. I am 5'11, 179 lbs, very handsome and well groomed. I am educated and 54 but everyone says that I look 34 years young.

      I am "WAY OVER" the gay scene. I don't mind us going out for a cocktail with our friends every once in a while, but I'd rather spend time with you rather we are staying in, to bbq with a great bottle of wine. I want to travel to Europe again, this time making new memories.

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      Mohamed 

      7 months ago

      I am 31 gay looking to find relationship

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      Marc Anthony1 

      7 months ago

      I'd like to meet a guy to have fun with go to movies with

      im here for pleasure n also looking for a roommate

      I just need a friend

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      7 months ago

      im looking for a nice young live in roommate

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      Rod 

      7 months ago from Sedro Woolley Wa.

      older single in Washington state , looking for relationship

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      7 months ago

      Older looking for younger relationship,

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      joshuafrancisco 

      7 months ago

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      7 months ago

      i'm 16yrs and a single bottom looking for a long time relationship.

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      George "Bear" 

      8 months ago

      I hate going now to bars there use to be good quality guys there but not any more.I use to meet good quality men at a straight gym . I find the gay community in the gay village are real snobby "if you are not a typical gay activists or look a certain way they want nothing to do with you.

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      9 months ago

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      9 months ago

      I am 17 looking for gay man in Pakistan.

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      Tyrone 

      9 months ago

      anyone who can come to florence South Carolina looking for a real relationship.. I need love I'm not bad looking greeneshelton@gmail.com for my Facebook I'm down to video chat only.. I'm a guy who knows what he wants.. I will be open for any suggestions..I'm 23.. thank you..

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      Hi 

      9 months ago

      I’m 18 live near London, England and want a nice loyal bf with great personality

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      David 

      10 months ago

      I am trying to find my true love its a gay life I guess..

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      Michael 

      10 months ago

      I would like to just talk to you and I hope you can help I have been looking for someone with a good persanoite I can't seem too find any one

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      Phuminnaris Wongsawat 

      11 months ago from Thailand

      well I met my ex boyfriend in the bar and we had great relationship in 8 years

      The bad thing he was pass away in 7 months ago

      The hard thing is not easy for looking another guy

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      I am keep looking in many social but still not work for me

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      joe 

      11 months ago

      65 years looking for tops men sny age but preferred around my age

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      Francisco 

      11 months ago

      I'd like clarify something in regard what dating websites generally dont and is because places like OLCupid, albeit free and with many men options, by being free anybody can use it, couples looking for a third for fun or love, bored men browsing and looking to find, simply guys looking for and because of there's a lack of "quality men" we found ourselves going on dates that don't workout (if they don't flake on you the very day of the date...)

      For those of you who are SERIOUS and commited to find a partner, you need to chose more discretionary websites that usually comes with membership costs (they vary based on different factors but all aimed to pair you with the right candidates). No one who pays money (even top money) for dating online services unless seriously invested and a great gatekeeper for bored couples or gossipy flakey men.

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      kobby hemelton 

      11 months ago

      me to i have the same problem in finding hot gays

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      Nig 

      12 months ago

      Got the same problem can't find some one to have fun with surly it can't be that hard

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      Sezgi Akbas 

      12 months ago

      i have a lot of gay friends of church community in Denizli city.

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      T Bennett 

      12 months ago

      interesting and very true.

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      Luke lequire 

      12 months ago

      I'm 18 looking for a boyfriend. But no matter what I do it's like no one likes me when I tell them I like swimming, hiking, camping, and riding horses. What am I doing wrong and what do I do?

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      michaelprimeau2017@yahoo.com 

      12 months ago

      hell .. I have done it all, been there, and thought the last time it was the person that we were meant to be but alas it was not... not interested in dating but meeting and talking and really get to know someone. To me that is important. I know most gay guys are not like this but personality and humour are way more important that the sex act. The sex act you can teach or be taught but the personality and heart and humour cannot. So that being said... is that its said. Listening to the new GAGA copulation. Its good not like the old ones (under 10 years old...LOL).

      Well I guess that is it. Just venting and feel sad because I am pathetic. Should not care but hell I do.

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      Just me 

      12 months ago

      I am 18 and gay but i am looking fot love .

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      John Frye 

      13 months ago

      I am looking for cars & to love me want I am I want to love good man I don't car want age you are.

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      Sam 

      13 months ago

      Hello age 27 am looking for a nice guy to date with please help me am single, from Southern Africa Zambia. Someone who is mature and good to me

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      yesi'mhot&gay 

      13 months ago

      A bit of Advice from a 28 your old man who has always been the best looking one in the room, but never had a long term real relationship. think carrie bradshaw/Samantha jones but no man in sight (and no I am not flamboyant or feminine). You can't have a relationship with the straight guy you have a crush on, u can have sex with him, he may go for that but he won't turn gay for u. Your best bet is to get out in the world and go to gay events, network, make a plan to go out at least 2 nights a week/2 day a week with the goal of meeting someone new. ELIAS BRO17 telling if someone is gay or straight is a subtle art and sometimes impossible, the best way is to compliment them or compliment another man/celebrity and see how they react. Or of course tell them u r gay in a round about way or flat out and see how they react. IF u want sex with a hot guy bad enough I have np doubt u will get there, but a relationship is tricky, I've been at this a while now and i'm just having luck going to gay events, clubs and to the gym, running club, i'm finally starting to have some luck. I have had some very hot straight fuck buddies but trust me u don't want the straight guys after u have had them and all they want is sex (until they don't anymore). BE GENUINE BE YOURSELF.

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      Fred 

      13 months ago

      I'm looking for a gay man for me to have lost of fun with me all the time can you help me please and thank you

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      EliasBro17 

      13 months ago

      I am 17 and gay. At school and at the gym, I can't stop assuming that all dudes are straight; each and every one of them.

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      Stee 

      14 months ago

      Hi im just looking for a nice guy that has trust n love

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      Jackson 

      15 months ago

      I'm gay, but I'm 13, and all of the guys in my school are either straight, or bi/pan. Also no one likes me.

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      David 

      15 months ago

      Perhaps I'm single because of my personality. I've been told that I am peculiar and quirky. I wish I were somewhat average sometimes. Deep down there I am still that shy and lonely guy who dreams about a little home for me and a man to protect me and love me. Nonetheless, I try to remain strong and confident. Well, that's life. Life is a mess. Life is a bitch, but this doesn't mean you have to be one. I'm not.

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      Cullen Morin 

      16 months ago

      Hi are you gay and 18 years old I am and gay 18 years old

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      IVAN 

      16 months ago

      you are single because you are too shallow and superficial. You think you are too good looking, and reality is you are average or even below average yet you expect a knockout boyfriend. You need a reality check.

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      patsy 

      16 months ago

      look every thing is a money game, they want money every gay site on the net is a money racket, is there no one that can start a free gay dating site , even i put in a privet add lot of the replies i get is from dourty old men pretending to be what there not.

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      Hayden 

      17 months ago

      I'm gay but I want a boyfriend to have sex with.

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      monty 

      17 months ago

      I gay now in egypt

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      john 

      17 months ago

      hi i want a hot guy in bahrain anyone intrested instagram post ur id

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      peter 

      18 months ago

      I have gone into a shell as i am disabled had a very attractive good looking now im 60 and no body wants to no

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      nima 

      19 months ago

      Iam 31years old but my face is 25.plz call.my gay life is not good because iam alone

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      nima 

      19 months ago

      I need some one for love iam not drinking and smoking

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      paul OGarra 

      20 months ago

      Hi..I think the problem is all this social media hype and a radical overuse of technology. Most people dont really want to be labelled or have to fit into defined groups in order to meet other people. My advice and i have never been alone for more than two or three months in all my 65 years is go out, or as my mother used to say, join clubs. Nothing changes only that the powers that me want to control us better for their own nefarious purposes.

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      Sebastian 

      20 months ago

      Im looking for someone i could share the hardship and joy of life. Someone with whom i could take pride in each of our victories and put my backs and tears behind each of our struggles. Someone who would see the virtue of a knight instead of madman. Someone with whom i could strive for greatness. The one who would forgive my trespasses for i too am still learning to love. Someone who does not give up on words and promises but are willing to go through pain and wrong while building something and perhaps the only thing that really matters. Is out there another madman another man of chivalry? Or have all days of glory passed in favor of cheap hedonism?

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      Charlus 

      20 months ago

      I like bars, gay or straight. I've met three of my lovers in bars, and my present long-term relationship included. Bars are only locked down upon by people who have too little intellectual substance and too little sophistication to enjoy alcohol and the faux-Lush-Life atmosphere. Being gay is not the equivalent of smile-button suburban respectability. If that were true I'd have given up on it a very long time ago! Pace alcoholics in recovery, for whom I have the greatest empathy and respect! But really, who wants to meet a fellow professional, etc. Not I? The great thing about being gay, for me, is a kind of constructive social irresponsibility. I don't need to feel respectable and I don't need someone whose "educational level" equals mine. I prefer, in fact, someone who is socially different from me. As long as they're smart and kind, who cares about the rest!

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      MJ2 

      22 months ago

      David from 4 months ago...14 years is a long time. I've been in a relationship for 30 years...that's also a long time. I'm not sure monogamy is the answer either. I think we need variety. There is no easy answer, unless you meet your soul mate.

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      kenny 

      22 months ago

      Happy new year 2017 hope we can share love and life

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      Bill 

      2 years ago

      Finding guys for serious relationships is nearly impossible. I've been single for 10 years. Being single sucks. Period. Holidays are the worse. Planning for the future is a difficult task also. I'm trying to be positive about finding a guy. Would like to hear from other guys in the same situation. Billfromvermont at gmail. Have a good day.

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      kwame 

      2 years ago

      i need a guy who will treat me queen and i will give my all

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      Sontaya 

      2 years ago

      Hi, My name is Sontaya i am from Thailand, my line ID : pailouin , I need a nice boy friend

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      David 

      2 years ago

      I would love to have a boyfriend it's been over 14 yrs now I'm nice quite good looking too

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      Steve 

      2 years ago

      Ron I exist so you are wrong! I want the same! I feel the same! So don't give up!

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      pradeep singh 

      2 years ago

      I m confused about my sexuality . How I can find out the right for me plz tell

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      remson 

      2 years ago

      am new to gay and am intresting any gay over there in usa am in nigeria holla me zero eight zero two six seven zero three eight five six.

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      Ron 

      2 years ago

      Living in the Midwest there are gay churches, gay bars, and cruisy areas. But that is about it. If you are not into any of the 3 you are screwed. Besides most everyone is looking at the outside more than the inside of the person. there are people like me who is looking for a kind, gentle, trusting, honest person that a person can believe in. A person with a sense of humor and someone old fashioned enough to believe in the qualities of marriage and willing to work at it to make it continue and work. Someone who you can share your life with, someone that has taken the time to really know who I am as a person someone who is romantic in a lot of ways. Someone who is giving and tender, dependable and willing to be there when you need them such as a health issue etc. I do not think there is someone like that out there anywhere. I have not seen him. I guess I will die searching for it because it does not exist. I wish I could find someone that I can say to all I want is just him.

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      Jimmy 

      2 years ago

      Hi I want a boyfriend as well. I am a 32 Asian man . Anyone interested me , pls pm me ..

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      Michael 

      2 years ago

      I live on the side of a mountain in a great home. I'm 56 and in shape and was once one of the 26+ good-looking men that are so tragically without a date. Your site is for those great looking hunks that didn't score last Saturday night.

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      Douglas 

      2 years ago

      Lookmeup in Winston Salem NC

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      anonymous 

      2 years ago

      I'm a 24 Year old Latino male who's in the closet due to professional reasons. :/

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      Xin 

      2 years ago

      I'm looking for a serious boyfriend. Thanks.

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      most 

      2 years ago

      hey i am looking for boyfriend any on taxt me on WhatsApp

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      hi 

      2 years ago

      i am looking for a hot boyfriend

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      pecansailR 

      2 years ago

      Am a Latino Silver-Bear!! In the Closet!!

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      Brandon 

      2 years ago

      Sorry for the bad grammar and misspelling in my previous comment, basically what i was saying is that the stereotype of muscle men that most gay men want... Just want sex... And from what I've gathered... Most gay men in general... Just want sex...

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      Brandon 

      2 years ago

      I've found that the typical tall, muscled/athletic men that are what most gay men look for, myself included, sadly enough, are just wanting to look for sex, and aren't generally (from experience dating them) the commuted type, my guess is that since truer buff and toned, their ego rises and they know they can hook up with nearly any man they please... So in their minds, they don't need to be tied down.

      I'm pretty much over the dating scene, and don't even want to hook up... Barely any gay man close to my age (20s) really wants a relationship these days...

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      Peter 

      2 years ago

      I'll preface this with saying its an opinion based on anecdotal evidence and personal experience, rather than statistics. I trust much of this will ring true to many though. Also I feel none of this contradicts the above.

      As a gay man happily partnered for 10 years now (trust me...that's 30 in gay years) surrounded by single gay friends yet to have a boyfriend that come to me for magical insight, this is my 2 cents, after listening to their woes.

      More often the lack of gay population seems to be secondary to the mindset of partner hunting developed unconsciously from the scene, in which a 6 pack or big guns are considered more important than the ability to put two words together, let alone for any type of emotional connection. When I ask my friends what their ideal partner is, despite them being great boyfriend material, their 'type' has evolved into primary importance on physical attributes and anything else is secondary. Invariably this leads to very short-term relationships as they get to know each other beyond mutual interest in the gym. It also means that anyone who doesnt have the ideal physical profile can suffer from low self esteem, and the growth rate of eating disorders among gay men have never been higher.

      Then there are the ones who want a boyfriend, any boyfriend, and think of single life as being hell. As a result they either pick poor matches doomed to failure out of desparation, or sink their claws in on the first date and jealousy and fear just destroys any chance of getting further.

      So, to add another item on the list, I'd recommend opening your mind up to looking beyond your pictured 'type' because it might jut be putting blinkers on, and if you are still single after exhaustive searching then it clearly isnt working for you. Be happy and confident with yourself as a single person who doesnt 'need' anyone to make you feel complete. Finally, keep in mind in the tightknit minority community, chances are a high percentage of your friends and acquaintences are gay. Look again beyond your existing relationship with them and you might find something more.

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      JobyTodd 

      2 years ago

      Thank you for the article.

      I teach.

      I write.

      I do some of the items suggested.

      Being single sucks.

      Yorktown, VA.

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      who likes me...am from phillippines 

      3 years ago

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