Have fun at home or out with this simple and inexpensive date idea that combines the game Jenga with conversation starters. The game's 54 blocks give you and your partner an opportunity to tackle a variety of questions or topics. The game is a great way to get to know and to earn bonus points with your date. Hint: Use it as an opportunity to ask one or two questions you may have been too shy to ask yet (just shrug and say you got the question off the Internet).
You will need the following:
- The game Jenga. You can find this for less than $10 online and no more than $15 at your local all-purpose store.
- A Sharpie or other writing utensil. Sharpie goes on more smoothly over the block surface than pencil or pen.
- Smooth transparent tape to cover the block if you want to be able to peel off what you have rewritten so that the game blocks stay clean.
- Questions, topics, or ideas to put on the blocks. Find inspiration online or think up your own.
- A flat surface such as a table, coffee table, counter, or floor. Other than this, make the setting as romantic or casual as you would like. Choose your location, add lighting, provide food or drinks, and play music like you would or would not for any date.
Players take turns by removing a piece, asking a question to the other player, and then stacking the piece on top. Many couples will want to both answer each question for the both of them. You may wish to cross out or a put a notch on the tape with a Sharpie or pencil so that you know you have had this piece before if you pull it again later. It is impossible to see all 54 pieces in one play of the game, so marking pieces may save time in a second or third game. After one or two collapses of the tower you may also want to simply read questions from the rubble of unchecked blocks rather than building the tower again only to keep cycling through the same questions.
What kinds of questions should you include? Consider your audience. This same game can be modified to be played among kids, used by therapists, as an icebreaker at conferences, or even by adults for mature purposes. You are playing with a date, so be sure to make it a little interesting. Write down questions appropriate to how well you know each other and how many dates you have had. Decide what you think is an appropriately balance between getting to know the person better, having some fun, being romantic, and sharing a genuine moment.
Basic questions include:
What is your favorite color?
Do you prefer mayonnaise or Miracle Whip?
What is your middle name?
What is your favorite sport to watch?
Do you believe in ghosts?
Where would you like to go on vacation? Who would you invite?
What is your favorite food?
What kind of music do you like?
Do you like beer, wine, and/or liquor?
Who are your siblings?
Romantic questions include:
What was your impression of me after our first date?
What is the furthest we can go tonight where you will still be comfortable?
Which feature of mine are you attracted to most?
What color undergarments are you wearing?
Do you enjoy candles?
What do you look for in a partner?
How many partners have you had?
What can we do to make tonight even better?
Thought provoking questions include:
When did you first feel like an adult?
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Who have you lost that you were close to?
Do you prefer for the people in your life to be simple or complex?
When did you first realize your parents aren't perfect?
What is your dream job?
You can also keep blocks spontaneous like:
Ask a truth.
Give a dare.
Play a song for us on your phone.
(These can be used multiple times as filler on more than one block if you struggled to come up with 54 unique blocks.)
Remember to keep the questions appropriate to where you are in your relationship. Choose wisely and you may be able to steer the mood for the evening, answer a few burning questions, or even get a great idea for what date to plan next.
Have you tried this before? What other date ideas do you have?