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Dating Online: Who Are You?

Brittany Banks is a young woman who likes to help people in difficult situations.


Sometimes people aren't great at seeking love in person. They eventually give up and go to other sources. Finding someone online can be great, but are they who they say they are? I would like to share some information on how you can find that out and issues that can happen. Dating online can be dangerous and some people think it's a game. Always be aware of what you are doing online and who you are talking to. You never know what can happen.


For those of you who have watched MTV's show, Catfish, you should know exactly what I'm about to explain. For those of you who haven't watched the show, You should take a look. It's about people who date online and they finally meet in person. I highly advise you to watch the show if you are talking to someone online.

Here are some ways you can check to see if the person is real or not:

1. Look up the person's name on social media and do a Google search. Check if that person has a lot of friend's online. If so, send their friend a message: Do you know this person and have you met them in person?

2. Request a background check. They got nothing to hide right?

3. Have them send a picture of their identification card. If they ask why, tell them why. If they have a problem with it, then obviously they are not the person they told you they are. They may block out some information on it, but that's ok. Some information doesn't need to be told, because they never met you in person either.

4. Run the phone number. There are plenty of websites online that will let you do it for free. Check if the number is registered to that person. If not, ask the person why. The phone number could be registered to a relative or their secret lover.

5. Check if the images are fake. Click on each photo you have and drag the image over to Google images. You can also copy and paste it. You never know what you will find if you don't.


Video Chat & Phone Call

Ask the person to video chat with you. If they come up with excuses, something is defiantly wrong. You can use Skype or face time if they have Facebook. Pick an area that is remotely quiet. If that person thinks someone is with you, they may not want to video chat.

Have they talked to you on the phone? If not, well I hate to say it. The person can be the opposite sex. You just never know what can happen.

Money Request

Some people go online to try to scam people of money. Beware and don't fall for it. You can send money to the person, but he/she probably won't contact you again. Never give them your bank account information. Why would you send money to a person you have never met?


If you haven't met in person, who knows what that person is capable of. When you go meet the person for the first few times, bring someone with you. Protect yourself and do not let the person know where you live. Meet somewhere in public and be safe about it. You may say you trust the person, but do you? How can you trust someone you haven never seen before?


© 2017 Brittany Banks


Jessie Lauren Emily on November 13, 2018:

Can I get a boyfriend


Brittany Banks (author) from Spokane, Washington on June 18, 2017:

Yes you are right, thank you for mentioning that.

dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 17, 2017:

Video chat is probably the best way of verifying.

However with regard to giving out a lot of information early on don't be surprised if someone is reluctant to do so. After all (you) are a "stranger" to them. No one wants to find out they're dealing with a "stalker" or some "psycho" after they've given them their personal information without at least corresponding with them for a little while. This is especially true of women.

Pushing for too much personal information too quickly is likely to scare some people off not because they're not who they say they are but because (they do not know you) from Adam.

For a lot of people some semblance of trust must be established.

Always use good commonsense when dealing with strangers whether it be online or offline. You're responsible for choosing which people you'll engage with as well as looking out for yourself.

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