Can You Fall in Love With Someone You've Never Met?

Updated on December 5, 2016

That's an interesting question; however, the answer to that question is not as apparent or straightforward. I can entirely see how you can fall in love with someone you've never met. If you are friends with someone on the Internet and chat with them on messenger programs, for example, you would know what I am talking about. Although, personally, I haven't fallen in love online with anyone, I have felt connected in some ways to people whom I have never met face-to-face.

People generally get attracted to each other based on common ideas, common outlook towards life, common value systems, and similar views on important issues. If you happen to know someone over the Internet, you can sometimes feel connected if your views match theirs. Also, you might like their sense of humor — this does come through no matter what the medium, whether it's speech, chat, or text. So, face-to-face contact isn't as essential in knowing the other person. One can even argue that not having face-to-face contact can have certain advantages. You may not judge the other person for their physical looks per se, but may get in touch with them on a deeper emotional level.Consequently, I would think you could theoretically fall in love with someone you've never met in person.

But, could such a love stand the test of time? Would such a love overcome the potentially high expectations generated by an online or virtual personality? Certain personality traits may not be visible or apparent in the online domain. Would such a love, then, be able to come to terms with the reality of physical imperfections or deficiencies? These are important questions to consider when one falls in love over the Internet, via the phone, or any other medium where the two lovers can't meet face to face.

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Loving Someone You Haven't Met — Living a Fantasy?

Physical Attraction When Meeting Face-to-Face

Assuming that a couple has met over the Internet or over the phone, the more interesting thing that I'd like to know is: what would be their reaction when they do in fact meet in person for the first time. You may like their thoughts/views on various subjects and like the online person you've met, but what if the person turns out to be, well, not as attractive physically when you first meet them. Can you overlook that fact and love them the same way as you did before you met?

Even though most people say (to be politically correct more than anything else) that outward beauty doesn't matter to them, generally most people value beauty in a potential partner. So, while it is possible that you can fall in love with someone you've never met in person, it is not as possible to predict whether you would in fact remain in love with that person once you've met them, especially if that person turns out to be not so attractive (based on your standards of attractiveness).

Also, when you do in fact meet a person face-to-face, you may discover many things about him/her that you hadn't quite anticipated. Perhaps, he/she has some embarrassing habits that you hadn't quite anticipated, or perhaps he/she has some irritating quality that wasn't apparent to you before through his/her online persona. So, while you can fall in love with someone you've never met, whether you stay in love with that person is quite another matter.

Discovering Their True Identity

There is also the potential problem of anonymity and people who mask their true identities online. You may have very good, honest, genuine intentions and want real love, but can you be really sure that the other person with whom you are chatting to or speaking with shares those intentions? For all you know, the other person may be twice the age he/she actually claims to be, he/she may be married and claim to be single, they may be showing you pictures of someone else but may claim that the person in the picture is in fact them. How can you be sure?

The online world is a world of escape for some people and many just come online to live a world they can't live in the real world. So, they may just log in and claim to be someone who they are not, but you have no way of knowing that. To me, this is the biggest problem that a person who connects with another person online faces.

So, while you may fall in love with someone you've never met physically (and it is quite possible), the more important question that you should be asking is if you truly have fallen in love with a real person (who exists in the real world) or an online mirage that's a figment of someone's imagination — someone who is just in it for the fun of it, maybe just to find someone to get physical with, or someone who is not as serious about finding love as you are?

Flirting on Social Media: Avoid Falling for the Wrong Person

A lot of heartbreak can be avoided if during the initial stages of a potential online relationship you insist on seeing the person you are chatting with on cam, rather than settle for pictures, which may be of anyone and not necessarily of the person who is chatting with you. Also, look out for avoidance behavior, like committing to something that may expose their true identity and then backing out repeatedly. For example, if the person you are chatting to is repeatedly promising to meet up with you or cam and then avoids it, there may be a strong possibility that they have something to hide — something they do not want you to find out about them. Maybe that "something" is that they are not really who they've been projecting to you on chat.

Conclusion

So, hope for the best, but expect the worst to save yourself some heartbreak. Online love does happen and has happened for many, but so have online heartbreaks, and I certainly don't want you to join the ranks of the heartbroken ones.

Have you fallen in love with someone you've never met? If so, I'd like to hear. Feel free to share your experiences by leaving a comment below, as countless others have!

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      Audrey Evergreen 2 weeks ago

      I've met this man online two and half months ago . When he asked for friend's request, I said ok, just friends. We talked about everything.... from geography to other things.... but we never talk about love. Until one day, I was scammed by someone... he was one of my friends help me getting through this hard times... then not long after that incident, he told me how he feel about me and want me to move in with him to US. He told me he loves me and want me to give him a chance to take care of me. I told him I can't as I have to be here... but he said that he will support me the much that he could when I visit him.Almost every day he will text me to wish me good day and good night ... though it's simple, I was touched by his sincerity. Sometimes he will say that he loves me. When I didn't receive his mails.... I kind of missed him. It's just that maybe of the feeling that grows with the friendship... I think yes, one would fall in love with someone whom haven't met in real life but met online...

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      MBALI 3 weeks ago

      Hi...

      Well I think I'm losing my mind over this guy I met online and I think I might be headed for a heartbreak. I need advises on getting over this guy.

      When I met this guy in September I wasn't looking to dating anyone but to make new friends which was clear on my profile. He noted that and said he'll respect that. We chatted and gave him my Whatsapp numbers, at that time he just relocated in SA from the States inline of work. He Whatsapp me soon after I gave him my numbers, and I was turned off by his dp, showing of is upper body which gave me wrong impression about him. I basically killed our conversation, I ignored his greeting texts on two occasions. Then he stopped texting me till about a month later and I still gave him the lame "hi and bye" type of a response. Then two months later (This very month 9th of December @13:31) he Whatsapp' me and I responded friendly and that's when everything changed. We chatted and I even forgotten he was in SA, he reminded me that he told me when he met me online, and probably I wasn't paying attention. He said.

      We spoke for hours over the phone, bonded each day ever since. We love the same things, listen to the same music and have the same dreams. We think alike. He thinks I'm he's soul mate and I think so too. Just when I thought he's my male version, he basically mentioned I'm his female version.

      I find myself thinking about him more than I should, check my texts every minute hoping he'll texts or call. I talk to myself and to God about him. I care for him more than he'll ever know. We have planned to meet up on the 31st and spend New year's eve together. But for these passed days he's been acting strange. He doesn't read my Whatsapp even when he's on Whatsapp the whole time and only gets back to me the following morning without saying anything but just a normal greeting and he's unavailable again to respond to my teXts. I spoke to him and this is our conversation.

      [12/26, 17:13] ~*: U busy

      [12/26, 17:05] Mbali: No I'm not busy

      [12/26, 17:10] ~*: Wyd then

      [12/26, 17:11] Mbali: Nothing... just thinking and trying to make of things.

      [12/26, 17:11] ~*: Sense of what

      [12/26, 17:15] Mbali: Your character. I'm actually hoping for the wisdom to understanding you, cause I'm sure as hell I don't.

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      Shil1978 5 weeks ago

      Hi "DingusMcDoogle,"

      I know exactly what you are going through, but no one can really answer that question? Love, whether real or online, is a gamble - it could work out perfectly, as you envision it and hope for, or you could end up being disappointed.

      However, be optimistic and do as you are doing and let life lead the way. If both of you feel the same way and share the same intensity and feel equally committed, then you may end up being a couple in real life eventually, so all the best and keep us posted on how it goes for you. Much love and best wishes :)

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      DingusMcDoogle 5 weeks ago

      Hi,

      I liked your post,

      I met this man that lives in Aguascalientes, Mexico. I met him through a video game called World of warcraft about 2 years ago. I went through some tough stuff mebtally, but he helped me through it all and i had done the same for him. Him and i have never had this bond before. We started talking more and more and we eventually just became a couple. I never thought i could love someone like this. I have yet to meet him, but i honestly love him to hell and back. We talk everyday and tell each other how nuch wr love each other over skype, snapchat, and phonecalls. Do you think this will last? Should i bet all of my money on this guy i have never met online?

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      Vincent4372 5 weeks ago

      Thanks Shil1879, I will do that.

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      Loveishard 5 weeks ago

      I never met him but he is my everything. We met on instagram 3 months ago and since then never stoped talking. I never thought i would fall in love with him. I didnt even know what he looked like. But it was very fast. One month and we were in love. Its been now two months i love him so much. Cant wait to meet him. Is this gonna last?

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      Anonymous 5 weeks ago

      Hi,

      Nice post..

      I recently met a guy on internet...our views match a lot we have so much in common he says he loves me...but the thing is he hasn't seen me yet...although I saw him in his mom's account...does he really love me?

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      Nancy 5 weeks ago

      Yes just started he found me Facebook both widowed he has son I am falling for him headlines in Germany.. Me Arizona. It's been about a month he me. He cares. Can't believe he. met someone like. Me. His son even texts me on. Han ngoutscalls me mom. Xmas is conning e mention. Once he might come at X mas. But. He hasn't said. again. Am falling. For him as he has me. But Germany a istance please advise

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      Shil1978 5 weeks ago

      Wow, Vince. I loved reading your comment. You are mature and know your feelings well. You sure have something going on here, but give her time to process her feelings, which I can see you are doing.

      It may take a while for her to get over her fears and also to process her emotions. Am sure you know you'd need to give her that time and space to resolve it in her own mind on her own.

      Well, best of luck. Keep us posted on how things pan out between you two, and thanks for sharing your story with us :)

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      Vince4372 5 weeks ago

      I have fallen in love with someone very special to me! We connected through FB. Funny thing is I know her cousins and she lives in Italy and I live in Florida. We have talked for months. Chat, video, pics, you name it! I’ve falling in love for who she is! People are not real anymore and expect instant gratification theses days and never want to get to know each other like we have done! I trust her. She’s a good person I know! I love her laugh, her smile, her personality, her smart ass ways and she likes to be sarcastic, and her eyes make me melt. And everything she has made me feel that her soul is beautiful. I feel she is my soulmate! I can’t stop thinking about her all the time. We always text all day and talk, video when we can on WhatsApp! I told her I would pay for her flight. She said she doesn’t want my money! How sweet is that! Today’s world people are so superficial and she’s not at all. I would still give her the money when she comes!

      Today she asked me if when I say love you to her if it was I am in love with her or is it just affection! Well, I let her have it like this!

      You may think I’m crazy, but falling in love with someone isn’t a superficial thing, lust is superficial and once you get past the initial external canvas, everything else is exactly the same.

      Falling in love with someone starts with getting to know them and having deep conversations with one another. Does it really matter if these conversations are by email, on the telephone, video chat and via WhatsApp? No…

      The conversations make us laugh and smile and you soon begin to open up and share your thoughts and feelings, your likes and dislikes, your dreams and expectations, your secrets and insecurities, you feel like you can talk to her about absolutely anything and you feel comfortable expressing yourself and being yourself with her. You have many things in common and everything feels natural and you feel at ease when talking to her.

      I find myself thinking about you, despite trying not to! I am checking my phone constantly, waiting for your name to pop up to alert you of a text message and when it comes, your heart skips a beat with excitement, it drives me crazy that this is consuming my thoughts, it is torturous that you aren’t just 5 minutes away and I feel a longing and desire to be with you! I may be crazy! But I know we have 2 different lives right now, so it makes it hard some days cause I just want to feel this next to you and fill the real thing in person Will it be mutual?

      Her response was, Sorry honey, you right i am distracted, but i went out from My house thinking about It. Right now it's My constantly thought. I have to know, i need to know because i am scared about all these thoughts and feelings. I think about Them every day. I say to myself...i Will go to Florida, to see him. Would i do it? Should i do It? I don't know. I am afraid Of changing... I Just need to know.

      So I told her Everyone is afraid of change! It’s scary even looking for a new job! It’s called life. It even bothered me that you asked me are my friends trying to hook me up? If they were, I would not being doing this affection with you and all of our craziness, sarcastic sayings! Why do people fall in love with someone? Different reasons all the time. We have this connection for a reason. Maybe it’s God? Maybe it’s faith? People meet from all kinds of places all the time. Everything happens a for a reason! How do they do it? Talk about it tomorrow. I’m going to work. My stomach gets butterflies. I’m jealous I can’t be with you! Have a good night.

      This made me even crazier for her. She has really opened her heart to me and I know she’s feeling the same way. And understand she’s scared. We all would be. I really want her to come and stay with me for a while and feel this in person! I can’t wait to see her text, or talk to her or video chat. I would even stay home and wait! She give me life and makes me feel good about myself. I have never felt this way about someone before and we are 1000’s of miles apart!

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      DepressedGuy 6 weeks ago

      I'm a bisexual guy who met another bisexual guy on a gay app called Surge in August of 2016.It was only online we never met in person and only had two phone conversations in the 6 months we knew one another.We quickly fell for each other and professed our love for the other and all could not have been better,I walked around with a smile on my face all the time I was just so happy and always had optimism and belief that we would meet in person some day. However we ran into the issue of were we both on the same page as far as where we wanted things to go,I felt as though he was not as committed as me because he always had time to go visit family and mates on his days off when he wasnt working or sleeping but in 6 months he never made the effort to meet me in person, whenever we arranged he forgot,he overslept ,he got called into work. Needless to say it didnt work out because he said he cant cope with my doubts and me saying that he does not care about me or the relationship now there is no communication between us and I am left with all these unanswered questions:Was it real? Did he mean what he said? Was I wrong to doubt? Did I ruin things?Does he still love me if he ever did?,Does he regret what happened?Is he hurting like me?,Is he confused like me?Does he still think about me?etc etc etc just never ending questions niggling away ,What can I do?

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      Shil1978 6 weeks ago

      Hi Patty,

      I'd just advise you to verify he is who he says he is. Like is he really a soldier? For some reason, some guys play a role, take on a persona that's not really them. The best way to know for sure is to ask to video chat with him and ask for pictures of him.

      Basically, just make sure everything adds up with what he says, and when in doubt, don't hesitate to ask so you can be reassured about your doubts. It saves you disappointment later on.

      Assuming you've already done that and everything checks out, all you can do is chat and hope for the best. Hope everything goes well for you. Best of luck!

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      Patty 6 weeks ago

      I m texting with a guy that in Afghanistan a. Soldier very nice lookin we been talking for about a month he tell me he loves me and I'm his world could this be true or m I in for a heart break

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      Shil1978 7 weeks ago

      Hi "Danny 787,"

      Give it time. Continue supporting her as you are doing. With all the horrible things that you've stated that she's dealing with, she needs that suppport. Be there for her, but that's about all you can do for the moment.

      You are just 15 and separated by thousands of miles. Work towards your education and getting a good job in parallel with your relationship. A job would help you collect funds for visiting her and also help you take this forward if it progresses and endures.

      There is nothing wrong in feeling like you do. Am sure you care deeply for her and that's perfectly fine. You are already showing how much you care and love her by being there for her over chat and helping her emotionally. Keep doing that. Best of luck!

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      Danny 787 7 weeks ago

      Hi Shil1978! I read your article above^^ It was very good! I sent you an email, but you didn't answer. (My email was about the girl from America and I) But I understand, you being a mother and all, that you don't have infinite time on your hands:) Anyways, if you didn't read my email, let me bring you up to speed:

      I met a girl online, and we instantly hit it off. She's everything I could want in a girl, and so much more. She makes me feel how no girl has made me feel before. The only reason I can't be with her right now is that she's American and I'm Australian. Anyway, we're both 15, have very positive attitudes, and love to chat to each other. After chatting for weeks, I think I'm in love with her. Judging from how she says, "ilyyyyyy" (i love youuuu) and "there are so many things about you I love" and the fact that she has written huge paragraphs in iMessages saying all the things she loves about me (I have, too :)) then I think she loves me too. I just need some help. She self-harms. She's had a horrible past, and she self-harms. I feel helpless, but I tell her everything I can. She promises one day we will be together. We've sent pictures, videos, and so much more to each other. I think I love her. Is that bad? How can I go and be with her, if my family sorta can't afford to go America right now? Her parents abuse her, and I feel bad for her. But she is amazing-absolutely EVERYTHING I want in a girl. I feel so privileged to have met her. But, I know you may be thinking we're going to fast, but when I asked her this, she said "I always go fast with things!" (or something like that). But, how can I show her JUST how much I love her? Is it okay that I love her even though she is thousands of kilometers away? I just have so many warm feelings for her I can't explain it. She is so brave, so loving, so caring. Can you help me Shil1978?

      Thank you so much,

      Danny

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      NA 8 weeks ago

      I have fallen in love with someone on the internet and she clAims that she loves me as well always reinforcing that she is in the pictures but because she works for the government she can’t talk on the phone or send me videos of her at all at least till we meet it’s almost gonna be a year that we have been talking and still haven’t met because of circumstances on her side. She has a child too and she includes me and wants us to be together for ever but is it too good to be true ?

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      Shil1978 8 weeks ago

      @ "Tshepiso marvellous." Slow down a bit and re-evaluate your feelings like 6 months from now. That would give you time to evaluate your own feelings and whether his feelings are indeed strong or momentary.

      As always, be cautious. Try and find out he's representing himself correctly and not putting on a mask. If all boxes are ticked 6 months on, am sure you'd know what to do at that point, but don't rush into anything for now.

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      Shil1978 8 weeks ago

      @ "i cant say my name here that would be stupid." Maybe she likes you as a friend (for now). Don't be depressed about that. Work on the friendship, you never know where it might lead. You can't force someone to love you, but you can try getting the right chemistry going, which might lead to enduring love.

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      Shil1978 8 weeks ago

      @ Vukasin, you're just 15. Keep talking and interacting and see if you feel the same way you do going forward and if your feelings get stronger. Don't worry about what you can't control. Just work on the friendship for now. Hopefully, she'd feel just the way you do and if feelings remain consistent over a period of time, you'd both know it's meant to be.

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      i cant say my name here that would be stupid 8 weeks ago

      i met this girl after i sent an email (i go to virtual school) and she responded and said she couldn't use her phone so she wanted to use google hangouts. after talking with her, i was completely in love with her. i asked if she had an Instagram and she said she did. We started talking on there and soon i go my cousin to ask if she liked me back. she said only as a friend and now im depressed. please tell me how to get her to like me!

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      Tshepiso marvellous 2 months ago

      i dont remember meeting this other guy but we always talk over the phone and we r so in love sometimes i feel like it is to good to be true because he wants to marry me wen we meet i dnt want

      know wat to do i love him he tells me what i want to hear and he calls time and again(he wants to know how i am doing evry day tell me what to do

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      Andrea 2 months ago

      We started talking on Facebook and I in all honesty still do know who he is, the info he gave me is inconclusive, can't track him down, phone number he gave me was from some land line out of state that he obviously didn't use. Anyway, we chatted every day for hours and the infatuation was strong

      He claimed to work out of the country and asked if I would move in with him when he got back.the words I love you came easily and quickly. The danger of online romance is, you fall in love with words, not actions. He about flipped out when I didn't trust him and called him out on the problems and doubts

      He asked me for money on 2 seperate occasions, which I denied him and he submarined, last time I heard from him was 10 days ago, without a word, just

      disappearedmy head knows better, but my heart is broken and I find myself thinking about him too much. Was it worth it? No. Before he did and asked for money for his children, he told me I would see him in December. Part of me still mourns and wants to believe that he is real and meet him. Devastating it is. I never thought you could fall in love with someone you never met, but I am head over heels for him

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      Amy 2 months ago

      I'm a lesbian And been talking with a girl for the passed year, we tell eachother I love you and have such a deep connection it's crazy. My problem is that ive gained a lot of weight throughout the year so I'm afraid that she isn't going to feel the same once we meet. She has only seen pictures of me when i was so much thinner. I've told her I've gained weight and she doesn't seem too care but I'm very self conscience about it. We meet next week and I'm freaking out.

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      Shil1978 2 months ago

      Ann, sorry to hear how your experience went. Perhaps, he misrepresented himself in terms of age maybe and didn't want to be found out. Maybe, to him, it was just not deep enough to care.

      Either way, he should have been honest to you and had that one last chat so you didn't have to wonder and be left hanging. That's a very tough thing to deal with - the "not knowing." I'm sure you'd get over this in time. It sucks! One of the perils of online relationships.

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      Ann 2 months ago

      Ive been talking to this guy on line for 4 months..we have hit it off like ive never seen..he is the one and i feel it in my gut..Im 50 and i do know what love is..I wouldn't say im in love with him..but he sure had pulled at my heart strings..well when we did finely decide to facetime he stopped calling me and got very cold..so now im so heart broken..Its the not knowing thats killing me..Ive sent him a few messages and he never responend, so now i just have to get over this crap.. and i will im sure..

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      Jessica 2 months ago

      I know a couple who have been married for 15 years, and they met online

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      Jess 2 months ago

      I met my girlfriend on accident on whatsapp a year ago, and now she’s coming to visit over Christmas into the new year. She’s literally the most amazing person I’ve ever met and of course I’ve seen catfish before so I was worried to start with but once she never denied FaceTiming me, it was actually me that was never keen on FaceTiming eachother until I was comfortable. She’s brought me out of my shell and I generally feel like she’s made me a better person! Online dating I’ve never thought much of as i thought it was a way for people to have fun or mess people who generally want to find love and settle down but my god I feel so lucky that I’ve met her. God bless the internet otherwise we would never of met.

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      Liz 2 months ago

      Should've read this article before falling in love. Oopsy I'm late and already heartbroken. Nvm. Crazy me and crazy world.

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      Lovely lady 2 months ago

      I’ve known & talked to a guy who’s 38 yrs old for a short period of time , our talking / connection was certainly under 2 month.The main reasons for talking to each other’s Was a true marriage . But, This guy doesn’t live in the same city i’m Currently living in, thats made me didn’t mind to talk and know that person more via internet .

      Actually, we were connected through some common people between our families, as some of my relatives gave my mobile number to his mom so she can forward it to him .and, actually we started to talk.

      Moreover, after an intensive talk that continued almost two month on daily basis ,I can tell that we had known most of basic , important info about each others .In addition , we became friends on Facebook & etc.. .however, I started to feel that I’m emotionally attached to this person in terms of many things his qualifications, life standards , social life , educational level , way of thinking etc.. and at the same time was feeling shocked in my self !! ( how come I’m feeling that way to someone whom I didn’t actually meet or see before!!) . By the way, Though I’ve Met many guys in my life & my interaction with them was face-to-face but , seriously I Had never felt that I’m emotionally attached to any of them as this (stranger) guy!.

      At last , what I wanted to say the we end up and disconnect suddenly!! .. without any prior signs! One day we was talking as usual and I can remember how the last call was ( nice& kind) still asking each other’s questions & trying to more & more about others, but sadly after hanging up this call , I didn’t find any message or any other type of interaction from this guy more again .

      Didn’t recognize the case at all !! But what I’m sure about is that he wasn’t a liar or playing games . Let’s say that this guy dropped the entire issue , so why still saving my mobile number up till now !! ..

      something irritating!!

      Please any elaboration or interpretation about this case?!

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      yo mom 3 months ago

      i know you can because i fell in thats how i fell in love with me boyfriens

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      Truth Is 3 months ago

      Love was very real in the old days since it was very easy to find, today unfortunately a very different story.

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      my love 3 months ago

      I have met this guy when i was 14 . we met on omega and he fell in love with me . we have never seen each other live tho. Now I'm 19 and still love him. the power is love is just so so strong , i can't even explain. we have different religion which is obstacle for us to get married. I'm still waiting for him. Love you .

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      Jaz Lynn Rivera 3 months ago

      So, I've met this guy online in Skout. We have the same hobbies other than him being into street magic. I really was attracted to him. He's from France, I'm from the Philippines. It's just so hard for me to see him because I'm 23 and he's 22. We're not capable yet. We don't have enough money to pay for travel expenses. But I can see his hopes and dreams for the future. He told me "You're the person that I'm looking forward to see one day" and that hits me. I tell myself that I should keep this guy. But yeah still having doubts about it since it's long distance and I wish we can see each other one day.

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      Chidinma Samuel 4 months ago

      I have been dreaming about a famous Nollywood actor and we haven't met before. I see him constantly in my dreams and can't explain it.

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      Dee 4 months ago

      I'm Dee 25 years of age I met a girl 3months ago on Facebook and I'm falling in love with the girl which I have met and she what's as to meet and I'm in UAE and she iz in africa and I'm biz working. I'm asking for your help cause if I go in to africa I will lsse my job nd I love the girl

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      Valerie 4 months ago

      Yeah, I met a guy on facebook, I love him so much. He was my everything. But the problem started when another guy started disturbing me and I had a crush on him. My online boyfriend saw our messages and broke up with me. I don't really like that my crush but my boyfriend didn't believe me. I'm feeling so bad and I'm blaming myself for breaking such a wonderful relationship between us. Pls help me, my heart is breaking into bits and pieces.

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      Anonymous 4 months ago

      I'm 15 I met a girl online we have been chatting like six hours everyday since she's 16 I'm waiting till next year when I finish my GCSEs and I'm 16 so I can fly down south (england) I'm north I have her on all social media's and it's apparent she is not a catfish as all her friends are from her city and comment on her post I have seen pics of her from many angles and she has sent pictured verifying who she is.

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      Patrick 4 months ago

      Thank you

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      Mira 4 months ago

      i felt in love with someone i've never met and it's so true and he is amazing person even more than everyone i met he loves me back and we r so happy to gether to a point where he can be the love of my life and he has nothing to be susbect about so all i want it to say that it is possible to find the person that you waited for an the internet but like u said it's not all the time you can also have a heart break so every one should be safe

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      A guy 4 months ago

      I didnt think it was a possibility..but I have totally fallen for this girl I met gaming online. We have seen eachother on video chat and pics so its no catfish situation. I think she feels the same but I'm not sure and I'm terrified she will back away if I bring it up seriously. We've "joked" about visiting eachother, I think because we both want to, but know it is unlikely because we are in different countries and quite far apart. I've never felt this way about a girl before; even girls I had real relationships with. Her personality is a 100% match for me which is the most important thing and shes pretty. I don't know what do do and its tearing me up inside pretty bad. Im becoming depressed the more I think about it and how we'll probably never even meet.

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      Abdul 5 months ago

      I have fallen in love with a girl that I haven't met before but is friends with my friend but just end up chatting to her on whatsapp plz tell me what I should do thanks

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      Anonymous 5 months ago

      Yes, I have seen him and he is fatter than what his old picture looks like. And I don't care.

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      UniStar 5 months ago

      Hi, I am a 23 year old woman now and I met this chatmate of mine when I was 20 he was 2 years younger than me. Definitely, he is still in the ‘playing’ stage of relationships. He told me that he wants to meet me and would go to the hotel where me and my family are staying at in Vegas. The catch was…I do not know where my dad kept the hotel card and since that it’s our 1st time to have our vacation in USA, Las Vegas, I still fear for my safety. So I let the chance slip off of me in seeing him physically. He kept on asking me when I’m coming back to Vegas and soon enough, I told him that I can’t come back in an instant because of the load of hardships I am experiencing right now and told him I was attracted to him (even if I do not know if he’s attracted to me too). It’s nice to know that he understands but I cry about the chance that I lost of meeting him and he's my 1st attractive male who treated me like any girl around (because I was once bullied by my own crush). We did vid chat and saw my photos in Instagram he definitely saw my imperfections because I'm wearing glasses with pimple marks and yup you name it I am chubby.

      I told my friends and office mates about this, they told me not to cry or about this because I chose not to see him for the sake of my own security and at least before all these ended I was able to tell him that I am so attracted to him and he's attracted himself too.

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      John 5 months ago

      Fell in love with a great women at 19.met her on myspace lol its been 10 years and we still talk and both still feel the same way we did 10 years ago..shes in med school naw and i sacrificed my 20s for a good cause.id say find someone who trys to make you a better women/man and knows how to structure a family otherwise dont waste your time....but i do plan on having a family with her someday forsuuuuure

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      Reid 5 months ago

      Yes, i agree for safer one do not go further chatting if you do not see him on cam because for sure he is not the one on his profile pic. I am in a long distance relationship now...this fiance of mine i requested him to show me on cam before we go on regular chatting and right then and there he sign up an app which i suggested for privacy reason and to have a quality chatting. Since we meet a year ago he never missed to communicate with...we are together for one year and 5 months and hopelfully we meet before end of this year. No expectations but have faith in God in his perfect time. We fight a lot..many times break and make up again..amazing until now we are still together and i believe because of real love...though we have not meet...but in our hearts we are connected which is the most important thing. Love is boundless...if it is real. No time and distance but needs a lot of effort to survive...both of us never give up..even we are just in virtual relationship.

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      Charlie strange 5 months ago

      Hi, I met this girl on omegal who I seemed to feel a good connection with. We have enjoyable talks and video calls and we have both expressed that we like each other and hope to meet one day. But I think I've fallen for her. And she feels the same way. But she wants me to try and find other girls because she wants to live a normal high school life, which could mean she'd meet other boys, because if I was single shed would just still want to be with me. That hurt's. Knowing that I can't do anything about this. We really want to meet but I don't know when or how. Any help?

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      Shil1978 6 months ago

      So incredibly sad, Carol :( Speechless!

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      carol whiteman 6 months ago

      Here's a story unlike any. My husb died in 1999. I then met a man whose wife had died one year earlier by the same disease,lung cancer. We met in a mourning chatroom ONLINE. We have been emailing each other right up until now, 2017. We have been friends for 18 years. We never told each other that we were in love with each other until recently when he was diagnosed with the same disease. We have never met. Move over William Shakespeare for this is a stronger and more tragic romance than Romeo and Juliet. Due to his illness and circumstances in my life, we can never meet. We also live on opposite sides of the United States.

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      NEO 6 months ago

      Add Your Comment.. Hi, i have been friends with someone on line ,we shared the word of God daily and even discuss some personal issues, i started falling for him so we both decided to be in a relationship. its been five four years now and um deeply in love with this guy but the problem is that he is very very far from my country so he wants us to meet. lately he has been telling me that there is some challenges regarding visa to come to my country. could he be telling the truth or he is just giving me false hope?

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      C. 6 months ago

      Hi.

      My friend introduced me to a friend over Messenger (and we've followed each other on Instagram since then, so it's not like we don't know how each other look), not in the intention of propping up a relationship, but just being the fun person he is. In the meantime, we're both heading into our junior year in high school and, ironically, this upcoming school year she will be moving away from the school in which we've been attending for the past two years (sadly, I didn't get to know her then). Nevertheless, we've been taking for a cool week now and I really think I'm falling for her...we've talked a lot about our lives, who we are, what we want to achieve..things of that nature and I really like her. Is there any possibility that things could escalate, albeit slowly, if anything? Could I just be feeling a certain way simply because she's a girl and we've talked about deep things? What are the signs that she may feel the same way? If I feel more "in love" say six months or a year from now, should I express this to her?

      Thanks,

      C.

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      D. 6 months ago

      I recently started talking to this girl and we have been talk over a week, and I am pretty sure I am falling for her, this scares her so much and she will back off if I tell her this. I am a educated individual and because of this I am having a hard time with what I am feeling for someone who I have never touched or even walked beside. Any suggestions?

      Thanks,

      D.

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      Love 6 months ago

      I met a guy online last may.we chatted for couple of days on the app soon.He gave his Facebook account and I friended him..I waited for him to txt first and he did..We've been sending txt messages for a couple of days.asking details of each other.He was very honest he told me all about his family, the ups and down of his life. So I gave him positive advices.He wrote on his profile was he wanted a girl 40km near him.i am living in different country he was 12 hours behind our time.soon he ask me to be his gf before and said before anyone else does.And I said yes.things happened so very fast and I always ask him why was he not bothered that across his country .It's been almost a month ..We haven't met and I can say things are going smooth and I get to know him every day and in all fairness we are both working it out and find time to talk and reaching out.i don't know until when is this somehow Im confused and ask myself if is it really possible to fall in love with a person you have not met.And I found this site. Science will tell you answers about this question majority telling it's not possible but at the end of the day I think only those who are in the situation could answer those questions.i think it differs to every person because every person has different views and beliefs that they believe in.

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      Shil1978 6 months ago

      @ "The Truth Is" - I totally get the nostalgia :) Yes, things aren't the same anymore. Anyone write romantic poems and love letters anymore? I'd be surprised if they did in these times.

      Even online interactions seem to have diminished in their depth and intensity. Maybe people just don't have the patience anymore to devote to things of the heart. Sad!

      There's no time machine, is there? I'm sure you would have appreciated that :) Hope you find your soulmate soon!

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      Shil1978 6 months ago

      Feel for you, Dan, but nothing is gonna happen with this relationship unless she has the same intensity of feelings you obviously have. Maybe she's not sure in her head what she wants at this point in time and things may clear up in her mind in the future.

      Give it time and hope for the best. The one thing you shouldn't be doing is to insist on meeting or make her feel like you are forcing her in any way.

      Being patient and hoping she can resolve things in her mind and feel the same way as you do is your only chance.

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      The Truth Is 6 months ago

      The truth is that meeting someone Online is very extremely difficult these days as bad as it is in the Bars which Most of the time it doesn't work out for many of us at all unfortunately. But many people are very Blessed since they really do meet someone that they just happen to connect with. And it is very difficult for many of us good men out there really looking for a good woman to really connect with since today is a totally different time that we live in compared to the Past which was certainly much easier finding real love back then. The good old days were really much easier for our family members since they were very extremely fortunate to be born at that time which as you can see that it did really work out for them which unfortunately today is a very different story altogether. It was just too very bad for many of us men that we weren't born in those days since many of us definitely would've met the Right Good Woman for us which many of us that really wanted to get married and have a family would've been all settled down ourselves as well.

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      Dan 6 months ago

      I recently befriended a woman I sort of knew in high school. I was a senior, she was a freshman. Her mom worked as a lunch lady and always wanted me to date her daughter, Grace. I wasn't allowed because of religious views on the part of my parents. So she finally made it in Facebook and I friended her as soon as I saw her on there. I'm divorced for the second time, by the way. So we started messaging each other. She has a boyfriend of 4 years. Doesn't sound like she's going anywhere with him nor is she going to break up with him. But, she tells me I'm her angel and we are best friends. We talk on the phone everyday sometimes twice a day. We have told each other things that we have never, ever shared with anyone. I know we have feelings for each other but I think mine are stronger. We live an hour apart and she doesn't want to meet up. UGH!!! I have fallen in love with her. What to do. I know that we are soulmates. I think she knows it too. I'm not really interested in dating anyone else because I'm carrying this torch for Grace. I could be, and I have but it doesn't feel right. HELP!!!

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      Raj 7 months ago

      I have been chatting with this girl/girls on Twitter for the last 7-8 years. I just love the way she writes Tweets. Since I don't have any other girl so I feel good connection with her. But I never met her in real life. We both think that this is true love. But how can I prove to anyone or make any decision without seeing her in person. Any suggestions??

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      Shil1978 7 months ago

      @ GirlfromIndia,

      You say "I am holding myself back from feeling anything because I haven't met him." This obviously means that meeting him is important to you. That being so, what is the possibility of that happening since you live in different countries. It is not possible for everyone to just hop on a plane and go meet the other person. You also have to trust this person very much to think of doing so.

      When you say "Should I hold myself back?" - are you really? Feelings really can't be blocked consciously, and if you do feel something for him, you'd already know it in your mind. So do you feel something already? And is that something strong enough and deep enough to qualify as love? That answer is known to you and only you.

      Online relationships are very complex and one can't give definitive advice because there are so many factors. For the moment, I would just advise you to continue the friendship and find how things develop over time.

      Especially, when love transcends geographical boundaries, you have to be very careful about what you're getting into and careful in knowing you can trust the person implicitly.

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      Ciel❤️ 7 months ago

      I fell in love with someone I never met face to face but we don't know what each other look like but we kinda feel in love with each other's personalitys. We live pretty far apart from each other to, but we do like calling each other and chatting in group hangouts online, and playing video games together. We both plan on Skyping some time in the future. Even though we don't know each other in real life we both still love each other not for the looks but for are personality. It is every possible to fall for someone you never met, but you still need to be careful because you could end up talking to someone that has bad intentions.

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      GirlfromIndia 7 months ago

      Hey! So I see a lot of people here asking for advices and the authors giving pretty sensible and useful advices. This made me want to take a chance and ask for an advice. So I met this guy online almost a year ago and have been texting and talking over the phone since. Almost everyday! It was all going great. I always thought of him as a good friend and nothing else. I thought he felt the same way. We even discussed about our crushes with each other and suggested what could be done. Just what really good friends do. We haven't met as we live in different countries. I never once felt anything more than friendship for him in the first few months of talking. A few months back, while talking over the phone, the guy (let's call him A) confessed that he has feelings for me. This came as a complete shock to me as I had never once suspected he was attracted to me. By this time we had been talking for over 6 months and I knew he was a nice and a genuine person. I, on the other hand thought it's stupid to fall for someone you haven't physically met and thus even if I did have feelings for him ( I am still mot sure if I do) I denied that to him and myself. I was sure I don't want to get involved with anyone in a romantic way unless I have met him. I loved talking to him and I would wait for his messages. But that doesn't mean I have feelings for him right? I told him so. I told him I don't feel the way he does and that the fact we haven't met doesn't make it any better. But I wasn't sure if I felt the same way or I didn't. At that point I was pretty sure I would have said a yes if I would have met him before he confessed. After me rejecting him, he said it was all okay and that he understands. Our conversations became a bit awkward and finally stopped. We hadn't stopped talking since we started almost 6 momths ago. We would always jump from one topic to another and there seemed to be no end to the conversation and then it suddenly stopped. For about a month. I tried messaging him once but the awkward and somewhat cold replies made me stop. I kinda missed talking to him and kinda missed him too. But that doesn't mean I have feelings for him right? About a month later, 'A' messaged me and it all started agin. We were back to being friends, back to square one. Nothing awkward or weird. But then recently, two days ago, I came home kinda drunk and called 'A'. We were talking and I was apologising for rejecting him. He asked me if I ever had feelings for him, he knew the answer would be no and was expecting nothing else but I went on and said 'I don't know'. Which obviously left him confused. People do usually say the truth when they're drunk right? He provoked me to say NO but I held my stand and kept saying 'I don't know'. Next day he just took it as a drunken stupid thing that I said and was pretty normal. But this entire incident left me wondering about my feelings towards him. Honestly I am not sure what I feel. Whenever I think about it the only reason I can think of that made me say NO or is holding me back is that we haven't met. I am holding myself back from feeling anything because I haven't met him. Is that the right thing to do? Should I hold myself back? Or just go ahead with what my heart sometimes feel? I am very confused about my own feelings and the 'we haven't met yet' factor makes it all the more difficult. Please some advice that might help me figure things out?

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      Moonshine 7 months ago

      I feel for this guy and he fell for me. We live in two different countries. Both of us are broke college students so meeting each other wont happen for awhile. We have been dating for 3 months now and I have no complaints about him. We text, talk on the phone, and video chat when the weather isnt messing up the signal. I am 24 and he is 22. Our parents know about it so this is definitely real. He is my best friend. We wish we could meet each other within two years of our relationship . But both of us are patient enough to wait. We would rather build a strong relationahip before it becomes physical. We both also know that we are perfect for each other and we wont let 6, 400 miles get in the way.

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      Liah 7 months ago

      Yeah, I am in love with someone that I've never physically met. But I know for a fact he is who claims to be. I've Skype with him. He's an amazing person and we have lots of things in common. But sometimes I do doubt what we have , we are still friends but we love eachother. He hasn't asked me out, because he says he wants to ask me in person, but it's so hard to wait and be patient , but I know it's worth.

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      Cashie 7 months ago

      I say yes. I know he's real. I love his soul and that's all that matter. I don't care about his looks, his scars, and his flaws. I am brave enough to accept him as much as he believes in me. I know that we can make it. You know love is not all about physical bond, it's all about patience and willingness to work out. Your soul will know.

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      Anonymous 7 months ago

      I pretended to be someone else's face. I know that sounds crazy but it was just for fun to check out how tinder works. Until a guy messaged me and we talked over the phone and we instantly clicked. All interests, hobbies and even passion is exactly the same and I really felt we were compatible. He told me that he really liked me and liked me for my personality and not only the looks (which was someone else's) But then I knew what I was doing is wrong so I admitted to him who I really was and apologized for everything and that if he'd give me a chance, i can still prove myself and can love him unconditionally and make all the efforts that I could give. And he turned me down BECAUSE of what I've done and my looks.

      I knew I was wrong and this was my punishment. It hurts because I've already become attached to him and now there is nothing i can do to save it. :(

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      Yeagerp51 7 months ago

      I was on a spiritual high and decided to start reaching out to people in my church community on a global level. Somewhere in the middle of all this, I discovered my girlfriend. That was in July of 2015. We were planning on meeting in September but it has been changed to December due to her job. She is a domestic worker in Hong Kong. Her homeland is Quezon City, Philappines.

      Her primary reason for this thankless job is to put her 2 kids through college. Her day starts at 6 am until 10 pm. We have been video chatting since we met and it has been an exciting relationship. I have got to watch her while she works. With everything we have shared with each other I fell in love with her several months after day one. I told her that when we lay eyes on each other at the airport in December we will either run to each other or jump in to the air out of shock, scream and run the other direction. Hahaha.

      All I can say is that my life has been more exciting since we started video chatting. We feel as though we love each other and tell each other everyday. But we are both mature enough to know that sooner or later we all come down from the clouds and the realities of life are looking at us in the face. This is where real love is developed. Love sets us up for the next plateau. Sadly, this is where most couples get into trouble.

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      Emily 8 months ago

      I fell in love with someone I met through chat,we live from 2 diff countries..we been chatting for few wks now,at first I like to chat with him because he was very goodlooking and nice,we send pics almost everyday and he also found me pretty.I began to fall for him when he told me its ok If I dont want to send him naughty pictures because he dont want to pressure me, he felt that im not that type of girl,he ask if its ok if we talk because he wants to get to know me better,he said that he wanted to see me and talk to me but I keep cancelling our Skype dates because im afraid that he wouldn't find me pretty or sexy enough.but since yesterday he started to be cold,he no longer replies my messages ryt away eventhough he seen them,and doesnt want to have conversation anymore,he only replies with few words.,im really feeling so down right now,even for a short period of time he made me feel very special,he compliments me and respects me alot..he always tells me that he wanted me to be with him,its like an instant connection then suddenly its gone,.Im really having a hard time gettin over him,its like im losing it,I cant imagine him talking to another girl.im really heartbroken right now.

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      CESAR M. 8 months ago

      Hi I'm new in this love thing. I lost my girlfriend n best friend of 17 yrs to suicide just last year. It still hurts to know that she left with out saying bye. She showed me what love really feels like i thank her 4 that. I been looking online 4 love n i fell 4 this person that felt so real she emailed me. She sent me pictures n she was a russian girl. After she said she had to go to the north of russia to work n collect $ to pay 4 her trip to come to me. Well i checked n research her pictures n name n i found this girl named different but had some off the pictures i had. N they told me that they had no cell to call me n this person i found did have one n had been posting recent pictures n videos. But now my heart is deeply in love with the image of the girl i found. I can't help it but i feel i would love to meet that girl even if it's not the person that email me. Why do i feel i need to meet her even if i know it's not her. Does any one know where i can find a real connection with people that are truly looking 4 real love. I feel i can offer true love n real love but I'm kinda scare to meet girls in person cause i don't know how to approach them. Online i feel more comfortable n open to meet cause i can communicate then it be easier to meet them. Any suggestions 4 a hopeless romantic?

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      Lover 8 months ago

      I have fallen in love with a girl online and we have never met. She have showed me pictures of another girl for past 1.5 years. And I know this since then because I understand that she might have some problems exposing her identity. I know I sound very stupid. But still I love her. And I hope that she would realise this and will agree to meet me and show her real identity soon.

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      Shil1978 8 months ago

      Hi Kaye,

      I feel for you and it's really unfair what you've had to go through. Please do step back and try to understand why he may be shutting you down. As far as I can see, the only reason that comes to mind is that, for him, it was only meant to be online. Maybe he needed someone to chat with and engage himself and play a persona (he might be a totally different person in real than who he may be trying to potray).

      Maybe he's married or in a relationship and knows that he can't pursue anything with you in real. Please do understand that there is no future in this relationship. You are only hurting yourself more by getting stuck.

      I would advise you to seriously consider moving on and that would include you cutting yourself off from this guy yourself. I don't see anything good coming out of it for you.

      Hope you can get over this. All the best, Kaye!

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      Kaye 8 months ago

      I'm falling for a person who I haven't met and never heard his voice before... I have told him several times about my intentions and I'm willig to accept him for whoever he is... He keeps on shutting me out but knowing how persistent I am, I keep on pushing myself to him... We haven't talked for days now since he already bid his goodbye to me but it only proved that my feelings towards him keeps on nourishing which I know is a bad sign for myself... I am very willing to take all the risks involve and this situation is making the craziest me ever... I am crying like hell and I keep on pulling myself up even if I know that I keep on drowning myself to him... He hasn't blocked me in fb and it hurts because even if I want to message him or aend him a video or anything,I'm afraid tht it might trigger something bad that will break me into pieces... I badly need help

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      Mrs secret 8 months ago

      I been chatting to a guy online for weeks he seems genuine a lovely guy he now noy friends on Facebook and instagram we chat for hours about our lives and what we do I am just dying to meet him but he lives in different city we both work so it seems it going to be impossible to meet please tell me why and how I can get around this situation I am getting to like him a lot

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      Ceecee 8 months ago

      I met a guy online several months ago and we've been talking everyday (with the occasional FT) since. I think I love him and we just started a relationship and hope to meet irl soon... I hope that it happens but I'm also scared that it may not work out... I hope it does though... I've never felt this way about anyone else before.

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      Debora 9 months ago

      Yes I have but I want to meet him but I have my doubts because it's always about having sex so that makes me scared so I see no future what should I do

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      Sem 9 months ago

      I started speaking to a girl few month ago and to this day we still haven't met but we talk all day and till late evening over video call and texts we both fell In love and I'm planning to go see her this month it's crazy we can talk for hours and never be bored we can just stare at each other and one of just has to smile and the other smiles back its crazy I never thought I'd fall for someone I'd never met but it's magical but crazy I miss her when she's busy although she will still text but not much if she's working I can say it's not just looks I've fell for her it's the way she is and the way she makes me feel we've often spoken of a future which gives me hope it's going to work out

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      qwe 9 months ago

      I am talking to the guy since 4 months, online and we were so close in the beginning. We were falling for each other and we were also concerned of our future.Though the time period was short to fall in love I really fall for him and now I don't know if he feels the same or not. I everytime get hurt if he doesn't text me and I am not sure of our future as we are too far from each other and chances of meeting is very low.I don't know what kind of love is this.Neither I can stay without talking to him nor there is any way to move this relation forward. I feel like I am hurting myself.

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      Avk 9 months ago

      I met him on Facebook 5 years ago. It's been four years since our relationship started. We are planning to meet very soon for very first time. I love him to every bits.

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      Metalbabe 9 months ago

      I met him on fb cause he added me a month ago. We have the same taste of music and he's in a band! We compliment each other and he's so sweet but when I told him I like him he thought I was just messing up with him cause he said I'm too attractive for him. He likes my inner and outer beauty

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      nameless gal 9 months ago

      I starting talking to someone I started talking to someone i met on social media and at first i had my doubts. as we got to know one another more, we grew close and started to fall for one another. You think to yourself "this could never happen to me". after we both confessed our feelings for each other (after about a year and half of talking) we finally met in person....

      it turned out to be one of the most magical things to happen to me. The connection we felt turned out to be real. it wasn't awkward or weird. It was fun and we fell even more in love.

      I didnt go into detail here, but the truth is you CAN fall in love online. Will it always work? Maybe not.... but it did for me. I encourage people to explore their options. Be careful of course!

      but keep an open mind. I never imagined the man of dreams would be some cute guy that messaged me on social media....

      now we are planning a life together! you never know what a simply Hello :) can lead to!

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      Tracy 10 months ago

      Okay so almost a year ago this guy messaged me on social media because he was promoting ticket sales to a festival, and we actually ended up talking a good bit. I began to notice how funny he was and how we shared a lot of the same things, and I honesty just enjoyed tf out of our conversations bc they were hilarious!

      He finally asked for my number and we started texting a lot. But it wasn't the kind of text I was always waiting on, we could go a few weeks without talking and pick right back up where we were.

      A few months past an s I finally saw him in person (we were both drunk) Ansley I saw him across the field and I was like omg that's him. It was so weird.

      But there was nothing awk about it you know??

      Anyway, we still kept in touch like normal and we're always wanting to know what the next move was, wheather it was a concert or a festival, we always asked each other where the other was headed.

      There were never any real feelings but I definitely felt a connection with this guy

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      Civilian 10 months ago

      I decided to find a prison penpal. I dont really know why, something just felt right about it. I've been talking with another female through the email system they have for inmates. And we exchange letters through snail mail. I dont know if Im actually IN LOVE with her yet, but I do love her.

      Im not asking for judgement on the fact that shes an inmate. I know that that means shes committed a crime.

      But as for opinions and/or advice.. Could it possibly last? The paranoia inside me, worries that I'm only someone to temporarily entertain her. But my heart says shes actually into me too, and it could be something once shes back out in the world.

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      Paul 10 months ago

      I met a wonderful woman on Xbox Live I'm married and my marriage is falling apart. That has nothing to do with my marriage falling apart it's been doing that for a while. I love the woman I'm with online and she loves me to knowing that I'm taken at the moment. She's waiting for me patiently I've never even seen a picture of her. Odd

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      Anonymous 10 months ago

      Ok, what about falling in love with a online Celebrity that only said a few words to you, you got all crazy over them and messaged them your feelings, fantasy's, whole life story, and your everyday happenings and you have been doing this for a couple of years and said person never responded, intact they have been ignoring you the whole time? But you feel a strong connection to said person and only feel love towards them and anyone else that's says otherwise can f off. What about that kind of situation?

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      Gwendolyni 10 months ago

      I have been talking in phone with this guy for 6 weeks and I get tingly sensation hearing him talk

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      joanne 10 months ago

      I'm in australia and chatting with a guy from the UK. We tell each other we love each other. He says he is planning on coming out and wants to marry me. We talk on the phone everyday and he knows what I look like. I don't know what he looks like yet as he has an issue with photos. I just want to know if there is any physical attraction. I'm scared I won't stay in love when i do see him. How could I break that to him?? I told him today that I need more from him as he has my photos and I want to be able to have a physical connection with him. We'll see.

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      Dustin 10 months ago

      Im 18 years old and I've been talking to this girl for almost 2 years now and I love her. We didn't meet in person until my close to my 18th birthday,but even when we did meet my feelings didnt change. Actually I love her more now.

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      Nik 10 months ago

      I met a girl, we have been talking for a while. I love her, i told her and she said she wasnt ready. Exlplained her story. I waited got to flirting told her she will always be my friend. Now she is opening up to me and says she loves me now. We are to meet this October... i am so excited i am crazy for her. XD

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      ayab 10 months ago

      I met this guy on a dating site last week and we immediately got to exchanging emails. We both felt a deep connection as we exchanged emails everyday. We are both in separate sides of the world. But as I tried to find answers to these "feelings" I also got to reading about scams which started planting doubt as I start identifying red flags or putting more meaning into what isn't there.

      I am not sure if I am just being paranoid or having some trust issues. I just don't want to fall prey to scams esp with the history I had with my ex with the lies and deceit.

      Do I continue talking to him or just stay away. Some people say go with your instincts... My instincts are conflicted.

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      nAMCY 10 months ago

      HI im getting married to the love of my life who imet over the internet 8th years ago an who i never met in person also moving across country to start our new life.

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      blue 10 months ago

      i am currently in love with the man i meet online. we chatted for 5 months now, and he never let me feel unwanted. even we both have work and specially him, he is so busy, he always makes time for me. If he have free time he calls or chat me. And in evening we do video calls. We're both planning to meet eachother but time doesn't allow and specially the country that were in. But, now we're both enjoying each other and if we will see eachother personally he said we will love eachother more since we can endure our current situation how much more if were together.

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      Dan 10 months ago

      Good article. I met a much younger lady online and I know that we really love each other. Her messages are so awesome!

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      Andrea 11 months ago

      I was in a very abusive relationship when I suddenly came into online contact with the man I can't stop thinking of today. It was about three years ago when he first messaged me through an online dating account. Sad to say I was on there looking for a possible replacement or motivation to get out of the current situation I was in. At that point in time it was about 7 years into my abusive relationship when I met (let's call him Jon) online. Naturally I am very anti social and uncomfortable meeting men due to lack of trust. Immediately I trusted him because of our common ethnic background. He was flirtatious at the beginning when I immediately let him know I was still involved with my previous bf and was just interested in being friends (silly considering I met him through an online dating profile) yet still he agreed to be friends. I have to admit his appearance is not what I was interested in because I am not vain or shallow, I knew he was cute enough to date anyone he'd like but I was more interested in his personality. After some lurking on my end (again immature I know) I came to realize I loved his mind. Everything then suddenly changed and I was unbelievably attracted to him. I immediately let him know of my new found feelings and he shut me down insisting he wasn't looking for anything except a friend. Because of my hard headed stubborn ways, and the fact that I have never met anyone that could steal my interest in a very long time, I was reluctant to accept that he was no longer interested in me in a romantic way. I made numerous attempts to have conversations with him because I couldn't bare the idea of him not recognizing how much we had in common. During this time I was still involved with my abusive ex until not long after I got the courage to leave him because I could no longer allow anyone to hold to me while having thoughts of Jon in my head. Although I was disappointed that Jon hadn't asked me out immediately after finding out I was completely over and done with my ex, I still carried on an off and on online communication with him. After almost two years had gone by he expressed more of himself to me and I was undoubtably in love. The slightest things he would say, I had only dreamed of the perfect man to say without even knowing this was what I longed for. His smart remarks were intriguing and his humour was refreshing to an introvert like me. His imaginative mind brought out a side of me I had only dreamed of but knew existed. My fantasies were finally about to come to life and I was overwhelmed with this uncontrollable desire to want to share myself with him. Our occasional conversations grew trust bit by bit but not enough for him to see me yet. I wasn't sure why until I came to the realization that he probably had a girlfriend and admittingly one day he shared with me that was he in a relationship for the duration of a year. I was not disappointed because I still believed our chemistry is and would be unmatchable to any female he would encounter with. Recently about a month ago he was visiting the city I currently live in and I started a silly argument to avoid seeing him only in hopes that he would find it necessary to chase me but he didn't, instead he flew back to the country he was studying in and posted images of himself with another woman. Finally I decided to respect myself and give my attention to someone I've known since the age of 5 who is also from my country. He asked me to be his girlfriend with intentions to marry and I agreed because I trust him and do love him in return but not as much as I could because I can't get Jon out of my heart and mind. I'm afraid I will always long to see him... is there anyway I could terminate these feelings because his direct avoidance of me still doesn't change the way I feel. I am not a desperate woman, I could be with anyone I desire but my heart and mind long for him only. Has anyone ever felt this way? What does one do in a situation like this where there is no action left or words that could be said to express the magnitude of my feelings towards him.

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      Lola 11 months ago

      I think im in love with someone ive never even met or talked to before its truly a spiritual thing

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      Hegde 11 months ago

      Thanks! This helped me..

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      Amanda m 11 months ago

      I am currently engaged to a man I met on the internet. He is currently in prison. He is the most amazing man in the world. Even tho he is in prison he takes care of me and my son financially. We video chat atleast 7 hours of the day. I have fallen in love with him emotionally. We plan on getting married in a year. I swear I never thought this was possible but it is. I could be on MTV seriously. My life has changed so much since I've met this man. I love him so much. Long distance relationships are very hard but we are working through it. But just for the record I have met all his family and they accept me. So I k own this is the man I'm going to marry.

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      Anna 11 months ago

      I have the most beautiful connection to a man I've spoken to fir over a year online. We have seen each other and been through up & downs but always seem to come back to each other. Thing is..I'm now falling for him and we have been flirty at times tho with meaning. We are both no game players. He's divorced. Im single. He initially said I wasn't his type though I felt the same. As time went on I see just how attractive he is to me and he speaks of me being beautiful to him..but we are just friends. He us a mirror reflection if me. I love this man though sad as it may seem I will never tell him I'm in love with him as our friendship means so much and I don't want to lose what we have

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      Shil1978 11 months ago

      Hi Sziya,

      After I posted my previous comment, I noticed this part in your first comment where you said,

      "there have been times that he showed he flirts with other girls, but then when I asked him about all those things, he gives me certain answers that shuts me..and that makes me love him again. We once came to be together in relationship, but for some reason we broke up in less than a week. He always message me in no longer than a week if I'm not messaging him..and for some reason of love i was never able to ignore his messages"

      This part makes me believe he's playing you and doesn't seem to be serious in a relationship. You've given him a chance before, so think about this time, whether you really want to get sucked in again and risk disappointment. I wouldn't advise giving this guy another chance, but if you really must, just one more, but no more than that. All the best :)

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      Shil1978 11 months ago

      Hi Sziya,

      Honestly, I would advise caution. Why would he want to know your reaction to a statement like that? He did say that, so now if he's saying it wasn't serious, then is he saying that because you didn't reply or because he really wasn't serious. I think it was because you didn't reply.

      Maybe he wants to keep the friendship, but are you sure he wants a real, serious relationship with you? But that doesn't mean you don't find out and give a chance.

      So go ahead and see what happens and maybe it may all work out well for you. However, please be grounded and don't let your emotions guide you always.

      All the best :)

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      sziya 11 months ago

      hi.. thanks for giving a good advise..i told u about the story of this guy i met online...who after chatting for more than a year said ''I haven't even seen u so well in real..so how will i be able to say that''...when i asked his opinion about my charactr...and i said u that made me in tears and i didnt reply for that...

      He messaged me the nxt day seeing no reply...and was askin why no reply..he said he was jus trying to see what my reaction was and then he said..''i m so disappointed that you took it serious what i said... i thought u knew me well ... u think i would say like that ..? seriously..??...u are my bestfrnd and i love u so much..''

      this reply again made me feel bad..that if i hurt him..i dont know...anyway i didnt ever intend to do that.. and i feel a bit sorry for that..

      now it is all okay...he s in a good way like always ...yesterday he proposed me wanting to be his girlfriend..he said me sorry for whatever wrong he have done to me in any way..and did ask if i was willing to be his love..''

      he said ''its not necessary that i see u for me to fall in love with...i know u well and i hope...and i wanted to confess my love to you.''

      i of course wanted to say him yes...but when i read the message you left for me..i just felt i wanted to ask you about this...

      i would be real thankful to you for a good help.. :)

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      Shil1978 11 months ago

      Hi Roxy,

      Thanks for sharing your story. Coming to your situation, since he has already confessed that he is a father to one child, what is his relationship status? Do you know for sure? If he is still in a marriage, does this relationship make any sense or have any future possibility?

      Some men in a relationship can take to chat to find companionship that's lacking in their marriage, but aren't willing to give up their marriage for any potential relationship. It's not a good thing too to break up a marriage. Yes, I know - why is he on a dating site, you may wonder. Crazy things happen.

      Some men may just chat for the fun of it, maybe think of it as flirting, and would want to just play around and not be serious about a real relationship. Unfortunately, through chatting, you may not know all the answers to these questions.

      The only thing you can do is to try to find out more about his relationship status, and if travel is not an issue for you and you are serious, try to meet him in person to know for sure what he is saying is indeed the truth.

      Men and women feel differently. What for a woman may seem like something more meaningful may not be as significant for a man. Talk more and know about him more to really know how genuine he is and whether he is available in the true sense to think of a future together.

      Coming to the last part of your comment, if he's not in a relationship, then there's nothing wrong in a long-distance relationship. It's normal. But you've got to be cautious to know he is all that he is making out to be!

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      Roxy 11 months ago

      Hello. So I met this guy from England on this dating website, and then he first started messaging me saying hi and stuff like that. At first, i was thinking like maybe this is just another guy who's just using me but when we started to talk more, I kinda felt like ok maybe this is going somewhere. So we tooked our conversations on Skype and we started to video chat and stuff like that. But, the more we talk though the more we have feelings for each other and we do say I love you . I am trying to get to know him better by talking to him everyday, and I do trust him he's not a fake, and he also confessed that he's a father of one child. I don't know if this is right or not. Is our relationship normal?