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Signs He Likes You Through Body Language

Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.

How to Know If Someone Likes You

It is usually difficult to tell if someone likes you. Most people aren’t direct enough to come right out and say what they mean, so looking for other indirect cues can help. Body language often says just as much, if not more, than our verbal expressions, and a better understanding of body language can help you figure out what people think of you. The following tips may help you figure out whether or not someone likes you.

Many of the actions listed in this article are gender-neutral, but some of them would definitely seem strange if they came from a woman. Women tend to have unique ways of signaling their romantic or sexual interest to others, and these signals can differ from the cues men usually provide.

Remember, even if someone is interested in you, that doesn't mean they are ready to get into a relationship with you. If you like somebody, try encouraging their interactions and responding in kind. If you react in a neutral or indifferent way, your prospect is likely to think that you aren't interested. If you like something someone does, you can encourage similar actions with a compliment. Communication is the key to developing and maintaining relationships, and most people have their own communication style.

Keep in mind that in addition to nonverbal expressions of romantic interest, many people have a love language that is unique to their circumstances. A love language is the way that people like to express and receive affection and love. Learning about your own style can help you better express your needs and attract a partner.

25 Signs That He Likes You

  1. He Mirrors Your Movements
  2. He Smiles When He Looks at You
  3. You Catch Him Staring at You
  4. He Pays Attention to Your Reactions
  5. He Raises His Eyebrows
  6. He Says Your Name Frequently
  7. He Appears in Places You Frequent
  8. He Tries to Be Close to You
  9. He Prevents Other Guys From Making Moves on You
  10. His Feet Point Towards You
  11. He Tries to Impress You
  12. He Offers His Jacket to You When You're Cold
  13. He Tries to Hold Your Hand
  14. He Touches You Whenever He Can
  15. He Randomly Plays With Your Hair
  16. He Rests His Head on Your Shoulder
  17. He Hugs You Often
  18. He Gets Nervous Around You
  19. He Adjusts His Crotch
  20. He Starts Grooming His Hair
  21. He Acts More Confident
  22. He Tries to Get Your Attention
  23. He Talks to You Often
  24. He Tries to Spend Lots of Time With You
  25. He Tells You He Likes You
He laughs when you laugh.

He laughs when you laugh.

Signs a Guy Has Noticed You

A guy who likes you will be very aware of your presence, and you may notice him noticing you. He will typically glance in your direction, smile at you, and try not to stare. He may also laugh at your jokes, pay close attention to what you say, and consciously or unconsciously mimic your movements.

1. He Mirrors Your Movements

One of the key things to look for is synchronicity. It is a major plus when the two of you are amused by or interested in the same things. When you drink from a glass, he will drink from his own. If you cross your leg, he'll have his leg crossed. If you both have your legs stretched out, you're both wearing similar clothes, similar colors, or you both have the same posture, then these are all good signs that he's noticing things about you.

2. He Smiles When He Looks at You

Of course, men can smile and act friendly in general, but if he has an extra grin for you that he doesn't display to other people, he's probably attracted to you.

3. You Catch Him Staring at You

This is a pretty obvious sign that a guy is interested. Once I decided to run outside in the rain with one of my friends because I was feeling overwhelmed at a party. This was a totally insane thing to do, and as I was passing a window, I definitely saw a pair of eyes fascinated by my spur of the moment workout.

4. He Observes Your Reactions

If he looks to you to see if you caught something strange in a group setting, or if he studies your response to things, then he wants to be on the same wavelength as you. Whether or not he believes in ESP, he'll want to be on the same page as you.

5. He Raises His Eyebrows

He will not do this dramatically, but he'll raise his brows just enough to acknowledge that he's noticed you and will want to interact more.

6. He Says Your Name Frequently

Saying your name often (even when he doesn't have to) is an indication that he wants you to be present. Whether it's in a conversation or when he's out and about, saying your name reminds him of you and serves as an obvious indication that he's thinking of you.

He leans into you while talking.

He leans into you while talking.

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Signs That He's Trying to Get Close to You

A guy who really likes you will want to spend time with you and be as close to you as he can without being too obvious about it. The easiest way to tell if he's interested is to judge his physical proximity to you. Does he try to get a seat next to you at group hangouts? Does he constantly appear in places you frequent? These are all signs that he likes you.

1. He Appears in Places You Frequent

If he shows up in places where you typically hang out, he's either actively trying to spend time with you, or he's trying to get more familiar with places that you like. This behavior shows that he wants to be close to you and that he's paid attention to the places he's seen you frequenting. He may want to run into you, or he may want to understand why certain places are so special to you.

2. He Stands Near You Whenever He Can

If a guy is interested in you, he's going to stand close to you. Close proximity will enable you two to talk to each other and share an experience more closely.

3. He Actively Prevents Other Guys From Connecting With You

He'll find ways to make his interest in you known to potential competitors. He may also try to deter other guys so your attention will solely be on him.

4. He Uses His Feet to Communicate With You

If he's tapping his toes along to music, he may really enjoy a particular song, or he may be trying to blow off some extra energy to calm himself. This is an indication that he's a bit excited. If his feet point toward you, that's another indication of his interest. His body will be positioned towards the thing or person that he wants. If his feet and body are pointed away all the time, he may not be interested.

5. He'll Try to Impress You

He may act as if he's especially together to try to impress you. He may subtly talk about his accomplishments or skills to earn your admiration. He may also talk about places he's traveled and things he's tried in order to pique your interest.

6. He Offers His Jacket When it's Cold

He'll want to come off as a gentleman when he's around you. This means that he'll open doors, guide you as you're walking, and offer his coat to you if you're cold. I suggest keeping the jacket and giving it back a few days later, so you will have a good reason to initiate an interaction with him.

7. He Scoots Closer to You

When seated, he may give you less space than usual if he's sitting next to you. He may also lean into you when you're talking. This way, he can hear you better and be closer to you. He may try to make himself seem cute to you. Sometimes guys know that they are intimidating, so if they try to make themselves look cute, then they're trying to be more accessible to you.

He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together.

He scoots closer to you when you are sitting together.


Touch is a huge indication of desire, and a guy who likes you will want to be in physical contact with you as much as he can. Here are a few big signs of romantic or sexual interest related to physical contact and touch.

1. He Looks for Excuses to Hold Your Hand

Whether he offers you a palm reading, help getting off a ladder, or high fives, if he's trying to touch your hands in some way it is because he wants to hold your hand.

2. He Looks for Opportunities to Touch You in Non-Creepy Ways

He will want to break the physical barrier between you, and get you familiar with his touching habits. Keep in mind that he will observe your body language and verbal cues to determine whether or not you're comfortable with being touched. He will want to be proactive about forming a connection, but he'll also want to come across as a gentleman. He may squeeze your shoulder during an emotional moment, or guide you through a crowd by the small of your back. If he hugs you from behind, this is unusual, but it probably means he's super excited to see you, and that he can't even wait for you to turn to look at his face. If he gives you bear hugs, picks you up, kisses your hand, kisses your forehead, dances with you or next to you, or if he wraps his arm around yours while walking, then he definitely likes you.

3. He Randomly Plays With or Touches Your Hair

Men like hair a lot more than you think, and it is a huge sign of affection if a man playfully or gently caresses your hair. The longer his hands stay on your head, the more likely it is that he has a thing for you.

4. He Lays His Head on Your Shoulder

He obviously feels comfortable enough with you if he's resting his head on your shoulder. If he lays his head in your lap, that means that he feels very comfortable and safe with you.

5. He Hugs You Often

If he can't stop hugging you for every small deed, then he really wants to be close to you.

He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand.

He looks for excuses to playfully touch you or hold your hand.

Nervous Behavior

We’re all familiar with the anxious, overwhelming feelings that can arise from having a crush on someone. If a guy is kind of flustered and odd around you, it may be because he likes you and doesn't know how to deal with it. If he engages in any of the following actions he may like you.

1. He Adjusts His Crotch Area

This should be easy to understand and interpret.

2. He Fidgets

If he can't keep himself still, he's probably really excited and nervous about spending time with you.

3. He Grooms His Hair When Around You

Any kind of knee-jerk reaction to groom shows that a person wants to look their best, whether for vanity or because you are in the room. This is ultimately a sign that he wants to look good in front of you.

Open and Confident Body Language

If a guy really likes you, instead of acting nervous, he may actually act extra confident and happy around you because you simply make him feel good. If he's using lots of open body language and it seems as though he can really relax in your presence, this is a sign that he feels comfortable and free when you're around.

1. He Has Better Posture Because You Give Him a Surge of Confidence

If a guy likes you, he will probably be on cloud nine whenever you're nearby. If the two of you have good chemistry and are obviously attracted to one another, then he may carry himself with more confidence when you're together. He'll stand up straight and walk with long, confident strides. He may also puff out his chest or playfully show off to catch your attention. Confidence is an attractive quality, and he'll want to demonstrate that he possesses a healthy level of self-esteem around the person he likes.

2. He Stretches Out His Legs and Body

If he can make himself more prominent in a space, then you're more likely to gander at him. Essentially, the more open his body language, the better. Not only does his openness suggest that he's making himself accessible, but it also suggests that he's comfortable with himself and his environment.

Signs He Doesn't Like You

Sometimes a guy may not give clear signals about how he feels. Is he interested in you, but shy? Does he dislike you? Does he even know you exist? If you're not sure how he feels, but too afraid to ask, look for these signs.

1. He Won't Spend Time With You

A guy won't waste time or energy connecting with someone he's not interested in. His energy will be directed towards things and people that matter to him.

2. He'll Focus on Other People

If he's not interested in you, then he will most likely spend his time with friends or other romantic prospects.

3. He Will Be (Emotionally and Physically) Distant

If someone likes you or is interested in you, they will be physically close to you, and they will try to establish an emotional connection with you. If he's nowhere to be seen and you have no idea what's going on with him, then it is safe to assume he doesn't like you.

These signs are not the only indications of disinterest. This article lists lots of signs that show whether or not a guy dislikes you.

Frequently Asked Questions

What Does It Mean When a Guy Hugs You First?

A hug is a physical expression of affection. A person will hug someone because they want to physically express their affection and familiarity with someone, or because they want to comfort and reassure someone. If a guy hugs you and you're unsure of what he's trying to convey with his actions, ask him why he hugged you.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Touches You a Lot?

Some people touch others to demonstrate familiarity or control. Others use touch to show affection and to bond. Consider why a person is touching you and whether or not you like being touched. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and let people know whether or not it's okay for them to touch you. If you are okay with being touched, but you don't know why someone is touching you, you should ask them why they are behaving that way.

How Can You Know Whether or Not Someone Dislikes You?

A person who dislikes you or is not interested in you will not spend time with you, talk to you, or pay attention to you. If you're unsure about someone's feelings, just ask!

Are Guys Mean to People They Like?

No. When you like someone, you should never express your feelings by being mean. Meanness is hurtful, and it is unhealthy to express love in ways that harm someone. Being mean only pushes people away. If a person truly likes you and wants to connect with you, then they won't jeopardize the chance to bond with you by being mean. Don't confuse abusive behavior with love.

Why Is He Playing With My Hair?

Maybe he wants to build a nest and live there? All jokes aside, he might like you or he might just like your hair.

Will a Guy Avoid Me If He Likes Me?

People don't usually avoid someone they like, but it still happens. Sometimes a person may have strong, positive feelings of attraction and affection for someone else, but they may be uncomfortable with liking someone. It can be overwhelming to like a person. Everybody will express their feelings in their own way, and some people respond to attraction by withdrawing. Give people their space and understand that they will experience and express their emotions in ways that are unique. Remember, liking someone doesn't mean that a person wants to start dating or get into a relationship.

Questions & Answers

Question: There's this guy I see all the time because of Church events, and he is shorter than me, but I'm still completely into him. He's always trying to make me laugh, squeezes my shoulder when he sees me and asks how I'm doing, and tries to see my preferences in guys. I thought he wouldn't like me because I'm taller, but I have no clue?

Answer: He likes you. Height doesn't matter. Sometimes shorter is better anyway.

Question: I have a guy in my class who always sits close to me. He looks into my eyes when we talk, and he puts his foot on top of mine. Does he like me?

Answer: Possibly. He could be just flirting.

Question: I was talking to a guy I like, gazed into his eyes, and his pupils dilated. But he has his arm crossed? Why?

Answer: He is probably not thinking about what he is doing with his eyes or his arm. Stop worrying about why his arm might be crossed. Think more about how you can engage his mind, keep the conversation flowing, and keeping things interesting.

Question: I have a guy in school who is a grade older than me. He usually bumps shoulders with me for no reason. What does that mean?

Answer: High school boys, middle school boys, and elementary school boys are all really just boys. They like to flirt, and sometimes they do things without thinking. But they don't usually think that far out. Is he doing sweet things to you besides this? You may have more of a case that he is interested.

Question: So there is a guy in my class who sits right next to me every day. He calls me by my last name ( as a joke ) all the time and is constantly teasing me about being a vegan and being a hardworking student. Almost every day he either grabs my phone to play a song he likes, or grabs my pencil, or asks me a random question. And he is always paying attention to my phone. Is he doing this because he likes me or because he's just being friendly?

Answer: He is flirting with you and having fun. But I don't think you should take it too seriously.

Question: There is this guy who is way taller than me. He usually touches my face, but today he touched my neck. What does this mean? I'm confused.

Answer: He may have meant to touch your face but accidentally touched your neck. How does he usually touch your face? Is it tender or is it more buddy like? The answer is always in the details.

Question: I have this guy in my class. He touches my hair at times. He smiles at me, but he also has a girlfriend. He wants to buy a gift for my birthday; he also seems different toward me. Does he like me?

Answer: He has a girlfriend. This is a no mans land. Try being positive and polite, but keep in mind... he has a girlfriend!

Question: I’m still not sure. I’m such an oblivious person. I catch him staring at me often, and sometimes he even holds on to the stare. He hugs me every day. He looks super nervous every time he sees me somewhere, like basketball games since he is on the team, and so is my brother. I don’t know if he is just nervous or awkward. But he is definitely not shy, so it’s really hard to tell if he likes me. So does he? Someone, please help a girl in denial. Thanks!

Answer: Sounds like he doesn't know you very well yet. You should try talking to him and getting the ball moving. Hugs are definitely a positive sign. You should try hanging out with him doing something pretty low key. Like getting coffee, seeing a movie, or hanging out at a park. That will give you some clarity.

Question: I sit next to this guy in my math class, and he keeps playing with his hair. When I ask him about it, he gets a little defensive. Does this mean he likes me?

Answer: There is nothing from this information that sounds like he is interested in you. He might have dandruff though.

Question: I sit by this boy in my Biology class. He is extra laughable around me, and yesterday he was trying to touch me, even when I moved my arm. He just kept reaching his arm closer; what does this mean?

Answer: He definitely sees you in a positive light. Not sure if he has a crush on you, but he is flirting with you.

Question: There is this guy in my class; he will always hug me in the back. When he hugs me, he lays his head on my shoulders. What I am most confused about is that he once got all of my hair out of my face and put his forehead on mine. What was that about?

Answer: He is interested in you and probably wants to kiss you.

Question: I sit next to this guy and he always trades with me. He is very gentle and physical with me. For example, he'll compliment my outfits all the time. He also touches the top of my head and says he's like a big brother to me. He asks me a lot of personal questions, and I'm just confused. He has a girlfriend too. What does this mean?

Answer: If he says he is like a brother to you, that usually isn't a sign of interest.

Question: We were kissing passionately. He was touching me intimately, and I was under him pushing my body against his, but he refused to have sex with me, saying “Not now”. Why? Why wouldn’t he?

Answer: Whoa. Okay, you have to accept that people don't always want to go to the next level in intimacy. He might not be ready, and that's something you can't or shouldn't force. Same goes for him. Just because he wants sex and is making all the right moves, that doesn't mean you have to comply with it. And this isn't meant to be taken offensively for the other person. If it offends you that he doesn't want to have sex, then you might be too immature for sex, because it isn't always about what you want or getting to the finish line.

Question: I have this guy in my class who let me use him as a leg rest. Now I'm confused!?

Answer: Well, do you like him? I think I might need more context for this one. Did you just put your legs on him? He may have been friendly and let you do this. Be careful not to just invade someone's space. Or did he invite you to sit on him? The real question is how do you feel and what do you want?

© 2013 Andrea Lawrence


Shaniyahnorth on August 24, 2020:

Hi so I like this boy and I don’t know if he likes me back or I’m just blind to see it but... me and him have been friends for a year now and he will always initiate the hugs and conversation. Sometimes we will have deep conformations and forget that there are other people in the room to talk too. Also when I was sad about something he stayed with me just looking at me I guess to make sure I was ok but he said he cared about me. Also when I was sitting on my friends bed there was plenty of space for him to sit but instead he sat next me and our knees and arms were touching and he didn’t move and neither did I. And when I didn’t attend a party he asked my friends were I was. But the thing is I did tell him a like another boy and every time when me and him would hang he would always ask about the other boy I liked but I only said I like the other boy so that he wouldn’t think I like him.. then later on he texted another girl and got into it but then he stopped talking to her saying “ I don’t know what I’m doing this isn’t right”? What does this mean?


Emily2019X on February 23, 2020:

There’s this guy that I’ve been talking to for a while and I’ve met him 2 times. He was at the beach last night and I drive and met him, he seemed happy to see me and kept teasing me while we were walking around, he tried to trip me up once and as we were leaving he asked to hug me and I let him. I’m still not sure how I feel about him but I think he likes me but I’m not sure...

Ella on January 31, 2020:

This guy always sits by me and occasionally puts his leg or elbow next to me when writing (school). I have been attracted to him for months!?!

Jheviah on January 09, 2020:

So there’s this guy I work with he’s always smiling a big old grin when he sees me. He’s always calling me by my first name and we always seem to be in the same place even though it’s a big store. Plus, he’s always tapping me on the shoulder or touching my upper back. His friends which are also coworkers always look at me a little strange plus he’s also told me that if they ask who I am say I’m your boyfriend

Ruth on December 24, 2019:

so there is this guy in church that has been starring at me all time ,we talked only for once ,but today in church we talked many times ,and at the end we shake hand ,and he squeeze my hand so hard and scratch my palm ,please l want to know if he likes me

Edwin Scott on December 16, 2019:

is it weird to be dating someone who is in college while I’m in high school

Adeshina debb on December 13, 2019:

There is a guy who holds my hand,plays with my hair and is possessive about me and calls me his girlfriend even without ud dating and I am not sure of his intentions maybe he likes me or he is just flirting with me does he likes me or is just flirting with me

Ronda on November 15, 2019:

I love my boyfriend he is so cute and hot and nice and sweet and kind he hug me today at school

Halley on November 08, 2019:

I have a guy classmate, there's this time that i have to extend my arms at my back to reach the papers of my classmates, but then he suddenly hold my hand and then let go. Then same thing happened again. Does he like me?

Lucy on October 04, 2019:

My friend just randomly lifted me by the shoulder last night. When we were alone.. I think we might be connecting

Single Mom 101 on September 17, 2019:

So I'm a single parent and there's this guy i really like...I've known him for a while casually meeting at events etc. that we were both performing at...about a month ago he started by asking me a bunch of questions about my son's dad and the fact that he needs to have a male figure in his life...then one evening we were driving to a rehearsal and he asked me a bunch of questions about whether or not I was in a relationship and if i didn't want to be in one...he learnt alot about me that day...anyway since then he's been really sweet at he won't seek me out in the room...he's professional (he's a musician) but when rehearsal is finished he'd come give me a hug and a kiss on the cheek (in front of others) and last weekend he gave me a hug and said I'm just going to continue hugging you and he squeezed me tightly in front of a room full of people...the thing is he is younger than me (less than a 10 year gap) and I just have no clue if he likes me or not or is just super comfortable with me...this is driving me nuts not knowing...what do you think?

Judy moody on September 17, 2019:

This guy i have my last period with, andI ve know him for a very long time, and so has he, we just never really talked. So the past few weeks hes been touching me alot to get his attention hell be like "hey (touches arm) -my name- help me with this" or " what do we do?" Or " hey hey look," and he shows off his muscles that I cant see. I like him a little bit, but thats cause I think he might like my bestfriend, and my bestfriend already likes him. So I wouldnt want to get in the way of that,but yea, thats it

Jry on September 15, 2019:

He say he likes me but just kidding. Says I'm eye candy. He goes ard asking my colleague why I look upset, trys to hug me, touch me, push my head to lean on his shoulder. When I laugh from the jokes he made, he says it was to make me laugh. Ask me if he can kiss me. Tries to make out, but ask me not to ask why, than suddenly stops making out. He seems sweet and caring when we are tgt. But dont contact often and cold in text. I really dont understand what he is thinking.

Claire Elizabeth1109 on August 31, 2019:

So there's this guy, he's been teaching me how to ride a scooter but he usually sits behind me with my back pressed up against his chest and both of his hands on either side of me (one of his hands on the accelerator and the other on the break) now this is understandably, he's trying to teach me but yesterday he gently adjusted my hair but he said that was because my hair was getting in the way of him.teaching me(hitting his face) and he did this twice and he kept his head on my shoulder twice as a turn was coming and he said that he couldn't see so i think he was just trying to extend to get a clearer view ahead. Does he like me? Because i do

Jetti on August 27, 2019:

There’s this guy who I really like in 2 of my classes he would tease me, copy my reactions to him teasing me and do things like playfully/gently shove me, we’d also play footsies, he also picked up my foot and I put it on his lap and he didn’t try to move it or try to make it so my foot would fall, and he’d also try to trip me but not actually make me fall I could tell that. And I think when I sat behind him he would always face towards me because we’d talk to him and just when we weren’t talking to him he would like his feet would point towards me I think, but he’d also sit sideways sometimes and now I sit at the table across the way from him and he only sits sideways but idk if that’s him pointing his feet at me or not I never catch him looking at me though in the class we don’t sit near each other or I don’t think he does and same in my other class I think he’s looked at me twice maybe, or like I’d walk past him and I don’t think he’d have a reaction and he doesn’t really talk to me unless I talk to him. He also doesn’t really make an effort to be around me I guess, I want to ask for his social medias but I’m really nervous to. But does he like me back? It’s so confusing I think he’s sending mixed signals.

Liana on July 31, 2019:

There is this guy in my class who always stares at me and tries to make me laugh which i find really cute but sometimes he gets too 'comfortable' with me and will grab my ass or try and squeeze my breasts does that mean he likes me or is he just sexually attracted to me?

Christina on May 26, 2019:

Basically this guy that I liked last year, he was really nice, and I liked him when I first so noticed him in Spanish. So a few weeks later I told my friend that she should tell him that I liked him. So she did, and I realized soon after that I probably should have told him myself. Mind you during this time, he was also in one of my other classes, where he had to sit near me in alphabetical order, and he would help me and be nice whenever I needed. So his response when my friend told him was just “ok”. So now he knew that I liked him. And I mean he smart, so he probably knew. He was still nice to me, but he seem to like me too. He gave the typical guy signs that he might feel the same, but around his friends, he didn’t seem to care. My friends told me that he probably liked me, but was afraid of his friends’ reactions. Mind you this guy and I never had a texting relationship, we weren’t friends who can text or call, not did we talk to each other much.

So this went on for a few months, nothing rlly happened, and it was too frequent that he seemed to not care, so I descoses to tell him that the fact that I liked him was probably just a lie. Not going to lie, but he probably was confused a bit. And I was confused too with how I felt. Three weeks before school year ended, I gave him a note just truly admitting my feelings for him, and the thing is I was too sacred to ask him how he felt, snd technically that meant that he didn’t have to say anything in return. So the school year ended, and this year, I hsve two classes with him, and the same awkward relationship. I really wish I could go back and change everything about the situation and crush, as though I had the crush all over from the start. And thing is that, I missed alll the chances to talk to him. There were days where he waited for me outside class. He seemed to want to talk, but I should have initiated conversation, and now it is too late to realize it. I mean this year I really tried being his friend. I tried following on Instagram, but I ended up unfollowing him. It was too awkward. The school year is about to end. What can I do to get home to be my friend? At least I want to be able to say hi to him in the halls, or maybe small talk. Hate to say this, but i am a bit desperate for answers. PLease try and help me. Is there anything I can do for us to be friends? And is it possible that he might have liked me back? I mean i have kind of gotten over last year, but these unanswered questions are what are holding me back.

Fiona on May 25, 2019:

There is this guy at school that always passes by my locker at the end of the day and hugs be from behind. This has been going on for a few weeks, and in classes he always calls me by my nickname, or sometimes when we pass in the hall. He often plays with my hair and he touches my shoulder sometimes. I can’t tell if he is just being friendly or if he likes me.

Monserat on May 13, 2019:

Okay so I’m having trouble reading the guy I like. We hangout whenever a event happens but with friends. We talk and all but sometimes I think he flirts with me. Like he holds my hand for a very long time, when we laugh his laugh is usually his eyes squinted, he usually does the thinking face look, I sometimes see him looking at my lips, and whenever we are in the same room I feel like someone is staring at me; I see him looking at me. Are these signs of him liking me or he just sees me as a friend? Whenever we are alone we just have conversations about anything and it’s not weird, he usually does the movement where they get close to you and he leans whenever I talk. Please help me!

Katiegirl on May 06, 2019:

There is this guy I like at my church but he is very shy. He friended me first on Facebook after we first met and I am always the one to approach him to talk to him. When we talk he smiles at me and when he says something funny he always looks at me and smiles. He always answers abruptly when I ask him questions but sometimes it seems like he does not want the conversation to end. He fidgets a lot as well but sometimes I get confused....I know that he gets really busy at work but whenever I send him a message on Facebook he never responds or it takes him a long time to respond. I do have a feeling that he likes me but I always second guess myself. Why is he so hot and cold around me? Does he have feelings for me or is my intuition wrong? I am soo confused!

Katie on April 17, 2019:

So, there’s this guy I like that treats every girl the same, but I’m pretty sure he’s never bought lunch for another girl. Does he like me?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 10, 2019:

Staring isn't really enough of anything to bank on.

Lee on April 08, 2019:

I have this crush and where ever i go, i see him and we both stare at each other for 5 seconds or more. Doea that mean he likes me or something else?

Emily on April 08, 2019:

This guy always huds me from behind. He is 3 years older than me we are both still in school. Does he like me

Someone on April 02, 2019:

There is this guy in another class he always seems to be walking by me but sometimes when I'd talk to him he would seem like he does not care other times he smile and to almost everyone else he is friendly he'd sometimes wave at me when there are not many people but i dont know if he is just being friendly

Lou on March 26, 2019:

Hey guys, So I work in a shop and this guy came in always Smiles but we added each other on all social media and we where texting for a couple of weeks, we arranged to meet twice, first time he canceled on me his mate came to his to watch the footie match second time he said he was very sick.. So after been cancelled on twice I said there won’t be a third time so I stopped getting in touch just to see if he was interested so 4days went by I didn’t text him and then one day I get a message off him asking how I was etc before I was heading into work so I kept my text short and simple. When I got home later that day he asked me has someone said something to me as I was texting differently than normal but I said all was good. He avoided coming into the shop for about two weeks, now all of a sudden he is in almost every day. He knows the days I work and hours. But as I said previously we don’t text anymore at all. Yesterday he came into the shop when I opened at 7;39 and then he came back in at 11:30, I know for definitely he will be in the next few days, there is another shop in the same village up the road and I know he goes there on the weekends, The shop I work in I don’t work weekends. He is so confusing!!.... he always fidgets when he is at the counter and he does smile at me and that but he has told me he is a shy person. I just don’t know MEN!!!....

Lyre Autumn on March 08, 2019:

my classmate is very smart and knoas a lot of things and gaming. however hes humble and i realized i like him. he usually plays with my hand and doesnt pull it away and among the girls im the one he talks to the most i feel so

Gehlle on December 23, 2018:

There is this guy. He often tried to get my attention when I'm around like smelling my hair, touching my ear, sometimes tickles me, he even lift me as if i was like a barbel, he also interlock his fingers with mine. There was a time that he initiates a back hug and rest his head in my shoulder while i was sitting in his lap. I am confused if he likes me or not because he didn't say anything. He's not even texting me and I don't want to assume. Im really confused.

Ashlynn on December 18, 2018:

So I’m good friends with my crush and he always teases me for minor mistakes and makes me laugh too. We are always laughing together. He also is always touching my shoulders like pats me on the shoulder or as we are walking away from eachother he will accidentally touch my shoulder. Do you think he likes me?

Belen D on November 18, 2018:

So in English we were reading a book and my friend forgot hers so I shared with her and so me and her were like talking and we'll make each other laugh and this dude kept looking at us and he used to like my friend (But not anymore) but during lunch he stares at me a lot and I look and he still looks at me and I kinda have a feeling he likes me. Does He?

amanda on September 20, 2018:

theirs a guy who sits with me and one day he sat with me and said if i can help him with his work so he sits next to me, then later on he laughs with someone and he acts like hes laughing hard and he lays his head on me and gets up a little and get closer does that mean something?

Sarah on September 16, 2018:

There's this guy at my workplace. We've known each other for 3 weeks. He always sits close to me with our knees touching. He's given me rides home. He always gives me some of his food. He rests his head on my shoulder. We make eye contact when we talk and laugh. It was raining and we held my umbrella together and he held the umbrella by clasping his hand over mine. He only does these things with me. Is he just a friend or is it more? He doesn't have my number yet but we've only known each other for 3 weeks but are comfortable with each other.

Emily on September 15, 2018:

So this guy I like we are close friend through my cousin and we always hang out the three of us and I’ve literally always liked him just kind breezed it off. Ya know? And now 4 years later I like him. A lot. But, yes but. He has a girlfriend. We have hung out a lot lately and he’s been asking me favors that are a 1 person job like “can you help me make my noodle soup” and this one time we had a sleepover with my cousin and he was really touchy like he would help me get down the back of the truck and he would touch my hair and that one night he also opened his arms and asked for a hug and I was like “okay” so I gave him one and he hugged me with two arms so I did the same and he’s also taller than me if that’s important.

Chloe on September 14, 2018:

so there is this guy he's a year older than me and we went to a bonfire (we have mutual friends). I went off w my friend because she has a lot of anxiety problems w big groups. But whenever I would leave he would keep asking my friend about me and then my friend and I were sitting down and i glanced over and he was staring at me. I see him around all the time and were friends so he always gives me a hug. What does all this mean?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 12, 2018:

Sounds like he is flirting with you.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on September 12, 2018:

Could be something... could also just be how he ends texts.

Karol on September 11, 2018:

This guy I work with he keeps staring at me and doesn’t matter where I am starts conversation and tries to grab my elbow in a friendly way every time. He always stands really close to me

Deborah on September 10, 2018:

There's a guy I've known for years and he keeps signing off texts with X's and smileys

PokemasterSerena on August 17, 2018:

There is a boy in my class who puts his elbow on my desk while i have less space to put my elbow.He messes with me but in a kind way.But he plays around with my friend but is kinda rude when he plays around.

Brink on August 12, 2018:

I met this guy and he likes cuddling with me but when my brother is near he ignores me but when we are alone he wants to hold me he says when he holds me that he is comfy with me does he like me or not some other sign was he smells my hair when we cuddle

imbabiee or emily on July 12, 2018:

seen him staring at me and when saw he either carries on looking or he just looks away quick and to be honest I do the same thing lol

he sometimes tries to talk loud or do something so I look over at him

he sometimes moves closer to me but he wont talk

I have just moved to a new school and this is why I need help bc I don't realy know him that well yet

Loner on July 01, 2018:

I'm 20 years and I've never ever been in a relationship. I believe relationships are sacred and I shouldn't get into one cause everyone else is in it.

I met a guy a few months ago (I'm an intern,he is working) and I've noticed some of these signs. He is really cute,like 100% cute. So There was a day I saw him hugging some girl ( a pretty one by the the way) and he also saw me. Few minutes later he enters into the room I was in and only greeted me by touching my arm but we were like 4 people in the room.

Another day, I walk into the room and walk out without greeting him. He follows me into the room I'm in and stands like an arm length from me. He gets out his phones and starts using it,I don't even see him try to move from where he is at.

Another day,we are standing pretty close to each other and I hear him ask if I want to use his headphones. I ask,pardon, and he tells me to place them at a table next to me. I have never been sure if I heard him right.

Another day,he hears some guy talking to me and he starts staring at me and licking his lips. Because he leaves the room before me, I hear him mimicking something I told the guy who was questioning me.

Another day,we sitting close to each other and I greet him. He starts singing that the room is suddenly hot and he leans close to me,like really close.

The day after he heard me talking to another guy,he ignored me when he say me and acted as if I was not in the room.

I thinking I'm reading to much into this, maybe I'm desperate for affection. And also there is no way he would date me,I'm not like so pretty and the way he is cute I'm sure there are many girls chasing him.

I also heard some guys telling him that he has a lot of girls DMing him but he did not answer them.

Please reply

CC on June 27, 2018:

He came up and grabbed my sides playfully... But I’ve know him since I was like three? But he is definitely doing many of the things on your list. What does this mean?

rahul on June 17, 2018:

What if a girl and a boy has an timeless eye contact with each other until anyone doesn't move from that place

Amarilys Sosa on June 17, 2018:

So there is this boy at my grandmas house we only played once and when we did we played sardines and I found him first so I had to hide with him and I was standing up in the hiding space looking for my cousins then he slightly grabed my arm and I turned around and he was like sit down so I did and the I went and sat next to him instead of across from him and I said his eyes were cute then another day he asked me did I like him and I said "No" so after that day he stares at me and we always make eye contact but I'll look away

Does this mean he likes me?

Rachel on June 12, 2018:

There's this guy in my class . I don't know if he likes me or if he is just trying to pester me . He love to play with my hair a lot ( he does this and I tellhim to stop he just keeps playing with it . I can't move it's a sitting arrangement made by the teacher) he also loves to bother me by messing up my work and he likes to make me laugh . He does annoying little things . What does this mean . Does playing with a girls hair a sign that he likes that girl or is it just to annoy her . What do you think ?

Lucy on June 09, 2018:

The boy and I were always on and off. When we are in good terms were really good but after weeks or months were arguing like there is no tomorrow and now we don't even stare, talk to each other though were seeing each other every Sunday

drey 23 on June 08, 2018:

i like this guy and i dont know if he does the same. He joke around telling people that i am his and they should stay away when initially we are not an item. He comes close everytime he gets the chance and hugs me asking if i am not cheating. Does it mean he likes me?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 16, 2018:

You should focus more on school! Taps on the back and such can be flirty or friendly. BUT REALLY, FOCUS ON SCHOOL!!!!!

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 16, 2018:

If he has a girlfriend who is your friend -- count your losses and move on. Try interacting more with other boys and developing something with them. You'll only invite chaos if you date someone your friend did.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on May 16, 2018:

Okay then?

Jazzy on May 14, 2018:

Ok this guy in my class he pats me on my back and like taps my shoulder a lot he uses like a lot of my things but I still don’t know what I should do does he like me or not

Unknown Girl 16 on May 14, 2018:

I really like this boy and get shy around him. In math class we always talk and I think he might like me but I am not sure. The main problem is that he has a girlfriend and her girlfriend is my friend. I have no idea what to do about it and I have tried getting over him but it is to hard. Can anyone help me?

Aiyana on May 13, 2018:

There is a boy in my school.He is a Grade younger than me.A time I was going for physical education and then he blew a kiss for me.then he keeps playing with me and he always wants to hug me from the front.he always plays with my hand ,wrist or elbow.and he usually winks at me or he smiles at me.I like him and he likes me.

Noy Sure on May 09, 2018:

So this guy is in my class and once i enter the classroom, he starts acting differently. He starts to make jokes, be funny, talk about sports, and other things. He also stares at me. Once he started to do curl-ups in front of me. It was so weird. Also when we are probably 50 ft away, I just look around and see his face staring at me. Does he like me???

Lizbeth on April 23, 2018:

Hi! So today I was sitting at a Bench all alone and he saw me there and even though he knows I like him he asked me if I needed a buddy or hug I said yes and then he said that if I don’t ask him that he will give me a hug so I said Do you need a hug but you never really gave me a hug but he kept on smiling at me and he asked me if I still liked him and I said yes of course and then he was like all day so I’m a bit confused if he likes me or not because last week he kept on staring at me and smiling at me and wouldn’t look away so yeah I’m not so sure thanks

Not sure on April 19, 2018:

My best friend and I have known each other for a year now. In the first 3 months I didn't notice him very much. Until, we started talking to each other. Then at the 7th month, he started complemting like crazy. And a few days later I went to use the washroom and I ran into him at his locker near mine. He playfully did the dodging game (when a guy blocks you from getting to your locker). And then called me his queen. At recess he startled me by grabbing my waist and saying "boo". And then started calling me his "little pet" while patting my head constantly. And keeps playing with my hood. Is he being playful or flirty?

Very unsure on April 17, 2018:

I was sitting next to two guys talking with them about many things. One of them I like very much and he’s a very nice guy. When we talk, we smile to each other and we have many attitudes in common. But sometimes his acts confuse me a lot. Sometimes he does many things to try to catch my attention to make me look at him and once I look at him, he smiles or asks something. In the conversation I mentioned at the beginning, everything was going fine but suddenly he began giving himself a few kisses on his arms while looking at me and did not hide himself while doing it. Is he trying to show something to me?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 12, 2018:

This isn't enough information either way to really decide. If you have other examples, consider those carefully yourself. Keep a positive connection with them, because they do sound like a nice person to have in your life. Maybe try doing something to catch his attention, get him a small gift, write a friendly letter.

Alice on April 09, 2018:

My Best friend and I have known each other for 5 years. We do track and field together and it's the only way i see him. He is a grade older and I think has a crush on me. Last year, when we were sitting side by side (as we always do) and he poked my thigh, I just gave he deer eyes and I froze. He apologized and didn't do it again. This last track practice it was raining and the bleachers were soaking wet. I decided just to stand and he wouldn't stop looking at me. Then he took off his jacket and made me sit on it. He happily sat in a puddle and after that we just smiled at each other and all he said was "See you later" and I kept saying "Have fun in Hawaii!" (Since he is going there for a vacation in a few days). Anyway, whats going on? Is he trying to make a move on? Or is he just being nice?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 06, 2018:

I don't give dating advice for those still partaking in recess.

Go be a kid. Work on yourself. You have plenty of time to fall in love later. It's silly to get involved in this too young -- when you can instead develop your talents. Stay out of the crushes and dating for as long as you can. You're not going to be able to sustain this at your age. Enjoy being a kid, because you can't become a kid again.

Not really sure yet. on April 06, 2018:

I like I guy at my school named Lucas in class I always catch him staring and smiling at me when that happens he just turns around. In class , I always hear him saying my name. In today's class he had said my name again walking in to our class, I looked to see if he was talking to anyone until he looked at me and smiled. I told my friend about this and my friend walked up to him and said ''Hi''. Of course I was embarrassed . When he turned around he said hi back but didn't look at my friend he looked at me. And I've noticed that everyday at recess he always hangs around me . Does he like me?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 05, 2018:

He sounds slightly flirtatious, and that it isn't much heavier than that. If you like this person, try hanging out with them. See what they're like if you go to movie or go to dinner, or something more simple like coffee. Otherwise, talk and engage with him. That may help with what's happening here. Good luck!

cherrie on April 05, 2018:

hai just wanted help with this issue there's this guy I've known for 2 years, but haven't spoken to him ever until this year and a little bit last year and this guy his nice and everything, but he keeps teasing me as a joke thinking his just trying to get reaction off from me cause I'm quiet shy, but his been doing it so often that I'm not so sure anymore if its a joke or does he like me and there was one time he started massaging my shoulders out the blue and I quickly pushed him away in where I turned around to see him smiling at me. Also he was saying my name to say goodbye when none of my other friends did in the room and I know I might be overacting, but I really need to know. Moreover when he teases me it sometimes ends up him shouting my name and encouraging me in front of everyone when I get called out for my birthday in college and winks at me. Please help me does he like me or just loves teasing me to get a reaction from me.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on April 05, 2018:

I don't think he likes you, sorry. If he ended a friendship, and is acting on edge, liking you is unlikely.

Mickayla from Ohio on April 02, 2018:

Theres this boy who used to be my friend but he randomly ended our friendship. Now I have a class with him and when he sees me or is near he stares, but looks away when I catch him, messes with his hair, moves his feet in an impatient manner like he wants to walk away/paces. He also acts differently around me. But I don’t know if he likes me or not. What do you think?

arayiah on March 23, 2018:

i have this guy at my school he is in 7th grade so i dont see him often but we take the same bus sometimes. on the bus he look up at me when im not looking and then when i look up he looks at his phone. but he has a crush on my best friend. but when he hugs my its a side hug by its always by the waist. what does this mean

Arianna on March 07, 2018:

This boy would refuse to work with me and we were partners and then my pencil fell in his lap near his private then he said grab it when I said ewwwwww! he said he was talking about his pencil not his you know what.Then the next day he said he liked me

Emily on March 05, 2018:

I have a crush on this guy at school. I met him at a book club and we have a lot of meetings. One time I walked into a room and the second I came in he shouted the nickname he made up for me and ran at me with open arms. Even tho we saw each other yesterday, he hugged me SO TIGHT I couldn't even breathe! And then he picked me up and twirled me. He also shows LOTS of the signs above. But the thing is, he's been asked multiple times while I'm around if he likes me and he says no... But my friend says when I'm not around he doesn't deny it. Today I saw him in class and we were having a conversation and then his friend interrupted and said 'its because he likes you!' and be repeated it but my crush didn't deny it! I even saw him smiling!! He has hugged me at other times and when I accidentally bump into him anywhere his whole face just lights up and his smile is so wide. He also played with my hair. A LOT. like, a whole 50 mins! Please help me translate wat all this means!!

sigh on February 25, 2018:

so one day I was over at my friends house, and my crush (who I’ve basically liked since we were kids and known for that long as well) happened to be there too. I was was sitting in an office chair behind one of my friends couches and all of the sudden he comes up and sits on the couch and puts his head on my leg (I had my legs crossed on the back of the couch). He had the whole entire thing to himself but he chose to sit RIGHT THERE. What does that mean? We’ve always been so comfortable around each other, so I thought it was just a “friendly” jesture, but he seems to now always mention my name a lot to my friends and act weirdly around me sometimes. NEED ADVICE PLEASE.

Mildred Heiton on February 23, 2018:

Well. There's this guy.. We had a really intimate and loving past and we are comfortable with each other now. At a camping trip, he kept caressing my ass, arms, neck etc. Saying he wanted to bring back the past but keep it a secret. I dont know if he likes me like that or just wants to be FWBs. Because I'm certainly not a lamp with no sex appeal if he touches me intimately and makes out with me and goes out of his way to be with me even if its just to greet me. Need advice please.

Sun on February 12, 2018:

This guy in my class is generally very quiet and talks only to his friends. Idk if we are friends but anyway I catch him staring and smiling at me in class. We dont talk much but today he bumped onto me and smiled. Moreover when i go up to his friends he just remains quiet. Whenever i enter the class he looks at me for sometime. I am a very clumsy girl and i always keep talking and lauhing everytime but all he does is smile at me. So what conclusion should i make from all of his behaviour towards me? Does he like me or not?

(keeping private) on February 06, 2018:

so theres this guy, i like him alot,but he dont know it (yet)...yesterday we had a tickle fight. then later, during the tickle fight, he moved his foot and touched my b*tt. i then asked him why did he do that and he said that his feet have a mind of there own. What is that supposed to mean? plus he likes to tickle me in places like my side, neck, stomache and he even pokes me on my forehead. Im so confused.

RealorNot on January 29, 2018:

He does these things for me but I am still unsure:

1) He told me he loved me (first) and I didnt ssay it back till i was ready.

2) He always makes it a point to hold my hand wherever we go or touch me or show some kind of physical contact when we're out. when he go on dates at restaurants, he holds my hand at the table.

3) He tells me I love you when we get up first thing and when we're about to fall asleep.

4) he notices the small things I do for him and remembers the small things about me that I tell him randomly.

5) He takes me to meet his friends

6) he wants to meet my friends (and ive done that)

7) he texts me throughout the day

8) he is caring and is there for me when i need him


1) He is very suggestive about his sexual fetishes

2) he wants to experiment sexually

3) he always jokes about threesomes? (but will stop if i think its too much)

4) he finishes first most of the time but continues till I am done

I am just really confused that he is so suggestive about stuff like handcuffs and threesomes. is this ok?


Meena on January 28, 2018:

Am a single mom My kid had to do a unexpected surgury ,the first doc was harsh ,the next doc was right tru my child surgry ,and recovery ,he talk like we know each other he was funny ,he smile ,caring ,loving ,he share personal experience ,my kid was brave she ask if he like her ,he reply yes ,then she ask u likeeee my mummy he say no ,am not sure if ,or was my emotion

Kira on January 07, 2018:

There is this guy that I like and we were on the bus and he put his hand on my knee and I put my head on his shoulder and he had his head on my head and we were kind of holding hands. whenever we would talk, he would do it super close to my face and stare at my eyes the whole time. Does he like me?

☜☆☞ on January 05, 2018:

So there is this guy i like and when he sits next to me he leans in close and he sits so close that his arms/legs/feet touch mine. If he sits behind me he plays with my feet nonstop. He even one time got my shoe off my foot. Some times he lays his head on his arm then his figers touch my back or hair.My one friend sits next to his friend and when they talk they talk about me. She says that hê likes me but he is sometimes shy. The guy and me talk about a school dance and he seemd intrested. At the school dance I was dancing with a boy and then when he came there he came to me while I was slow dancing and he came just there about to say something I stopt and look at him for a while and then he just walk away. When im upset he is always there for me and he will Try every thing to make me smile. He'll stick his tongue out in a funny whay and one time he made a soud (ggggggiiiiirrrr) from my neck to ear. I also catch him looking at me while im not looking at him soemtimes he stares at me while walking and he'll bump into something or someone. He also clench his fist when he hears i talk about a other guy. When he sees me with a guy his smile turns down. But he does not chat with me on whatsapp Why . Does this mean he likes me? Plz help me out!

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:

Based only on this information: sounds like it was a nice more than friendly hug.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:

You probably need to talk to this person more. It sounds like you're in a very early stage. Make conversation, talk about anything.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:

This is a lot of touching, so I'm going to say yes.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on January 04, 2018:

He sounds like he is probably teasing you and more interested in your body at this time. So he is probably attracted, but not necessarily wanting a relationship or going on dates.

Hailee on January 03, 2018:

There's this boy named Tristan that I really like,Sunday he hugs me and when he's huging me his hand is on the sidecof my lower stomach what does that mean

Evie on December 27, 2017:

Okayyyy....I have this guy in mu school older than me who I have a huge crush on .....welll I guess he is umm really older than me but I always catch him staring at me, smiling to me, winking me, stretching his legs or arms, licking his lips while is looking at me.....etc. Plus ome time we met at the cafeteria my friend was with me (he kmows her she is his freind's sister) my frnd talked with him (he was looking at me and playing with his hairnwhile talking to her time to time)and after they finished he stared at me for a long moment and then smiled and winked me then left what does that mean? d

Mk on December 25, 2017:

So,there is this guy i've known for 9 yrs.Since last yr,he's been touching me often as in playin wif my hair whenever he can.He massage my shoulder out of blue.Few months ago,he interwine his fingers wif mine under d table during the class.He would lean on my shoulder when none of my classmates are around.Wheneverhe sits side to side,his legs and mine would be on top of each other.Does he like me or sth?

sc on December 24, 2017:

okay so there is this guy in my art class, he is cute but he is also older than me, right now we are just friends and he knows I'm always going to be there for him if he gets sad or something, but last week he told me to stop talking to him at school so I did, the next day in class, I completely ignored him, didn't even look his direction then he texts me late at night saying "you didn't even say hi to me today" "was kinda upset" I responded three days later, my phone was off, with "I was simply following what you said" and he was like "ok, don't worry about it". He is so confusing because yes he is cute and I wouldn't mind dating him but there is this girl that likes him and whenever I say that they are dating he gets mad and insists they aren't. But then again he is older and when I first started talking to him, he wanted to be "friends with benefits", I refused and told him that I wasn't going to be that type of girl. Does he actually like me or does he just want my body? Should I wait and maybe give him a chance in the future or not?

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 20, 2017:

Someone has to initiate conversation, so give it a try. But don't overwhelm her by trying to start too many conversations.

Paliatin on December 20, 2017:

should i talk to her or something i mean she hasn't texted me or called me. Yet

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 19, 2017:

Four months is a long time to be hooking up. You need to discuss the relationship. Where is this going? Do you want to stay hookup buddies, be something more? Tell him how you feel. Be pragmatic and say you just want to clean the air, and you'll be cool no matter what. Let him know you may have to draw the line and stop the sex because your emotions are getting involved and it's getting to your head, so you need to make a choice.

Or you can ask him if he wants to try dating, or taking you on a date.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 19, 2017:

Well, that's always sweet. ;)

Spooky on December 18, 2017:

I’ve been hooking up with this guy for four months now and I’ve noticed changes. The sex is ideally more in my favor he takes more time for me than himself. If I don’t stay the night (which is also a new thing) he makes sure to walk me to the door and kiss me. When we cuddle he plays with my hair, kisses the side of my head and forehead way too often but hey I’m not complaining, and he rubs my shoulders and just caresses me and tlls me how soft my skin is. He’s also complimented me a lot lately telling me how pretty I am and how cute my ears are. Also we’re on college break and he mentioned how he’s going away for a month which I was really sad about cause I like him and hoped to spend more time with him because of the break. Well!!! He gave me one of his shirts while he was folding laundry when I was over and said “ i don’t wear this anymore really and it looks like something you’d wear” which he is either LYIN because it was in the pile of recently cleaned clothes or he washed it especially for me!!! it seems like there might be something there but when we first messaged he made it clear he only wanted to hook up so what is going on HELP!

??? on December 15, 2017:

My crush lets me Sit on his Lap all the Time does he like me?

Anonymous on December 13, 2017:

I also forgot to mention that he lets me wear his jacket when I’m cold

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 08, 2017:

You need to hangout with him outside of work. Ask him to something lighthearted. Maybe a movie, coffee, something of this nature. That will help you to see things better, and keep the pressure off being at work.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 08, 2017:

Give him a compliment. Then tell him you don't want to go overboard with hugs and high fives. Make a habit to communicate less so he doesn't get the wrong idea. Maybe even help set him up with someone else.

Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on December 08, 2017:

Well, high schoolers sometimes are flirting just for the sake of flirting. Adults do that too. If he says "don't take me serious" he might mean that. And you might need to tell him, hey -- unless you want to be serious with me, we got to set some boundaries. Like stop touching my butt.

laloba32 on December 06, 2017:

I work with guy ( I know usually dating co workers go wrong) every time we work together he calls me my nick name.He puts his head on my shoulders and always grab my arm or hands to draw stupid but cute doodles. We laugh just about everything and hes always such in a good mood. He plays with my hair and touches my leg and hes always showing me new videos(stupid videos) and sometimes ill lean in and he gets so close to me but when someone walks in he retreats back. I dont know how to react most of the time. I just play it off but I dont want him to thing we're just friends I kinda want to b more.

Anonymous on December 06, 2017:

There is this guy that Keeps asking for hugs and high fives. It’s gets really annoying especially when he pats me on my head. He called me cute once and I didn’t know how to react. Honestly he’s getting pretty annoying and I don’t like him, I only like him as a friend. I like someone else and I don’t know how to cope with everything that’s going on. I need some feedback.

All hope is lost on November 28, 2017:

I have this guy that i really dont know how i feel about, i think i like him but its confusing. nonetheless everyone is convinced he is crushing on me even though i seriously doubt it. we dont really talk, unless in a group setting, but hes a nervous guy all together so its really hard to read his feelings. he laughs but only if im laughing, he finds reasons to bud into my conversations and takes interests in things i like (books, movies, etc.) and he even stares at me, but the second i look back, he looks away. i dont think he likes me because i think im reading WAY to much into his actions, and the biggest factor is we hardly ever talk! he barely knows me, how can you like someone you dont know? oh well, i give up

pinkie10 on November 27, 2017:

I'm a senior in high school but my crush is just a little shorter than me and he's a junior. We have 2nd period together and he sits sort of across from me. Almost everyday, he looks back at me and shakes my hand(pretty much just holding it). Alot of times if he's sitting directly behind me, he'll touch my side or my shoulders. That always give me that feeling in my stomach. I feel like he likes me but at the same time, I'm not sure if I'm reading into it too much. Recently, he's been poking me on my butt and I like it. What should I do? I even asked him about why he flirts with me and he said "don't take me serious". But why would he keep doing it though??

You know on November 23, 2017:

In my classroom this boy tries to hold my hands but I am trying to let him but it's hard he hugged but I see and hear he said to his friend he has feelings for me but once he try holding my hands I push him away he hug me he come close to me everything boys are so ugh maybe I like because he likes me

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