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Is the Man of Your Dreams a Filipino?
The Allure of Filipino Men
Men from the Philippines possess an irresistible charm that is hard to ignore. A male hailing from this tropical country in southeast Asia is referred to as a 'Filipino.'
Known to be thoughtful, sensitive, romantic, and sweet—though these are generalizations—men from these parts can either end your search for love or make you not want to date any of them ever again.
If you are a foreign woman who finds Filipino men irresistible, whether you live in the Philippines or are dating a Filipino man elsewhere, find out the different types of Filipino men you might encounter.
The Typical Types of Guys You Might Date in the Philippines
Will remember your birthday and bring you gifts
Might propose before the first anniversary
Mr. Cool Hunk
Handsome, savvy about women, fun
Brags about his attractiveness, commitment-shy
Serious about work or studies and sets high goals for himself
Choosy about women
Can be attractive and good at "wooing"
Not interested in a serious relationship and is not monogamous
Mr. Mama's Boy
Makes for a great date
Follows his mother's advice about women, making him a difficult long-term partner
Family-oriented, not necessarily immature
Lives with his parents
1. Mr. Romantic
The Mr. Romantic types may seem few and far between. Don't fret, however. You may still be lucky to find this gem of a breed. He is the kind of guy you can expect to remember birthdays, anniversaries, and other special occasions.
Mr. Romantic types are attuned with female sensitivities, so you won't have any problem connecting with him on an emotionally fulfilling level. Consider yourself lucky if you get to know one, because you can expect this type of Filipino man to be there for you when you need him the most.
Although at times he can be cheesy, know that it is just him showing his true romantic side. However, if you don't plan on getting serious, try not to lead him on. Make it clear that you are not looking to settle down so you can save him from further heartbreak.
On the dark side of this kind of man, a romantic type's romancing can be borne out of expertise and experience with wooing women. It could mean he has done romantic things too many times before. In other words, it may mean that he has the makings of a player.
2. Mr. Cool Hunk
Mr. Cool Hunk is the kind of Filipino man who is slick, makes himself look attractive at all times, and probably goes to the gym regularly.
This kind of man likes to have the latest trendy clothes and newest gadgets. He drives a car with customized trim or, if he is loaded, he probably drives a sports car. He is keen to be the center of attention and will do anything to be in the spotlight at all times.
He might even often brag about his magnetic personality and, indeed, women are drawn to him naturally. He is the life of the party and is aware of his magnetic effect on women.
On the dark side of things, he could be a player. He could also be masking some insecurities, which may explain his obsession with his appearance. These Cool Hunk types could also be suffering from narcissism, so take note.
At times you might feel like he is too high-maintenance for a man.
If you don't want your heart to be broken or if you are looking for a real keeper, it's better to stay away from the Cool Hunk. He can be fun, but a long-term relationship is simply not what he's looking for right now. If you want great eye-candy, then enjoy him as a date, but that's it. Proceed with caution.
3. Mr. Geek
He may not look like the geeks on reality shows, but there are Filipino geeks. They can even be hot in a geeky way. Intelligent-looking guys have a special allure that draws certain women. A geek can be serious, and he might seem to be more interested in his studies or career, but scratch beneath the surface, and you might find a real gem.
This kind of guy loves a good intellectual discussion and you better be up to the challenge. He also loves setting high goals for himself, in school or in his career. He may be intensely tied-up with work or pursuing his masters or doctoral degree.
Mr. Geek can also be your IT guy who simply loves tinkering with codes and anything to do with cyberspace. He could be your average gamer who won't shy away from spending time hanging out on the weekends with his buddies playing games.
Your Mr. Geek type can give you very interesting company, and he will not bore you. He never runs out of conversation topics.
Since they work with their brains all day, you need to be on your toes. Make sure that you have enough between the ears to at least match his intellect.
On the darker side of things, Mr. Geek can be quite choosy about women.
4. Mr. Smooth Player
This type of Filipino guy is your modern version of Casanova. His goals may be to remain an elusive bachelor for a long time (think George Clooney before he found Mrs. Clooney—Amal, the international lawyer).
Mr. Smooth Player simply loves the hunt and most probably is maintaining a dating rotation consisting of multiple women.
You will most likely find him frequenting the bars and nightclubs preying on his next conquest. He likely cannot maintain an exclusive dating relationship.
For him, dating is a game of hunt and conquest. He is constantly moving on to the next woman. This behavior may even continue into middle age. If you are looking for a serious relationship, stay away from Mr. Smooth Player.
5. Mr. Dependent
Part of Filipino culture is having extended families, so do not be surprised if you find out that your date is still living with his parents.
Even to this day, many Filipino men choose to continue living in their family home. For someone in the West, this fact can be shocking since young adults are expected to live independently by the time they turn 18. In contrast, Mr. Dependent may still want to live in the family home until after he gets married.
Mr. Dependent's living status may be a turnoff for independent women, but you should ask first before letting him go. Do not make quick judgements. He may have valid reasons for staying at home. He could simply be saving his money for practical reasons or who knows, maybe he is responsible for looking after an aging parent or grandparent.
Be aware though, that he may really be living at home because he cannot stand on his own yet.
6. Mr. Mama's Boy
Dating a Mr. Mama's Boy can both be a boon and a bane. There are good things and bad things about the Mama's Boy type. Being close to mom may mean that he is emotionally sensitive.
On the other hand, these types may do exactly what their mamas tell them, including choosing who they date and when. Worse, they might be so fixated with the image of their moms that they are inclined to look for the same qualities in their dates.
There is nothing wrong with adoring one's mother, but it's a different story if a man lets her dictate everything in his life when he is already a full-grown adult.
If you think you don't live up to these exacting boy's standards, you might want to pass. You shouldn't worry too much, however, if you're not interested in marriage. Think twice, though, if you really think this is the guy you want to be with.
Your Filipino Date
© 2012 Shan Moore
Shan Moore (author) from Philippines on February 22, 2021:
I am not so familiar with dating sites catering to men. Popular ones are Grindr and Tinder not sure about the fees but you can still use it free.
Shan Moore (author) from Philippines on February 22, 2021:
A rare renaissance man! These are just generalizations, btw.
Chad9608 on May 04, 2019:
USA Guy here and I am trying to find a Filipino or Arab man to join me. Have not had much luck with sites charging crazy fees and having fake ads ? Any suggestions ??
Nelly on April 08, 2019:
hello, am Nelly from Kenya, would like to date a Filipino guy and a honest one,
Would like to get married to a fillipino too
Jon1216 on March 05, 2019:
Shan, what would you call a Filipino man that exhibits characteristics from each type cause I'm confused about which kind I am. I go to the gym daily, I drive a sports car, I am a romantic, I believe in monogamy, and I am also geeky.
Shan Moore (author) from Philippines on December 03, 2018:
Hi to commenter "they are not good people." Thank you for the comment to this hub. As with every men from different cultures, there will always be good and then the bad ones. I am sorry you have this kind of bad experience in dating a Filipino man. I cannot blame you but I hope it will not discourage you from finding someone that will value you more and treat you the way you deserve. Best of luck my dear.
they are not good people. on December 02, 2018:
he was so bad, and also he wanted to be dominate, he bullied me a lot, but they afraid when u called to policeman. they wanted to controll you. you cannot use your brain and even you are smarter than him. he will give you just domestic violence, they are usually abusers. thats why alot of filippine woman wants to marry to white. also guy was so cheap, even he can found money, they dont like to spend for their normal life. I will say dont marry to filippino guy, or just dont connect with them. they will say you have to follow my directions. they are so bad
pam mwesh on October 04, 2017:
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pinoyguy on September 19, 2017:
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Coral Mcgill on July 03, 2017:
Dated a Filipino man and was everything I could of asked for unroll he left me and went back to the Philippines, and his wife. Would love to date another Filipino man and be happy.
Doreentapales on June 05, 2017:
hello I'm Doreen single from Philippines working in hongkong I'm simple.honest and good attitude!fined good honest man...godbless
Leimaiden julve on January 23, 2017:
Hi,m looking good and honest man here someone to talk. Just add me on my fb leimaiden julve. Ki hope i can find good man.
judith alicaway on June 23, 2016:
Martin on April 03, 2016:
very accurate. I am a Filipino
Shan Moore (author) from Philippines on July 30, 2015:
Hi Rey. I guess you are on the wrong forum.
rey on July 04, 2015:
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Abby on May 26, 2015:
Pretty good :)
dudzkie on February 16, 2015:
Hi im looking for my lifetime partner who will accept and love me for what i am who can help me send me email firstname.lastname@example.org
Shan Moore (author) from Philippines on December 24, 2014:
Hi Bry! Thank you! I hope you have a merry holidays!
bry on December 15, 2014:
you got it all right :)
frewty55 from Toronto, Ontario on March 21, 2014:
I am a straight Canadian older man who has an older but beautiful Filipino stylish slender gf who waits for me to come there... she says that she wants a child since she is older and worried time will pass... I very much want to help... but i am older and not see her for a few months... she only has had 2 men in her life but no child... she wants to find a man on the street to gain experience but there is worry for her safety... she is willing and able and asked me to help her connect with men who will not hurt her... she wants nothing but respect her for her choice... it is still risky here I know, but better than the street... I hope to find a man for her for no commitment but to help her before she gets too old... please email me and i will enable her to connect with her in Manila... my email is email@example.com ... neither of us want any money except perhaps for her to travel to meet... thanks Rob
elly on January 22, 2013:
hi there just wanted to see for a girl for friendship or more.
Shan Moore (author) from Philippines on October 16, 2012:
Hi Michael. Well, these things exist in other racial backgrounds as well, only in varying degrees. Poverty is one reason behind it , another is the value system of a person. However it would not be fair to single out any race as having a monopoly of this habit. Some people do it and what can we do about it? Perhaps help improve the standard of living of the country so no one will have resort to that. Thanks for reading.
Michael on October 16, 2012:
no offense but theres something you should know. pinoy are gold digger. hope you noticed if not then find out. i love my country but the people sorry to say.
Renz Kristofer Cheng from Manila on March 18, 2012:
Great article! Although, the stereotypes you've mention usually applies to all men, not only to us Filipinos. :)
Shan Moore (author) from Philippines on February 02, 2012:
Jakobah on February 02, 2012:
Very true! Great writing.